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2013-07-26 11:45:01 AM
How old is she and throwing a temper tantrum like that?

Run like hell man.  Run like hell.
 
2013-07-26 11:47:46 AM
DO. NOT. STICK. YOUR. DICK. IN. CRAZY.
 
2013-07-26 11:49:33 AM
That's a bummer. Both of them being total assholes... it seemed like a perfect match.
 
2013-07-26 11:52:05 AM
Ooh, she's filing for divorce...after he moved out.
 
2013-07-26 11:55:57 AM
Damn, he dodged a bullet (or a really sharp knife to his fun bits). That's bunny-boiler crazy.
 
2013-07-26 11:58:33 AM

Pray 4 Mojo: That's a bummer. Both of them being total assholes... it seemed like a perfect match.

 
2013-07-26 11:59:48 AM
Had not seen that vid before. That woman is seriously weapons-grade insane.
 
2013-07-26 12:00:33 PM

NutWrench: Damn, he dodged a bullet (or a really sharp knife to his fun bits). That's bunny-boiler crazy.


Tough to say. That tantrum could have just been the breaking point after years of emotional manipulation/abuse. I'm not sure which one is dodging the bullet here.
 
2013-07-26 12:10:43 PM

impaler: NutWrench: Damn, he dodged a bullet (or a really sharp knife to his fun bits). That's bunny-boiler crazy.

Tough to say. That tantrum could have just been the breaking point after years of emotional manipulation/abuse. I'm not sure which one is dodging the bullet here.


Yeah, if this guy's first inclination is to post something to You Tube rather than seek marriage counseling, methinks we're not hearing the whole story here.
 
2013-07-26 12:15:24 PM
i.dailymail.co.uk

This explains everything.

Yankee fans are horrible people. It's a fact.
 
ZAZ [TotalFark]
2013-07-26 12:19:17 PM
Pray 4 Mojo: That's a bummer. Both of them being total assholes... it seemed like a perfect match.
 
2013-07-26 12:24:59 PM
A nurse with a DUI and throws immature temper tantrums.  I bet the nursing board is having a double take.
 
2013-07-26 12:31:11 PM

Pray 4 Mojo: [i.dailymail.co.uk image 634x632]

This explains everything.

Yankee fans are horrible people. It's a fact.


She looks crazy enough to cut your bunny in half and boil your penis.
 
2013-07-26 12:35:36 PM
Oh, she's a nurse?

Well, sheeut. Of course she's a nut.
 
2013-07-26 12:58:16 PM
Oh the joys of being married to a crazy person. I was married to a crazy person who would act JUST LIKE THAT for reasons that still escape me. The difference is that I wouldn't egg her on.. I would try to avoid the situation which would of course get her even more geared up. She would block doors and scream at me.. Take my keys and throw them in the woods. Throw laptops/phones etc into the pool/toilet/closest body of water.

farking psycho. I knew it before I married her.. My friends knew it too .. they told me. But I didn't -really- know it until 6 months in and she went totally batshiat.  7.5 years until I could properly escape with my son. About to get remarried to my soul-mate. I'm a better person for being married to a psycho though. I can appreciate true brilliance, kindness, and love now like I never knew I could.

Maybe it's like being in prison.. Get out and everything looks greener, bluer, you can smell again.
 
2013-07-26 12:59:30 PM
Everyone here seems like a terrible person. That said, I'd fark the crazy out of her.
 
2013-07-26 01:00:21 PM

Sybarite: Everyone here seems like a terrible person. That said, I'd fark the crazy out of her.


That's not possible. You can only make her more crazy.
 
2013-07-26 01:03:04 PM

Sybarite: Everyone here seems like a terrible person. That said, I'd fark the crazy out of her.


It doesn't work that way.

/just trust me on that one.
 
2013-07-26 01:07:08 PM

Pray 4 Mojo: [i.dailymail.co.uk image 634x632]



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2013-07-26 01:07:32 PM

Pray 4 Mojo: [i.dailymail.co.uk image 634x632]

This explains everything.

Yankee fans are horrible people. It's a fact.


Image to big for Fark.gif
 
2013-07-26 01:10:19 PM
Jim said he knew his wife accepted it was over when she de-friended him on Facebook.

shiat just got real.
 
2013-07-26 01:14:27 PM
Called it. http://www.fark.com/comments/7853763/85502068#c85502068

Not that it was a tough call to make.  The divorce-court judge is going to have fun slamming this guy's wallet into the ground over "exhibit A: www.youtube.com/..."

I don't care if she's an emotional wreck, you don't surreptitiously record your spouse so that you can ridicule him or her to the world.  I hope she gets ALL.
 
2013-07-26 01:18:28 PM
He may be a jerk, but I find it hard to believe anyone can be tricked into behaving like that.  Unless you set up a fake theater and hand her a script and tell her she's auditioning for and out of control, crazy, unreasonable biatch.
 
2013-07-26 01:21:43 PM
She's a melodramatic, immature crybaby who throws tantrums to express herself. He's a manipulative, condescending douche who instigates then records his wife to shame her before the world.

They certainly deserved each other.
 
2013-07-26 01:22:52 PM

miss diminutive: She's a melodramatic, immature crybaby who throws tantrums to express herself. He's a manipulative, condescending douche who instigates then records his wife to shame her before the world.


Let's play the Dating Game!
 
2013-07-26 01:31:31 PM
She will be one some form of reality television soon enough.
 
2013-07-26 01:32:43 PM

Pray 4 Mojo: That's a bummer. Both of them being total assholes... it seemed like a perfect match.


Yup. Too bad they couldn't work together and use their assholism synergistically.
 
2013-07-26 01:33:31 PM

karmaceutical: She will be one some form of reality television soon enough.


The Real Housewives of  Bellevue Psychiatric Hospital
 
2013-07-26 01:34:17 PM
I find this to be utterly unremarkable. Do the women in your life not all act like that? Where have I gone so horribly wrong?
 
2013-07-26 01:34:37 PM
Loved the video. It brought back such sweet memories. Memories about why I am not married anymore.
 
2013-07-26 01:34:45 PM
Looking at all the photos in the article, it appears that the couple is unaware of Facebook privacy settings, or they just don't care.
 
2013-07-26 01:35:13 PM

Pray 4 Mojo: That's a bummer. Both of them being total assholes... it seemed like a perfect match.

 
2013-07-26 01:35:14 PM

factoryconnection: Called it. http://www.fark.com/comments/7853763/85502068#c85502068

Not that it was a tough call to make.  The divorce-court judge is going to have fun slamming this guy's wallet into the ground over "exhibit A: www.youtube.com/..."

I don't care if she's an emotional wreck, you don't surreptitiously record your spouse so that you can ridicule him or her to the world.  I hope she gets ALL.


having watched the video... I dont think you know what that means.
 
2013-07-26 01:35:18 PM
Sounds like my roomate when I wouldnt take her lazy ass to get cigarettes and the store was a 2 block walk. Boy could she pout and throw a tantrum. Suprised her latest victim hasent sent her back yet.
 
2013-07-26 01:35:50 PM

Diogenes: miss diminutive: She's a melodramatic, immature crybaby who throws tantrums to express herself. He's a manipulative, condescending douche who instigates then records his wife to shame her before the world.

Let's play the Dating Game!


Thank you. It was either this or 'They Fight Crime!'.
 
2013-07-26 01:36:29 PM

Diogenes: miss diminutive: She's a melodramatic, immature crybaby who throws tantrums to express herself. He's a manipulative, condescending douche who instigates then records his wife to shame her before the world.

Let's play the Dating Game!


*snert*
 
2013-07-26 01:37:38 PM
"Lake tantrum wife" is where I used to spend my summers as a kid.
 
2013-07-26 01:38:00 PM
Life is too incredibly short to put up with that for one minute. And I'm talking about both of them.
 
2013-07-26 01:38:13 PM
That wedding ring is really a noose you're putting around your neck.
 
d23 [TotalFark]
2013-07-26 01:38:23 PM
she's got a hick accent.  What a surprise.

"geat mea sum ciggarettes"
 
2013-07-26 01:38:25 PM

Lucky LaRue: DO. NOT. STICK. YOUR. DICK. IN. PUT A RING ON CRAZY.


It's a fun ride but you have to know when the park's closing and the zombies are coming in.
 
2013-07-26 01:39:25 PM
That looks a lot like the hell I went through.  What an evil biatch
 
2013-07-26 01:39:38 PM
My feeling last week was that 1. She's great in in bed, and 2. They don't have kids. Meaning that 3. He doesn't feel trapped by the marriage to this crazy lady. So I was right on two of them, may never know about the third. And I'm cutting the guy 100% slack. You know this girl was broadcasting her side of ALL of their buusiness to anyone who would listen, and her side is nuts.
 
2013-07-26 01:39:57 PM

Pray 4 Mojo: That's a bummer. Both of them being total assholes... it seemed like a perfect match.


Agreed, they both seem like immature little spoiled brats.  They were made for each other.
 
2013-07-26 01:40:09 PM
That lake must be incredible. And, yup, i would.
 
2013-07-26 01:41:30 PM
I can't get the link to play. Does anyone have it?
 
2013-07-26 01:43:06 PM
Even if the husband had goaded her into the argument adults walk away or ignore bullying. Adults don't throw tantrums like toddlers.

She looks like a typical spoiled biatch in all those pics.

Dude should RUN!!!!!
 
2013-07-26 01:43:08 PM

Nogale: I can't get the link to play. Does anyone have it?


I don't want to touch it.  I'm afraid it's contagious.
 
2013-07-26 01:44:32 PM
I'm getting a feeling of deja vu....
 
2013-07-26 01:44:47 PM
Notice how calm he is being, knowing full well it's being recorded. What kind of behavior does he exhibit when the camera is turned off?
 
2013-07-26 01:44:48 PM
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2013-07-26 01:45:38 PM

Angry Drunk Bureaucrat: impaler: NutWrench: Damn, he dodged a bullet (or a really sharp knife to his fun bits). That's bunny-boiler crazy.

Tough to say. That tantrum could have just been the breaking point after years of emotional manipulation/abuse. I'm not sure which one is dodging the bullet here.

Yeah, if this guy's first inclination is to post something to You Tube rather than seek marriage counseling, methinks we're not hearing the whole story here.


What do you mean "first" inclination? He's been putting up with that shiat for a while. He's done trying to fix it; that didn't work. Now it's just time to laugh it off because there is no other option.
 
2013-07-26 01:46:10 PM
Both of them are reprehensible children in adult bodies. Who cares what either of them thinks or does at this point, as long as it doesn't adversely affect anyone useful?
 
2013-07-26 01:46:11 PM

The Gordie Howe Hat Trick: Life is too incredibly short to put up with that for one minute. And I'm talking about both of them.


I do agree. But I had a friend married to a crazy alcoholic and he was dealing with it for a few years trying to make it work.

One day I said "Life is too long for you to live like that." It kind of hit him just right. They got divorced a few months later.

That was already like 6 years ago.
 
2013-07-26 01:47:16 PM

xynix: Oh the joys of being married to a crazy person. I was married to a crazy person who would act JUST LIKE THAT for reasons that still escape me. The difference is that I wouldn't egg her on.. I would try to avoid the situation which would of course get her even more geared up. She would block doors and scream at me.. Take my keys and throw them in the woods. Throw laptops/phones etc into the pool/toilet/closest body of water.

farking psycho. I knew it before I married her.. My friends knew it too .. they told me. But I didn't -really- know it until 6 months in and she went totally batshiat.  7.5 years until I could properly escape with my son. About to get remarried to my soul-mate. I'm a better person for being married to a psycho though. I can appreciate true brilliance, kindness, and love now like I never knew I could.

Maybe it's like being in prison.. Get out and everything looks greener, bluer, you can smell again.


My ex-wife was like that.  She was fine until about a year after we exchanged vows...  She already had kids, and I was sort of trapped, because the kids needed something normal in their lives.   Put up with her for 12 years, and when I left, I felt like all of the circuits that had any caring for her were just burned flat out.   I also felt like a massive cement truck was off of my back.  The funny thing about it, is that the kids were both pretty much on my side about it.  "What I don't understand dad, is why you didn't leave her earlier...".   Now I've got a soulmate, who is everything good that I've missed for so long.  Pretty csb. :)
 
2013-07-26 01:47:32 PM
Didn't we already have confirmation that he moved out, said it was over, and was in the process of divorcing the crazy biatch?
 
2013-07-26 01:47:41 PM
Crazy like a rabid bat.
 
2013-07-26 01:47:52 PM
After all that caterwauling, would it really be a pleasant time on the lake for either of them?
 
2013-07-26 01:48:17 PM
24.media.tumblr.com
I can grab the fireworks, the soda, all the cookies we can eat.
Make you nauseous but be cautious, this is not Dawson's Creek.
 
2013-07-26 01:48:32 PM
Instead of trying to decide who the worst party is in this situation, why not just be grateful they've both been outed as bad dating choices, especially now that they're available again?

/oh, who am I kidding. In a world where people send marriage proposals to Casey Anthony and Scott Peterson during their murder trials, what difference can a single YouTube video make?
 
2013-07-26 01:49:41 PM
......and her amount of crazy, and being nucking/ futz makes this woman look like a mixture of Barney and Mr. Rodgers..
 
2013-07-26 01:50:00 PM
Long term married life- taking arguments into the house and not allowing the public to see them.

Short term- embarrassing honey freakie-outtie boo-boo, making an embarrassment of yourself in the process because now everyone knows what you married.  And then having her be the winner by serving you divorce papers.
 
2013-07-26 01:51:16 PM
1. Adults don't get to throw temper tantrums regardless of circumstances or provocation. Ever. If you can't control your anger get help because there's something wrong with you.

2. The only people the husband should have showed that video to was his lawyer and the judge overseeing his divorce in the context of "This is why I want to divorce that crazy biatch".

/Both these people are assholes and they deserve each other.
 
2013-07-26 01:51:50 PM

metallion: My ex-wife was like that.  She was fine until about a year after we exchanged vows...  She already had kids, and I was sort of trapped, because the kids needed something normal in their lives.   Put up with her for 12 years, and when I left, I felt like all of the circuits that had any caring for her were just burned flat out.   I also felt like a massive cement truck was off of my back.  The funny thing about it, is that the kids were both pretty much on my side about it.  "What I don't understand dad, is why you didn't leave her earlier...".   Now I've got a soulmate, who is everything good that I've missed for so long.  Pretty csb. :)


Same deal except it was her mother and her mother's husband that suggest I divorce that crazy biatch for my son's sake. Now her entire family are my friends, shunning her, and I've got a person I can really enjoy life with.

Not sure if you like Darius Rucker but his song "this" defines my life with my soon to be wife.
 
2013-07-26 01:52:00 PM
Too bad, it seems like they deserved each other.
 
2013-07-26 01:52:09 PM

DMZ DEATH: That lake must be incredible. And, yup, i would.


I hear it's filled with steak and blow jobs. And, yup, me too.
 
2013-07-26 01:53:06 PM
My only question is why she didn't take herself to the lake? Mr. Mutantmothermouse wants to run errands rather than meet friends at the lake? Fark that -- I'm going without him. lol! jk! Mr. MMM never turns down an opportunity to go to the lake.
 
2013-07-26 01:53:31 PM
Why are nurses generally insane?
 
2013-07-26 01:54:22 PM
FTFA: "There was no indication the marriage soon end."

 
Really? No editors at Daily Fail, right guys?
 
2013-07-26 01:55:10 PM

cwolf20: Long term married life- taking arguments into the house and not allowing the public to see them.

Short term- embarrassing honey freakie-outtie boo-boo, making an embarrassment of yourself in the process because now everyone knows what you married.  And then having her be the winner by serving you divorce papers.


And she will win, too.
Because he humiliated her in public and damaged her reputation in the community, I'd bet.
Just wait and see.
 
2013-07-26 01:55:17 PM

metallion: xynix: Oh the joys of being married to a crazy person. I was married to a crazy person who would act JUST LIKE THAT for reasons that still escape me. The difference is that I wouldn't egg her on.. I would try to avoid the situation which would of course get her even more geared up. She would block doors and scream at me.. Take my keys and throw them in the woods. Throw laptops/phones etc into the pool/toilet/closest body of water.

farking psycho. I knew it before I married her.. My friends knew it too .. they told me. But I didn't -really- know it until 6 months in and she went totally batshiat.  7.5 years until I could properly escape with my son. About to get remarried to my soul-mate. I'm a better person for being married to a psycho though. I can appreciate true brilliance, kindness, and love now like I never knew I could.

Maybe it's like being in prison.. Get out and everything looks greener, bluer, you can smell again.

My ex-wife was like that.  She was fine until about a year after we exchanged vows...  She already had kids, and I was sort of trapped, because the kids needed something normal in their lives.   Put up with her for 12 years, and when I left, I felt like all of the circuits that had any caring for her were just burned flat out.   I also felt like a massive cement truck was off of my back.  The funny thing about it, is that the kids were both pretty much on my side about it.  "What I don't understand dad, is why you didn't leave her earlier...".   Now I've got a soulmate, who is everything good that I've missed for so long.  Pretty csb. :)


Agree with you both.  After being someone who could flip out about anything, it's a joy to have someone who is great to be around.  It seems your whole attitude changes once you are with a wonderful person who treats you well, and is always happy to see you.  Makes the world a whole different place.
 
