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(Slate)   Man hides his dark, terrifying secret from his wife until after marriage, and now she doesn't know how to cope with a man addicted to video games   (slate.com) divider line 102
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2013-03-06 02:49:48 PM
10 votes:
He's not out getting drunk or arrested. He's not cheating on her. He's not stroking off to porn instead of her. He's not even abusing her or beating the shiat out of her. He's playing a video game 10-20 hours a week. When I stopped drinking I started playing video games to give me something to do, and I play approximately that much. Never in your life have you seen a woman more thrilled about that than my wife.

She needs to get a grip. She probably watches more TV or reads more than that every week. What's the difference?
2013-03-06 02:16:47 PM
9 votes:
He spends several hours a week (10-20) playing these online games!

Wow, this guy needs to talk to a divorce lawyer ASAP.  That woman is crazy
2013-03-06 03:52:04 PM
8 votes:
I'd wager most people watch more than 10 hours of tv a week, but we don't call them tv addicts.  At least video games are interactive and have been proven to stimulate and improve parts of the mind and physical coordination.  Conclusion: she's a stupid biatch.
2013-03-06 03:44:39 PM
8 votes:
FTA My husband and I married a few years ago after just months of knowing each other

there's your farking problem dumbass
2013-03-06 03:44:55 PM
7 votes:
There are plenty of other habits that could be in place of 'video games' here. What if the guy was a gearhead and liked to work on his project car every day?

10-20 hours a week is equivalent to about 1.5-3 hours per day. It'd be like watching a movie or a ballgame every evening. That's really not so much.
2013-03-06 03:41:47 PM
6 votes:
Playing video games was one of my ex wife's complaints. Hey i don't mind if you want to watch teenmomhoardercelebrityinterventionrehab, so don't get pissy when i play a game when you do...
2013-03-06 03:51:09 PM
5 votes:

Gifted Many Few: Not really. Video games are one of the few "hobbies" that doesn't require you to get off your ass.


Actually, most hobbies are like that. The ones which involve physical activity are usually called sports.
2013-03-06 04:11:08 PM
4 votes:

L.D. Ablo: NightSteel: There are plenty of other habits that could be in place of 'video games' here. What if the guy was a gearhead and liked to work on his project car every day?

10-20 hours a week is equivalent to about 1.5-3 hours per day. It'd be like watching a movie or a ballgame every evening. That's really not so much.

There's a huge difference.

Someone who knows how to wrench can make a business out of it.  Restore that old car and you can monetize its sale.  You could start a business restoring cars.  You end up with something of value and that value can be transferred to someone else.

I've had a longtime hobby that's becoming a career in my semi-retirement.

Had I spent the past 15 years playing games, I wouldn't have shiat.

You can't take 100 hours of gameplay and sell it or give it to someone.  100 hours in my shop produces tangible goods that can be used or sold.

Videogames are a waste of life.


You sound like a dull boy, Jack.
2013-03-06 04:03:39 PM
4 votes:
He spends several hours a week (10-20) playing these online games!

So, basically, his free time is spent on video games and, being a psychotic, clingy biatch with no perspective and an enormous ego she's upset that he expects her to have her own hobbies as well that she can occupy herself with for brief periods instead of him doting constantly on her and affirming her life for her.

My wife and I were having this argument periodically at one point in our marriage while I still played WoW. I basically snapped on her one day and told her that it wasn't my fault that she didn't know how to entertain herself in her free time and it wasn't my job to constantly fish around for hobbies for her, but if she ever found something I'd be more than happy to join her in it.

She found something after that. Now we ski together in the winter and do little home improvement projects around the house together in the summer and I play video games during my personal time and she watches TV or plays little iPad games.

Amazing how that works.

/ some women get very annoyed at men's hobbies that require concentration because it means they don't get constant attention themselves
// these women, if they can't be made to get over it, should be dumped/divorced ASAP because it will only be a constant source of simmering resentment
2013-03-06 04:01:22 PM
4 votes:

Gifted Many Few: No, video games are the laziest of the hobbies. The only activity there is going to the store and buying the game.


Reading, writing, model construction, pottery, wood carving, and tole painting, are all equally 'lazy'.

You could really just go down a list of every hobby known to man and the majority, if not all, involve sitting you your ass for long periods while doing them.
2013-03-06 03:44:37 PM
4 votes:
This woman seriously needs to talk to someone who has dealt with someone who has a serious addiction to video games. I was with a guy who slowly devolved over the four years I lived with him. At first he played more than I expected, which wasn't that big of a deal. We still did things together. Over time, it got to a point where he couldn't hold down a job anymore. I could go days without speaking to him because he was so busy raiding. He turned down sex repeatedly and the rare times we had it at all, it was entirely hate-farking on my part. He spent days on that computer, neglecting himself, me, the apartment. My complaints fell on deaf ears, once in awhile he would encourage me to join him. The guy literally did not realize he was destroying his relationship and was utterly shocked when I finally broke it off. It still bothers me to this day and while I did date another guy who was into online role playing games, I couldn't move forward because the experience wouldn't leave my mind. That's sad and honestly, she should be delighted he only plays 10 hrs a week. That shiat can destroy lives.
2013-03-06 02:23:48 PM
4 votes:
Maybe you should try and get involved with his activity instead of acting like a passive-agressive biatch.

CSB: I kinda hid my gaming from my girlfriend when we first started dating. Never turned it on or talked about any of the games I bought because I figured she didn't care. About 3 months in we're watching TV and she asks "Why don't you ever turn on your Xbox?" I told her it was because I figured she didn't like it. She then asks what games I play and wanted to try one out herself. I had her play Mass Effect. She didn't really get the shooting down too much (has a bad habit of only using one thumb at a time, so she'd run forward, stop turn, stop, run forward, etc.) but eventually got the hang of it and fell in love with the story. She's currently a Lvl 37 Commander on ME2 and loves telling people that (She hates that stuck-up biatch Miranda). We alternate playing now, do co-op, she uses the Kinect to exercise, got into PC gaming a little bit, mainly playing Sims, but started playing Fallout: NV recently.

/CSB
2013-03-06 04:14:09 PM
3 votes:
He spends several hours a week (10-20) playing these online games!

OH

MY

GOD!!!!!


1 1/2 to 3 hours a day, including weekends, and this is a problem? Big deal lady, HE NEEDS TIME ALONE. Everyone does. Whether it's reading, playing video games, or turning on a show that you know nobody else in the house particularly likes, it's YOUR time. Being married is NOT being glued to someone's hip 24/7. If you want a successful marriage, stop smothering the guy and give him some time. Pro tip: Take this same block of time and treat yourself. Do something YOU like. Hell, like others have said, maybe join him occasionally.

