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2013-02-01 11:12:31 AM  
9 votes:
At least she's telling the guy the truth before marriage, instead of letting him find out afterward.

/still bitter
2013-02-01 11:02:58 AM  
6 votes:
Since her article for the Mail, Lisa said she's had really positive response from AVEN [the Asexual Visibility and Education Network].

There, you found the right folks.  Now run from the media and their infantile, exploitative perspective on sex and never look back.
2013-02-01 02:38:51 PM  
4 votes:

aerojockey: Erix: Is that what I was doing? I didn't know that sexuality is such a taboo subject. Apparently we must accept and understand, but are not allowed to discuss or question to get there.

I'm not sure where you're getting the idea that I was suggesting asexuality is a taboo topic.  I piled on you because you asked a loaded question.

If you were really just seeking information, then I hope the answer I gave you (asexual refers to desire for sex only, it doesn't encompass other aspects like attraction and relationships) satisfied your curiosity.


No you called him called him a bigot right off the bat.  He asked a legitimate question in a neutral tone.  "If one is truly asexual, why does the sex of a partner matter?"  You took offense to that. You know why it's legitimate?  Because she cares about sex, but will refuse to have sex.  And that is genuinely odd. It isn't narrow minded to think it is odd.  And it isn't bigoted to want to know more of the how does that work.
2013-02-01 02:12:05 PM  
4 votes:

aerojockey: Erix: No one said it wasn't allowed, settle down. I just want to understand what a gender preference is based on if she's truly asexual.

You're taking a label too seriously.  "Asexual" is just a word.  People are what they are, and there are not enough words to describe every combination.

Your question is as bigoted as asking a gay person a question like this: "If you're truly a homosexual, why do you choose men who dress like women? If you like how women look, why aren't you just straight?"


I think the word you're looking for is ignorant. There isn't any malice or indignation in asking a genuine question.
2013-02-01 01:19:49 PM  
4 votes:
I don't get it.  Why is it such a problem to meet your partner's needs?  Why does that have to be compromising yourself?  So what if you don't get off while having sex with your SO?  That doesn't mean you're compromising your principles.  It means that you're meeting his needs, and in exchange, he is probably having sex a lot less than he would otherwise want.  My wife and I have both done things on nights where we weren't otherwise in the mood because we wanted to make the other one happy.  Neither of us feel like we were compromising our principles in doing so.  Call it a form of "stress-relief" or a "tension breaker" if it makes you feel better, but to be so selfish pretty much guarantees that she's never going to find anyone.
2013-02-01 11:10:11 AM  
4 votes:
Why look for a man in the first place if she is truly asexual?

//  She never expressed any reason or desire to associate with any human, much less a man.
2013-02-01 03:03:10 PM  
3 votes:

aerojockey: aerojockey: lockers: No you called him called him a bigot right off the bat. He asked a legitimate question in a neutral tone.

I didn't; it took a couple exchanges before I came out with "bigoted").  And that question was loaded.  Maybe he didn't intend it to be loaded but that's how it came out.  Even your polite rephrasing of it is still a bit suggestive.

Ok, I just realized it wasn <b>Erix</b> that asked the original loaded question that I took issue with.  So I was actually piliing on <b>Erix</b> because he took issue with me taking issue with someone who asked a loaded question that he said wasn't loaded.  My bad.


I think you WANT it to be a loaded question. I would be genuinely curious to ask this woman, "are you certain you want to live with a male and not a female, and if so what drives that?" She could say mild non-sexual attraction, societal norms, legal ease or whatever else and that's all fine, I'm just curious what she would say.

At no point is there an attempt to stop her or convince her she is wrong or anything. There is no loaded followup BUT I'm waiting to slam them with. It's just a question. If an asexual/gay person asked me what it's like to have sex with a woman I wouldn't fly off the handle. It's like you expect someone who maybe hasn't met someone of this inclination to magically understand their entire mentality and not have any curious questions. You have to learn something somewhere, before you can know it.

If I met someone who said they would only shake hands with their left hand, I would ask them why. Questions don't automatically mean you disagree with the premise.

