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2013-07-03 04:24:09 PM
Women. Can't live with 'em. Can't shoot 'em.

And if you did, you can't even tell if they're sad or angry about it.
 
2013-07-03 04:26:03 PM
I used to think a large bank account/dick was a cure, but I know now that, that only districts them for a moment.
 
2013-07-03 04:26:04 PM
Previous study:

24.media.tumblr.com
 
2013-07-03 04:26:31 PM
There is nothing more infuriatingly condescending than when I'm on my way somewhere, minding my own business, and some asshole tells me "you should smile!"

No, thanks.  There is absolutely no need for me to feign psychotic false happiness for your personal amusement, no matter how much "prettier" it would make me look.

Since when is it a normal and reasonable thing for someone to walk around smiling at nothing for no damn reason unless you're high as fark or mentally disabled?
 
2013-07-03 04:26:51 PM
Q: What do you call the useless skin around a vagina?
A: A woman

Q: What do you do when you see your wife stumbling around in the backyard?
A: Reload.

Thanks folks, I'm here nearly every day. Try the pork and don't forget to tip your waitress!
 
2013-07-03 04:27:19 PM

Freudian_slipknot: There is nothing more infuriatingly condescending than when I'm on my way somewhere, minding my own business, and some asshole tells me "you should smile!"

No, thanks.  There is absolutely no need for me to feign psychotic false happiness for your personal amusement, no matter how much "prettier" it would make me look.

Since when is it a normal and reasonable thing for someone to walk around smiling at nothing for no damn reason unless you're high as fark or mentally disabled?


You should smile.
 
2013-07-03 04:27:23 PM
i.dailymail.co.uk
Yes - I goddamn farted, y'all! Delt it, smelt it!
 
2013-07-03 04:28:57 PM

CarnySaur: You should smile.


Oh aren't you clever.
 
2013-07-03 04:30:17 PM
I blame sharpie eyebrows.
 
2013-07-03 04:31:05 PM

Freudian_slipknot:

Since when is it a normal and reasonable thing for someone to walk around smiling at nothing for no damn reason unless you're high as fark or mentally disabled?


whynotboth.jpg
 
2013-07-03 04:32:36 PM
My evil grandmother's resting face reminded one of a dog's butthole sucking a lemon. My other grandmother was so jolly she looked like Mrs. Claus. Whatever face I have, people in the library always walk up and assume I know where everything is so I just help them.
 
2013-07-03 04:33:50 PM
I suffer from Asshole Resting Face.  (Just found out there's a name for it.) Does anyone know if there's a proper name for reflexive middle-finger extension, and if it is in any way related?

/it's not Tourette's.
 
2013-07-03 04:35:32 PM

Freudian_slipknot: There is nothing more infuriatingly condescending than when I'm on my way somewhere, minding my own business, and some asshole tells me "you should smile!"

No, thanks.  There is absolutely no need for me to feign psychotic false happiness for your personal amusement, no matter how much "prettier" it would make me look.

Since when is it a normal and reasonable thing for someone to walk around smiling at nothing for no damn reason unless you're high as fark or mentally disabled?


Smiling is good for you, not just other people.
 
2013-07-03 04:35:39 PM
Freudian_slipknot: There is nothing more infuriatingly condescending than when I'm on my way somewhere, minding my own business, and some asshole tells me "you should smile!"
Since when is it a normal and reasonable thing for someone to walk around smiling at nothing for no damn reason unless you're high as fark or mentally disabled?


Came in to say this but got beat by the third post. WTF is up with that? What makes men think it's okay to command random women on the street to "SMILE!"
 
2013-07-03 04:36:08 PM
Get out while you can.
/if Luther Vandross said this would you take it seriously?
 
2013-07-03 04:37:29 PM

Freudian_slipknot: There is nothing more infuriatingly condescending than when I'm on my way somewhere, minding my own business, and some asshole tells me "you should smile!"