...it just bothers me that he spends his leisure time gaming instead of reading a book, watching TV with me, etc.


Seriously lady, it's HIS time, not yours, and who put you in the position to judge how he spends his own time? Personally, I read more than I play games right now, but my wife wouldn't ever try to dictate what she thinks isacceptable for me to do with my free time, it's the type of thing that attracted me to her. If the guy isn't ignoring the wife or daughter, then she needs to fark off.


Another reason I love my wife? Sometimes I DO get a bug and start playing again, I might play all noght, from 9-10 until 5-6 in the morning on Friday or Saturday(Maybe even both). THis might even go on for 3-4 weeks before I taper off again. My wife has no problem with this, she is asleep by that time, I sleep in until 10 or 11 on Saturday and Sunday, and I spend the day and evening with the family. So I'm online when everyone's asleep anyway, but I'll put 12-15 hours in in just 2 days' time, and might play more during the week. Since my wife is actually sane, there is no problem with this, just like I don't complain when she goes for a quick trip to the store and comes back 4 hours later, or she decides she wants to take my daughter for a "Princess ea Party". It's how successful relationships work.
2013-03-06 04:12:12 PM
3 votes:
Meh, old complaint from a new shrew. Last time I read something like this the husband was playing softball, soccer, or something every weekend. Basically it boils down to a co-dependent biatch wanting every farking second of your time. He should divorce or beat her, because it won't get any better.
2013-03-06 04:05:49 PM
3 votes:

Gifted Many Few: akula: TV. Movies. Reading. Music enjoyment. Composing poetry. Painting. Even writing or playing music (depending on the instrument).

I'll concede poetry, painting and music because they are creating something. The most an online gamer does is create a character and an oh so witty double entendre name. The TV, moves and music listening to are way too passive to be considered hobbies. My dog likes doing those. Reading, I am on the fence about. I do find people that read a lot more educated than a hobby gamer.


It does depend on what they read. If all they read is books by Ann Coulter and her ilk, they just might get dumber the more they read.
2013-03-06 04:00:49 PM
3 votes:
Wow...for once Prudence gave some decent advice. In a nutshell: "Get over yourself, girl. He isn't cheating, or gorging on porn, or gambling. Try NOT being a biatch about it for a couple of months and see if he isn't more willing to flex on the time spent gaming after that"
2013-03-06 03:59:57 PM
3 votes:

Gifted Many Few: J. Frank Parnell: Gifted Many Few: Not really. Video games are one of the few "hobbies" that doesn't require you to get off your ass.

Actually, most hobbies are like that. The ones which involve physical activity are usually called sports.

No, video games are the laziest of the hobbies. The only activity there is going to the store and buying the game. Even that is being circumvented by Gamefly and DLCs. Name me another you can do if you literally had no legs and were glued to the couch.


 Netflix binges are way lazier.
2013-03-06 03:59:17 PM
3 votes:

Gifted Many Few: J. Frank Parnell: Gifted Many Few: Not really. Video games are one of the few "hobbies" that doesn't require you to get off your ass.

Actually, most hobbies are like that. The ones which involve physical activity are usually called sports.

No, video games are the laziest of the hobbies. The only activity there is going to the store and buying the game. Even that is being circumvented by Gamefly and DLCs. Name me another you can do if you literally had no legs and were glued to the couch.


TV. Movies. Reading. Music enjoyment. Composing poetry. Painting. Even writing or playing music (depending on the instrument).

Video games are just another form of media. No more, no less. IMO, most of the dislike for them comes from people who have not yet realized that video games are not inherently for children. I wonder if these are the same morons who buy M rated video games for their kids and then biatch about the violence and adult content.
2013-03-06 03:50:52 PM
3 votes:
Man, I wonder how she would react to an independent game developer.

I can't even believe what an angel my wife is about it. It is my primary hobby and when I get home from work, I spend almost ALL my time on my computer. Some weekends I start at 8:30am and don't stop till 2:00am.

Gotta find the right woman ...or none at all. Being lonely is better than the alternative, period.
2013-03-06 03:43:47 PM
3 votes:
We're sorry he can't do something more civilized like guzzle beer and howl at sports games.

Or simply watch television.

I don't approve of your hobbies because I think they're boring, childish, and beneath me. So you should have to stop doing them because I say so.
2013-03-06 03:43:29 PM
3 votes:
I'm sure there's plenty of women who wish their husband's only flaw was "he plays video games 10-20 hours a week" holy shiat
2013-03-06 03:32:31 PM
3 votes:
I'm not willing to leave him over it; how can I get him to stop or change my own attitude to accept it? (For clarification, I have no suspicions of any online infidelity-it just bothers me that he spends his leisure time gaming instead of reading a book, watching TV with me, etc.)

You could pick up a controller every once in a while, rather than sitting on your ass watching TV, you know.
2013-03-06 04:53:19 PM
2 votes:

Perlin Noise: Mikey1969: For it to be a semantic argument, you'd have to actually be correct about the definition of a "hobby" in the first farkking place

Wow, that's a lot of anger about a definition, friend.

However, thank you for the clarification. I'm not sure why my post made you so mad, but I apologize. I don't mean to contradict that definition, it's just that I more often hear hobby in the context of more productive activities. That is not to say that non-productive activities are in some way bad.

Also, if you would look up the word pastime ...you may find what I meant about semantics


You don't understand why people get annoyed when you start badmouthing the way they spend their free time? Seriously?

Let me type more slowly: People don't like smug jersey inferring that their chosen hobby is somehow more lowbrow than whatever the smug jerk has put their own personal seal of approval on.
2013-03-06 04:53:00 PM
2 votes:
Advice columns are always good for a laugh as they do a fine job of illustrating a fundamental difference between men and women.

Men use an argument to win a crowd.

Women use a crowd to win an argument.
2013-03-06 04:49:23 PM
2 votes:

fawlty: meat0918: What the hell is with this (seemingly, I don't know if it is prevalent in other countries) American obsession with turning a hobby into a business venture?

Because we all hate our jobs and would love to make money doing something we enjoy. The irony is, the minute it becomes a "job," we don't enjoy doing it anymore.


Which is precisely why I never went to culinary school. As soon as I'm forced to cook, I'll hate it, no matter how much I loved cooking before. And I'd never cook for fun anymore.
2013-03-06 04:43:19 PM
2 votes:

meat0918: What the hell is with this (seemingly, I don't know if it is prevalent in other countries) American obsession with turning a hobby into a business venture? This "ideal" that if you cannot make money with some activity, it is useless and should be discarded?

Can't a hobby just stay a hobby without someone saying "Wow, you're really good at that, maybe you should go into business for yourself."?


