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(Daily Mail)   Study reveals 1 in 12 parents will admit to having a child they love more than the rest, while 11 out of 12 parents lie through their teeth   (dailymail.co.uk) divider line 26
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2013-02-22 06:45:39 AM
11 votes:
"Love" more, no I don't think so. "Like" more, yes absolutely.
2013-02-22 04:44:25 PM
3 votes:
Man people are obsessed with quantifying love.  It doesn't really work that way, I think it's more binary.  I love my wife, I love both of my kids.  I don't have less love left for my wife now that I have kids to love, there isn't a finite amount.  I don't love my older kid less now that I have a younger one.
2013-02-22 07:26:55 AM
3 votes:
As the favored child out of 3 I feel I'm going to let you slighted others in on a little secret.

The reason your parents never loved you more was because you were a constant disappointment.
2013-02-22 10:38:50 AM
2 votes:

damageddude


Both of our children annoy us equally. Some days one annoys more than the other. There are also traits in each where we see ourselves or other family members that sometimes cause us to favor/understand one over the other. But we love them equally. It is hard to explain to non-parents.


Ah yes, the epic and mystical font of wisdom that is available only to parents. *eyeroll*

Here ya go:

Both of my parents annoy me equally. Some days one annoys more than the other. There are also traits in each where I see myself or other family members that sometimes cause me to favor/understand one over the other. But I love them equally.

There, easily explained in a manner that just about everyone can understand.
2013-02-22 08:02:47 AM
2 votes:
I like beer and I like pizza.  I like a cold beer after mowing the lawn and pizza makes a great meal after a long week and the two go together.  I have a son and a daughter, they go together but are different enough that you don't pick one over the other.
2013-02-22 07:36:11 AM
2 votes:
SquiggsIN:
I was the smart kid but, I didn't have children so that's a drawback to potential grandparents.

If one only has children b/c of potential grandchilden? That's doing it wrong.

My smarter one probably won't have children. She's full on Nerd Girl. She's good enough on her own. I don't require her to produce offspring for me to enjoy her company.
2013-02-22 07:19:34 AM
2 votes:
They ask which one I like more. I tell them I dislike them both equally.

/DA-AAAAAAD!
2013-02-22 06:28:29 PM
1 votes:

Blink: My daughter loves every moment of life.  Every new experience, both good and bad, is a treasured instance for her.  She literally hops with energy and excitement all the time.  She's bright and loves school.  Pretty much everyone she meets is smiling within 30 seconds of meeting her.  She trusts everyone she meets.

Her brother broods.  He's usually overly serious and cautious and it's difficult for him to not see the faults in almost everything he witnesses.  He and I understand the world in the exact same way.  We have the same interests and strategic minds.

I can honestly say I do not favor either one of them.   I would never choose to spend more time with one than the other one.  I don't punish either one of them more for misbehavior -- nor do I reward one more than the other.

I do admit that I worry about them.  I worry because I want my son to smile more and I want my daughter to be more cautious in the world.  But they are who they are, and I love them both equally.


you sound like a good parent.
2013-02-22 02:18:45 PM
1 votes:
I have two boys. One is much more difficult to deal with than the other, relatively speaking. The more difficult one causes me much more anxiety and stress. But let us not confuse strife and frustration with less love. I would do anything equally for them, including horrible death if needed, because I love them both dearly.
2013-02-22 01:25:26 PM
1 votes:
My daughter loves every moment of life.  Every new experience, both good and bad, is a treasured instance for her.  She literally hops with energy and excitement all the time.  She's bright and loves school.  Pretty much everyone she meets is smiling within 30 seconds of meeting her.  She trusts everyone she meets.

Her brother broods.  He's usually overly serious and cautious and it's difficult for him to not see the faults in almost everything he witnesses.  He and I understand the world in the exact same way.  We have the same interests and strategic minds.

I can honestly say I do not favor either one of them.   I would never choose to spend more time with one than the other one.  I don't punish either one of them more for misbehavior -- nor do I reward one more than the other.