No, thanks.  There is absolutely no need for me to feign psychotic false happiness for your personal amusement, no matter how much "prettier" it would make me look.

Since when is it a normal and reasonable thing for someone to walk around smiling at nothing for no damn reason unless you're high as fark or mentally disabled?


You should take your clothes off.
 
2013-07-03 04:37:45 PM

FunkOut: Whatever face I have, people in the library always walk up and assume I know where everything is so I just help them.


Yeah, biographies are on the third floor, NW corner.

(I don't work at the library, either.  I didn't even stay at a Holiday Inn Express.  I get that a lot, though.)
 
2013-07-03 04:39:03 PM

Phins: What makes men think it's okay to command random women on the street to "SMILE!"


You're asking this, really?  WTF makes us think Anything?
 
2013-07-03 04:39:19 PM

robbiex0r: Smiling is good for you, not just other people.


Minding your own business and not worrying about/commenting on other people's facial expressions is good for you too.
 
2013-07-03 04:40:02 PM
I have this, though no one tells me to smile ever except very old people, which is cute. It's less my resting face and more my thinking face, a look of concentration. Very few people will come up to me with that face on.

\When I play sports, my resting face is a relaxed smile
\\Always doing something horrible to someone else
 
2013-07-03 04:41:52 PM

Freudian_slipknot: There is nothing more infuriatingly condescending than when I'm on my way somewhere, minding my own business, and some asshole tells me "you should smile!"

No, thanks.  There is absolutely no need for me to feign psychotic false happiness for your personal amusement, no matter how much "prettier" it would make me look.

Since when is it a normal and reasonable thing for someone to walk around smiling at nothing for no damn reason unless you're high as fark or mentally disabled?


To be fair, forcing a smile actually encourages some of the benefits of a genuine smile, such as better mood. There have been studies. I either walk around with a manic smile or a thoughtful scowl. For some reason, I don't socialize a ton.

You might find the Russians fun. They think smiling too much is a sign of foolishness or stupidity. Vladimir Putin is *never* foolish.
 
2013-07-03 04:42:59 PM

Freudian_slipknot: There is nothing more infuriatingly condescending than when I'm on my way somewhere, minding my own business, and some asshole tells me "you should smile!"

No, thanks.  There is absolutely no need for me to feign psychotic false happiness for your personal amusement, no matter how much "prettier" it would make me look.

Since when is it a normal and reasonable thing for someone to walk around smiling at nothing for no damn reason unless you're high as fark or mentally disabled?


I dunno.

As a guy, I don't get told to smile often.

I've been in an exceptionally good mood despite the heat and circumstances at work, and as such I've been smiling a lot.  And I've got that big, show too much tooth due to a big overbite idiot grin that I'm actually pretty damn self conscious about.
 
2013-07-03 04:43:00 PM

steklo: Q: What do you call the useless skin around a vagina?
A: A woman

Q: What do you do when you see your wife stumbling around in the backyard?
A: Reload.

Thanks folks, I'm here nearly every day. Try the pork and don't forget to tip your waitress!


Lemme guess, the "might actually be an asshole" disclaimer is for you?
 
2013-07-03 04:43:24 PM
I've got a face I'd like to show this one.

i.dailymail.co.uk
 
2013-07-03 04:43:24 PM
I have this when I have a conflict with someone, apparently my face's neutral position is one of contempt and such...outrage that my entire life it's literally pushed people into a rage.

I've literally covered up my face at times when in a fight or heavy discussion because of this. I've no idea what my face does, or how to fix it. I've just figured it's a hopeless cause, so I try very very hard to avoid that level of conflict with anyone face to face.
 
2013-07-03 04:44:09 PM

meat0918: Freudian_slipknot: There is nothing more infuriatingly condescending than when I'm on my way somewhere, minding my own business, and some asshole tells me "you should smile!"

