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2013-03-25 08:52:26 PM
18 votes:
Younger women are (generally) more physically attractive, less jaded, more fun, and less concerned about their biological clocks.

Likewise, older men are (generally) more mature, financially stable, and looking to settle down. And men usually age better.

The equation is so obvious that I don't even know what problem people would have with it.

When I was a high school freshman, the girls my age wanted to date the seniors. In college, they wanted guys with careers. But then they turn middleaged and suddenly wonder why men their age aren't interested in them. That young girl taking the older guys was you 20 years ago.
2013-03-25 09:06:59 PM
10 votes:
It's not so much that I'm attracted to younger women, it's that there's nothing I want from a woman my age. Who wants to deal with a pre-menopausal, boring, demanding harpy whose idea of fun is shopping and eating? Or some sort of career-driven superwoman running around all the time and has no time for a simple walk in between running the universe and buying expensive crap? Or delusional middle-aged pear-shaped women who weigh well into the mid 200s but insist they're not fat? Yet find it necessary to point out my receding hairline?

You can stop eating, what can I do about my hair?

3D print a toupee?
2013-03-25 08:13:29 PM
10 votes:
Of the women who complain about younger girls stealing their men, I wonder how many did the exact same thing with older men when they were younger women themselves. What goes around comes around.
2013-03-25 05:33:58 PM
8 votes:
Sexual attractiveness aside, younger people have less baggage.
2013-03-25 09:06:11 PM
7 votes:
Because men age like wine and women age like milk.
2013-03-25 08:11:46 PM
7 votes:
Why is this issue never explored with the question "Why do younger women date older men?"?
2013-03-25 09:20:31 PM
6 votes:
One thing always baffled me. When I was 39, I dated a 22 year old. Women my age would come up to me and say "You know, she's only dating you for your money".

To this day, I fail to see the relevance of that statement. The last thing I cared about was why she was dating me.
2013-03-25 09:07:35 PM
6 votes:
They're far more fertile, and much more likely to give birth to a child with a respectable IQ and fewer behavioral or developmental problems.
2013-03-25 08:26:40 PM
6 votes:
Why do older women try to pretend that it's "gross" instead of being honest about their own insecurities.

Trust me honey, it's far less gross than whatever spoiled flower you've got growing between your legs.
2013-03-25 08:09:40 PM
6 votes:
About Me: Dr. Gracelyn Santos is President and Co-Owner of Santos & Mroczek DDS ~ Family & Cosmetic Dentistry in Meiers Corners. She serves on 3 non-profit boards and is a published author and photographer. Married with 3 children, she is also a former Miss Staten Island.

Translation: "I'm getting older, my looks are fading and I can't get free meals and lots of attention anymore."
2013-03-25 09:20:18 PM
5 votes:
Because most women in their late 20's aren't coming out of either a first or second marriage hating and resenting the entire male gender. And don't have kids. And aren't interested in "reforming" me. Why the fark would I want to date you after some other dude spent 20 years turning you into an emotional cripple?
2013-03-25 09:13:00 PM
5 votes:
Whenever I'm around young-uns at work, I almost go insane listening to:

1) All the things they say they are going to do that they aren't ever going to do
2) All the bad ideas that they think are going to go swimmingly
3) All the things they think are brand new that they just came up with that aren't

My tongue hurts like a MF'er after biting it all day.  I'm so proud when I can just nod and go "Mmm Hmmn" and keep my yap shut.

Cuz somebody did me that courtesy years back - and I thank them.

Ahhhhh - that was cathartic.
2013-03-25 09:04:37 PM
5 votes:
I'm in my early 40's. I date younger women for one simple reason: Younger women act more mature than older women.
2013-03-25 09:49:59 PM
4 votes:

Kiwimann: Quantum Apostrophe: It's not so much that I'm attracted to younger women, it's that there's nothing I want from a woman my age. Who wants to deal with a pre-menopausal, boring, demanding harpy whose idea of fun is shopping and eating? Or some sort of career-driven superwoman running around all the time and has no time for a simple walk in between running the universe and buying expensive crap? Or delusional middle-aged pear-shaped women who weigh well into the mid 200s but insist they're not fat? Yet find it necessary to point out my receding hairline?

You can stop eating, what can I do about my hair?

3D print a toupee?

As someone else said... this.


When I find a woman my age that doesn't immediately run the "Oh my god how come you've never been married isn't that strange don't you want kids I need someone with a degree you're too short why don't you have a car why do you still use a bike what brand of clothes do you wear" script, that's probably the day every single proton in the universe decays.
2013-03-25 09:16:20 PM
4 votes:

meanmutton: It always struck me as kind of weird.  I'm 35.  To me, there are few women younger than, say, 26 or 27 that I really find all that physically attractive (Kate Upton, obvious exception) even despite the radical difference in our life situations.

Oh, and that screeching thing that 22 year olds do in the bars?  Yeah, not dealing with that.

/get off my lawn.
//rookie old guy


You think that that screeching is bad when a 22 year old does it? Imagine what it's like when a 44 year old does it.

/shudder
2013-03-25 09:12:03 PM
4 votes:
Actually, for me, I think it's the stupid haircuts and glasses that women in their 40's wear.
Frosted short hair, "Funky" thick multi-coloured frames?

What the hell, ladies?
What. The. Hell?
2013-03-25 09:10:23 PM
4 votes:
I can't remember who said it, but a reporter once asked a famous rock star why rock stars always date supermodels.  His reply?  "Because we can."

The same response works for "Why do older men date younger women."
2013-03-26 10:58:25 AM
3 votes:

Broke Angry and Depressed: How about not dismissing all women who reach a certain age and have some (workable) issues? In a batch of coal one can still find a diamond.  It just takes some willingness to look (not to mention have something of yourself to offer).


Leaving aside the hilarious ignorance of materials science, why do you think wealthy aging men are going to waste time looking for a diamond that may or may not even exist under all that coal, when there are piles of diamonds all around to claim?

