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(WRCB)   From today's 'you actually paid for this study' news: Men can't read women's emotions   (wrcbtv.com) divider line 200
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2013-04-14 11:45:45 PM  
I need about $10,000 to fund my next study: Do women shop more than men?
 
2013-04-14 11:48:13 PM  
All I need to know is when my sammich will be brought to me.

/along with another beer
 
2013-04-14 11:51:28 PM  
1. If she's angry and when you ask her what's wrong she says "nothing", you've done some something wrong
2. Always assume "nothing" is the answer to "What's wrong?"
 
2013-04-15 12:09:12 AM  
I could have saved you some money.
 
2013-04-15 12:10:49 AM  
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2013-04-15 12:28:10 AM  
"I'm fine." = I'm so pissed I could rip your balls off and shove them down your food hole.
"Do whatever you want." = There's only one appropriate thing you should do right now, but I'm not going to tell you what it is. However here's a hint, it is not whatever it is YOU want to do.
 
2013-04-15 12:28:53 AM  

CaptSacto: 1. If she's angry and when you ask her what's wrong she says "nothing", you've done some something wrong
2. Always assume "nothing" is the answer to "What's wrong?"


Speaking as a woman, I hate that passive-aggressive bullshiat.  That and "If you don't know, then I'm not going to tell you."

My response to that has generally been, "Well, since I'm not a mind reader, I'm going to drop it.  Get back to me when you're ready to have an adult conversation."  Generally, girlfriends who keep it up and keep pushing get their bluff called.  And they then break up with me - which is fine, because life is too short for that crap.

Oh - and here's something most men don't know - women can't read other women's emotions, either.
 
2013-04-15 12:30:06 AM  

Ghastly: "I'm fine." = I'm so pissed I could rip your balls off and shove them down your food hole.
"Do whatever you want." = There's only one appropriate thing you should do right now, but I'm not going to tell you what it is. However here's a hint, it is not whatever it is YOU want to do.


farking truth.
 
2013-04-15 12:58:06 AM  

Altair: Ghastly: "I'm fine." = I'm so pissed I could rip your balls off and shove them down your food hole.
"Do whatever you want." = There's only one appropriate thing you should do right now, but I'm not going to tell you what it is. However here's a hint, it is not whatever it is YOU want to do.

farking truth.


This is the shiat that comes from choosing your female companionship based on farkability points and not on whether you actually like her.  If you would like a word from the wise, from the other side of the fence... any woman can be absolute hell on wheels in bed, with the right encouragement.  Get to know her first, be sure you like her out of bed.  Then you avoid paying for poon with the other 23.75 hours of the day being a sheer misery of whining and manipulation.
 
2013-04-15 12:59:13 AM  
And men are never dicks.
 
2013-04-15 01:12:51 AM  
The Man:

"Yes Dear" = "I know where this is going.  There is literally nothing I can say or do to win.  If I counter your emotional bullshiat with logic, you'll say I'm talking down to you.  If I lose my temper, you'll say I'm bullying you.  If I don't do anything, you'll say I'm emotionally crippled.  So I'm just going to say and do the absolute bare minimum in the hopes that you'll stomp off for a few hours so I can have some peace.  When you've decided I've been punished enough, you'll 'forgive' me for whatever it is I did and I'll pretend like you're right and then we'll start the entire thing over again in three days when I make an off-hand comment suggesting I'm not looking forward to your mother's visit or when I get a slight boner when you complain about your hot sister wasting $5000 on a boob job.  I mean, let's be honest.  We both know I saw her in her underwear last year when I accidentally walked in on her changing clothes in our bedroom and we both know that she engineered that little fiasco in order to piss you off because she loves to push your buttons.  Besides, what the fark do you care what she does with her money?  What else is she going to do with it?  She's a farking 'social media strategist'.  What the hell does that even mean?  Oh right, it means 'OMG I'm 35 years old and unemployed because the powers that be think I'm a technological dinosaur!  Can I move in with you?'  And of course you'll say yes and you'll be glaring at me the whole time, but I can promise you I won't want to fark that at 35.  I've seen pictures of your mother at 22 and 35 and I can see where this is going.  Social media strategist my ass.  I worked at a god damn dotcom.  I helped invent the streaming video algorithm that YouTube uses, and yet now I have to listen to some punk ass 21 year old tell me that I don't understand technology?  Let's see what Johnny McShiatsALot can do the next time the servers go down and I decide to call in sick.  Have fun in the cloud asshole.  Little farker thinks it's an actual cloud.  I showed him the server room and he didn't believe me when I told him the cloud was just a bunch of computers networked together.  The only reason he has that job is because he was sucking the boss's dick on the 18th hole.  Maybe I should learn to play golf.  It's just geometry.  It would get me out of the house once in a while.  Oh Christ, are you still talking?  Seriously, I don't care.  Did you ever take a logic course in college?  No, of course you didn't, you were a communications major.  I don't even know what the fark a communications major is.  All I ever saw you do in college was slam wine coolers and flash your boobs at drunken frat boys.  And now you yell at our daughter for wearing yoga pants.  Yeah, I wonder what she would think of that picture I took of you on Spring Break wearing nothing but sandals and nipple clamps?  You would probably claim it was all my fault, and the kid would believe you because she's practically a clone of you.  I wish her friend Denise would start wearing underwear though.  I mean, I'm 40, I'm not dead and those yoga pants are practically invisible when she bend over.  But of course, if I say anything, suddenly I'm on the sex offenders registry.  Oh god, I hate my life.  I can't even enjoy football because my team sucks and you always wait until the game to demand that I mow the lawn.  One day, that's all I ask, one day where I can just enjoy myself, but no.  What the fark did I just say?  'Yes Dear'.  That means 'shut the fark up, you win."  Why the fark can't you just accept victory?  Do you have to break me down completely?  That's what this is, isn't it?  You're getting old and menopausy and you know I think your sister's hotter than you and you know she would probably fark me if I let her just because she wants to piss you off.  Well you know what, maybe I will.  Let's see what $5000 gets you these days.  Yeah, I can just imagine your face when you walk in on us and oh who the fark am I kidding?  I haven't seen my dick in three years and those low T pills aren't doing fark.  Is this it?  Is this all I have to look forward to?  What happened to all of my dreams?  I was going to be rich and famous like Steve Jobs.  I was going to revolutionize internet commerce.  I don't care what they say, Pets.com was a great idea, it was just before its time.  Maybe I should write a novel.  Does anyone even read novels anymore?  I don't think my kid's boyfriend can even read at all.  Fark it, I am writing a novel.  I'll self-publish on Amazon.  I think I still know some guys over there, maybe they can give me some inside help.  Yeah, that's what I'm going to do.  And before I publish, I'm going to divorce your ass so you don't get any of my money.  Then I'm going to hire a personal trainer and when I get back into shape, I'm going to fark the hell out of your sister.  And I'll buy her even bigger boobs just so you'll have something to biatch about.  So there."
 
2013-04-15 01:29:16 AM  

Mentat: The Man:

<whiny self-absorbed bullshiat>


Seriously, guys, if you don't like the women you are farking, why stay with them?
 
2013-04-15 01:55:38 AM  

Benevolent Misanthrope: Speaking as a woman, I hate that passive-aggressive bullshiat.  That and "If you don't know, then I'm not going to tell you."

My response to that has generally been, "Well, since I'm not a mind reader, I'm going to drop it.  Get back to me when you're ready to have an adult conversation."  Generally, girlfriends who keep it up and keep pushing get their bluff called.  And they then break up with me - which is fine, because life is too short for that crap.


You. You I like.

Oh - and here's something most men don't know - women can't read other women's emotions, either.

Oh. Well, that's a little disheartening to hear.
 
2013-04-15 01:59:32 AM  

quatchi: Benevolent Misanthrope: Speaking as a woman, I hate that passive-aggressive bullshiat.  That and "If you don't know, then I'm not going to tell you."

My response to that has generally been, "Well, since I'm not a mind reader, I'm going to drop it.  Get back to me when you're ready to have an adult conversation."  Generally, girlfriends who keep it up and keep pushing get their bluff called.  And they then break up with me - which is fine, because life is too short for that crap.

You. You I like.

Oh - and here's something most men don't know - women can't read other women's emotions, either.

Oh. Well, that's a little disheartening to hear.


I know, right?  If only men could hire a lesbian friend as translator or something.
 
2013-04-15 01:59:48 AM  

Benevolent Misanthrope: Then you avoid paying for poon with the other 23.75 23.995 hours of the day being a sheer misery of whining and manipulation.




FTFY
 
2013-04-15 01:59:56 AM  

Benevolent Misanthrope: Mentat: The Man:

<whiny self-absorbed bullshiat>

Seriously, guys, if you don't like the women you are farking, why stay with them?


We love and adore the women we are with. We just hate them too.
 
2013-04-15 02:06:21 AM  

Benevolent Misanthrope: quatchi: Benevolent Misanthrope: Speaking as a woman, I hate that passive-aggressive bullshiat.  That and "If you don't know, then I'm not going to tell you."

My response to that has generally been, "Well, since I'm not a mind reader, I'm going to drop it.  Get back to me when you're ready to have an adult conversation."  Generally, girlfriends who keep it up and keep pushing get their bluff called.  And they then break up with me - which is fine, because life is too short for that crap.

You. You I like.

Oh - and here's something most men don't know - women can't read other women's emotions, either.

Oh. Well, that's a little disheartening to hear.

I know, right?  If only men could hire a lesbian friend as translator or something.


It'd be like Mrs. Cleaver speaking jive.

/"she said that you barely said 'thanks' for the roast chicken dinner and the weeds in the front bed are still there a week later."
 
2013-04-15 02:07:22 AM  

R.A.Danny: Benevolent Misanthrope: Mentat: The Man:

<whiny self-absorbed bullshiat>

Seriously, guys, if you don't like the women you are farking, why stay with them?

We love and adore the women we are with. We just hate them too.


I've never understood it.  Men love and adore women, but you treat them like sex objects whose only use is to fark.  You complain endlessly about them, mostly the fact that they don't fark enough for your tastes, or they talk to much when they could be sucking your dick.  And yet, unlike alot of lesbian feminists, I do believe men truly do love women.  And hate them.  I've never "gotten" the relationship.

Not to say that lesbian relationships are perfect either, though.
 
2013-04-15 02:08:12 AM  

Benevolent Misanthrope: I know, right?  If only men could hire a lesbian friend as translator or something


That would be so cool. I'm now imagining some arguments I've had in the past with some SOs and wondering how they would have played out if I had a lesbian friend listening in to the conversation through some mobile device and feeding me lines and advice through an earpiece.

My guess is "much better".
 
2013-04-15 02:09:54 AM  

Benevolent Misanthrope: I do believe men truly do love women.  And hate them.  I've never "gotten" the relationship.


I have a love/hate relationship with women as a a rule.

I love them.

They hate that.
 
2013-04-15 02:15:36 AM  

Benevolent Misanthrope: Mentat: The Man:

<whiny self-absorbed bullshiat>

Seriously, guys, if you don't like the women you are farking, why stay with them?


You might be taking my comment a tad too seriously if you didn't realize I was making fun of the man.
 
2013-04-15 02:17:40 AM  

whither_apophis: Benevolent Misanthrope: quatchi: Benevolent Misanthrope: Speaking as a woman, I hate that passive-aggressive bullshiat.  That and "If you don't know, then I'm not going to tell you."

My response to that has generally been, "Well, since I'm not a mind reader, I'm going to drop it.  Get back to me when you're ready to have an adult conversation."  Generally, girlfriends who keep it up and keep pushing get their bluff called.  And they then break up with me - which is fine, because life is too short for that crap.

You. You I like.

Oh - and here's something most men don't know - women can't read other women's emotions, either.

Oh. Well, that's a little disheartening to hear.

I know, right?  If only men could hire a lesbian friend as translator or something.

It'd be like Mrs. Cleaver speaking jive.

/"she said that you barely said 'thanks' for the roast chicken dinner and the weeds in the front bed are still there a week later."


