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(Slate)   "I'm grateful for the positive ways my tree nut allergy has defined my identity. It's shaped my behavior in ways that transcend restaurant encounters and transfer to my everyday noneating hours. It has taught me to be assertive and persistent"   (slate.com) divider line 229
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2013-03-11 03:26:31 PM  
From Louis CK's recent tour.

Certainly nut allergies are terrible and children dying is awful.

But maybe we look the other way for a year or two and then hey, no more nut allergies.
 
2013-03-11 03:27:01 PM  
At some point life is going to hand you a shiat sandwich.  You can't change it.  You can, however, choose to have a good attitude or a bad attitude it.  Good for the author.

I, too, read the NYT magazine article she references.  As an allergist, I'm pretty sure the truth was stretched there for dramatic purposes.
 
2013-03-11 03:29:01 PM  
A couple of years ago, my aunt hosted a wake for my grandmother. She'd been offering food at the house for days, and I'd asked her about every morsel. Her exasperation was obvious. At the wake, I once again asked her what I could eat. She told me everything was safe. I grabbed a slice of marble cake from the kitchen; it contained almond flour. Soon, we were zooming to the ER.

Her mom just died and you're following her around for days and asking her about ingredients...I think maybe she was trying to bump you off?
 
2013-03-11 03:35:49 PM  
DNRTFA, but from about age 10 cashews have been something I've avoided like the plague.  I almost choked to death in my Dad's office at that age, I almost choked to death at a Thai restaurant in Amerstdam once (I don't eat Thai to this day), and I almost choked to death in a gf's house a few years back.  Needless to say, I'm pretty assertive when it comes to the question on whether or not there are cashews in a meal.

I can only imagine what I'd be like if every tree nut did that to me.
 
2013-03-11 03:36:33 PM  
There is no way this article is not a straight-up troll.

No one on earth could possibly be this insufferable.
 
2013-03-11 03:36:43 PM  
Oh let me up, Snowflake.
 
2013-03-11 03:37:26 PM  
You should be grateful no one has slipped you a hazlenut surprise for being such a pain in the ass
 
2013-03-11 03:38:03 PM  

sigdiamond2000: There is no way this article is not a straight-up troll.

No one on earth could possibly be this insufferable.


I see food allergic kids and their parents every day.  Trust me, this is not that bad.
 
2013-03-11 03:40:56 PM  
"Look, I'm real sorry your mother is dead and I'll let you get back to hosting her wake in a minute. But right now I need to know whether these toothpicks were made in a facility that also processes nuts."
 
2013-03-11 03:44:43 PM  
I won't date picky eaters.  Oh, and why has nut allergies become a thing in the past few decades?
 
2013-03-11 03:52:37 PM  
I haven't had gluten since 9/11, I just don't want to risk it.
 
2013-03-11 04:04:20 PM  

sigdiamond2000: There is no way this article is not a straight-up troll.

No one on earth could possibly be this insufferable.


The deaf community is supposedly worse than this.  Getting a cochlear implant is generally grounds for expulsion from the community and is regarded as an affront.
 
2013-03-11 04:08:34 PM  
I gave my daughter aspergers because I made her eat gluten.

I am a monster!
 
2013-03-11 04:43:02 PM  
My daughter is allergic to peanuts and tree nuts. Every freakin' nut you can name. We're supposed to carry an Epi-Pen with us everywhere we go.

She's 9 now and was diagnosed when she was 3. She knows when she's not with us to stick with "safe" foods, and has the will-power to abstain if she's not sure whether it's safe. And she knows to move a bit farther away if anyone breaks out a PB&J. Her teachers know, too. But most of the parents at her school are sensible enough to keep things nut free. We try to be low-key about it, and so does our daughter. There was an incident at a Halloween party at church a couple of years ago, though - they made a big deal about it being nut free, but served Reese's Peanut Butter Cups. She popped one of those in her mouth, recognized it immediately, spit it out, rinsed at the water fountain and downed a bit of Benadryl and came out OK. We didn't say anything to anyone about it.