/the clock's ticking for us too, you know
//I would have liked to have kids without ending up in the grave before I could see them graduate high school eighteen years later
///but them's the breaks
2013-03-26 12:58:47 AM
3 votes:

Oldiron_79: GF named my left testicle thundercles: Nidiot: From GF named my left testicle thundercles's link:
"when I get tired of them I just delete their numbers from my cell phone and stop taking their calls ... It doesn't really hurt them that much: at this point they're used to pump & dump!''

...and then men wonder why older women are jaded...

Really, is that all that an older woman can expect from life, to be nothing more than repeatedly pumped and dumped or to spent the next half of her life a lonely old cat woman? Is the advice to marry in your 20's and hope to hell you never divorce or your husband doesn't die because after that you are completely unwanted?

the moral of this story is if you are an older woman without a man it is because you chose to reject dozens of good quality men during your 20s, and now get to experience your own medicine during your 30s (with interest).

the advice is to invest in a good man when your market value is high instead of pissing away your 20s riding the badboy and alpha cock carousel. they will dump your ass as soon as it is worthless because they are are not stupid, and they are completely aware that you dont actually love them or care about them. they know that you only care about the way they make you feel and the way they make you look.

This



See my post above on how it is not an exclusive male trait to not be mature enough for marriage in one's twenties.

Also, as an aside, out of curiosity, while you beta males were all upset that the hot girls were "riding the badboy and alpha cock carousel " did you ever bother to even glance at some of the not so hot girls that were available to you at the time? Just letting you know not every girl in her twenties was aiming at an alpha or a 'bad boy', so perhaps it was only the girls you deemed 'worthy' of your interest.
2013-03-25 11:04:41 PM
3 votes:
Because males are attracted to beauty and females are attracted to power.
2013-03-25 10:15:27 PM
3 votes:
I have a hard time imagining dating a girl in her 20s now that I am over 40. I deal with them at work frequently and they are mind-numblingly annoying. You can't have sex every minute of the day, so you have to deal with vapid twaddle for hours on end. Just find someone close to your age that you like to be with and enjoy getting old together. I also don't understand the logic from the woman's side. Spend the best years of your life with some old codger, and when he checks out out when you are around 50 don't expect to attract another one. My mother-in-law was 32 years younger than her husband and was widowed when she was in her late 40s. Been alone ever since - and she was hella hot when she was younger - still looks good now. (always something to note when choosing a spouse, if mom looks good than the daughter should age well too).
2013-03-25 09:36:12 PM
3 votes:
FTA: "Further, his choices are not at all about the bedroom (hard to believe, I know) and more about how he enjoyed the company of women less jaded. And women in their 20s are simply ... umm... less jaded. Oh boy."

The author's, "Oh boy" comment smacks of the jadedness that most men hate. And, this article is filled with similar comments.

I suspect the man is not fooling himself.  He understand that most relationships are doomed to fail within seven years even when both people are the same age.  But why hack on the guy for wanting to having a few nice fun date instead of listening to an old, jaded, woman complain about the fact that her ex is late on child support all night and doesn't spend enough time with their kids.  Younger women simply have less baggage... and firmer bodies.
2013-03-25 09:27:36 PM
3 votes:

Altitude5280: Why do   younger women  date older men?


weknowmemes.com
2013-03-25 09:26:21 PM
3 votes:
loldaddy.com

Sadly, too many girls look at that pic and think "great idea"
2013-03-25 09:23:35 PM
3 votes:
Evolution. Simple, basic, uncomfortable, evolution.

Young women have more years left in the reproductive phase of their lives. Older men have access to more resources to feed and clothe those children. It's not rocket science. It's just our genes.
2013-03-25 09:21:01 PM
3 votes:
My uncle Jim was a lifelong bachelor of the straight variety. He also managed to stay in amazing shape and looked about 65 in his early 80's. At age 83, he brought a date to a family picnic who was a good looking milfy 40-45 or so. The difference in reaction between the men and the women was the damnedest thing I've ever seen.
The women there looked like they were going to start a lynch mob. The men were dumbstruck with admiration.
hej
2013-03-25 09:19:53 PM
3 votes:
Where do I find these mythical younger women who are all for taking advantage of my financial security?
2013-03-25 09:08:54 PM
3 votes:
What I wish I knew when I was younger:
If you find yourself with a hot hot woman who can't get enough and is too much for you to handle, aim for six months. You don't even need to tell her. You'll both be happier.
2013-03-26 01:33:17 AM
2 votes:
Ok, I understand. We're not supposed to shame Rhianna for going back to Chris Brown because "women make choices based on many factors and influences and we have to respect that" but a man prefers younger women and well, this article speaks for itself.

Women make choices = exercising their inviolable rights
Men make choices =  wrong-headed losers destroying society and keeping women down, etc.
2013-03-26 12:02:44 AM
2 votes:
It dawned on me one day that I was old.

The brain kept telling me that I was still somewhere in my 30's. If that was the case, who in the hell was that 60 year old guy looking back at me from the mirror?

I reflected on the women I had cared about in the past and realized that my mental images of them were long out of date; from a time when they were in their 20's. Now, all would be over 50.

Sure, I'd noticed I was slowing down. Less vim and vigor. Legs ached at times and my back periodically acted up. I had plastic lenses installed in my eyes -- and still need glasses. The Dr told me the cataracts were from a lifetime of being outside in the sun.

I can't wolf down an entire, large, everything on it pizza like I used to. Maybe half. Then, within hours, I grab the Tums. That never used to happen. I used to be a champion of causes decades ago, determined to change the world. Now, either I figure it's too much effort for something that's going to fail anyhow or just completely stupid.

The niece I used to bounce on my knee and who thought I was the best thing since ice cream when she was 5 is now in her 20's, in college, often speaks to me like I'm a child and no longer has time to visit.

I'm single. I think about relationships. When I check out dating sites and women within my age bracket, I want to run. Baggy, draggy and saggy. MILFs with saggy boobs, lumpy hips and curiously bumpy bellies.

