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(Courier Mail)   More and more couples are merging their Twitter and Facebook accounts. "What does it mean when you want to portray yourself as a couple rather than an individual?"   (couriermail.com.au) divider line 134
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2013-04-14 04:01:39 AM  
I'll tell you what it means to me, as this just happened to me as I wrote an old girlfriend on her wedding night a message on Facebook only to have her fiance respond and say to please not contact her anymore.

She found Jesus.
 
2013-04-14 04:25:38 AM  
The Smith's went from being "sexually stale marriage" to "swinging"
 
2013-04-14 05:02:12 AM  
To me it means you are trying too hard.
Really, you are 2 people. Be 2 people.
 
2013-04-14 06:00:33 AM  
I know lots of Mormons who do this.
 
2013-04-14 07:41:29 AM  
Mrs. Earguy and I have done this for years.  We still get communications from old ex'es, but it's all above-board.  We don't get those "we ought to meet" or "I never stopped loving you" messages.
 
2013-04-14 08:06:34 AM  

Confabulat: please not contact her anymore.


Sounds like the kind of guy we'll be reading about in FARK eventually.
 
2013-04-14 08:08:57 AM  
It means I hate you.

And stop sending your spouse public lovey messages on Facebook.
 
2013-04-14 08:11:37 AM  
I can see it having its benefits in connecting with family, especially if one of the partners is a big social media person and the other is not.  Alternatively, my in-laws had a joint account, because of trust issues due to them being non-exclusive early in their relationship.  Anyway, it's nobody's business but the couple's.  I'd prefer my own account, but that's just me.
 
Pud
2013-04-14 08:18:00 AM  
That awkward moment when to tell an old high school hottie what a great ass she always had, and get a response of " thanks, I just shaved it too"
 
2013-04-14 08:54:31 AM  

SundaesChild: I can see it having its benefits in connecting with family, especially if one of the partners is a big social media person and the other is not.  Alternatively, my in-laws had a joint account, because of trust issues due to them being non-exclusive early in their relationship.  Anyway, it's nobody's business but the couple's.  I'd prefer my own account, but that's just me.


I think it is generally more that, that one in the couple (usually the guy) doesn't use Facebook anyway, so, the wife just sticks his name on their account as well, so, friends of his can find "him".

At least in my case, I am sure my wife would rather not go through a bunch of posts from geeky websites, Arena Football and other sports fans, and the like.  Just as I don't really want to sift through a bunch of posts about shopping or what some Kardashian ate for lunch last night.   I guess some couples maybe mesh up 100% in their interests, but, that is usually not the case.

because of trust issues due to them being non-exclusive early in their relationship.
Oh yeah, because, nobody has ever heard of having a secret email address, bank account, Facebook account, etc.
News alert... having a "joint FB" account isn't going to fix your "issues" in that space.
 
2013-04-14 09:04:46 AM  

dletter: I think it is generally more that, that one in the couple (usually the guy) doesn't use Facebook anyway, so, the wife just sticks his name on their account as well, so, friends of his can find "him".


This is the main reason our FB account is a joint one.  I don't want to bother, but most of our family communicates that way
 
2013-04-14 09:39:52 AM  
It means the inevitable divorce is going to be fun to watch.
 
ZAZ [TotalFark]
2013-04-14 09:49:42 AM  
Sounds like a good way to confuse data mining advertisers.  They'll probably end up tagging the couple as a lesbian when they see a combination of girly stuff plus occasional sports.
 
2013-04-14 09:55:21 AM  

ZAZ: Sounds like a good way to confuse data mining advertisers.  They'll probably end up tagging the couple as a lesbian when they see a combination of girly stuff plus occasional sports.


They're going to have a field day with us.  Mrs. Samurai and I had a little too much fun with those How to Do Anything videos on Youtube, so for a while half of our responses to each other's posts were "Instructions unclear; got dick stuck in ceiling fan."
 
2013-04-14 10:10:06 AM  
Because sometimes... just sometimes... my husband doesn't want to hear about Grumpy Cat.
 
2013-04-14 10:12:36 AM  
It means this:

Not enough people follow my twitter, so if I join with my spouse, I will double my audience! Furthermore, my spouse's sibling will finally see how clever I am, and maybe toss me a fark. Of course now that my audience includes my in-laws, I will severely limit my twitter feed, and my once "edgy" self will degenerate into posts that seem ripped straight from a church bulletin board.
 
2013-04-14 10:13:46 AM  
sharing online accounts is the electronic equivalent of these:

rachelgit.files.wordpress.com
 
2013-04-14 10:16:16 AM  
Yeesh. The only thing we share online is a google calendar so we can stay in sync on our schedules.

/marred for 17 years
 
2013-04-14 10:16:46 AM  
It means cheating is gonna be either real awkward or real fun.
 
2013-04-14 10:17:59 AM  
honestly, who could possibly give a sh*t?
 
2013-04-14 10:19:07 AM  
If merging your Twitter and/or Facebook accounts is a "thing" for you, you have no relevance in this world and should go kill yourself.
 
2013-04-14 10:20:48 AM  
What about women who have nothing but pictures of their baby? I was looking up people from high school and the amount of profiles with nothing but the baby picture was 95+%.
 
2013-04-14 10:21:57 AM  

phenn: Because sometimes... just sometimes... my husband doesn't want to hear about Grumpy Cat.


well, you just e-mail me. I always love grumpy cat.
 
2013-04-14 10:22:16 AM  

FirstNationalBastard: It means the inevitable divorce is going to be fun to watch.


This. Social networking can accomplish some nice things but when it goes wrong, it can do so in a very ugly way, and the consequences can spread far beyond your circle of friends. A worldwide-accessible social network is not the place to have an epiphany about the bad choices you've made in your life.
 
2013-04-14 10:22:24 AM  
Maybe this makes it easier to complain to two people at the same time that they're misusing the photo tagging feature if they tag a photo with the name of someone who does not actually appear in the photo.
 
2013-04-14 10:23:29 AM  

Quantum Apostrophe: What about women who have nothing but pictures of their baby? I was looking up people from high school and the amount of profiles with nothing but the baby picture was 95+%.


Some woman followed me on Twitter. Her profile read:

"Marketing enthusiast, cupcake connoisseur and MOST IMPORTANT a full-time Mommy!"

I thought my head would explode.
 
2013-04-14 10:24:44 AM  

God Is My Co-Pirate: It means I hate you.

And stop sending your spouse public lovey messages on Facebook.


For a moment I had hope that this new trend would put an end to those messages - wouldn't it essentially be sending a message to it's own Facebook account?  But of course it won't.  Facebook will be a dump-site for evangelical advertising and pictures of cupcakes with "I LOVE THE PERSON WHO MADE THIS" captions until it finally dies a deserved death.
 
2013-04-14 10:24:44 AM  
I want egg salad.
 