/ not original poster, so lower your weapons
2013-02-01 02:23:07 PM  
3 votes:

aerojockey: You know, it's not bigotry that's bothering me here (if the bigotry is minor things like insensitive or careless questions). That happens, we all do it here and there, most people can deal with it. The thing that rankles me is the hypocrisy. People sit smugly on their swivel chairs thinking how wonderfully open-minded they are because they accept LGBT relationships in all their variations, but some other kind of sexuality pops up and they show the narrow-minded insensitivity that the anti-gay crowd exhibits. They're not open-minded at all, they're as closed-minded to new possibilities as ever. All they've done by accepting gays it to accommodate a few more variations in their "acceptable" category.



Really?  I thought it wast more like:
"Here's a sexuality you may not have encountered much before."
"Oh, really? How's that work?"
"Ignorant bigot!  How dare you question?"
2013-02-01 01:59:06 PM  
3 votes:

Erix: aerojockey: Erix: No one said it wasn't allowed, settle down. I just want to understand what a gender preference is based on if she's truly asexual.

You're taking a label too seriously.  "Asexual" is just a word.  People are what they are, and there are not enough words to describe every combination.

Your question is as bigoted as asking a gay person a question like this: "If you're truly a homosexual, why do you choose men who dress like women? If you like how women look, why aren't you just straight?"

Gotcha.  Any attempt at understanding through discourse is a display of bigoted thinking.  Thanks for your assistance.


aerojockey's just pissed because no one wants to have sex with him, so he's forced into asexuality.

Seriously, though, you might not get an answer to your question unless you ask the lass in the article.  She says she likes kissing and cuddling, just not the sex act itself.  Thus, she's got some sort of affinity for the opposite sex.  It can be based on whatever "normal" attraction is based on, and that part of her brain that links attraction to sexual desire is just wired differently.
2013-02-01 01:32:06 PM  
3 votes:
I am looking for a financially-stable woman who will accept my desire to lay around the house and live off her paycheck , but do I get any sympathy?
2013-02-01 12:46:00 PM  
3 votes:
Why is it that women have a compelling need to make other people as miserable as they are?
2013-02-01 12:19:33 PM  
3 votes:

D_Evans45: notmtwain: Why look for a man in the first place if she is truly asexual?

//  She never expressed any reason or desire to associate with any human, much less a man.


Ive seen this in other asexual threads on Fark over the years, there are a few asexual Farkers. Some asexual people are actually sexually attracted to others, to the point that they fantasize about others, but it appears the actual physical act of sex mortifies them. I get the feeling some of these people are scared of their self image and what others might think about their body, rather than a biological absence of sex drive.

Im sure there are plenty of asexuals who just arent wired to like sex, but there are numerous self identifying asexuals who actually do get sexual urges, but cant bring themselves to act on them for one reason or another.


That would be called body image problem, not being asexual.  Asexual is not having those urges in the first place.
2013-02-01 12:12:43 PM  
3 votes:
She would make a decent beard for some closeted conservative politician
2013-02-01 12:08:51 PM  
3 votes:
Sorry, seeing 'vegan' strapped on the end there is a deal killer.
2013-02-01 11:42:50 AM  
3 votes:
Does she require him not to have sex too, or just not to have sex with her? If she's okay with him stepping out for physical contact, I'm sure there are people amenable to that kind of arrangement.
2013-02-01 11:24:39 AM  
3 votes:
Q: Is she willing to support me while I sit around the house all day typing on fark?
2013-02-01 04:10:51 PM  
2 votes:
Again, I do sympathize with this woman, I know being that different from those around you is never easy.

But I think what makes this such an emotional subject for people is that it does seem like just the height of arrogance to think that simply by virtue of what a great person I am, I should be able to have a marriage that does not include any of the aspects of marriage that I don't like.  Marriage is a grand compromise, not an ala carte situation.  It's the exact same thinking that drives men in polygamist societies.

I mean, you have to wonder what she thinks she is bringing to the table, and it just seems like she has to believe that the mere pleasure of her company is so uniquely valuable that it should outweigh the unbelievably enormous consolation she's asking a potential partner to make.
2013-02-01 03:31:40 PM  
2 votes:
Back in my even-more-single-than-I-am-now days, I used to run into a surprising number of women who would say "I'm not looking for sex."  To which I would say, that's fine, but then you're not looking for an adult, romantic relationship.