2013-07-26 01:55:32 PM

Bashar and Asma's Infinite Playlist: Why are nurses generally insane?


Have you seen some of what they have to deal with? And that's just the people who don't die on their watch.
 
2013-07-26 01:55:35 PM
How classless of all of you.  She was right to be upset.  All she wanted was to go to the lake.  And she never gets her way.  Or her cigarettes.  It was just one day.  ONE DAY.    ONE DAY!!!!  AT THE LAAAAAAAKKKKEEEEEE.
 
2013-07-26 01:55:40 PM

MutantMotherMouse: My only question is why she didn't take herself to the lake? Mr. Mutantmothermouse wants to run errands rather than meet friends at the lake? Fark that -- I'm going without him. lol! jk! Mr. MMM never turns down an opportunity to go to the lake.


I think she had a restricted license or something like that.
 
2013-07-26 01:55:58 PM
I'm thinking the guy she is going to end up with was at the lake all along and thats why she wanted to go so badly that day. If she is that childish and selfish Im going to say she has been cheating on her husband
 
2013-07-26 01:56:13 PM
Not much to add to all of the comments above, other than to agree that you cannot be "tricked" into behaving this way.  You either behave like a spoiled bratty child or you don't.  As for him secretly recording her and then posting it online, too freakin bad lady.  The world needs to know about your weapons-grade insanity, including your current employer, any possible future employers, and all possible future mates.  The guy is gonna get OWNED in divorce court because of this (or civil court, I'm no lawyer), but I for one am certainly glad he shared.
 
2013-07-26 01:56:50 PM

BlousyBrown: Notice how calm he is being, knowing full well it's being recorded. What kind of behavior does he exhibit when the camera is turned off?


People who record other people behave perfectly reasonable when doing so. If you ever deal with someone who is suddenly acting perfectly logical and nice when they usually act like a douche bag and then they do something to try to start something...probably a trap.
 
2013-07-26 01:57:04 PM

BlousyBrown: MutantMotherMouse: My only question is why she didn't take herself to the lake? Mr. Mutantmothermouse wants to run errands rather than meet friends at the lake? Fark that -- I'm going without him. lol! jk! Mr. MMM never turns down an opportunity to go to the lake.

I think she had a restricted license or something like that.


DUI interlock on her car.  She may have already started drinking that day.
 
2013-07-26 01:57:07 PM

xynix: metallion: My ex-wife was like that.  She was fine until about a year after we exchanged vows...  She already had kids, and I was sort of trapped, because the kids needed something normal in their lives.   Put up with her for 12 years, and when I left, I felt like all of the circuits that had any caring for her were just burned flat out.   I also felt like a massive cement truck was off of my back.  The funny thing about it, is that the kids were both pretty much on my side about it.  "What I don't understand dad, is why you didn't leave her earlier...".   Now I've got a soulmate, who is everything good that I've missed for so long.  Pretty csb. :)

Same deal except it was her mother and her mother's husband that suggest I divorce that crazy biatch for my son's sake. Now her entire family are my friends, shunning her, and I've got a person I can really enjoy life with.

Not sure if you like Darius Rucker but his song "this" defines my life with my soon to be wife.


Very similar indeed. :)  Her mom always asked me how I put up with it.   I would never have done a video though, because I would have been ashamed to have something like that in my posession.  There may not be as much of it, but abuse doesn't always come from the male in the relationship.
 
2013-07-26 01:57:36 PM
He comes off worse in the video than her. Yeah she's immature and irritating but he seems like a genuine asshole enjoying the whole thing.
 
2013-07-26 01:58:12 PM

cwolf20: Bashar and Asma's Infinite Playlist: Why are nurses generally insane?

Have you seen some of what they have to deal with? And that's just the people who don't die on their watch.


It goes deeper than that though.

Even people who go into nursing school are crazier than the general populace.
 
2013-07-26 01:58:33 PM
I do agree that this woman seems fairly unstable and probably a mess to live with, but the guy is a grade A dick for recording her and posting it online.
 
2013-07-26 01:58:47 PM
Douchecanoe and psychotic little princess.

Ladies and gentlegerms... I give you the white majority.

Vote republican.
 
2013-07-26 01:59:12 PM

sandi_fish: metallion: xynix: Oh the joys of being married to a crazy person. I was married to a crazy person who would act JUST LIKE THAT for reasons that still escape me. The difference is that I wouldn't egg her on.. I would try to avoid the situation which would of course get her even more geared up. She would block doors and scream at me.. Take my keys and throw them in the woods. Throw laptops/phones etc into the pool/toilet/closest body of water.

farking psycho. I knew it before I married her.. My friends knew it too .. they told me. But I didn't -really- know it until 6 months in and she went totally batshiat.  7.5 years until I could properly escape with my son. About to get remarried to my soul-mate. I'm a better person for being married to a psycho though. I can appreciate true brilliance, kindness, and love now like I never knew I could.

Maybe it's like being in prison.. Get out and everything looks greener, bluer, you can smell again.

My ex-wife was like that.  She was fine until about a year after we exchanged vows...  She already had kids, and I was sort of trapped, because the kids needed something normal in their lives.   Put up with her for 12 years, and when I left, I felt like all of the circuits that had any caring for her were just burned flat out.   I also felt like a massive cement truck was off of my back.  The funny thing about it, is that the kids were both pretty much on my side about it.  "What I don't understand dad, is why you didn't leave her earlier...".   Now I've got a soulmate, who is everything good that I've missed for so long.  Pretty csb. :)

Agree with you both.  After being someone who could flip out about anything, it's a joy to have someone who is great to be around.  It seems your whole attitude changes once you are with a wonderful person who treats you well, and is always happy to see you.  Makes the world a whole different place.


It even makes the world look so much better, not having that big wad of stress on your shoulders, thinking what did I do wrong today, and why am I so worthless..   It's nice being encouraged and supported, as opposed to being belittled, and manipulated.
 
2013-07-26 01:59:18 PM

kvinesknows: having watched the video... I dont think you know what that means.


I apologize if he revealed the camera later in the video; I gave up after 90 seconds or so.  Regardless, the public shaming is extraordinarily cruel behavior.

Tyrosine: Both these people are assholes and they deserve each other.


I can't really argue with this.
 
2013-07-26 01:59:35 PM
Her parents must be proud.

This is a prime example of why it should be socially acceptable to slap your kids around when they act up.  Worked for me.
 
2013-07-26 02:00:40 PM

lemonysprite: He comes off worse in the video than her. Yeah she's immature and irritating but he seems like a genuine asshole enjoying the whole thing.


Over crocodile tears?  Please.
 
2013-07-26 02:00:45 PM
Damn.  What a horrible biatch of person that coont is.  The guy needs to run as far and as fast as he can to get away from her.
Damn.  What a controlling, domineering bastard that douchebag is.  The woman needs to run as far and as fast as she can to get away from him.
Damn.  I Hope those too people spend the rest of their lives alone and bitter.  And I hope that neither of them ever reproduce!
 
2013-07-26 02:01:39 PM

lemonysprite: He comes off worse in the video than her. Yeah she's immature and irritating but he seems like a genuine asshole enjoying the whole thing.


I agree.

That shiat would drive me nuts too.  You make plans to go somewhere, and someone in the middle of the trip is like--"I need my tires rotated.."
 
2013-07-26 02:03:51 PM

factoryconnection: Called it. http://www.fark.com/comments/7853763/85502068#c85502068

Not that it was a tough call to make.  The divorce-court judge is going to have fun slamming this guy's wallet into the ground over "exhibit A: www.youtube.com/..."

I don't care if she's an emotional wreck, you don't surreptitiously record your spouse so that you can ridicule him or her to the world.  I hope she gets ALL.


Q: Why do divorces cost so much?
A: Cause they're worth it!
 
2013-07-26 02:04:53 PM

Odd Bird: Lucky LaRue: DO. NOT. STICK. YOUR. DICK. IN. PUT A RING ON CRAZY.

It's a fun ride but you have to know when the park's closing and the zombies are coming in.


As a college senior I was dating a freshman woman who was crazy. For a few months is was SO worth it. Really. But then:

1. I come by her dorm room to pick her up to grab dinner and hang out. She is sitting in the middle of the room, in the dark, staring at a candle. I ask her what's wrong, she says nothing, stands up, and walks out of the room. I blew out the candle, shut her door and followed her. She walked out front to my car and got in. So we were driving to the restaurant, she's still not talking. No matter what I say, she's only responding with grunting noises. She takes her jacket off at the restaurant and she has cat stickers all up and down the sleeves of her sweater. I ask what's up with the cat stickers. Nothing. After a very quiet dinner, we get in the car and I have had enough. I take her straight back to the front of her dorm, stop the car and say "Sorry, I have better things to do than this. See ya."  She gets out, starts crying, and runs into the dorm. More curious than caring, I park and go in after her. I find her once again sitting in the middle of the dark room staring at a candle. I plead with her to tell me what's wrong and finally, between sobs she says...
"Two years ago today.... my cat died."

2. Shortly thereafter I went to her family's Christmas / New Year's family holiday party. I walk in, people clap. The psycho hugs me and starts introducing me to everyone, all of whom are saying "congratulations!" She told everyone we were engaged. Now, full disclosure, I had given her a ring with her birthstone in it for Christmas. It was, like, $40. Seriously, NO proposal or even hint of it on my part. We broke up a week later after I decided it just wasn't worth the hassle.

(For the record, after the breakup she had a one night stand, got a VD, met someone online, dropped out of college, moved in with him inside of two weeks, got married, had a kid, and then a divorce a couple years later.)
 
2013-07-26 02:07:28 PM
Oh, the sanctity of straight marriage.
 
2013-07-26 02:08:35 PM

WinoRhino: (For the record, after the breakup she had a one night stand, got a VD, met someone online, dropped out of college, moved in with him inside of two weeks, got married, had a kid, and then a divorce a couple years later.)


Dude, were you stalking her after?  I would have just let that shiat go.
 
2013-07-26 02:08:45 PM
She looks a bit like my second ex wife.
Also cray cray,
started of trantrumy,
ended up really violent.
Had to sell all my guns, before I realized,she was only going to get stabby, too.

Never stick you dick in crazy, son.
 
2013-07-26 02:10:03 PM
Well, Good Luck in the dating pool, Ms. Tantrum!

/oh wait, you're THAT woman?  Um, hang on a second, I forgot something in my car.
 
2013-07-26 02:10:20 PM
Dude is a dick. They're discussing things like the budget at the beginning, so she's not a total head case. Filming your wife in the middle of an argument like that is pretty childish. And he clearly doesn't care at all about her, he laughs at her reaction. She's over the top, but these two clearly shouldn't be together.
 
2013-07-26 02:11:05 PM

WinoRhino: Odd Bird: Lucky LaRue: DO. NOT. STICK. YOUR. DICK. IN. PUT A RING ON CRAZY.

It's a fun ride but you have to know when the park's closing and the zombies are coming in.

As a college senior I was dating a freshman woman who was crazy. For a few months is was SO worth it. Really. But then:

1. I come by her dorm room to pick her up to grab dinner and hang out. She is sitting in the middle of the room, in the dark, staring at a candle. I ask her what's wrong, she says nothing, stands up, and walks out of the room. I blew out the candle, shut her door and followed her. She walked out front to my car and got in. So we were driving to the restaurant, she's still not talking. No matter what I say, she's only responding with grunting noises. She takes her jacket off at the restaurant and she has cat stickers all up and down the sleeves of her sweater. I ask what's up with the cat stickers. Nothing. After a very quiet dinner, we get in the car and I have had enough. I take her straight back to the front of her dorm, stop the car and say "Sorry, I have better things to do than this. See ya."  She gets out, starts crying, and runs into the dorm. More curious than caring, I park and go in after her. I find her once again sitting in the middle of the dark room staring at a candle. I plead with her to tell me what's wrong and finally, between sobs she says...
"Two years ago today.... my cat died."

2. Shortly thereafter I went to her family's Christmas / New Year's family holiday party. I walk in, people clap. The psycho hugs me and starts introducing me to everyone, all of whom are saying "congratulations!" She told everyone we were engaged. Now, full disclosure, I had given her a ring with her birthstone in it for Christmas. It was, like, $40. Seriously, NO proposal or even hint of it on my part. We broke up a week later after I decided it just wasn't worth the hassle.

(For the record, after the breakup she had a one night stand, got a VD, met someone online, dropped out of c ...


What is it with crazy biatches and cats?
 
2013-07-26 02:11:36 PM

Hebalo: She's over the top, but these two clearly shouldn't be together.


Really? I think they should be sewn together.
 
2013-07-26 02:12:48 PM
'can't fiiiiiiiiind a better maaaaaaaan'!!!!!
 
2013-07-26 02:12:56 PM
Part of me thinks showing her the video could have aided in letting her see how bat shiat crazy she acts.  Like when you're trying to help someone with a sever drug or alcohol problem.

The other part of me thinks he had already made up his mind and posted the video to show everyone else why he's walking away from bat shiat crazy.
 
2013-07-26 02:13:22 PM
You guys laugh, but I just emailed her about this and we started talking. She invited me over for dinner and said she makes the best hasenpfeffer.
 
2013-07-26 02:13:59 PM
I think men are getting smarter and this guy is an example of that. The pendulum of equality between the sexes has swung so far to the other side and does not exist in family court where men are concerned.

 When you've put your d**k in crazy, you have few options. One is getting out. Failing to do that, you should protect yourself.   This guy protected himself from a future restraining order or cries of abuse or he beat me or give me half your sh*t or in preparation for the negative press war that women rule in his future divorce; by documenting her level of insanity.  Good on him.   He's keeping his own a** out of jail from some trumped up assault charge, by documenting the crazy. Well played.
 
2013-07-26 02:14:38 PM

Lucky LaRue: DO. NOT. STICK. YOUR. DICK. IN. CRAZY.


Yeah, but I can't resist the crazy ones, so I decided it was not only best to never get married, but also to stop dating since they seem to be the ones I am attracted to the most.   Scenes like that have happened to me a lot.
 
2013-07-26 02:15:20 PM

genepool lifeboat: Dude, were you stalking her after?  I would have just let that shiat go.


Haha, yeah, it does look that way on the surface. But when she got the VD, met the guy online and dropped out of college we were still at the same small school in the same theater group, so word did get around.
 
2013-07-26 02:15:39 PM

xynix: metallion: My ex-wife was like that.  She was fine until about a year after we exchanged vows...  She already had kids, and I was sort of trapped, because the kids needed something normal in their lives.   Put up with her for 12 years, and when I left, I felt like all of the circuits that had any caring for her were just burned flat out.   I also felt like a massive cement truck was off of my back.  The funny thing about it, is that the kids were both pretty much on my side about it.  "What I don't understand dad, is why you didn't leave her earlier...".   Now I've got a soulmate, who is everything good that I've missed for so long.  Pretty csb. :)

Same deal except it was her mother and her mother's husband that suggest I divorce that crazy biatch for my son's sake. Now her entire family are my friends, shunning her, and I've got a person I can really enjoy life with.

Not sure if you like Darius Rucker but his song "this" defines my life with my soon to be wife.


I'm right there with both of you. My ex's father even wrote her a letter (which I presented in the divorce proceedings) telling her she had been pulling that shiat her whole life and was throwing away everything to act like a farking 2 year old.
 
2013-07-26 02:15:55 PM
I wonder what will be the expression on the fellows face who dates her and gets around to googling her.
 
2013-07-26 02:16:48 PM

vudukungfu: She looks a bit like my second ex wife.
Also cray cray,
started of trantrumy,
ended up really violent.
Had to sell all my guns, before I realized,she was only going to get stabby, too.

Never stick you dick in crazy, son.


What is with Farkers dating/marrying crazy women? I know there are a lot of them out there, but based solely on Fark demographics it seems like one out of every three women is a psycho hose-beast.

I've never dated any crazy guys. I've dated overly possessive, emotionally crippled, jealously violent or chronically immature men, but never straight-up "batshiat insane" ones.
 
2013-07-26 02:17:08 PM

Proteejay: I think men are getting smarter and this guy is an example of that. The pendulum of equality between the sexes has swung so far to the other side and does not exist in family court where men are concerned.

 When you've put your d**k in crazy, you have few options. One is getting out. Failing to do that, you should protect yourself.   This guy protected himself from a future restraining order or cries of abuse or he beat me or give me half your sh*t or in preparation for the negative press war that women rule in his future divorce; by documenting her level of insanity.  Good on him.   He's keeping his own a** out of jail from some trumped up assault charge, by documenting the crazy. Well played.


But this guy isn't acting like a man. A man doesn't taunt and callously treat a woman like that, no matter how batshiat crazy she reacts.
 
2013-07-26 02:17:34 PM

WinoRhino: in the same theater group


First clue of crazy right there.
 
2013-07-26 02:18:15 PM
My wife is not perfect, nor am I. But after seeing that video, dayum I need to pick up some flowers on the way home tonight.
 
2013-07-26 02:18:28 PM
I don't blame the guy for posting it.  He probably knew it was over (or should be) by that point in their relationship...  Her explanation that he egged her on, doesn't jive... He's just sitting there, and she's ranting for minutes on end, non-stop....   Even if he said/did something rude, that wouldn't provoke a never-ending tantrum, except in a crazy person.

