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(Daily Mail)   Love concierge specializes in turning successful Silicon Valley geeks into sexy Silicon Valley studmuffins. mostly by telling them Weird Science was just a movie and that they should spend $20K and up on better wardrobe and bleached teeth   (dailymail.co.uk) divider line 81
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2013-04-07 12:53:25 PM  
Ha, I happened to be a random "friend in common" of two people in Silicon Valley who were on a blind date. Those two should never have been paired up ... but honestly the super-talented engineer was a socially-awkward nightmare. Nice, but never learned how to exist around people. (But hey, if socially-awkward engineers never find someone who accepts them, I wouldn't be here. Hi Dad!)
 
2013-04-07 01:00:40 PM  
From The Farking Article (caption under picture): Love guru: Amy Andersen, CEO of Linx Dating, created the Thursday night parties that transformed the Silicon Alley dating scene


Hehehe, Silicon Alley sounds like a euphemism.
 
2013-04-07 01:09:00 PM  
Maybe they don't like malacas.
 
2013-04-07 01:15:30 PM  

Mandapants: According to Vanity Fair, when the 36=year-old CEO of Linux Dating started 'Cougar Night'

I was curious about this, so I followed the link and ended up at "Linx Dating".  http://www.linxdating.com

<insert Daily Fail comment here>

Seriously, is reading comprehension so hard? I'm actually disappointed because I wanted to know what Linux Dating would be.


Will you go out with me?
No.
sudo will you go out with me?
OK
 
2013-04-07 01:22:10 PM  

unyon: ms_lara_croft: FTA: "Anderson's colleague, Nina Ericson, admits that she often encounters men who think they engineer the perfect woman. 'I have a lot who say, "I want a 105-pound Olympian, Ivy League-educated triathlete,"' she says, 'they aren't going to find that on Thursday at the Rosewood.'

I find it odd that guys getting no ass at all are so picky.  The most successful single guys I know talk to all the ladies.


I have a coworker who lives with his mother and is an admitted 24-year-old virgin. He asked me one day if I could set him up with someone, then spend 10 minutes describing his "minimum requirements" (his term, not mine).
 
2013-04-07 01:38:14 PM  

thorsmistress: I have a coworker who lives with his mother and is an admitted 24-year-old virgin. He asked me one day if I could set him up with someone, then spend 10 minutes describing his "minimum requirements" (his term, not mine).


I've been in a similar situation (co-worker was 27 and lived with his grandmother).

One of his "minimum requirements" was that she couldn't have too much of an overbite.
 
2013-04-07 01:39:12 PM  

gadian: You know, if you have to become really uncomfortable and new to find a woman who will like you...you're doing it incredibly wrong.  She won't like you.  You'll have to stay in the uncomfortable and new (and out $20k) character the entire time you're with this woman otherwise you'll get the old "you're not the man you were when I met you" breakup line.


I don't think it would be uncomfortable to lose a few pounds, clear up that acne, swap the glasses for contacts, and straighten out the ol' chompers. Sometimes a nice smile alone is what does it for me. Hell, I've been stupid attracted to nerdy guys who literally only had THAT going for them. Unfortunately, a lot of brilliant people just forget about dental cleanings and floss. I've known my share.

It's not like she's squeezing them into speedos. Maybe they've been wearing the wrong size suits all this time, or they've never left the tighty whities? Guys have it easy. What looks good on you is usually comfortable.

I think this service is good, but far too expensive.
 
2013-04-07 01:59:18 PM  

gadian: You know, if you have to become really uncomfortable and new to find a woman who will like you...you're doing it incredibly wrong.  She won't like you.  You'll have to stay in the uncomfortable and new (and out $20k) character the entire time you're with this woman otherwise you'll get the old "you're not the man you were when I met you" breakup line.


Well put.

FWIW, I love my geeky girl.
 
2013-04-07 02:12:39 PM  

GWSuperfan: gadian: You know, if you have to become really uncomfortable and new to find a woman who will like you...you're doing it incredibly wrong.  She won't like you.  You'll have to stay in the uncomfortable and new (and out $20k) character the entire time you're with this woman otherwise you'll get the old "you're not the man you were when I met you" breakup line.

Well put.

FWIW, I love my geeky girl.


See, I think the "uncomfortable" factor is them actually trying to be who they're not PERSONALITY wise. I don't think that's really what the chick is going for here. I think a few lifestyle changes help a lot of people without changing who they are fundamentally.

CSS: I dated a guy for a few months who was a former basement dwelling 300lb guy. I would never have believed it had he not shown me pictures. He was a HUGE nerd, a virgin until 25, you know the guy. One day long before I met him, he decided he was going to change his ways. He lost a hundred pounds, cleared up his skin, started eating really well, learned to cook, etc.