No, thanks.  There is absolutely no need for me to feign psychotic false happiness for your personal amusement, no matter how much "prettier" it would make me look.

Since when is it a normal and reasonable thing for someone to walk around smiling at nothing for no damn reason unless you're high as fark or mentally disabled?

I dunno.

As a guy, I don't get told to smile often.

I've been in an exceptionally good mood despite the heat and circumstances at work, and as such I've been smiling a lot.  And I've got that big, show too much tooth due to a big overbite idiot grin that I'm actually pretty damn self conscious about.


If you smile too broadly, people will also notice. Sometimes I'll walk outside and it's just a lovely day so I can't help but smile. Wow, that gets some stares. Maybe I'm still scowling while I do it.
 
2013-07-03 04:44:27 PM

Freudian_slipknot: CarnySaur: You should smile.

Oh aren't you clever.


This is why you're not happy. Instead of taking things others say as silly or attempts at connection, you take it seriously--possibly as intrusive--instead of a general attempt by someone to help better your life. You could have said "no kidding," or "yeah but I have wooden teeth," or "and fart less... I know-- I've been told."

Instead you posted your frustration at people noticing the obvious: you should probably smile more.

/fwiw
 
2013-07-03 04:45:49 PM

Freudian_slipknot: There is nothing more infuriatingly condescending than when I'm on my way somewhere, minding my own business, and some asshole tells me "you should smile!"

No, thanks.  There is absolutely no need for me to feign psychotic false happiness for your personal amusement, no matter how much "prettier" it would make me look.

Since when is it a normal and reasonable thing for someone to walk around smiling at nothing for no damn reason unless you're high as fark or mentally disabled?


Well, I will agree with the reaction when someone tells me I should smile being a visceral desire to scowl harder... However, smiling has been shown to have a stupid amount of beneficial benefits to ones own psyche, it fools your brain into thinking you're happy. It sounds stupid, but your brain reacts to the physical stimulus and releases the same chemicals as when you're actually happy. As such, you can think clearer and your body actually is more effective and efficient at producing beneficial biochemicals.

You don't have to be Smiling Bob with a psychotic grin all day... unless the idea of creeping people out with a Wednesday Addams grin to counteract those who as you to smile appeals to you. Just a slight upturn of the mouth's corners goes a long way. Not saying you have to smile, live your life however you want, but there are personal reasons to do so that have nothing to do with the vacuous idiots who think everyone should walk around like they just sniffed ether.
 
2013-07-03 04:48:30 PM

koder: his is why you're not happy. Instead of taking things others say as silly or attempts at connection, you take it seriously--possibly as intrusive--instead of a general attempt by someone to help better your life. You could have said "no kidding," or "yeah but I have wooden teeth," or "and fart less... I know-- I've been told."

Instead you posted your frustration at people noticing the obvious: you should probably smile more.

/fwiw


Who in the world said I'm not happy?  You do realize you can be a perfectly happy person without a big goofy grin plastered on your face all the time.

And I posted frustration with rudeness, not with people "noticing the obvious."  You can notice that a person is fat or sweaty and it's still incredibly rude to comment on it, especially to a total stranger.

All that kind of boorish behaviour does is ruin what was likely an otherwise perfectly pleasant and happy moment.
 
2013-07-03 04:48:47 PM

koder: Freudian_slipknot: CarnySaur: You should smile.

Oh aren't you clever.

This is why you're not happy. Instead of taking things others say as silly or attempts at connection, you take it seriously--possibly as intrusive--instead of a general attempt by someone to help better your life. You could have said "no kidding," or "yeah but I have wooden teeth," or "and fart less... I know-- I've been told."

Instead you posted your frustration at people noticing the obvious: you should probably smile more.

/fwiw


upload.wikimedia.org
 
2013-07-03 04:50:50 PM
Unless I'm actively smiling, I look sad. Or serious. Or something like that. But sad or happy, I have a face that looks *smart*, for who knows what reason. So people assume I know a lot.