She's begging and pleading.... Thats not the response of someone who is egged on... She's not upset with his attitude... She's upset that she's not getting her way.
 
2013-07-26 02:19:16 PM

miss diminutive: vudukungfu: She looks a bit like my second ex wife.
Also cray cray,
started of trantrumy,
ended up really violent.
Had to sell all my guns, before I realized,she was only going to get stabby, too.

Never stick you dick in crazy, son.

What is with Farkers dating/marrying crazy women? I know there are a lot of them out there, but based solely on Fark demographics it seems like one out of every three women is a psycho hose-beast.

I've never dated any crazy guys. I've dated overly possessive, emotionally crippled, jealously violent or chronically immature men, but never straight-up "batshiat insane" ones.


Weird hey? There's also an abnormally large sampling of Farkers with daddy issues.
 
2013-07-26 02:19:18 PM

Hebalo: Dude is a dick. They're discussing things like the budget at the beginning, so she's not a total head case. Filming your wife in the middle of an argument like that is pretty childish. And he clearly doesn't care at all about her, he laughs at her reaction. She's over the top, but these two clearly shouldn't be together.


Wow, what exactly does one have to do to qualify as unacceptably childish to you? I mean kicking and screaming get's a pass, so what would someone have to do before you say fark this, I'm out?
 
2013-07-26 02:19:29 PM
Let me guess, he had nooooooo idea that she acted this way before they got married.
 
2013-07-26 02:19:57 PM

miss diminutive: What is with Farkers dating/marrying crazy women?


Behold the power of pussy.
 
2013-07-26 02:20:45 PM

T.rex: I don't blame the guy for posting it.  He probably knew it was over (or should be) by that point in their relationship...  Her explanation that he egged her on, doesn't jive... He's just sitting there, and she's ranting for minutes on end, non-stop....   Even if he said/did something rude, that wouldn't provoke a never-ending tantrum, except in a crazy person.

She's begging and pleading.... Thats not the response of someone who is egged on... She's not upset with his attitude... She's upset that she's not getting her way.


The version I watched was filled with him taunting her, calling her names, and being kind of selfish.
 
2013-07-26 02:21:40 PM

basemetal: A nurse with a DUI and throws immature temper tantrums.  I bet the nursing board is having a double take.


Do people usually get interlock devices after the first DUI, or is that like, once you fill up your frequent drunk card you get one? It looks to me like he's dealing with a highly unstable person who has a serious drinking problem.

factoryconnection: I hope she gets ALL.


I hope she doesn't get shiat. That kind of behavior doesn't need to be rewarded.

nytmare: What do you mean "first" inclination? He's been putting up with that shiat for a while. He's done trying to fix it; that didn't work. Now it's just time to laugh it off because there is no other option.


I can certainly see why after over a year married to her he would want people to know that she's full of she when she's bashing him on Facebook to all of their mutual friends. The last straw video combined with moving out and getting a restraining order seems to indicate that he was just pushed too damn far.
 
2013-07-26 02:22:00 PM

lockers: Hebalo: Dude is a dick. They're discussing things like the budget at the beginning, so she's not a total head case. Filming your wife in the middle of an argument like that is pretty childish. And he clearly doesn't care at all about her, he laughs at her reaction. She's over the top, but these two clearly shouldn't be together.

Wow, what exactly does one have to do to qualify as unacceptably childish to you? I mean kicking and screaming get's a pass, so what would someone have to do before you say fark this, I'm out?


I'm not giving her a pass, but 3/4 of the comments here are all "dude is right", when dude is clearly being an asshole. It looks to me like this is round 4 of this argument, and he's been taunting her the whole time. Getting his tired rotated? really?
 
2013-07-26 02:22:09 PM

Hebalo: T.rex: I don't blame the guy for posting it.  He probably knew it was over (or should be) by that point in their relationship...  Her explanation that he egged her on, doesn't jive... He's just sitting there, and she's ranting for minutes on end, non-stop....   Even if he said/did something rude, that wouldn't provoke a never-ending tantrum, except in a crazy person.

She's begging and pleading.... Thats not the response of someone who is egged on... She's not upset with his attitude... She's upset that she's not getting her way.

The version I watched was filled with him taunting her, calling her names, and being kind of selfish.


Wife-like typing detected.
 
2013-07-26 02:22:20 PM
Man, I'd be pissed if I had to waste a Saturday and buy a present for a wedding and marriage that lasted a whopping 14 months.  Sheesh, people...figure out if you're actually compatible before you tie the knot.
 
2013-07-26 02:22:28 PM

WhiskeySticks: First clue of crazy right there.


Yeah, I got into the group because of her. I quickly learned that 50% of the members were batshiat insane, and the other 50% were actually very interesting well-rounded people (one guy from the group is actually on TV these days and made it pretty big). I enjoyed it, though, and later joined a community theater group. That's when I learned after college, the well-rounded interesting people had much better things to do with their time and community theater was populated by 100% batshiat insane people.
 
2013-07-26 02:23:03 PM
Married 17 years, together for 21.  Reading these posts make me realized I got damn lucky on my first go around.
 
2013-07-26 02:25:10 PM

WinoRhino: Odd Bird: Lucky LaRue: DO. NOT. STICK. YOUR. DICK. IN. PUT A RING ON CRAZY.

It's a fun ride but you have to know when the park's closing and the zombies are coming in.

As a college senior I was dating a freshman woman who was crazy. For a few months is was SO worth it. Really. But then:

1. I come by her dorm room to pick her up to grab dinner and hang out. She is sitting in the middle of the room, in the dark, staring at a candle. I ask her what's wrong, she says nothing, stands up, and walks out of the room. I blew out the candle, shut her door and followed her. She walked out front to my car and got in. So we were driving to the restaurant, she's still not talking. No matter what I say, she's only responding with grunting noises. She takes her jacket off at the restaurant and she has cat stickers all up and down the sleeves of her sweater. I ask what's up with the cat stickers. Nothing. After a very quiet dinner, we get in the car and I have had enough. I take her straight back to the front of her dorm, stop the car and say "Sorry, I have better things to do than this. See ya."  She gets out, starts crying, and runs into the dorm. More curious than caring, I park and go in after her. I find her once again sitting in the middle of the dark room staring at a candle. I plead with her to tell me what's wrong and finally, between sobs she says...
"Two years ago today.... my cat died."

2. Shortly thereafter I went to her family's Christmas / New Year's family holiday party. I walk in, people clap. The psycho hugs me and starts introducing me to everyone, all of whom are saying "congratulations!" She told everyone we were engaged. Now, full disclosure, I had given her a ring with her birthstone in it for Christmas. It was, like, $40. Seriously, NO proposal or even hint of it on my part. We broke up a week later after I decided it just wasn't worth the hassle.

(For the record, after the breakup she had a one night stand, got a VD, met someone online, dropped out of c ...


Yep, that's about the size of it.  Brunette, size 2, looked like Danica Patrick and was great in bed.  I was in love but not blinded by it, lasted 16 months of glory and pain.  As a friend put it to me; "your instinct for self-preservation is pretty strong".

(for the record; she was married a year later and, as far as I know, didn't self-destruct like yours)
 
2013-07-26 02:25:43 PM

Hebalo: The version I watched was filled with him taunting her, calling her names, and being kind of selfish.


Which a normal person ignores, walks away from and files for divorce. A crazy biatch keeps fighting and throwing a tantrum thinking that the outcome is going to go her way.
 
2013-07-26 02:26:14 PM

rev. dave: Lucky LaRue: DO. NOT. STICK. YOUR. DICK. IN. CRAZY.

Yeah, but I can't resist the crazy ones, so I decided it was not only best to never get married, but also to stop dating since they seem to be the ones I am attracted to the most.   Scenes like that have happened to me a lot.


Me (after long day at work/have to get up early): Good night, babe. *smooch*

Her (no job/nothing to do in the morning): But... don't you love me?

Me: Huh? Yeah, of course. Good night, babe. *smooch*

Her: What's wrong with me? WHY DON'T YOU LOVE ME?!

Me: Uh... I'm just really tired. Come lay down.

Her: BLUUUURGH!!!

Me: Okay, I really need some sleep. I'm gonna do that now. You can stay or you can go back to your place... but seriously I need some sleep. We can talk about this tomorrow. Good night.

Her: *pounces on back/pummels back of head/shoulder blades*

Me: WTF?! *starts standing up with her on back*

Her: *bolts into kitchen/hides under table crying*

Me: WTF?!

Her: Don't hurt me!! I know I deserve it but PLEASE DON'T HURT ME!!!

Me: Jeezus woman! I'd never hurt you but you gotta go home... like NOW!

Her: can't i just... yanno... lay down next to you?

Me: Aw HELL no!

Her: okay...

Fin.
 
2013-07-26 02:27:14 PM
The more I watch this, the more I get the "Maybe we can get on a reality show" bullshiat vibe. I mean, I know I'm not the first to think this, and I could very well be wrong, but something just seems fishy. Why does it take all day to get your tires rotated? And why would you take your wife with you?
 
2013-07-26 02:27:39 PM

Hebalo: It looks to me like


But you have no idea so it's just conjecture.
 
2013-07-26 02:29:02 PM
impaler: "Tough to say. That tantrum could have just been the breaking point after years of emotional manipulation/abuse."

Did you miss her casual mention of how getting her oil changed was somehow someone else's problem because of "the interlock thing" on her car?
The dude may *also* be a colossal d-bag, but the question of whether she's bug-fark-nuts is not remotely tough to say.
 
2013-07-26 02:29:04 PM

Hebalo: Proteejay: I think men are getting smarter and this guy is an example of that. The pendulum of equality between the sexes has swung so far to the other side and does not exist in family court where men are concerned.

 When you've put your d**k in crazy, you have few options. One is getting out. Failing to do that, you should protect yourself.   This guy protected himself from a future restraining order or cries of abuse or he beat me or give me half your sh*t or in preparation for the negative press war that women rule in his future divorce; by documenting her level of insanity.  Good on him.   He's keeping his own a** out of jail from some trumped up assault charge, by documenting the crazy. Well played.

But this guy isn't acting like a man. A man doesn't taunt and callously treat a woman like that, no matter how batshiat crazy she reacts.


What's the manly way for him to act? Beat her? Be her b*tch?  Maybe dude manned up and  checked out.


Have you dated crazy? Normal people don't mean to date crazy. But have you?  If so; remember what it was like?  


To me, dude came across as callous and fed up. If you are rational, there is not much you can say to those with depression, anger issues or behavior problems where you won't look a prick; especially if there are water works.  Staying in that relationship would not have ended well for him.
 
2013-07-26 02:31:50 PM

Hebalo: The version I watched was filled with him taunting her, calling her names, and being kind of selfish.


The worst thing I heard him call her was 'like an 11 year old who didn't get the toy at Walmart.'
 
2013-07-26 02:32:23 PM

Odd Bird: Yep, that's about the size of it.  Brunette, size 2, looked like Danica Patrick and was great in bed.


All over campus. In the library, in the copy room of campus security, on the dining hall roof, In a server closet in the comp-sci lab, on her kitchen table, mens' room stall in the library, in the middle of the science and engineering building lobby at 2am right in the middle of the damn floor. That's what crazy will do. And then you realize, eventually, that you can find a "normal" who does those things too (under the right circumstances), and that's when you get married.
 
2013-07-26 02:32:42 PM

Proteejay: If so; remember what it was like?


Only when waking up late at night screaming.
 
2013-07-26 02:33:16 PM

Proteejay: What's the manly way for him to act? Beat her? Be her b*tch? Maybe dude manned up and checked out.


You aloof the f*ck outta that sh*t and plan your escape. Dude's mistake was marrying her and feeding her cray cray.

I have no sympathy for Captain Brostein. He wanted princess and that's what he got.
 
2013-07-26 02:33:38 PM

factoryconnection: Called it. http://www.fark.com/comments/7853763/85502068#c85502068

Not that it was a tough call to make.  The divorce-court judge is going to have fun slamming this guy's wallet into the ground over "exhibit A: www.youtube.com/..."

I don't care if she's an emotional wreck, you don't surreptitiously record your spouse so that you can ridicule him or her to the world.  I hope she gets ALL.


He should have waited until the divorce was final.
 
2013-07-26 02:34:33 PM

lemonysprite: He comes off worse in the video than her. Yeah she's immature and irritating but he seems like a genuine asshole enjoying the whole thing.


NashMcNash: I do agree that this woman seems fairly unstable and probably a mess to live with, but the guy is a grade A dick for recording her and posting it online.


I find it difficult to believe she went from zero to hystrionic overnight. I suspect she's always been colorful and over-reactive, but the real villain in this thing is the guy. He struck me as a jerk from his comments and the mere fact that he was filming this instead of pulling over to the side of the road to seek some resolution, if only to quiet down until they got home. Then seeing his photos, he looks like a wet, sticky asshole.

I'm going with Abuser on this. She's a nurse. Now, that's a fine profession and there are plenty of sane, emotionally healthy people doing it. It does have more than its share of the emotionally vulnerable, though. I say this from having dated one and having worked in several hospitals during my psychiatric social worker career. I'm guessing he found this babe (and I do mean 'babe'), and enjoyed that he could light her up, taunt, goad, prod, harass, and intimated her. I'll also speculate that right now he's getting all cozy and schmoozy and lovey-dovey and "oh, come on, honey, it's a joke, it was funny. (And besides, who's going to want you now?) No, let's patch this up and have a merry, joyful life together (where I continue to control & manipulate you)."

And she'll fall for it.
 
2013-07-26 02:34:33 PM

miss diminutive: vudukungfu: She looks a bit like my second ex wife.
Also cray cray,
started of trantrumy,
ended up really violent.
Had to sell all my guns, before I realized,she was only going to get stabby, too.

Never stick you dick in crazy, son.

What is with Farkers dating/marrying crazy women? I know there are a lot of them out there, but based solely on Fark demographics it seems like one out of every three women is a psycho hose-beast.

I've never dated any crazy guys. I've dated overly possessive, emotionally crippled, jealously violent or chronically immature men, but never straight-up "batshiat insane" ones.


the bar for crazy girl encompasses all of those things you just said about guys, usually. It's a very catch-all term.
 
2013-07-26 02:34:51 PM

Proteejay: What's the manly way for him to act?


Probably not secretly recording her and putting it on the Internet.
 
2013-07-26 02:35:19 PM

Pincy: Let me guess, he had nooooooo idea that she acted this way before they got married.


And then there's that.
 
2013-07-26 02:37:11 PM

AngryJailhouseFistfark: lemonysprite: He comes off worse in the video than her. Yeah she's immature and irritating but he seems like a genuine asshole enjoying the whole thing.

NashMcNash: I do agree that this woman seems fairly unstable and probably a mess to live with, but the guy is a grade A dick for recording her and posting it online.

I find it difficult to believe she went from zero to hystrionic overnight. I suspect she's always been colorful and over-reactive, but the real villain in this thing is the guy. He struck me as a jerk from his comments and the mere fact that he was filming this instead of pulling over to the side of the road to seek some resolution, if only to quiet down until they got home. Then seeing his photos, he looks like a wet, sticky asshole.

I'm going with Abuser on this. She's a nurse. Now, that's a fine profession and there are plenty of sane, emotionally healthy people doing it. It does have more than its share of the emotionally vulnerable, though. I say this from having dated one and having worked in several hospitals during my psychiatric social worker career. I'm guessing he found this babe (and I do mean 'babe'), and enjoyed that he could light her up, taunt, goad, prod, harass, and intimated her. I'll also speculate that right now he's getting all cozy and schmoozy and lovey-dovey and "oh, come on, honey, it's a joke, it was funny. (And besides, who's going to want you now?) No, let's patch this up and have a merry, joyful life together (where I continue to control & manipulate you)."

And she'll fall for it.


She'll be single soon. You should try to get with her and find out for yourself how much you can take. Good luck.
 
2013-07-26 02:38:17 PM
For all of you saying he was a dick for posting the video online... maybe he was, but it sounds like she's been badmouthing him to all her friends, etc. too.

Too bad they're splitting up, seems like they were meant for each other.
 
2013-07-26 02:38:53 PM

Pincy: Proteejay: What's the manly way for him to act?

Probably not secretly recording her and putting it on the Internet.


I would agree with the not putting it on the internet thing.  That's dickish. But recording it could be insurance.
 
2013-07-26 02:39:26 PM

NashMcNash: I do agree that this woman seems fairly unstable and probably a mess to live with, but the guy is a grade A dick for recording her and posting it online.


Both of them need about a hundred hours with a good therapist. That he set her up to get the documentation is one thing, and I don't blame him if she pulls this shiat frequently. However, he seems to be experienced in pushing her buttons which make me think he's psychologically abusive. They need to part ways.

//Hope she gets the boat in the divorce. Also hope that her shift supervisor cans her ass as she's not in control of her emotions and can freak out under pressure--not the nurse I want working in a ward and caring for me.
 
2013-07-26 02:39:28 PM

heili skrimsli: basemetal: A nurse with a DUI and throws immature temper tantrums.  I bet the nursing board is having a double take.