2013-04-14 10:25:25 AM  
3.bp.blogspot.com
 
2013-04-14 10:26:47 AM  
It mean you're narcissistic *∞
 
2013-04-14 10:27:58 AM  
Psychotherapist Dan Auerbach said couples who join social media accounts have a strong identity around who they belong to and who belongs to them.

A nice way of saying people who are defined but what they have, not who they are.

Or people who you should unfriend because they are boring as fark.
 
2013-04-14 10:28:24 AM  

NutWrench: FirstNationalBastard: It means the inevitable divorce is going to be fun to watch.

This. Social networking can accomplish some nice things but when it goes wrong, it can do so in a very ugly way, and the consequences can spread far beyond your circle of friends. A worldwide-accessible social network is not the place to have an epiphany about the bad choices you've made in your life.


It can also serve as a fantastic warning system.  Nothing screams "cheating attention whore" like a girlfriend that spends her time posting racy pictures of herself to FB, telling her "friends" how horny she is, and letting guys send her romantic pictures and flirting with them.

/I ran
//I ran so far away
 
2013-04-14 10:29:44 AM  
Nope. Not going to happen.
 
2013-04-14 10:30:01 AM  
"That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one Facebook account. "
Genesis 2:24
 
2013-04-14 10:33:44 AM  
I remember the good old days, when we didn't have to share with the rest of the world how many times we sh*t each day. and post pictures of same sh*t to show the world how proud of it we were.
then we'd head out to Shelbyville with an onion tied to our belts...
 
2013-04-14 10:33:49 AM  

phenn: Because sometimes... just sometimes... my husband doesn't want to hear about Grumpy Cat.


There is never a wrong time to hear about Grumpy Cat.
 
2013-04-14 10:34:35 AM  
So when they break up, who gets the account?
 
2013-04-14 10:35:24 AM  

Earguy: Mrs. Earguy and I [...] don't get those "we ought to meet" or "I never stopped loving you" messages.


Maybe you were both doing it wrong, then?
 
2013-04-14 10:36:10 AM  
That crap drives me crazy. I have a friend who has an account that includes his wife. I don't know his wife... I never know who's commenting on what.
Sometimes they'll leave initials to let you know, but not often. His wife commented on a picture of mine one time and signed with her initials and I was like, I don't know you woman!

She also loves to post about how happy and in love she is like 10 times a day... I should really de-friend them.

/css
 
2013-04-14 10:36:44 AM  

Gunny Walker: "That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one Facebook account. "
Genesis 2:24


And now the gheys want to ruin that too.

Your joint male/female facebook is doomed. What happened to the sanctity of joint facebook accounts? Next people will have joint facebook accounts with turtles.
 
2013-04-14 10:38:25 AM  
Yeah considering it took the manfriend and I two years or so to even friend each other on Facebook. The idea of combining accounts to become publicly One Entity is just f*cking weird.
 
2013-04-14 10:38:30 AM  
Crackers Don't Matter:
/css

Your newsletter... where do I sign up for it?
 
2013-04-14 10:39:45 AM  

Ishkur: So when they break up, who gets the account?


Yeah, I can't wait for the first custody case involving a Facebook account.
 
2013-04-14 10:40:27 AM  
It means the husband's got a secret account through a gmail address operated by a "Captain Dick Hammer"
 
2013-04-14 10:43:05 AM  

Mr. Coffee Nerves: It means the husband's got a secret account through a gmail address operated by a "Captain Dick Hammer"


But the hammer is his penis... So Captain Dick Penis?
 
2013-04-14 10:45:16 AM  
You don't trust your partner?
 
2013-04-14 10:45:51 AM  
Those will be fun divorces.
 
2013-04-14 10:47:33 AM  

Mr. Coffee Nerves: It means the husband's got a secret account through a gmail address operated by a "Captain Dick Hammer"


Doesn't every married man have at least one of these?
 
2013-04-14 10:52:31 AM  

priapic_abandon: sharing online accounts is the electronic equivalent of these:

[rachelgit.files.wordpress.com image 408x275]


I remember seeing those at Spencer's.
 
2013-04-14 10:55:35 AM  
I occassionally use my fiancé's facebook login, but like once a month. I deleted my profile after Timeline came out (yeah, call me tinfoil hat, but I like the idea of being able to be forgotten). I use it mostly for church stuff or to get in touch with family since I don't have a phone anymore.

Otherwise, I prefer the "yours, mine, ours" approach. Each person needs the privacy to do their own thing (how are they going to surprise you with a birthday present, for example?). Has worked well in previous relationships and works fine in this one too.
 
2013-04-14 10:56:54 AM  

Quantum Apostrophe: What about women who have nothing but pictures of their baby? I was looking up people from high school and the amount of profiles with nothing but the baby picture was 95+%.


That is about affirmation.

Women want--no, need--to constantly be told how gorgeous their baby is, how perfect is is, how smart it might be, and that the woman is a excellent mother.

The alternative is to accepte that they are cheap whores who should have kept their legs together in the first place.
 
2013-04-14 10:56:57 AM  
I have a former high school friend who does this. She signed up on Facebook as "Ted LovesHisWifeShelly LastName". He has never once posted. But she posts about him all the time, so now he looks like one of those pompous asses that speaks only in third person. I'll bet you $20 that he never even knew she started the page.
 
2013-04-14 10:57:01 AM  
My sister in law is a counselor at a prison and forbidden to have a Facebook account, but they can't stop her husband, so hers changed in a few months from her name to theirs to only his. Now there is a guy named Frank on my friends list who posts nothing but baby pictures.
 
2013-04-14 10:58:33 AM  

derpy: accepte


that's the french spelling
 
2013-04-14 11:00:23 AM  

BMFPitt: Those will be fun divorces.


Meh. Its just a FB acct. They can get individual ones later if they need to. Whether or not somebody makes a public spectacle of their marital problems has nothing to do with whether or not they share a FB acct.
 
2013-04-14 11:02:30 AM  

Koodz: My sister in law is a counselor at a prison and forbidden to have a Facebook account, but they can't stop her husband, so hers changed in a few months from her name to theirs to only his. Now there is a guy named Frank on my friends list who posts nothing but baby pictures.


Please esplain. Why is she forbidden to have a FB? I can see a very stern advisement that it would be unwise, but forbidding seems like a Constitutional violation or something.
 
2013-04-14 11:04:05 AM  

SundaesChild: Koodz: My sister in law is a counselor at a prison and forbidden to have a Facebook account, but they can't stop her husband, so hers changed in a few months from her name to theirs to only his. Now there is a guy named Frank on my friends list who posts nothing but baby pictures.

Please esplain. Why is she forbidden to have a FB? I can see a very stern advisement that it would be unwise, but forbidding seems like a Constitutional violation or something.


Safety. You don't want some disgruntled prisoner tracking down your family. My friend is a parole officer, and the same rule applies.

Oh, and the day that Facebook becomes a constitutional right is the day we need to nuke the Earth from orbit and start over.
 
2013-04-14 11:04:55 AM  

WhippingBoy: Mr. Coffee Nerves: It means the husband's got a secret account through a gmail address operated by a "Captain Dick Hammer"

Doesn't every married man have at least one of these?


no, just yours.
 