But we've met some parents who make a HUGE deal about it - like insisting on knowing when other parents are bringing birthday treats so they can prepare something special for their kids, or asking that if a kid brings a PB&J that they be sent to another room to eat. That's taking things a bit too far, I think. We figure our kid needed to learn practical ways to deal with it.
 
2013-03-11 04:47:20 PM  

mysticcat: I see food allergic kids and their parents every day. Trust me, this is not that bad.


I worked at a liquor store for a while a number of years back. The owner's son (age 5) was discovered to have nut allergies. The wife made the husband remove all nuts from the store, even though:

-The kid was 5, and it was a liquor store;
-The bags of nuts were heat sealed long before they arrived at the store;
-The bags of nuts at the register were a huge profit center;
-The kid came into the store about once every other year;
-The kid was five;
-It was a liquor store.

/He's like 13 now...and still in a booster seat when in the car.
 
2013-03-11 05:11:57 PM  
Nuts
 
2013-03-11 05:14:14 PM  
I just have two things to say:

#1 Sorry about your nut allergy, that sucks; life can really kick some people in the crotch
#2 Never forget that this is YOUR problem, not mine; don't ever ask me to change my life in order to accommodate yours
 
2013-03-11 05:15:15 PM  

WhippingBoy: I just have two things to say:

#1 Sorry about your nut allergy, that sucks; life can really kick some people in the crotch
#2 Never forget that this is YOUR problem, not mine; don't ever ask me to change my life in order to accommodate yours


THIS

Also, #3: You're not that great if I can kill you by throwing hazelnuts at you. Get some perspective, man.
 
2013-03-11 05:16:31 PM  

beantowndog: I haven't had gluten since 9/11, I just don't want to risk it.


You and me both, mister. My apartment had a direct view of a wheat field that morning. Never forget.
 
2013-03-11 05:16:45 PM  
Darwin is still laughing at you.
 
2013-03-11 05:17:18 PM  

WhippingBoy: I just have two things to say:

#1 Sorry about your nut allergy, that sucks; life can really kick some people in the crotch
#2 Never forget that this is YOUR problem, not mine; don't ever ask me to change my life in order to accommodate yours


"I have sympathy for you.  I just won't show it in any way."
 
2013-03-11 05:18:22 PM  
Hero? Really?

Where's my farking dictionary? Might as well redact the entry for "hero". It officially has NO MEANING anymore.

Go ahead and delete all hero tags, mods. And if it's used again I won't know what it means.
 
2013-03-11 05:18:43 PM  
Yes, it's quite horrific that the "nut allergy epidemic" seems to be targeting the US.

Perhaps it is some sort of bio-terrorism.
 
2013-03-11 05:20:02 PM  
Oh god, it's coming true.

www.ifc.com
 
2013-03-11 05:21:49 PM  
www.toptenz.net
 
2013-03-11 05:22:01 PM  

GAT_00: The deaf community is supposedly worse than this.  Getting a cochlear implant is generally grounds for expulsion from the community and is regarded as an affront.


That's the "Deaf community", thank you very much and not the "deaf community". And yes, some of them are spectacularly touchy about cochlear implants - I've heard it referred to, seriously, as "cultural genocide". It seems to be settling down a bit now, as implants become more and more common, and practically universal in profoundly deaf children.
 
2013-03-11 05:22:44 PM  

The Snow Dog: Hero? Really?

Where's my farking dictionary? Might as well redact the entry for "hero". It officially has NO MEANING anymore.

Go ahead and delete all hero tags, mods. And if it's used again I won't know what it means.


Maybe the hero tag was for the doctor that figured out a way to "cure" allergies?
 
2013-03-11 05:22:49 PM  
Does her crotch swell up when she feeds her dog peanut butter? I know mine does.
 
2013-03-11 05:23:57 PM  

Gecko Gingrich: mysticcat: I see food allergic kids and their parents every day. Trust me, this is not that bad.