I mean, I'm not looking for JUST sex, or for sex on the first date, and I don't think a woman ever owes a man sex, but if it's permanently off the table, then don't lead me to believe that we're on a date, or that our relationship is at all romantic in nature, because sex is an inevitable part of that kind of relationship.

I feel like this woman is mostly likely looking for platonic friends, but source is reporting like she is being misleading.
2013-02-01 03:12:51 PM  
2 votes:

Gone In 26 Minutes: It's not the same thing at ALL. Being gay does not farking remove the natural-born urge to fark that's in every animal, whether they have two legs or four. Being 'asexual' suggests that there IS no sexual wiring at all and I firmly believe that to be completely impossible in all, but the most damaged of minds.


Yes, it is.  The "sexual attraction" circuit of the brain can be wired in many different ways:  Straight.  Gay.  Bi.  No interest.  Complete repulsion.  Not only that, but sexuality is a continuum.  One person who is Bi can have equal attraction to both sexes.  Another might have a preference for one sex over the other, but not a strong enough preference to throw them into either the Straight or Gay categories.  Ultimately, it doesn't matter what you believe.  You have no special knowledge that "the natural-born urge to fark" is in "every animal".  You're making an assumption, based on statistics.  Also, you're confusing "damaged" with "different".

Gone In 26 Minutes: There are people who don't like sex because sex has always been unpleasant for them. They still have the urge, but they don't act on it because of the negative connotation. They are not asexual. Not by the true definition of it.There are people who don't like sex because they were told sex is bad. They are not asexual. They just repress the urge.If someone TRULY does not feel any sexual urge whatsoever, there are probably a host of other things wrong with them. Only someone mentally farked up beyond recognition can say, with a straight face, that they are truly asexual rather than 'sex has never really been fun for me.' THESE ARE NOT THE SAME THING. REPRESSING THE URGE IS STILL HAVING THE URGE.


It's nice that you can decide for other people whether or not what they're feeling is valid.  Did you even bother to read the article?  The woman in question states that not only does she not have any urge for sex, but that she's tried it on multiple occasions, with multiple partners, and she she finds the act repulsive.  Further, she says that there are no incidents or issues with her development which could have caused this, it's just they way she is.

I guess you think that she's lying.  I don't find it that difficult to believe that her brain is just wired differently.  The brain is a wonderfully complex organ that we know very little about.
2013-02-01 02:18:17 PM  
2 votes:

NobleHam: aerojockey: Your question is as bigoted as asking a gay person a question like this: "If you're truly a homosexual, why do you choose men who dress like women? If you like how women look, why aren't you just straight?"

If someone asked me that question I'd just say, "I don't, being gay doesn't mean you live in a pride parade."

Personally I find oversensitivity a little bigoted. Just because you're different means you're thin-skinned about curiosity?


You know, it's not bigotry that's bothering me here (if the bigotry is minor things like insensitive or careless questions).  That happens, we all do it here and there, most people can deal with it.  The thing that rankles me is the hypocrisy.  People sit smugly on their swivel chairs thinking how wonderfully open-minded they are because they accept LGBT relationships in all their variations, but some other kind of sexuality pops up and they show the narrow-minded insensitivity that the anti-gay crowd exhibits.  They're not open-minded at all, they're as closed-minded to new possibilities as ever.  All they've done by accepting gays it to accommodate a few more variations in their "acceptable" category.

There are people who would never suggest you "suck it up and have sex with someone you'd be aghast at having sex with" to a gay person, but they have no problem suggesting exactly that to an an asexual.  That's my problem.
2013-02-01 02:14:46 PM  
2 votes:

aerojockey: Erix: Gotcha. Any attempt at understanding through discourse is a display of bigoted thinking. Thanks for your assistance.

No, but questioning someone's sexuality because you don't think it belongs to a small set of categories that are acceptable and make sense to you, which is what you were doing, is.

I'll answer your question.  She is not what you mistakenly believe to be an asexual is.  "Asexual" means not interested in having sex.  That's it.  Is doens't refer, at all, to things like physical attraction, relationships, etc.  You are, incorrectly, taking it to mean a lot more than it means.