More like, "OK - bear with me.  She went to alot of trouble to make you a dinner she know you would like, and you didn't say thanks - to her, this means that you didn't notice it, which means that you don't value her effort and you think her place is in the kitchen slaving away for you, with no expectation of thanks or reward.  Problem is, you don't do stuff for her like this - including a small thing like weeding the front bed - and she's feeling it's one-sided.  So she's starting to wonder why she does it.  And then she realizes that she loves you, and in any case she can't afford to live on her own now, ans so she starts to feel trapped.  Meanwhile, you're sitting there staring at her tits - which, at this point isn't a compliment, it's a statement of, "OK, woman - now that you've been servile to me in the kitchen, you can shut up while I f*ck you, too.  And don't expect any reciprocity there either.  Because I can."

/In a nutshell.
 
2013-04-15 02:18:23 AM  

Mentat: Benevolent Misanthrope: Mentat: The Man:

<whiny self-absorbed bullshiat>

Seriously, guys, if you don't like the women you are farking, why stay with them?

You might be taking my comment a tad too seriously if you didn't realize I was making fun of the man.


I know it was satire - but it's also close to home for alot of men, I'd say.
 
2013-04-15 02:20:20 AM  

quatchi: Benevolent Misanthrope: I know, right?  If only men could hire a lesbian friend as translator or something

That would be so cool. I'm now imagining some arguments I've had in the past with some SOs and wondering how they would have played out if I had a lesbian friend listening in to the conversation through some mobile device and feeding me lines and advice through an earpiece.

My guess is "much better".


Perhaps.  Though judging from my experiences and the amount of WTF in my arguments with girlfriends, perhaps not.
 
2013-04-15 02:20:59 AM  
Legalized prostitution would solve so many problems.
 
2013-04-15 02:21:41 AM  

Benevolent Misanthrope: R.A.Danny: Benevolent Misanthrope: Mentat: The Man:

<whiny self-absorbed bullshiat>

Seriously, guys, if you don't like the women you are farking, why stay with them?

We love and adore the women we are with. We just hate them too.

I've never understood it.  Men love and adore women, but you treat them like sex objects whose only use is to fark.  You complain endlessly about them, mostly the fact that they don't fark enough for your tastes, or they talk to much when they could be sucking your dick.  And yet, unlike alot of lesbian feminists, I do believe men truly do love women.  And hate them.  I've never "gotten" the relationship.

Not to say that lesbian relationships are perfect either, though.

You think way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  too much.
 
2013-04-15 02:23:10 AM  

R.A.Danny: Benevolent Misanthrope: R.A.Danny: Benevolent Misanthrope: Mentat: The Man:

<whiny self-absorbed bullshiat>

Seriously, guys, if you don't like the women you are farking, why stay with them?

We love and adore the women we are with. We just hate them too.

I've never understood it.  Men love and adore women, but you treat them like sex objects whose only use is to fark.  You complain endlessly about them, mostly the fact that they don't fark enough for your tastes, or they talk to much when they could be sucking your dick.  And yet, unlike alot of lesbian feminists, I do believe men truly do love women.  And hate them.  I've never "gotten" the relationship.

Not to say that lesbian relationships are perfect either, though.
You think way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  too much.


I think perhaps that right there sums up the divide between women and men in relationships.
 
2013-04-15 02:24:56 AM  

Benevolent Misanthrope: R.A.Danny: Benevolent Misanthrope: R.A.Danny: Benevolent Misanthrope: Mentat: The Man:

<whiny self-absorbed bullshiat>

Seriously, guys, if you don't like the women you are farking, why stay with them?

We love and adore the women we are with. We just hate them too.

I've never understood it.  Men love and adore women, but you treat them like sex objects whose only use is to fark.  You complain endlessly about them, mostly the fact that they don't fark enough for your tastes, or they talk to much when they could be sucking your dick.  And yet, unlike alot of lesbian feminists, I do believe men truly do love women.  And hate them.  I've never "gotten" the relationship.

Not to say that lesbian relationships are perfect either, though.
You think way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  too much.

I think perhaps that right there sums up the divide between women and men in relationships.


What were we talking about?
 
2013-04-15 02:26:07 AM  

R.A.Danny: Benevolent Misanthrope: R.A.Danny: Benevolent Misanthrope: R.A.Danny: Benevolent Misanthrope: Mentat: The Man:

<whiny self-absorbed bullshiat>

Seriously, guys, if you don't like the women you are farking, why stay with them?

We love and adore the women we are with. We just hate them too.

I've never understood it.  Men love and adore women, but you treat them like sex objects whose only use is to fark.  You complain endlessly about them, mostly the fact that they don't fark enough for your tastes, or they talk to much when they could be sucking your dick.  And yet, unlike alot of lesbian feminists, I do believe men truly do love women.  And hate them.  I've never "gotten" the relationship.

Not to say that lesbian relationships are perfect either, though.
You think way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  way way  too much.

I think perhaps that right there sums up the divide between women and men in relationships.

What were we talking about?


Food.  And Blowjobs.  Oh - and staring at tits.
 
2013-04-15 02:26:49 AM  
This idea that women have some across-the-board tendency to "never tell what's wrong" breaks down when you note that the same people who ask this question also find themselves complaining about women's nagging, or the dreaded "can we talk" question, so it's pretty clear their women are pretty vocal about stating what's wrong in a variety of situations.


But sometimes a woman won't answer that question, usually because she sees it as a no-win dilemma.
The first possibility is that what you did wrong is so glaringly obvious (to her) that she thinks it is you who are playing the game, and does not understand what you are trying to do. Like if you had sex with a man, or killed her dog, or both.


The second possibility is that what you did wrong is so glaringly obvious (to her) that she realizes she has entered into a relationship with a man who cannot grasp a person's most basic needs without being given a laminated chart every day. She is envisioning a lifetime of constantly giving explanations about why it is wrong to skip her birthday to get drunk with his friends, or flirt with 16-year-olds in an online game. Why push that boulder up that hill today? It's not like she won't get to do it a thousand times more.


A third possibility is that it's something she wanted you to do on your own initiative, like compliment her haircut or ask about her day. These things don't really mean a lot when done mechanically, which is what's going to happen if she says, "What's wrong is I wanted you to ask about my day," and you say, "Oh, of course, tell me about your day." That setup doesn't leave one convinced that you actually want to hear about her day. And compliments given on command are pretty worthless too.


It's unfair, but there's not a lot either of you can do about it at the time.
And finally, as mentioned before, the Manipulative Harpy does exist, sometimes a little bit in all of us, and could very well be doing it because she hates you.

From here.
 
2013-04-15 02:27:05 AM  

Benevolent Misanthrope: Food.  And Blowjobs.  Oh - and staring at tits.


NOW you have my attention!
 
2013-04-15 02:35:30 AM  

Benevolent Misanthrope: tits.


*looks around frantically*

Where? Where?

Oh, you were making a point. Sorry.
 
2013-04-15 02:41:40 AM  

Benevolent Misanthrope: whither_apophis: Benevolent Misanthrope: quatchi: Benevolent Misanthrope: Speaking as a woman, I hate that passive-aggressive bullshiat.  That and "If you don't know, then I'm not going to tell you."

My response to that has generally been, "Well, since I'm not a mind reader, I'm going to drop it.  Get back to me when you're ready to have an adult conversation."  Generally, girlfriends who keep it up and keep pushing get their bluff called.  And they then break up with me - which is fine, because life is too short for that crap.

You. You I like.

Oh - and here's something most men don't know - women can't read other women's emotions, either.

Oh. Well, that's a little disheartening to hear.

I know, right?  If only men could hire a lesbian friend as translator or something.

It'd be like Mrs. Cleaver speaking jive.

/"she said that you barely said 'thanks' for the roast chicken dinner and the weeds in the front bed are still there a week later."

More like, "OK - bear with me.  She went to alot of trouble to make you a dinner she know you would like, and you didn't say thanks - to her, this means that you didn't notice it, which means that you don't value her effort and you think her place is in the kitchen slaving away for you, with no expectation of thanks or reward.  Problem is, you don't do stuff for her like this - including a small thing like weeding the front bed - and she's feeling it's one-sided.  So she's starting to wonder why she does it.  And then she realizes that she loves you, and in any case she can't afford to live on her own now, ans so she starts to feel trapped.  Meanwhile, you're sitting there staring at her tits - which, at this point isn't a compliment, it's a statement of, "OK, woman - now that you've been servile to me in the kitchen, you can shut up while I f*ck you, too.  And don't expect any reciprocity there either.  Because I can."

/In a nutshell.


tl:dr

/hah! i keed i keed
 
2013-04-15 02:45:40 AM  

Benevolent Misanthrope: R.A.Danny: Benevolent Misanthrope: Mentat: The Man:

<whiny self-absorbed bullshiat>

Seriously, guys, if you don't like the women you are farking, why stay with them?

We love and adore the women we are with. We just hate them too.

I've never understood it.  Men love and adore women, but you treat them like sex objects whose only use is to fark.  You complain endlessly about them, mostly the fact that they don't fark enough for your tastes, or they talk to much when they could be sucking your dick.  And yet, unlike alot of lesbian feminists, I do believe men truly do love women.  And hate them.  I've never "gotten" the relationship.

Not to say that lesbian relationships are perfect either, though.


Women biatch about men endlessly, too.

People just like to biatch.
 
2013-04-15 03:53:09 AM  
I just want to wish all of you good luck.

*flees from thread*

*screaming in fear*
 
2013-04-15 03:57:12 AM  
DUH. How many people do you know that can read five different languages at the same time, with at least two of them being printed backwards and a third upside down?

Call me when you've finished that "wetness of water" report, will you?
 
2013-04-15 03:58:35 AM  
 img1.fark.netWomen are biatches.
 
2013-04-15 03:59:24 AM  
Maybe we could understand you better if you didn't have so many mood swings for no apparent reason.
 
2013-04-15 03:59:37 AM  
 
2013-04-15 04:00:05 AM  
I defer to the argument made in Malcolm in the Middle. "We're just too stupid."
 
2013-04-15 04:07:02 AM  
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2013-04-15 04:10:16 AM  
First, you probably wouldn't be better off with a lesbian translating for you. My wife is a very social person, I'm forced to know far too many people, and the lesbian couples are by far  the unhealthiest relationships. Yeah yeah, anecdotal evidence, but not one of these couple isn't either verbally, emotionally, or physically abusive.

Second, if your girl doesn't like you staring at her tits from time to time, you're probably with the wrong person. If she has a huge problem with you staring at OTHER tits from time to time, you're probably with the wrong person. Guys like tits. My wife would rather I check out tits then some dudes package.

Third, if you can't read your girls emotions and you've been together some reasonable amount of time, you're either with the wrong person or she doesn't trust you, or she's being deliberately obtuse. My wife and i are in our early 30's and have been together since we were in our teens. I could read her long before she could read me. If anything, we can read each other TOO well now.

Fourth, do nice stuff for your wife/gf, The simplest efforts can often pay off immensely. If you don't know what she wants for her birthday/christmas, you're not her nearly enough attention.
 
2013-04-15 04:10:56 AM  
So essentially all men are borderline autistic. Sounds about right.
 
2013-04-15 04:12:08 AM  

quatchi: Benevolent Misanthrope: tits.

*looks around frantically*

Where? Where?

Oh, you were making a point. Sorry.


Two points, actually.
 
2013-04-15 04:13:00 AM  
i293.photobucket.com

/Obligs.
 
2013-04-15 04:13:57 AM  

Ed Grubermann: Two points, actually.


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2013-04-15 04:14:48 AM  

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2013-04-15 04:16:19 AM  

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Ha! I finally came in first in one of those "post the oblig pic" contests!

Victory is mine!
 
2013-04-15 04:16:33 AM  
I'm convinced my wife has conversations with her mother and her sister about things she thinks she has with me. Then, when she brings it up, I'm accused of never listening. I'm sure I'm guilty of not listening sometimes, but not EVERY time.
 
2013-04-15 04:17:31 AM  
How about people who think all women are the same or all men are the same and then get all confused because they assumed the last one they dated was going to think/feel/react exactly the same as the one before? Which is a bit stupid considering people can be radically different from one another despite being the same sex.

A lot of people read other people's emotions wrong because they project their own ideas onto that person. They assume the other person is going to have emotions much like theirs. Kind of a crapshoot to be doing that. "I think you're angry because you're sitting there like that and doing this and I think you're angry because of this certain thing." And you're like "First, I'm not angry and second, I have no idea what you're talking about. I was thinking I am almost out of raspberry jam."
 
