Sudo_Make_Me_A_Sandwich: I'm an introvert who spends all day teaching kids. When I come home, I need some quiet time in order to recover from the massive amounts of energy being constantly socially engaged costs me. I don't necessarily want to spend an hour after work discussing how my day working with kids went and how my girlfriend's day working with kids went. I don't see why this makes me a bad person as the author seems to believe.
crab66: ko_kyi: I am happy to deal with life's stresses together.I am unhappy to deal with constantly manufactured stresses that could have been avoided with a tiny bit of thought, consideration, etc.Reminds me of my sister. How her husband puts up with that crap....I will never know.
RangerTaylor: Wow. What a bunch of whacknoodles.
ko_kyi: I am happy to deal with life's stresses together.I am unhappy to deal with constantly manufactured stresses that could have been avoided with a tiny bit of thought, consideration, etc.
YixilTesiphon: Damn do some people like to overthink relationships.Do what it is important to your partner that you do. Tell them what it is important to you that they do. If this does not work, find somebody with whom it will.
RangerTaylor: So I made the mistake of looking in the comments. Wow. What a bunch of whacknoodles. I see them all getting together for chocolatinis and biatching about how they can't find a good man but that dumb slut Jenny always get the good ones, but they just like her cuz she likes to fark and cook.
TeaCozy: Skarekrough: INeedAName: In December my wife has a chance to South Africa for 2 weeks. She asked me if I wanted to tag along. I'm leaning towards no.It's not that I don't love her, or want her around... but holy farking hell, some mother farking peace and quiet?!I used to think I wanted to feel needed. Im tired of being needed. Being needed wears me the fark out!About once a year I end up in that sort of situation.I've never felt bad about staying behind. The peace and quiet, watching movies without having to consider whether someone else would want to watch it too, even cooking things and having meals which would merit conversations that merit more discussion than is ever really necessary.When she comes home I'm glad to see her. I'm genuinely please to have her back in my daily life again.As someone said it's hard to appreciate someone for what they are when they're there all the time.Oh, wow. A few times a year, I like to take the kids and visit with my parents for a few days. I know my husband enjoys the break, and it makes me happy to think of him having some time to himself. You guys have helped me to understand how it must feel to him to have that break. :)
WhippingBoy: The more I read Jezebel, the more I'm convinced that it's actually an MRA site used to discredit legitimate feminism by associating "feminism" with utter and complete drivel.Either that, or it answers the question "What *can* you do with a degree in Gender Studies AND have a below-average intelligence"?
comslave: Jezebel appears to be engaged in a project to absolutely end all relationships between men and women.
mike_d85: Um... Where's the real article? It sounds spot on./shut up for 5 minutes when I walk in the door please
Incontinent_dog_and_monkey_rodeo: Women and gay men tend to want more drama in their lives. Straight men want less.
Sudo_Make_Me_A_Sandwich: That comment is offensive to euteurpe25 who offered pretty sound advice, I think:"If you need low-stress, just skip relationships entirely and live alone. Hire an escort when you need your ashes hauled. Problem solved! "
quickdraw: Incontinent_dog_and_monkey_rodeo: Women and gay men tend to want more drama in their lives. Straight men want less.pffft whatever. I know plenty of very het guys that are freaking drama machines. The biggest gossips I know are straight guys as well. It's just when they do it they call it "having a beer."
WhippingBoy: The more I read Jezebel, the more I'm convinced that it's actually an MRA site used to discredit legitimate feminism by associating "feminism" with utter and complete drivel.
doubled99: One of the worst examples of writing ever. No idea what the point is.
Phil Moskowitz: I like how Jezebel brings out the solipsistic, navel gazing whore in all of us.
WhippingBoy: Imagine what would happen if one day, all of a sudden, men stopped putting up with all of this shiat.
GameSprocket: There is always the old "Don't ask me questions that I can't possibly answer" kind of items, but for me these are the big ones.
rubi_con_man: For the women who complain that men don't listen to them or care about their internal feelings ... Please don't be surprised. Many of the traits that you want from men - the traits that get them laid - are the traits that require detachment and callousness. Get your fourteen year old daughters to cherish being sensitive, patient and caring. Get them to invest their dating and romantic lives and their first sexual encounters to the squeamish, uncertain, uncomfortable boy with zits and glasses in preference to the early-peaking captain of the football team who wins status by dominating others uncaringly.Most men ape - and then become - thesebecause they see that it's a route to the main form of success that even beta males aspire to - sex. Once a supply of sex is secure, men - especially young men - can grow immensely. Without it- without the approval and support of one lover - growth is tremendously difficult, and basically is composed of lurching from pretended behavior to pretended behavior.As a young man, this is part of the reason that "just be yourself" was vexing. "just myself" clearly wasn't getting laid or accepted. Why the hell would I want to be that loser? Hey, you know what works? Calling girls biatches and beating up those weaker than myself!
LegacyDL: Incontinent_dog_and_monkey_rodeo: Women and gay men tend to want more drama in their lives. Straight men want less.You'll find that life has a cruel sense of humor, the people who try to avoid drama seem to find themselves in a proverbial drama minefield without trying.
Sid_6.7: teto85: 25.media.tumblr.comYou're reading what passes as "feminist critique" among the more modern and less intellectually interested "feminists".Unlike the feminist of yore, which might have actually had many fine and insightful points to make about how society tends to emphasize and favor the "masculine" over the "feminine" (no, really, guy here, and a lot of feminism is interesting philosophically!), this author, like many of her ilk, have been reduced to complaining about men complaining.Which, really, is about the opposite of feminism. Hey, lady, how about you stop obsessing over what men say and do, and forge your own place in the world? Yeah, didn't think so, that would be too hard, wouldn't it?And she's really trying to be funny, but managing to come off as even less funny and more pissy than most conservative "comedians".Sad./and that's what you're reading!
because I care: My girlfriend flat-out told me she does everything she can to please me because when I'm happy and satisfied I'll do anything she tells me to.
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