Do people usually get interlock devices after the first DUI, or is that like, once you fill up your frequent drunk card you get one? It looks to me like he's dealing with a highly unstable person who has a serious drinking problem.


A lot of states are making people install them after a first offense now. My buddy gave me an unused mouthpiece for the breath device to put on my key chain to remind me not to make the same mistake. A $70 dollar tab for the entire day, food inlcluded, bought him 10k worth of fines, lawyers, and hassles. His insurance shot up 100 buck a month too. Its not worth it

/This has been your Friday safety briefing.
 
2013-07-26 02:42:01 PM

kobrakai: She'll be single soon. You should try to get with her and find out for yourself how much you can take. Good luck.


No, thank you, she's got the issues, and I'm already married to a lovely woman who is kind to me and gives me all the lovin'. Sweet, sweet lovin'. Only minimally crazy too, and she owns it.

The woman in the vid certainly needs some help, who knows, maybe there's some psychiatric stuff going on, thought I suspect it's of the not-so-treatable Axis II variety. But that's just the sort the abusers prey on.
 
2013-07-26 02:45:02 PM
Nobody needs their tires rotated on THAT one day.  It's a pretty standard thing that you can do next week if you feel like it.  Sounds like he wanted to get her all worked up.
 
2013-07-26 02:45:28 PM
I find it amazing that so many people are jumping to the defense of the woman despite the fact that she:

1) Has at a minimum 1 DUI if not more for her to have an Interlock device on the vehicle
2) Expects other people to be responsible for her vehicle
3) Has the ability to act like a little kid, I don't care how bad the issue is you do not act like that.  I can say that after experiencing some extreme stuff in my life like being told you are about to die while in the ER.
4) Quickly conclude that the guy is and has been nothing but a jerk despite having no evidence yet defend the woman even though there is tons of evidence that she is crazy.
 
2013-07-26 02:47:30 PM
The Goddamn Batman: "Why does it take all day to get your tires rotated? And why would you take your wife with you?"

You seem to be missing the context of having known a crazy biatch or two.

It doesn't take all day to get your tired rotated. But she's insane, so not doing what she wants Right This Second is treated as if it were equivalent to not doing it, ever. The question of "why don't they just go after" is answered by the dude's "how can we afford it" that she never really addresses, conflating her income with their discretionary funds. This is a standard move of people with no monetary maturity, who don't grok/have budgets and have likely never had to be personally responsible for farking one up. (A person with $100 can afford any given $20 purchase. But that doesn't mean they can afford *every* potential $20 purchase opportunity they're presented. After you make a few $20 purchases, the rest become no longer affordable, regardless of how much you make -- she doesn't get this, or pretends not to.)

Your crazy-ass wife goes with you to get the tires rotated, when she really wants to go to the lake, because she believes she can tantrum her way into getting whatever she wants. Being in the car just makes it that much easier for you to break down, yell "fine!" and drive to B. Which is why she was wearing a beach dress with, almost certainly, her bathing suit underneath.

None of which means they *weren't* doing a reality show pitch. It just means she's either an authentic crazy biatch *anyway*, or plays one on TV really, *really* well.
 
2013-07-26 02:48:12 PM
Her work and friends were more important than him and their marriage.  Simple result.

Hope the judge gives her the pooped-half of the dog.
 
2013-07-26 02:48:27 PM

dazed420: I find it amazing that so many people are jumping to the defense of the woman despite the fact that she:

1) Has at a minimum 1 DUI if not more for her to have an Interlock device on the vehicle
2) Expects other people to be responsible for her vehicle
3) Has the ability to act like a little kid, I don't care how bad the issue is you do not act like that.  I can say that after experiencing some extreme stuff in my life like being told you are about to die while in the ER.
4) Quickly conclude that the guy is and has been nothing but a jerk despite having no evidence yet defend the woman even though there is tons of evidence that she is crazy.


We expect men to be responsible.
 
2013-07-26 02:49:10 PM
Two big kids on a continent full of big kids. But the law says your an adult, so .....  stupid law, eh? Stupid legislators. No societal guidance. Lost civilisation.

when's the next comic book movie?
 
2013-07-26 02:50:44 PM
I always wondered how Katie Kaboom would look all grown up.

images1.wikia.nocookie.net
 
2013-07-26 02:51:31 PM

SeedFreak: However, he seems to be experienced in pushing her buttons which make me think he's psychologically abusive.


I think she's just an immature crazy biatch.

There's only one person responsible for her behavior, and that person is her.

Onkel Buck: A lot of states are making people install them after a first offense now.


...

/This has been your Friday safety briefing.

Well, given that they keep lowering the limits to the point where a person can only be deemed 'intoxicated' using gas chromatography, I think it's pretty clearly not about just 'safety'. If a person's reaction time, balance, cognition and ability to follow instructions is not impaired and the level of alcohol in their system isn't enough to affect the testing of those things, then it's purely a money grab.

AngryJailhouseFistfark: But that's just the sort the abusers prey on.


Because the guy always has to be the one who's wrong, eh? It can't possibly be that he's just an average, normal, not abusive man who's been pushed to the point that he walked out the door by a crazy, immature, spoiled biatch, can it?
 
2013-07-26 02:51:54 PM

dazed420: I find it amazing that so many people are jumping to the defense of the woman despite the fact that she:

1) Has at a minimum 1 DUI if not more for her to have an Interlock device on the vehicle
2) Expects other people to be responsible for her vehicle
3) Has the ability to act like a little kid, I don't care how bad the issue is you do not act like that.  I can say that after experiencing some extreme stuff in my life like being told you are about to die while in the ER.
4) Quickly conclude that the guy is and has been nothing but a jerk despite having no evidence yet defend the woman even though there is tons of evidence that she is crazy.


I don't think most of us are "jumping to her defense".  We are just pointing out that the husband is just as much of a dick as she is crazy.
 
2013-07-26 02:54:01 PM

ringersol: A person with $100 can afford any given $20 purchase. But that doesn't mean they can afford *every* potential $20 purchase opportunity they're presented. After you make a few $20 purchases, the rest become no longer affordable, regardless of how much you make -- she doesn't get this, or pretends not to.


Like I've said before, this woman is just like my ex and your example is perfect. My ex received a large monetary gift from my family. I had received a similar gift previously. When I advised my then-wife to be careful and budget out what she wanted to do with it because it will go faster than she thinks it will, I was told that I was trying to control her money and was calling her an idiot. It doesn't matter that I calmly explained that she could learn from my mistake, I was calling her stupid. She then decided I needed some fists upside my head.

Now to the men on here calling this guy (and me I guess) an abuser I'll ask you this: How should I have handled that? How much of that bullshiat would you take from an adult before you went into self-preservation mode?
 
2013-07-26 02:55:11 PM

ringersol: You seem to be missing the context of having known a crazy biatch or two.


Yeah, I consider myself extremely lucky that I've never been involved with a psycho like this. My wife is very cool. But thanks for the explanation; that actually makes a lot of sense.

ringersol: None of which means they *weren't* doing a reality show pitch. It just means she's either an authentic crazy biatch *anyway*, or plays one on TV really, *really* well.


This probably is real. I think I'm just jaded.
 
2013-07-26 02:55:20 PM
That guy is a shiatbird. Just divorce her if she's that big a pain in the ass, but don't ridicule her. This dude is too big a pussy to make a decision and stand up for it, so he had to "prove" what a biatch she was and destroy her in the process.
 
2013-07-26 02:56:32 PM

obamadidcoke: That guy is a shiatbird. Just divorce her if she's that big a pain in the ass, but don't ridicule her. This dude is too big a pussy to make a decision and stand up for it, so he had to "prove" what a biatch she was and destroy her in the process.


Yep.
 
2013-07-26 02:56:54 PM
to put up with all of that and now pull the rip cord, he must be tired of a girl who swallows, likes facials sometimes, and does anal.
 
2013-07-26 02:59:15 PM
*peers at some of the responses*  heh, its fun trying to figure out why some people white-knight.
 
2013-07-26 02:59:40 PM
I'd hit it.  Then I'd flee.
 
2013-07-26 03:00:06 PM

kobrakai: Now to the men on here calling this guy (and me I guess) an abuser I'll ask you this: How should I have handled that? How much of that bullshiat would you take from an adult before you went into self-preservation mode?


I'm not calling the husband in this video an abuser, I have no idea about that.  But if my wife thought that she needed to hit me then I would have ended the relationship after about the second time.  Not necessarily because I would be afraid she was going to seriously hurt me but because I would be afraid I might respond in kind.
 
2013-07-26 03:01:45 PM

here to help: Her: Don't hurt me!! I know I deserve it but PLEASE DON'T HURT ME!!!

Me: Jeezus woman! I'd never hurt you but you gotta go home... like NOW!

Her: can't i just... yanno... lay down next to you?

Me: Aw HELL no!

Her: okay...

Fin.


I think she wants you to SPANK HER.

/and then . . . the oral sex!
 
2013-07-26 03:02:22 PM

Snarfangel: dazed420: I find it amazing that so many people are jumping to the defense of the woman despite the fact that she:

1) Has at a minimum 1 DUI if not more for her to have an Interlock device on the vehicle
2) Expects other people to be responsible for her vehicle
3) Has the ability to act like a little kid, I don't care how bad the issue is you do not act like that.  I can say that after experiencing some extreme stuff in my life like being told you are about to die while in the ER.
4) Quickly conclude that the guy is and has been nothing but a jerk despite having no evidence yet defend the woman even though there is tons of evidence that she is crazy.

We expect men to be responsible.


"Responsible."
That's code for "Pay us money."
 
2013-07-26 03:02:27 PM

Pincy: kobrakai: Now to the men on here calling this guy (and me I guess) an abuser I'll ask you this: How should I have handled that? How much of that bullshiat would you take from an adult before you went into self-preservation mode?

I'm not calling the husband in this video an abuser, I have no idea about that.  But if my wife thought that she needed to hit me then I would have ended the relationship after about the second time.  Not necessarily because I would be afraid she was going to seriously hurt me but because I would be afraid I might respond in kind.


I agree. I learned a very hard and sad lesson but keep in mind that it's easier to be objective and make that decision when it's not you in that situation.

And the abuser accusation came from someone with the handle AngryJailhouseFistFarker. Go figure.
 
2013-07-26 03:04:59 PM

kobrakai: Pincy: kobrakai: Now to the men on here calling this guy (and me I guess) an abuser I'll ask you this: How should I have handled that? How much of that bullshiat would you take from an adult before you went into self-preservation mode?

I'm not calling the husband in this video an abuser, I have no idea about that.  But if my wife thought that she needed to hit me then I would have ended the relationship after about the second time.  Not necessarily because I would be afraid she was going to seriously hurt me but because I would be afraid I might respond in kind.

I agree. I learned a very hard and sad lesson but keep in mind that it's easier to be objective and make that decision when it's not you in that situation.


Yes, that's a very good point.
 
2013-07-26 03:05:51 PM
I tried watching the video, but couldn't stand it more than halfway through. While her behavior looks looney, she keeps asking for him to stop for cigs and he keeps refusing, so she's likely having a nicotine fit. He's an enormous dickhole who keeps egging her on because he's a farking tool. She's all dressed up, so he obviously decided "Oh, she was really happy to go to the lake so I'm going to take it away BECUZ CONTROL!111" There's no reason they couldn't go after the damn tires got rotated. Right in the beginning, he himself states he won't sit down and have a basic financial discussion with her.

Her behavior wasn't right, but honestly, I had to stop watching because he forcibly reminds me of my highly abusive ex. He really would sit there and say in the middle of the week "Oh, let's do 'X' thing this weekend!" then decide at the last minute that we weren't going just to savor my disappointment (not batshiat disappointment, the regular kind). I really hope she gets some damn cigs and some help.
 
2013-07-26 03:06:33 PM

miss diminutive: She's a melodramatic, immature crybaby who throws tantrums to express herself. He's a manipulative, condescending douche who instigates then records his wife to shame her before the world.

They certainly deserved each other.


And now they both get a chance to fark up someone else's life!
 
2013-07-26 03:06:50 PM

WinoRhino: As a college senior I was dating a freshman woman who was crazy. For a few months is was SO worth it. Really. But then:


theathleticnerd.com
 
2013-07-26 03:06:58 PM
OK that looked pretty bad but A) that guy married her and stayed with her for 14 months and B) he may not be a total princess either, especially with that jaw-beard.

That being said, I had to laugh because it reminded me of being in a hotel in Nashville when a drunk party took up residence next door. An extremely drunk, violent young women was hollering things like "I'LL TAKE THE FALL, I'LL GO TO THE DRUNK TANK" and "YOU THINK COMIN' TO NASHVILLE IS GONNA MAKE YOU A GOOD MAN?!?" in between getting into physical fights with her less drunk compadres.
 
2013-07-26 03:08:04 PM

NutWrench: I think she wants you to SPANK HER.


She really did. I've dated far too many women that clung to me because I was "nice" but eventually deep down wanted me to be an asshole. Then they seemed to resent me because I wouldn't and frankly COULDN'T oblige them.

Chicks, man. I'll never understand.
 
2013-07-26 03:09:58 PM

here to help: I've dated far too many women that clung to


Then stop dating clingy women.
 
2013-07-26 03:10:18 PM

voran: *peers at some of the responses*  heh, its fun trying to figure out why some people white-knight.


Maybe they really like guys who "rotate their tires"?
 
2013-07-26 03:10:28 PM

WhippingBoy: I find this to be utterly unremarkable. Do the women in your life not all act like that? Where have I gone so horribly wrong?


Only time I act like that is when a video game I want to play is not loading or playing correctly. And that's not directed at anybody in particular and about 1% strength of that lady, for a short amount of time.
 
2013-07-26 03:13:35 PM

Pincy: here to help: I've dated far too many women that clung to

Then stop dating clingy women.


I have. Now I don't date at all.

Penis is lonely but the lack of drama and shrieking makes up for it.
 
2013-07-26 03:14:03 PM

Egalitarian: WhippingBoy: I find this to be utterly unremarkable. Do the women in your life not all act like that? Where have I gone so horribly wrong?

Only time I act like that is when a video game I want to play is not loading or playing correctly. And that's not directed at anybody in particular and about 1% strength of that lady, for a short amount of time.


Ask yourself: Do adults play video games?
The answer may surprise you.
 
2013-07-26 03:17:36 PM

dazed420: I find it amazing that so many people are jumping to the defense of the woman despite the fact that she:

1) Has at a minimum 1 DUI if not more for her to have an Interlock device on the vehicle
2) Expects other people to be responsible for her vehicle
3) Has the ability to act like a little kid, I don't care how bad the issue is you do not act like that.  I can say that after experiencing some extreme stuff in my life like being told you are about to die while in the ER.
4) Quickly conclude that the guy is and has been nothing but a jerk despite having no evidence yet defend the woman even though there is tons of evidence that she is crazy.


I have to agree with you.  Yes, the guy seems like he might be kind of a douche, sometimes, from what I could see in the video, his "doucheyness" was more the result of his disagreeing with her (more than likely) long-term bratty behavior.  Could he have handled it better?  Probably, but SHOULD HE HAVE HAD TO?  She obviously has a HUGE sense of entitlement.

... at one point in the video she says "cuz you're not taking your wife out on the lake to at least spend money for."  Yeah, I think that says it all.
 
2013-07-26 03:17:41 PM

HotIgneous Intruder: Egalitarian: WhippingBoy: I find this to be utterly unremarkable. Do the women in your life not all act like that? Where have I gone so horribly wrong?

Only time I act like that is when a video game I want to play is not loading or playing correctly. And that's not directed at anybody in particular and about 1% strength of that lady, for a short amount of time.

Ask yourself: Do adults play video games?
The answer may surprise you.


The answer's yes.
www.esrb.org
But no, that's not surprising,
 
2013-07-26 03:17:47 PM

AngryJailhouseFistfark: I find it difficult to believe she went from zero to hystrionic overnight. I suspect she's always been colorful and over-reactive, but the real villain in this thing is the guy. He struck me as a jerk from his comments and the mere fact that he was filming this instead of pulling over to the side of the road to seek some resolution, if only to quiet down until they got home. Then seeing his photos, he looks like a wet, sticky asshole.


I bet you good money that you are the kind of person that made him film this crazy biatch losing her shiat.

because no one would believe the level of crazy.

/was married to crazy.  she would go weapons grade insane when we were alone.  NO ONE would believe me.  Then once we were at her mother's and she forgot where she was and started to go off...  for about 40 seconds.  and then she realized where she was and total personality change.  Lots witnessed it.  No one disbelieved me any more.
 
2013-07-26 03:19:47 PM

obamadidcoke: That guy is a shiatbird. Just divorce her if she's that big a pain in the ass, but don't ridicule her.


But if he doesn't put it up on Youtube, how is supposed to warn the next guy?
 
2013-07-26 03:20:06 PM

frepnog: AngryJailhouseFistfark: I find it difficult to believe she went from zero to hystrionic overnight. I suspect she's always been colorful and over-reactive, but the real villain in this thing is the guy. He struck me as a jerk from his comments and the mere fact that he was filming this instead of pulling over to the side of the road to seek some resolution, if only to quiet down until they got home. Then seeing his photos, he looks like a wet, sticky asshole.