I worked at a liquor store for a while a number of years back. The owner's son (age 5) was discovered to have nut allergies. The wife made the husband remove all nuts from the store, even though:

-The kid was 5, and it was a liquor store;
-The bags of nuts were heat sealed long before they arrived at the store;
-The bags of nuts at the register were a huge profit center;
-The kid came into the store about once every other year;
-The kid was five;
-It was a liquor store.

/He's like 13 now...and still in a booster seat when in the car.


She sounds like she could make a fortune from creating pearls from all the sand in her coont.
 
2013-03-11 05:24:32 PM  
Solkar:

But we've met some parents who make a HUGE deal about it - like insisting on knowing when other parents are bringing birthday treats so they can prepare something special for their kids, or asking that if a kid brings a PB&J that they be sent to another room to eat. That's taking things a bit too far, I think. We figure our kid needed to learn practical ways to deal with it.

I do have a friend with a peanut allergy so severe that even being in the room with a large enough quantity could cause a reaction.  She's not being a jerk, she's just very very allergic to the point that even just airborne particles cause a reaction.  Unfortunately it's not the only thing on her allergy list.
 
2013-03-11 05:24:51 PM  

wildcardjack: I won't date picky eaters.  Oh, and why has nut allergies become a thing in the past few decades?


Because parents are told not to feed any such thing to their kids until 2 years of age. My child's pediatrician was positively militant. Ahuh. You want solid food, little critter?  Here's a peanut butter cup with honey and extra gluten.

Yes, yes, the occasional snowflake is actually allergic at birth. The overwhelming majority are induced by Jenny McCarthy wannabes. Science, biatches.
 
2013-03-11 05:25:10 PM  

orbister: GAT_00: The deaf community is supposedly worse than this.  Getting a cochlear implant is generally grounds for expulsion from the community and is regarded as an affront.

That's the "Deaf community", thank you very much and not the "deaf community". And yes, some of them are spectacularly touchy about cochlear implants - I've heard it referred to, seriously, as "cultural genocide". It seems to be settling down a bit now, as implants become more and more common, and practically universal in profoundly deaf children.


I was checking on that before I said it and there are actually Deaf advocates out there who think it's nearly criminal to give them to children when both the parents have normal hearing, that you're effectively destroying their access to a culture to try to allow something resembling normal hearing.
 
2013-03-11 05:25:45 PM  

Gecko Gingrich: mysticcat: I see food allergic kids and their parents every day. Trust me, this is not that bad.

I worked at a liquor store for a while a number of years back. The owner's son (age 5) was discovered to have nut allergies. The wife made the husband remove all nuts from the store, even though:

-The kid was 5, and it was a liquor store;
-The bags of nuts were heat sealed long before they arrived at the store;
-The bags of nuts at the register were a huge profit center;
-The kid came into the store about once every other year;
-The kid was five;
-It was a liquor store.

/He's like 13 now...and still in a booster seat when in the car.


I just have two questions:

1) What kind of store was it?
2) How old was the kid?
 
2013-03-11 05:27:53 PM  
FTA: "Dr. Nadeau, sign me up for your next clinical trial"

Far from my area of expertise, but haven't we been able to (at least potentially) eliminate/attenuate reactions to known allergies for... at least a few decades, now? Why not just go to any competent specialist?
 
2013-03-11 05:29:24 PM  
Great, another dietary restrictions nut job.
 
2013-03-11 05:30:22 PM  

GAT_00: "I have sympathy for you.  I just won't show it in any way."


It's like the right to free speech.  That right exists up until the point is starts to infringe on the rights of others; that is why things like inciting to riot or slander are illegal, despite being speech.

I have the utmost sympathy for people with allergies.  I have some myself.  That said, the obligation is on ME to avoid my triggers, not for everyone else to be forced to avoid my triggers so that I never have to encounter it.

