Uchiha_Cycliste: yeah, I considered my essay pretty well written, but my abysmal score reflected our *ah hem* differences in opinion. =/

In 7th grade I got a D on a "what I wanna be when i grow up" essay because "Cartoonist isn't a real career."  I'm not paraphrasing.   That was the only reason for the grade.

Steven Crowder is just a troll Fox gets to stand in when Dennis Miller is unavailable or they don't want to pay his fee. His goal is to agitate, not inform, educate or otherwise further the discussion of whatever topic his fishing with.

DNFTT

mainstreet62: The key to a good marriage is to provoke key arguments on your terms on stuff you have a strong opinion about. If you can steer her to the conclusion you wanted in the first place, and let her think she won, who REALLY won?

Look dumbfounded anytime your wife is yelling at you on her terms about anything else. She'll drop it quick. And just do whatever she tells you when she's angry. You're going to do it anyway.

Or you can get a boat and learn to fish.

PsiChick: I have to say, as someone who hears the female and male version of this all this time, yeah, I'm with this guy, STFU. If you marry a man-child\shrewish biatch,  go figure out a way to make it work or get a divorce, but don't clutter up girl\guy time with biatching about it. "Oh, yeah, last Tuesday I had to help my husband run the dishwasher, he just couldn't figure it out, ha ha!" "My wife's such a biatch, she's calling me every ten seconds to be sure I'm not cheating, ha ha!".

I mean, I'm sure this is funny to some people, but the rest of us are looking at you and idly considering introducing your head to a large blunt object to fix whatever obvious brain damage you had marrying such a nimrod in the first place.

I have a relative who lives to biatch about her spouse. I just don't engage anymore. Yeah, we know. He sucks. You hate him and it's plain as day you should leave but won't. There's really nothing for me to say here.

Donkey Hodie: In a couple of months I will celebrate my 20th wedding anniversary with my wife.


Good choice!  I tried celebrating an anniversary with somebody else's wife once.  Didn't work out so well.

megalynn44: I have a relative who lives to biatch about her spouse. I just don't engage anymore. Yeah, we know. He sucks. You hate him and it's plain as day you should leave but won't. There's really nothing for me to say here.

Start a dead pool with the rest of your friends.

Wendy's Chili: What's this guy's fixation with other guys doing squats?

Uchiha_Cycliste: NewportBarGuy: A man-child who says he needs a woman to be a better man.

There are some cases where this is true.
For instance the deal I have going with my girlfriend. Though we've only been dating since July, we've been best friends forever. And for at least the last ten years we have had a deal worked out where if she tells me to do something I do it, and if she tells me not to do something I don't. No arguing, no discussion.
When she says you need to go to the hospital right now, I skedaddle to the closest hospital. When she says, no! you can't climb on that! I don't. I seem to lack that little voice that says 'hey, maybe that's not a good idea' so she provides it for me =D

\been best friends for almost 25 years (since we were 6)
\\been pretty deeply in love for at least a couple of years before we started dating. ♥

Good for you, and much happiness.
/been married to my best friend for 23 years... Dated her for 9 years before that

supayoda: The two biggest arguments my husband and I have ever had in 10 years of marriage:

1. The Great Chicken Salad Sandwich Debate of 2007. This was a basic Arby's versus Chick-fil-A argument that turned into a shouting match.

2. The yelling match that started over which of us could hook up the television to the myriad of gaming consoles we have in our possession the fastest. After an hour of him fumbling with various cords, I did it in about two minutes. I still don't let him set up the electronic devices. Seriously, I recently shoved him out of my office chair after he attempted to learn Windows 8 and decided to instead go with Google for a solution to my problem.

I also yell at him from time to time when he gets my takeout order wrong.

Takeout the garbage? How can he go wrong?

/loves Chick-Fil-a. Too bad we have none up here in the Great Northwest.
//when I'm in need of a lube job there's a Popeye's down the road.

Smeggy Smurf: I used to be a pain in my wife's butt then I started using a better lube

vudukungfu: Carrot AND stick.
Cna't have one with out the other.


Two unrelated comments, yet somehow they go perfectly together.

hutchkc: As for the author, thanks for the advice and after giving it some thought I don't think your advice is helpful for a healthy long term relationship over the years. Being upset about something that bothers you and not getting it off your chest doesn't strike me as the best course of action.

Can you imagine being in a gym and saying to an acquaintance, "Man oh man, gotta go back home to the wife and pretend she knows how to cook, know what i mean?."  And some gladhanding meathead goes, "No, I don't know what you mean.  My marriage's perfect."  It's a weaponized form of self loathing.

eddiesocket: Why are people mad at this guy? Because he won't talk crap about his wife to strangers at the gym? What a monster.

Nobody's mad at the guy.  They're calling him out for being a glib asshole.  Nobody asked him to talk crap about his wife to strangers at the gym.  In fact, nobody asked him to talk to strangers at the gym in the first place.  Because of whatever personality disorder he has, he feels compelled to aim the only positive thing he imagines he has--a perfect marriage--at other men to make them feel more inferior than he does.  That's open hostility in its most banal form.