Is that what I was doing? I didn't know that sexuality is such a taboo subject. Apparently we must accept and understand, but are not allowed to discuss or question to get there.
2013-02-01 02:05:24 PM  
2 votes:

orclover: CheekyMonkey: vsavatar: I don't get it.  Why is it such a problem to meet your partner's needs?  Why does that have to be compromising yourself?  So what if you don't get off while having sex with your SO?  That doesn't mean you're compromising your principles.  It means that you're meeting his needs, and in exchange, he is probably having sex a lot less than he would otherwise want.  My wife and I have both done things on nights where we weren't otherwise in the mood because we wanted to make the other one happy.  Neither of us feel like we were compromising our principles in doing so.  Call it a form of "stress-relief" or a "tension breaker" if it makes you feel better, but to be so selfish pretty much guarantees that she's never going to find anyone.

Not sure how you couldn't have "gotten it" if you read TFA, but I'll try to explain.  Sex for this woman is not just something she doesn't want to do, but something which actively repulses her.

Would you, for instance, allow your partner to rub dogshiat in your face, if it "met their needs"?  Likely not, as for most people, having dogshiat rubbed in their face would be disgusting.  That's what sex is to her - something as enjoyable as having dogshiat rubbed in one's face.  Now do you get it?

Somewhere out there is a fetish partner for everyone.  But depending on the fetish, the pool of partners could be very very small.  If my wife could only achieve orgasms if I was actually on fire and howling klingon obscenities, I....honestly would be hard pressed to fulfill those needs.  But we would just have to find a way to make it happen, hopefully in a fireproof room.  Thats a relationship.  If you have enough basis to maintain a relationship then you help each other through the crap that is your differences or the relationship may not be worth it, but if it is, you do.  A great relationship can see you doing crap you never thought of doing, simply to make the other person happy and maintain the relationship and keep it ...


I guess the question is, if your wife had disclosed her "combustion+Klingon obscenity" fetish at the start of your relationship, would you have continued to pursue her, or would you have said "well, that ain't for me" and looked for someone more your type?

It's easy to say, now that you're in a committed relationship with her, that you would try to accommodate her desires, but I'm not so sure that going into the relationship, without knowing her as well as you do now, that it would be so easy.
zeg
2013-02-01 01:50:15 PM  
2 votes:
Sheesh folks, it's not like the ONLY reason to choose one gender or the other as a preferred partner is for the sex. Men and women are different in many ways, and just because you're not interested in the sex doesn't mean you don't have any other basis to decide you'd rather partner with one gender or the other. Heck, just because she doesn't want to have sexual intercourse, she's not necessarily not attracted to men, she just doesn't want to boink 'em.

Also, it's been pointed out above, but I'll reinforce it a bit. Some people actively do not like sex. She is apparently one of these people. It's unpleasant for her, and she does not want to do it again. So she's doing the most reasonable thing she could possibly do by being up front and honest with potential partners. Yes, that is an unusual request in our society, but would it be better if she set herself up for a long-term failed relationship because either or both sides got frustrated with the situation?
2013-02-01 01:46:11 PM  
2 votes:

The Angry Hand of God: Zarquon's Flat Tire: Asexual vegan.

Yeah lady, that's a tall order. Someone could enjoy that relationship, I'm sure. Just not me nor anyone I know.

[t2.gstatic.com image 225x225]

t2.gstatic.com

I'm pretty sure Morrissey would want some penis eventually, and as such would find the woman, asexual vegan or otherwise, to be unsatisfactory.
2013-02-01 01:45:50 PM  
2 votes:

aerojockey: Erix: No one said it wasn't allowed, settle down. I just want to understand what a gender preference is based on if she's truly asexual.

You're taking a label too seriously.  "Asexual" is just a word.  People are what they are, and there are not enough words to describe every combination.

Your question is as bigoted as asking a gay person a question like this: "If you're truly a homosexual, why do you choose men who dress like women? If you like how women look, why aren't you just straight?"


Gotcha.  Any attempt at understanding through discourse is a display of bigoted thinking.  Thanks for your assistance.
2013-02-01 01:31:06 PM  
2 votes:

Crackers Are a Family Food: vsavatar: I don't get it.  Why is it such a problem to meet your partner's needs?  Why does that have to be compromising yourself?  So what if you don't get off while having sex with your SO?

