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2013-02-05 03:35:33 PM
7 votes:
Many men will pay a lot of money for an evening of "You're so handsome.  Do you want to put it in my ass or my mouth?" vs. "Did you take the trash out?  My back hurts, I need to lay down.  Not tonight, Idol is on!!!"
2013-02-05 04:07:49 PM
5 votes:
Obviously some people didn't RTFA. She specializes in overnights  - usually that's a 12 hour date. She's also highly selective, as the article quotes her as saying that she's rarely with more than four clients a week and there were entire months where she didn't work, if she couldn't find the right client. Obviously she's working up-market - this isn't an $80 half and half ho regardless of her looks.

In most major cities, your standard escort rates are about $200/hr, $300 for higher end, and even higher in NYC and LA. $2000 for an overnight is pretty average. If she's working in London, $2500-3000 for an overnight working foreign tourists and businessmen isn't unusual.

Frankly her looks are almost irrelevant. If you're with an escort for an overnight, you're not really paying for sex, since you're spending only a small fraction of the time actually having sex. If she's got half a head on her shoulders, can engage in good conversation across a broad range of topics and fit into a myriad of different social situations, she'll have no problem attracting older, wealthier clients. Even if you don't think she's very attractive, she still more attractive than their wives, and sleeping with an escort is still cheaper than good cosmetic surgery.
2013-02-05 03:31:03 PM
5 votes:

Nadie_AZ: "Don't touch me" and "I'm not in the mood" and "Not now" only work so long until the guy starts thinking about things.


I think marriage should be more of a "right of first refusal" arrangement. If a few weeks or even months go by without sex, and it's always because of one party's refusal to participate, any expectations of fidelity should be discarded and infidelity ruled out as grounds for divorce.

Alternately, marriage should be avoided altogether if one enjoys and expects a passionate sex life. For the single, the wet spells will more than make up for the dry spells. Nothing sucks worse than sleeping with a beautiful woman every night who wants very little to do with you physically.
2013-02-05 02:53:52 PM
5 votes:
'If your man is not asking you for sex anymore, it means he's seeking it elsewhere. He's not going to accept being in a marriage without sex,' says ex-prostitute Rebecca Dakin, 37.

Truer words have never been spoken.

/ well...that, or he's about to eat a bullet. Those are the only two possibilities.
2013-02-05 03:26:23 PM
4 votes:

slayer199: sammyk: I call BS. No way that girl is banking that much per john.

There's no way she was ever getting that much, but there are women that do.  Hell porn stars escorts wouldn't have gotten that much 20 years ago.


I've always figured at that level of high class prostitute things become a little less about having perfect looks than some networking and confirmation that one is just that good.

The best sex of my life wasn't with the prettiest girl I've dated.

Definitely seems high for a one-time act.  But indulging a fetish over a day? Possible.
2013-02-05 03:07:10 PM
4 votes:
Rebecca says that men cheat for myriad reasons. 'Some guys are just cheats,' she says.

'Some are not confident about communicating with their other half. They think that if they tell her they want more sex, she'll be upset.


"Don't touch me" and "I'm not in the mood" and "Not now" only work so long until the guy starts thinking about things.
2013-02-05 05:58:11 PM
3 votes:
For the Farkers who are having little to no sex life:

Over the course of this month...

Try massage with no expectation of sex on your wife/gf. Use candles that smell kinda sexy to add atmosphere in a dimly lit or darkened room. Use grape seed or sesame oil to lubricate. Tell her how much you really appreciate her, love her and what she means to you. Complement her and build her up. Buy her a small gift because just because. Watch how she responds to massage. Touch her and hold her more frequently. Kiss her on her neck from behind and on her shoulders. No sex unless she starts it.

Draw her a bubble bath and offer a glass of wine when she is relaxing in the bath.

Cuddle together.

Ask her how she feels about the relationship and ask her how she feels about you. Open ended questions. Go for honesty not feel good answers. If it is not good, consider your answer a gift and thank her for the love and happiness she has given you and move on. You deserve to be happy and loved.

If she loves you and wants a relationship, invest in it.

If she wants a relationship and no sex, I would be honest with her and move on. You are mismatched.
2013-02-05 03:41:27 PM
3 votes:
1.  Stop having sex
2.  Catch him cheating
3.  "Now I'm free to finally have affairs with other men like I always wanted to"
4.  "... but first I have to get my husband away from that whore because he's MINE"
5.  Now everything is kind of good again
6.  Go back to step 1

For men, replace step 1 with "be such a boor she can't stand to have sex with me."