Boy, are they ever fooled.
 
2013-07-03 04:55:18 PM

Freudian_slipknot: koder: his is why you're not happy. Instead of taking things others say as silly or attempts at connection, you take it seriously--possibly as intrusive--instead of a general attempt by someone to help better your life. You could have said "no kidding," or "yeah but I have wooden teeth," or "and fart less... I know-- I've been told."

Instead you posted your frustration at people noticing the obvious: you should probably smile more.

/fwiw

Who in the world said I'm not happy?  You do realize you can be a perfectly happy person without a big goofy grin plastered on your face all the time.

And I posted frustration with rudeness, not with people "noticing the obvious."  You can notice that a person is fat or sweaty and it's still incredibly rude to comment on it, especially to a total stranger.

All that kind of boorish behaviour does is ruin what was likely an otherwise perfectly pleasant and happy moment.


You seem really, really bothered by this. Is it really that horrible? Sure, you'd prefer they didn't, but damn it sounds like you're pissed about it.

\better than sitting next to the farter.
 
2013-07-03 04:57:32 PM
When I try to force a smile, the edges of my mouth go into convulsive twitches, like the shock of trying to lift my lips a half inch turns me epileptic. I prefer to think that I have Pensive Mysterious Face rather than Asshole Resting Face though.
 
2013-07-03 04:57:37 PM
We already know the reason.  It's the man's fault.
 
2013-07-03 05:00:48 PM

Qellaqan: Freudian_slipknot: koder: his is why you're not happy. Instead of taking things others say as silly or attempts at connection, you take it seriously--possibly as intrusive--instead of a general attempt by someone to help better your life. You could have said "no kidding," or "yeah but I have wooden teeth," or "and fart less... I know-- I've been told."

Instead you posted your frustration at people noticing the obvious: you should probably smile more.

/fwiw

Who in the world said I'm not happy?  You do realize you can be a perfectly happy person without a big goofy grin plastered on your face all the time.

And I posted frustration with rudeness, not with people "noticing the obvious."  You can notice that a person is fat or sweaty and it's still incredibly rude to comment on it, especially to a total stranger.

All that kind of boorish behaviour does is ruin what was likely an otherwise perfectly pleasant and happy moment.

You seem really, really bothered by this. Is it really that horrible? Sure, you'd prefer they didn't, but damn it sounds like you're pissed about it.

\better than sitting next to the farter.


It's probably more comparable to this situation:

Peter: When you come in on Monday and you're not feeling real well, does anyone ever say to you, "Sounds like someone has a case of the Mondays?"

Lawrence: No. No, man. Shiat, no, man. I believe you'd get your ass kicked sayin' something like that, man.
 
2013-07-03 05:01:07 PM

Freudian_slipknot: robbiex0r: Smiling is good for you, not just other people.

Minding your own business and not worrying about/commenting on other people's facial expressions is good for you too.


Seriously. This article is goddamn ridiculous. "You should look pretty while you're happy!" It's just an attempt to reduce everything about a person to the external.

Bashar and Asma's Infinite Playlist: When I try to force a smile, the edges of my mouth go into convulsive twitches, like the shock of trying to lift my lips a half inch turns me epileptic. I prefer to think that I have Pensive Mysterious Face rather than Asshole Resting Face though.


Due to minor scarring, one of my eyebrows is always noticably arched, so everyone thinks I'm always being trying to be a smartass.
 
2013-07-03 05:01:53 PM

Qellaqan: You seem really, really bothered by this. Is it really that horrible? Sure, you'd prefer they didn't, but damn it sounds like you're pissed about it.

\better than sitting next to the farter.


Yeah, I find it deeply condescending when people actively suggest that I have some kind of duty to them to police my face in order to increase their enjoyment of it.  I mean, I think you'd get pretty ticked if strange guys routinely walked up to you on the street and told you that you should really try working out more.