They remind me of my Mom.

Any woman under 21 is ..... too dippy and too inexperienced, not to mention a one way trip to the slammer and a ruined life. There's a fire in their eyes and their step that lasts well into their thirties that is attractive and they usually have well formed, smooth skinned, comfortable bodies.

I'm attracted to the 30's. They still have some expectations, can view the world with eyes not fully jaded, still like to look good for 'their' man and can be experimental, willing to try new things. Usually, by then they've learned that guzzling a bottle of Jim Beam, throwing up in the toilet, the car, the living room or on the street and suffering a hideous hangover the next day isn't all that much fun anymore.

Yet they still act and look young. There's a spring in their step. Their skin is still smooth and firm. They haven't yet developed the ingrained frown lines around their mouths or the hard look in their eyes. Most have not yet gotten the pear shape of The Great American Mom.

They're a pleasure to touch, to hold, to smell, to be around. They know what they like. Very few will give you that 'fake' affection so many younger women like to hand out like candy.

Yeah. That's what draws me to younger women.

Plus, they still wear 'panties' and not 'drawers'.

However, I'm not the handsomest man to look at. I never was. I've not turned into a beach-ball with legs, my skin doesn't resemble either that of a corpse or sun burnt, wrinkly leather. Somewhere, my abs vanished, probably around the time my ass decided to take a walk and leave me flat back there.

A bunch of my hair left and what remains is no longer silky brown, but rather a crappy grayish tint. Years of fighting lost causes has left lines in my face and more years of realizing that the majority of humanity sucks has taken a lot of the twinkle out of my eyes.

I weigh only 10 lbs more than I did in my 30's. I control my weight. I'm tired of seeing older men in shorts and baseball caps, wearing sports jerseys and sprouting beer guts the size of kegs.

A younger woman steams me up. I don't want to cuddle with someone with wrinkly, leathery skin, a voice starting to grow hoarse, legs getting spindly and the only thing plastic surgery can really fix is the face.
Over 40, anything from the neck down can't really be fixed with surgery.

Yeah, I'm not as randy as before, but the urge is still there. Medications have affected my function, but there's always Viagra. I might not be able to go three and 4 times in one night, but I can probably perform better for her. One good session might be just as satisfying as 4 hasty, hormone driven ones.

I still like black lights and scented candles. I like mood music. I like how easy a pretty woman is on the eyes. They're so graceful when they move -- before they pass 50. After 50, it starts to become obvious that there's some wear and tear on the operating machinery.

I know that from myself.

I can understand why a guy wants a younger woman. I just have problems understanding why cute, younger woman would want some of the twisted, saggy, baggy, pallid, downright ugly wrecks of older men.

It's a pain in the ass for the brain to still think you're 20 to 30 years younger than you actually are, but that will happen to all of us as we age.

Another advantage of older age: you're not as quick to start swinging in a bar after a few shots. The pain, the hassle, and the expense afterwards aint worth it.

Maybe some hair dye will help. A good set of dentures or implants. After a certain age, you can pump iron all you want, and your muscles are still going to sag. (It will strengthen your bones, though.)

Still, I can dream of meeting a younger woman. I can go back in my memories and recall all of those I've held in the past. For some, I still recall their perfume, the scent of their shampooed hair and the strength of their hugs.
2013-03-26 12:01:02 AM
2 votes:
Ben Franklin had something to say about older women and younger men
2013-03-25 11:53:21 PM
2 votes:

shower_in_my_socks: Why is this issue never explored with the question "Why do younger women date older men?"?


This! People don't want to ask this question because any answer beyond "he has money or fame" would force them to think harder than Hollywood writers.

CS:
After years of having the "no more than five years" rule I started dating someone 20 years my senior. One date went to 2, 2 went to 10, 10 went to me moving in and now I'm planning our 4th Anniversary.

Guys my age are still binge drinking at the club or are just starting to find themselves. Which is all fine and dandy, its not my life. However, dating someone that loves sushi one week then hates it the next is too frustrating and confusing. One does not simply have time for that.

Why can't I love my boyfriend because he knows what he wants, he has more sexual experience, he has a steady routine, he doesn't need me to show him how to hang drywall, he is a gentleman, or because he is a (proven) good father?

No, it has to because I can't count to potatoe, need a sugar daddy, and I'm just waiting for the day for him to die so I can collect all of his insurance and sail away on some fancy yacht with my new boyfriend that has six pack abs and no ability to speak English while giving the finger to his entire family. Yeah, that makes MUCH more sense!
2013-03-25 10:14:41 PM
2 votes:
I'm 52 and my girlfriends are 22, 26, 27, 32, 35, 41 and 44.  I'm trying to get them in a pile.
2013-03-25 10:02:13 PM
2 votes:
So Dr. Santos, how many pounds have you and chubby, I mean hubby, put on since you were 24 or since you were Miss Staten Island.  I'm guessing 30 to 40 conservatively for you and way more for him.  That should definitively answer your question.  So go back to your lumpia and crispy skin pork because that Filipino food is tasty and try not to ask any more ridiculous questions.

media.silive.com

By the way here's a picture of your friend cumming with his 24 year old girl friend.

www.untitledname.com
2013-03-25 09:50:23 PM
2 votes:
Older women are a lot more straightforward than younger ones. I like like looking at girls in their early 20's, but not near as much as I hate having to listen to them. To them, the most trivial shiat is the most important thing in the world, and you better listen to it. Older women have been around enough to know that half the shiat that younger ones talk about is absolutely meaningless in the long run, they generally like you for who you are (someone who is younger and more attractive than men in their own age group), and they are generally down to get as freaky as you want without having to take them out to eat and then shopping.

The only downside to older women is that they are only a short-term investment.
2013-03-25 09:46:33 PM
2 votes:

Delay: megarian: Oh. OH!! I get it. Yeah well that would involve being social. Fark that noise. Get off my lawn.