I bet you good money that you are the kind of person that made him film this crazy biatch losing her shiat.

because no one would believe the level of crazy.

/was married to crazy.  she would go weapons grade insane when we were alone.  NO ONE would believe me.  Then once we were at her mother's and she forgot where she was and started to go off...  for about 40 seconds.  and then she realized where she was and total personality change.  Lots witnessed it.  No one disbelieved me any more.


Just curious, did you know this going into the marriage or did she suddenly turn crazy after getting married?
 
2013-07-26 03:21:12 PM
The thing I dislike about the viral phenomenom is that it's inducing quick judgement. My pops always felt you should determine a safe distance, but then make value judgements much more slowly. He also said that given enough time, everyone will surprise you at least once. Feeding the impulse toward snap decisions is a great way to begin a manipulative process. People will be able to push public opinion far past the potential fo a reasonable response by providing an edited out of context video snapshot. This next bit sounds tin hat style, but the government will absolutely look at ways to use this to their advantage. If not in the U.S., then in some other technically capable regime. It has at least as much potential as doublethink.

All that said, my first impulse to to remind the guy that his vehicle has a driver and passenger front door, and he should make use of one of them.
 
2013-07-26 03:25:38 PM
shabu:All that said, my first impulse to to remind the guy that his vehicle has a driver and passenger front door, and he should make use of one of them.

Pushing her out of a moving vehicle would be bad. Probably.
 
2013-07-26 03:27:02 PM

Pincy: frepnog: AngryJailhouseFistfark: I find it difficult to believe she went from zero to hystrionic overnight. I suspect she's always been colorful and over-reactive, but the real villain in this thing is the guy. He struck me as a jerk from his comments and the mere fact that he was filming this instead of pulling over to the side of the road to seek some resolution, if only to quiet down until they got home. Then seeing his photos, he looks like a wet, sticky asshole.

I bet you good money that you are the kind of person that made him film this crazy biatch losing her shiat.

because no one would believe the level of crazy.

/was married to crazy.  she would go weapons grade insane when we were alone.  NO ONE would believe me.  Then once we were at her mother's and she forgot where she was and started to go off...  for about 40 seconds.  and then she realized where she was and total personality change.  Lots witnessed it.  No one disbelieved me any more.

Just curious, did you know this going into the marriage or did she suddenly turn crazy after getting married?


there were some signs, but nothing like what I actually experienced after we were married.
 
2013-07-26 03:28:16 PM

Lucky LaRue: DO. NOT. STICK. YOUR. DICK. IN. CRAZY.


Don't be a pussy

Stick your dick in crazy all you want, JUST DON'T MARRY IT
 
2013-07-26 03:28:39 PM

Hebalo: There's also an abnormally large sampling of Farkers with daddy issues.


Thank god.
 
2013-07-26 03:29:24 PM
I never watched the entire video, just a snippet but I think a divorce would be the best thing for all the involved people as it looks like neither is happy in the relationship.
 
2013-07-26 03:38:07 PM
wellbye.jpg

/life is too short man
 
2013-07-26 03:41:10 PM

Hebalo: Proteejay: I think men are getting smarter and this guy is an example of that. The pendulum of equality between the sexes has swung so far to the other side and does not exist in family court where men are concerned.

 When you've put your d**k in crazy, you have few options. One is getting out. Failing to do that, you should protect yourself.   This guy protected himself from a future restraining order or cries of abuse or he beat me or give me half your sh*t or in preparation for the negative press war that women rule in his future divorce; by documenting her level of insanity.  Good on him.   He's keeping his own a** out of jail from some trumped up assault charge, by documenting the crazy. Well played.

But this guy isn't acting like a man. A man doesn't taunt and callously treat a woman like that, no matter how batshiat crazy she reacts.


Bullshiat.  I'm a nice guy, and I would have gotten screwed.  He did the right thing.  She did the wrong thing by marrying someone who wouldn't stand for her shiat.
 
2013-07-26 03:44:45 PM
Yeah he called her on her horrible behavior and somehow HE's the bad guy.......by attacking the guy's actions you are giving the woman victim status and therefore her behavior is now acceptable.

Doncha hate it when you get called on your BS
 
2013-07-26 03:46:57 PM

dazed420: 4) Quickly conclude that the guy is and has been nothing but a jerk despite having no evidence yet defend the woman even though there is tons of evidence that she is crazy.


Welcome to our new world where only men are bad. I experienced this with my exwife who wasn't crazy but pure evil. Quiet evil. Repeatedly lying to me and about me and cheating on me and even though there was documented proof of her deeds everyone just shrugged their shoulders and said it was all my fault. It was a terrible experience but look at TV. Every man is a stupid fat idiot only saved by the love of the woman. Grow up with that for over 50 years and people will believe it.
 
2013-07-26 03:47:33 PM

Tat'dGreaser: Lucky LaRue: DO. NOT. STICK. YOUR. DICK. IN. CRAZY.

Don't be a pussy

Stick your dick in crazy all you want, JUST DON'T MARRY IT


i.huffpost.com
 
2013-07-26 03:49:35 PM

HotIgneous Intruder: cwolf20: Long term married life- taking arguments into the house and not allowing the public to see them.

Short term- embarrassing honey freakie-outtie boo-boo, making an embarrassment of yourself in the process because now everyone knows what you married.  And then having her be the winner by serving you divorce papers.

And she will win, too.
Because he humiliated her in public and damaged her reputation in the community, I'd bet.
Just wait and see.


I dunno, probably depends on state family law or something. But the duration of the marriage is short enough that we're counting it in months, they're both youngish, presumably both employed, and unless I'm mistaken (I haven't been following this story) there's no children. My guess is they'll just unwind whatever assets they hold jointly and get on with their lives and leave it at that...?

Me, my marriage lasted almost 20 years so I'll be paying support forever.
 
2013-07-26 03:51:33 PM
obamadidcoke: That guy is a shiatbird. Just divorce her if she's that big a pain in the ass, but don't ridicule her. This dude is too big a pussy to make a decision and stand up for it, so he had to "prove" what a biatch she was and destroy her in the process.

This

I've know three women who high-sided while married.
1 - married very young to a charming man who, after the vows, beat and manipulated her to the point where she became shrill, brittle, and then secretive. She called me from outside the country after fleeing him. He spent two years stalking me, sure I knew where she was, out of "love for that biatch".
2 - married to a distant but successful man who, after the vows, managed to go broke in the internet porn industry, sleeping all day and ignoring the new baby. She became shrill, brittle and spent a year asking everyone "is it me? or is he a loser?"
3 - second marriage to a laid-back man, after the vows she began drinking in excess and eating antihistymine pills like m&m's out of boredom- something happened and she went from cheerful and jittery to manic to baker-acted (5150) with regular intervals. He refuses to divorce her but maintains there is no love, nor any human regard for her, left.

If it isn't working, don't be abusive - you'll drive the other person mad
 
2013-07-26 03:51:37 PM
He should have known better than to marry a smoker.
 
2013-07-26 03:53:21 PM
A buddy tapes his wife's tantrums.  Not all the time, just when she's WAY out of adjustment.  He was embarrassed enough admitting it to me.  He doesn't want them to see the light of day.  He just wants to have them for the day when he knows he'll need to show them to a shrink.

Laugh at your wife for behaving like that?  Not cool.  Hell no.
 
2013-07-26 03:54:41 PM
You know, they could BOTH be a-holes. I'm not sure why only one can be the a-hole. Or that in pointing this possibility out, instantly all men are martyrs at the hands (or other body parts) of all women.
 
2013-07-26 03:55:36 PM
In other news... There is a Bully Card now. Add that one the deck.
 
2013-07-26 04:02:06 PM

Angry Drunk Bureaucrat: impaler: NutWrench: Damn, he dodged a bullet (or a really sharp knife to his fun bits). That's bunny-boiler crazy.

Tough to say. That tantrum could have just been the breaking point after years of emotional manipulation/abuse. I'm not sure which one is dodging the bullet here.

Yeah, if this guy's first inclination is to post something to You Tube rather than seek marriage counseling, methinks we're not hearing the whole story here.


I listened for the first 40 seconds or so. I heard a woman crying and begging to be let out of the car, and her husband laughing at her.

Run like hell, lady. RUN. You can do much better than this jerk.
 
2013-07-26 04:03:01 PM
HotIgneous Intruder:

Ask yourself: Do adults play video games?
The answer may surprise you.


Yes.
Why would that surprise me? Everyone knows that adults are the main target audience of video games. How out of touch do you have to be to not know this?
 
2013-07-26 04:05:19 PM

frepnog: AngryJailhouseFistfark: I find it difficult to believe she went from zero to hystrionic overnight. I suspect she's always been colorful and over-reactive, but the real villain in this thing is the guy. He struck me as a jerk from his comments and the mere fact that he was filming this instead of pulling over to the side of the road to seek some resolution, if only to quiet down until they got home. Then seeing his photos, he looks like a wet, sticky asshole.

I bet you good money that you are the kind of person that made him film this crazy biatch losing her shiat.

because no one would believe the level of crazy.

/was married to crazy.  she would go weapons grade insane when we were alone.  NO ONE would believe me.  Then once we were at her mother's and she forgot where she was and started to go off...  for about 40 seconds.  and then she realized where she was and total personality change.  Lots witnessed it.  No one disbelieved me any more.


That's what happened with my ex.  In her case, it was a five minute tirade, because I had deleted a horribly blurry picture of christmas lights off of a digital camera.  It was the evening that I was vindicated after forever of that kind of shiat in private.   and as it turned out, It was the start of the best thing that could have happened for me.   Her parents were there, her sisters and brothers were there....  The whole fam damily was there..

I even had a pretty sound calculation for an exchange rate.  For every 30 minutes she had to be nice to someone, I'd catch around 14.5 hours of hell for it.

I've still got a good relationship with the ex in-laws, after almost five years of being divorced from her.
 
2013-07-26 04:07:34 PM

tricycleracer: BlousyBrown: MutantMotherMouse: My only question is why she didn't take herself to the lake? Mr. Mutantmothermouse wants to run errands rather than meet friends at the lake? Fark that -- I'm going without him. lol! jk! Mr. MMM never turns down an opportunity to go to the lake.

I think she had a restricted license or something like that.

DUI interlock on her car.  She may have already started drinking that day.


Obviously she has a history of making stupid decisions then. So none of this is a surprise. They deserved to be stuck together longer.
 
2013-07-26 04:08:02 PM

heili skrimsli: SeedFreak: However, he seems to be experienced in pushing her buttons which make me think he's psychologically abusive.

I think she's just an immature crazy biatch.

There's only one person responsible for her behavior, and that person is her.

AngryJailhouseFistfark: But that's just the sort the abusers prey on.

Because the guy always has to be the one who's wrong, eh? It can't possibly be that he's just an average, normal, not abusive man who's been pushed to the point that he walked out the door by a crazy, immature, spoiled biatch, can it?


There's only one person responsible for his behaviour, and that's him.

Apparently.
 
2013-07-26 04:12:24 PM

ringersol: impaler: "Tough to say. That tantrum could have just been the breaking point after years of emotional manipulation/abuse."

Did you miss her casual mention of how getting her oil changed was somehow someone else's problem because of "the interlock thing" on her car?
The dude may *also* be a colossal d-bag, but the question of whether she's bug-fark-nuts is not remotely tough to say.


Yes, I did miss that. I've only heard a few short seconds of the thing, and that's all I care to hear.
 
2013-07-26 04:15:18 PM
Because the guy always has to be the one who's wrong, eh? It can't possibly be that he's just an average, normal, not abusive man who's been pushed to the point that he walked out the door by a crazy, immature, spoiled biatch, can it?


oh, not at all - it's entirely common for both parties to be wrong.
he may not be abusive, and he seems to have opted to walk out the door.

putting her tantrum on youtube, however? as juvenile as she
 
2013-07-26 04:15:36 PM

miss diminutive: What is with Farkers dating/marrying crazy women? I know there are a lot of them out there, but based solely on Fark demographics it seems like one out of every three women is a psycho hose-beast.

I've never dated any crazy guys. I've dated overly possessive, emotionally crippled, jealously violent or chronically immature men, but never straight-up "batshiat insane" ones.



I think we can all chalk up our experience to the fact that we're not born with any ability to find a good partner, so we kind of stumble around and make mistakes for a while. And even if we've been warned about who to avoid, we don't really learn until we make those mistakes ourselves.

Then there's the whole layer of societal conventions about what's desirable. Many men find highly sexual women appealing, but that trait sometimes correlates with teh crazy. Many women are attracted to 'bad boys' or maybe to sweep-her-off-her-feet romantics, both of which types probably tend to their characteristic undesirable issues.

And the immaturity thing, most of us men hang on to our adolescence well into our 20s. Sorry about that. It's why I've been telling my daughter to find a nice 30 year old, ever since she was 12.
 
2013-07-26 04:16:28 PM

PartTimeBuddha: There's only one person responsible for his behaviour, and that's him.

Apparently.


I really don't think his behavior was the problem. It's not like he was screaming, wailing, kicking things and acting like a three year old.
 
2013-07-26 04:17:48 PM

kobrakai: Hebalo: The version I watched was filled with him taunting her, calling her names, and being kind of selfish.

Which a normal person ignores, walks away from and files for divorce. A crazy biatch keeps fighting and throwing a tantrum thinking that the outcome is going to go her way.


He refused to stop the car so she could get out. What you are calling a "tantrum" (because of course all women are children) is a reaction to being trapped.

I hope she uses his own recording against the abusive asshole.

Also, the jerk has an extremely punchable smirky-face. And now, women everywhere know that he is to be avoided at all costs. So it's not all for naught.
 
2013-07-26 04:19:30 PM
heili skrimsli :

I really don't think his behavior was the problem. It's not like he was screaming, wailing, kicking things and acting like a three year old.
there are many types of behavior -. who know what his behavior is when he isn't the one filing?
 
2013-07-26 04:20:29 PM
Maybe dude is a dick, and maybe she's a twunt.
doesn't matter. All I know is that I don't need to, nor want to, watch that video, because I am quite sure I have lived it.
I reallydon't want to area this thread any more because a lot of you farkers are breaking my heart.

A great deal of the you folks who are casting opinions don't seems to have any idea what its like to live, and survive such a relationship. Especially from a mans point of view. We are always told to man up, be responcable, etcetcetc... you are not allowed to complain, stand up for yourself,
And if you do, then you are the abusive one
I am so shell shocked I barely know how to act around women anymore. And am terrified of any relationships looking for the "signs" that this woman who's paying attention to you might be just as crazy and manipulative as the last that played you any attention.

but, you are a guy, and you are not allowed to be weak, you are not allowed to the one abused. Controlled, manipulated.
 
2013-07-26 04:21:53 PM

MadAzza: Also, the jerk has an extremely punchable smirky-face. And now, women everywhere know that he is to be avoided at all costs. So it's not all for naught.


You'd think so, but remember Drew Peterson had women willing to date him while he was being investigated for offing 2 ex-wives.
 
2013-07-26 04:21:58 PM

vudukungfu: She looks a bit like my second ex wife.
Also cray cray,
started of trantrumy,
ended up really violent.
Had to sell all my guns, before I realized,she was only going to get stabby, too.

Never stick you dick in crazy, son.


can we ban the use of the word "cray" meaning crazy on fark.
 
2013-07-26 04:28:26 PM

Sybarite: Everyone here seems like a terrible person. That said, I'd fark the crazy out of her.


23 years and counting. Hasn't happened yet. Why yes I am a raging dumbass, why do you ask?
 
2013-07-26 04:29:18 PM

heili skrimsli: PartTimeBuddha: There's only one person responsible for his behaviour, and that's him.

Apparently.

I really don't think his behavior was the problem. It's not like he was screaming, wailing, kicking things and acting like a three year old.


Indeed, no. He wasn't playing that particular game. He was playing more of an 'I HATE YOU' game, where he extracts and provokes the worst aspects of her character at the worst time, and then betrays any trust in the relationship by exposing her publicly. The whole thing is hatred in action.

Think on it.

> He wouldn't post the second worst example of her behaviour, would he?
> The woman must have started the car ride with an expectation of going to the lake. Yes -- she reacts REALLY badly to the change of destination, but he'd got her into the car in the first place with that as the assumption.

"Honey. Things have been bad, I know. But I love you. I do. Look -- let's just ... let's just try to put the past behind us and, you know, reconnect with who we really are. Who we were. Tomorrow ... that's right ... tomorrow, let's go to the lake. We'll get on the boats. We'll go swimming. With all that's happened, I ... I think we're both starting to forget who we are, right? How good we can be together? Remember? I love you. I'll prove it. I'll prove it tomorrow."

The guy is a liar and he's manipulated the situation and the woman into something for ridicule. Hatred in action.

Is he unhappy in his marriage? Sure. If you're unhappy, try to deal with it, and if you fail to deal with it, leave.
 
2013-07-26 04:30:08 PM

TheThirdViceroy: Man, I'd be pissed if I had to waste a Saturday and buy a present for a wedding and marriage that lasted a whopping 14 months.  Sheesh, people...figure out if you're actually compatible before you tie the knot.