Koodz: Uchiha_Cycliste: mafiageek1980: Uchiha_Cycliste: NewportBarGuy: A man-child who says he needs a woman to be a better man.

There are some cases where this is true.
For instance the deal I have going with my girlfriend. Though we've only been dating since July, we've been best friends forever. And for at least the last ten years we have had a deal worked out where if she tells me to do something I do it, and if she tells me not to do something I don't. No arguing, no discussion.
When she says you need to go to the hospital right now, I skedaddle to the closest hospital. When she says, no! you can't climb on that! I don't. I seem to lack that little voice that says 'hey, maybe that's not a good idea' so she provides it for me =D

\been best friends for almost 25 years (since we were 6)
\\been pretty deeply in love for at least a couple of years before we started dating. ♥

damn, it's a bit dusty here in casa de la mafiageek all the sudden!

would the dustiness be mitigated with the unavoidable irritation from us acting like young high school sweet hearts? =P

Heh, I think it's funny that for years now we've talked about marriage and kids and stuff, mostly in general terms for all our conversations but (apparently) it was in the back of both our minds that these conversations would possibly/probably actually be bout us. Also, I know her well enough that on a little vacation we took a while ago I asked her, no that's not right, i stated, you don't want to take my name if we get married do you. Which she agreed. What was neat was that we both knew her answer but it took a long time for us to dig down into why she said no. Well, the obvious solution is that I'll take her name. All that's important to me is that were we to get married we have the same last name as a symbolic statement that we are starting a family together. I don't particularly care if we keep mine, or I have hers as long as ew share the same surname.  I know it ages down the road, but I can't wait to be m ...

Taking her name is expensive and difficult bro. Good luck.

But.... it's easier for me than her. She's a doc, got licenses and stuff, and I don't.it makes sense... also screw the patriarchy =D

technofiend: eddiesocket: I agree in general. I don't see what's wrong with what he said in this particular article, though.

1 - His tone.  He's lecturing and self-righteous.
2 - His woefully ignorant point of view. Conflict is a natural part of marriage, men discuss it sometimes flippantly.  To do so is not the downfall of marriage or Western civilization.
3 - His conclusion.  He actually demands his readers rethink how they address their respective wives, but only after an article filled with a semi-coherent rant full of his opinion and no facts.
I realize his screed passes for a PhD thesis on Fox News where denying science is considered rational, reasonable and patriotic, but for anyone who wants a citation more credible than this drooling, closet knob gobbler's opinion it just won't do.

That help you any?

And let's not forget that the gym story was probably fabricated in order to justify all of the above.  How many levels of pathetic is that?

semiotix: It's not the ladies sewing circle.  There's no chit chat in the men's locker room.  Shower and GTFO.

thamike:To be fair, if you're going to go penis-watching, it's basic etiquette to strike up a conversation.

Are you insane? That's precisely why we  don't strike up conversations. So we can have plausible deniability when we get caught peeking.

Maybe if you wanted to  be watched, you could be a little chatty. But not if you're watching. Jeez, it's n00bs like you, making everyone all suspicious and guarded, who make it tough for me to get my gym bag with the hidden camera positioned just right.

I scream in German while I bugeye everybody's junk.  Now who's the noob, creeper?

jdawg3k:
Um, who slaps another guy in the face?

Dead people and Kurt Russell.

kth: Uchiha_Cycliste: Mrbogey: Uchiha_Cycliste: We were discussing the NoFx song "Don't call me white" I interpret it as don't make assumptions based on race, she thinks they are avoiding and disregarding white privilege.

How that conversation doesn't end with the car swerving into the divider, I'll never know.

we were in bed drinking the morning coffee =D. I drove us to the airport 5 min later, then she drove to work and I went home =(.

That makes me smile so very very much. I love the random conversations that happen while snuggling.

My husband and I had a long conversation a few nights ago before we went to sleep about how if corporations are people too (my friend), then can they get married? And if so, how can we be sure of gender so they don't (gasp) get gay married?  And at what point is a subsidiary considered alive? Yeah, we're dorks.

Yeah, conversations like this are really fun. Also, I consider her to be smarter than me, which absolutely means the world to me. I've had roommates and neighbors before that ranged from not so sharp to honest to god dumb. Those conversations are either very restricted on what topics we can talk about and how much depth we caI had  n continue on with and sometimes it was very lonely... I had no one to really talk to. With her we can really talk about anything, work excepted because it requires such specific knowledge that isn't easy to abstract to discuss. She makes me think and listens and I make her think and listen the best I can, just often having things repeated because of my hearing. It just means so much to me that we can talk like that and that she contribute and understands and we compliment each other so well.

Just as importantly, we can sit there and say nothing and it never becomes uncomfortable. I had a roommate for a while that couldn't stand silence, it was almost bizarre but something had to be on: radio, tv, movie in the background, or HAD to be talking. For some reason silence wasn't okay, and I really appreciated with her and I we can have silence.