Lather, rinse, repeat

When a relationship doesn't work out, why can't people just break up or get divorced instead of inventing ways to make it worse?
2013-02-05 03:33:24 PM
3 votes:

sammyk: Rapmaster2000: sammyk: FTFA:Could earn £1,400 for one session.

I call BS. No way that girl is banking that much per john.

"Session" is a very nebulous term.  You're thinking 30 minutes of farking.  She may be referencing one of those quasi-mistress weekend things.

At today's conversion rate £1,400 is $2193.94. A perfect 10 Vegas whore doesn't make that much for a whole night. The girl in the article got hit with the ugly stick a few too many times to even come close to that.

And what kind of scumbag publication glamorizes prostitution? Seriously? I think it should be legal but glamorizing it is pretty farked up.



You seem really emotionally invested in this whole thing.

I can make $2500 by rolling out an unremarkable, cookie-cutter website in a single evening. Even though it only happened once and I wish I could do it again.

Her 70-year old, business-owning client probably was willing to pay well for a woman who knew what he liked, and wouldn't get him arrested.
2013-02-05 07:41:44 PM
2 votes:

Buffet: 300 men? Can you imagine how worn out that thing is?? She couldn't pay me to Fark her!


And can you imagine a dude's dick after 300 farks?  That thing's probably a wobbly, flaccid inch worm after that many lays.
2013-02-05 04:41:49 PM
2 votes:

Ahkam: My ex-wife turned off completely a little over two years before she finally told me she wanted a divorce. No sex at all during that period, but I stupidly stayed because I thought we could somehow work it out. After I moved out, I found out she'd been screwing another guy for months - a guy she brought around all the time as a "friend." I frequently considered going to pro route, but I'm glad I didn't. I have a gf now with whom I have a fantastic sex life.

/the ex may rot in hell


Anyime your wife or gf has a "friend" she brings around a lot, she is definitely farking him...  and, she's waiting for you to accuse her of it to give her a valid excuse to leave, and when she ends up with him, you get blamed for "pushing them together"...
2013-02-05 03:42:19 PM
2 votes:

H31N0US: Nadie_AZ: "Don't touch me" and "I'm not in the mood" and "Not now" only work so long until the guy starts thinking about things.

I think marriage should be more of a "right of first refusal" arrangement. If a few weeks or even months go by without sex, and it's always because of one party's refusal to participate, any expectations of fidelity should be discarded and infidelity ruled out as grounds for divorce.

Alternately, marriage should be avoided altogether if one enjoys and expects a passionate sex life. For the single, the wet spells will more than make up for the dry spells. Nothing sucks worse than sleeping with a beautiful woman every night who wants very little to do with you physically.


open marriages ftw
2013-02-05 03:37:24 PM
2 votes:

over_and_done: whistleridge: 'If your man is not asking you for sex anymore, it means he's seeking it elsewhere. He's not going to accept being in a marriage without sex,' says ex-prostitute Rebecca Dakin, 37.

Truer words have never been spoken.

/ well...that, or he's about to eat a bullet. Those are the only two possibilities.

Pretty much.  My gf has completely lost interest in sex.  (I could almost suspect her of being the one cheating, except she's either home with me or at work almost every day, and "at work" doesn't let either one of us take much random time off.)  My pr0n habit has definitely kicked back up.  :-\   I'm not sure what she thinks I'm doing.

/not eating any bullets
//unless medical problems get the best of us, then it's just not worth it


Even though your porn watching went up after her libido went down, she will use that to justify why it went down in the first place.  Porn is always retroactive.  =)
2013-02-05 03:20:55 PM
2 votes:

Rapmaster2000: sammyk: FTFA:Could earn £1,400 for one session.

I call BS. No way that girl is banking that much per john.

"Session" is a very nebulous term.  You're thinking 30 minutes of farking.  She may be referencing one of those quasi-mistress weekend things.


At today's conversion rate £1,400 is $2193.94. A perfect 10 Vegas whore doesn't make that much for a whole night. The girl in the article got hit with the ugly stick a few too many times to even come close to that.

And what kind of scumbag publication glamorizes prostitution? Seriously? I think it should be legal but glamorizing it is pretty farked up.
2013-02-05 03:20:48 PM
2 votes:

Rapmaster2000: "Session" is a very nebulous term. You're thinking 30 minutes of farking. She may be referencing one of those quasi-mistress weekend things.


If it was an overnight, that seems plausible.
2013-02-05 03:01:01 PM
2 votes:
FTFA:Could earn £1,400 for one session.

I call BS. No way that girl is banking that much per john.
2013-02-06 07:27:06 AM
1 votes:
FTA (more of a caption, really): 'Cheating is not black and white.