It was obvious what was going to happen as soon as you saw how many bridesmaids/groomsmen they had:

i.dailymail.co.uk
 
2013-07-26 04:32:42 PM
You'd think someone who made a living as a nurse would have seen enough real suffering that she might have a sense of perspective about her own problems.

If I were in a relationship with someone who threw that kind of a tantrum, as soon as we got home I'd tell her it was all over. Jesus, I could hardly stand watching the video--actually putting up with someone who acts like that wouldn't even enter my mind.
 
2013-07-26 04:33:26 PM

MadAzza: He refused to stop the car so she could get out.


Do you know where they were? Could they have been on a pretty rural road with no one around for miles? Should he just dump her on the side of the road in that state?

MadAzza: I hope she uses his own recording against the abusive asshole.


If you look at my previous comments you'll see that I've actually been in that situation. I can't say what happened outside of this video (and neither can you) but my experience is that this was the last straw for him. When they go to court he will need this to counter all the lies she's going to tell (and has probably been telling). Look up thread at a few examples of this.

But I know none of this means anything to you. He is a man, ergo he's the bad guy.
 
2013-07-26 04:35:36 PM

Fear the Clam: It was obvious what was going to happen as soon as you saw how many bridesmaids/groomsmen they had:


I know! I can't believe she would let him have that many people in their wedding!

/Not directed at you. Directed at the man-haters on here.
 
2013-07-26 04:37:01 PM
i was hoping for a followup.  figurative train wrecks are really fun to watch.  unlike literal ones in Spain.
 
2013-07-26 04:37:17 PM

kobrakai: But I know none of this means anything to you. He is a man, ergo he's the bad guy.


I'd have much more sympathy for that position if they were actually going to the lake instead of (what appears to be) some random car journey.

If she is repeatedly crazy, there would be better and more natural/convincing ways of recording that. I'm not -- by any means -- saying that there wouldn't be good evidence of that. It's just that this particular fish stinks.
 
2013-07-26 04:38:58 PM
To any Farkers who have not heard of this before, she is most likely suffering from borderline personality disorder.  For many years my ex was like this x10 and I just called her crazy.  Now I know exactly what that kind of crazy is called.  I bought a few books on it and she shares every single trait that someone who suffers from that disorder does.  It's like a playbook of sorts because they all do the same things and it scared me because of all the times I've had to explain to people "shes just crazy" and she made me feel like I was crazy and always became the victim.  This woman does one of the main traits of BPD on the video!  She uses "Splitting" to go on facebook to make herself look like a victim and her husband the bad one.  To borderliners, people are either all good or all bad.  I used to hear my exwife on the phone with people and she was like a different person to each person she was talking to.  She would be the best friend ever to who she was talking to and then say how bad everyone else was.  Then she would call someone else and do the same thing.  Nobody would listen to me say that she was crazy because she told everyone how I neglect her.  I found a book called "I hate you.... dont leave me!" and it was like finding my own autobiography.  I've been divorced from her for 13 years and have one more kid turning 18 soon so I celebrate never having to see her again.  She is still super crazy.  I could write a book about it but I would have to wait until my kid turns 18 to release it.

So tl/dr version:  Shes probably got borderline personality disorder.  If you dated one, you would recognize it.  You just probably never knew what it was called.  Check out bpdcentral website, its worth a google.

/I'm not a therapist, I just read like 5-6 books about it when I found out what its called.
//going to a therapist that understands bpd and life is getting better
 
2013-07-26 04:39:34 PM
kobrakai:  When they go to court he will need this to counter all the lies she's going to tell (and has probably been telling).

It was a dick move to post it on the Internet.  And posting it online does not make him more sympathetic, it makes him less.

But I know none of this means anything to you. He is a man, ergo he's the bad guy.

OK, you can stop with the hyperbole.  It seems like most of us in this thread are saying that they both seem like asshats in their own way.
 
2013-07-26 04:41:29 PM

barefoot in the head: obamadidcoke: That guy is a shiatbird. Just divorce her if she's that big a pain in the ass, but don't ridicule her. This dude is too big a pussy to make a decision and stand up for it, so he had to "prove" what a biatch she was and destroy her in the process.

Yep.


I kind of agree with this, too, but I also think that if people are shamed this way, maybe it will make others think "I shouldn't act like a three-year-old who didn't get the candy bar" when I'm actually an adult. She's being made an example of, and hopefully will prevent other people, not just women but also men who freak out over tiny shiat, from freaking out.

We enable bad behavior when we don't condemn it.

Sometimes you have to *see* what you're doing to be able to change it, there's that, as well. Unfortunately, she seems to be going with the "he provoked me so it's not my fault" thing instead of the introspective "I sure look like an idiot in that video, maybe I should act like an adult even if I feel I'm being provoked" thing. Too bad.

But, hey, the good news is they are both back on the market, right?

/got lucky the first time
//37 years together
 
2013-07-26 04:42:58 PM
What a weird thread. Woman has a fit so it must be a man's fault. This is the typical attitude holding women back from equality. They just couldn't possibly be responsible for their actins. Sad.

Im sure if fark saw a video of a man having a violent loss of temper, hitting and kicking things around a woman, then it must be the womans fault.
 
2013-07-26 04:49:15 PM

MadAzza: What you are calling a "tantrum" (because of course all women are children) is a reaction to being trapped.


This is the textbook example of a tantrum.
 
2013-07-26 04:49:38 PM

The Chaos Toadman: To any Farkers who have not heard of this before, she is most likely suffering from borderline personality disorder.  For many years my ex was like this x10 and I just called her crazy.  Now I know exactly what that kind of crazy is called.  I bought a few books on it and she shares every single trait that someone who suffers from that disorder does.  It's like a playbook of sorts because they all do the same things and it scared me because of all the times I've had to explain to people "shes just crazy" and she made me feel like I was crazy and always became the victim.  This woman does one of the main traits of BPD on the video!  She uses "Splitting" to go on facebook to make herself look like a victim and her husband the bad one.  To borderliners, people are either all good or all bad.  I used to hear my exwife on the phone with people and she was like a different person to each person she was talking to.  She would be the best friend ever to who she was talking to and then say how bad everyone else was.  Then she would call someone else and do the same thing.  Nobody would listen to me say that she was crazy because she told everyone how I neglect her.  I found a book called "I hate you.... dont leave me!" and it was like finding my own autobiography.  I've been divorced from her for 13 years and have one more kid turning 18 soon so I celebrate never having to see her again.  She is still super crazy.  I could write a book about it but I would have to wait until my kid turns 18 to release it.

So tl/dr version:  Shes probably got borderline personality disorder.  If you dated one, you would recognize it.  You just probably never knew what it was called.  Check out bpdcentral website, its worth a google.

/I'm not a therapist, I just read like 5-6 books about it when I found out what its called.
//going to a therapist that understands bpd and life is getting better


I know all about that one as well... my brothers Ex is diagnosed with that.

and they have a kid together..I'm hoping to rescue the kid from her bullshiat soonish or later.
 
2013-07-26 04:51:49 PM

factoryconnection: Called it. http://www.fark.com/comments/7853763/85502068#c85502068

Not that it was a tough call to make.  The divorce-court judge is going to have fun slamming this guy's wallet into the ground over "exhibit A: www.youtube.com/..."

I don't care if she's an emotional wreck, you don't surreptitiously record your spouse so that you can ridicule him or her to the world.  I hope she gets ALL.


Yeah, well you're a Catholic, so you're going to burn in hell for the judgement you just passed. And you'll deserve it.
 
2013-07-26 04:57:28 PM
Waldo Pepper:
can we ban the use of the word "cray" meaning crazy on fark.

totes bro
 
2013-07-26 05:02:32 PM
I dated a girl like this in college. Btu she would be the one to egg me on in a fight and it was always over stupid shiat like where to eat or what movie to see. Then she would get madder at me after I said I wasent getting into a big argument over something so stupid. In hindsight I should have said petty because saying stupid opened a whole new can of worms.
 
2013-07-26 05:03:26 PM
Came for "Wife-lake tantrum detected."

Leaving dissatisfied.  WHAT THE HELL PEOPLE
 
2013-07-26 05:09:21 PM

Xcott: Came for "Wife-lake tantrum detected."

Leaving dissatisfied.  WHAT THE HELL PEOPLE


if it's any consolation i gave you a 'funny' vote.
 
2013-07-26 05:10:14 PM

miss diminutive: vudukungfu: She looks a bit like my second ex wife.
Also cray cray,
started of trantrumy,
ended up really violent.
Had to sell all my guns, before I realized,she was only going to get stabby, too.

Never stick you dick in crazy, son.

What is with Farkers dating/marrying crazy women? I know there are a lot of them out there, but based solely on Fark demographics it seems like one out of every three women is a psycho hose-beast.

I've never dated any crazy guys. I've dated overly possessive, emotionally crippled, jealously violent or chronically immature men, but never straight-up "batshiat insane" ones.


Oh, you're just missing out then. I came home one day to find my boyfriend very angry at me because he insisted the cat told him I was cheating on him instead of going to work. When I broke up with him the next day he kept insisting that the cat was a reincarnation of a famous guru who "knew things" and it would be very bad luck for me to leave him. Then he proceeded to call me repeatedly at work, introducing himself as either the cat or the guru. You should count your blessings.
 
2013-07-26 05:10:39 PM

Waldo Pepper: vudukungfu: She looks a bit like my second ex wife.
Also cray cray,
started of trantrumy,
ended up really violent.
Had to sell all my guns, before I realized,she was only going to get stabby, too.

Never stick you dick in crazy, son.

can we ban the use of the word "cray" meaning crazy on fark.


Thank you!! Using the term "cray cray" is bad bad.
 
2013-07-26 05:12:31 PM
I don't think he did promise to take her to the lake. I he had, she would have said something to the extent of, "BUT YOU PROMISED!" and she did not. In fact, he said, "I told you this was my day to get stuff done," and she did not refute this in any way. A person who had been promised a trip to the lake would mention a piked promise.

As for his condescending demeanor, sometimes all you can do is laugh.
 
2013-07-26 05:14:01 PM

metallion: frepnog: AngryJailhouseFistfark: I find it difficult to believe she went from zero to hystrionic overnight. I suspect she's always been colorful and over-reactive, but the real villain in this thing is the guy. He struck me as a jerk from his comments and the mere fact that he was filming this instead of pulling over to the side of the road to seek some resolution, if only to quiet down until they got home. Then seeing his photos, he looks like a wet, sticky asshole.

I bet you good money that you are the kind of person that made him film this crazy biatch losing her shiat.

because no one would believe the level of crazy.

/was married to crazy.  she would go weapons grade insane when we were alone.  NO ONE would believe me.  Then once we were at her mother's and she forgot where she was and started to go off...  for about 40 seconds.  and then she realized where she was and total personality change.  Lots witnessed it.  No one disbelieved me any more.

That's what happened with my ex.  In her case, it was a five minute tirade, because I had deleted a horribly blurry picture of christmas lights off of a digital camera.  It was the evening that I was vindicated after forever of that kind of shiat in private.   and as it turned out, It was the start of the best thing that could have happened for me.   Her parents were there, her sisters and brothers were there....  The whole fam damily was there..

I even had a pretty sound calculation for an exchange rate.  For every 30 minutes she had to be nice to someone, I'd catch around 14.5 hours of hell for it.

I've still got a good relationship with the ex in-laws, after almost five years of being divorced from her.



I know exactly what you guys have been through, I was in the exact same situation.  I suggest checking out this website:

http://www.bpdcentral.com/borderline-disorder/hallmarks-of-bpd/

Learn to identify the traits.   There have been a growing number of women with borderline personality disorder in the news.  Arias was diagnosed.  Tot mom was one too.  Also the Kennedy woman that killed herself.  There has to be more judging by the number of farkers who have dated at least one borderliner.
 
2013-07-26 05:14:03 PM
Could it be that she gained a little weight and this turned him off so he has been ignoring her for awhile.  

I doubt she never snapped when they were dating so if he knew about this side while they were dating and married her then he needs to learn not to bring out that side of her.
 
2013-07-26 05:14:54 PM
oi41.tinypic.com
 
2013-07-26 05:17:00 PM

The Flexecutioner: Xcott: Came for "Wife-lake tantrum detected."

Leaving dissatisfied.  WHAT THE HELL PEOPLE

if it's any consolation i gave you a 'funny' vote.


Second.
 
2013-07-26 05:22:25 PM
Dated crazy just out of college for 3 years.
Knew it was a bad idea 1 year into it when she started throwing things and threatening suicide.
Got out because I was "distant" and she liked this other guy.
Stayed "friends" 2 years after that to show I wasn't running.
Moved twice after that before she couldn't find me anymore.

\Peeled the band-aid off slowly...
\\Redneck vengeance is a pain in the ass to deal with even if you're innocent.
 
2013-07-26 05:22:49 PM

Haplo127x: Oh, you're just missing out then. I came home one day to find my boyfriend very angry at me because he insisted the cat told him I was cheating on him instead of going to work. When I broke up with him the next day he kept insisting that the cat was a reincarnation of a famous guru who "knew things" and it would be very bad luck for me to leave him. Then he proceeded to call me repeatedly at work, introducing himself as either the cat or the guru. You should count your blessings.


Well, that is odd.

But, were you cheating on him?
 
2013-07-26 05:23:36 PM
http://www.bpdcentral.com/borderline-disorder/bpd-relationships/Five Familiar "Fights" (Relationship Behavioral Patterns)Having a borderline loved one means having that "it's déjà vu all over again" feeling much of the time. You may feel get stuck in these five familiar behavioral patterns, or "fights," with no clue about what's happening, how you got there, or how to get out.

1. The "It's Your Fault" Fight
"Once my BP girlfriend snapped at me for looking through some DVDs the wrong way. I asked her in a very even tone of voice, "What are you getting upset about?" For the rest of the day she sulked and gave me the silent treatment."
For BPs to admit to themselves or others that anything about them is less than perfect would be admitting that they are defective.
2. The "Heads I Win, Tails You Lose" Fight
"My mother is the master of double-binds. When I call her as soon as I get home at the end of my day, she is short and rude because she is in the middle of something. But if I wait until later in the evening to call, she says in an accusatory way, "You've been home for how long? And you didn't call me?"
You know you're in a no-win scenario when you're damned if you do and damned if you don't. People with BPD are consistently inconsistent.
3. The "Projection" Fight
"There's nothing wrong with me. There's something wrong with you!
People often try to avoid feeling bad about their own unpleasant traits, behaviors, or feelings by attributing them (often in an accusing way) to someone else. This is a common defense mechanism called projection. people with BPD take it to the extreme.
4. The "I Hate You-Don't Leave Me" Fight
I am totally confused. My BP boyfriend broke up with me on Tuesday, then on Friday wanted to know what I was doing over the weekend. I remember one night, we had a great time together and had great sex. Then he started a fight over nothing the next morning."
When people get too close, people with BPs feel engulfed. In turn, they distance themselves to avoid feeling controlled. But then BPs feel neglected, even abandoned. So they try to get closer again, and the cycle repeats.
5. The "Testing" Fight
Before I recovered from BPD I would tell people, "I'm just testing you to see how much you love me." I knew that I couldn't start with a full-blown BP rage. So I started softly and slowly. With each test I set forth and the person passed, I upped the ante and said, "If you loved me, you would do this or that." People usually accepted the most outrageous and inappropriate behavior to maintain the relationship.
You might think that once the non-BP passes the tests, their borderline family member would feel more secure. But that doesn't happen. Instead, people with BPD think, "Why would a healthy, normal person take the abuse? There must be something wrong with them."
 
2013-07-26 05:24:40 PM
farm5.staticflickr.com
 
2013-07-26 05:35:01 PM
I really recommend this book if you have to deal with getting away from someone with BPD:

ecx.images-amazon.com

It goes over what to expect in court and its almost exact science.  It explains about how they will try to claim abuse and seek ex-parte hearings and how to document and explain the behavior.  It explains how they act in court and how they act with mediation.  This one is top of my list of books on the subject that have helped me but I would also recommend:

Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You by Susan Forward

I Hate You--Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality by Jerold J. Kreisman

Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder by Paul Mason MS
 
2013-07-26 05:48:37 PM

BolshyGreatYarblocks: [farm5.staticflickr.com image 320x240]


While it's a nice idea ... .
 
2013-07-26 05:49:12 PM
Just told the boyfriend to look up the video... I'd like a little appreciation for not being batshiat insane.
 
2013-07-26 05:59:24 PM

ThrobblefootSpectre: What a weird thread. Woman has a fit so it must be a man's fault. This is the typical attitude holding women back from equality. They just couldn't possibly be responsible for their actins. Sad.


You're just seeing a ton of white knights and feminists who think that women should not ever be held responsible for their shiatty behavior.

kobrakai: This is the textbook example of a tantrum.


And what's the one thing you don't do when dealing with a tantrum?

Give in and give the tantrum thrower what they want.

This guy needs to document shiat like this with video so that when she's claiming on Facebook that he's abusing her because she threw a tantrum in the car, and shows up later with bruises on her arms and legs from trashing around inside the car, he doesn't go to jail for beating her.
 
2013-07-26 06:06:56 PM

superlawyergirl: Just told the boyfriend to look up the video... I'd like a little appreciation for not being batshiat insane.


I did that as well.
 