I think there's a term for coercing/forcing someone to have sex when they don't want to.  Give me a few minutes.  I'll think of it.


Nice try, but "(not getting) off while having sex" is not the definition of rape. I doubt anyone here is truly suggesting anyone force themselves upon this woman sexually. We're just saying she should lighten up and choose (consent) to compromise.
2013-02-01 01:26:06 PM  
2 votes:
Ew.  I would never date a vegan.
2013-02-01 01:14:19 PM  
2 votes:
so, is this like veganism?

since everyone knows the only reason someone says they're vegan is to mask their anorexia.
2013-02-01 01:11:32 PM  
2 votes:
Without reading the thread, I am guessing that a lot of the same people who accept all the myriad of sexual preferences with LGBT people, are now being bigoted when confronted with asexuality.

/checks thread
//yep
2013-02-01 12:51:32 PM  
2 votes:

WhippingBoy: Why is it that women have a compelling need to make other people as miserable as they are?


They base their lives on one core principle:

"We're not happy until you're not happy."
2013-02-01 12:51:20 PM  
2 votes:

HenryFnord: Sorry, seeing 'vegan' strapped on the end there is a deal killer.


It was pretty obvious though wasn't it?  Crazy, Vegan.... they are pretty interchangeable.

/  Braces for the Vegans going all crazy on me.
2013-02-01 12:48:31 PM  
2 votes:
It's not like there aren't male chastity fetishists that would not only actually get off on not having sex, but even agree to being locked up so they couldn't even if they found another outlet.
Just go out and find someone complementarity warped lady,    It's not hard.
um, so to speak.

/seems to me a true asexual would be more meh about it.   Similar to  "back hurt?  OK, I'll rub it for you because I love you, not because I enjoy rubbing backs"  But she's actually put off by the idea of sex.  That's more anti- than a-.

 i.imgur.com
2013-02-01 12:46:00 PM  
2 votes:
www.greenmeadowscarecenter.com

I think we may have found her guy.
2013-02-01 12:38:40 PM  
2 votes:
i admire her up-front honesty. As opposed to having some coont you date, live with and marry decide to turn OFF the ON switch to 'You get none, son' 10 years ago (in a 19 yr marriage). But I'm not bitter.

/ shoot me now, please
2013-02-01 12:14:08 PM  
2 votes:

notmtwain: Why look for a man in the first place if she is truly asexual?

//  She never expressed any reason or desire to associate with any human, much less a man.



Ive seen this in other asexual threads on Fark over the years, there are a few asexual Farkers. Some asexual people are actually sexually attracted to others, to the point that they fantasize about others, but it appears the actual physical act of sex mortifies them. I get the feeling some of these people are scared of their self image and what others might think about their body, rather than a biological absence of sex drive.

Im sure there are plenty of asexuals who just arent wired to like sex, but there are numerous self identifying asexuals who actually do get sexual urges, but cant bring themselves to act on them for one reason or another.
2013-02-01 12:13:51 PM  
2 votes:
Asexual relationship? It's called marriage.
2013-02-01 12:13:18 PM  
2 votes:

FishyFred: [i.dailymail.co.uk image 634x354]

Doesn't seem like such a tall order to me.

/TEETH


Man, that's a rough 29.
2013-02-01 12:09:16 PM  
2 votes:
Asexual (and demi) men/women aren't that rare. Most don't advertise it though.

She's just an attention whore.
2013-02-01 12:07:30 PM  
2 votes:
I have to wonder why a penis is required when she has no intention of putting it to good use.
2013-02-01 12:04:35 PM  
2 votes:
That's a rough 29 years.
2013-02-01 11:46:26 AM  
2 votes:
How does your skin get wrecked in England when there isn't any sun?
2013-02-01 11:16:15 AM  
2 votes:

notmtwain: Why look for a man in the first place if she is truly asexual?

//  She never expressed any reason or desire to associate with any human, much less a man.