He was still a nerd. He still played WOW. He still invited me over for a marathon of the Robot Chicken Star Wars Specials. He just looked and therefore felt better. He was a total sweetheart, really generous, very loving- the way I bet he's always been. He just changed his appearance from sweaty basement dweller to normal everyday guy.
 
2013-04-07 03:17:44 PM  
Every word of that article is bullshiat.
 
2013-04-07 04:18:03 PM  

thorsmistress: unyon: ms_lara_croft: FTA: "Anderson's colleague, Nina Ericson, admits that she often encounters men who think they engineer the perfect woman. 'I have a lot who say, "I want a 105-pound Olympian, Ivy League-educated triathlete,"' she says, 'they aren't going to find that on Thursday at the Rosewood.'

I find it odd that guys getting no ass at all are so picky.  The most successful single guys I know talk to all the ladies.

I have a coworker who lives with his mother and is an admitted 24-year-old virgin. He asked me one day if I could set him up with someone, then spend 10 minutes describing his "minimum requirements" (his term, not mine).


Sounds like my now husband and myself lol.

Dating is very difficult especially for us "late bloomers" especially with a full college workload which makes socialization hard.

I found that losing weight and getting out of my parent's house helped tremendously, and World of Warcraft.

I always thought about setting up a service like this because my husband and I have been there. I would charge substantially less.

/Any Toronto Takers?
 
2013-04-07 05:40:35 PM  
A 105-pound Ivy League Olympian would make me feel like a damn loser. I just want a girl that'll smoke weed with me, make morbid jokes, and fight with me for the controller.
 
2013-04-07 07:32:14 PM  
TheJOe03The funny thing about the Bay is that the generally straight laced San Jose is a sausage fest and the women have a more elevated view of themselves (probably since they have more choices) while up the 101 in the gay capital it's a different kind of sausage fest so it really works in the favor of straight men. That might be the secret to why SF is so tolerant, the straight dudes realized the advantage of living in a gay city.


This.  Hetero dating was good in SF when I was there.  Glad I wasn't single in Silicon valley.
 
2013-04-07 08:09:53 PM  
Based on my considerable experience with software engineers, most could make themselves more attractive simply by adding a daily shower and tooth brushing to their routine.
 
2013-04-07 08:46:54 PM  
I'm one of those guys with self-confidence shot to bits, and my body language betrays this. I've also got pretty bad social phobia from some very negative social experiences when I was younger. I honestly find the prospect of hitting on women to be utterly terrifying. Any attempt to break out of this shell usually results in more embarrassment. It's an extremely difficult cycle to break.
 
2013-04-07 08:48:56 PM  
Carrying yourself with confidence is...like 90% of finding a mate.

Fano: miss diminutive: 'A lot have been incredibly successful because of their analytical minds,' Andersen told the magazine, 'but women don't want to be out with a cyborg.'

Well, that depends. Is the cyborg programmed with multiple techniques?

[www.heavymetal.com image 492x312]

Yeah, but he's jewish so she suddenly gets all squirmy


Looooove that movie. Tickles every adolescent part of my brain all at once.
 
2013-04-07 08:54:20 PM  
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DAILY DAILY DAILY DAILY

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2013-04-07 10:15:51 PM  

kiwimoogle84: CSS: I dated a guy for a few months who was a former basement dwelling 300lb guy. I would never have believed it had he not shown me pictures. He was a HUGE nerd, a virgin until 25, you know the guy. One day long before I met him, he decided he was going to change his ways. He lost a hundred pounds, cleared up his skin, started eating really well, learned to cook, etc.

He was still a nerd. He still played WOW. He still invited me over for a marathon of the Robot Chicken Star Wars Specials. He just looked and therefore felt better. He was a total sweetheart, really generous, very loving- the way I bet he's always been. He just changed his appearance from sweaty basement dweller to normal everyday guy.


I good friend of mine put together a 5 year plan to degeekify himself. I suggested that was like an alcoholic trying to sober up by taking a trip to the bar. Well, it's 10 years later and he's still as geeky as ever, but he has a really hot fiancé, so something worked out ok for him.

Meanwhile, I'd like to remind the nerds out there that social skills are just that - skills. There are techniques and methods involved in being social. It may not come naturally, but with practice, it does work. Me? I tried, and decided I was happier being my nerdy self.
 
2013-04-07 11:12:30 PM  

Mandapants: Seriously, is reading comprehension so hard? I'm actually disappointed because I wanted to know what Linux Dating would be.


Bunch of neck-beards lingering at the tail end of a slashdot thread, one-upping each other's neglected printer daemon uptime output.
 
2013-04-07 11:39:40 PM  

spamdog: I'm one of those guys with self-confidence shot to bits, and my body language betrays this. I've also got pretty bad social phobia from some very negative social experiences when I was younger. I honestly find the prospect of hitting on women to be utterly terrifying. Any attempt to break out of this shell usually results in more embarrassment. It's an extremely difficult cycle to break.