Sure, it's just a person being a moderate jackass, but it's something that literally every woman I know has dealt with at some point and there's really no reason or excuse for that shiat.

I've honestly taken to immediately replying "my mom just died, asshole" and continuing to walk away.  Hopefully those guys think twice before saying shiat like that to a person.

/don't even have "biatchy resting face"
//only get this shiat when I'm out running errands and have shiat to get done, I'm late getting somewhere or otherwise have reason to be actively not smiling.
 
2013-07-03 05:02:36 PM
Qellaqan: Lemme guess, the "might actually be an asshole" disclaimer is for you?

Probably. I wouldn't doubt it. I've been called worse.
 
2013-07-03 05:10:12 PM

Freudian_slipknot: koder: his is why you're not happy. Instead of taking things others say as silly or attempts at connection, you take it seriously--possibly as intrusive--instead of a general attempt by someone to help better your life. You could have said "no kidding," or "yeah but I have wooden teeth," or "and fart less... I know-- I've been told."

Instead you posted your frustration at people noticing the obvious: you should probably smile more.

/fwiw

Who in the world said I'm not happy?  You do realize you can be a perfectly happy person without a big goofy grin plastered on your face all the time.

And I posted frustration with rudeness, not with people "noticing the obvious."  You can notice that a person is fat or sweaty and it's still incredibly rude to comment on it, especially to a total stranger.

All that kind of boorish behaviour does is ruin what was likely an otherwise perfectly pleasant and happy moment.


Yeah, you sound totally happy. But I get you, smiles don't cover shiatty attitudes so keep on scowling and be honest to yourself and to hell with how you may affect others with your presence.

Here's a tip though, when you're in public, what you do, say, how you look, etc. has an affect on others. Just as you have the right to have a shiatty day and be an inhuman asshole, others have the right to comment on it if they feel it affects them. If you are tired of the comments, stop soliciting them with your behavior. Pretty easy really.
 
2013-07-03 05:11:09 PM

Freudian_slipknot: There is nothing more infuriatingly condescending than when I'm on my way somewhere, minding my own business, and some asshole tells me "you should smile!"

No, thanks.  There is absolutely no need for me to feign psychotic false happiness for your personal amusement, no matter how much "prettier" it would make me look.

Since when is it a normal and reasonable thing for someone to walk around smiling at nothing for no damn reason unless you're high as fark or mentally disabled?


It's called participating in society, obeying the social protocol, being thankful you live in 2013 and not 1113, acknowledging the humanity around you, not being a coont.
 
2013-07-03 05:13:14 PM

Freudian_slipknot: Qellaqan: You seem really, really bothered by this. Is it really that horrible? Sure, you'd prefer they didn't, but damn it sounds like you're pissed about it.

\better than sitting next to the farter.

Yeah, I find it deeply condescending when people actively suggest that I have some kind of duty to them to police my face in order to increase their enjoyment of it.  I mean, I think you'd get pretty ticked if strange guys routinely walked up to you on the street and told you that you should really try working out more.

Sure, it's just a person being a moderate jackass, but it's something that literally every woman I know has dealt with at some point and there's really no reason or excuse for that shiat.

I've honestly taken to immediately replying "my mom just died, asshole" and continuing to walk away.  Hopefully those guys think twice before saying shiat like that to a person.

/don't even have "biatchy resting face"
//only get this shiat when I'm out running errands and have shiat to get done, I'm late getting somewhere or otherwise have reason to be actively not smiling.


I'm a woman, and people have told me this too. I've never seen someone tell it to a man. I agree it's sexist, and that part I don't like, no. I've been told to by both men and women, almost always a lot older. It always seems to come from a kind place, in my experience, and even if I'm having a horrible day, I usually find it to be an act of trying to cheer people around you. Likewise, holding the door for a woman annoys some people, but I think it's an attempt to be friendly, albeit sexist in application. I don't feel like it's shaming me for being neutral, it's trying to spread cheer.