Nothing ever is.  Except maybe penguins.  Next softball.

FTA: There are some circumstances where people don't have any other options'

Bullshiat.

Honesty is always an option. Ending the relationship- before you do something to violate trust with the other person.  Just because there's no nookie in it for you anymore doesn't preclude showing just a tiny, little bit of that respect you purported to have when you became committed to that individual.  Or did you never have any at all?

Despite what people say not having sex anymore is always an option.  It's just a shiatty one.  If it's too shiatty for you to endure, see option #1.


This woman is an infidelity expert, eh?  She counsels married couples.  That's distressing.  Shouldn't have quit her day job, clearly.
2013-02-05 07:48:58 PM
1 votes:

Buffet: 300 men? Can you imagine how worn out that thing is?? She couldn't pay me to Fark her!


I don't think that's how it works anyway...
2013-02-05 06:32:59 PM
1 votes:
So many youngsters in here.  You can have sex without love, and love without sex.  Medical conditions and/or treatments can often prevent sex, both long term and short term.   If you cannot see past a simple case of blue balls to understand, then you are a child, or you were never in love with your mate.  If you cheated for that, you are deplorable.

On the other hand, for a single man out on a successful night (5-6 figures) in the casino, arrangements can easily be made through your host for a companion.  Hours, days, whatever.  Expect $2k-$10k a day if you are actually a high roller.  If you are not a high roller, you will never know about it.  She won't be your corner meth-addicted skank, but instead a very well-spoken, well educated woman of class, who just so happens to look like a model and she is interested in you, so long as you are paying.  She will never raise an eyebrow from security or from other gamblers.  Obvious hookers are obvious, and that is why they are cheap.   I've never paid, but I've been a bartender for many years before moving to the kitchen, and later moving up to chef.  I've known more than a few, and if you didn't know, you would never guess.  Except when their date asks their favorite restaurant, they often actually choose their favorite.   I decided that I couldn't fake it for money after many years of bartending; fake smiles around obnoxious drunks isn't fun.  Great money, but everyone who sells their services is a whore, whether you do sales or IT, or whatever.  I at least don't have to fake smile any more.
2013-02-05 06:14:57 PM
1 votes:
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2013-02-05 05:35:36 PM
1 votes:

Lexx: H31N0US: Nadie_AZ: ...

Alternately, marriage should be avoided altogether if one enjoys and expects a passionate sex life.  Nothing sucks worse than sleeping with a beautiful woman every night who wants very little to do with you physically.

Open marriages?



DING, DING, DING! Winner, winner, chicken dinner! We're not in an "open" marraige (i.e. we only sleep with other women/couples when we're together).  Always safe sex, always same room, usually same bed [unless we're trying some seriously acrobatic stuff].  We have been married 14 years, and the sex together is awesome...sex with 4 or more is also awesome as a supplement to our marital relations.

For those of you in sexless marriages, I feel sorry for you...but don't believe everything that you read about marraige=no sex.  My hubby and I would beg to differ.
2013-02-05 05:25:01 PM
1 votes:
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2013-02-05 05:17:06 PM
1 votes:

Pennsylvania Dutch Oven: Obviously some people didn't RTFA. She specializes in overnights  - usually that's a 12 hour date. She's also highly selective, as the article quotes her as saying that she's rarely with more than four clients a week and there were entire months where she didn't work, if she couldn't find the right client. Obviously she's working up-market - this isn't an $80 half and half ho regardless of her looks.

In most major cities, your standard escort rates are about $200/hr, $300 for higher end, and even higher in NYC and LA. $2000 for an overnight is pretty average. If she's working in London, $2500-3000 for an overnight working foreign tourists and businessmen isn't unusual.

Frankly her looks are almost irrelevant. If you're with an escort for an overnight, you're not really paying for sex, since you're spending only a small fraction of the time actually having sex. If she's got half a head on her shoulders, can engage in good conversation across a broad range of topics and fit into a myriad of different social situations, she'll have no problem attracting older, wealthier clients. Even if you don't think she's very attractive, she still more attractive than their wives, and sleeping with an escort is still cheaper than good cosmetic surgery.


So much this.  When guys are getting to this level of escort they aren't just paying for looks and talent in the sack.  They want a woman who can make them feel like a man, feel like the king of the world and make them feel like they are not just another client.  Factor in reasonable looks, discretion and talent and they can quite comfortably pull $300 per hour or more.

Cheaper escorts lack discretion, decorum and charm and for a guy who is raking in big money, getting a girl like that will only serve to irritate him.
2013-02-05 05:10:03 PM
1 votes:

que.guero: Men cheat because their wives / girlfriends stop putting out

Wives / girlfriends stop putting out because men stop being interesting.