2013-04-15 04:18:07 AM  
Damnit!
 
2013-04-15 04:20:30 AM  

FunkOut: I was thinking I am almost out of raspberry jam."


i293.photobucket.com
 
2013-04-15 04:21:47 AM  

FunkOut: A lot of people read other people's emotions wrong because they project their own ideas onto that person. They assume the other person is going to have emotions much like theirs. Kind of a crapshoot to be doing that. "I think you're angry because you're sitting there like that and doing this and I think you're angry because of this certain thing." And you're like "First, I'm not angry and second, I have no idea what you're talking about. I was thinking I am almost out of raspberry jam."


content8.flixster.com
 
2013-04-15 04:24:13 AM  
Men want things to be logical, we like things simple.  Most of the times if we don't say thank you or please for the nice dinner it's because we were not thinking.

A simple 'You could say thank you.' would suffice for most men who would then try  to remember for the next time.

The problem is it's usually not that easy because of these things called hormones.

It's a fact of life, hormones make you guys crazy at times. Male bs makes us dicks a lot of the times but we can learn to be less dickish.   It's pretty damn difficult from what I've seen to not sweat the small stuff when you have a chemical cocktail coursing through your veins.
 
2013-04-15 04:26:15 AM  
Men, don't try too hard to understand women.  Women understand women and they hate each other.
 
2013-04-15 04:30:52 AM  

FunkOut: A lot of people read other people's emotions wrong because they project their own ideas onto that person. They assume the other person is going to have emotions much like theirs. Kind of a crapshoot to be doing that. "I think you're angry because you're sitting there like that and doing this and I think you're angry because of this certain thing." And you're like "First, I'm not angry and second, I have no idea what you're talking about. I was thinking I am almost out of raspberry jam."


If I had a dollar for every time a friend thought I was doing rocket science in my head because of my facial expression.. when I was actually trying to decide whether to wake up early the next day to grab some donuts...
 
2013-04-15 04:31:21 AM  

Foxxinnia: So essentially all men are borderline autistic. Sounds about right.


No, we're just not overly emotional about every little thing.
 
2013-04-15 04:32:34 AM  
Is no one else jealous of the free MRI time?

I love MRIs! If there's one thing I want, it's more pictures of my brain.

I've only ever had one, and it was only a 1.5 Tesla. Hard to get insurance to pay for them.
 
2013-04-15 04:37:03 AM  
The problem is that men understand women all too well.  This makes them angry.
 
2013-04-15 04:40:33 AM  
Yes we can, it's just that we're busy having our own emotions at the same time.  We need to stop infantalizing women and tricking them into thinking they're being empowered.

/like showing us your tits really makes you stronger?
//sucker...
 
2013-04-15 04:40:52 AM  

Abacus9: Foxxinnia: So essentially all men are borderline autistic. Sounds about right.

No, we're just not overly emotional about every little thing.


I think most humans are emotional over what could be called little things. But you just disagree on which things are the right things to get emotional about.

"Amy told Sarah she hated my haircut after she told me it was cute! I have been betrayed!"

"Jimmy James totally committed a foul and the ref didn't call it! We should disembowel them both!"

"I worked 2 hours on this meal to present to you even though you didn't request it and now you have not given me the requisite emotional response which involves non-forced smiling, certain body language, and a verbal response expressing love for me for doing that uses a warm and welcoming tone. You must now consume this food while acting as though you enjoy it in order to prove you are a decent human being."
 
2013-04-15 04:43:36 AM  

HotWingAgenda: FunkOut: A lot of people read other people's emotions wrong because they project their own ideas onto that person. They assume the other person is going to have emotions much like theirs. Kind of a crapshoot to be doing that. "I think you're angry because you're sitting there like that and doing this and I think you're angry because of this certain thing." And you're like "First, I'm not angry and second, I have no idea what you're talking about. I was thinking I am almost out of raspberry jam."

If I had a dollar for every time a friend thought I was doing rocket science in my head because of my facial expression.. when I was actually trying to decide whether to wake up early the next day to grab some donuts...


Heh. "You seem very serious. Is...something wrong? You can tell me."

"Yeah...what was the name of that black guy that was Matlock's sidekick? It's driving me crazy and I don't want to give in to Google."
 
2013-04-15 04:50:43 AM  
Benevolent Misanthrope:

Not to say that lesbian relationships are perfect either, though.

When I think about the typical female behavior when there's an argument between a couple, I don't understand how lesbians aren't serial killers.
The guy is there to take the psychological (and sometimes physical) beating with a smile- he knows it's just not worth it to offer resistance. Evolution has given him the mental shield to block it out most of the time.
Two women having an argument in a relationship? I just hope they're never in charge of a standing army.
 
2013-04-15 05:00:07 AM  
It's a cliché that men just don't understand women.

Cliche?  CLICHE?  Its not a cliche if it is completely true more than %50 of the time....
 
2013-04-15 05:01:20 AM  
Read the article.  It says the studie showed men had more trouble judging women's emotions compared to to other men's emotions.

This study is not something to readily draw conclusions from though.  All they did was look at static, disembodied pictures of eyeballs.  Perhaps men judge women's emotions more from other parts of their face or body.

My guess would be that men would more easily read certain kinds of emotions from women and other kinds of emotions from other men.
 
2013-04-15 05:01:50 AM  
Well theres no accounting for crazy
 
2013-04-15 05:03:36 AM  

Benevolent Misanthrope: Speaking as a woman, I hate that passive-aggressive bullshiat. That and "If you don't know, then I'm not going to tell you."


I've reached the age where I know longer tolerate that shiat.  The last time a woman pulled that with me, I said, "fark that", and walked out.  I also don't putting up with those teenage level games of "I'm going to pretend to break up so you can prove you care by fighting to get me back."  She was a bit shocked when I said, 'we're done?  Bye."  And didn't call her.  I'm middle aged, not a damn teenager.   How hard is it to just be adults, for gods sakes?
 
2013-04-15 05:05:24 AM  

Dion Fortune: Read the article.  It says the studie showed men had more trouble judging women's emotions compared to to other men's emotions.

This study is not something to readily draw conclusions from though.  All they did was look at static, disembodied pictures of eyeballs.  Perhaps men judge women's emotions more from other parts of their face or body.

My guess would be that men would more easily read certain kinds of emotions from women and other kinds of emotions from other men.


Plus I dont think 22 men are statistically significant.

/not a statistician.
 
2013-04-15 05:07:36 AM  

OgreMagi: Benevolent Misanthrope: Speaking as a woman, I hate that passive-aggressive bullshiat. That and "If you don't know, then I'm not going to tell you."

I've reached the age where I know longer tolerate that shiat.  The last time a woman pulled that with me, I said, "fark that", and walked out.  I also don't putting up with those teenage level games of "I'm going to pretend to break up so you can prove you care by fighting to get me back."  She was a bit shocked when I said, 'we're done?  Bye."  And didn't call her.  I'm middle aged, not a damn teenager.   How hard is it to just be adults, for gods sakes?


Funny, when I say stuff like that, my friends always remind me that Im single.
 
2013-04-15 05:11:43 AM  

Steak_Cake_Sause: OgreMagi: Benevolent Misanthrope: Speaking as a woman, I hate that passive-aggressive bullshiat. That and "If you don't know, then I'm not going to tell you."

I've reached the age where I know longer tolerate that shiat.  The last time a woman pulled that with me, I said, "fark that", and walked out.  I also don't putting up with those teenage level games of "I'm going to pretend to break up so you can prove you care by fighting to get me back."  She was a bit shocked when I said, 'we're done?  Bye."  And didn't call her.  I'm middle aged, not a damn teenager.   How hard is it to just be adults, for gods sakes?

Funny, when I say stuff like that, my friends always remind me that Im single.


That's the downside of not putting up with the bullshiat.
 
2013-04-15 05:13:59 AM  

FunkOut: Abacus9: Foxxinnia: So essentially all men are borderline autistic. Sounds about right.

No, we're just not overly emotional about every little thing.

I think most humans are emotional over what could be called little things. But you just disagree on which things are the right things to get emotional about.

"Amy told Sarah she hated my haircut after she told me it was cute! I have been betrayed!"

"Jimmy James totally committed a foul and the ref didn't call it! We should disembowel them both!"

"I worked 2 hours on this meal to present to you even though you didn't request it and now you have not given me the requisite emotional response which involves non-forced smiling, certain body language, and a verbal response expressing love for me for doing that uses a warm and welcoming tone. You must now consume this food while acting as though you enjoy it in order to prove you are a decent human being."


That's not really what I mean. All of your examples are mildly irritating, but when I say "overly emotional" I'm talking about the proportionality of the response. It's not strange to get a little irked by these things, but if it ruins your whole day, then maybe you're overly emotional.

Let me add that you've never met my wife. She sometimes gets mad at me if she doesn't like something someone else says on TV or the radio. This is what I would call overly emotional.
 
2013-04-15 05:16:04 AM  
it's true, watching a chick flick is like watching a foreign language film without subtitles.
 
2013-04-15 05:16:06 AM  

OgreMagi: Steak_Cake_Sause: OgreMagi: Benevolent Misanthrope: Speaking as a woman, I hate that passive-aggressive bullshiat. That and "If you don't know, then I'm not going to tell you."

I've reached the age where I know longer tolerate that shiat.  The last time a woman pulled that with me, I said, "fark that", and walked out.  I also don't putting up with those teenage level games of "I'm going to pretend to break up so you can prove you care by fighting to get me back."  She was a bit shocked when I said, 'we're done?  Bye."  And didn't call her.  I'm middle aged, not a damn teenager.   How hard is it to just be adults, for gods sakes?

Funny, when I say stuff like that, my friends always remind me that Im single.

That's the downside of not putting up with the bullshiat.


I wouldn't really call it a downside considering the alternative.
 
2013-04-15 05:18:07 AM  

Benevolent Misanthrope: Seriously, guys, if you don't like the women you are farking, why stay with them?


After trying a few, they all go mental after they decide they can drop the act, normally about 3 weeks after you say "I love you" for the first time...

darkjezter: Men, don't try too hard to understand women.  Women understand women and they hate each other.


The women who don`t hate women just don`t understand them. Benevolent Misanthrope being a good example, loves women, doesn`t understand them.

If you understand women it becomes impossible to love them. Same as men. Problem is, most women understand most men...
 
2013-04-15 05:18:39 AM  
"I'm for comin' n goin', know what I mean, bro?"

--German eyeball researcher
 
2013-04-15 05:19:52 AM  

Abacus9: She sometimes gets mad at me if she doesn't like something someone else says on TV or the radio. This is what I would call overly emotional.


It's because you're not respecting her "family".

/obscure (not really)
 
2013-04-15 05:23:03 AM  
It's not that men can't read women's emotions, it's just that we really don't care.
 
2013-04-15 05:24:53 AM  

kxs401: This idea that women have some across-the-board tendency to "never tell what's wrong" breaks down when you note that the same people who ask this question also find themselves complaining about women's nagging, or the dreaded "can we talk" question, so it's pretty clear their women are pretty vocal about stating what's wrong in a variety of situations.


Pherhaps.


kxs401: But sometimes a woman won't answer that question, usually because she sees it as a no-win dilemma.


Then she shouldnt be throwing a biatch fit.


kxs401: The second possibility is that what you did wrong is so glaringly obvious (to her) that she realizes she has entered into a relationship with a man who cannot grasp a person's most basic needs without being given a laminated chart every day. She is envisioning a lifetime of constantly giving explanations about why it is wrong to skip her birthday to get drunk with his friends, or flirt with 16-year-olds in an online game. Why push that boulder up that hill today? It's not like she won't get to do it a thousand times more.


Sounds like shes not cut out for a long term relationship.


kxs401: A third possibility is that it's something she wanted you to do on your own initiative, like compliment her haircut or ask about her day. These things don't really mean a lot when done mechanically, which is what's going to happen if she says, "What's wrong is I wanted you to ask about my day," and you say, "Oh, of course, tell me about your day." That setup doesn't leave one convinced that you actually want to hear about her day. And compliments given on command are pretty worthless too.