\Now, if I felt like it was a dude hitting on me, there would be no mercy. Telling me I look sour is a *bad* starting spot
\\I just don't think it's generally fair to assume it comes from a negative place in others. Would you be offended if someone not hitting on you came up to you and said you were very pretty? It could be just as sexist and unneeded, but it's still meant kindly.
\\\I am a very tall, muscular woman, so it might not make me feel like I'm being treated like a child like it might with a smaller woman, I don't know. Just my $0.02 to hopefully soften your perspective.
 
2013-07-03 05:13:41 PM

Freudian_slipknot: Who in the world said I'm not happy?


You're on Fark.

You're not happy.
 
2013-07-03 05:15:37 PM

RoyBatty: It's called participating in society, obeying the social protocol, being thankful you live in 2013 and not 1113, acknowledging the humanity around you, not being a coont.


What does a single thing in this list have to do with plastering on a fake smile while grocery shopping or waiting for a bus?

Anyone who thinks the "humanity around you" warrants a particular level of smile doesn't live in an urban environment.
 
2013-07-03 05:16:11 PM

ReverendJynxed: Freudian_slipknot: koder: his is why you're not happy. Instead of taking things others say as silly or attempts at connection, you take it seriously--possibly as intrusive--instead of a general attempt by someone to help better your life. You could have said "no kidding," or "yeah but I have wooden teeth," or "and fart less... I know-- I've been told."

Instead you posted your frustration at people noticing the obvious: you should probably smile more.

/fwiw

Who in the world said I'm not happy?  You do realize you can be a perfectly happy person without a big goofy grin plastered on your face all the time.

And I posted frustration with rudeness, not with people "noticing the obvious."  You can notice that a person is fat or sweaty and it's still incredibly rude to comment on it, especially to a total stranger.

All that kind of boorish behaviour does is ruin what was likely an otherwise perfectly pleasant and happy moment.

Yeah, you sound totally happy. But I get you, smiles don't cover shiatty attitudes so keep on scowling and be honest to yourself and to hell with how you may affect others with your presence.

Here's a tip though, when you're in public, what you do, say, how you look, etc. has an affect on others. Just as you have the right to have a shiatty day and be an inhuman asshole, others have the right to comment on it if they feel it affects them. If you are tired of the comments, stop soliciting them with your behavior. Pretty easy really.


Why do I see these responses seeming to imply there's two faces people make: ecstatic joy or asshole-ish scowls? Can't someone be pretty indifferent and blasé? I've caught crap for not being excited enough about things in the past as well which leads to the inevitable "Well, what DOES make you happy?" As if my lack of being impressed means I can't possibly find any joy in life.  My obvious annoyance at the question then seems to solidify that person's interpretation.

I am generally a happy and pleasant person, if I am to believe the reactions of the people I talk to regularly. That being the case, it really rubs me wrong when I am distracted or just moving from one place to the next and called out as not visibly happy enough for those in my proximity. For example, I don't ask them to tone down the happy because it's distracting me.
 
2013-07-03 05:17:52 PM

Leo Bloom's Freakout: Qellaqan: Freudian_slipknot: koder: his is why you're not happy. Instead of taking things others say as silly or attempts at connection, you take it seriously--possibly as intrusive--instead of a general attempt by someone to help better your life. You could have said "no kidding," or "yeah but I have wooden teeth," or "and fart less... I know-- I've been told."

Instead you posted your frustration at people noticing the obvious: you should probably smile more.

/fwiw

Who in the world said I'm not happy?  You do realize you can be a perfectly happy person without a big goofy grin plastered on your face all the time.

And I posted frustration with rudeness, not with people "noticing the obvious."  You can notice that a person is fat or sweaty and it's still incredibly rude to comment on it, especially to a total stranger.

All that kind of boorish behaviour does is ruin what was likely an otherwise perfectly pleasant and happy moment.

