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2013-03-26 12:15:46 PM  
i50.tinypic.com

I'm going to try and help her out here.
 
2013-03-26 12:17:03 PM  

shower_in_my_socks: Why is this issue never explored with the question "Why do younger women date older men?"?


Because we all already know the answer.
 
2013-03-26 12:20:26 PM  

shower_in_my_socks: Younger women are (generally) more physically attractive, less jaded, more fun, and less concerned about their biological clocks.

Likewise, older men are (generally) more mature, financially stable, and looking to settle down. And men usually age better.

The equation is so obvious that I don't even know what problem people would have with it.

When I was a high school freshman, the girls my age wanted to date the seniors. In college, they wanted guys with careers. But then they turn middleaged and suddenly wonder why men their age aren't interested in them. That young girl taking the older guys was you 20 years ago.


Older women fully understand the situation, really, but they don't like it so they pretend they don't understand the situation. It's very tough lose what you always had before.

Isn't it interesting that middle-aged men never write in asking why they become invisible to teenaged girls.
 
2013-03-26 12:23:58 PM  

Incontinent_dog_and_monkey_rodeo: The older women get, the crazier they get.  The young ones are crazy, but the older ones still dating are absolute minefields.


Older + crazy = No way.
Young and crazy = Not a problem, for a while anyway...
 
2013-03-26 12:33:19 PM  

flaminio: The author:

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I'd date her. She looks younger than me.


She looks like she's taking steroids. Puffy, puffy, puffy.
 
2013-03-26 12:40:01 PM  

Broke Angry and Depressed: To answer your question, wealthy men, although arduous in gaining their money, are lazy when it comes to finding a mate, and those "diamonds" they think they've got, are just cubic zirconias who are likely to drop them as well when fondling wrinkly parts every night doesn't do it for them anymore.


/Didn't stop Charlie Chaplin, James Doohan, and Tony Randall
//totally agree with you on the dying before graduation thing
///not thrilled on the idea on spending my social security check on prom
////I've always wanted to do the slashie thingie!!!


I read that as "spending social security check on porn" and it still made sense
 
2013-03-26 12:43:44 PM  

Broke Angry and Depressed: those "diamonds" they think they've got, are just cubic zirconias who are likely to drop them as well when fondling wrinkly parts every night doesn't do it for them anymore.


We know this. And we don't care.
 
2013-03-26 01:33:31 PM  

Nidiot: Really, is that all that an older woman can expect from life, to be nothing more than repeatedly pumped and dumped or to spent the next half of her life a lonely old cat woman? Is the advice to marry in your 20's and hope to hell you never divorce or your husband doesn't die because after that you are completely unwanted?


Pretty much. You should be happy that we aren't constantly committing to every relationship though. We probably wouldn't even bother with the pump and dump if we had to give each of them a court-mandated severance package at the end.
 
2013-03-26 02:09:48 PM  
My (current) wife is a bit younger than me, enough that I got comments.

Here's the thing, when I found myself divorced (not my idea) in my late thirties, I picked myself up and got back into the dating scene.

I tried, I really tried dating women about my age.  It's not a question of attraction.  What I ran into what insanity.

The women my age who were smart, caring and a good match were unavailable because they weren't single.  They had great marriages (with or without kids).    Shiat happens obviously, but in general, at 40, the gems are usually very taken (both for men and women).

The ones that were available fell into several categories that really didn't work for me:

1) Divorced, bitter and unwilling to try again and eager to take revenge on all mankind.
2) Divorced, happy (with or without kids) but didn't want any kind of relationship that involved any commitment (I'm not into the FwB thing) because "I've done that."  Forget kids, they either had them and were done with that or didn't want them.
3) So married to their jobs that one date a month was tough to pencil in.
4) Divorced 3 to 5 times, had 3 to 5 kids and were incredibly eager to get married RIGHT NOW and have another kid
5) Single, never married and never been in a relationship...for VERY GOOD REASONS (bat shiat crazy)

Sorry...but no.  Fark that, life is too short.

Then I met my (current) wife, she was younger than the women I was dating, more down to earth, didn't play games and we were looking for the same things.  She had no kids, no ex husbands and was tired of the shiat she was given by guys her age.

We've been married a few years now and I enjoy the heck out of the fact that not only do I have a great wife who's a great friend but we have a little daughter that is joy personified for me (since I figured it wouldn't happen after the first marriage failed).
 
2013-03-26 06:21:37 PM  

Broke Angry and Depressed: they have to deal with the constant inequality of just exisiting in this world,


The constant inequality of not suffering alone, of having entire social institutions devoted to them.... How many homeless men in your area? Homeless women? How many single men you know? How many single women? How much work do men have to do just for the pleasure of being rejected?