Maybe shes with the wrong person. Or maybe its unreasonable to expect that. I dont get in a huff when friends dont ask about my day. If theres something I want to talk about, I bring it up myself.
 
2013-04-15 05:25:25 AM  

OgreMagi: Benevolent Misanthrope: Speaking as a woman, I hate that passive-aggressive bullshiat. That and "If you don't know, then I'm not going to tell you."

I've reached the age where I know longer tolerate that shiat.  The last time a woman pulled that with me, I said, "fark that", and walked out.  I also don't putting up with those teenage level games of "I'm going to pretend to break up so you can prove you care by fighting to get me back."  She was a bit shocked when I said, 'we're done?  Bye."  And didn't call her.  I'm middle aged, not a damn teenager.   How hard is it to just be adults, for gods sakes?


That makes me think of you as a middle age guy chasing around after women like, you know...a teenager.
 
2013-04-15 05:27:03 AM  
To the men: It's been stated already - Stop projecting, and enjoy a cold beverage.

To the women: I, too, know what it feels like to be thirsty. I too have had a dry mouth.
 
2013-04-15 05:28:38 AM  
This study is flawed and comes to the wrong conclusion.
Men DO understand woman, at least once they reach a certain age.  What they understand is this: women are generally selfish and irrational.  And they lie.  So when they show a man a picture of a woman's eyes, they can't say "this is a look of terror" because men have learned that a womans emotional communication is usually not even close to whatever crazy thing they are actually feeling, but in the end it will be some sort of petty self centered way of manipulating the man.
Think about it: that picture is not actually a picture of terror, it is a picture of someone acting like they are in terror.  You cannot actually read an actors face, and since most women are acting so much, men don't benefit from being able to distinguish emotions on a woman's face.
 
2013-04-15 05:31:00 AM  
officeforward.com
 
2013-04-15 05:31:43 AM  
onecrazylay:  To the women: I, too, know what it feels like to be thirsty. I too have had a dry mouth.

lulz. Like 15 years ago, my buddies and I would sometimes go to this Taco Bell that had an employee who sounded like Rosie Perez. She did not enjoy when we asked if they had any foods that stahted wit' da lettah Q.

Good times.
 
2013-04-15 05:32:26 AM  

SpaceBison: It's not that men can't read women's emotions, it's just that we really don't care.


Don't... "Don't care?"
 
2013-04-15 05:38:04 AM  

luxup: OgreMagi: Benevolent Misanthrope: Speaking as a woman, I hate that passive-aggressive bullshiat. That and "If you don't know, then I'm not going to tell you."

I've reached the age where I know longer tolerate that shiat.  The last time a woman pulled that with me, I said, "fark that", and walked out.  I also don't putting up with those teenage level games of "I'm going to pretend to break up so you can prove you care by fighting to get me back."  She was a bit shocked when I said, 'we're done?  Bye."  And didn't call her.  I'm middle aged, not a damn teenager.   How hard is it to just be adults, for gods sakes?

That makes me think of you as a middle age guy chasing around after women like, you know...a teenager.


Oh, hell no.  They're too annoying.  My problem is with women who should have grown out of that phase a long time ago, but haven't.  I figure I just have bad luck and not all women are like that.
 
2013-04-15 05:42:09 AM  
Abacus9:
That's not really what I mean. All of your examples are mildly irritating, but when I say "overly emotional" I'm talking about the proportionality of the response. It's not strange to get a little irked by these things, but if it ruins your whole day, then maybe you're overly emotional.

Let me add that you've never met my wife. She sometimes gets mad at me if she doesn't like something someone else says on TV or the radio. This is what I would call overly emotional.


Ah, I see. That last example I gave, about the meal, I have had a male and a female go completely nutso concerning that to me. "I COOKED YOU THIS FOOD AND YOU ARE NOT EMOTING ENOUGH ABOUT MY GIFT TO YOU! YOU DON'T LOVE ME!"  They're ready to flip the dinner table over because you didn't "sound" happy enough.
 
2013-04-15 05:42:36 AM  

Steak_Cake_Sause: or the dreaded "can we talk" question,


All too often "can we talk" just means, "I'm going to biatch at you."  "Talk" implies a discussion.  Really what she meant was, "I'm going to lecture you."

When my ex and I went a a marriage counselor, one week she would say one thing, then the next week the exact opposite.  Even the counselor caller her out on that.  Which, of course, meant it was time to find a new marriage counselor.
 
2013-04-15 05:42:38 AM  

R.A.Danny: And men are never dicks.


The one mitigating factor about men being dicks (we are) is that you almost always know where you stand. It's why you'll often hear straight men bemoaning not having been born gay so as to have avoided a lifetime of cryptic comments or passive-aggressive notes left on the fridge. When a man is irritated, you know it. And it's typically over as soon as it starts.

I can't recall a single time in my life where I've used a girlfriend's forgetting to feed the dog once in 2004 as the basis of an argument I had just last week. That's just not how the majority of us are wired. And we treat other males the same way: Argument today - one pays the whole bar tab tomorrow.

Male deception is also comparably simple. In fact, the simplicity is the only reason we do it, because everyone knows we can't multi-task. A majority of women, in my experience, prefer the convoluted web of deceit over the basic, blunt "Nah baby I was over at Frank's watching the game."

Going back to the "bringing up ancient slights, no matter how minor, in a current argument years later" thing: I had a long-term, live-in GF and we decided to move across town. The day we were to clean up the old apartment was July 4th. She knew that friends of mine had a big BBQ planned, and offered me to go, saying that all that was left was a quick mop and vacuum (we had both cleaned the bathroom and kitchen days prior). So after the requisite, "Are you sure? because it's just a BBQ. I don't want you doing that by yourself" routine, she more or less insisted I have fun with friends, and that she would join later.

YEARS LATER...literally YEARS LATER we're in some stupid argument about god knows what and she brings up that I was too inconsiderate to help her clean the old apartment. So I'm all, "Why don't you just tell me what you're actually angry about, INSTEAD OF MAKING ME GUESS EVERY TIME?" Maybe then I can correct whatever it is that I'm doing wrong. I know it had nothing to do with mopping a floor lo those years ago.

Thing is, she wasn't the first, and wasn't the last to pull this stunt. So ladies, if you want men to read your emotions, maybe try talking to us? If you're angry that I left my socks on the floor, will you just tell me instead of bringing it up the next time you can't decide where you want to go for dinner?

Understand that these are just anecdotal examples. But fark, I'm on the wrong side of 30. and though I've not conducted any legitimate studies, It's not exactly my first rodeo.
 
2013-04-15 05:44:04 AM  

SpaceBison: [officeforward.com image 406x1023]


Why did they use a lesbian head? And why are all the faces various stages of passing gas?
 
2013-04-15 05:44:34 AM  

OgreMagi: luxup: OgreMagi: Benevolent Misanthrope: Speaking as a woman, I hate that passive-aggressive bullshiat. That and "If you don't know, then I'm not going to tell you."

I've reached the age where I know longer tolerate that shiat.  The last time a woman pulled that with me, I said, "fark that", and walked out.  I also don't putting up with those teenage level games of "I'm going to pretend to break up so you can prove you care by fighting to get me back."  She was a bit shocked when I said, 'we're done?  Bye."  And didn't call her.  I'm middle aged, not a damn teenager.   How hard is it to just be adults, for gods sakes?

That makes me think of you as a middle age guy chasing around after women like, you know...a teenager.

Oh, hell no.  They're too annoying.  My problem is with women who should have grown out of that phase a long time ago, but haven't.  I figure I just have bad luck and not all women are like that.


Or all the good ones are taken already and your left with the dregs?

/lots of post from me tonight. cant sleep.
 
2013-04-15 05:50:11 AM  

dickfreckle: It's why you'll often hear straight men bemoaning not having been born gay so as to have avoided a lifetime of cryptic comments or passive-aggressive notes left on the fridge.


Speaking as a straight man who has had his share of gay friends... gay guys make cryptic comments to their boyfriends all the time.  And it bugs the hell out of them.
 
2013-04-15 05:54:35 AM  

OgreMagi: Steak_Cake_Sause: or the dreaded "can we talk" question,

All too often "can we talk" just means, "I'm going to biatch at you."  "Talk" implies a discussion.  Really what she meant was, "I'm going to lecture you."

When my ex and I went a a marriage counselor, one week she would say one thing, then the next week the exact opposite.  Even the counselor caller her out on that.  Which, of course, meant it was time to find a new marriage counselor.


She sounds immature if she cant acknowledge she was doing that.
 
2013-04-15 05:56:00 AM  

FunkOut: Abacus9:
That's not really what I mean. All of your examples are mildly irritating, but when I say "overly emotional" I'm talking about the proportionality of the response. It's not strange to get a little irked by these things, but if it ruins your whole day, then maybe you're overly emotional.

Let me add that you've never met my wife. She sometimes gets mad at me if she doesn't like something someone else says on TV or the radio. This is what I would call overly emotional.

Ah, I see. That last example I gave, about the meal, I have had a male and a female go completely nutso concerning that to me. "I COOKED YOU THIS FOOD AND YOU ARE NOT EMOTING ENOUGH ABOUT MY GIFT TO YOU! YOU DON'T LOVE ME!"  They're ready to flip the dinner table over because you didn't "sound" happy enough.


We've been through that one too, but not as much as the people you're talking about. If she cooks dinner for us, and I don't want any, she just gets a little disappointed about it and sometimes acts like I don't like her cooking. So I try to eat anything she makes me, and she is a good cook, I'm just not always hungry, and I don't like some of the things she makes.
 
2013-04-15 05:56:38 AM  

SpaceBison: [officeforward.com image 406x1023]


From left to right, top to bottom:

Smells a fart, concentrating on work/athletic endeavor, confused and bewildered
knows something you don't know which she thinks is funny, courtesy smile, thinking about sex
sad puppy face, dropping a deuce, about to jam a foot up someone's ass
"oh shiat I just made a mistake" face, pissed off but not willing to negotiate, blank expression
 
2013-04-15 05:58:00 AM  
Bullshiat.  I know angry dish washing when I hear it.
 
2013-04-15 05:58:50 AM  
I've never understood the expectation that everyone is a mind-reader, especially your SO.  Hell, I've apologized to my bf when I've not communicated clearly and tried to clear up any misconceptions without getting pissed.  If I didn't understand what he was saying, I asked for clarification.
 
2013-04-15 05:59:42 AM  
Am I the only one who finds this a creepy and unwarranted conclusion?

The findings suggest that men are worse at reading women's emotions. This "theory of mind" is one of the foundations for empathy, so the deficit could lead men to have less empathy for women relative to men, the researchers write.

A fMRI merely tracks blood flow and ascribing very specific meaning to brain processes based on how much blood is going somewhere is questionable at best.
 
2013-04-15 06:05:27 AM  

Dion Fortune: This study is not something to readily draw conclusions from though.  All they did was look at static, disembodied pictures of eyeballs.  Perhaps men judge women's emotions more from other parts of their face or body.


Men look at women's eyes???
 
2013-04-15 06:05:51 AM  

DerAppie: Am I the only one who finds this a creepy and unwarranted conclusion?

The findings suggest that men are worse at reading women's emotions. This "theory of mind" is one of the foundations for empathy, so the deficit could lead men to have less empathy for women relative to men, the researchers write.

A fMRI merely tracks blood flow and ascribing very specific meaning to brain processes based on how much blood is going somewhere is questionable at best.


I see what you did there. And I'm offended. :{
 
2013-04-15 06:07:00 AM  

HotWingAgenda: dickfreckle: It's why you'll often hear straight men bemoaning not having been born gay so as to have avoided a lifetime of cryptic comments or passive-aggressive notes left on the fridge.

Speaking as a straight man who has had his share of gay friends... gay guys make cryptic comments to their boyfriends all the time.  And it bugs the hell out of them.


Yeah, but I bet they will still blow each other.
 
2013-04-15 06:07:54 AM  

DemonEater: Dion Fortune: This study is not something to readily draw conclusions from though.  All they did was look at static, disembodied pictures of eyeballs.  Perhaps men judge women's emotions more from other parts of their face or body.

Men look at women's eyes???


Only when lying very very hard.
 
