Gifted Many Few: Name me another you can do if you literally had no legs and were glued to the couch.
freewill: Carth: If my partner spent 20 hours a week at bars I'd wonder if they had a drinking problem. Why should gaming be treated differently? If he isn't addicted he should be able to stop for a few weeks to show her that then go back to playing.I would think that all human beings need at least 10-20 hours a week to do whatever it is that they like to do. Me time.If that's drinking, it's potentially destructive. If that's something otherwise harmless, like swimming, working on old cars, making fine desserts, or playing video games, this lady needs to EABD. Seriously, where do these guys find these nagging, demanding women?
Adolf Oliver Nipples: He's not out getting drunk or arrested. He's not cheating on her. He's not stroking off to porn instead of her. He's not even abusing her or beating the shiat out of her. He's playing a video game 10-20 hours a week. When I stopped drinking I started playing video games to give me something to do, and I play approximately that much. Never in your life have you seen a woman more thrilled about that than my wife.She needs to get a grip. She probably watches more TV or reads more than that every week. What's the difference?
kiwimoogle84: IRQ12: ...I'd rather not compromise because the inverse is me having to wander aimlessly through stores saying "that's cute" and "ohh look 20% off", going to the spa for some r&r, then come home and watch a romantic comedy or two."....but I won't do that!"Get her to watch Firefly with you. AWESOME nerdy thing you love, and Mal and Jayne are eye candy. Plus, Kaylee is just adorable and she'll love her.Other than that, you poor soul. I don't even like ro-com's unless they're Apatow/Smith level of profane.
soporific: Reality is not defined by your ignorance.
Carth: IRQ12: Carth: IRQ12: Carth: If my partner spent 20 hours a week at bars I'd wonder if they had a drinking problem. Why should gaming be treated differently? If he isn't addicted he should be able to stop for a few weeks to show her that then go back to playing.From what I can gather from the story it's not an excessive amount and she really has no other complaints aside from: "Not What I Like"tmWell that and the fact he hid it from her until after they were married.Heh, I am sure he is regretting the heck out of that right now. I doubt it was literally hidden from her, it was probably just something he didn't do. Just like every other things guys/gals don't do early in a relationship.We don't know for sure but I can gather she hid her being a shrew until after they were married.shiat like this is a perfect example why people should live together at least a year before getting married. He's an idiot for not just saying he likes to play video games and she is too damn needy to live with.
loonatic112358: bacchanalias and consequences: skozlaw:/ some women get very annoyed at men's hobbies that require concentration because it means they don't get constant attention themselves// these women, if they can't be made to get over it, should be dumped/divorced ASAP because it will only be a constant source of simmering resentmentI had this issue with the most recent ex and my hobby, writing (similar to gaming in that it's a solitary activity that requires intense concentration with even less of a social aspect). The two share that soft addiction quality as well. If I don't do it for a while I feel unproductive. When I've hit a stride and the story is moving forward I don't want to put it down. We had a lot of conversations unfold as follows:"I think I'm going to write tonight.""But I wantto see you.""Ok, I'll text you when I'm wrapping up. You can come over.""It'll be late. We'll just have drinks and go to bed.""Alright, well something after work then and I'll write after.""But Iwant to stay the night.I want to spend more time with you. What if I came over while you were writing?""Well I guess you could watch?"This would happen after we'd spent the whole night prior together and a few others a week and weekends. I didn't neglect her. I called. We did things on regular basis. She just couldn't stand my attention elsewhere for an extended time. Elsewhere included: conversations of more than ten minutes with women of equal or greater beauty, football season, books and writing, friends she did not know/like, bar trivia, grading papers, etc.Had to call that off when she used a locksmith to break into my house at three in the morning because I wasn't answering my phone. At three in the morning on a week night./long post is long.//needy people are needy.///venting is cathartic.I bet she thought she could cure you of your writing habbit
IRQ12: kiwimoogle84: IRQ12: ...I'd rather not compromise because the inverse is me having to wander aimlessly through stores saying "that's cute" and "ohh look 20% off", going to the spa for some r&r, then come home and watch a romantic comedy or two."....but I won't do that!"Get her to watch Firefly with you. AWESOME nerdy thing you love, and Mal and Jayne are eye candy. Plus, Kaylee is just adorable and she'll love her.Other than that, you poor soul. I don't even like ro-com's unless they're Apatow/Smith level of profane.Never heard of that show and it's rated pretty high, thanks.No poor soul here. I'm way past those early days of "time together", I mostly smile at others as they play out the same story time and again:-- Hey you are always doing X it is bothering me- Ok let's do it together-- Ok-- Hey you want to come do my thing with me- No.-- But I do my thing with you- I didn't have a problem with your thing, you had one with mine.a few years and dozens of fights later-- Hey you doing your thing?- Yea.-- Cool I'm going to do mine, maybe a movie and pizza later?- Sounds good.
quizzical: DontMakeMeComeBackThere: Have you ever walked up to someone reading a book to ask a question and were told "Not now! I'm in the middle of a chapter!"All the time at my house! My husband and I have a rule - if you're within the last 50 pages of a book, you can tell the other person to go away until you finish your story.