I think it's capitalism. We're taught at a young age to find something we like doing and then find somebody to pay us to do that. Also, because of the way capitalism is set up, if you aren't making every dollar you possibly can, you start to fall behind. So now that the richest people in the country have taken so much of the money, the rest of us have fallen behind and we end up needing supplemental income.
2013-03-06 04:30:16 PM
2 votes:
Gaming != online multiplayer gaming.  It's a lot easier to have a mellow evening with my wife if I'm playing offline.  If she talks to me, I hit pause, make eye contact, listen to her for like 10 freaking seconds (it's not that hard), respond, then we both go happily back to what we were doing.  I'd play multiplayer if I had no conflicts, but with a wife and two kids, offline/single player hits the spot.
2013-03-06 04:26:47 PM
2 votes:

akula: most of the dislike for them comes from people who have not yet realized that video games are not inherently for children.


Sorry, that's where you are wrong. Most of the dislike for them comes from assholes who think they get to claim superiority because they themselves don't choose to play.
2013-03-06 04:26:06 PM
2 votes:

DontMakeMeComeBackThere: Adolf Oliver Nipples: She probably watches more TV or reads more than that every week. What's the difference?

Playing Devil's advocate: reading or watching TV are not as "exclusive" an activity as video games are.  Have you ever walked up to someone reading a book to ask a question and were told "Not now!  I'm in the middle of a chapter!"  Video games can be seen much more as a solitary, I'm-ignoring-you activity - thus the feeling of abandonment by the non-playing party.

TMYK


Yes.  What kind of asshat interrupts someone reading a book?
2013-03-06 04:24:14 PM
2 votes:

L.D. Ablo: NightSteel: There are plenty of other habits that could be in place of 'video games' here. What if the guy was a gearhead and liked to work on his project car every day?
10-20 hours a week is equivalent to about 1.5-3 hours per day. It'd be like watching a movie or a ballgame every evening. That's really not so much.
There's a huge difference.
Someone who knows how to wrench can make a business out of it.  Restore that old car and you can monetize its sale.  You could start a business restoring cars.  You end up with something of value and that value can be transferred to someone else.
I've had a longtime hobby that's becoming a career in my semi-retirement.
Had I spent the past 15 years playing games, I wouldn't have shiat.
You can't take 100 hours of gameplay and sell it or give it to someone.  100 hours in my shop produces tangible goods that can be used or sold.
Videogames are a waste of life.


Actually, you can. People have been making money selling virtual video game goods for years. You spend 100 hours leveling up a character, you can sell it and all the cool items you got. That was the hook with Diablo 3, the real-money auction house.

Other people play games professionally. They go to tournaments, get sponsored, and turn their video game skills into cash. So again, video game skills, in the long run, can translate to cash.

So video games can be just as profitable as any other activity, even your hobbies. Just because you can't see it doesn't mean it isn't true. Reality is not defined by your ignorance.
2013-03-06 04:19:04 PM
2 votes:

L.D. Ablo: NightSteel:

I've had a longtime hobby that's becoming a career in my semi-retirement.

You can't take 100 hours of gameplay and sell it or give it to someone.  100 hours in my shop produces tangible goods that can be used or sold.

Videogames are a waste of life.


Then it's not a hobby. Also WoW accounts sell for hundreds of dollars depending on levels and gear, but that probably means nothing to you. My best friend moved to the west coast, but through gaming I get to spend time with him even though I haven't seen him in almost two years. I've met a good ~40 awesome people through gaming who live across the country, who I'd never have met otherwise. I've even met about ten of them in person and we had a great time, and more of them are planning on a gathering this summer at GenCon.

Basically, neener, neener, neener.
2013-03-06 04:17:13 PM
2 votes:

L.D. Ablo: NightSteel: There are plenty of other habits that could be in place of 'video games' here. What if the guy was a gearhead and liked to work on his project car every day?

10-20 hours a week is equivalent to about 1.5-3 hours per day. It'd be like watching a movie or a ballgame every evening. That's really not so much.

There's a huge difference.

Someone who knows how to wrench can make a business out of it.  Restore that old car and you can monetize its sale.  You could start a business restoring cars.  You end up with something of value and that value can be transferred to someone else.

I've had a longtime hobby that's becoming a career in my semi-retirement.

Had I spent the past 15 years playing games, I wouldn't have shiat.

You can't take 100 hours of gameplay and sell it or give it to someone.  100 hours in my shop produces tangible goods that can be used or sold.

Videogames are a waste of life.


Everybody has a hobby. Yours is turning wrenches. That sounds like something I'd like to do, except a) I can't afford a junker, b) I can't afford the parts, c) I can't afford the tools, d) I have no room to do it, and e) I already work really friggin' hard.

Spending $60 three times a year for something that I can sit down and relax while doing beats spending $60 a night at the bars and breaking out in handcuffs. Your hobby is not mine. I'm happy for you that you can monetize your fun.
2013-03-06 04:16:45 PM
2 votes:
DontMakeMeComeBackThere

Adolf Oliver Nipples: She probably watches more TV or reads more than that every week. What's the difference?

Playing Devil's advocate: reading or watching TV are not as "exclusive" an activity as video games are. Have you ever walked up to someone reading a book to ask a question and were told "Not now! I'm in the middle of a chapter!" Video games can be seen much more as a solitary, I'm-ignoring-you activity - thus the feeling of abandonment by the non-playing party.

TMYK


To me it's not any different than someone who spends all their time looking at their phone and texting or doing whatever..
2013-03-06 04:13:48 PM
2 votes:

Gifted Many Few: Name me another you can do if you literally had no legs and were glued to the couch.


Any sort of model building, painting, writing, reading, most musical instruments, electronics tinkering, whittling, most small crafting hobbies (e.g. origami), drawing, word puzzles (crosswords, jumbles, etc.), jigsaw puzzles, computer hacking/programming (e.g. FOSS patching and development), sewing, knitting, playing cards, virtually any small item collecting (cards, stamps, etc.)....

I think you thought you had some sort of point?
2013-03-06 04:13:32 PM
2 votes:

meat0918: //The kids aren't old enough yet for Cards Against Humanity


gsa.thegamernation.org
2013-03-06 04:10:11 PM
2 votes:
Q: "He spends his leisure time not watching my shows with me, and instead doing things he has habitually done for years that he finds stimulating"

R: "You are probably boring.  Do something cooler with your leisure time like not watching the same farking CSI Reruns you've seen 3 times and maybe he'll want to spend less time doing that."
2013-03-06 04:08:07 PM
2 votes:

meat0918: serial_crusher: He spends several hours a week (10-20) playing these online games!

Wow, this guy needs to talk to a divorce lawyer ASAP.  That woman is crazy

I just have one thing to say to this guy.

Amateur.