2013-04-14 11:07:41 AM  
It means you have a lack of trust in the relationship.
 
2013-04-14 11:14:11 AM  

Gunny Walker: "That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one Facebook account. "
Genesis 2:24


+1

I closed my FB account ages ago and so did my BF. I guess if we were ever married and he wanted to open a new account and have us share it, I wouldn't care but I doubt he'd want to open another FB account.

Every so often I think of getting back on Facebook but then I slap some sense back into my self.

Now if he wanted to share my Fark account....no way-no way!
 
2013-04-14 11:16:03 AM  

WhippingBoy: the day that Facebook becomes a constitutional right is the day we need to nuke the Earth from orbit and start over


It's still less dangerous and more useful than guns.
 
2013-04-14 11:22:14 AM  
These couples are almost always unmarried parents in their early twenties and it's always the woman's idea. If this happens to a male friend of mine, being female, I assume that: a) his balls are now in his girlfriend's hand, b) his life is miserable now, and c) I'm not allowed to be friends with him, not that he'd be any fun to be around any more anyway. DH and I have separate accounts. We know each others' passwords as a safeguard in case of unforeseen circumstances, but I can honestly say I've never once used it.

Joint Facebook accounts are the lamest thing imaginable, and I automatically assume that a couple who have one have an unhealthy, controlling relationship. Usually on the woman's part, but also sometimes the guy's.
 
2013-04-14 11:23:38 AM  
"You're Schmoopy!"
"No, you're Schmoopy!"

Where's George Costanza when you need him?
 
2013-04-14 11:24:07 AM  
FTFA: '

"Some individuals may use it more separately because they feel more comfortable having their identity in their separate self rather than their couple self," Mr Auerbach said.

"Some couples are much more tightly bonded."'


Is it just me, or is this implying that couples who have separate FB/Twitter accounts aren't as close as couples who have joint accounts?


EbolaNYC: It means you have a lack of trust in the relationship.


I agree. Plus, my boyfriend and I have many different interests (some shared, too, of course). Our Wall would be a hodgepodge of seemingly contradictory likes, ads, and even posts. And how would posts/comments work?

Person1: "Hey honey, I want to put this on our wall."

P2: "No, I really don't want that going on there. It represents me, too, and I don't agree with the idea."

P1: "I know you don't, but I do. I deserve to put my opinion out."

P2: "I agree. But I don't support [insert controversial topic] and I don't want co-workers coming up and asking me about it at lunch tomorrow."

P1: "I want to express myself! I NEED TO EXPRESS MYSELF!!! WHHHHHARRRGGGARBL!"

P2: "Oh, for f*ck's sake. I don't want a joint account anymore."

P1: "You're Facebook divorcing me?! There's another person,  isn't there? I knew it!"

P2: [face palms]
 
2013-04-14 11:29:30 AM  

Confabulat: I'll tell you what it means to me, as this just happened to me as I wrote an old girlfriend on her wedding night a message on Facebook only to have her fiance respond and say to please not contact her anymore.

She found Jesus.


Hmm, I'd like to take your side, but your timing is suspicious. Why did you write her on her wedding night, and what did the message say?
 
2013-04-14 11:30:08 AM  
facebook sucks. honestly, it is the worst. it is the 21 century version of the Christmas card you get with the photo of the family on it. only 365 24/7. please let this sink in. no one cares that you went to florida and little jimmie touched a manatee. you only do this for your self, and MAYBE your closest relatives. I gotta idea, pick up a phone, and share it.
and then we headed out to Shelbyville with an onion tied to our belts...
 
2013-04-14 11:30:15 AM  

Earguy: Mrs. Earguy and I have done this for years.  We still get communications from old ex'es, but it's all above-board.  We don't get those "we ought to meet" or "I never stopped loving you" messages.


Creepy. Are y
 
2013-04-14 11:31:06 AM  
my parents both use the same email account and they both hate it.  Emails one of them wants get marked read or deleted and vice versa.  I've pointed out that email accounts are free and I could even help them set one up but they're both too stubborn to give up on using the same email.
 
2013-04-14 11:33:10 AM  

oryx: You don't trust your partner?


That's exactly what it is. Desperate insecurity, the type you should have grown out of by your early 20's.
 
2013-04-14 11:35:17 AM  
The "we" people have always existed.  They stop saying "I," and instead it's always "We..." because they've surrendered their individuality.  This is just an extension of that.
 
2013-04-14 11:39:13 AM  

ChemicalChance: These couples are almost always unmarried parents in their early twenties and it's always the woman's idea. If this happens to a male friend of mine, being female, I assume that: a) his balls are now in his girlfriend's hand, b) his life is miserable now, and c) I'm not allowed to be friends with him, not that he'd be any fun to be around any more anyway. DH and I have separate accounts. We know each others' passwords as a safeguard in case of unforeseen circumstances, but I can honestly say I've never once used it.

Joint Facebook accounts are the lamest thing imaginable, and I automatically assume that a couple who have one have an unhealthy, controlling relationship. Usually on the woman's part, but also sometimes the guy's.


You're being willfully blind if you don't think there are just as many, if not more, controlling men in relationships. But instead of a joint Facebook account, they'd be more likely to not allow an account at all.
 
2013-04-14 11:39:31 AM  
Profound brain damage?
 
2013-04-14 11:39:52 AM  

eddiesocket: Confabulat: I'll tell you what it means to me, as this just happened to me as I wrote an old girlfriend on her wedding night a message on Facebook only to have her fiance respond and say to please not contact her anymore.

She found Jesus.

Hmm, I'd like to take your side, but your timing is suspicious. Why did you write her on her wedding night, and what did the message say?


Oh it wasn't mean. At first. I wondered why I didn't get a wedding invite. She said I didn't respect Jesus or marriage enough.

Ok then it got a little mean. Then he chimed in.
 
2013-04-14 11:43:32 AM  

Confabulat: eddiesocket: Confabulat: I'll tell you what it means to me, as this just happened to me as I wrote an old girlfriend on her wedding night a message on Facebook only to have her fiance respond and say to please not contact her anymore.

She found Jesus.

Hmm, I'd like to take your side, but your timing is suspicious. Why did you write her on her wedding night, and what did the message say?

Oh it wasn't mean. At first. I wondered why I didn't get a wedding invite. She said I didn't respect Jesus or marriage enough.

Ok then it got a little mean. Then he chimed in.


Okay yeah, I'm gonna have to take their side on this one.
/not a Jesus freak. Atheist, in fact. But picking a fight with the bride on her wedding night will get you that response 100% of the time. Why did you think you'd be invited, anyway? Exes don't usually get invited. Were you guys still good friends up till that point?
 
2013-04-14 11:45:08 AM  

eddiesocket: ChemicalChance: These couples are almost always unmarried parents in their early twenties and it's always the woman's idea. If this happens to a male friend of mine, being female, I assume that: a) his balls are now in his girlfriend's hand, b) his life is miserable now, and c) I'm not allowed to be friends with him, not that he'd be any fun to be around any more anyway. DH and I have separate accounts. We know each others' passwords as a safeguard in case of unforeseen circumstances, but I can honestly say I've never once used it.

