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(NBC News)   Study shows the best way to deal with jerks is to give them the silent treatment. Subby expects this thread to have no replies at all   ( divider line
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2013-02-28 06:24:21 AM  
3 votes:
Figured this out years ago.  Just turning around to stare someone in the eyes that is being a dick makes them feel really uncomfortable and they usually go be a dick elsewhere rather than continuing to annoy you.  Before trolling got popular on the internets, trolling existed in real life too, albeit with quite a bit less humor.  The best way to put an end to it was to not feed them.
2013-02-28 09:51:49 AM  
2 votes:
This is why retail and customer service jobs suck so much.

It's ironic because a lot of the time when Entitled Jerkwad is biatching about some worker who screws up something minor, that worker is often really making mistakes because of the stress and performance degradation caused by other jerks, or the jerk himself.
2013-02-28 06:28:46 AM  
2 votes:
Hence the Ignore list.
2013-02-28 10:43:31 AM  
1 vote:
So they're saying:
2013-02-28 08:33:08 AM  
1 vote:
The article only focused on people that have no prior relationship. It makes sense that that strategy would work. Neither would want to expend energy on someone who is not interested in wasting energy on you.

But if you have a prior relationship with someone I think it would be more helpful to point out the jerkiness.
For example, yesterday I made a comment to a coworker that was done without thought and we had recently had a conversation about how much he hates those types of comments. He responded in a way that let me know my comment was not appreciated, but in a lighthearted way. I feel like a jerk and will definitely apologize today.
Had he just given me the silent treatment I might not have known what I had said wrong and might not have had the chance to repair the relationship.
2013-02-28 07:43:24 AM  
1 vote:
This is the mantra of the Midwest. Passive aggressive, the lot of em!
2013-02-28 07:19:55 AM  
1 vote:
2013-02-28 07:18:10 AM  
1 vote:
Works with biatches, too. There is a woman at work who hates me because she wants to get close to my boss they way I am, but can't because well, he secretly doesn't like her. So she constantly tries to get under my skin and I've made a little game out of not responding in any form to her passive agressive crap. The more she does it, the more oblivious I get and the more hilarious it is. She is a sad, horrible woman.

/fellow female, of the non-biatchy variety
2013-02-28 07:08:20 AM  
1 vote:
I find this useful for dealing with bigots. They have an endless supply of rants and made up "facts" to use to argue with. But simply giving them a look of disapproval while refusing the engage them at all tends to make them wander off. If it happens to them enough, eventually they get the message that their views are self destructive or at least only going to get them the desired reaction when they go online.

There was something similar to the south during the early 1900s for dealing with the KKK called the Frown Campaign. Whenever someone would start taking about being a member of the klan, those around them would simply frown and not speak to them. Though it didn't end racism, it did make kKK membership socially isolating and the numbers rapidly declined.

Though unrelated to the silent treatment, Superman helped defeat the KKK too.  Seriously, the Superman radio show exposed and mocked many KKK so called secret rituals. It's kind of hard to get excited about dancing around in the middle of the woods in a robe when your kids entertainment is making fun of you. (CSB)
2013-02-28 06:26:09 AM  
1 vote:
Yeah, not so much.  I've had bullies follow me for miles.  And if I tried to ignore them, so much the better.  Scrawny geeks are sooo much easier to torment when they don't make any noise.
2013-02-28 06:25:25 AM  
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