Married, two kids, and we play video games together.

Also, Munchkin.

//The kids aren't old enough yet for Cards Against Humanity


Favorited. CAH is amazing.


Came here to say: He married the wrong woman. Foolish choice.

Meanwhile, I know my man loves me because he set up for me the better of his dual monitors with my PS3 (it had the HDMI port) so we could game together. He plays a lot of XCOM and Mech Warrior and I play a lot of Amalur, LA Noire and Uncharted.

/happy relationship
//why you can't carry more damn ammo in uncharted is beyond me
2013-03-06 04:07:42 PM
2 votes:
The only solution is for the husband to go out and bang skanks instead of playing video games.
2013-03-06 04:07:06 PM
2 votes:

Gifted Many Few: How do gamers ever spend enough time away from a TV to form a relationship and get married?


Well DUH - they meet people at game shops of course. At least that's where I met my husband.

We were all part of the same D&D game that got together once a week at this place in Pinellas
called Magic Mike's (waaaaaaay before the movie). Our characters got together before we did.
So sad...
2013-03-06 04:06:01 PM
2 votes:

Gifted Many Few: Video games are one of the few "hobbies" that doesn't require you to get off your ass. Hell, even the MTG and D&D people have to go to someone house and interact.


That's true, but the lady writing the letter suggested watching TV instead.  That tends to suggest that getting off his ass isn't really what she wants from her husband here.
2013-03-06 03:56:38 PM
2 votes:

Gifted Many Few: J. Frank Parnell: Gifted Many Few: Not really. Video games are one of the few "hobbies" that doesn't require you to get off your ass.

Actually, most hobbies are like that. The ones which involve physical activity are usually called sports.

No, video games are the laziest of the hobbies. The only activity there is going to the store and buying the game. Even that is being circumvented by Gamefly and DLCs. Name me another you can do if you literally had no legs and were glued to the couch.


It could be worse.  He could be an audiophile, and enjoy listening to music for hours on end, sitting in the "sweet spot" with the lights turned off (because it sounds better that way).
2013-03-06 03:53:10 PM
2 votes:
  I love how Prudence told her that maybe if she stopped being such a typical spoiled, self-centered' narcissitic white north american female biatch and made his life more pleasant in the real world maybe he would stop running to hide in the digital one. I may have paraphrased a tad.

  Here's my csb. Met a nice young lady 14 yrs my junior playing halo pc back in '04. Things went well and she moved from B.C. to Alberta to be with me. While visiting her family, her bro introduced me to WOW. I started playing that and she refused to join me, constantly complained about the time I spent online. I eventually got mad at her and pointed out that we met online playing a damn game, did she expect me to just stop my favorite past time because she moved in!? Of course she did, sent her silly ass packing a week later.
2013-03-06 03:51:41 PM
2 votes:
lh3.googleusercontent.com
2013-03-06 03:49:53 PM
2 votes:
I posted a response to this on her facebook yesterday, here it is.

"That marriage is never going to work because she wants to control him and change him. It sounds like she's already made him quit smoking and quit drinking energy drinks, she's not going to stop trying to change him into what she wants. Unfortunately I think this is the attitude of many people now and it's why a lot of relationships don't work. People may change themselves over time but trying to force change in them will only force you apart. Also, from personal experience, gamers should date gamers, nobody else is going to understand your hobby. "
2013-03-06 03:45:53 PM
2 votes:
It's certainly possible to balance work, marriage, kids, and video games. Just be ready to accept that you're going to be reviled as a "casual gamer" in any hardcore gamer community.
2013-03-06 03:44:27 PM
2 votes:
i.imgur.com
2013-03-06 03:41:27 PM
2 votes:
I met Lordfortuna through match.com, but we first 'met' in WoW before having a real life meeting. We play lots of games together, except for lately I'm playing Halo 4 and he hates console shooters, so he's not entirely happy about it, but he'll get over it.

Lady needs to either accept his hobby, join him, or he needs to get out. 10-20 hours a week is not 'addict' level, it's probably just slightly over what most people put into whatever they're interested in during a week..
2013-03-06 03:27:15 PM
2 votes:
Wow what a loon -- 10 hours a week of alone time and she has to control how he spends it?

My CSB time: I met my wife because my guild banned me from raiding for a few weeks, so I went out into the real world. There was a period while dating when my wife would play on my account (a rogue), and the day she found out one of our friends played a warlock and announced her disgust, I was proud.
2013-03-06 03:02:46 PM
2 votes:
Wah, why can't we just ignore each other in front of the TV like every other couple!?!?!
2013-03-06 02:28:35 PM
2 votes:
Huh, someone else down the page gave the same answer I did:

Q. Re: Husband's Gaming: My husband did this early in our relationship as well. I took a different tactic ... I joined him. That way we spent time together and I learned something new about myself as well. Sometimes it takes giving a little to get a little.

A: This is an excellent alternative. Thanks.
2013-03-06 11:37:45 PM
1 votes:

scottydoesntknow: mafiageek1980: scottydoesntknow: Maybe you should try and get involved with his activity instead of acting like a passive-agressive biatch.

CSB: I kinda hid my gaming from my girlfriend when we first started dating. Never turned it on or talked about any of the games I bought because I figured she didn't care. About 3 months in we're watching TV and she asks "Why don't you ever turn on your Xbox?" I told her it was because I figured she didn't like it. She then asks what games I play and wanted to try one out herself. I had her play Mass Effect. She didn't really get the shooting down too much (has a bad habit of only using one thumb at a time, so she'd run forward, stop turn, stop, run forward, etc.) but eventually got the hang of it and fell in love with the story. She's currently a Lvl 37 Commander on ME2 and loves telling people that (She hates that stuck-up biatch Miranda). We alternate playing now, do co-op, she uses the Kinect to exercise, got into PC gaming a little bit, mainly playing Sims, but started playing Fallout: NV recently.

/CSB

I have had a similar experience with my husband's love for sci-fi movies and shows. I've always hated sci-fi and swore that would be "his thing, not mine", but once he got me watching "Battlestar Galactica" (the new version), I've been more understanding and even hooked. I still can't get into Star Trek, but I am a hard-core Whovian now thanks to him.

In turn, I've got him watching "Duck Dynasty", "Cops", and "Toddlers and Tiaras", lol!

Heh we actually have a set-up where I get the big living room TV for my games, but I also brought out our bedroom TV and have it set-up on the coffee table. She can watch her shows while I play my game, or vice versa. We constantly catch ourselves watching what the other person is doing (she was mesmerized by Skyrim and loved watching the dragon battles), and I've seen a lot more of "Toddlers and Tiaras" than I care to admit.