Joint Facebook accounts are the lamest thing imaginable, and I automatically assume that a couple who have one have an unhealthy, controlling relationship. Usually on the woman's part, but also sometimes the guy's.

You're being willfully blind if you don't think there are just as many, if not more, controlling men in relationships. But instead of a joint Facebook account, they'd be more likely to not allow an account at all.


being female, I assume that: a) his balls are now in his girlfriend's hand,  I stopped reading there!
 
2013-04-14 11:59:46 AM  

one-in-the-chamber: facebook sucks. honestly, it is the worst. it is the 21 century version of the Christmas card you get with the photo of the family on it. only 365 24/7. please let this sink in. no one cares that you went to florida and little jimmie touched a manatee. you only do this for your self, and MAYBE your closest relatives. I gotta idea, pick up a phone, and share it.
and then we headed out to Shelbyville with an onion tied to our belts...


I just got back from seaworld and i put a pic of my daughter petting a dolphin so im getting a kick out of this.

i may be in the minority here but I like seeing my friends and family post pics of trips or interesting things they do.  Thats kinda the readson i am on facebook.  I don't care one bit about their politics or all the other stuff people post but the 24/7/365 christmas card stuff is kinda what I am there for.

However....i dont want to know every detail of your life but the occasional highlight is kinda cool
 
2013-04-14 12:18:25 PM  
One of the partners found out they can keep all the kinky stuff on the downlow at Fetlife.com?
 
2013-04-14 12:21:13 PM  
No. Joint. Anything.  amimean?
 
2013-04-14 12:32:24 PM  

enry: Yeesh. The only thing we share online is a google calendar so we can stay in sync on our schedules.

/marred for 17 years


Best typo EVER.
 
2013-04-14 12:35:57 PM  
Psychotherapist Dan Auerbach

upload.wikimedia.org
 
2013-04-14 12:40:02 PM  

Mad_Radhu: One of the partners found out they can keep all the kinky stuff on the downlow at Fetlife.com?


I'm picturing insurance-company commercials with Snoopy in leather.
/NTTAWWT
 
2013-04-14 12:40:05 PM  

edmo: Confabulat: please not contact her anymore.

Sounds like the kind of guy we'll be reading about in FARK eventually.


seriously. old friend miles away? not MY wife! well hello Mr.Insecurity

Mad_Radhu: One of the partners found out they can keep all the kinky stuff on the downlow at Fetlife.com?


one learns of all the best sites on Fark.
 
2013-04-14 12:41:41 PM  

WhippingBoy: Safety. You don't want some disgruntled prisoner tracking down your family. My friend is a parole officer, and the same rule applies.

Oh, and the day that Facebook becomes a constitutional right is the day we need to nuke the Earth from orbit and start over.


Hmm. Well, the first amendment and its protections of speech and association could apply, right? Plus, employers tend to have a pretty tough time in the eyes of the law when it comes to regulating off-work-away-from-workplace behavior (even, sometimes, when employees are on call). Federal labor law, for example, has been shown to protect some Facebook posts in terms of employer retaliation. I could see a private company being able to regulate Facebook use because most states are hire-and-fire-at-will anyway, but it's tough to see a public concern like a prison saying no facebook accounts across the board. Do you know if the rule is really just a suggestion, or if not, what legal basis they invoke?
 
2013-04-14 12:47:46 PM  

MaxSupernova: one-in-the-chamber: facebook sucks. honestly, it is the worst. it is the 21 century version of the Christmas card you get with the photo of the family on it. only 365 24/7. please let this sink in. no one cares that you went to florida and little jimmie touched a manatee. you only do this for your self, and MAYBE your closest relatives. I gotta idea, pick up a phone, and share it.
and then we headed out to Shelbyville with an onion tied to our belts...

I just got back from seaworld and i put a pic of my daughter petting a dolphin so im getting a kick out of this.

i may be in the minority here but I like seeing my friends and family post pics of trips or interesting things they do.  Thats kinda the readson i am on facebook.  I don't care one bit about their politics or all the other stuff people post but the 24/7/365 christmas card stuff is kinda what I am there for.

However....i dont want to know every detail of your life but the occasional highlight is kinda cool


dude. no one cares. really, no one. except your wife, and maybe mom-in-law. let me ask you this, you maybe to young, but do you remember bringing "photographs" of your vacation to work, or for that matter your wedding photos? NO ONE cares about your day to day existence but you, and those with whom you directly interact.
 
2013-04-14 12:47:47 PM  
I know a couple with a joint Facebook account. Going off their history, it's likely due to the guy being an over-controlling asshole who hates it when the lass has guy friends who he can't constantly monitor.

They got married two months ago.
 
2013-04-14 12:50:57 PM  
I did it "to" myself. grammer police! attack!
 
2013-04-14 12:52:31 PM  
I absolutely hate this shiat. I never know who I'm talking to.
 
2013-04-14 12:55:59 PM  
The ex I never merged Facebook accounts. I'm glad we didn't now. The only couple I know who has merged their accounts is a hyper-fundie couple who did it as a condition of his parole for looking at porn.

/I wish I was kidding
 
2013-04-14 01:12:33 PM  
To me people with joint accounts come off as really possessive. When I am friends with one spouse and hardly know the other, it makes me a little uncomfortable because I never know who is commenting. Also,it just makes them seem like they think their partner is so hot and everyone wants to take them away. Sorry, no. If you can't trust your partner to have their own friends, even online, you need to get off my internets.
 
2013-04-14 01:19:16 PM  

SundaesChild: I can see it having its benefits in connecting with family, especially if one of the partners is a big social media person and the other is not.  Alternatively, my in-laws had a joint account, because of trust issues due to them being non-exclusive early in their relationship.  Anyway, it's nobody's business but the couple's.  I'd prefer my own account, but that's just me.


I disagree that it is only their business. I have a friend who I like to stay in contact with but who has an obnoxious, bigoted, self-righteous, condescending asshole of a wife. If they had a merged account, I'd miss his funny, interesting posts.
 
2013-04-14 01:22:21 PM  

Quantum Apostrophe: What about women who have nothing but pictures of their baby? I was looking up people from high school and the amount of profiles with nothing but the baby picture was 95+%.


Those are the best. If you want to see pictures of your sister's kids, they are right there. If you don't want to, you no longer have to have your coworker shove a bunch of pictures on your face.
 
2013-04-14 01:40:08 PM  

Malenfant: The "we" people have always existed.  They stop saying "I," and instead it's always "We..." because they've surrendered their individuality.  This is just an extension of that.


These are the same people who have no personal identity unless they're somebody else's girlfriend/boyfriend/husband/wife/mother/father, etc. They'll talk your ear off about their spouse and/or kids, but ask them about themselves and they're just...stumped.
 