I'm house trained. That shiat must be from some other neighbor's dog.


It's cool. My house gimp eats shiat, so...I have no idea where I was going with this. So yeah. Why isn't this a yoga pants thread yet?
2013-03-25 09:14:58 PM
2 votes:
It always struck me as kind of weird.  I'm 35.  To me, there are few women younger than, say, 26 or 27 that I really find all that physically attractive (Kate Upton, obvious exception) even despite the radical difference in our life situations.

Oh, and that screeching thing that 22 year olds do in the bars?  Yeah, not dealing with that.

/get off my lawn.
//rookie old guy
2013-03-25 09:04:52 PM
2 votes:

shower_in_my_socks: Why is this issue never explored with the question "Why do younger women date older men?"?


Daddy issues.  Sweet, sweet daddy issues.
2013-03-25 09:02:54 PM
2 votes:
younger girls with daddy issues.  Sadly, I'm in my 30s, so the girls with daddy issues for 30 year olds would result in felony charges.
2013-03-25 08:51:01 PM
2 votes:

shower_in_my_socks: Why is this issue never explored with the question "Why do younger women date older men?"?


Because the men that are my age are farking idiots,seriously I'm not kidding. Now on the other hand I can have great conversations with my fiance,he makes me laugh,doesn't do shiat that could get him killed,is kind and all around just great. Age isn't really a big deal to me. What matters to me is personality.
2013-03-25 07:03:02 PM
2 votes:
You'd think someone with the title "Doctor" would be a little less naive
2013-03-25 06:51:30 PM
2 votes:
Plus, they were easy on the eyes. A-ha! So he admits he was after their looks!

And I wonder what the woman -- oh, wait, I mean the girl who is young enough to be his daughter -- wants.

/What is the number of people required to tango, anyway?
2013-03-26 11:58:54 PM
1 votes:
I had this page open from last night, and just as i suspected when i refreshed the page, Megarian is suddenly now a Total Fark member, where as before she was just a liter.

"ya don't need no money when you look like that do ya honey"
2013-03-26 08:53:15 PM
1 votes:
Women don't actually get to tell men who the men ought to find attractive.

Men get to decide who they find attractive.

A lot of men have (finally) decided that a careerist, shrieking, shaming over-40 harpy isn't offering men anything worth having.
2013-03-26 06:21:37 PM
1 votes:

Broke Angry and Depressed: they have to deal with the constant inequality of just exisiting in this world,


The constant inequality of not suffering alone, of having entire social institutions devoted to them.... How many homeless men in your area? Homeless women? How many single men you know? How many single women? How much work do men have to do just for the pleasure of being rejected?

And no, I'm not talking about India, I mean here in North America. What's it like for the majority of women?

Broke Angry and Depressed: WhippingBoy: Broke Angry and Depressed: Quantum Apostrophe: It's not so much that I'm attracted to younger women, it's that there's nothing I want from a woman my age. Who wants to deal with a pre-menopausal, boring, demanding harpy whose idea of fun is shopping and eating? Or some sort of career-driven superwoman running around all the time and has no time for a simple walk in between running the universe and buying expensive crap? Or delusional middle-aged pear-shaped women who weigh well into the mid 200s but insist they're not fat?

So bacically when women gets to that point they should just head for the cliffs like lemmings (because even though they have to deal with the constant inequality of just exisiting in this world, and some of the factors in their lives might be caused by biology or society (and the men who control it,)) they have nothing left to offer the poor men. who are forced to turn to younger women.

What's your solution? Force men at gunpoint to go for bitter, self-absorbed, middle-aged hags?

How about not dismissing all women who reach a certain age and have some (workable) issues? In a batch of coal one can still find a diamond.  It just takes some willingness to look (not to mention have something of yourself to offer).


Well, your user name isn't doing much against my argument...
2013-03-26 02:09:48 PM
1 votes:
My (current) wife is a bit younger than me, enough that I got comments.

Here's the thing, when I found myself divorced (not my idea) in my late thirties, I picked myself up and got back into the dating scene.

I tried, I really tried dating women about my age.  It's not a question of attraction.  What I ran into what insanity.

The women my age who were smart, caring and a good match were unavailable because they weren't single.  They had great marriages (with or without kids).    Shiat happens obviously, but in general, at 40, the gems are usually very taken (both for men and women).

The ones that were available fell into several categories that really didn't work for me:

1) Divorced, bitter and unwilling to try again and eager to take revenge on all mankind.
2) Divorced, happy (with or without kids) but didn't want any kind of relationship that involved any commitment (I'm not into the FwB thing) because "I've done that."  Forget kids, they either had them and were done with that or didn't want them.
3) So married to their jobs that one date a month was tough to pencil in.
4) Divorced 3 to 5 times, had 3 to 5 kids and were incredibly eager to get married RIGHT NOW and have another kid
5) Single, never married and never been in a relationship...for VERY GOOD REASONS (bat shiat crazy)

Sorry...but no.  Fark that, life is too short.

Then I met my (current) wife, she was younger than the women I was dating, more down to earth, didn't play games and we were looking for the same things.  She had no kids, no ex husbands and was tired of the shiat she was given by guys her age.

We've been married a few years now and I enjoy the heck out of the fact that not only do I have a great wife who's a great friend but we have a little daughter that is joy personified for me (since I figured it wouldn't happen after the first marriage failed).
2013-03-26 12:20:26 PM
1 votes:

shower_in_my_socks: Younger women are (generally) more physically attractive, less jaded, more fun, and less concerned about their biological clocks.

Likewise, older men are (generally) more mature, financially stable, and looking to settle down. And men usually age better.

The equation is so obvious that I don't even know what problem people would have with it.

When I was a high school freshman, the girls my age wanted to date the seniors. In college, they wanted guys with careers. But then they turn middleaged and suddenly wonder why men their age aren't interested in them. That young girl taking the older guys was you 20 years ago.


Older women fully understand the situation, really, but they don't like it so they pretend they don't understand the situation. It's very tough lose what you always had before.