2013-04-15 06:16:53 AM  

FunkOut: SpaceBison: [officeforward.com image 406x1023]

Why did they use a lesbian head? And why are all the faces various stages of passing gas?


Ultimately, every face is a stage of passing gas.

/this is my triumphant face
 
2013-04-15 06:24:46 AM  
fark you Fark Mods. Why dont you try TF-ing a thread from the get-go instead of waiting for 150 comments. Jackholes. Now Im going to turn Ad-block back on.
 
2013-04-15 06:40:25 AM  
My wife's best friend is a lesbian and i've been privy to witness several of her arguments with whoever she was dating at the time...

That shiat is so dramatic and full of passive aggressive bullshiat that i had to literally put a ban on it at my house... The rule is, drama gets left at the door or you will go home until it's over...

There's nothing more soul sucking than hearing an argument take place over a cell phone, then after watching them hang up on the other person in frustration, have them turn around and try dragging me or my family into her maelstrom of drama because of an argument that started with her SO letting her dog shiat in the apartment, that ended with angry tears and wondering why she can't stop loving her SO despite the fact that it took the last 4 HOURS to list all the crap wrong with their relationship...

Yeah, guys, when your female SO brings up that incident that happened 2 years ago at her mom's house and she was doing you a favor and trying not to start a fight in front of her mother "so she didn't think bad of you" ... imagine 2 women doing that over the course of 6 hours and that's the sort of arguments i've witnessed lesbians have, be thankful you aren't wired like that...
 
2013-04-15 06:43:30 AM  

FunkOut: SpaceBison: [officeforward.com image 406x1023]

Why did they use a lesbian head? And why are all the faces various stages of passing gas?


The most current theory on women's emotional states is that they are not dictated by external interactions, but by varying internal gas pressures. And the moon.
 
2013-04-15 06:55:48 AM  
SpaceBison: facial expressions

Is the joke that only some of the descriptions don't match the actual expressions being made? Because there's no way I'd describe upper top left as "lifted eyebrows." Just enough of them seem accurate to wonder if the entire piece is meant to be taken semi-seriously, but then just enough are different to make me wonder if I'm too dumb to understand that it's an obvious joke.
 
2013-04-15 06:56:50 AM  
Judas priest, who would want to?!
 
2013-04-15 07:03:33 AM  
They ran up a bunch of hours on the MRI machine but didn't use the machine that goes "ping!".   Study is incomplete.
 
2013-04-15 07:04:58 AM  

SpaceBison: [officeforward.com image 406x1023]


I notice there is not an image for a genuine smile, gratitude or genuine happiness...

Seems legit.
 
2013-04-15 07:27:05 AM  

bighairyguy: They ran up a bunch of hours on the MRI machine but didn't use the machine that goes "ping!".   Study is incomplete.


Thats because the machine that goes !Ping! can only be billed at $50 an hour, whereas the MRI can be billed at $1750 an hour.
 
2013-04-15 07:36:43 AM  
Subby is an idiot.

Nowhere in the article does it state that the study was funded by taxpayer dollars, and even if it was, you would have to pay taxes in Germany for subby's moronic headline to be true.
 
2013-04-15 07:37:46 AM  
farm9.staticflickr.com
 
2013-04-15 07:55:06 AM  

Mentat: The Man:

"Yes Dear" = "I know where this is going.  There is literally nothing I can say or do to win.  If I counter your emotional bullshiat with logic, you'll say I'm talking down to you.  If I lose my temper, you'll say I'm bullying you.  If I don't do anything, you'll say I'm emotionally crippled.  So I'm just going to say and do the absolute bare minimum in the hopes that you'll stomp off for a few hours so I can have some peace.  When you've decided I've been punished enough, you'll 'forgive' me for whatever it is I did and I'll pretend like you're right and then we'll start the entire thing over again in three days when I make an off-hand comment suggesting I'm not looking forward to your mother's visit or when I get a slight boner when you complain about your hot sister wasting $5000 on a boob job.  I mean, let's be honest.  We both know I saw her in her underwear last year when I accidentally walked in on her changing clothes in our bedroom and we both know that she engineered that little fiasco in order to piss you off because she loves to push your buttons.  Besides, what the fark do you care what she does with her money?  What else is she going to do with it?  She's a farking 'social media strategist'.  What the hell does that even mean?  Oh right, it means 'OMG I'm 35 years old and unemployed because the powers that be think I'm a technological dinosaur!  Can I move in with you?'  And of course you'll say yes and you'll be glaring at me the whole time, but I can promise you I won't want to fark that at 35.  I've seen pictures of your mother at 22 and 35 and I can see where this is going.  Social media strategist my ass.  I worked at a god damn dotcom.  I helped invent the streaming video algorithm that YouTube uses, and yet now I have to listen to some punk ass 21 year old tell me that I don't understand technology?  Let's see what Johnny McShiatsALot can do the next time the servers go down and I decide to call in sick.  Have fun in the cloud asshole. ...


www.reactiongifs.com
 
2013-04-15 08:05:27 AM  

treecologist: Subby is an idiot.

Nowhere in the article does it state that the study was funded by taxpayer dollars, and even if it was, you would have to pay taxes in Germany for subby's moronic headline to be true.


Did subby allude to taxpayers footing the bill or am I missing something?
 
2013-04-15 08:18:40 AM  

MayoSlather: treecologist: Subby is an idiot.

Nowhere in the article does it state that the study was funded by taxpayer dollars, and even if it was, you would have to pay taxes in Germany for subby's moronic headline to be true.

Did subby allude to taxpayers footing the bill or am I missing something?


Yeah, I read it that the "you" was directed at the unspecified person or entity who funded the study, not you the reader.
 
2013-04-15 08:19:49 AM  
I don't really think the issue is "women", but "people".  Men complain about how "women" behave in a relationship because that's the only subset of the population a majority of them try to have a relationship with.  If men dated men and women equally, they'd probably discover that these attitudes are pretty universal across genders.

/if men can't understand women, it's a deficiency in women.  If women can't understand men, it's a deficiency in women.  In reality, people are just bad at understanding other people.
 
2013-04-15 08:28:46 AM  

Fast Moon: I don't really think the issue is "women", but "people".  Men complain about how "women" behave in a relationship because that's the only subset of the population a majority of them try to have a relationship with.  If men dated men and women equally, they'd probably discover that these attitudes are pretty universal across genders.

/if men can't understand women, it's a deficiency in women.  If women can't understand men, it's a deficiency in women.  In reality, people are just bad at understanding other people.


But that is not what is said.

Men say "I can`t understand women" and also say "I can understand men"

women say "Men are easy to understand" but then say "I can`t understand women, sometimes not even myself"

So your premise fails on basic principles.

My theory goes :

Women make it hard for everyone to understand them to the point that sometimes they don`t understand themselves.

Men try to have an easy life so they are easy to understand.

It seems to fit the data...
 
2013-04-15 08:30:21 AM  
I'm always angering women with my apparent indifference to them when I'm just shy and confused by them. My lack of self-esteem prevents me from reacting to them even when I think I may have detected correctly that they're interested in me. Maybe I'm a touch autistic and just don't notice social cues.
 
2013-04-15 08:32:20 AM  
her: I'm hungry.  Let's get lunch.
me: OK.  This is your old neighborhood.  What's good around here?
her: Guh, you always make me pick.  You're so indecisive.
me: ok, I think I saw a Chinese place back there that looked pretty good.
her: No, I don't want Chinese.
me: Tacos?
her: I had tacos on Tuesday...
me: Fark you, I'm getting Chinese.  See you later.
 
2013-04-15 08:38:06 AM  

SpaceBison: It's not that men can't read women's emotions, it's just that we really don't care.


This. Hit your mid teens (or for some mid 20's) and you've had it up to farking here.
 
2013-04-15 08:46:20 AM  

quatchi: jtown: aerojockey: [www.aerojockey.com image 640x247]

[jonesview.files.wordpress.com image 500x308]

Ha! I finally came in first in one of those "post the oblig pic" contests!

Victory is mine!


Not only did you come in first, yours is bigger.

/not that it matters
 
2013-04-15 08:47:12 AM  
"From today's 'you actually paid for this study' news: "

Look, don't be a jerk about this.  You know as well as I do that if someone offered you 500k a year for five years you'd study the chemical make up of Badger semen.  DON'T blow a brothers Gravy Train.

I've seen this in the Arts as well.  Artist gets huge grant to produce massive painting.  Starts with best intentions, promises 2year delivery date.  728 days later the cleaning lady found me  .  .  . finds artist passed out on the studio floor.  I  .  .  .  artist whips out conceptual piece in 12 hours.  Patron knows what went on but needs to save face.  Paining goes on tour to critical acclaim because nobody wants to be the kid pointing at the emperor.

 get in line for your share . . .
 
2013-04-15 08:52:49 AM  
dready zim:
But that is not what is said.

Men say "I can`t understand women" and also say "I can understand men"

women say "Men are easy to understand" but then say "I can`t understand women, sometimes not even myself"


But that's not what the article said, either.  The article didn't say anything about how women reacted in the same controlled conditions.  All it said was that men's brains become more apathetic when faced with a female emotional response as opposed to a male one, rendering it harder to judge.  The conclusion wasn't that women are harder to read, but that men just don't care enough to interpret them.  Otherwise the results would have shown the brain working equally hard at interpreting both, but just got the female one wrong with higher frequency.
 
2013-04-15 09:05:04 AM  
Women have emotions?
 
2013-04-15 09:09:30 AM  

Foxxinnia: So essentially all men are borderline autistic. Sounds about right.


In other news, "autistic" now means "doesn't posses psychic superpowers."

/the hilarious thing is, women are just as "autistic" as men
//the source of nearly all the drama women are known for stems from their fundamental belief that they're psychic, when they're actually not
 
2013-04-15 09:09:43 AM  
Yay, it's another thread to make me feel better about being Forever Alone.
 
2013-04-15 09:11:50 AM  

Benevolent Misanthrope: Seriously, guys, if you don't like the women you are farking, why stay with them?


Because the girl I'm farking has a better sense of humor than you do?
 
2013-04-15 09:13:37 AM  

Tatterdemalian: Foxxinnia: So essentially all men are borderline autistic. Sounds about right.

In other news, "autistic" now means "doesn't posses psychic superpowers."

/the hilarious thing is, women are just as "autistic" as men
//the source of nearly all the drama women are known for stems from their fundamental belief that they're psychic, when they're actually not


My FWB (and occasionally more) actually said to me during a discussion that even though I don't fully understand what she's saying, it isn't on her to actually impart more information. It's on me to come to conclusions based on the partial picture she's given me. I'm STILL trying to wrap my head around that one.
 
2013-04-15 09:15:44 AM  
There is a very useful way of dealing with emotional people - I just live with the knowledge that I cannot control another persons emotions. They are going to feel however they want to because emotions really are a choice based on how you've decided to look at a situation. If you don't like how you feel, change the way you look at the situation. Emotions are not at all complicated; its the people who have them that have the issues. Once someone comes to this realization about emotions, all drama falls away and life becomes so much easier to live without other peoples complications.
 
2013-04-15 09:20:02 AM  

SurfaceTension: Tatterdemalian: Foxxinnia: So essentially all men are borderline autistic. Sounds about right.

In other news, "autistic" now means "doesn't posses psychic superpowers."

/the hilarious thing is, women are just as "autistic" as men
//the source of nearly all the drama women are known for stems from their fundamental belief that they're psychic, when they're actually not

My FWB (and occasionally more) actually said to me during a discussion that even though I don't fully understand what she's saying, it isn't on her to actually impart more information. It's on me to come to conclusions based on the partial picture she's given me. I'm STILL trying to wrap my head around that one.


It means she wants you to do more stuff together, to increase the shared memories and experiences you both have to the point where you actually *can* know what she's saying without needing more than a few nonverbal clues. That's how body language really works, and the lack of a common frame of reference created by these shared experiences is how wires get crossed.

/everything is really much simpler to understand once you actually study it
//too bad this is often interpreted as "ruining the magic" (of ignorance, presumably)
 
2013-04-15 09:40:09 AM  
'Men have trouble reading emotion from the eyes of women.'

I thing this is true  When they roll their eyes in the back of their head, they might be feeling pretty good, or they might be feel not much at all because I put too much ether in the handkerchief.  It is hard to tell and in neither case are they speaking clearly.
 