You seem really, really bothered by this. Is it really that horrible? Sure, you'd prefer they didn't, but damn it sounds like you're pissed about it.

\better than sitting next to the farter.

It's probably more comparable to this situation:

Peter: When you come in on Monday and you're not feeling real well, does anyone ever say to you, "Sounds like someone has a case of the Mondays?"

Lawrence: No. No, man. Shiat, no, man. I believe you'd get your ass kicked sayin' something like that, man.


I think it usually comes from a kind place. The Mondays crap doesn't, that's soul-numbing office banter. the "smile!" thing can be too, but in my experience it's usually super old people trying to be friendly. I can't help but smile when someone comes up to me and expresses their wishes for my happiness and seems to mean it.

It isn't a crime to talk to people and fail to say exactly the right thing to them, people need to lighten up, when you're out in public, you don't have privacy, duh.
 
2013-07-03 05:19:28 PM

Qellaqan: \Now, if I felt like it was a dude hitting on me, there would be no mercy. Telling me I look sour is a *bad* starting spot
\\I just don't think it's generally fair to assume it comes from a negative place in others. Would you be offended if someone not hitting on you came up to you and said you were very pretty? It could be just as sexist and unneeded, but it's still meant kindly.
\\\I am a very tall, muscular woman, so it might not make me feel like I'm being treated like a child like it might with a smaller woman, I don't know. Just my $0.02 to hopefully soften your perspective.


I'm 6' tall.

And whether someone means it kindly or not doesn't make it less inappropriate.  If they'd like to compliment me that'd be one thing.  Unsolicited criticism, no matter how it's meant, is always a dick move for both genders.

If I walked up to a strange man and said "you'd be handsome if you could just lose some weight!" we can all agree that's just appallingly poor behavior, regardless of how helpful I'm trying to be.
 
2013-07-03 05:20:25 PM

Leo Bloom's Freakout: ReverendJynxed: Freudian_slipknot: koder: his is why you're not happy. Instead of taking things others say as silly or attempts at connection, you take it seriously--possibly as intrusive--instead of a general attempt by someone to help better your life. You could have said "no kidding," or "yeah but I have wooden teeth," or "and fart less... I know-- I've been told."

Instead you posted your frustration at people noticing the obvious: you should probably smile more.

/fwiw

Who in the world said I'm not happy?  You do realize you can be a perfectly happy person without a big goofy grin plastered on your face all the time.

And I posted frustration with rudeness, not with people "noticing the obvious."  You can notice that a person is fat or sweaty and it's still incredibly rude to comment on it, especially to a total stranger.

All that kind of boorish behaviour does is ruin what was likely an otherwise perfectly pleasant and happy moment.

Yeah, you sound totally happy. But I get you, smiles don't cover shiatty attitudes so keep on scowling and be honest to yourself and to hell with how you may affect others with your presence.

Here's a tip though, when you're in public, what you do, say, how you look, etc. has an affect on others. Just as you have the right to have a shiatty day and be an inhuman asshole, others have the right to comment on it if they feel it affects them. If you are tired of the comments, stop soliciting them with your behavior. Pretty easy really.

Why do I see these responses seeming to imply there's two faces people make: ecstatic joy or asshole-ish scowls? Can't someone be pretty indifferent and blasé? I've caught crap for not being excited enough about things in the past as well which leads to the inevitable "Well, what DOES make you happy?" As if my lack of being impressed means I can't possibly find any joy in life.  My obvious annoyance at the question then seems to solidify that person's interpretation.

I am generally a happy and plea ...


The point of the article is neutral faces that seem more negative than they are. Sometimes I elicit double-takes from people because I'm scowling so hard. I'm not upset, usually I'm just thinking about something and furrowing my brow, and because I have dark eyebrows and light hair, that makes me look very scowly. It's not *being* angry, it's just looking it.
 