If cheating = "being interesting" (which it frequently does) then the problem is solved!
2013-02-05 05:07:15 PM
1 votes:

Theaetetus: whistleridge: 'If your man is not asking you for sex anymore, it means he's seeking it elsewhere. He's not going to accept being in a marriage without sex,' says ex-prostitute Rebecca Dakin, 37.

Truer words have never been spoken.

/ well...that, or he's about to eat a bullet. Those are the only two possibilities.

Not so, and in fact, that's a common sentiment that discourages asexual men from being open about their lack of libido. Apparently it's pretty rare, between 1-10%, but not 0 as you suggest.


And these rare assexuals get married how often?
2013-02-05 04:59:09 PM
1 votes:

Banned on the Run: I'd wager that 90% of the time, cheating is a symptom of the problem, not the primary problem.

/happily married people don't cheat


unless that's why they are happily married...
2013-02-05 04:55:23 PM
1 votes:
I'd wager that 90% of the time, cheating is a symptom of the problem, not the primary problem.

/happily married people don't cheat
2013-02-05 04:43:13 PM
1 votes:
Geez Ahkam...were you married to my -ex?!
2013-02-05 04:38:22 PM
1 votes:

The Stealth Hippopotamus: pute kisses like a man: i know nothing about the sex trade, but i would like to assume that a big price tag ensures some degree security. like some protection from disease and some assurances of privacy...

but, then again, i have always assumed that their are no guaranties or protections in the more illicit businesses, for which reason I tend to stay away.


Do you get assurances that you wont get food poisoning at a restaurant? But you still put your face in there anyway....

I think I'm cooking at home tonight...


i have recourse against the restaurant.  legal recourse.  it's an indirect form of assurance, but some degree of assurance nonetheless.

there is no legal recourse against an unlawful trade.  and, usually, they people providing the service are more prepared to deal with unlawful recourse.
2013-02-05 04:32:47 PM
1 votes:
Men cheat because their wives / girlfriends stop putting out

Wives / girlfriends stop putting out because men stop being interesting.
2013-02-05 04:30:08 PM
1 votes:

The Stealth Hippopotamus: Do you get assurances that you wont get food poisoning at a restaurant? But you still put your face in there anyway....


You get much more than if you're eating at my house.  Restaurants have strict rules on food storage and holding temperatures for the very purpose of limiting food borne illness.  I have no such regulations in my home.  If I want to store my veggies and my raw chicken in the bottom drawer, I am allowed.  A restaurant does this, they get shut down.
2013-02-05 04:00:46 PM
1 votes:

damageddude: That happened to us. My wife was diagnosed with breast cancer in May and finally ended her chemotherapy/ radiation treatments yesterday. Once chemo started sex pretty much stopped. It started up again after about 8 weeks when she switched to the less painful medicine but almost stopped completely again once she started radiation (the machine basically cooks you and she is in way too much constant pain now). The other night she was saying she was sorry about the lack of sex but I discovered that once I realized we couldn't have sex my libido pretty much faded out. What I really miss is sleeping with her -- the last few weeks the only way she can get a decent night's rest is to take our feather filled down comforter, fold it over, and sleep on top of it on the couch.


Wow.  Sucks bad, man.  I hope everything turns out OK.  I'll bet she'd love it if you slept on the floor next to the couch.  Well, if she's anything like my wife, anyway... that seems like the sort of thing that would get a heartfelt "awwww" from her.
2013-02-05 03:56:48 PM
1 votes:

over_and_done: unless medical problems get the best of us


That happened to us. My wife was diagnosed with breast cancer in May and finally ended her chemotherapy/ radiation treatments yesterday. Once chemo started sex pretty much stopped. It started up again after about 8 weeks when she switched to the less painful medicine but almost stopped completely again once she started radiation (the machine basically cooks you and she is in way too much constant pain now). The other night she was saying she was sorry about the lack of sex but I discovered that once I realized we couldn't have sex my libido pretty much faded out. What I really miss is sleeping with her -- the last few weeks the only way she can get a decent night's rest is to take our feather filled down comforter, fold it over, and sleep on top of it on the couch.
2013-02-05 03:48:49 PM
1 votes:

wild9: Virtue: "Pretty much.  My gf has completely lost interest in sex."

Happened to me....I told her I was not getting enough.....she made no effort....Now I have a new GF that DOES have an interest in sex.

My GF is 30 and her sex drive is through the roof. I mean, even when her monthly visitor comes, I still get a handjob or beej. I get more sex now than I did in College.