I do admit that I worry about them.  I worry because I want my son to smile more and I want my daughter to be more cautious in the world.  But they are who they are, and I love them both equally.
2013-02-22 01:22:45 PM
1 votes:
My middle sister is mom's favorite. I'm not surprised, she did everything that mom approves of.

-found a rich guy to marry.
-goes to a Christian church despite not believing in most of their stuff or understanding the theology.
-likes reality TV and football.
-will probably give her grandchildren.

No thanks, I'd rather be awesome.
2013-02-22 11:27:15 AM
1 votes:
I hope they like my brother more, they should. I sure do.
2013-02-22 10:17:46 AM
1 votes:

Carousel Beast: Earpj: Carousel Beast:
What a colossally stupid statement; that's probably one of the dumbest things I've ever seen written on the Internet. Congratulations.

Thanks.

Anytime. It's always interesting to see a superlative in action, whether on the good or bad side.

That was seriously dumb, though. It had to be one of those off-the-cuff comments on something you've never thought about before, or one of the most carefully considered trolling comments of all time.

The entire point of any species is propogation. The only reason to have kids is to subsequently have grandchildren; anything else is superfluous.


Wrong. There are other reasons. Someone has to wipe your ass when you're too old.
2013-02-22 09:48:27 AM
1 votes:
Overheard my mom talking to someone before I was a teen, she had returned to college and a class was discussing this, and she was telling a friend that one brother was her favorite, another was my dad's. This really hurt my feelings, but hardly ruined my childhood or anything.

OTOH, I was acknowledged constantly by my grandfather as his favorite (and I wasn't even his first granddaughter). We were very close, and had an awesome relationship. It wasn't until I was an adult, I realized how much this sucked for others. He offered me his car when I got my license, my mom told him no, then had to explain to me why I couldn't accept it (he didn't do this for my cousins, so it wasn't fair). I totally agreed but I think that's when I started to realize that it had and could have a negative impact on others.

It was one of those things though when I was born we were just special buddies. When he developed dementia and would tell the same stories over and over, I was the only one who never got bored. I could spend unlimited time with him and just be happy.

I'll miss him the rest of my life. And while yes, it was unfair to my cousins (and it even hurt my mom that I was his favorite) being loved like that by someone made a huge positive impact on my life. I didn't have the best relationship with my parents while I was growing up, so it gave me the sure knowledge that someone loved me no matter what, and someone would be there for me...no matter what.
2013-02-22 09:02:18 AM
1 votes:

The Evil That Lies In The Hearts Of Men: The weird thing is often which kid the parents end up favoring. It seems that when faced with a kid who is smart, hard working, on the school sports teams and stays out of trouble and their lazy sibling who has shiat for brains and is always getting into trouble an inordinate number of parents pick the lil' bastard and then go out of their way to make things harder on the good kid.

Even years later when the favored kid has grown up and is an unemployed drunk living in their basement.

I don't get it.


Yep. My lazy, histronic, methhead brother is the only one my mom calls if she needs anything, or with family news. Even though he usually just calls me to handle it for him, or to report what she said to me. In a drugged-up rage last year, he called me up, screaming incoherently about how he hated me and he was going to call CPS and get my kid taken away (weird, we're all doing great and I have no idea why he would threaten to try to have his nephew removed from a loving, happy home). Said he would call both of our offices and claim that we were drug dealers o get us fired. I told my mother what was happening, and all she would say was that "he didn't mean it". She thought I was being too hard on him, when I told her that I didn't care if he meant it or not, to threaten my kid was over the line. I told her fine, she could keep him...it's been almost 8 months since she spoke to me.

Yesterday was her birthday actually, and I didn't call. I feel like shiat, but I don't buy that "buuuut they're family" shiat. I expect better from blood...I cut them off specifically because they were family, and they still decided to behave that way.
2013-02-22 08:58:19 AM
1 votes:
My oldest brother, as the First Born Male, was automatically the Number One Son (no kiddding - they called him that openly) and therefore the favorite. He was the main focus of the attention and resources. His sports, activities, and camps came first. He was NOT an easy kid, either. My youngest brother (large age gap) is disabled and therefore needed a ton of attention, although he was very difficult (not his fault, circumstances) I was the middle child, the only girl, and very easygoing. And therefore, often overlooked. I always knew I came in second (and then third). If there was a fundraiser at our school, they would blatantly give him the largest order, and give me a small token order just so I'd have something to turn in. If we both played a sport, his games, practices, etc were the priority. I always felt like an afterthought.