Whoever makes a game involving dragons eating the cast of Toddlers & Tiaras will be a very rich person.
2013-03-06 11:25:56 PM
1 votes:
Oh my god he's spending 1-2 hours a day doing something he wants and not something she wants. SOMEBODY STOP THIS MONSTER!!!!
2013-03-06 09:11:00 PM
1 votes:

JustFish: My GF was a big gamer in the 2D days of NES / SNES, and can still kick my ass at super mario. She never figured out the whole change to 3D, went so far as to buy a N64 to start her at the beginning, but she just can't get into it, humps the wall in the corner on any FPS she tries.

She does however love good puzzle games, like Safe Cracker and Puzzle Agent 1 / 2

Can anyone recommend a couple good puzzle games from over the years?

Myst and 7th Guest are the obvious choices, but I'd like to find some on the consoles, I have the big 3 (PS3, 360, Wii)


I know it's not on the consoles, but the Professor Layton series on the DS are an awesome choice. You can get them new for $30 or used as low as $10, and a DS can be gotten for around $100 now.
2013-03-06 08:51:47 PM
1 votes:

RadicalArcher: Sweetheart and I regularly play L4D2 together online, since we live in different cities. When we do get together, we go to gamer cafes, where we can get coffee/tea/cocoa/whatever and play either card games or board games together. Playing games with your SO is definitely better than having a hate-on for what your SO likes to play.


The preferred game when I was married, and later with a girlfriend (after I divorced) was Scrabble.  I prefer intelligent women.  Dumb women hate Scrabble.
2013-03-06 07:44:08 PM
1 votes:

Babbs: Maybe she's upset because she thought she married a man instead of a 12 year old boy who plays video games?


Wow, really?

Get your head out of your ass. No, really. I have dated many gamers and married one, and he held down a good job, fulfilled his responsibilities, and was good to me. There is absolutely nothing wrong with video games.
m00
2013-03-06 07:41:54 PM
1 votes:

Jon iz teh kewl: oh fark you i would do ANYTHING for a wife

i would adjust my entire lifestyle around her.  what the fark


You know most women I've met don't find this to be an endearing quality.
2013-03-06 06:43:01 PM
1 votes:
As someone who just started Mass Effect 1 last week this thread is making me feel warm and fuzzy.


To those dissing gaming: Don't game then. We won't biatch about your life wasted watching sports.
2013-03-06 06:39:37 PM
1 votes:

Adolf Oliver Nipples: kiwimoogle84: and NEVER HEARD OF FIREFLY? Ask ANY Farker. Most awesome 14 episodes and a movie you'll ever watch. Shoot, I'd send you my box set on bluray to borrow if I wasn't always rewatching it. It's all on netflix- enjoy!

Does your wife mind that you suck Whedon's cock that hard? There's a reason that show lasted only 14 episodes, and it wasn't because Fox killed it. it was because nobody watched it. Why? Because it sucked harder than a porn star in a bukkake film.

But I digress.


Um, you know I'm a woman, right?

And there's proof that Fox killed it on purpose due to conservative hatred. And a strong following now.

You need a hug.
2013-03-06 06:32:27 PM
1 votes:
At least some gaming can teach real world skills.  Games like UO and EQ taught me important lessons in computer care, management, and usage.  Not to mention typing.  I can speed type like a fiend thanks to mmorpg's.  Helped me to get a recession proof job that provides for my family.

Also:
3.bp.blogspot.com
2013-03-06 05:51:28 PM
1 votes:
zooyorkfreak: All women hate video games .. becuase Men love it .. anything Men love .. women hate .. its how it works .. especially with marriage ..

\currently going through divorce
\\played video games last night


Maybe this is why you're going through a divorce.

Also: I am a woman. I love video games. In fact, I at least like most of the things my husband loves (though our tastes in SF authors differ) and vise versa. Maybe this is why we're not going through a divorce.
2013-03-06 05:41:46 PM
1 votes:

Adolf Oliver Nipples: He's not out getting drunk or arrested. He's not cheating on her. He's not stroking off to porn instead of her. He's not even abusing her or beating the shiat out of her. He's playing a video game 10-20 hours a week. When I stopped drinking I started playing video games to give me something to do, and I play approximately that much. Never in your life have you seen a woman more thrilled about that than my wife.

She needs to get a grip. She probably watches more TV or reads more than that every week. What's the difference?


She's a dumb, self-centered, biatch?
2013-03-06 05:39:28 PM
1 votes:

freewill: Carth: If my partner spent 20 hours a week at bars I'd wonder if they had a drinking problem. Why should gaming be treated differently? If he isn't addicted he should be able to stop for a few weeks to show her that then go back to playing.

I would think that all human beings need at least 10-20 hours a week to do whatever it is that they like to do. Me time.

If that's drinking, it's potentially destructive. If that's something otherwise harmless, like swimming, working on old cars, making fine desserts, or playing video games, this lady needs to EABD. Seriously, where do these guys find these nagging, demanding women?


They marry for looks and then act surprised when she has nothing else to offer. I bet Studman69 might be able to shed some light. It's a delicate balance. If a woman is a gamer/D&D nerd, men assume she's likely obese or greasy or antisocial. SOOO not the case.

Women likely often think the same about the opposite sex, and I always give Vin Diesel as a great example. Dear lord, the guy OWNS THE RIGHTS to Riddick and plays D&D regularly.

/he's my hero
2013-03-06 05:18:47 PM
1 votes:

Gifted Many Few: I do find people that read a lot more educated than a hobby gamer.


So, if I read Twilight I am educated now?

I would rather be a moron I guess and play turn based strategy games....
2013-03-06 05:06:49 PM
1 votes:
Instead of hiding your gaming hobby from your potential mate out of fear of being thought of too nerdy, you drop that person and go out and find someone who has the same interest in gaming as you do. That way not only you don't have to hide it anymore, you have potential gaming partner.
2013-03-06 05:05:48 PM
1 votes:

Carth: If my partner spent 20 hours a week at bars I'd wonder if they had a drinking problem. Why should gaming be treated differently? If he isn't addicted he should be able to stop for a few weeks to show her that then go back to playing.


Once again, people willpark it in front of the TV for 4-5 hours a night also, yet that's not a "problem"? Also, that 10-20 hours of gaming is AT HOME, not out at the bars.
2013-03-06 05:05:47 PM
1 votes:
I'm not a gamer, but the guys I'm attracted to usually are.

Game addictions (like any addictions) are one thing, but really, as hobbies go, a guy (or girl) can do a lot worse. This woman needs to quit her biatchin.' Her husband's game habits seem pretty tame to me, and if she loves him, she might consider getting to understand his interests better. I'm sure she expects the same type of effort from him. Like others have said, she could join in. And even if gaming still isn't her thing, I find myself often watching my guys play. That might sound weird, but considering what's on TV these days, it can actually be pretty entertaining at times.