And no, I'm not talking about India, I mean here in North America. What's it like for the majority of women?

Broke Angry and Depressed: WhippingBoy: Broke Angry and Depressed: Quantum Apostrophe: It's not so much that I'm attracted to younger women, it's that there's nothing I want from a woman my age. Who wants to deal with a pre-menopausal, boring, demanding harpy whose idea of fun is shopping and eating? Or some sort of career-driven superwoman running around all the time and has no time for a simple walk in between running the universe and buying expensive crap? Or delusional middle-aged pear-shaped women who weigh well into the mid 200s but insist they're not fat?

So bacically when women gets to that point they should just head for the cliffs like lemmings (because even though they have to deal with the constant inequality of just exisiting in this world, and some of the factors in their lives might be caused by biology or society (and the men who control it,)) they have nothing left to offer the poor men. who are forced to turn to younger women.

What's your solution? Force men at gunpoint to go for bitter, self-absorbed, middle-aged hags?

How about not dismissing all women who reach a certain age and have some (workable) issues? In a batch of coal one can still find a diamond.  It just takes some willingness to look (not to mention have something of yourself to offer).


Well, your user name isn't doing much against my argument...
 
2013-03-26 07:40:46 PM  
Quantum Apostrophe: Broke Angry and Depressed: they have to deal with the constant inequality of just exisiting in this world,

The constant inequality of not suffering alone, of having entire social institutions devoted to them.... How many homeless men in your area? Homeless women? How many single men you know? How many single women? How much work do men have to do just for the pleasure of being rejected?

And no, I'm not talking about India, I mean here in North America. What's it like for the majority of women?


I was speaking in terms of suffering alone. What I meant was that just being a woman in this world is not always a happy fun time.  Like a couple of people said here, there's the expectation for women to be and stay hot in their 20's, then,  when the 30's roll around they have to maintain if they want to stay in the dating pool. But after 40, it's done--give it up and DIAF.  In my personal world,  I have encountered mostly married men, single women, and gay men with partners. The men are content, while some of the women are as bitter as people think The rest of the single women are pretty decent looking and hopeful in finding a partner despite being passed over for the hot ones.  I don't know about the breakdown in other countries, but there was a story a while back about an Asian man who divorced his wife because she had an ugly baby--which looked like her BEFORE she got plastic surgery BEFORE marrying the guy (that she would of had NO CHANCE with if she stayed the same), so, unless it's an arranged marriage (and even those are not 100% great), it' s like a woman's  dammed if she do whatever it takes to fit the standards of society, or damned if she doesn't .

Broke Angry and Depressed: WhippingBoy: Broke Angry and Depressed: Quantum Apostrophe: It's not so much that I'm attracted to younger women, it's that there's nothing I want from a woman my age. Who wants to deal with a pre-menopausal, boring, demanding harpy whose idea of fun is shopping and eating? Or some sort of career-driven superwoman running around all the time and has no time for a simple walk in between running the universe and buying expensive crap? Or delusional middle-aged pear-shaped women who weigh well into the mid 200s but insist they're not fat?

So bacically when women gets to that point they should just head for the cliffs like lemmings (because even though they have to deal with the constant inequality of just exisiting in this world, and some of the factors in their lives might be caused by biology or society (and the men who control it,)) they have nothing left to offer the poor men. who are forced to turn to younger women.

What's your solution? Force men at gunpoint to go for bitter, self-absorbed, middle-aged hags?

How about not dismissing all women who reach a certain age and have some (workable) issues? In a batch of coal one can still find a diamond.  It just takes some willingness to look (not to mention have something of yourself to offer).

Well, your user name isn't doing much against my argument...


I'll come up with a better one next time.
 
2013-03-26 08:53:15 PM  
Women don't actually get to tell men who the men ought to find attractive.

Men get to decide who they find attractive.

A lot of men have (finally) decided that a careerist, shrieking, shaming over-40 harpy isn't offering men anything worth having.
 
2013-03-26 09:14:46 PM  

martid4: camaroash: martid4: Because men age like wine and women age like milk.

Goes hand-in-hand with my mantra: "Douchebags never improve, they only expire".

Great douche-baggery is camouflaged and only exposed when necessary.


I fail to comprehend how douche-baggery could be deemed necessary--or moral.
 
2013-03-26 11:58:54 PM  
I had this page open from last night, and just as i suspected when i refreshed the page, Megarian is suddenly now a Total Fark member, where as before she was just a liter.

"ya don't need no money when you look like that do ya honey"
 
2013-03-27 05:04:00 PM  

EdNortonsTwin: "ya don't need no money when you look like that do ya honey convince random strangers on the internet that a picture of an attractive girl you found is actually you"


Fixed that fo- uh...ok, I guess it's not quite as catchy as the song.
 
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