Because of this, I am always really careful to make sure to spread the attention and resources evenly between my two. I am obsessive that Christmas  and birthday presents are dead equal. They both get the same number of camps and activities, etc. Fortuately, there is enough of an age gap between them that they are in completely different life stages, and need different things from me. And since one was school aged before the second made the scene, they both got my full (or nearly full) focus as babies.

If we are being honest about a favorite... it changes. One was definitely an easier baby and toddler. But the other one was a lot of fun during the single digit school years. I have more in common with one of them, but tend to do more with the other one, as the one I have more in common with is fiercely independent.

Meh, I could go crazy worrying about it, so I'm not going to. I'm sure I'm raising them both to be reasonably normal, functional adults, and I'm sure I'm still giving them enough material to biatch about their childhoods in anonymous internet forums of the future.
2013-02-22 08:55:29 AM
1 votes:
My four year old daughter watches all the Marvel and DC cartoons and movies with me because she loves superheroes. She also likes Star Wars. My 1 year old daughter comes running when she hears the DS9 theme and watches it with me. How the hell am I supposed to pick a favorite?
2013-02-22 08:52:43 AM
1 votes:

Lipspinach: My parents favoured my older brother and now
I am a 50 year old, unemployed alcoholic mess.

My girlfriend is a hell of a lot hotter than his wife though.
Although his wife is an heir to a fortune.

He wins I guess.

My parents sucked.


Dear God, Man.  You're 50.  Take responsibility for the outcome of your own life.  Your mommy & daddy didn't make you an alcoholic mess, and it's not on them to fix it.  You worked hard to create your crap life yourself.
2013-02-22 08:38:03 AM
1 votes:
I can honestly say I dislike all my children equally.
2013-02-22 08:07:58 AM
1 votes:
i367.photobucket.com
2013-02-22 08:07:40 AM
1 votes:
I have a few nieces (no kids) but I can say I luv them all absolutely ... BUT at this mo I definitely prefer to spend time with any but the oldest.

This will change ... the eldest is going through certain growing pains which thankfully (as an uncle) I do not have to get fully involved with.
2013-02-22 08:05:18 AM
1 votes:
It varies. Which one just woke me up at 3am?
2013-02-22 08:02:36 AM
1 votes:

Yeeeeah, my mother never made a secret of how much of a disappointment I was to her and how much she favored my sister over me.  She and my sister would go drink wine and go to country music concerts and get makeovers together, whereas I had no interest in that stuff and spent my time reading science books and working on the computer.

It was her constant disappointment that encouraged me to actively seek a better career so that I could get out of her house and sustain myself without relying on her for anything anymore.

I'm now a successful engineer, and now that I'm gone she's suddenly realized how much she relied on her "failure" kid to do all the mundane home upkeep that she couldn't be assed to do herself.  She still calls me occasionally to come use my "engineer-y" skills to change a lightbulb for her.

/"failure" meaning I wasted money on college getting a BS rather than an MRS.

2013-02-22 07:41:01 AM
1 votes:
I don't love one kid more than the other, but I do have more in common with my son. My daughter is all frilly and pink and obsessed with dolls and hair and pretty things. The child practically bleeds glitter. My son is my little scientist, he loves math and computers and reading. The biggest treat I can give him is to bring him to my university classes where he looks at my profs the way some kids do their sports heroes. Neither is my favourite, but I definitely find it easier to connect with my son and have to put in a lot of effort to share interests with my daughter.
2013-02-22 07:15:13 AM
1 votes:
Done in one.
2013-02-22 07:06:11 AM
1 votes:
cats are so much easier to keep track of.
 
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