/women like her are the reasons men biatch about women.
//we're not all that high maintenance.
2013-03-06 05:01:53 PM
1 votes:

que.guero: Advice columns are always good for a laugh as they do a fine job of illustrating a fundamental difference between men and women.

Men use an argument to win a crowd.
Women use a crowd to win an argument.


Well said. Allow me to add:
 Men are judged by what they do and what they say.
 Women are judged by how they look and their feminine appeal.
2013-03-06 04:59:37 PM
1 votes:

The Ghost of Tom Ace: [lh3.googleusercontent.com image 801x809]


it's that but more "Pay attention to me. Look at ME. LAVISH ALL YOUR TIME ON ME!"

the wife is a moron.  That said this was the first time I've seen a rational answer to the various forms of "my husband has a harmless hobby and i don't like it" dear abbey questions.
2013-03-06 04:43:31 PM
1 votes:

meanmutton: DontMakeMeComeBackThere: Adolf Oliver Nipples: She probably watches more TV or reads more than that every week. What's the difference?

Playing Devil's advocate: reading or watching TV are not as "exclusive" an activity as video games are.  Have you ever walked up to someone reading a book to ask a question and were told "Not now!  I'm in the middle of a chapter!"  Video games can be seen much more as a solitary, I'm-ignoring-you activity - thus the feeling of abandonment by the non-playing party.

TMYK

Yes.  What kind of asshat interrupts someone reading a book?


That was my reaction.  I absolutely lose track when someone interrupts me while I'm reading a book, and it's extremely annoying.  Gaming on the other hand?

"What are you playing?"
"Mass Effect 3."
"Why is that salamander girl yelling at that big fat snapping turtle dude?"
"Eh, I'm trying to broker a peace deal between these three alien races, so they'll help the human race against an invasion by these other evil aliens."
"What are they mad each other for?"
"Two of them tried to wipe the third race with biological weapons.  They might go extinct in a few generations."
"That's pretty farked up, why did they do that?"
"The big dude is a Krogan.  They tried to conquer the galaxy a few thousand years ago."
"What side did the humans take?"
"This was before we discovered space travel.  It's only set in the 23rd century or so."
"Huh, so what about..."

I ended up explaining the entire plot, the backstory, etc. to the point she was genuinely intrigued by the game's premise.  She couldn't get the hang of the controls (most modern shooter games were beyond her grasp), but we ended up making a character based on her, and I played through the action sequences, and let her make the decisions in the RPG sequences.  It basically became a Choose Your Own Adventure movie for her, I got to shoot things, she didn't get frustrated by the controls, and we both had fun.
2013-03-06 04:41:27 PM
1 votes:

meat0918: What the hell is with this (seemingly, I don't know if it is prevalent in other countries) American obsession with turning a hobby into a business venture?


Because we all hate our jobs and would love to make money doing something we enjoy. The irony is, the minute it becomes a "job," we don't enjoy doing it anymore.
2013-03-06 04:35:11 PM
1 votes:

L.D. Ablo: NightSteel: There are plenty of other habits that could be in place of 'video games' here. What if the guy was a gearhead and liked to work on his project car every day?

10-20 hours a week is equivalent to about 1.5-3 hours per day. It'd be like watching a movie or a ballgame every evening. That's really not so much.

There's a huge difference.

Someone who knows how to wrench can make a business out of it.  Restore that old car and you can monetize its sale.  You could start a business restoring cars.  You end up with something of value and that value can be transferred to someone else.

I've had a longtime hobby that's becoming a career in my semi-retirement.

Had I spent the past 15 years playing games, I wouldn't have shiat.

You can't take 100 hours of gameplay and sell it or give it to someone.  100 hours in my shop produces tangible goods that can be used or sold.

Videogames are a waste of life.


Well, aren't YOU special? Pretentious assholes are the TRUE wastes of life. Grow up and get down off your soapbox, nobody is actually impressed that you have crowned yourself the King of Spending Free Time. It's their time, not yours.
2013-03-06 04:33:47 PM
1 votes:

L.D. Ablo: NightSteel: There are plenty of other habits that could be in place of 'video games' here. What if the guy was a gearhead and liked to work on his project car every day?

10-20 hours a week is equivalent to about 1.5-3 hours per day. It'd be like watching a movie or a ballgame every evening. That's really not so much.

There's a huge difference.

Someone who knows how to wrench can make a business out of it.  Restore that old car and you can monetize its sale.  You could start a business restoring cars.  You end up with something of value and that value can be transferred to someone else.

I've had a longtime hobby that's becoming a career in my semi-retirement.

Had I spent the past 15 years playing games, I wouldn't have shiat.

You can't take 100 hours of gameplay and sell it or give it to someone.  100 hours in my shop produces tangible goods that can be used or sold.

Videogames are a waste of life.


What the hell is with this (seemingly, I don't know if it is prevalent in other countries) American obsession with turning a hobby into a business venture?  This "ideal" that if you cannot make money with some activity, it is useless and should be discarded?

Can't a hobby just stay a hobby without someone saying "Wow, you're really good at that, maybe you should go into business for yourself."?


2013-03-06 04:31:52 PM
1 votes:

Gifted Many Few: J. Frank Parnell: Gifted Many Few: Not really. Video games are one of the few "hobbies" that doesn't require you to get off your ass.

Actually, most hobbies are like that. The ones which involve physical activity are usually called sports.

No, video games are the laziest of the hobbies. The only activity there is going to the store and buying the game. Even that is being circumvented by Gamefly and DLCs. Name me another you can do if you literally had no legs and were glued to the couch.


I see you have no idea what you are talking about. You know, because all games are created equal and all gamers are just fat slobs.

"Name me another you can do if you literally had no legs and were glued to the couch." *sic*

Posting on Fark.
2013-03-06 04:24:21 PM
1 votes:

thecpt: FTA My husband and I married a few years ago after just months of knowing each other

there's your farking problem dumbass


THIS.  Marry at haste, repent at leisure.

Shiat like this is why you eventually move in together first, before getting married, just to see if you can stand living together.  When you're off on a date or even just hanging out as a couple, you're still putting your best face forward (to badly mangle a metaphor).

But once you're sharing a kitchen and bathroom, and potentially a bedroom, that's when a person's secrets are exposed.  That's when you find out whether he or she has any little annoying habits that will eventually drive you to drinking, cheating, murdering, or... maybe... maturing and changing and growing together.
2013-03-06 04:24:10 PM
1 votes:

tricycleracer: When he first disclosed this after the honeymoon

This is why you live together first.


This is why you're honest before you get married. Living together first doesn't necessarily guarantee full disclosure.