Isn't it interesting that middle-aged men never write in asking why they become invisible to teenaged girls.
2013-03-26 11:40:42 AM
1 votes:
When a single guy hits late 30s, he's suddenly extremely attractive assuming he's had moderate career success and kept in decent shape.  You don't even need to be a world beater economically, the fact that you've had 10+ years of income and COLA raises than your apartment makes you look rich as fark to people in college or just out of college with student debt.  Plus the man has experience in the dating game and generally acting mature.  He's suddenly a hot commodity.

Whereas something like 1 in 4 college educated women are still unattached in their mid 30s.  However one must consider why?  Why was the successfully educated woman not snatched up by a man prior to this or at least in a stable relationship?  Odds are due to the fact she's farking ugly or has the personality of a fire breathing chimera.  As a man you have better odds of finding pleasant women by riffling though the 20 something pool of women, sure you'll hit some bimbos but there are more potentially good finds in that pool and you can take longer doing background research in that pool due to less pressure from the biological clock.  You can of course end up with a trophy wife that only likes you for your money, but of course if you marry a 30 something you could end up with Hell biatch.

The other thing to consider is a lot of the guys who are Alphas in their thirties, weren't Alphas in college.  They were busy busting their ass to cover tuition, pass their classes, and thus ignored because they weren't candidates to take a girl to Aspen or the Caymans on Spring Break.  Some of those men end up misogynists and just eager to fark the women they couldn't get in college.  Others aren't misogynist but definitely not interested in certain types of women, such as the ones that gave them the cold shoulder in college for various reasons.

/met a studious girl when I was squirreled away in that library
//happily married her and built a life together
/if I ended up on the market somehow, I'd stay the hell from women in my generation, there is always a bad reason that a product lingers on the shelf
2013-03-26 11:08:01 AM
1 votes:

Broke Angry and Depressed: WhippingBoy: Broke Angry and Depressed: Quantum Apostrophe: It's not so much that I'm attracted to younger women, it's that there's nothing I want from a woman my age. Who wants to deal with a pre-menopausal, boring, demanding harpy whose idea of fun is shopping and eating? Or some sort of career-driven superwoman running around all the time and has no time for a simple walk in between running the universe and buying expensive crap? Or delusional middle-aged pear-shaped women who weigh well into the mid 200s but insist they're not fat?

So bacically when women gets to that point they should just head for the cliffs like lemmings (because even though they have to deal with the constant inequality of just exisiting in this world, and some of the factors in their lives might be caused by biology or society (and the men who control it,)) they have nothing left to offer the poor men. who are forced to turn to younger women.

What's your solution? Force men at gunpoint to go for bitter, self-absorbed, middle-aged hags?

How about not dismissing all women who reach a certain age and have some (workable) issues? In a batch of coal one can still find a diamond.  It just takes some willingness to look (not to mention have something of yourself to offer).


We could do that, but why is that in our own best interests to do so? Relationships aren't based on charity, they're based on desire.
2013-03-26 10:43:52 AM
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Nidiot: Oldiron_79: GF named my left testicle thundercles: Nidiot: From GF named my left testicle thundercles's link:
"when I get tired of them I just delete their numbers from my cell phone and stop taking their calls ... It doesn't really hurt them that much: at this point they're used to pump & dump!''

...and then men wonder why older women are jaded...

Really, is that all that an older woman can expect from life, to be nothing more than repeatedly pumped and dumped or to spent the next half of her life a lonely old cat woman? Is the advice to marry in your 20's and hope to hell you never divorce or your husband doesn't die because after that you are completely unwanted?

the moral of this story is if you are an older woman without a man it is because you chose to reject dozens of good quality men during your 20s, and now get to experience your own medicine during your 30s (with interest).

the advice is to invest in a good man when your market value is high instead of pissing away your 20s riding the badboy and alpha cock carousel. they will dump your ass as soon as it is worthless because they are are not stupid, and they are completely aware that you dont actually love them or care about them. they know that you only care about the way they make you feel and the way they make you look.

This


See my post above on how it is not an exclusive male trait to not be mature enough for marriage in one's twenties.

Also, as an aside, out of curiosity, while you beta males were all upset that the hot girls were "riding the badboy and alpha cock carousel " did you ever bother to even glance at some of the not so hot girls that were available to you at the time? Just letting you know not every girl in her twenties was aiming at an alpha or a 'bad boy', so perhaps it was only the girls you deemed 'worthy' of your interest.



^^^^^ 100lbs of THIS! ^^^^^
2013-03-26 10:25:27 AM
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Broke Angry and Depressed: Quantum Apostrophe: It's not so much that I'm attracted to younger women, it's that there's nothing I want from a woman my age. Who wants to deal with a pre-menopausal, boring, demanding harpy whose idea of fun is shopping and eating? Or some sort of career-driven superwoman running around all the time and has no time for a simple walk in between running the universe and buying expensive crap? Or delusional middle-aged pear-shaped women who weigh well into the mid 200s but insist they're not fat?

So bacically when women gets to that point they should just head for the cliffs like lemmings (because even though they have to deal with the constant inequality of just exisiting in this world, and some of the factors in their lives might be caused by biology or society (and the men who control it,)) they have nothing left to offer the poor men. who are forced to turn to younger women.


What's your solution? Force men at gunpoint to go for bitter, self-absorbed, middle-aged hags?
2013-03-26 10:25:19 AM
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Nidiot: drewogatory: the advice is to invest in a good man when your market value is high instead of pissing away your 20s riding the badboy and alpha cock carousel. they will dump your ass as soon as it is worthless because they are are not stupid, and they are completely aware that you dont actually love them or care about them. they know that you only care about the way they make you feel and the way they make you look.

This is perhaps the greatest thing ever written on Fark.

Oh god I've answered that already, are you all stupid? Scroll up and try reading it.