2013-04-15 09:42:32 AM  
Stuck your dick in crazy, huh?
 
2013-04-15 09:49:14 AM  
I can read women just fine.  If you can't, that's your problem not hers.
 
2013-04-15 09:52:14 AM  

PanicMan: I can read women just fine.  If you can't, that's your problem not hers.


Your mom doesn't count.
 
2013-04-15 09:53:30 AM  

Abacus9: Foxxinnia: So essentially all men are borderline autistic. Sounds about right.

No, we're just not overly emotional about every little thing.


Tell me again why men commit so much more violent crime than women.
 
2013-04-15 10:06:37 AM  

Graffito: Abacus9: Foxxinnia: So essentially all men are borderline autistic. Sounds about right.

No, we're just not overly emotional about every little thing.

Tell me again why men commit so much more violent crime than women.


Because we can.

/and because it works, at least until we get caught
 
2013-04-15 10:11:24 AM  

Graffito: Abacus9: Foxxinnia: So essentially all men are borderline autistic. Sounds about right.

No, we're just not overly emotional about every little thing.

Tell me again why men commit so much more violent crime than women.


Well, emotionally-driven violent crime usually involves a woman.  Either you're beating her because she won't shut up about that one time you forgot to mow the lawn 5 years ago, or you're beating up some other guy for looking at her the wrong way, etc.
 
2013-04-15 10:28:52 AM  

kxs401: A third possibility is that it's something she wanted you to do on your own initiative, like compliment her haircut or ask about her day. These things don't really mean a lot when done mechanically, which is what's going to happen if she says, "What's wrong is I wanted you to ask about my day," and you say, "Oh, of course, tell me about your day." That setup doesn't leave one convinced that you actually want to hear about her day. And compliments given on command are pretty worthless too.


Maybe women need to marry someone who's been to weekly seminars on "How to notice new haircuts"?

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/09/17/the-onionobama-releases-5_n _7 20858.html


My mother has run a beauty salon for 40 years, and I literally grew up there, running around as a toddler, and later doing chores.  Women will spend a huge amount of money and mental effort thinking about hairstyles.  They will agonize of a small change in the shade of a highlight, and the magnitude of this change in their mind is huge, but in reality doesn't make a darn bit of difference.  The chances of a man noticing such a change is very small, and quite unreasonable.
 
2013-04-15 10:31:58 AM  

Tatterdemalian: Graffito: Abacus9: Foxxinnia: So essentially all men are borderline autistic. Sounds about right.

No, we're just not overly emotional about every little thing.

Tell me again why men commit so much more violent crime than women.

Because we can.

/and because it works, at least until we get caught


Exactly, women are just as violent as men.  They just aren't as effectual at it.
 
2013-04-15 10:32:01 AM  
It doesn't help that women get all emotional about every goddamn little thing that ever happens.
 
2013-04-15 10:50:04 AM  
I blame Botox.
 
2013-04-15 10:56:50 AM  

czei: Women will spend a huge amount of money and mental effort thinking about hairstyles.  They will agonize of a small change in the shade of a highlight, and the magnitude of this change in their mind is huge, but in reality doesn't make a darn bit of difference.   The chances of a man noticing such a change is very small, and quite unreasonable.


Women: I made this life changing decision and he didnt even notice.
Men: Wait, what? No sex again? WTF?!
 
2013-04-15 11:21:07 AM  
Women only have two emotions: pissed of and not-quite-so pissed off.
 
2013-04-15 11:34:08 AM  

Graffito: Abacus9: Foxxinnia: So essentially all men are borderline autistic. Sounds about right.

No, we're just not overly emotional about every little thing.

Tell me again why men commit so much more violent crime than women.


Because cutting off a Patriarchal Oppressor's penis while he sleeps is not considered a crime and if you say it is you hate women.
 
2013-04-15 11:36:28 AM  
Fast Moon:

The article didn't say anything about how women reacted in the same controlled conditions.  All it said was that men's brains become more apathetic when faced with a female emotional response as opposed to a male one, rendering it harder to judge.  The conclusion wasn't that women are harder to read, but that men just don't care enough to interpret them.

I think you're being unfair. Men aren't necessarily more "apathetic" with the female eyes. They took longer and were wrong more often, yes. Honestly it's probably because with the male eyes they could focus 100% on the question and answer easily, but with the female eyes they were distracted trying to discern what the rest of the face and also body looked like so they could decide whether they would fark her or not.
 
2013-04-15 11:40:00 AM  

Fafai: Fast Moon:

The article didn't say anything about how women reacted in the same controlled conditions.  All it said was that men's brains become more apathetic when faced with a female emotional response as opposed to a male one, rendering it harder to judge.  The conclusion wasn't that women are harder to read, but that men just don't care enough to interpret them.

I think you're being unfair. Men aren't necessarily more "apathetic" with the female eyes. They took longer and were wrong more often, yes. Honestly it's probably because with the male eyes they could focus 100% on the question and answer easily, but with the female eyes they were distracted trying to discern what the rest of the face and also body looked like so they could decide whether they would fark her or not.


so many different questions which were not even close to answered by the study
but they did show that different parts of the brain were lit up, which is a start

the study needed to include gay and lesbians to help get even more of a picture

wambu: Women only have two emotions: pissed of and not-quite-so pissed off.


You left out: They want something and vulnerable (which is probably part of "want something")
LOL
 
2013-04-15 11:41:33 AM  

WhippingBoy: Because cutting off a Patriarchal Oppressor's penis while he sleeps is not considered a crime and if you say it is you hate women.


You sound irrational and downright hysterical.
 
2013-04-15 11:43:54 AM  
This is getting kinda ugly. I'm just laughing at some of the idiosyncrasies between the sexes, which we have obviously blown out of proportion.
 
2013-04-15 12:05:35 PM  

Benevolent Misanthrope: Altair: Ghastly: "I'm fine." = I'm so pissed I could rip your balls off and shove them down your food hole.
"Do whatever you want." = There's only one appropriate thing you should do right now, but I'm not going to tell you what it is. However here's a hint, it is not whatever it is YOU want to do.

farking truth.

This is the shiat that comes from choosing your female companionship based on farkability points and not on whether you actually like her.  If you would like a word from the wise, from the other side of the fence... any woman can be absolute hell on wheels in bed, with the right encouragement.  Get to know her first, be sure you like her out of bed.  Then you avoid paying for poon with the other 23.75 hours of the day being a sheer misery of whining and manipulation.


I'm truly amazed at the bs some guys will put up with to get laid.
 
2013-04-15 12:14:18 PM  

SpaceBison: [officeforward.com image 406x1023]


I use "humble submission" to get what I want.

Me: "hooooneey can you get me my nail polish from the top shelf? I can't reach."

Him: "I'm busy playing God of War. Get the stool and get it yourself".

Me: "Pllleaasse????" *humble submission*

Him: "Okay fine. I'll get it".

Works like a charm. I figured it out when I was about 20 - I can get pretty much anything from any guy so long as I give him that look. It's super powerful.
 
2013-04-15 12:15:37 PM  

AbbeySomeone: I'm truly amazed at the bs some guys will put up with to get laid.


It takes more energy to find someone new than to just put up with the bs. Plus there's no guarantee the new person won't make you put up with a ton of bs, too.
 
2013-04-15 12:17:45 PM  

Lollipop165: SpaceBison: [officeforward.com image 406x1023]

I use "humble submission" to get what I want.

Me: "hooooneey can you get me my nail polish from the top shelf? I can't reach."

Him: "I'm busy playing God of War. Get the stool and get it yourself".

Me: "Pllleaasse????" *humble submission*

Him: "Okay fine. I'll get it".

Works like a charm. I figured it out when I was about 20 - I can get pretty much anything from any guy so long as I give him that look. It's super powerful.


This is a troll right?
 
2013-04-15 12:33:07 PM  

Benevolent Misanthrope: Mentat: The Man:

<whiny self-absorbed bullshiat>

Seriously, guys, if you don't like the women you are farking, why stay with them?


Maybe the guy can't afford to pay her court-mandated severance package?
 
2013-04-15 12:36:04 PM  

AbbeySomeone: I'm truly amazed at the bs some guys will put up with to get laid.


I think for most guys it's 50% visual, 40% society, 5% mental, 3% emotional, and 2% other
 
2013-04-15 12:37:42 PM  

AbbeySomeone: I'm truly amazed at the bs some guys will put up with to get laid.


Oh, you have *no* idea...
 
2013-04-15 12:42:30 PM  

SpaceyCat: I've never understood the expectation that everyone is a mind-reader, especially your SO.  Hell, I've apologized to my bf when I've not communicated clearly and tried to clear up any misconceptions without getting pissed.  If I didn't understand what he was saying, I asked for clarification.


My ex used to pull the mind reader crap on me. I would say something like, "I don't know. So, please, let me know" to which her response was usually something like, "you have to figure it out." I'd then say something like, "If I haven't figured it out by now then I probably wont. Just tell me." Her response was always the same. "If I have to tell you [what it is that I want] then it wont mean anything."

Alright. Fine. Then you wont get it. Simple as that.

I'm glad that relationship is over. Now that it's over I can see that it was far more caustic than I ever realized during it.

/Although the whole just using me as an escape for 7 years really was the crux of everything.
//Fark it all.
 
2013-04-15 12:42:38 PM  

lewismarktwo: Tatterdemalian: Graffito: Abacus9: Foxxinnia: So essentially all men are borderline autistic. Sounds about right.

No, we're just not overly emotional about every little thing.

Tell me again why men commit so much more violent crime than women.

Because we can.

/and because it works, at least until we get caught

Exactly, women are just as violent as men.  They just aren't as effectual at it.


Most of that ineffectuality is due to the social pressure to keep guns out of their posession. On one hand, this does make women more likely to ineffectually scratch and pull hair than kill people when they get violent. On the other hand, it also keeps them from developing the coping skills necessary to deal with daily irritations by any means other than violence and/or the threat of it, because their own lives don't often depend on doing so.

/at least that's the logical conclusion drawn from the chorus of FARKers who insist (predominantly female) teachers must not be armed because they'd butcher their own students if they were
//personally I think most of the problems in the education system stem from trusting our children's education to people that proudly proclaim they can't be trusted to protect them with lethal force when necessary
 
2013-04-15 12:51:32 PM  

Graffito: Abacus9: Foxxinnia: So essentially all men are borderline autistic. Sounds about right.

No, we're just not overly emotional about every little thing.

Tell me again why men commit so much more violent crime than women.


Your problem is linking violence with emotion. Men aren't women. By and large, violence isn't as much of an emotional outburst for men as it is for men. Violence is a tool. A means to an end. It's a problem solving technique. It's abused more often than not, but violence for men isn't always the result of "OMG I hate you so much!!!"

Men are physically, on average, more powerful than women. Because of this physical force is more of a constantly available option for men than it is for women. Plus, men were the hunter gatherers and women were the keepers of the cave and raisers of the young. Back when we were even simpler than now men used force as their contribution to survival and women used communication as theirs. Hence today why men are more likely to see force as an earlier option and women are more likely to be emotionally manipulative to spite others.

Think back to high school. Human social development pretty much peaks during high school and does't get any better after that. The techniques will adapt but they wont change.
 
2013-04-15 01:01:04 PM  

lewismarktwo: Lollipop165: SpaceBison: [officeforward.com image 406x1023]


This is a troll right?


How so? It's called "manipulation" and we females excel at it.
 
2013-04-15 01:01:33 PM  
<threadjack>

Tatterdemalian: /at least that's the logical conclusion drawn from the chorus of FARKers who insist (predominantly female) teachers must not be armed because they'd butcher their own students if they were


The reason is because schools, 99.99999% of the time are safe, sterile environments. Introduction of guns into a sterile environment like a school, or an airplane, is going to impact that safety in a negative way for two reasons. First, accidents DO happen, regardless of training, precautions, etc.  Second, when there's a weapon around, it's easier to reach for that weapon than to try to resolve the conflict another way.

/not anti-guns
//just anti-gun-nuts

</threadjack>
 
2013-04-15 01:02:19 PM  

Lollipop165: How so? It's called "manipulation" and we females excel at it.