/didn't work for me
2013-03-06 04:22:48 PM
1 votes:

serial_crusher: He spends several hours a week (10-20) playing these online games!

Wow, this guy needs to talk to a divorce lawyer ASAP.  That woman is crazy


All women hate video games .. becuase Men love it .. anything Men love .. women hate .. its how it works .. especially with marriage ..


\currently going through divorce
\\played video games last night
2013-03-06 04:21:59 PM
1 votes:

mafiageek1980: In turn, I've got him watching "Duck Dynasty", "Cops", and "Toddlers and Tiaras", lol!


You're evil, and should be tarred and feathered
2013-03-06 04:20:23 PM
1 votes:
I could understand it if he had only 10-20 hours a week of free time and she for some reason couldn't play--I mean, I can't play most video games because I get sick, so if someone I cared about spent all their free time on a game instead of spending any time with me, I would not be thrilled. But if your alternative is 'reading a book', you just  might not be in the right there.
2013-03-06 04:18:50 PM
1 votes:

jaylectricity: soporific: you have to understand that you can't play games the way you did as a kid.

Actually I can play a lot more now. Back then my mom would make me go outside.


Haha ..."can't play games the way you did as a kid". Friend, I own 23 arcade cabinets, a whole room dedicated to really old game consoles and computers and (literally) thousands of games. I still find time to be married, be in a band, regularly play table RPGs, have a full time job and develop games independently.

You can certainly do it.. just can't have kids ;)
That's the secret.
2013-03-06 04:16:56 PM
1 votes:

kiwimoogle84: DontMakeMeComeBackThere: Adolf Oliver Nipples: She probably watches more TV or reads more than that every week. What's the difference?

Playing Devil's advocate: reading or watching TV are not as "exclusive" an activity as video games are. Have you ever walked up to someone reading a book to ask a question and were told "Not now! I'm in the middle of a chapter!" Video games can be seen much more as a solitary, I'm-ignoring-you activity - thus the feeling of abandonment by the non-playing party.

TMYK

I've said that so many times it's a knee jerk reaction by this point.


I also don't like being interrupted while reading. It depends on actually. If it's a comic, no big deal. But some books require immersion. Having even a short conversation while trying to read something like Lovecraft or Tolkein takes me right out of it.
2013-03-06 04:15:05 PM
1 votes:

Adolf Oliver Nipples: He's not out getting drunk or arrested. He's not cheating on her. He's not stroking off to porn instead of her. He's not even abusing her or beating the shiat out of her. He's playing a video game 10-20 hours a week. When I stopped drinking I started playing video games to give me something to do, and I play approximately that much. Never in your life have you seen a woman more thrilled about that than my wife.

She needs to get a grip. She probably watches more TV or reads more than that every week. What's the difference?


Same here.  I feel fortunate to have the conveniences (and diversions) that we do in this age.  And Skyrim...I feel fortunate to have Skyrim.
2013-03-06 04:14:06 PM
1 votes:

Gifted Many Few: No, video games are the laziest of the hobbies. The only activity there is going to the store and buying the game. Even that is being circumvented by Gamefly and DLCs. Name me another you can do if you literally had no legs and were glued to the couch.


knitting, knotting, crocheting, sewing, crossword puzzles, soduko and other written type puzzles, etc. there are plenty of hobbies you can do while sitting in one place.
2013-03-06 04:13:27 PM
1 votes:

GlobalStrategic MapleSyrup Reserve: FTA:"There are husbands everywhere who spend all their free time looking at porn, or training for triathlons, or conducting affairs."

One of these things is not like the other.


Well, if we assume the porn is gay porn, and the affair is a homosexual affair, the triathlete will fit right in.
/ especially if he has an oval "70.3" bumper sticker on his car.
// I kid, I kid.  But there are some crazy women out there who call themselves "running widows" and the like, because they think their husband has been lost to his endurance sports.  It's become pretty common to analogize it with an affair.
/// I dated one of those.  To be fair I spend significantly more than 20 hours a week running, so the argument was a little more credible than this lady's.  But at the end of the day, she gave me an ultimatum of her or running.  So now I'm single again.
2013-03-06 04:13:19 PM
1 votes:

Perlin Noise: Here is a question ...since when was playing video games a hobby?

I guess it could be considered one but I think it makes more sense to call it a pastime. Hobby implies some sort of productivity to me... meh, semantics I suppose...


Video games should only be considered a if masturbation is considered a hobby. Or posting on Fark. They're all pretty much the same thing actually: they feel good, but have no useful purpose.

/I'll be in my bunk
2013-03-06 04:11:58 PM
1 votes:

soporific: you have to understand that you can't play games the way you did as a kid.


Actually I can play a lot more now. Back then my mom would make me go outside.
2013-03-06 04:11:41 PM
1 votes:

SuperChuck: Gifted Many Few: J. Frank Parnell: Gifted Many Few: Not really. Video games are one of the few "hobbies" that doesn't require you to get off your ass.

Actually, most hobbies are like that. The ones which involve physical activity are usually called sports.

No, video games are the laziest of the hobbies. The only activity there is going to the store and buying the game. Even that is being circumvented by Gamefly and DLCs. Name me another you can do if you literally had no legs and were glued to the couch.

Housewife

/runs


DontMakeMeComeBackThere: Adolf Oliver Nipples: She probably watches more TV or reads more than that every week. What's the difference?

Playing Devil's advocate: reading or watching TV are not as "exclusive" an activity as video games are.  Have you ever walked up to someone reading a book to ask a question and were told "Not now!  I'm in the middle of a chapter!"  Video games can be seen much more as a solitary, I'm-ignoring-you activity - thus the feeling of abandonment by the non-playing party.

TMYK


I've said that so many times it's a knee jerk reaction by this point.
2013-03-06 04:06:57 PM
1 votes:

Gifted Many Few: J. Frank Parnell: Gifted Many Few: Not really. Video games are one of the few "hobbies" that doesn't require you to get off your ass.

Actually, most hobbies are like that. The ones which involve physical activity are usually called sports.

No, video games are the laziest of the hobbies. The only activity there is going to the store and buying the game. Even that is being circumvented by Gamefly and DLCs. Name me another you can do if you literally had no legs and were glued to the couch.


My non video game hobby is building model tanks, and other than some outdoor spray painting I do it all sitting on my ass.
2013-03-06 04:05:51 PM
1 votes:

89 Stick-Up Kid: serial_crusher: He spends several hours a week (10-20) playing these online games!

Wow, this guy needs to talk to a divorce lawyer ASAP. That woman is crazy

^This. Why do people think they need to date these horrible women? The world is full of cool chicks who actually dig the nerdy things guys do.