Also were you another one only looking at the hot girls that were doing the alphas/bad boys, instead of the not so hot girls that were available to you? I'm getting the feeling lots of guys are still pissed they missed out on some cheerleader who ran off with the guy in the leather jacket back in high school.


What thread are you reading?  I'm getting the feeling that a lot of guys are quite happily banging  babes of whatever age they prefer.
2013-03-26 10:05:20 AM
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Quantum Apostrophe: It's not so much that I'm attracted to younger women, it's that there's nothing I want from a woman my age. Who wants to deal with a pre-menopausal, boring, demanding harpy whose idea of fun is shopping and eating? Or some sort of career-driven superwoman running around all the time and has no time for a simple walk in between running the universe and buying expensive crap? Or delusional middle-aged pear-shaped women who weigh well into the mid 200s but insist they're not fat?


So bacically when women gets to that point they should just head for the cliffs like lemmings (because even though they have to deal with the constant inequality of just exisiting in this world, and some of the factors in their lives might be caused by biology or society (and the men who control it,)) they have nothing left to offer the poor men. who are forced to turn to younger women.
2013-03-26 09:14:49 AM
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It's not just because younger women are physically more attractive. My wife is going to be 37 this month but could pass for mid twenties (yes she's Asian, how could you tell?).

However, what good is that if I only have sex with her once a month? I would settle for an older looking woman with a little more enthusiasm. She's a good mother though and I love my kid so I'm not going anywhere. And no, I'm not a fat bald slob...my wife just doesn't put sex high on the list. Or at least not with me. If I caught her cheating it would almost be a relief, because then we could have a conversation about an open marriage...not the best outcome since I would prefer a wild sex life with my wife...but the way I figure I've got a few more good years, and I am wasting them on redtube.
2013-03-26 08:58:43 AM
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When i got divorced at 35 I started dating girls ten years younger than me. I found I didnt have anything in common with them.

I'm 37 now and dating a woman who is 40 and I couldnt be happier.
2013-03-26 08:39:56 AM
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Reminds me a Benny Hill skit. The older woman turns to her man, (Benny Hill) after seeing him staring at a young, attractive woman and asks, "What's she got that I don't have?" Benny answers, "Nothing - she's just not had it as long."

And there's this:

i50.tinypic.com
2013-03-26 05:13:53 AM
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BECAUSE THEY ARE JUVENILE, PURILE,  SEXIST PIGS.  WHO ONLY THINK WOMEN ARE GOOD FOR ONE THING AND CAN'T ACCEPT A MATURE WOMAN.


walks away from this now doubt disgusting, misogynistic thread.

scritch, scritch scritch.   (sound made while walking away)
2013-03-26 02:33:57 AM
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i1172.photobucket.com

i have been fortunate enough to partake in a wide variety of the female form. 11/10 redheaded megahotties, cute fat tittied chubbies, skinny nerds, athletic tomboys and from hard learned experience, normal and average women are by far the best with fewer ego issues, head games, more down to earth personalities, and are actually loyal. nowadays when selecting a woman i ask myself this question, "if this person did not have a vagina, would i want anything to do with her?" it works!
2013-03-26 01:50:40 AM
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the advice is to invest in a good man when your market value is high instead of pissing away your 20s riding the badboy and alpha cock carousel. they will dump your ass as soon as it is worthless because they are are not stupid, and they are completely aware that you dont actually love them or care about them. they know that you only care about the way they make you feel and the way they make you look.

This is perhaps the greatest thing ever written on Fark.
2013-03-26 12:47:45 AM
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Additionally, while she may not be on as much of a deadline as a woman in her 30s or 40s for commitment because time is a-wasting to make little Jakey Juniors, I'm quite sure she is still concerned all the same about her biological clock on some level.

All women who want to have children are, especially planners and Type-As. They have a plan, I reminded him. We all have plans.


www.infinitydish.com

Yup, seems relevant...
2013-03-26 12:36:17 AM
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jaylectricity: Why do older women try to pretend that it's "gross" instead of being honest about their own insecurities?.


Because there's no advice that can really help the astute Dr. Lady Dentist other than: "Be younger."

Once the elasticity of her vagina starts to fade, shaming men is the only tool left in her toolbox.  "Honesty" sure as hell isn't going to cut it.
2013-03-25 11:54:55 PM
1 votes:

GF named my left testicle thundercles: Nidiot: From GF named my left testicle thundercles's link:
"when I get tired of them I just delete their numbers from my cell phone and stop taking their calls ... It doesn't really hurt them that much: at this point they're used to pump & dump!''

...and then men wonder why older women are jaded...

Really, is that all that an older woman can expect from life, to be nothing more than repeatedly pumped and dumped or to spent the next half of her life a lonely old cat woman? Is the advice to marry in your 20's and hope to hell you never divorce or your husband doesn't die because after that you are completely unwanted?

the moral of this story is if you are an older woman without a man it is because you chose to reject dozens of good quality men during your 20s, and now get to experience your own medicine during your 30s (with interest).

the advice is to invest in a good man when your market value is high instead of pissing away your 20s riding the badboy and alpha cock carousel. they will dump your ass as soon as it is worthless because they are are not stupid, and they are completely aware that you dont actually love them or care about them. they know that you only care about the way they make you feel and the way they make you look.


You can talk to yourself without using an internet forum, you know.
2013-03-25 11:47:34 PM
1 votes:
This:

rosalingerie.files.wordpress.com

or this?

i.telegraph.co.uk
2013-03-25 11:40:56 PM
1 votes:

Nidiot: From GF named my left testicle thundercles's link:
"when I get tired of them I just delete their numbers from my cell phone and stop taking their calls ... It doesn't really hurt them that much: at this point they're used to pump & dump!''

...and then men wonder why older women are jaded...