Many asexuals still want a companion or life partner.  As for how someone would pick a man vs. a woman for that role if they're truly asexual, I have no idea.
2013-02-01 10:59:16 AM  
2 votes:
I could be asexual with her.
2013-02-01 08:46:23 PM  
1 votes:

Mr. Ekshun: Just want to point out the the 1976 Webster's Unabridged defines "asexual" as "a: having no sex or functional sex organs b: produced without sexual action or differentiation c: not relating to sex". And yet, when you look it up in Wikipedia you're taken to a long page which can only be the result of people not understanding that the word "sex" in the original definition is a noun. Anyone who identifies themselves as asexual and was born with or currently has sex organs is a fool, though it seems that it's only been happening without any hint of irony for the last ten or fifteen years or so. "Emotionally troubled" was a good enough description until recently; it's a shame that useful words keep getting misused until they lose their useful meaning.


So, in other words, "I have nothing to contribute to this thread, but as a Grammar Nazi I am compelled to whine about how language changes over time."

Got it.
2013-02-01 08:36:36 PM  
1 votes:

Mr. Ekshun: Just want to point out the the 1976 Webster's Unabridged defines "asexual" as "a: having no sex or functional sex organs b: produced without sexual action or differentiation c: not relating to sex". And yet, when you look it up in Wikipedia you're taken to a long page which can only be the result of people not understanding that the word "sex" in the original definition is a noun. Anyone who identifies themselves as asexual and was born with or currently has sex organs is a fool, though it seems that it's only been happening without any hint of irony for the last ten or fifteen years or so. "Emotionally troubled" was a good enough description until recently; it's a shame that useful words keep getting misused until they lose their useful meaning.


Read the first three words of the definition.
2013-02-01 08:25:26 PM  
1 votes:

lockers: It wasn't in the least bit loaded. If someone is truly asexual, where does the gender preference come from? That isn't loaded or bigoted or whatever other reactionary thing you come up with.


Your expression "truly asexual" is indeed loaded.  It implies that some people who call themselves "asexual" are TRULY asexual and that other people who call themselves "asexual" are NOT TRULY asexual.  There's an implication there.  Thus, the question is loaded.  You're implying that someone (you perhaps) gets to draw the line between the TRULY asexual and the NOT TRULY asexual (asexual wannabes?  demi-asexual?).
2013-02-01 07:18:54 PM  
1 votes:
Makes me wonder how much of asexuality is a result of "formerly sexually abused."  Which would make total sense.
2013-02-01 06:00:54 PM  
1 votes:

lockers: Sairobi:
So go ahead and shoot with the questions! I'll try to answer as best I can.

Some up thread suggested that asexuals can have a libido, is that you?

Have you ever had an orgasm (regardless of how)?

What is the difference between romantic love and platonic love for you?  I assume you get a longing for the romantic love.  Does he make your heart flutter when you see him? Miss him intensely when he is gone?


I do have a libido! It's just not directed at any person. Like, I never see a guy and think sexy thoughts. My brain usually goes:  gosh, he has a nice nose, or dat facial structure. It's more of a detached aesthetic appreciation? Which makes sense because I'm an artist, and therefore a very visual creature.

I have had my share! Obviously of my own making, haha.

... That is a very good question. I do occasionally yearn for romantic love, but I guess I am very lucky in that I am perfectly content being by myself. But, man, that is a hard question, because you're right in that they're definitely different -- I love my mom differently than I love my friends differently than I would love a man -- but how to distinguish them? I definitely do feel all the stuff associated with romantic love, though, like all the stuff you cited. I just don't connect those feelings to any sort of sexual desire. I imagine most people experience something particularly romantic, and their brains (and bodies) say, "now kiss!" For whatever reason, mine just doesn't make that leap.

(Sorry, that probably wasn't a very helpful answer, but you've given me food for thought. Thank you.)
2013-02-01 04:23:46 PM  
1 votes:

Hack Patooey: bhcompy: FishyFred: [i.dailymail.co.uk image 634x354]

Doesn't seem like such a tall order to me.

/TEETH

/FOREHEAD

FIVEHEAD


Shampoo.
2013-02-01 04:06:50 PM  
1 votes:

Carn: show me: Okay, this is directed at no particular person, but look at a relationship like this: You are a hetero guy, and you have a guy buddy who is really cool. Likes the same sports as you, likes to drink the same kind of beer, likes the same kind of movies, etc. You hang out with this guy all the time and it's a blast. Thing is, after a while, you find out he's not hetero. Not by a long shot. He wants to put it in your butt. Badly. I know you wouldn't really like doing that, but you would, every once in a while, because it makes your bestest friend ecstatically happy, right? Once a week? Once a month?