What, and countless well-meaning friends parroting "be confident!" and "be yourself!" over and over didn't help? Shocking..
 
2013-04-07 11:58:05 PM  

Mentalpatient87: What, and countless well-meaning friends parroting "be confident!" and "be yourself!" over and over didn't help? Shocking..


Hah! Yes. Plenty of that.
I have a very charismatic friend who believes in that kind of "will to power" stuff. I can understand why he believes in that kind of thing, having a lifetime of positive reactions to his charisma behind him. It doesn't bother me, I just remind myself that we have had very different experiences in that regard.
 
2013-04-08 12:20:00 AM  
man+$20k=sexy man
 
2013-04-08 12:34:06 AM  

spamdog: I can understand why he believes in that kind of thing, having a lifetime of positive reactions to his charisma behind him.


But somehow nobody seems to realize that growing up being told that you're not worthwhile will kinda make you feel that way. And that you can't just flip a switch and forget two decades of anxiety.
 
2013-04-08 12:38:03 AM  

dready zim: man+$20k=sexy man


No, it's Silicon Valley.  $20K is like walking around money.  Man + $2000K = sexy man.

/When homes are selling for $500K over list cash because of all the Asian investors, you may be in a place with a high cost of living.
 
2013-04-08 12:50:22 AM  

BolshyGreatYarblocks: Tyrone Slothrop: Sid_6.7: pxlboy: You'd think with all that money it might occur to some of them to hire a personal trainer, update the wardrobe, etc.

But they also know that money can get you a partner who would otherwise be out of your league.

If one really wants to "get" a partnet (i.e. the person is not just in it for the money) then they need, one word:

Confidence.

And I mean in social situations. Confidence is the ultimate aphrodisiac. Money just helps instill it so much that it tends to overshadow other sources. Social graces also help immensely. If you can't social your way out of a paper family gathering, then good f*cking luck!

"Confidence" is just what women tell themselves to avoid admitting they like dating arseholes.

I GISed "investment banker", and this was at the top of the page:

[static5.businessinsider.com image 400x300]


But look at that embossing... and, oh my god..eggshell.
 
2013-04-08 12:51:35 AM  

Mentalpatient87: spamdog: I can understand why he believes in that kind of thing, having a lifetime of positive reactions to his charisma behind him.

But somehow nobody seems to realize that growing up being told that you're not worthwhile will kinda make you feel that way. And that you can't just flip a switch and forget two decades of anxiety.


Maybe not. But tipping a cup can help..
 
2013-04-08 12:55:27 AM  

Somaticasual: But tipping a cup can help..


Aaand I don't drink. Which more or less seals my fate.
 
2013-04-08 03:59:55 AM  
NewWorldDan:
Meanwhile, I'd like to remind the nerds out there that social skills are just that - skills. There are techniques and methods involved in being social. It may not come naturally, but with practice, it does work. Me? I tried, and decided I was happier being my nerdy self.

It really is a skill-set. Before I met Lordfortuna, I went out on two dates with a guy who went to the same school (as LF), similar degree, and completely unable to cope with meeting a female who actually liked the same things he liked. Considering that RIT is not exactly devoid of geeky girls, that was kind of surprising. The guy seriously could not get over the fact that I liked video games and webcomics, and brought it up way too often. Hence why there was not a third date.

LF at least was like hey, cool, did you read Penny Arcade yesterday?

/4th anniversary in June coming up...
 
2013-04-08 06:01:49 AM  
zimbach:

"Available women and engineers of Silicon Valley both go to Sand Hill Road looking for the same thing: venture capitalists."

Ugh. Dealing with the vcs was pretty much the worst part of my experience at a start-up. Dating one sounds awful.
 
2013-04-08 11:53:19 AM  
kiwimoogle84: "I don't think it would be uncomfortable to lose a few pounds, clear up that acne, swap the glasses for contacts, and straighten out the ol' chompers."

This.  The list of stereotypical geek behaviors that scare off any potential romantic partner is fairly long and has little to do with their actual personality.
Liking computers and math? Not scaring off people.  What scares off people is: being an asshole (even accidentally). Letting mother, or trade show grab bags, dress you. Being a little loose on hygiene. Treating people as objective inputs into your life rather than actual individuals who can enrich it. A little stalker-ish over-focus on people you barely/don't know. etc.
 
2013-04-10 12:45:13 PM  

onyxruby: Tech types don't have the experience to gain the confidence and social skills they need. Woman is offering that and making a fortune doing so.

Thing is if a guy like that starts to analyze women the way he used to analyze computers and set aside any talk about tech he can become a man whore. Women become another type of puzzle to solve and seducing them becomes the challenge.


And then you end up with
s.yimg.com
 
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