megarian: ...but an excavator, you say? I do have a big backyard.
OregonVet: megarian: I can haz harem?We only live an hour+ apart...
Nogale: Why do people attend the weddings of casual acquaintances? You can always say you're so, so sorry but have an unavoidable conflict that weekend. Send a small token if you feel compelled, and spend the day at the beach.
poison_amy: weddings suck. brides suck.I got an invitation in April for a "commitment ceremony"... not a wedding, and no, they aren't gay. They aren't getting married though, I suspect because a marriage makes it harder to claim welfare as a single mother.In the envelope i found two registries. One for Macy's and one for Walmart. On the card where I was to select my meal for the evening, in lovely script under the first (presumably pricier) entree, it read "Please select from the Macy's registry". Under the other entree it read "You may select from either registry"Oh, may I? How considerate!
noitsnot: Lorelle: The sound of one hand clapping: In all seriousness, it's not really that rude to state on the invitation something like 'The happy couple are trying to put together enough money for a great honeymoon...Yes, it is.If the happy couple wants a great honeymoon, perhaps they shouldn't spend so much on the wedding.He's saying "money instead of a blender". Most people get married older (or twice) nowadays, and they already have all the kitchen shiat they need.
Magnanimous_J: The sound of one hand clapping: In all seriousness, it's not really that rude to state on the invitation something like 'The happy couple are trying to put together enough money for a great honeymoon. They would appreciate if cash is given instead of gifts'.I agree with you. My girlfriend and I already lived alone before we moved in together and now have 2 blenders, 2 knife sets, etc. The last thing in the world we need is stuff for the house. I ran the idea by her to just ask for money and she looked at me with horror, like I'd suggested charging for admission. She actually said we should register for gifts we don't need and then return them. What the hell is the point of that? Why make someone drive across town for a present we don't want when they would probably be happier writing a check?
OregonVet: MadAzza: I have no idea why you banned him or what, if anything, he has to do with weddings in general,He's from Detroit area, I think, but owned/rented a building where he jammed back in the day about 8 miles from my house. Every wedding around here has a too much of his music and having so many of our friends over the years weddings under our belt, she and I agreed it was not going to happen.
thurstonxhowell: I always try to cover my plate at a wedding, but you can't just expect everyone to do so.
sufferpuppet: That gift was original, and awesome. Nobody is ever going to remember who got them the champagne flutes or $100. But the basket full of candy and marshmallow goo will stick in your memory forever. Top score.
Lorelle: Perhaps the gift-givers couldn't afford to spend $200 on those money-grubbing, unappreciative biatches. Besides, gift baskets tend to be overpriced. The one pictured could have cost $50 or more.
TheDumbBlonde: Wedding registeries were, where I come from, traditionally a local jeweler/fine gifts shop where the bride to be registered her china and silver patterns for the convenience of guests WHO CHOSE TO USE IT. You didn't go to freaking Target and register for sheets and towels and egg poachers! You took what you received, were grateful not matter how tacky and wrote a goddamned thank you note. The whole lack of manners is out of control. It's out of control and we'll be lucky to live through it./Meh
teenytinycornteeth: So anyone who has a wedding with over 20 people is "putting on a performance" and "exercising selfishness and greed"?
poison_amy: In the envelope i found two registries. One for Macy's and one for Walmart. On the card where I was to select my meal for the evening, in lovely script under the first (presumably pricier) entree, it read "Please select from the Macy's registry". Under the other entree it read "You may select from either registry"Oh, may I? How considerate!
ExcaliburPrime111: The social convention is to give money, or at least a gift commensurate in value to the money spent hosting you.
jigger: Why didn't they charge admission to the wedding? Would have saved some trouble.
silverjets: I attended a wedding of a friend years ago where I witnessed pretty much this exact same behavior first hand. I was with a bunch of friends and we were all friends of the groom. We were all in college together at the time and money was tight but I gave them an envelope with some cash in it to help cover their costs. At the end of the night after most people had left the reception I watched as they and their family opened up all the envelopes and counted the cash they received. There was a little argument within the group and then the groom came over to the table where us friends were sitting and asked if we could all chip in some more money (at least 100 dollars he said) because they had come up short on what they received as gift money.I was in complete shock. He actually walked some of us over to the atm near the reception hall to get the money. I had never seen this before at any weddings I had attended previously (but up to that point any weddings were mostly for relatives). I chalked it up to a cultural thing (I'm as WASPy as you can get)...it was an Italian/Filipino wedding and they even had a money dance during the evening where they expected people to pin money to the bride and groom to dance with them.
forbes01: They werent in it for the money
SaladMonkey: Although the newlywed was a colossal biatch, the polite thing to do is to cover the cost of your plate. Weddings are insanely expensive (even small ones), and society expects you to have one.
Doem: Tis a shiatty gift. you cant tell me that at some point they werent putting that together and thinking "wow what a shiatty gift."
006deluxe: Same here, and my wedding was just back in October. We ran the gamut of no gift at all from some people (which is perfectly fine, I'm just glad they came), to getting a $500 check from someone I had never even spoken to before and everything in between.
Shahab: The people who gave that gift though... I mean a janky basket with some candy in it? That is not an appropriate wedding gift.
gadian: t didn't only contain gummy bears and puffy stuff, but high priced biscotti, chocolate and other things that equates to a big basket of comfort food and road trip snacks for the honeymoon. There is something wrong or shiatty with providing a newly married couple a big basket of comfort food as a wedding gift? How can you be against giving friends comfort? As well as some quick kinky ideas.Well intentioned thought went into that gift.
scotzrewl: Who the FARK invites a "casual acquaintance" to their wedding, and then expect, no.. DEMAND, a monetary gift of at least $150!?!?!The biatchy coont needs to fark off and die.
catmandu: TheDumbBlonde: Wedding registeries were, where I come from, traditionally a local jeweler/fine gifts shop where the bride to be registered her china and silver patterns for the convenience of guests WHO CHOSE TO USE IT. You didn't go to freaking Target and register for sheets and towels and egg poachers! You took what you received, were grateful not matter how tacky and wrote a goddamned thank you note. The whole lack of manners is out of control. It's out of control and we'll be lucky to live through it./MehNot only that but in the days of the hope chest the girl would register before she was engaged and family would buy a set of the china or silver for things like birthdays or graduation. The sheets, towels, and egg poachers were the shower gifts.
redpenner: You don't charge admission for a wedding. If you do, you get customers instead of friends and family. If you want your friends and family at your wedding, you should make it easy for them to be there. If they are rich and want to "cover their plate" as their gift to you, that's really nice, but excluding (or ridiculing) those who can't is going to make for a wedding without any soul or real joy.
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