2013-04-14 01:49:39 PM  
Neither my boyfriend nor I have Facebook accounts, but if we did, I certainly would not want a joint account with him.  I have my own friends and interests, as does he.  Just because we're a couple doesn't mean every facet of our lives must be shackled to each other in perpetuity.  We have separate Twitter accounts, separate e-mail accounts.....blending everything together, whether you're married or not, looks like you can't trust that other person and need a way to check up on them to make sure they're not doing something you don't think they're supposed to.
 
2013-04-14 02:02:30 PM  

God Is My Co-Pirate: It means I hate you.

And stop sending your spouse public lovey messages on Facebook.


I agree soooooooo much!  I can't stand those stupid Facebook messages...

"Love you princess, have a great day!"

Just say it to their d_mn face and don't drag all of the rest of us along for the ride.  We know you secretly hate each other!
 
2013-04-14 02:20:12 PM  
1. Facebook sucks, and any of you who continue using it have no right to complain, because it sucks and therefore you add to the suck by supporting it.

2. Google makes it a real biatch to set up an account as a couple. They want a single real name attached to each account, and when it's two (or more) people you have to fight their system to make a family account.

3. There's nothing wrong with wanting to use that social media crap to allow people who  insist on using it to contact  both people at once. If anyone on Facebook has anything to say to me, they can say it to my girl, too. I have nothing to hide from her, and she is the one most likely to get in contact with me if I miss the message.

4. That said, I don't use Facebook*, but I can see why people would want a "joint account" or a "family account".  When you're partnered up, and you're HAPPY in your partnership or family arrangement, you embrace the idea that you're a team. If you have to maintain separate accounts so that you have separate friends and conversations, then you're hiding things from your partner, even if it is mundane crap. If you don't share everything with your partner, then why are you partnered up in the first place? What's the point if you aren't going to experience life together and trust each other? I already divorced someone who was big on secrets, separateness and subterfuge. Never again.

*I maintain an account under a pseudonym, but only to enter contests that obnoxiously require Facebook to enter them; A practice I'd love to see abolished.

5. My choice to use a numbered list this time seems to have been a poor one, but never let it be said that I don't follow through.

6. Swiss cheese is better with beef than with chicken.

7. I could go for a cheeseburger right now.

8. Facebook and Twitter are representative of the worst problems with our society today. Social media is killing our ability to be intelligent, thoughtful, kind, considerate, tactful, loyal, or private. With some of you assholes, every action needs to be posted and tweeted and relayed to your entire network, and I hate you for it, because I don't give a damn about the minutiae of your life, or the lives of the other few billion people on Facebook or Twitter, and I REALLY don't think Facebook is the right place to share my family's activities and minor details with friends, extended family members, and acquaintances (as well as complete strangers). If I want my friends and extended family to know what's up with the ZC family, I'll email them, or call them, or let them know in person. I'll send a snail-mail letter before I'll post on Facebook.

9. Whenver I see articles that use Facebook as their commenting system, I'm guaranteed to see some of the  dumbest, most uninformed opinions outside of YouTube. That's a fact. And it makes me consider this: Do I really want to be among those assholes? Facebook is to conversation as Walmart is to mom & pop stores.

10. I just wanted to reach number ten because it felt like the right thing to do. Congratulations for getting this far. We should throw a party. With hookers. And blackjack.
 
2013-04-14 02:23:10 PM  
If we shared an account, how would I make fun of his Magic: The Gathering posts without appearing schizophrenic?
 
2013-04-14 02:26:05 PM  
Back when I first got started with the Internet I had a joint email with my (now ex) husband. To be honest, it never occurred to me to do it any other way. We had one phone number and one physical address, so one email also made sense.

But that was almost 20 years ago. Anyone doing that these days is just trying to show off. The fact that they think having a spouse is showing off tells you a lot about their sanity.
 
2013-04-14 02:30:00 PM  
As a terminally single man, that's how I see couples anyway. When everything you say or do with one is going to be reported to the other, there's no point in seeing them as individuals anymore.
 
2013-04-14 02:38:31 PM  

ZombiesYall: To me people with joint accounts come off as really possessive. When I am friends with one spouse and hardly know the other, it makes me a little uncomfortable because I never know who is commenting. Also,it just makes them seem like they think their partner is so hot and everyone wants to take them away. Sorry, no. If you can't trust your partner to have their own friends, even online, you need to get off my internets.


It has nothing to do with possessiveness. It has to do with trust and sharing. There's nothing you need to say to me that you can't say to her, too. She's my partner in everything. I trust her more than I do any other person in the world, and so your stupid little Facebook messages simply do not trump my bond with my partner.

And yes, we are very much a "we" couple. I know people who haven't experienced true love can't even grasp this (Hell, I couldn't until I found her, and I had a lot of relationships) but when you find the one, they really are a part of you. The two of you together make a whole, complete, better whole than the halves you were before you found each other. Individuality isn't lost, but it sure is nice having someone whom you trust and love completely, to the point of feeling that you are both extensions of each other.

Like I said, it's hard to explain it in any way that anyone who doesn't experience would find at all believable, but it is what it is. We are a team. We are better because of it. Anything I say, she can hear. Anything said to me can also be said to her.

If you're closer to your friends than your wife, then you're not in love. If your friends have things that can only be said to you, then you're not in love. If you can't trust your partner with every single tiny detail of your existence, then they aren't the person you were meant to be with. That doesn't mean you HAVE TO share every detail, but that you take no measures to keep secrets or lead a double-life.

If your friends, once married, don't become "our friends", then eventually you will have problems when the friends f♥ck up your marriage. Anybody who needs to have access to you exclusively without your partner as part of the package is a selfish, jealous twat. Your partner should be your very best friend in the most honest, true way possible. Not the stupid lip-service way most people say it in, but in a genuine way: They should be the one you want to hang out with before  anybody else.
 
2013-04-14 02:42:37 PM  

sorebones: As a terminally single man, that's how I see couples anyway. When everything you say or do with one is going to be reported to the other, there's no point in seeing them as individuals anymore.


I kinda feel sorry for you. Sounds lonely.
 
2013-04-14 02:48:43 PM  
Let me clarify: We don't use Facebook anymore. If we did, we would have no need to maintain separate accounts. We're a family, and the account would only be used to contact our family.

If you want to contact my family, that means me, her, and anyone else under the roof.
 
2013-04-14 03:04:15 PM  

ZeroCorpse: sorebones: As a terminally single man, that's how I see couples anyway. When everything you say or do with one is going to be reported to the other, there's no point in seeing them as individuals anymore.

I kinda feel sorry for you. Sounds lonely.


It is sometimes, but I'd rather suffer occasional loneliness than lose my sense of self.
 
2013-04-14 03:46:45 PM  

ZeroCorpse: ZombiesYall: To me people with joint accounts come off as really possessive. When I am friends with one spouse and hardly know the other, it makes me a little uncomfortable because I never know who is commenting. Also,it just makes them seem like they think their partner is so hot and everyone wants to take them away. Sorry, no. If you can't trust your partner to have their own friends, even online, you need to get off my internets.