2013-07-03 05:22:36 PM

Freudian_slipknot: RoyBatty: It's called participating in society, obeying the social protocol, being thankful you live in 2013 and not 1113, acknowledging the humanity around you, not being a coont.

What does a single thing in this list have to do with plastering on a fake smile while grocery shopping or waiting for a bus?

Anyone who thinks the "humanity around you" warrants a particular level of smile doesn't live in an urban environment.



I live in a semi-large apartment complex. Lots of people. Lots of families. Lots of pets.

As I walk the 200 feet to my car or the 500 feet to my mailbox I usually walk past two or three people, or maybe a whole lot more since the pool is nearby and so is a kids' playground.

The dudes, we all say hi and hello and nice day or just a quick smile and a nod,  whatever. Smile, grunt, there is some form of acknowledgement and relative cheer.

The women? About half of them participate. About half of them just stare, say nothing, never acknowledge a good morning, or smile or even nod.  About half of those are walking their farking dogs and taking up the path and glower when they force people off the path because shiatfark they have dogs right and the dogs are more important than their neighbors.

I don't know what the fark damaged you people, but it wasn't me, and it wasn't most men, and it wasn't most women.

But you are damaged.
 
2013-07-03 05:24:21 PM

RoyBatty: But you are damaged.


Coming from you that seems like a compliment.

You don't even begin to comprehend what I mean by an urban environment, do you?  Hint: I don't mean a big yuppie neighborhood with kids out playing and folks walking their dogs.
 
2013-07-03 05:26:10 PM

Leo Bloom's Freakout: ReverendJynxed: Freudian_slipknot: koder: his is why you're not happy. Instead of taking things others say as silly or attempts at connection, you take it seriously--possibly as intrusive--instead of a general attempt by someone to help better your life. You could have said "no kidding," or "yeah but I have wooden teeth," or "and fart less... I know-- I've been told."

Instead you posted your frustration at people noticing the obvious: you should probably smile more.

/fwiw

Who in the world said I'm not happy?  You do realize you can be a perfectly happy person without a big goofy grin plastered on your face all the time.

And I posted frustration with rudeness, not with people "noticing the obvious."  You can notice that a person is fat or sweaty and it's still incredibly rude to comment on it, especially to a total stranger.

All that kind of boorish behaviour does is ruin what was likely an otherwise perfectly pleasant and happy moment.

Yeah, you sound totally happy. But I get you, smiles don't cover shiatty attitudes so keep on scowling and be honest to yourself and to hell with how you may affect others with your presence.

Here's a tip though, when you're in public, what you do, say, how you look, etc. has an affect on others. Just as you have the right to have a shiatty day and be an inhuman asshole, others have the right to comment on it if they feel it affects them. If you are tired of the comments, stop soliciting them with your behavior. Pretty easy really.

Why do I see these responses seeming to imply there's two faces people make: ecstatic joy or asshole-ish scowls? Can't someone be pretty indifferent and blasé? I've caught crap for not being excited enough about things in the past as well which leads to the inevitable "Well, what DOES make you happy?" As if my lack of being impressed means I can't possibly find any joy in life.  My obvious annoyance at the question then seems to solidify that person's interpretation.

I am generally a happy and plea ...


Maybe because people are only commenting on the obvious extremes? I have a very expressive face and learned that folks are shiat at reading it. I got over it. I didn't make it someone else's issue because they're "picking on me."

When in public the only thing you can control is yourself so if you want to head the problems off, adjust your behavior. Otherwise you have no cause to be annoyed because you are continuing the behavior that is getting the response you don't like. Beyond that it's whining like a spoiled brat. "He's looking at me! STOP LOOKING AT ME!"

It sort of reminds me of the attention whores deliberately behaving a certain way to get the attention they want so they can complain about that attention they got so they can keep the attention focused on them because... attention.

If you truly didn't care about what was going on around you, why would you give a shiat about some asshole's opinion about your smile? You are content and don't care remember?
 
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