My biggest issue is nut allergies and kids.  Sure, I get that a nut allergy sucks, and is potentially deadly.  That said, if your kid is so allergic that even the breath from another kid who had peanut butter on the weekend can trigger a reaction, maybe you'd be better off homeschooling them, rather than trying to force every household that goes to your child's school to go nut-free permanently, just in case they pass your kid in the hallway.  And yes, this is a specific example I've seen put in place.  Making the school nut-free and requiring nut-free snacks/lunches?  Okay.  That's acceptable; it's your school building.  It's not acceptable to try and force things on every family at home and on the weekends.
 
2013-03-11 05:32:37 PM  
I love how people with intolerances expect restaurants to always have an option for them. My menu used to flat out say at the top that nothing I served could be guaranteed to be either vegetarian or nut free. Don't like it? Then you can fark right off and open your own place.
 
2013-03-11 05:33:02 PM  

GAT_00: I was checking on that before I said it and there are actually Deaf advocates out there who think it's nearly criminal to give them to children when both the parents have normal hearing, that you're effectively destroying their access to a culture to try to allow something resembling normal hearing.


Oh yes indeed. And there are deaf (sorry, Deaf) parents out there who want to do embryo selection to make sure they only have deaf (and, in due course, Deaf) children.

To a small extent I can understand the worries. British Sign language is dying out fast: in my area of Scotland there is not a single child known to the local audiologists who uses BSL. It must be hard so see that happen if BSL is your language, and it must be worrying for things like old-age care in the future.

"Genocide", though? That's just silly.
 
2013-03-11 05:33:07 PM  

Solkar: There was an incident at a Halloween party at church a couple of years ago, though - they made a big deal about it being nut free, but served Reese's Peanut Butter Cups. She popped one of those in her mouth, recognized it immediately, spit it out, rinsed at the water fountain and downed a bit of Benadryl and came out OK. We didn't say anything to anyone about it.


I wouldve, jeez. Im not saying you shouldve sued, but "Hey idiots, you said this was a nut free event." wouldnt be out of line.
 
2013-03-11 05:34:06 PM  

CowardlyLion: FTA: "Dr. Nadeau, sign me up for your next clinical trial"

Far from my area of expertise, but haven't we been able to (at least potentially) eliminate/attenuate reactions to known allergies for... at least a few decades, now? Why not just go to any competent specialist?


Not for food allergies.  Oral desensitization is, or should, only be performed in a clinical trail setting.  Stanford, UNC, Duke, Mt Sanai and a few others.  There are some rogue private practitioners doing it, but most of us think they're crazy.
 
2013-03-11 05:34:07 PM  

Solkar: My daughter is allergic to peanuts and tree nuts. Every freakin' nut you can name. We're supposed to carry an Epi-Pen with us everywhere we go.

She's 9 now and was diagnosed when she was 3. She knows when she's not with us to stick with "safe" foods, and has the will-power to abstain if she's not sure whether it's safe. And she knows to move a bit farther away if anyone breaks out a PB&J. Her teachers know, too. But most of the parents at her school are sensible enough to keep things nut free. We try to be low-key about it, and so does our daughter. There was an incident at a Halloween party at church a couple of years ago, though - they made a big deal about it being nut free, but served Reese's Peanut Butter Cups. She popped one of those in her mouth, recognized it immediately, spit it out, rinsed at the water fountain and downed a bit of Benadryl and came out OK. We didn't say anything to anyone about it.

But we've met some parents who make a HUGE deal about it - like insisting on knowing when other parents are bringing birthday treats so they can prepare something special for their kids, or asking that if a kid brings a PB&J that they be sent to another room to eat. That's taking things a bit too far, I think. We figure our kid needed to learn practical ways to deal with it.


Hats off to you for not freaking out to insane levels about your child's allergy. Your daughter is on a path to be a more well-adjusted and reasonable adult. May her allergy never become a stumbling block for her.
 
2013-03-11 05:35:32 PM  
More "My son is allergic, so please consider that" and less "WHAT, ARE YOU TRYING TO KILL MY SON???" please.
 