It has nothing to do with possessiveness. It has to do with trust and sharing. There's nothing you need to say to me that you can't say to her, too. She's my partner in everything. I trust her more than I do any other person in the world, and so your stupid little Facebook messages simply do not trump my bond with my partner.

And yes, we are very much a "we" couple. I know people who haven't experienced true love can't even grasp this (Hell, I couldn't until I found her, and I had a lot of relationships) but when you find the one, they really are a part of you. The two of you together make a whole, complete, better whole than the halves you were before you found each other. Individuality isn't lost, but it sure is nice having someone whom you trust and love completely, to the point of feeling that you are both extensions of each other.

Like I said, it's hard to explain it in any way that anyone who doesn't experience would find at all believable, but it is what it is. We are a team. We are better because of it. Anything I say, she can hear. Anything said to me can also be said to her.

If you're closer to your friends than your wife, then you're not in love. If your friends have things that can only be said to you, then you're not in love. If you can't trust your partner with every single tiny detail of your existence, then they aren't the person you were meant to be with. That doesn't mean you HAVE TO share every detail, but that you take no measures to keep secrets or lead a double-life.

If your friends, once married, don't become "our friends", then eventually you will have problems when the friends f♥ck up your marriage. Anybody who needs to have access to you exclusively without your partner as part of the package is a selfish, jealous twat. Your partner should be your very best friend in the most honest, true way possible. Not the stupid lip-service way most people say it in, but in a genuine way: They should be the one you want to hang out with before  anybody else.


You are extraordinarily creepy.
 
2013-04-14 03:53:52 PM  

ZeroCorpse: ZombiesYall: To me people with joint accounts come off as really possessive. When I am friends with one spouse and hardly know the other, it makes me a little uncomfortable because I never know who is commenting. Also,it just makes them seem like they think their partner is so hot and everyone wants to take them away. Sorry, no. If you can't trust your partner to have their own friends, even online, you need to get off my internets.

It has nothing to do with possessiveness. It has to do with trust and sharing. There's nothing you need to say to me that you can't say to her, too. She's my partner in everything. I trust her more than I do any other person in the world, and so your stupid little Facebook messages simply do not trump my bond with my partner.

And yes, we are very much a "we" couple. I know people who haven't experienced true love can't even grasp this (Hell, I couldn't until I found her, and I had a lot of relationships) but when you find the one, they really are a part of you. The two of you together make a whole, complete, better whole than the halves you were before you found each other. Individuality isn't lost, but it sure is nice having someone whom you trust and love completely, to the point of feeling that you are both extensions of each other.

Like I said, it's hard to explain it in any way that anyone who doesn't experience would find at all believable, but it is what it is. We are a team. We are better because of it. Anything I say, she can hear. Anything said to me can also be said to her.

If you're closer to your friends than your wife, then you're not in love. If your friends have things that can only be said to you, then you're not in love. If you can't trust your partner with every single tiny detail of your existence, then they aren't the person you were meant to be with. That doesn't mean you HAVE TO share every detail, but that you take no measures to keep secrets or lead a double-life.

If your friends, once married, don't become ...


It's interesting how you think I haven't experienced true love because of a snarky post about a website that you don't even use. Also, I wonder about people like you who go around the internet taking general posts who are directed at no one in particular as if they were directed at you personally.
 
2013-04-14 03:54:06 PM  
Those people in the article are hideous. I think they should put pictures of their cars or cats on their facebook, not their faces
 
2013-04-14 03:55:46 PM  
I view friends that do this as being dead. Really they are. They no longer have a right to make any decisions. I defriend them online and in person.
 
2013-04-14 04:41:15 PM  

SkerriNinja: I have a former high school friend who does this. She signed up on Facebook as "Ted LovesHisWifeShelly LastName". He has never once posted. But she posts about him all the time, so now he looks like one of those pompous asses that speaks only in third person. I'll bet you $20 that he never even knew she started the page.


is she five?
/don't have a facebook
//forever alone
 
2013-04-14 05:00:02 PM  

Quantum Apostrophe: What about women who have nothing but pictures of their baby? I was looking up people from high school and the amount of profiles with nothing but the baby picture was 95+%.


Hide all new parents in your news feed, easy way to get rid of endless babies.
 
2013-04-14 05:10:51 PM  

eddiesocket: ChemicalChance: These couples are almost always unmarried parents in their early twenties and it's always the woman's idea. If this happens to a male friend of mine, being female, I assume that: a) his balls are now in his girlfriend's hand, b) his life is miserable now, and c) I'm not allowed to be friends with him, not that he'd be any fun to be around any more anyway. DH and I have separate accounts. We know each others' passwords as a safeguard in case of unforeseen circumstances, but I can honestly say I've never once used it.

Joint Facebook accounts are the lamest thing imaginable, and I automatically assume that a couple who have one have an unhealthy, controlling relationship. Usually on the woman's part, but also sometimes the guy's.

You're being willfully blind if you don't think there are just as many, if not more, controlling men in relationships. But instead of a joint Facebook account, they'd be more likely to not allow an account at all.


Re-read her post again. If a couple has joint facebook accounts, she assumes it's the woman creating a controlling relationship. Your second sentence agreed with her. Your first sentence has nothing to do with her post.
 
2013-04-14 05:13:37 PM  
I wonder if people who share email and Facebook accounts also listen in on every phone call their significant other makes.
 
2013-04-14 05:13:38 PM  

bigbobowski: MaxSupernova: one-in-the-chamber: facebook sucks. honestly, it is the worst. it is the 21 century version of the Christmas card you get with the photo of the family on it. only 365 24/7. please let this sink in. no one cares that you went to florida and little jimmie touched a manatee. you only do this for your self, and MAYBE your closest relatives. I gotta idea, pick up a phone, and share it.
and then we headed out to Shelbyville with an onion tied to our belts...

I just got back from seaworld and i put a pic of my daughter petting a dolphin so im getting a kick out of this.

i may be in the minority here but I like seeing my friends and family post pics of trips or interesting things they do.  Thats kinda the readson i am on facebook.  I don't care one bit about their politics or all the other stuff people post but the 24/7/365 christmas card stuff is kinda what I am there for.

However....i dont want to know every detail of your life but the occasional highlight is kinda cool

dude. no one cares. really, no one. except your wife, and maybe mom-in-law. let me ask you this, you maybe to young, but do you remember bringing "photographs" of your vacation to work, or for that matter your wedding photos? NO ONE cares about your day to day existence but you, and those with whom you directly interact.


10-4 champ

No one cares but the people who do care....I totally understand now.
 
2013-04-14 05:14:06 PM  

ZeroCorpse: ZombiesYall: To me people with joint accounts come off as really possessive. When I am friends with one spouse and hardly know the other, it makes me a little uncomfortable because I never know who is commenting. Also,it just makes them seem like they think their partner is so hot and everyone wants to take them away. Sorry, no. If you can't trust your partner to have their own friends, even online, you need to get off my internets.