I'm not talking about whether or not she "digs" the video games herself, just that 10-20 hours a week doing something without her is perfectly reasonable.  If she started playing video games with him for 10-20 hours a week, he'd be perfectly within his right mind to go find something else to do for 10-20 hours a week.  What ever happened to "me time"?
2013-03-06 04:03:09 PM
1 votes:
Adolf Oliver Nipples: She probably watches more TV or reads more than that every week. What's the difference?

Playing Devil's advocate: reading or watching TV are not as "exclusive" an activity as video games are.  Have you ever walked up to someone reading a book to ask a question and were told "Not now!  I'm in the middle of a chapter!"  Video games can be seen much more as a solitary, I'm-ignoring-you activity - thus the feeling of abandonment by the non-playing party.

TMYK
2013-03-06 04:01:53 PM
1 votes:
So...

CSB #1: I met my wife when we were both 19. After a few really good dates she started hanging around the house more. I told her right away that I liked playing games. She, of course, was like "oh that's fine, whatever". I prefer heding my bets so after we dated for a few months she walked into my room and sat on the bed (everyone else was home, no hanky panky that day). I put in a game and handed her the controller. "What's this?" She said. "A newer game I have" I said. You are going to play it. I taught her what a few of the things on the screen meant and from there let her have at it.
8 days and 45 gameplay hours later, she could hand anything it's ass in Final Fantasy 9. Didn't hear nothing about games till we had been married for about 7 years or so which leads into...

CSB #2: So my wife wass annoyed that I had gotten to the point I was spending a solid 20 hours every week (2-3 every weeknight and 10-15 hours every weekend) playing games. To the point she'd have to drag me away and I'd be whiney about it. I made a compromise. We set certain days every week where *THESE ARE HER DAYS*. No games, unless she wants to play something, watching shows we both enjoy, chill out together. We can spend other days and what not doing that. I work better off a scehdule. If I know "these are times where I am not going to get on the Xbox", I work better.
 
Because I am not captain pouty pants about not playing games for a few nights(and actually spending time with the woman you married is a good thing) it works out ALOT better. Oh and being able to DVR stuff and let it build up helps too. Sure, sometimes I want to get on and play games. Just like she would prefer I barely play them at all. It works.

/oh and get Rock Band
//chicks dig Rock Band
2013-03-06 03:59:13 PM
1 votes:

J. Frank Parnell: She wishes he'd watch more TV instead? Because passively staring at a screen is so much better, right?

Really says something for the sad state of things when watching TV is considered doing something together.


That was my ex.  She'd make a biatch-face when I was playing Mass Effect or Fallout for a few hours a day, but did I give a shiat she was watching endless marathons of whatever TV series on Netflix she was currently hooked on?  Nope.

I'd humor her, make popcorn and bring her a beer.
2013-03-06 03:52:12 PM
1 votes:
Are we just going to green every Dear Prudence column?  Is this about to become "featured content"??
2013-03-06 03:51:41 PM
1 votes:
Fiance and I met at manual transmission class in college. Didn't know he was a gamer. I'm mostly a PC gamer (Sims, Counter-Striker, Alpha Centauri, EVE, Diablo II), he's mostly console. For Xmas I bought him Assassin's Creed 3 for Xbox (which I'm currently trying to get 100% syncro on just the regular game) and for his birthday he got Crysis 2 for PC. He pretty much lets me hog the computer while he hogs the Xbox.

Honestly, in a good relationship, you both should at least get a superficial knowledge of the other's interests. My fiance has influenced my interests in music and console gaming, and he's more interested now in books and science fiction and politics. Enough differences to keep it interesting, enough similarities you have something to talk about.
2013-03-06 03:51:10 PM
1 votes:

serial_crusher: He spends several hours a week (10-20) playing these online games!

Wow, this guy needs to talk to a divorce lawyer ASAP.  That woman is crazy


I just have one thing to say to this guy.

Amateur.

Married, two kids, and we play video games together.

Also, Munchkin.

//The kids aren't old enough yet for Cards Against Humanity
2013-03-06 03:48:59 PM
1 votes:

jennies1897: This woman seriously needs to talk to someone who has dealt with someone who has a serious addiction to video games. I was with a guy who slowly devolved over the four years I lived with him. At first he played more than I expected, which wasn't that big of a deal. We still did things together. Over time, it got to a point where he couldn't hold down a job anymore. I could go days without speaking to him because he was so busy raiding. He turned down sex repeatedly and the rare times we had it at all, it was entirely hate-farking on my part. He spent days on that computer, neglecting himself, me, the apartment. My complaints fell on deaf ears, once in awhile he would encourage me to join him. The guy literally did not realize he was destroying his relationship and was utterly shocked when I finally broke it off. It still bothers me to this day and while I did date another guy who was into online role playing games, I couldn't move forward because the experience wouldn't leave my mind. That's sad and honestly, she should be delighted he only plays 10 hrs a week. That shiat can destroy lives.


So can drugs, booze, eating, gambling, women, disease and Fark,
2013-03-06 03:48:52 PM
1 votes:

Theaetetus: ladyfortuna: I met Lordfortuna through match.com, but we first 'met' in WoW before having a real life meeting. We play lots of games together, except for lately I'm playing Halo 4 and he hates console shooters, so he's not entirely happy about it, but he'll get over it.

For his next birthday:
http://www.amazon.com/Eagle-Mouse-Keyboard-Converter-Playstation-3/ d p/ B0040UAYI4


I do not think you thought this cunning plan all the way through.
2013-03-06 03:46:21 PM
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...now she doesn't know how to cope with a man addicted to video games

gawd, had to fix that for myself.
2013-03-06 03:45:25 PM
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ladyfortuna: I met Lordfortuna through match.com, but we first 'met' in WoW before having a real life meeting. We play lots of games together, except for lately I'm playing Halo 4 and he hates console shooters, so he's not entirely happy about it, but he'll get over it.


For his next birthday:
http://www.amazon.com/Eagle-Mouse-Keyboard-Converter-Playstation-3/d p/ B0040UAYI4
2013-03-06 03:44:40 PM
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Workout a resolution... say trade a little more anal time for a little less game time

/ sounds resonable
2013-03-06 03:44:28 PM
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She wishes he'd watch more TV instead? Because passively staring at a screen is so much better, right?

Really says something for the sad state of things when watching TV is considered doing something together.
2013-03-06 03:33:34 PM
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serial_crusher: Adolf Oliver Nipples: He's not even abusing her or beating the shiat out of her.

Yeesh, you give an inch, they take a mile, amirite?


I was merely pointing out that what she's worked up about is the polar opposite of abuse, nothing more.
2013-03-06 03:00:23 PM
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Adolf Oliver Nipples: What's the difference?


Video games are evil, duh
 
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