2013-07-26 06:48:08 PM
Whoa, 42 seconds in & I bailed. Way too much like real life with my "princess".
 
2013-07-26 06:54:53 PM

Hebalo: Proteejay: I think men are getting smarter and this guy is an example of that. The pendulum of equality between the sexes has swung so far to the other side and does not exist in family court where men are concerned.

 When you've put your d**k in crazy, you have few options. One is getting out. Failing to do that, you should protect yourself.   This guy protected himself from a future restraining order or cries of abuse or he beat me or give me half your sh*t or in preparation for the negative press war that women rule in his future divorce; by documenting her level of insanity.  Good on him.   He's keeping his own a** out of jail from some trumped up assault charge, by documenting the crazy. Well played.

But this guy isn't acting like a man. A man doesn't taunt and callously treat a woman like that, no matter how batshiat crazy she reacts.



Uh huh.
You want to get your balls crushed, that's on you.
In this age of equality women are equally capable of causing various levels of harm to a man.
The modern day smart man discards your ridciulous chivalry shiate and fights fire with fire.
 
2013-07-26 06:57:51 PM

corn-bread: Hebalo: Proteejay: I think men are getting smarter and this guy is an example of that. The pendulum of equality between the sexes has swung so far to the other side and does not exist in family court where men are concerned.

 When you've put your d**k in crazy, you have few options. One is getting out. Failing to do that, you should protect yourself.   This guy protected himself from a future restraining order or cries of abuse or he beat me or give me half your sh*t or in preparation for the negative press war that women rule in his future divorce; by documenting her level of insanity.  Good on him.   He's keeping his own a** out of jail from some trumped up assault charge, by documenting the crazy. Well played.

But this guy isn't acting like a man. A man doesn't taunt and callously treat a woman like that, no matter how batshiat crazy she reacts.


Uh huh.
You want to get your balls crushed, that's on you.
In this age of equality women are equally capable of causing various levels of harm to a man.
The modern day smart man discards your ridciulous chivalry shiate and fights fire with fire.


Except Women don't want true equality.  if a woman has a dead battery in a parking lot, she won't say "amazing how nobody came over to help" she will say "amazing how many men didn't offer to help".
 
2013-07-26 07:01:40 PM
SHE filed for divorce.

HE had to move out.

Does anyone else see the problem here?
 
2013-07-26 07:06:29 PM

heili skrimsli: ThrobblefootSpectre: What a weird thread. Woman has a fit so it must be a man's fault. This is the typical attitude holding women back from equality. They just couldn't possibly be responsible for their actins. Sad.

You're just seeing a ton of white knights and feminists who think that women should not ever be held responsible for their shiatty behavior.


I love it. Point to one place in this thread where anyone (besides some whiny guy like you) said women should never be held responsible for their behavior. You're having a typical broad-brush overreaction to someone who calmly, rationally disagrees with you. You can't persuasively argue your own viewpoint, so you attack those you disagree with and invent/imagine perspectives they don't have.

Talk about being a spoiled brat.
 
2013-07-26 07:10:01 PM

here to help: rev. dave


My last live in GF was a hipster.  I did not know it at the time, but oh my God!  Grew up in the 80's liked punk and metal etc..  Once I told her about this, in such general terms, thus began a months long process of her telling me how I was a poser all the time.  Oh it was annoying!  I gave that crap up decades ago and she then goes on fishing expeditions to sort out everything I ever did to determine whether I was worthy. Tested me constantly, I always failed.  It was like the psychological version of the arrangement with Inspector Clouseau and Kato Fong that he always be attacked when unaware, except I didn't ask for it.
But she was so attractive to me, I got weak every time we saw each other, which she used to manipulate me.  And I was not even married!  After she cheated on me multiple times: me -> GTFO.
But what is worse is that it did not stop me from liking the crazy ones, so celibacy, when you cannot trust yourself to do the right thing in a relationship. .
 
2013-07-26 07:16:51 PM

rev. dave: here to help: rev. dave

My last live in GF was a hipster.  I did not know it at the time, but oh my God!  Grew up in the 80's liked punk and metal etc..  Once I told her about this, in such general terms, thus began a months long process of her telling me how I was a poser all the time.  Oh it was annoying!  I gave that crap up decades ago and she then goes on fishing expeditions to sort out everything I ever did to determine whether I was worthy. Tested me constantly, I always failed.  It was like the psychological version of the arrangement with Inspector Clouseau and Kato Fong that he always be attacked when unaware, except I didn't ask for it.
But she was so attractive to me, I got weak every time we saw each other, which she used to manipulate me.  And I was not even married!  After she cheated on me multiple times: me -> GTFO.
But what is worse is that it did not stop me from liking the crazy ones, so celibacy, when you cannot trust yourself to do the right thing in a relationship. .


what's the song

f you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So from my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So from my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

A pretty woman makes her husband look small
And very often causes his downfall
As soon as he marries her then she starts
To do the things that will break his heart

But if you make an ugly woman your wife
you'll be happy for the rest of your life
An ugly woman cooks meals on time
And she'll always give you peace of mind

If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So from my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

Sax solo

Don't let your friends say you have no taste
Go ahead and marry anyway
Though her face is ugly, her eyes don't match
Take it from me, she's a better catch

If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So from my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

Spoken:
Say man!
Hey baby!
I saw your wife the other day!
Yeah?
Yeah, an' she's ug-leeee!
Yeah, she's ugly, but she sure can cook, baby!
Yeah, alright!

If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So from my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So from my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So from my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So from my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you
 
2013-07-26 07:19:27 PM

kobrakai: Now to the men on here calling this guy (and me I guess) an abuser I'll ask you this: How should I have handled that? How much of that bullshiat would you take from an adult before you went into self-preservation mode?


If she lays a finger on you then you beat her frkkin ass, that's how you handle it.
Too many women today (and society in general I suppose) seems to believe that they have this magical shield protecting them.  This belief in turns leads them to believe that they may strike / physically handle another person without consequence.  In a personal relationship this kind of behavior must be stomped out immediately.  If allowed unchecked then the other party will continue to do it in an escalating manner.
 
2013-07-26 07:25:48 PM
Waldo Pepper:

Except Women don't want true equality.  if a woman has a dead battery in a parking lot, she won't say "amazing how nobody came over to help" she will say "amazing how many men didn't offer to help".


I absolutely agree!  Certainly I've never heard a women's use of the word "equality" end with "......and I demand that I be allowed to fight and die on the front lines too."
My use of the word "equality" was in the context of protecting one's self from harm, no matter the perpetrator; it was from the man's perspective of "all threats are equal".
 
2013-07-26 07:26:22 PM

weltallica: SHE filed for divorce.

HE had to move out.

Does anyone else see the problem here?


Where are you getting that he had to move out?  Is there a public notice of a court order requiring him to move out?  Maybe she also filed for a restraining order?
 
2013-07-26 07:28:48 PM

corn-bread: kobrakai: Now to the men on here calling this guy (and me I guess) an abuser I'll ask you this: How should I have handled that? How much of that bullshiat would you take from an adult before you went into self-preservation mode?

If she lays a finger on you then you beat her frkkin ass, that's how you handle it.
Too many women today (and society in general I suppose) seems to believe that they have this magical shield protecting them.  This belief in turns leads them to believe that they may strike / physically handle another person without consequence.  In a personal relationship this kind of behavior must be stomped out immediately.  If allowed unchecked then the other party will continue to do it in an escalating manner.


I bet you are going to make some woman very happy someday.
 
2013-07-26 07:33:13 PM

corn-bread: I absolutely agree! Certainly I've never heard a women's use of the word "equality" end with "......and I demand that I be allowed to fight and die on the front lines too."


Really? I could swear this was just in the news recently.  Women in the military were pressing for their rights to be up on the front lines (and if fact, a lot of them already are) and a bunch of people on TV were very concerned about this and didn't think they should be there.

You didn't see any of that?  Maybe you don't have a TV?
 
2013-07-26 07:34:45 PM

corn-bread: it was from the man's perspective of "all threats are equal".


You mean from "your" perspective.
 
2013-07-26 08:07:15 PM
Waldo Pepper:

what's the song

f you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So from my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you



I love that song, sing it to my self all the time.  Dated several girls that would fit that, had no problem, even dated one for 2 years, we were happy.  But I lost attraction, no logical reason, she wanted to be married and have kids.  She seemed so desperate, even though she was very dignified and really a top notch kind of girl in her heart, a perfect person to grow old with.    I just have a broken compass.  Religion gave serious peace here, avoid it until you have given up on all alternative paths, or you will end up missing something good chasing after something shiny..
 
2013-07-26 08:16:31 PM

Pincy: corn-bread: I absolutely agree! Certainly I've never heard a women's use of the word "equality" end with "......and I demand that I be allowed to fight and die on the front lines too."

Really? I could swear this was just in the news recently.  Women in the military were pressing for their rights to be up on the front lines (and if fact, a lot of them already are) and a bunch of people on TV were very concerned about this and didn't think they should be there.

You didn't see any of that?  Maybe you don't have a TV?


You don't see a fight for women having to register for selective service. I'm sure there is a small fringe group out there but as a whole. I wonder if were in a middle of a ground war how much screaming for equal rights in the military would there be and if there is how many get knocked up to get out of it
 
2013-07-26 08:30:54 PM

Waldo Pepper: Pincy: corn-bread: I absolutely agree! Certainly I've never heard a women's use of the word "equality" end with "......and I demand that I be allowed to fight and die on the front lines too."

Really? I could swear this was just in the news recently.  Women in the military were pressing for their rights to be up on the front lines (and if fact, a lot of them already are) and a bunch of people on TV were very concerned about this and didn't think they should be there.

You didn't see any of that?  Maybe you don't have a TV?

You don't see a fight for women having to register for selective service. I'm sure there is a small fringe group out there but as a whole. I wonder if were in a middle of a ground war how much screaming for equal rights in the military would there be and if there is how many get knocked up to get out of it


I think if men should have to register, so should women. I tried to, even though I was assured they would just toss it.

Equal rights. Equal responsibilities.
 
2013-07-26 08:32:14 PM
This is only a good thing if both these immature assholes have taken an oath to keep the fark out of the dating pool. They both have issues.
 
2013-07-26 08:37:18 PM

tzzhc4: Even if the husband had goaded her into the argument adults walk away or ignore bullying. Adults don't throw tantrums like toddlers.

She looks like a typical spoiled biatch in all those pics.

Dude should RUN!!!!!


Adults don't goad their spouses.
 
2013-07-26 08:38:14 PM

The My Little Pony Killer: This is only a good thing if both these immature assholes have taken an oath to keep the fark out of the dating pool. They both have issues.


I think she should be allowed in the dating pool just not the relationship/marriage pool and most assuredly not the mother pool

I mean heck I think she would be the perfect date to take to the Lake
 
2013-07-26 08:40:39 PM

Tyrosine: 1. Adults don't get to throw temper tantrums regardless of circumstances or provocation. Ever. If you can't control your anger get help because there's something wrong with you.


Adults don't provoke one another. Ever. If you can't control your urge to provoke somebody else into a rage, get help because there's something wrong with you.

/especially if the 'another' is your spouse
 
2013-07-26 08:44:04 PM

corn-bread: kobrakai: Now to the men on here calling this guy (and me I guess) an abuser I'll ask you this: How should I have handled that? How much of that bullshiat would you take from an adult before you went into self-preservation mode?

If she lays a finger on you then you beat her frkkin ass, that's how you handle it.
Too many women today (and society in general I suppose) seems to believe that they have this magical shield protecting them.  This belief in turns leads them to believe that they may strike / physically handle another person without consequence.  In a personal relationship this kind of behavior must be stomped out immediately.  If allowed unchecked then the other party will continue to do it in an escalating manner.


Please tell me you're trolling.

Like it or not, societal norms assume that it is not proper for men to hit women.

You might be justified in standing your ground and answering violence with violence, but no jury (if it comes to that) will ever sympathize with you.

Unless you're dating one of those MMA ladies.  Then have at it.
 
2013-07-26 09:08:59 PM

Hebalo: Proteejay: I think men are getting smarter and this guy is an example of that. The pendulum of equality between the sexes has swung so far to the other side and does not exist in family court where men are concerned.

 When you've put your d**k in crazy, you have few options. One is getting out. Failing to do that, you should protect yourself.   This guy protected himself from a future restraining order or cries of abuse or he beat me or give me half your sh*t or in preparation for the negative press war that women rule in his future divorce; by documenting her level of insanity.  Good on him.   He's keeping his own a** out of jail from some trumped up assault charge, by documenting the crazy. Well played.

But this guy isn't acting like a man. A man doesn't taunt and callously treat a woman like that, no matter how batshiat crazy she reacts.


What if she isn't acting like a "woman," according to some arbitrary definition that I just made up. Does he still have to treat her like one?
 
2013-07-26 09:17:46 PM

Parthenogenetic: corn-bread: kobrakai: Now to the men on here calling this guy (and me I guess) an abuser I'll ask you this: How should I have handled that? How much of that bullshiat would you take from an adult before you went into self-preservation mode?

If she lays a finger on you then you beat her frkkin ass, that's how you handle it.
Too many women today (and society in general I suppose) seems to believe that they have this magical shield protecting them.  This belief in turns leads them to believe that they may strike / physically handle another person without consequence.  In a personal relationship this kind of behavior must be stomped out immediately.  If allowed unchecked then the other party will continue to do it in an escalating manner.

Please tell me you're trolling.

Like it or not, societal norms assume that it is not proper for men to hit women.

You might be justified in standing your ground and answering violence with violence, but no jury (if it comes to that) will ever sympathize with you.

Unless you're dating one of those MMA ladies.  Then have at it.


Really? I told the judge (a woman) that yes, I did in fact lay my ex out with a straight kick after she chased me around hitting me, throwing things at me, tearing the shirt off my back, etc. Judge's response? I overreacted a little. Her exact words. And that was the end of the discussion.
 
2013-07-26 09:21:23 PM

Vector R: I tried watching the video, but couldn't stand it more than halfway through. While her behavior looks looney, she keeps asking for him to stop for cigs and he keeps refusing, so she's likely having a nicotine fit. He's an enormous dickhole who keeps egging her on because he's a farking tool. She's all dressed up, so he obviously decided "Oh, she was really happy to go to the lake so I'm going to take it away BECUZ CONTROL!111" There's no reason they couldn't go after the damn tires got rotated. Right in the beginning, he himself states he won't sit down and have a basic financial discussion with her.

Her behavior wasn't right, but honestly, I had to stop watching because he forcibly reminds me of my highly abusive ex. He really would sit there and say in the middle of the week "Oh, let's do 'X' thing this weekend!" then decide at the last minute that we weren't going just to savor my disappointment (not batshiat disappointment, the regular kind). I really hope she gets some damn cigs and some help.


You're totally right. The only way to ever respond to the wife is to say "yes dear." If you don't do that, abuse.
 
2013-07-26 09:31:28 PM

MadAzza: kobrakai: Hebalo: The version I watched was filled with him taunting her, calling her names, and being kind of selfish.

Which a normal person ignores, walks away from and files for divorce. A crazy biatch keeps fighting and throwing a tantrum thinking that the outcome is going to go her way.

He refused to stop the car so she could get out. What you are calling a "tantrum" (because of course all women are children) is a reaction to being trapped.

I hope she uses his own recording against the abusive asshole.

Also, the jerk has an extremely punchable smirky-face. And now, women everywhere know that he is to be avoided at all costs. So it's not all for naught.


Didn't you say you didn't watch the whole thing? Bring on some more insightful analysis.

You know what a tantrum is right? When someone yells and writhes around, stomping their feet and, maybe flailing their arms in order to try to get their way, that's a tantrum.

Watch the video and see if you can figure out why she is acting the way she is. You really think the reason she is acting that way is because he won't let her out of the car at a random spot on the side of the road?
 
2013-07-26 09:32:29 PM

The first thing I looked at: Vector R: I tried watching the video, but couldn't stand it more than halfway through. While her behavior looks looney, she keeps asking for him to stop for cigs and he keeps refusing, so she's likely having a nicotine fit. He's an enormous dickhole who keeps egging her on because he's a farking tool. She's all dressed up, so he obviously decided "Oh, she was really happy to go to the lake so I'm going to take it away BECUZ CONTROL!111" There's no reason they couldn't go after the damn tires got rotated. Right in the beginning, he himself states he won't sit down and have a basic financial discussion with her.

Her behavior wasn't right, but honestly, I had to stop watching because he forcibly reminds me of my highly abusive ex. He really would sit there and say in the middle of the week "Oh, let's do 'X' thing this weekend!" then decide at the last minute that we weren't going just to savor my disappointment (not batshiat disappointment, the regular kind). I really hope she gets some damn cigs and some help.

You're totally right. The only way to ever respond to the wife is to say "yes dear." If you don't do that, abuse.


This. Seriously. Some people railing against this guy because he isn't some whipped pussy who is letting his finances go to shiat so princess can go to the LAAAAAKKKKKEEEEEE.
 
2013-07-26 09:44:36 PM

MadAzza: heili skrimsli: ThrobblefootSpectre: What a weird thread. Woman has a fit so it must be a man's fault. This is the typical attitude holding women back from equality. They just couldn't possibly be responsible for their actins. Sad.