It has nothing to do with possessiveness. It has to do with trust and sharing. There's nothing you need to say to me that you can't say to her, too. She's my partner in everything. I trust her more than I do any other person in the world, and so your stupid little Facebook messages simply do not trump my bond with my partner.

And yes, we are very much a "we" couple. I know people who haven't experienced true love can't even grasp this (Hell, I couldn't until I found her, and I had a lot of relationships) but when you find the one, they really are a part of you. The two of you together make a whole, complete, better whole than the halves you were before you found each other. Individuality isn't lost, but it sure is nice having someone whom you trust and love completely, to the point of feeling that you are both extensions of each other.

Like I said, it's hard to explain it in any way that anyone who doesn't experience would find at all believable, but it is what it is. We are a team. We are better because of it. Anything I say, she can hear. Anything said to me can also be said to her.

If you're closer to your friends than your wife, then you're not in love. If your friends have things that can only be said to you, then you're not in love. If you can't trust your partner with every single tiny detail of your existence, then they aren't the person you were meant to be with. That doesn't mean you HAVE TO share every detail, but that you take no measures to keep secrets or lead a double-life.

If your friends, once married, don't become ...


That sounds sad.
 
2013-04-14 05:20:02 PM  

Bisu: eddiesocket: ChemicalChance: These couples are almost always unmarried parents in their early twenties and it's always the woman's idea. If this happens to a male friend of mine, being female, I assume that: a) his balls are now in his girlfriend's hand, b) his life is miserable now, and c) I'm not allowed to be friends with him, not that he'd be any fun to be around any more anyway. DH and I have separate accounts. We know each others' passwords as a safeguard in case of unforeseen circumstances, but I can honestly say I've never once used it.

Joint Facebook accounts are the lamest thing imaginable, and I automatically assume that a couple who have one have an unhealthy, controlling relationship. Usually on the woman's part, but also sometimes the guy's.

You're being willfully blind if you don't think there are just as many, if not more, controlling men in relationships. But instead of a joint Facebook account, they'd be more likely to not allow an account at all.

Re-read her post again. If a couple has joint facebook accounts, she assumes it's the woman creating a controlling relationship. Your second sentence agreed with her. Your first sentence has nothing to do with her post.


I'm going to say something that's never been said on the internet before: I was wrong. Point taken.
 
2013-04-14 05:22:09 PM  

Dragonflew: I wonder if people who share email and Facebook accounts also listen in on every phone call their significant other makes.


Also, since couples like Zero Corpse and his lucky lady can't have a single written exchange with another human without the other one being a part of it, are they allowed to converse with people face to face without the other one there? I'm thinking no. That would be like a secret and those are death to true love.
 
2013-04-14 05:30:27 PM  
It means that you're a needy, whining, insecure shrew, and that your passive husband is getting his sexual needs met from dudes at Home Depot, which is why he's there all the time.
 
2013-04-14 05:34:14 PM  

95BV5: enry: Yeesh. The only thing we share online is a google calendar so we can stay in sync on our schedules.

/marred for 17 years

Best typo EVER.


Who said it was a typo? I loved it for the face value.
 
2013-04-14 05:44:00 PM  

sorebones: As a terminally single man, that's how I see couples anyway. When everything you say or do with one is going to be reported to the other, there's no point in seeing them as individuals anymore.


Good point. Really good point.
 
2013-04-14 05:45:41 PM  
"We've been together 16 years, we have three kids, there's not a lot that we can hide from each other," Ms Stanton-Cook said.

Not a lot. I think you might want to look at that not a lot. It could actually be a lot.
 
2013-04-14 05:52:17 PM  

ZeroCorpse: ZombiesYall: To me people with joint accounts come off as really possessive. When I am friends with one spouse and hardly know the other, it makes me a little uncomfortable because I never know who is commenting. Also,it just makes them seem like they think their partner is so hot and everyone wants to take them away. Sorry, no. If you can't trust your partner to have their own friends, even online, you need to get off my internets.

It has nothing to do with possessiveness. It has to do with trust and sharing. There's nothing you need to say to me that you can't say to her, too. She's my partner in everything. I trust her more than I do any other person in the world, and so your stupid little Facebook messages simply do not trump my bond with my partner.

And yes, we are very much a "we" couple. I know people who haven't experienced true love can't even grasp this (Hell, I couldn't until I found her, and I had a lot of relationships) but when you find the one, they really are a part of you. The two of you together make a whole, complete, better whole than the halves you were before you found each other. Individuality isn't lost, but it sure is nice having someone whom you trust and love completely, to the point of feeling that you are both extensions of each other.

Like I said, it's hard to explain it in any way that anyone who doesn't experience would find at all believable, but it is what it is. We are a team. We are better because of it. Anything I say, she can hear. Anything said to me can also be said to her.

If you're closer to your friends than your wife, then you're not in love. If your friends have things that can only be said to you, then you're not in love. If you can't trust your partner with every single tiny detail of your existence, then they aren't the person you were meant to be with. That doesn't mean you HAVE TO share every detail, but that you take no measures to keep secrets or lead a double-life.

If your friends, once married, don't become ...


So who is the controller in this relationship?
 
2013-04-14 05:53:01 PM  
Do FB and Twitter allow couples to merge their existing accounts and old content, or do you have to create a new account and start from scratch?  If someone's going to "move in" to the other's accounts and abandon their own, who should it be?
 
2013-04-14 05:54:23 PM  

ZeroCorpse: sorebones: As a terminally single man, that's how I see couples anyway. When everything you say or do with one is going to be reported to the other, there's no point in seeing them as individuals anymore.

I kinda feel sorry for you. Sounds lonely.


Sounds practical to me. When you see two people as one it becomes an issue. They have both lost their identities.
 
2013-04-14 05:56:56 PM  

sorebones: ZeroCorpse: sorebones: As a terminally single man, that's how I see couples anyway. When everything you say or do with one is going to be reported to the other, there's no point in seeing them as individuals anymore.

I kinda feel sorry for you. Sounds lonely.

It is sometimes, but I'd rather suffer occasional loneliness than lose my sense of self.


You just made my faves list. Totally agree.
 
2013-04-14 06:26:07 PM  
With email, which we actually use, it's transparency.
Although we had one guy email us and ask if we were swingers.  We are not.
Apparently, email address formatted as himandher is a shibboleth for swingers.  who knew?

for fb and twitter?  I had a fb account once because one of my friends had one & wanted to contact me on it.
I think I logged in once.  It reminded me of a geocities homepage. yeech.
find out later the friend also decided fb is completely vapid and never used his again either

Tanya has a twitter account so she can follow Elle Fowler, but never figured out how to transmit.  Other than using it for what's basically rss, it also seems like a complete waste of time.

She's reading this as I type; the "swingers" thing was kinda funny because we had NO idea.  Guy on the other end wants to know if we had any nekkid pix to share and we looked at each other " WHAT did he just ask?  And what in the hell gave him the idea this was an appropriate thing to say to someone?!!"  We figured it was the GIFT, but then he explained the naming convention.
 