Really, is that all that an older woman can expect from life, to be nothing more than repeatedly pumped and dumped or to spent the next half of her life a lonely old cat woman? Is the advice to marry in your 20's and hope to hell you never divorce or your husband doesn't die because after that you are completely unwanted?


the moral of this story is if you are an older woman without a man it is because you chose to reject dozens of good quality men during your 20s, and now get to experience your own medicine during your 30s (with interest).

the advice is to invest in a good man when your market value is high instead of pissing away your 20s riding the badboy and alpha cock carousel. they will dump your ass as soon as it is worthless because they are are not stupid, and they are completely aware that you dont actually love them or care about them. they know that you only care about the way they make you feel and the way they make you look.
2013-03-25 11:32:12 PM
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I actually prefer slightly older women.
They have their own money.
2013-03-25 11:03:54 PM
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FTA: I told my friend Jake that while a 20-something may not be as "jaded," she may still have issues that are specific to young women, like insecurities and an annoying, constant need for attention and reassurance.

Oh yeah, older women never display those types of behaviors. The very fact she wrote this article using the condescending tone she did, basically proves it.
2013-03-25 10:55:40 PM
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WhippingBoy: One thing always baffled me. When I was 39, I dated a 22 year old. Women my age would come up to me and say "You know, she's only dating you for your money".

To this day, I fail to see the relevance of that statement. The last thing I cared about was why she was dating me.


Out of the mouth of babes: Melania Trump (née Knauss) was asked in an interview whether she was with Donald Trump because of his money. Her response? "If I weren't beautiful, do you think he'd be with me?"
2013-03-25 10:41:39 PM
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madgonad: I have a hard time imagining dating a girl in her 20s now that I am over 40. I deal with them at work frequently and they are mind-numblingly annoying. You can't have sex every minute of the day, so you have to deal with vapid twaddle for hours on end. Just find someone close to your age that you like to be with and enjoy getting old together. I also don't understand the logic from the woman's side. Spend the best years of your life with some old codger, and when he checks out out when you are around 50 don't expect to attract another one. My mother-in-law was 32 years younger than her husband and was widowed when she was in her late 40s. Been alone ever since - and she was hella hot when she was younger - still looks good now. (always something to note when choosing a spouse, if mom looks good than the daughter should age well too).


Nobody needs to look at your profile to know you're from the Bay area
2013-03-25 10:39:39 PM
1 votes:
Biology.
2013-03-25 10:37:11 PM
1 votes:

Omahawg: megarian: Delay: megarian: Oh. OH!! I get it. Yeah well that would involve being social. Fark that noise. Get off my lawn.

I'm house trained. That shiat must be from some other neighbor's dog.

It's cool. My house gimp eats shiat, so...I have no idea where I was going with this. So yeah. Why isn't this a yoga pants thread yet?

well said!

about the yoga pants

warn your gimp of e. coli


I saw that as I opened a bottle of wine. It was like poetry.
2013-03-25 10:36:55 PM
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2013-03-25 10:36:47 PM
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Like it or not, men and women age differently. Men tend to look more attractive with a few wrinkles and some gray hair, women not so much.
2013-03-25 10:30:12 PM
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megarian: Delay: megarian: Oh. OH!! I get it. Yeah well that would involve being social. Fark that noise. Get off my lawn.

I'm house trained. That shiat must be from some other neighbor's dog.

It's cool. My house gimp eats shiat, so...I have no idea where I was going with this. So yeah. Why isn't this a yoga pants thread yet?


well said!

about the yoga pants

warn your gimp of e. coli

www.triggabytes.com
2013-03-25 10:29:40 PM
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I'm a 32 year old man who has been dating a 23 year old for the last couple of months.  Her optimism, enthusiasm, and playfulness make her very enjoyable to be around.  The sex is great.  And other guys look at you in awe when you enter a bar/restaurant with an attractive younger women on your arm.

But dating a younger woman does have its downsides; younger women tend to be more flaky and unreliable than older women, and they're also more fond of "playing games" rather than just being straight with you.  Still, I'm happy enough with her that I don't have a lot of regrets.
2013-03-25 10:13:41 PM
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Well, why men would want 20 something women is obvious and should need no explanation.  The question is - why are women in their 20s willing to date older men?  This theory may have been posited earlier in this thread, but I am too lazy to read through them all - women in their mid-20s are often looking to settle down, get married, and start a family.  A vast majority of guys their age can't/won't do that.  Guys a little older are more financially secure and more willing to settle down.  Personal wealth probably is a significant factor as well.  I don't think a 25 year old hottie is going to want to date a 40 year old McDonald's fry guy.
2013-03-25 10:02:42 PM
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The Irresponsible Captain: Two reasons. Both pert.

Plus, young girls today are into the naughty stuff you were begging your girlfriend for in high school.


Take it a step further...younger women will do all the things your older model used to do for you and to you.
2013-03-25 09:59:16 PM
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shower_in_my_socks:
When I was a high school freshman, the girls my age wanted to date the seniors. In college, they wanted guys with careers. But then they turn middleaged and suddenly wonder why men their age aren't interested in them. That young girl taking the older guys was you 20 years ago.

Ah yes it's coming back to me now, I remember this back in school.  Not only did girls date older guys, they bragged about it to their friends when they could snag one.  They were more 'mature', more 'experienced' and 'knew how to treat a woman'.  I'm in my 40s now and these same women are frustrated that men their age are more interested in women 10 years younger.
2013-03-25 09:58:49 PM
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Because they are more likely to swallow.
2013-03-25 09:52:17 PM
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Smeggy Smurf: Sgygus: Sexual attractiveness aside, younger people have less baggage.

younger biatches don't know when to put the drama in a bag and stfu

2013-03-25 09:50:57 PM
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Lt. Cheese Weasel: Because their pooters are tighter.?