You're just seeing a ton of white knights and feminists who think that women should not ever be held responsible for their shiatty behavior.

I love it. Point to one place in this thread where anyone (besides some whiny guy like you) said women should never be held responsible for their behavior. You're having a typical broad-brush overreaction to someone who calmly, rationally disagrees with you. You can't persuasively argue your own viewpoint, so you attack those you disagree with and invent/imagine perspectives they don't have.

Talk about being a spoiled brat.


Well, you for one, seem to be blaming her behavior entirely on him. Because he is "abusive" and she "just wants to get out of the car."
 
2013-07-26 09:48:57 PM
I will say I'm rather amazed how many of the legit news site running this story seem to have glossed over her have an interlock device on her car.  It appears it has been forgotten in this tread also.  

I'm also a bit confused which one of them is the stronger one concerning their finances.

Generally I don't follow these types of fools but for some reason and I believe it might be the lack of information, I do hope this story keeps on giving like the ABC story has graced us
 
2013-07-26 09:51:59 PM
did anyone have Tennessee in the "what state are in they from" fark pool

Whitney Mongiat, who is a 30-year-old nurse from Knoxville, Tennessee. She says the viral meltdown took place near the city of Nashville.

http://www.everyjoe.com/2013/07/25/girls/whitney-mongiat-photos-tenn es see-lake-tantrum-james/
 
2013-07-26 10:05:13 PM

Waldo Pepper: did anyone have Tennessee in the "what state are in they from" fark pool

Whitney Mongiat, who is a 30-year-old nurse from Knoxville, Tennessee. She says the viral meltdown took place near the city of Nashville.

http://www.everyjoe.com/2013/07/25/girls/whitney-mongiat-photos-tenn es see-lake-tantrum-james/


That article had to be written By a woman. She's rediculously good looking so we should overlook the heap of crazy? I would say that's retarded but that would be an insult to the mentally challenged.
 
2013-07-26 10:07:28 PM

jayphat: Waldo Pepper: did anyone have Tennessee in the "what state are in they from" fark pool

Whitney Mongiat, who is a 30-year-old nurse from Knoxville, Tennessee. She says the viral meltdown took place near the city of Nashville.

http://www.everyjoe.com/2013/07/25/girls/whitney-mongiat-photos-tenn es see-lake-tantrum-james/

That article had to be written By a woman. She's rediculously good looking so we should overlook the heap of crazy? I would say that's retarded but that would be an insult to the mentally challenged.


Nope it was by a guy as this little gem was stuck in the article and also the byline is by Stephen
that said, against my better judgement, I'm going to try to date this chick once she's single. She's looks fine and a dollop of crazy never hurt anyone. Well, at least that's what I'm telling myself.
 
2013-07-26 10:10:36 PM
americanlivewire.com


www.trbimg.com

www.nypost.com

i70.photobucket.com
 
2013-07-26 10:12:38 PM
honestly, in my experience it seems like assholes always seem to find each other.  my brother is a perfect example of this.  he always manages to find himself in these terrible relationships with manipulative, crazy women, but my brother is a jerk and he's just as bad as the women he dates.  i don't think i've ever seen a case where an honestly nice person was in a relationship with a psycho.  people tend to want to date people like themselves in a subconscious way, and that includes negative traits as well.

the woman in the video sounds like a drama queen who likes to use emotional blackmail to get her way.  but her husband sounds like a douchebag who mocks and belittles her.  so of course they found each other, because people like that always do.
 
2013-07-26 10:21:41 PM

kobrakai: Parthenogenetic: corn-bread: kobrakai: Now to the men on here calling this guy (and me I guess) an abuser I'll ask you this: How should I have handled that? How much of that bullshiat would you take from an adult before you went into self-preservation mode?

If she lays a finger on you then you beat her frkkin ass, that's how you handle it.
Too many women today (and society in general I suppose) seems to believe that they have this magical shield protecting them.  This belief in turns leads them to believe that they may strike / physically handle another person without consequence.  In a personal relationship this kind of behavior must be stomped out immediately.  If allowed unchecked then the other party will continue to do it in an escalating manner.

Please tell me you're trolling.

Like it or not, societal norms assume that it is not proper for men to hit women.

You might be justified in standing your ground and answering violence with violence, but no jury (if it comes to that) will ever sympathize with you.

Unless you're dating one of those MMA ladies.  Then have at it.

Really? I told the judge (a woman) that yes, I did in fact lay my ex out with a straight kick after she chased me around hitting me, throwing things at me, tearing the shirt off my back, etc. Judge's response? I overreacted a little. Her exact words. And that was the end of the discussion.


Well, it sounds like you did what was sufficient to stop an extraordinarily violent episode, rather than "beat her frkkin ass" for daring to lay a finger on you, as was advised.

And an experienced family/domestic relations court judge is likely more discerning than a jury of randomly selected people would be.

Your general demeanor indicates that you are not proud for laying out a woman, so I'll give you the benefit of the doubt.
 
2013-07-26 11:00:10 PM

Parthenogenetic: And an experienced family/domestic relations court judge is likely more discerning than a jury of randomly selected people would be.


Yep. When my ex started lying through her teeth about how abusive I was, the judge looked at her and said, "Is that it?" The looks on both my ex's and the worthless court advocate's faces was almost worth it. Almost.
 
2013-07-26 11:42:01 PM
I don't care what he did, there's no way a grown adult woman acts like that just once.   She either does it on a regular basis, or not at all.

No excuse whatsoever for an adult to throw a fit like that.   Guarantee she's a spoiled Daddy's girl.   I'd be willing to bet money on that.
 
2013-07-26 11:48:28 PM

Vector R: I tried watching the video, but couldn't stand it more than halfway through. While her behavior looks looney, she keeps asking for him to stop for cigs and he keeps refusing, so she's likely having a nicotine fit. He's an enormous dickhole who keeps egging her on because he's a farking tool. She's all dressed up, so he obviously decided "Oh, she was really happy to go to the lake so I'm going to take it away BECUZ CONTROL!111" There's no reason they couldn't go after the damn tires got rotated. Right in the beginning, he himself states he won't sit down and have a basic financial discussion with her.

Her behavior wasn't right, but honestly, I had to stop watching because he forcibly reminds me of my highly abusive ex. He really would sit there and say in the middle of the week "Oh, let's do 'X' thing this weekend!" then decide at the last minute that we weren't going just to savor my disappointment (not batshiat disappointment, the regular kind). I really hope she gets some damn cigs and some help.


Thank you for writing it better than I could have.
 
2013-07-27 02:33:50 AM

Pacfanweb: I don't care what he did, there's no way a grown adult woman acts like that just once.   She either does it on a regular basis, or not at all.

No excuse whatsoever for an adult to throw a fit like that.   Guarantee she's a spoiled Daddy's girl.   I'd be willing to bet money on that.


Particularly over something like going to the lake. I mean even if he'd promised her that's what they'd do and then turned around on it just to be a dick, still no way a normal person throws a fit like that. I mean on more than one occasion I've had a plan I was looking forward to fall through. For whatever reason, something I was sure I was going to get to do didn't happen. I was disappointed, but hey, that's life. Even if it was because someone else farked up, I still didn't pitch a fit. This is what you'd expect out of a young child, not an adult.

It also makes me a lot more inclined to believe his side of the story. I am unsure why so many people seem to think that he must have promised her this lake trip, and then taken it away. despite the fact there's no evidence of that. Seems to me, given her attitude, it is much more likely that she was indeed told that it wasn't going to happen and she figured she could tantrum her way in to it.

I do feel like too many people seem to need to always find something in a relationship to be the man's fault. As though there is no possible way a woman could have emotional (and in this case also perhaps alcohol abuse) issues. No, had to be that the man did something bad, that's why she acted like that! I'm not buying it. To me, it seems like she's got BPD/spoiled princess syndrome and throws fits to try and get what she wants. Her husband had enough and this was his last act.

Like why would he laugh? Because she'd probably had to deal with this many, MANY times before and was just sick of it. If someone freaks out randomly for the first time ever, you are concerned. If they do it any time they don't get their way, you just get tired of it.
 
2013-07-27 07:07:48 AM

Waldo Pepper: I will say I'm rather amazed how many of the legit news site running this story seem to have glossed over her have an interlock device on her car. It appears it has been forgotten in this tread also.


Of course it was ignored. It can't be that the crazy overgrown three year old has a drinking problem. It has to be that an evil male is keeping her down and making her act like a total raging nutbag.

sycraft: I am unsure why so many people seem to think that he must have promised her this lake trip, and then taken it away. despite the fact there's no evidence of that.


They also seem to think he's just a lazy douche who didn't take her to the lake out of spite, but the DUI couldn't have been cheap and she also referred to a boat which are not exactly inexpensive to operate.  He also says he works 60 hours a week in one of the articles, and needs to do maintenance things like tire rotations on the weekend. Given her behavior, I really wonder how many weekends he had planned to get his tires rotated, and ended up caving in to the brat and taking her to the laaaaaaaaake instead.
 
2013-07-27 08:31:15 AM

heili skrimsli: Waldo Pepper: I will say I'm rather amazed how many of the legit news site running this story seem to have glossed over her have an interlock device on her car. It appears it has been forgotten in this tread also.

Of course it was ignored. It can't be that the crazy overgrown three year old has a drinking problem. It has to be that an evil male is keeping her down and making her act like a total raging nutbag.

sycraft: I am unsure why so many people seem to think that he must have promised her this lake trip, and then taken it away. despite the fact there's no evidence of that.

They also seem to think he's just a lazy douche who didn't take her to the lake out of spite, but the DUI couldn't have been cheap and she also referred to a boat which are not exactly inexpensive to operate.  He also says he works 60 hours a week in one of the articles, and needs to do maintenance things like tire rotations on the weekend. Given her behavior, I really wonder how many weekends he had planned to get his tires rotated, and ended up caving in to the brat and taking her to the laaaaaaaaake instead.


You assume she is the reason he bought an expensive boat, keep in mind he has his truck and I'm sure he slapped some custom rims and bigger tires on it. He strikes me as the guy who has some expensive toys. 

Even if he is the nicest guy in the world and a great husband, he lost a lot of credibility when he uploaded the video for the world to see.
 
2013-07-27 10:41:35 AM

Pincy: corn-bread: kobrakai: Now to the men on here calling this guy (and me I guess) an abuser I'll ask you this: How should I have handled that? How much of that bullshiat would you take from an adult before you went into self-preservation mode?

If she lays a finger on you then you beat her frkkin ass, that's how you handle it.
Too many women today (and society in general I suppose) seems to believe that they have this magical shield protecting them.  This belief in turns leads them to believe that they may strike / physically handle another person without consequence.  In a personal relationship this kind of behavior must be stomped out immediately.  If allowed unchecked then the other party will continue to do it in an escalating manner.

I bet you are going to make some woman very happy someday.



Already do, thanks for asking!
 
2013-07-27 10:43:33 AM

Pincy: corn-bread: it was from the man's perspective of "all threats are equal".

You mean from "your" perspective.



If you don't mind getting assaulted, that's your choice.
Those of us with dignity and self respect choose otherwise.
 
2013-07-27 10:50:09 AM

Parthenogenetic: corn-bread: kobrakai: Now to the men on here calling this guy (and me I guess) an abuser I'll ask you this: How should I have handled that? How much of that bullshiat would you take from an adult before you went into self-preservation mode?

If she lays a finger on you then you beat her frkkin ass, that's how you handle it.
Too many women today (and society in general I suppose) seems to believe that they have this magical shield protecting them.  This belief in turns leads them to believe that they may strike / physically handle another person without consequence.  In a personal relationship this kind of behavior must be stomped out immediately.  If allowed unchecked then the other party will continue to do it in an escalating manner.

Please tell me you're trolling.

Like it or not, societal norms assume that it is not proper for men to hit women.

You might be justified in standing your ground and answering violence with violence, but no jury (if it comes to that) will ever sympathize with you.

Unless you're dating one of those MMA ladies.  Then have at it.


Nope, not trolling.
Had to visit a client in the hospital three months back to get him to sign his divorce petition.  His wife put him in the hospital when she bounced a glass ashtray off his dome.  That was just the most recent episode among several.   This also isn't the first of my clients this kind of thing has happened to over the past two years.  You'd be surprised how "common" female initiated domestic violence has become.

So yea, you can take your "societal norm" and balance it on your tits.
 
2013-07-27 10:51:56 AM
I went to sleep thinking this guy was a major dick, and he still is, but he may also become a folk hero. He's paved the way to show miserable folks that capturing and revealing your partner's outlandish behavior will speed up that much needed divorce.

Some people are so desperate they won't give a hoot if they are reviled for their own actions in posting their 'documentation' as the goal will be achieved and they can take a hasty exit from a bad marriage. I expect we'll be seeing many more divorce-causing freakout videos in the future. He's ushered in the age of Divorce by YouTube.

Bravo!
 
2013-07-27 11:56:27 AM

BlousyBrown: MutantMotherMouse: My only question is why she didn't take herself to the lake? Mr. Mutantmothermouse wants to run errands rather than meet friends at the lake? Fark that -- I'm going without him. lol! jk! Mr. MMM never turns down an opportunity to go to the lake.

I think she had a restricted license or something like that.


Yeah, she said something about needing her car fixed and not being able to because of an interlock.
 
2013-07-27 12:32:41 PM
Was she any good in the sack? It could help her move on.
 
2013-07-27 12:46:56 PM
 

corn-bread: Had to visit a client in the hospital three months back to get him to sign his divorce petition. His wife put him in the hospital when she bounced a glass ashtray off his dome. That was just the most recent episode among several. This also isn't the first of my clients this kind of thing has happened to over the past two years. You'd be surprised how "common" female initiated domestic violence has become.


Yeah, but he probably made her do it. You've probably experienced that part of it as well.

"look at what you made me do"

This mindset has become cultural in the USA. It's really sad. Before it wasn't acceptable, nobody believed it for a wife beater.... well she didn't have dinner on the table on time...  But people started accepting it as a valid excuse for cops and troops. No they aren't bad, they were made to do it. It was victim's fault he got shot. So, now it's spreading into the culture as a whole.
 
2013-07-27 02:03:34 PM

wambu: Was she any good in the sack? It could help her move on.


biatch is crazy.  i'm betting the sex is mind blowing.
 
2013-07-27 02:23:29 PM

corn-bread: Pincy: corn-bread: it was from the man's perspective of "all threats are equal".

You mean from "your" perspective.


If you don't mind getting assaulted, that's your choice.
Those of us with dignity and self respect choose otherwise.


Ahh, you mean that same respect that would beat a woman's frickin ass because she laid a finger on you?

I gladly take your insult as a compliment.
 
2013-07-27 07:45:26 PM

Waldo Pepper: You assume she is the reason he bought an expensive boat, keep in mind he has his truck and I'm sure he slapped some custom rims and bigger tires on it. He strikes me as the guy who has some expensive toys.


That does not mean that he is required to or capable of spending the money to fuel the boat every weekend to go out and spend the day on the lake, either.

Isn't it possible that when he told her that they can't afford it, they really cant afford it? Especially if they're paying for her DUI, which could very easily suck up the 'boat fuel for the summer' budget.

Waldo Pepper: Even if he is the nicest guy in the world and a great husband, he lost a lot of credibility when he uploaded the video for the world to see.


Not to me, he didn't. He seems like a guy who's sick of being made out to be the crazy one to everyone they both know, and he decided that the next time she flipped her shiat he was going to prove that she's a farking nutbag who acts like a spoiled two year old. Good. For. Him. Especially since he backed up posting that video with moving out.

corn-bread: You'd be surprised how "common" female initiated domestic violence has become.


It's extremely common. While 50% of domestic violence cases involve reciprocal violence, in 70% of one-sided domestic violence situations, the female is the perpetrator of the violence. A full third of those injured or killed in domestic violence incidents are men.

The problem is largely ignored because men are less likely to be injured, and far less likely to report being abused by a female partner.

When Erin Pizzey publicly acknowledged that women are just as violent as men in relationships, she received death threats. Her AMA was hijacked by feminists (from where else, SRS) who attacked her over her refusal to ignore the facts in order to parrot the party line.
 
2013-07-27 11:09:56 PM

heili skrimsli: Not to me, he didn't. He seems like a guy who's sick of being made out to be the crazy one to everyone they both know, and he decided that the next time she flipped her shiat he was going to prove that she's a farking nutbag who acts like a spoiled two year old. Good. For. Him. Especially since he backed up posting that video with moving out


That's exactly how he came across to me - after all, she did go directly to her iphone to update her facebook about this latest horror.

Note that she's divorcing him because all her friends, family and co-workers got to see her this way.
 
2013-07-27 11:57:32 PM

uttertosh: heili skrimsli: Not to me, he didn't. He seems like a guy who's sick of being made out to be the crazy one to everyone they both know, and he decided that the next time she flipped her shiat he was going to prove that she's a farking nutbag who acts like a spoiled two year old. Good. For. Him. Especially since he backed up posting that video with moving out

That's exactly how he came across to me - after all, she did go directly to her iphone to update her facebook about this latest horror.

Note that she's divorcing him because all her friends, family and co-workers got to see her this way.


how do you know she went to facebook?
 
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