2013-04-14 06:50:18 PM  

eddiesocket: Okay yeah, I'm gonna have to take their side on this one.
/not a Jesus freak. Atheist, in fact. But picking a fight with the bride on her wedding night will get you that response 100% of the time. Why did you think you'd be invited, anyway? Exes don't usually get invited. Were you guys still good friends up till that point?


Good friends? We were best friends for over 20 years until she found Jesus. Damn right I expected an invite.
 
2013-04-14 08:26:37 PM  

ZeroCorpse: 1. Facebook sucks, and any of you who continue using it have no right to complain, because it sucks and therefore you add to the suck by supporting it.


You got onto my faves list with that alone. The only thing less important than Facebook and Twitter is whether or not people share an account. The entire thing is full of useless drivel and pictures of precious snowflakes posted for the benefit of relatives, who probably don't really care either. But if it makes people happy, go ahead and amuse yourself on it, just stop whining at how others choose to use it.

I actually also agree with ZeroCorpse's post beginning with "It has nothing to do with possessiveness. It has to do with trust and sharing. There's nothing you need to say to me that you can't say to her, too. She's my partner in everything. I trust her more than I do any other person in the world, and so your stupid little Facebook messages simply do not trump my bond with my partner".

Really, if your partner isn't the one person you want to hang out with before anybody else, why would you marry them?
 
2013-04-14 08:38:11 PM  

Nidiot: ZeroCorpse: 1. Facebook sucks, and any of you who continue using it have no right to complain, because it sucks and therefore you add to the suck by supporting it.

You got onto my faves list with that alone. The only thing less important than Facebook and Twitter is whether or not people share an account. The entire thing is full of useless drivel and pictures of precious snowflakes posted for the benefit of relatives, who probably don't really care either. But if it makes people happy, go ahead and amuse yourself on it, just stop whining at how others choose to use it.

I actually also agree with ZeroCorpse's post beginning with "It has nothing to do with possessiveness. It has to do with trust and sharing. There's nothing you need to say to me that you can't say to her, too. She's my partner in everything. I trust her more than I do any other person in the world, and so your stupid little Facebook messages simply do not trump my bond with my partner".

Really, if your partner isn't the one person you want to hang out with before anybody else, why would you marry them?


Agreed. You should enjoy being around your spouse more than anyone else. Now what does that have to do with having a joint Facebook account?
 
2013-04-14 08:41:12 PM  

eddiesocket: Nidiot: ZeroCorpse: 1. Facebook sucks, and any of you who continue using it have no right to complain, because it sucks and therefore you add to the suck by supporting it.

You got onto my faves list with that alone. The only thing less important than Facebook and Twitter is whether or not people share an account. The entire thing is full of useless drivel and pictures of precious snowflakes posted for the benefit of relatives, who probably don't really care either. But if it makes people happy, go ahead and amuse yourself on it, just stop whining at how others choose to use it.

I actually also agree with ZeroCorpse's post beginning with "It has nothing to do with possessiveness. It has to do with trust and sharing. There's nothing you need to say to me that you can't say to her, too. She's my partner in everything. I trust her more than I do any other person in the world, and so your stupid little Facebook messages simply do not trump my bond with my partner".

Really, if your partner isn't the one person you want to hang out with before anybody else, why would you marry them?

Agreed. You should enjoy being around your spouse more than anyone else. Now what does that have to do with having a joint Facebook account?


Oh, and why is Fark less "superficial drivel" than Facebook?
 
2013-04-14 08:50:27 PM  

Confabulat: eddiesocket: Okay yeah, I'm gonna have to take their side on this one.
/not a Jesus freak. Atheist, in fact. But picking a fight with the bride on her wedding night will get you that response 100% of the time. Why did you think you'd be invited, anyway? Exes don't usually get invited. Were you guys still good friends up till that point?

Good friends? We were best friends for over 20 years until she found Jesus. Damn right I expected an invite.


I'm so very sorry you didn't get an invitation to the wedding. It must have been quite traumatic for you. Hopefully with the help of a really good therapist plus some medication you will be able to pick up the shattered pieces of your life and get through this atrocious event without permanent scarring to your soul. It would be just so easy to fall into a black pit of despair after a catastrophe such as that. Fancy someone choosing to start a new life, with a new man, and not inviting you. You, of all people. The horror of it goes beyond what most people could imagine. Sheesh, if numbers were tight she could have not invited her mother. Just remember though, time heals all wounds.

Then, when you do finally get over this nightmare inducing tragedy, you might consider the wisdom of choosing the wedding night as the right time to bring up the subject of why you weren't invited, or maybe it could occur to you, without you having to ask at all, that it is perfectly normal for exes to not be invited to the wedding, and they are usually perfectly fine with that.
 
2013-04-14 09:02:52 PM  

eddiesocket: Oh, and why is Fark less "superficial drivel" than Facebook?


It isn't. Well okay, Fark doesn't have a metric ass-load of baby pictures, which makes it superior. Obviously.

But I'm fine with using any superficial drivel filled site as takes your fancy. Just don't make out it is somehow significant how people use such an amusement though. Why biatch that their using the site doesn't match your ideas of how they should use the site? If it makes them happy to use a joint account, good for them, if you don't want to have a joint account, you don't have to. I don't like Facebook at all, so I don't use it at all. Simple.
 
2013-04-14 11:58:12 PM  

ZeroCorpse: Let me clarify: We don't use Facebook anymore. If we did, we would have no need to maintain separate accounts. We're a family, and the account would only be used to contact our family.

If you want to contact my family, that means me, her, and anyone else under the roof.


You are borg.
 
2013-04-15 02:07:26 AM  
"What does it mean when you want to portray yourself as a couple rather than an individual?"

It means your pussywhipped.
 
2013-04-15 02:44:58 AM  

MaxSupernova: .i dont want to know every detail of your life but the occasional highlight is kinda cool


You could always engage in meaningful two-way communication them.  Putting something on your wall for everyone to see is not communication in any meaningful sense, any more than standing in the town square monologuing at anyone in hearing distance is.

Lots of people say "I have a facebook to keep up with my friends / relatives I never have anything to do with otherwise".  So the 200 people from high school, college, and those 50 distant relatives you literally cannot be bothered to even pick up the phone for... you're interested in them?  Are you really?  Because it doesn't sound like it.  It sounds like you just have a hard time letting go of long dead relationships.

If you can't put in the minimal effort of a phone call, e-mail, or card every once in a while, you're not friends.  If someone doesn't consider you important enough to warrant actual personal communication, you're not friends.  You're strangers standing in a the town square, waving posterboards over your heads.
 
2013-04-15 02:50:12 AM  
I wonder if people do this because one of them are distrustful/jealous or domineering or if one has a history of cheating.
 
2013-04-15 06:14:55 AM  
Lots of hate up in here. This looks a lot like a Facebook thread.
 
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