/just a guess


You guessed wrong
2013-03-25 09:49:21 PM
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Psycoholic_Slag:
Do not underestimate the attractiveness of treating a young woman like a lady. Be polite and act like you don't care if they are into you or not. The simple act of opening a door or pulling a chair out for her is something that is lost on the younger generation.  Chicks dig courtesy and chivalry, it's like freaking spanish fly.

this does not always work.
2013-03-25 09:48:50 PM
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The author:

media.silive.com

I'd date her. She looks younger than me.
2013-03-25 09:48:16 PM
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At 48 I was lucky enough to fall in love with a wonderful young woman half my age, and I farked it up. If I thought for an instant she would have me back I'd try again and try and be a better person. It's not just old women that trip over their baggage.
2013-03-25 09:43:15 PM
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megarian: WhoopAssWayne: All the fark liberals are going to be in for a bad time when their precious little snowflake daughters - everyone gets an A+++ - start riding the pole in some crappy downtown strip joint. Liberal "child-raising" is pure child abuse in my view, and we see the sad results every day to prove it, and it costs us all.

You sound old. And wealthy.

EIP.


Reverse inverted counter-troll!  She STICKS THE LANDING!
2013-03-25 09:41:20 PM
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WhoopAssWayne: All the fark liberals are going to be in for a bad time when their precious little snowflake daughters - everyone gets an A+++ - start riding the pole in some crappy downtown strip joint. Liberal "child-raising" is pure child abuse in my view, and we see the sad results every day to prove it, and it costs us all.


You sound old. And wealthy.

EIP.
2013-03-25 09:39:47 PM
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WhoopAssWayne: All the fark liberals are going to be in for a bad time when their precious little snowflake daughters - everyone gets an A+++ - start riding the pole in some crappy downtown strip joint. Liberal "child-raising" is pure child abuse in my view, and we see the sad results every day to prove it, and it costs us all.


Did we forget to take our pills again today?
2013-03-25 09:37:51 PM
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The Irresponsible Captain: Two reasons. Both pert.

Plus, young girls today are into the naughty stuff you were begging your girlfriend for in high school.


I'm 42, and my GF is 24. You nailed it.
2013-03-25 09:37:13 PM
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Because younger women are young. And middle-aged women are saggy and bitter.

Next question?
2013-03-25 09:32:13 PM
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Sgygus: Sexual attractiveness aside, younger people have less baggage.


Sexual attractiveness aside, older people have more money.
2013-03-25 09:31:21 PM
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meanmutton: It always struck me as kind of weird.  I'm 35.  To me, there are few women younger than, say, 26 or 27 that I really find all that physically attractive (Kate Upton, obvious exception) even despite the radical difference in our life situations.

Oh, and that screeching thing that 22 year olds do in the bars?  Yeah, not dealing with that.

/get off my lawn.
//rookie old guy


I feel the same way I can't relate to anyone under 30
2013-03-25 09:30:26 PM
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GopherGuts: I married my second wife when I was 39 and she was 25. Twelve years later, we don't regret it. My first wife just turned 62, and I don't regret marrying her either.
I'm still attracted to women my age & older. And younger. If we broke up, I can't honestly say how old my next girlfriend would be.

Not sure why, but quite a few attractive young women seem attracted to a slim, polite, graying man with a decent job who can make them laugh... and can drive them wild in bed. Quite a few attractive older women are attracted to a slim, polite, not entirely grayed man with a decent job who can make them laugh... and can drive at night.


Not meaning this personally, but you brought up the "nice guy with a good job who makes me laugh" thing.

Nobody is attracted to mediocrity, that's just settling or escaping.  That's like wanting to go see a movie where nobody does much of anything - they just read the paper, maybe take a walk.
2013-03-25 09:29:52 PM
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drewogatory: Because most women in their late 20's aren't coming out of either a first or second marriage hating and resenting the entire male gender. And don't have kids. And aren't interested in "reforming" me. Why the fark would I want to date you after some other dude spent 20 years turning you into an emotional cripple?


I came out of my first (and so far, only) marriage in my mid-20s. I didn't come out of it hating men and feeling that I needed to change them. It instead showed me what makes a relationship work (of course, I learned that by realizing what doesn't work).

2 years with boyfriend and still going strong.
2013-03-25 09:28:46 PM
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My girlfriend and I sneak into PG-13 movies for opposite reasons. It's so romantic.

/"Sir, aren't you a little old to be here?"
//"Isn't she a little young to be here?!?!?!?"
2013-03-25 09:25:47 PM
1 votes:
Also, this:


i361.photobucket.com
2013-03-25 09:22:33 PM
1 votes:

martid4: Because men age like wine and women age like milk.


I always heard that a woman's value is like a car, a man's value is like a house.
2013-03-25 09:17:59 PM
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Snarfangel: And I wonder what the woman -- oh, wait, I mean the girl who is young enough to be his daughter -- wants.


rent money
2013-03-25 09:17:30 PM
1 votes:
1.bp.blogspot.com
I just want you to know no matter what you do, you're gonna die, just like everybody else.
2013-03-25 09:17:09 PM
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Look to bonobos for the answers you seek.
2013-03-25 09:14:16 PM
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Weaver95: Great Janitor: younger girls with daddy issues.  Sadly, I'm in my 30s, so the girls with daddy issues for 30 year olds would result in felony charges.

so you DON'T like your women like your whiskey - 15 years old and mixed up with coke?


I do.  I just don't want to be added to any lists.  Thankfully, it's spring time and I live near my apartment complex's pool and the new neighbor has a rather attractive teenage daughter.
2013-03-25 09:11:13 PM
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Two reasons. Both pert.

Plus, young girls today are into the naughty stuff you were begging your girlfriend for in high school.
2013-03-25 09:10:38 PM
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The older women get, the crazier they get.  The young ones are crazy, but the older ones still dating are absolute minefields.
2013-03-25 08:45:03 PM
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www.africansafariclub.com
2013-03-25 08:16:36 PM
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Additionally, while she may not be on as much of a deadline as a woman in her 30s or 40s for commitment because time is a-wasting to make little Jakey Juniors, I'm quite sure she is still concerned all the same about her biological clock on some level.

All women who want to have children are, especially planners and Type-As. They have a plan, I reminded him. We all have plans.


We did not spend time in the same trailer park.
2013-03-25 08:10:24 PM
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Intellectual conversation?
 
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