Yes, yes you do. And I'm glad I don't know you. :)
 
2013-04-15 01:06:02 PM  

Lollipop165: lewismarktwo: Lollipop165: SpaceBison: [officeforward.com image 406x1023]


This is a troll right?

How so? It's called "manipulation" and we females excel at it.


Oh, it was just that you seemed proud of it when you really, really shouldn't.
 
2013-04-15 01:09:14 PM  
If someone -- anyone. male or female -- approaches me with a shiatty attitude, Im typically less inclined to care about whats bothering them.... even if I am at fault. Depending on the degree of shiatitude, I might tell them to fark off even before they can explain.

Thankfully, no one has ever pulled the "you have to guess" card. That would earn them a hardy laugh and comments about their maturity.

/Seriously, who the fark thinks shiaty attitudes and unreasonable expectations are fruitful ways to approach interpersonal conflicts?
//And why does the word dysfunctional come to mind?
 
2013-04-15 01:13:37 PM  

lewismarktwo: Lollipop165: lewismarktwo: Lollipop165: SpaceBison: [officeforward.com image 406x1023]


This is a troll right?

How so? It's called "manipulation" and we females excel at it.

Oh, it was just that you seemed proud of it when you really, really shouldn't.


Yep thats a red flag. Manipulators shouldn't be trusted and arent worth knowing.... no matter how nice their tits are.
 
2013-04-15 01:13:43 PM  

Lollipop165: SpaceBison: [officeforward.com image 406x1023]

I use "humble submission" to get what I want.

Me: "hooooneey can you get me my nail polish from the top shelf? I can't reach."

Him: "I'm busy playing God of War. Get the stool and get it yourself".

Me: "Pllleaasse????" *humble submission*

Him: "Okay fine. I'll get it".

Works like a charm. I figured it out when I was about 20 - I can get pretty much anything from any guy so long as I give him that look. It's super powerful.


And I'm giving you my "she's getting 'accidental' anal tonight" look right now
 
2013-04-15 01:18:03 PM  

SurfaceTension: My FWB (and occasionally more) actually said to me during a discussion that even though I don't fully understand what she's saying, it isn't on her to actually impart more information. It's on me to come to conclusions based on the partial picture she's given me. I'm STILL trying to wrap my head around that one.


My wife tried this early in our marriage.  I responded by telling her that, If she can't be bothered to give me complete information, then I can't be bothered to come to complete conclusions.  She didn't take this seriously until, after a few messy situations resulted from me acting on incomplete information, she actually realized that a little extra effort to communicate effectively in the beginning saves much much more effort down the road - not to mention the associated fallout drama.
 
2013-04-15 01:19:36 PM  
*reads thread*

Wow. Yall have dated some pretty ridiculous people.

Maybe I just don't like dating in general. It's complicated and I understand neither women nor men... so I'm not going to jump into the relationship pool until I have my shiat together.

/says the perpetually single person
//quite content
///stop laughing
 
2013-04-15 01:28:50 PM  

CtrlAltDestroy: Graffito: Abacus9: Foxxinnia: So essentially all men are borderline autistic. Sounds about right.

No, we're just not overly emotional about every little thing.

Tell me again why men commit so much more violent crime than women.

Your problem is linking violence with emotion. Men aren't women. By and large, violence isn't as much of an emotional outburst for men as it is for men. Violence is a tool. A means to an end. It's a problem solving technique. It's abused more often than not, but violence for men isn't always the result of "OMG I hate you so much!!!"

Men are physically, on average, more powerful than women. Because of this physical force is more of a constantly available option for men than it is for women. Plus, men were the hunter gatherers and women were the keepers of the cave and raisers of the young. Back when we were even simpler than now men used force as their contribution to survival and women used communication as theirs. Hence today why men are more likely to see force as an earlier option and women are more likely to be emotionally manipulative to spite others.

Think back to high school. Human social development pretty much peaks during high school and does't get any better after that. The techniques will adapt but they wont change.


Well the study said that, "Men's amygdala - a brain region tied to emotions, empathy, and fear - activated more strongly in response to men's eyes." This would seem to contradict the hypothesis that you pulled out of your ass.
 
2013-04-15 01:32:48 PM  

Graffito: CtrlAltDestroy: Graffito: Abacus9: Foxxinnia: So essentially all men are borderline autistic. Sounds about right.

No, we're just not overly emotional about every little thing.

Tell me again why men commit so much more violent crime than women.

Your problem is linking violence with emotion. Men aren't women. By and large, violence isn't as much of an emotional outburst for men as it is for men. Violence is a tool. A means to an end. It's a problem solving technique. It's abused more often than not, but violence for men isn't always the result of "OMG I hate you so much!!!"

Men are physically, on average, more powerful than women. Because of this physical force is more of a constantly available option for men than it is for women. Plus, men were the hunter gatherers and women were the keepers of the cave and raisers of the young. Back when we were even simpler than now men used force as their contribution to survival and women used communication as theirs. Hence today why men are more likely to see force as an earlier option and women are more likely to be emotionally manipulative to spite others.

Think back to high school. Human social development pretty much peaks during high school and does't get any better after that. The techniques will adapt but they wont change.

Well the study said that, "Men's amygdala - a brain region tied to emotions, empathy, and fear - activated more strongly in response to men's eyes." This would seem to contradict the hypothesis that you pulled out of your ass.


Band name: Ass Hypothesis
 
2013-04-15 01:41:36 PM  

megarian: Graffito: CtrlAltDestroy: Graffito: Abacus9: Foxxinnia: So essentially all men are borderline autistic. Sounds about right.

No, we're just not overly emotional about every little thing.

Tell me again why men commit so much more violent crime than women.

Your problem is linking violence with emotion. Men aren't women. By and large, violence isn't as much of an emotional outburst for men as it is for men. Violence is a tool. A means to an end. It's a problem solving technique. It's abused more often than not, but violence for men isn't always the result of "OMG I hate you so much!!!"

Men are physically, on average, more powerful than women. Because of this physical force is more of a constantly available option for men than it is for women. Plus, men were the hunter gatherers and women were the keepers of the cave and raisers of the young. Back when we were even simpler than now men used force as their contribution to survival and women used communication as theirs. Hence today why men are more likely to see force as an earlier option and women are more likely to be emotionally manipulative to spite others.

Think back to high school. Human social development pretty much peaks during high school and does't get any better after that. The techniques will adapt but they wont change.

Well the study said that, "Men's amygdala - a brain region tied to emotions, empathy, and fear - activated more strongly in response to men's eyes." This would seem to contradict the hypothesis that you pulled out of your ass.

Band name: Ass Hypothesis


I think thats already a conservative/libertarian indie rock group.
 
2013-04-15 01:45:13 PM  

Benevolent Misanthrope: CaptSacto: 1. If she's angry and when you ask her what's wrong she says "nothing", you've done some something wrong
2. Always assume "nothing" is the answer to "What's wrong?"

Speaking as a woman, I hate that passive-aggressive bullshiat.  That and "If you don't know, then I'm not going to tell you."

My response to that has generally been, "Well, since I'm not a mind reader, I'm going to drop it.  Get back to me when you're ready to have an adult conversation."  Generally, girlfriends who keep it up and keep pushing get their bluff called.  And they then break up with me - which is fine, because life is too short for that crap.

Oh - and here's something most men don't know - women can't read other women's emotions, either.


????  I think that's just you, dude.  I can read female's emotions.  It's quite easy actually.  Body language is very telling.
 
2013-04-15 01:51:51 PM  
Benevolent Misanthrope:

I know, right?  If only men could hire a lesbian friend as translator or something.

That's a great movie idea if I ever read one.
 
2013-04-15 02:01:51 PM  

trapped-in-CH: Benevolent Misanthrope:

I know, right?  If only men could hire a lesbian friend as translator or something.

That's a great movie idea if I ever read one.


I was thinking that, actually.  Kind of a spin on Cyrano de Bergerac.
 
2013-04-15 02:13:04 PM  

trapped-in-CH: Benevolent Misanthrope:

I know, right?  If only men could hire a lesbian friend as translator or something.

That's a great movie idea if I ever read one.


The coont whisperer?
 
2013-04-15 02:13:28 PM  

Benevolent Misanthrope: trapped-in-CH: Benevolent Misanthrope:

I know, right?  If only men could hire a lesbian friend as translator or something.

That's a great movie idea if I ever read one.

I was thinking that, actually.  Kind of a spin on Cyrano de Bergerac.


Let's be very very careful about what we use for the nose.
 
2013-04-15 02:13:35 PM  

Benevolent Misanthrope: trapped-in-CH: Benevolent Misanthrope:

I know, right?  If only men could hire a lesbian friend as translator or something.

That's a great movie idea if I ever read one.

I was thinking that, actually.  Kind of a spin on Cyrano de Bergerac.


Does this play out with the dude's girlfriend turning lesbian with the translator?
Or does the translator go straight and fall in love with the guy?
Alternatively you could make a similar setup about a gay man as the translator instead of a lesbian.  He becomes the girl's Gay Best Friend and the guy falls in love with him.

Let's just make all three movies and see which one sticks.
 
2013-04-15 02:21:24 PM  

Graffito: Well the study said that, "Men's amygdala - a brain region tied to emotions, empathy, and fear - activated more strongly in response to men's eyes." This would seem to contradict the hypothesis that you pulled out of your ass.


So, having a heightened visceral reaction to another potential predator and possible threat to one's safety means that men always use force emotionally? That's a leap of logic that leaves a lot of gaps. Two male wolves seeing each other will cause the same heightened reactions. It's a survival thing.

Actively using force as a tool does not require anger. "What's the easiest way that I can accomplish my goal?" is not the same as "Hulk mad, Hulk smash!"

I don't know if you're pulling out of your ass, but you sure are talking out of it.
 
2013-04-15 02:26:00 PM  

Graffito: Abacus9: Foxxinnia: So essentially all men are borderline autistic. Sounds about right.

No, we're just not overly emotional about every little thing.

Tell me again why men commit so much more violent crime than women.


You're a woman, aren't you?
 
2013-04-15 02:33:02 PM  

megarian: *reads thread*

Wow. Yall have dated some pretty ridiculous people.

Maybe I just don't like dating in general. It's complicated and I understand neither women nor men... so I'm not going to jump into the relationship pool until I have my shiat together.

/says the perpetually single person
//quite content
///stop laughing


I've dated some downright crazy women. The problem is I didn't figure out they were crazy until I'd made an emotional investment in the relationship.  I've since learned my lesson, though.  (I keep telling myself that).

/did you make it to the show?
 
2013-04-15 02:45:32 PM  

Lollipop165: SpaceBison: [officeforward.com image 406x1023]

I use "humble submission" to get what I want.

Me: "hooooneey can you get me my nail polish from the top shelf? I can't reach."

Him: "I'm busy playing God of War. Get the stool and get it yourself".

Me: "Pllleaasse????" *humble submission*

Him: "Okay fine. I'll get it".

Works like a charm. I figured it out when I was about 20 - I can get pretty much anything from any guy so long as I give him that look. It's super powerful.


Is "humble submission" a codeword for "blowjob"?
 
2013-04-15 03:11:03 PM  
Women still cook?
 
2013-04-15 03:24:34 PM  

Space Station Wagon: Women still cook?


These days, cool people cook. Everyone else just reheats frozen shiat or goes out.
 
2013-04-15 03:29:09 PM  

CtrlAltDestroy: Graffito: Well the study said that, "Men's amygdala - a brain region tied to emotions, empathy, and fear - activated more strongly in response to men's eyes." This would seem to contradict the hypothesis that you pulled out of your ass.

So, having a heightened visceral reaction to another potential predator and possible threat to one's safety means that men always use force emotionally? That's a leap of logic that leaves a lot of gaps. Two male wolves seeing each other will cause the same heightened reactions. It's a survival thing.

Actively using force as a tool does not require anger. "What's the easiest way that I can accomplish my goal?" is not the same as "Hulk mad, Hulk smash!"

I don't know if you're pulling out of your ass, but you sure are talking out of it.


Give me an example of when violence is not fraught with emotion.
 
2013-04-15 03:37:15 PM  

FunkOut: Space Station Wagon: Women still cook?

These days, cool people cook. Everyone else just reheats frozen shiat or goes out.