2013-03-11 05:35:42 PM  
"A couple of years ago, my aunt hosted a wake for my grandmother. She'd been offering food at the house for days, and I'd asked her about every morsel. Her exasperation was obvious. At the wake, I once again asked her what I could eat." She told me everything was safe. I grabbed a slice of marble cake from the kitchen; it contained almond flour. Soon, we were zooming to the ER.

Oh, bad answer, the correct answer was: WHATEVER YOU MADE AND BROUGHT YOURSELF, YOU MISERABLE SELF-ABSORBED biatch.
 
2013-03-11 05:37:07 PM  
If your allergy is severe enough to trigger an anaphylactic reaction from trace airborne particles, wear a hepa-mask.

If it isn't, then shut up about it already.
 
2013-03-11 05:37:38 PM  

LaraAmber: Solkar:

But we've met some parents who make a HUGE deal about it - like insisting on knowing when other parents are bringing birthday treats so they can prepare something special for their kids, or asking that if a kid brings a PB&J that they be sent to another room to eat. That's taking things a bit too far, I think. We figure our kid needed to learn practical ways to deal with it.

I do have a friend with a peanut allergy so severe that even being in the room with a large enough quantity could cause a reaction.  She's not being a jerk, she's just very very allergic to the point that even just airborne particles cause a reaction.  Unfortunately it's not the only thing on her allergy list.


That is her problem, not the problem of the other 29 kids in her classroom.
 
2013-03-11 05:38:48 PM  
My ex-wife has a nut allergy.
 
2013-03-11 05:39:13 PM  

Plastic Trash Vortex: WhippingBoy: I just have two things to say:

#1 Sorry about your nut allergy, that sucks; life can really kick some people in the crotch
#2 Never forget that this is YOUR problem, not mine; don't ever ask me to change my life in order to accommodate yours

THIS

Also, #3: You're not that great if I can kill you by throwing hazelnuts at you. Get some perspective, man.


I sure hope that almonds provide the necessary keys to interplanetary space travel and everlasting life.
 
2013-03-11 05:39:41 PM  

LordOfThePings: Oh god, it's coming true.

[www.ifc.com image 620x387]


My husband was watching this episode the other day. Funny as shiat! I've been reluctant to start watching "Portlandia" but, it's starting to grow on me.

As for the article, it comes off as a wee bit "the world should bow down to my allergy" but in a way (as a former vegan) I understand. Still, she should chill on thinking everyone should already know everything there is to know about nut allergies. Educate, don't get all in a huff if they don't know. And also, educate yourself BEFORE you go eat out/to someone else's place. Hell, look at the menu online and check what's in it BEFORE you go. As for relatives, politely decline the food. If they ask why, tell them NICELY. To me, you come off as slightly less douche and might (just might) invoke sympathy instead of scorn. It's all in HOW you aproach the subject.
 
2013-03-11 05:40:08 PM  

sigdiamond2000: There is no way this article is not a straight-up troll.

No one on earth could possibly be this insufferable.


Bingo. if I had such an allergy I would only consume food I prepared. this person enjoys having a reason to biatch n moan. i've seen his type in the supermarket. they won't accept that the clerk doesn't know, and instead of not buying the product they rip into a tirade and demand attention from the store manager.

/ Hi there. My nutz allergy is my License to biatch n moan and make you miserable.
 
2013-03-11 05:40:53 PM  

WhippingBoy: #2 Never forget that this is YOUR problem, not mine; don't ever ask me to change my life in order to accommodate yours



As someone who is allergic to shellfish, I absolutely agree. The one and only time I ask someone to change their plans is if I've been invited to a meal at their house, I ask for something besides shellfish on my plate.

Unfortunately, this isn't good enough for some people. They assume that "allergic" is a code for "I don't like it", and try to feed it to me anyway.

"Try it, I promise you'll like it."

"No, I'm allergic."

"No you're not, stop making excludes."

[a few minutes later]

"Stop being such a drama queen, I only put it in your food as a joke."

[gasping] "Call 911."

"Oh, I guess you really are allergic. Sorry. I better go now."
 
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