Lorax: soporific: Reality is not defined by your ignorance.HOLY FARK that needs to be on a tee shirt.
kiwimoogle84: and NEVER HEARD OF FIREFLY? Ask ANY Farker. Most awesome 14 episodes and a movie you'll ever watch. Shoot, I'd send you my box set on bluray to borrow if I wasn't always rewatching it. It's all on netflix- enjoy!
jennies1897: zooyorkfreak: vudukungfu: jennies1897: This woman seriously needs to talk to someone who has dealt with someone who has a serious addiction to video games. I was with a guy who slowly devolved over the four years I lived with him. At first he played more than I expected, which wasn't that big of a deal. We still did things together. Over time, it got to a point where he couldn't hold down a job anymore. I could go days without speaking to him because he was so busy raiding. He turned down sex repeatedly and the rare times we had it at all, it was entirely hate-farking on my part. He spent days on that computer, neglecting himself, me, the apartment. My complaints fell on deaf ears, once in awhile he would encourage me to join him. The guy literally did not realize he was destroying his relationship and was utterly shocked when I finally broke it off. It still bothers me to this day and while I did date another guy who was into online role playing games, I couldn't move forward because the experience wouldn't leave my mind. That's sad and honestly, she should be delighted he only plays 10 hrs a week. That shiat can destroy lives.So... You're single?i second that notion for a response from jennieYep. The two breakups I speak of were years ago though, right now I am single because I want to be.
mongbiohazard: The only thing I hid from my wife was what I called my "secret shame". It was my Warhammer 40K Chaos army that I kept in a protective metal case for transport.
OgreMagi: After reading the comments here I've come to the realization that all the good gamer girls are taken.If there any available that are in my dating age range, they end up being moby dick fat.I haz a sad./ladies, I get free playstation stuff//come and get me!///is this thing on?
Adolf Oliver Nipples: kiwimoogle84: and NEVER HEARD OF FIREFLY? Ask ANY Farker. Most awesome 14 episodes and a movie you'll ever watch. Shoot, I'd send you my box set on bluray to borrow if I wasn't always rewatching it. It's all on netflix- enjoy!Does your wife mind that you suck Whedon's cock that hard? There's a reason that show lasted only 14 episodes, and it wasn't because Fox killed it. it was because nobody watched it. Why? Because it sucked harder than a porn star in a bukkake film.But I digress.
kiwimoogle84: //can you fix my licensing issues on downloaded content for my ps3?
mongbiohazard: The only thing I hid from my wife was what I called my "secret shame". It was my Warhammer 40K Chaos army that I kept in a protective metal case for transport. She already knew I was nerdy but I just felt like that was just a little TOO nerdy for most "normies" to understand. She noticed the case on one of the shelves of my den one day and asked me what it was - "my secret shame" was all I'd tell her. I didn't really want to get in to it when she first asked me, but after that it just was kind of a running joke.Many years later we got married and at some point she half-seriously demanded to know what was in there, "I married you, didn't? I've earned this!" she insisted. When I showed her what it was her reaction was, "That's it? I already knew you were nerdier than THAT - you have three soldering irons." I couldn't refute her logic.And the coont from TFA needs to get the fark over it. Her husband likes something she doesn't like... just like most husbands.
Worldwalker: zooyorkfreak: All women hate video games .. becuase Men love it .. anything Men love .. women hate .. its how it works .. especially with marriage ..\currently going through divorce\\played video games last nightMaybe this is why you're going through a divorce.
Worldwalker: zooyorkfreak: All women hate video games .. becuase Men love it .. anything Men love .. women hate .. its how it works .. especially with marriage ..\currently going through divorce\\played video games last nightMaybe this is why you're going through a divorce.Also: I am a woman. I love video games. In fact, I at least like most of the things my husband loves (though our tastes in SF authors differ) and vise versa. Maybe this is why we're not going through a divorce.
Jon iz teh kewl: oh fark you i would do ANYTHING for a wifei would adjust my entire lifestyle around her. what the fark
spidermilk: And I'm not saying I like everything my SO likes. I have tried shooting clay pigeons with him, and I enjoy no part of it- but I'm not gonna tell him he can't do it because it will destroy our relationship, because it won't.
Gifted Many Few: J. Frank Parnell: Gifted Many Few: Not really. Video games are one of the few "hobbies" that doesn't require you to get off your ass.Actually, most hobbies are like that. The ones which involve physical activity are usually called sports.No, video games are the laziest of the hobbies. The only activity there is going to the store and buying the game. Even that is being circumvented by Gamefly and DLCs. Name me another you can do if you literally had no legs and were glued to the couch.
IRQ12: Jon iz teh kewl: oh fark you i would do ANYTHING for a wifei would adjust my entire lifestyle around her. what the fark Most people already have and visa-versa, most people want to hold on to one or two things they like to do alone to keep a sense of having something else in their lives. When there's nothing in your life you have that's yours that you are in control of it becomes more like a prison than a life. That could be those long runs, long books, or whatever else.Asking someone to give up something they like to do that is completely harmless is selfish and petty.
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