Broke people and the working poor cook too.
 
2013-04-15 03:43:03 PM  

Graffito: Give me an example of when violence is not fraught with emotion.


Smashing a window instead of hiring a locksmith to pick the lock.
 
2013-04-15 04:05:05 PM  

FunkOut: Space Station Wagon: Women still cook?

These days, cool people cook. Everyone else just reheats frozen shiat or goes out.


I'm in my mid 30's and all the women in my circles cannot cook. My ex-wife, my old girlfriend, my new girlfriend. None of my buddies wives.
My buddies and I all cook, because we love to eat and its fun.
I don't expect my women to slave in the kitchen but it would be nice to come home to dinner once in awhile or a plate of brownies or something.
 
2013-04-15 04:05:35 PM  

skantea: Yes we can, it's just that we're busy having our own emotions at the same time.  We need to stop infantalizing women and tricking them into thinking they're being empowered.

/like showing us your tits really makes you stronger?
//sucker...


Pedobear is confused
lh3.googleusercontent.com
does not know what to do
 
2013-04-15 04:22:47 PM  

quatchi: [i293.photobucket.com image 752x459]

/Obligs.


I showed my husband that picture once and he laughed and said "It's true!"

We've been together nearly 37 years, since we were young teenagers, and basically grown up together. We've talked and explored and cried and suffered and enjoyed everything together, and we *still* have misunderstandings sometimes, even though I am far from a "typical" or "stereotypical" woman.

That said, I still remember years ago when my husband and I were watching some comic discoursing on this subject and the hubs turned to me and said: "If you see me just sitting here, not saying anything, don't think some deep thoughts are going on. I'm probably switched off or thinking about space ships. Don't look for deeper meaning or hidden feelings. Scratch my surface, you'll find more surface."

We laughed, but I think this is really closer to the truth than a lot of people think. Generally, guys are very simple with simple needs that are easy to satisfy: sex, food, appreciation, a soft voice. Sometimes I think men would be a lot happier if they were all gay. It'd be pretty much guaranteed they'd get all the blow jobs they wanted then...'course, they'd have to *give* them, too ;)

As always, YMMV.
 
2013-04-15 04:34:42 PM  

Steak_Cake_Sause: fark you Fark Mods. Why dont you try TF-ing a thread from the get-go instead of waiting for 150 comments. Jackholes. Now Im going to turn Ad-block back on.


oh snap!
 
2013-04-15 04:35:57 PM  

Steak_Cake_Sause: If someone -- anyone. male or female -- approaches me with a shiatty attitude, Im typically less inclined to care about whats bothering them.... even if I am at fault. Depending on the degree of shiatitude, I might tell them to fark off even before they can explain.

Thankfully, no one has ever pulled the "you have to guess" card. That would earn them a hardy laugh and comments about their maturity.

/Seriously, who the fark thinks shiaty attitudes and unreasonable expectations are fruitful ways to approach interpersonal conflicts?
//And why does the word dysfunctional come to mind?


This. Most people's "emotions" aren't all that difficult to guess at. The question is, how much of a shiat am I obligated to give about most people's emotions? Outside a few people at work, the answer is: not much.

I don't even really care all that much about what my mother feels because honestly, she says farking crazy things pretty often, so giving her occasional emotional outbursts a lot of attention is a waste of time. She's a Jesus freak, so reason and logic are not really in her wheelhouse. I can safely ignore a lot of what she says and absolutely nothing of value is lost, other than more evidence for the commitment hearing. (I kid. Mostly.)
 
2013-04-15 04:37:13 PM  

Niveras: SpaceBison: facial expressions

Is the joke that only some of the descriptions don't match the actual expressions being made? Because there's no way I'd describe upper top left as "lifted eyebrows." Just enough of them seem accurate to wonder if the entire piece is meant to be taken semi-seriously, but then just enough are different to make me wonder if I'm too dumb to understand that it's an obvious joke.


I figured she is just a shiatty actress...
 
2013-04-15 05:29:52 PM  

CtrlAltDestroy: Graffito: Give me an example of when violence is not fraught with emotion.

Smashing a window instead of hiring a locksmith to pick the lock.


Dude - that's pretty thin.  I suppose you consider surgery to be violence too?  I knocked down a wall as part of a kitchen remodel job.  Was that an act of violence?

When law  enforcement classifies a crime as a violent misdemeanor or a violent felony, they are not referring to someone breaking a window to unlock a door.
 
2013-04-15 06:54:59 PM  

Tatterdemalian: SurfaceTension: Tatterdemalian: Foxxinnia: So essentially all men are borderline autistic. Sounds about right.

In other news, "autistic" now means "doesn't posses psychic superpowers."

/the hilarious thing is, women are just as "autistic" as men
//the source of nearly all the drama women are known for stems from their fundamental belief that they're psychic, when they're actually not

My FWB (and occasionally more) actually said to me during a discussion that even though I don't fully understand what she's saying, it isn't on her to actually impart more information. It's on me to come to conclusions based on the partial picture she's given me. I'm STILL trying to wrap my head around that one.

It means she wants you to do more stuff together, to increase the shared memories and experiences you both have to the point where you actually *can* know what she's saying without needing more than a few nonverbal clues.)


F*ck all that. Just tell me what you want, I'll tell you what I want, and we'll both be happy.
Getting along with another person should not be a f*cking game of charades 24/7.
 
2013-04-15 07:07:55 PM  

lewismarktwo: Tatterdemalian: Graffito: Abacus9: Foxxinnia: So essentially all men are borderline autistic. Sounds about right.

No, we're just not overly emotional about every little thing.

Tell me again why men commit so much more violent crime than women.

Because we can.

/and because it works, at least until we get caught

Exactly, women are just as violent as men.  They just aren't as effectual at it.


A woman will set up one of those Wile E. Coyote SOOOPER GEENIUStm devices to commit her violence, an elaborate plan with days or weeks of planning and research. This is one of the reasons why daytime soaps and nighttime dramas are still so popular with the fairer sex... the sh*t takes week for anything to happen. There must be plans within plans within plans within plans.
- the sun beats down on a magnifying glass, which lights a fuse to a firecracker which scares a bird which jostles its cage and shakes loose a bowling ball which rolls down a ramp and taps a domino chain that drops into a pail of water which pulls a rope that yanks the trigger of a gun that cuts the cable that drops a boulder on the roadrunner.

A man, on the other hand, will just shoot the bird.
- get gun, wait, aim, shoot bird.

I think that's why men are better at the violent crime thing... by the time women do all that planning, they're not angry enough to commit the act.
 
2013-04-15 11:56:36 PM  

Graffito: Abacus9: Foxxinnia: So essentially all men are borderline autistic. Sounds about right.

No, we're just not overly emotional about every little thing.

Tell me again why men commit so much more violent crime than women.


Because they're more aggressive?
 
2013-04-16 12:09:48 AM  

Tatterdemalian: lewismarktwo: Tatterdemalian: Graffito: Abacus9: Foxxinnia: So essentially all men are borderline autistic. Sounds about right.

No, we're just not overly emotional about every little thing.

Tell me again why men commit so much more violent crime than women.

Because we can.

/and because it works, at least until we get caught

Exactly, women are just as violent as men.  They just aren't as effectual at it.

Most of that ineffectuality is due to the social pressure to keep guns out of their posession. On one hand, this does make women more likely to ineffectually scratch and pull hair than kill people when they get violent. On the other hand, it also keeps them from developing the coping skills necessary to deal with daily irritations by any means other than violence and/or the threat of it, because their own lives don't often depend on doing so.

/at least that's the logical conclusion drawn from the chorus of FARKers who insist (predominantly female) teachers must not be armed because they'd butcher their own students if they were
//personally I think most of the problems in the education system stem from trusting our children's education to people that proudly proclaim they can't be trusted to protect them with lethal force when necessary


You're stupid, even for a worthless troll. Just stop.
 
2013-04-16 12:11:25 AM  

CtrlAltDestroy: Think back to high school. Human social development pretty much peaks during high school and does't get any better after that. The techniques will adapt but they wont change.


Never been to college, huh?
 
2013-04-16 12:41:49 AM  

CtrlAltDestroy: Graffito: Well the study said that, "Men's amygdala - a brain region tied to emotions, empathy, and fear - activated more strongly in response to men's eyes." This would seem to contradict the hypothesis that you pulled out of your ass.

So, having a heightened visceral reaction to another potential predator and possible threat to one's safety means that men always use force emotionally? That's a leap of logic that leaves a lot of gaps. Two male wolves seeing each other will cause the same heightened reactions. It's a survival thing.

Actively using force as a tool does not require anger. "What's the easiest way that I can accomplish my goal?" is not the same as "Hulk mad, Hulk smash!"

I don't know if you're pulling out of your ass, but you sure are talking out of it.


Men are not wolves. If your reaction to another man is a "heightened visceral reaction to another potential predator and possible threat", just on first glance (as the study used photographs), then you're probably a paranoid psychopath.

Graffito: CtrlAltDestroy: Graffito: Give me an example of when violence is not fraught with emotion.

Smashing a window instead of hiring a locksmith to pick the lock.

Dude - that's pretty thin.  I suppose you consider surgery to be violence too?  I knocked down a wall as part of a kitchen remodel job.  Was that an act of violence?

When law  enforcement classifies a crime as a violent misdemeanor or a violent felony, they are not referring to someone breaking a window to unlock a door.


http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/violence
Definition #1. Unless you believe everything law enforcement tells you.
 
2013-04-16 11:44:20 AM  

Mentat: The Man:

"Yes Dear" = "I know where this is going.  There is literally nothing I can say or do to win.  If I counter your emotional bullshiat with logic, you'll say I'm talking down to you.  If I lose my temper, you'll say I'm bullying you.  If I don't do anything, you'll say I'm emotionally crippled.  So I'm just going to say and do the absolute bare minimum in the hopes that you'll stomp off for a few hours so I can have some peace.  When you've decided I've been punished enough, you'll 'forgive' me for whatever it is I did and I'll pretend like you're right and then we'll start the entire thing over again in three days when I make an off-hand comment suggesting I'm not looking forward to your mother's visit or when I get a slight boner when you complain about your hot sister wasting $5000 on a boob job.  I mean, let's be honest.  We both know I saw her in her underwear last year when I accidentally walked in on her changing clothes in our bedroom and we both know that she engineered that little fiasco in order to piss you off because she loves to push your buttons.  Besides, what the fark do you care what she does with her money?  What else is she going to do with it?  She's a farking 'social media strategist'.  What the hell does that even mean?  Oh right, it means 'OMG I'm 35 years old and unemployed because the powers that be think I'm a technological dinosaur!  Can I move in with you?'  And of course you'll say yes and you'll be glaring at me the whole time, but I can promise you I won't want to fark that at 35.  I've seen pictures of your mother at 22 and 35 and I can see where this is going.  Social media strategist my ass.  I worked at a god damn dotcom.  I helped invent the streaming video algorithm that YouTube uses, and yet now I have to listen to some punk ass 21 year old tell me that I don't understand technology?  Let's see what Johnny McShiatsALot can do the next time the servers go down and I decide to call in sick.  Have fun in the cloud asshole. ...


I read that whole thing, and I just want to say that it was magnificent.

And also, you ever wonder why divorces are so expensive?
Because they're worth it!
 
2013-04-16 01:45:08 PM  

Graffito: CtrlAltDestroy: Graffito: Give me an example of when violence is not fraught with emotion.

Smashing a window instead of hiring a locksmith to pick the lock.

Dude - that's pretty thin.  I suppose you consider surgery to be violence too?  I knocked down a wall as part of a kitchen remodel job.  Was that an act of violence?

When law  enforcement classifies a crime as a violent misdemeanor or a violent felony, they are not referring to someone breaking a window to unlock a door.


If the surgery is done on someone that didn't want it, yes. Ditto for breaking down a wall as part of an unwanted remodel job (usually to remodel the house to "stripped clean of anything valuable, even the electrical wiring now sitting in a metal recycler's to-do pile").

/we're supposed to let people beat helpless pensioners to death as long as they videotape themselves smiling to prove they "had no violent intentions," like in the UK, I guess
//someday you'll be old too, and if there's any justice in the world you'll exit by getting the "happy slapping" you deserve
 
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