It's true - his GF is insatiable.
2013-02-05 03:47:07 PM
1 votes:

stonicus: over_and_done: whistleridge: 'If your man is not asking you for sex anymore, it means he's seeking it elsewhere. He's not going to accept being in a marriage without sex,' says ex-prostitute Rebecca Dakin, 37.

Truer words have never been spoken.

/ well...that, or he's about to eat a bullet. Those are the only two possibilities.

Pretty much.  My gf has completely lost interest in sex.  (I could almost suspect her of being the one cheating, except she's either home with me or at work almost every day, and "at work" doesn't let either one of us take much random time off.)  My pr0n habit has definitely kicked back up.  :-\   I'm not sure what she thinks I'm doing.

/not eating any bullets
//unless medical problems get the best of us, then it's just not worth it

Even though your porn watching went up after her libido went down, she will use that to justify why it went down in the first place.  Porn is always retroactive.  =)


heheheheheh, truth!

In our case, it was apparently the birth control med she was taking.  Completely killed her mood.  I kinda figured we'd be looking for some other method once that was determined, but nope.  Apparently stabilizing mood swings also plays a part (sort of an anti-PMS-psycho thing) in the same medication, and that's worth it.  I have to admit, 100% neutralization of libido is a helluva birth control.

She stopped taking the birth control a year or so back, since "we didn't need it".  Still no interest in sex.

Ah well.  My brother's marriage ended kind of like this, maybe it runs in the family.
2013-02-05 03:41:09 PM
1 votes:
She's too British looking in the face to be worth that much
2013-02-05 03:38:01 PM
1 votes:
"Pretty much.  My gf has completely lost interest in sex."

Happened to me....I told her I was not getting enough.....she made no effort....Now I have a new GF that DOES have an interest in sex.
2013-02-05 03:37:25 PM
1 votes:

Rapmaster2000: Dr Dreidel: sammyk: At today's conversion rate £1,400 is $2193.94. A perfect 10 Vegas whore doesn't make that much for a whole night. The girl in the article got hit with the ugly stick a few too many times to even come close to that.

Didn't Eliot Spitzer's gal make something like that for a single "session" with him, or am I thinking of his total contribution to her college fund?

A quick googles repeatedly brings up $1,000 per hour and $4,300 per hour.  I imagine there's quite a bit of bullshiat in that (price is a marketing indicator of quality), and that a cut goes to the service.

 
If you take all the payments you make every year for mortgage, cars, food, entertainment, cell phones and on and on, divide that by the number of times your'e getting it, and I'll bet it's close to that.
2013-02-05 03:37:06 PM
1 votes:

Rapmaster2000: sammyk: FTFA:Could earn £1,400 for one session.

I call BS. No way that girl is banking that much per john.

"Session" is a very nebulous term.  You're thinking 30 minutes of farking.  She may be referencing one of those quasi-mistress weekend things.


FTA:Rebecca's mum dropped her at the bus stop the day she went to see her first client, an accountant in Liverpool. While she barely had the money for a bus fare on the way to her date, on the way back Rebecca was £1,400 richer.

There isn't a whore in the world who gets better than 2 grand USD on the first trick.
OK, maybe she was a virgin and got a special rate for the fetish factor - but definitely not on the second date.
2013-02-05 03:33:08 PM
1 votes:
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2013-02-05 03:32:58 PM
1 votes:

whistleridge: 'If your man is not asking you for sex anymore, it means he's seeking it elsewhere. He's not going to accept being in a marriage without sex,' says ex-prostitute Rebecca Dakin, 37.

Truer words have never been spoken.

/ well...that, or he's about to eat a bullet. Those are the only two possibilities.


Not so, and in fact, that's a common sentiment that discourages asexual men from being open about their lack of libido. Apparently it's pretty rare, between 1-10%, but not 0 as you suggest.
2013-02-05 03:32:20 PM
1 votes:
I'd pay...oh, how much is a nice dinner?...to bang her.

That's it.
2013-02-05 03:30:16 PM
1 votes:

Dr Dreidel: sammyk: At today's conversion rate £1,400 is $2193.94. A perfect 10 Vegas whore doesn't make that much for a whole night. The girl in the article got hit with the ugly stick a few too many times to even come close to that.

Didn't Eliot Spitzer's gal make something like that for a single "session" with him, or am I thinking of his total contribution to her college fund?


I believe it was $5000.
2013-02-05 03:09:50 PM
1 votes:

sammyk: FTFA:Could earn £1,400 for one session.

I call BS. No way that girl is banking that much per john.


"Session" is a very nebulous term.  You're thinking 30 minutes of farking.  She may be referencing one of those quasi-mistress weekend things.
 
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