If you went camping with a bunch of guys and one night they all held you down and had sex with you, would you tell anyone about it or take the secret with you to your grave?


wanna go camping?


encrypted-tbn0.gstatic.com
2013-02-01 04:03:48 PM  
1 votes:
i228.photobucket.com
2013-02-01 03:34:05 PM  
1 votes:

show me: Okay, this is directed at no particular person, but look at a relationship like this: You are a hetero guy, and you have a guy buddy who is really cool. Likes the same sports as you, likes to drink the same kind of beer, likes the same kind of movies, etc. You hang out with this guy all the time and it's a blast. Thing is, after a while, you find out he's not hetero. Not by a long shot. He wants to put it in your butt. Badly. I know you wouldn't really like doing that, but you would, every once in a while, because it makes your bestest friend ecstatically happy, right? Once a week? Once a month?


IIRC there was an article on Fark a few months ago about two women who had been in a long distance relationship for a while, one of them pretending to be a man. When they met in person the non-pretender ended up living with the first woman in a lesbian relationship (though I think she claimed to still be straight) for a couple years and said it was mostly about the companionship, and she did it because someone she cared about.

Personally, I wouldn't but I would still be friends with the person. My best friend from age 7-10 or so I found out was gay when I tracked him down on facebook recently, there were probably "signs" as a kid but I wouldn't have picked up on them and it didn't make much of a difference to me otherwise. I still went out and got a drink with him to chat about the old times. At no point did I feel compelled to whip it out.
2013-02-01 03:31:48 PM  
1 votes:

JesusJuice: I'd be okay with that as long as she didn't nag me or care if I farked other women.


I'm going to bet she wouldn't allow that. I mean she has effectively killed 95% of your reason for living.
2013-02-01 03:31:39 PM  
1 votes:

PrivateCaboose: I am not. But I can recognize that there are plenty of reasons to prefer the companionship of one sex or gender over another. And some of those guys I cuddled with were gay. I'm betting they had no interest in having sex with me.


That's why I said most. But from a normal hetero male perspective cuddling is a romantic and sexual act. Every friend who has ever mentioned cuddling has offered their disappointment that it led nowhere. I won't claim to understand how gay men feel about it, because all of my gay acquaintances have never brought it up.
2013-02-01 03:21:59 PM  
1 votes:
Shut up baraerojockey, you cock.

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2013-02-01 03:14:31 PM  
1 votes:

Gone In 26 Minutes: I acknowledge that. That's why I say 'I believe' rather than 'this is the fact.' I accept the possibility that I'm wrong, but I have enough of an opinion about this that I will defend it until proven otherwise.


You have an opinion, but not the data to support it.  Only assumptions.
2013-02-01 03:14:30 PM  
1 votes:

PrivateCaboose: I think the point is that being asexual means that this woman doesn't want to have sex.  But she still wants companionship.  And because she is asexual it is extremely difficult for her to find that companionship.  Asexuality may be much rarer than other forms of sexual expression, but that doesn't mean she can't keep looking for someone to share her life with. Yes, it's a pretty small dating pool, but I think it's good they're highlighting that asexual people ...


That's essentially it. Asexuality has varying degrees, much like normal sexuality. Some people who fall under the asexual umbrella still have libido and feel attraction, but sex itself doesn't interest them. Others have no attraction or libido at all and avoid contact altogether. Others have no interest in sex outside of a deeply romantic relationship (though not because of any religious or moral values).

There's a whole list of terms people use to identify their specific type of asexuality. It's about finding a way to identify and explain your not conforming to societal norms.
2013-02-01 03:10:24 PM  
1 votes:
I think you're being too absolute in stating that, "A gender preference is a sexual choice." There are other reasons for preferring a particular gender, relating to scent, body size (stereotypically), past associations with comfort and safety, vocal pitch (again, stereotypically), and what one finds visually appealing. Asexuals can find the human body extraordinarily beautiful without finding it erotic. I would hope that you wouldn't insist that a preference for one type of beauty over another is fixedly sexual.
2013-02-01 03:06:04 PM  
1 votes:
Basically, I feel like those moments when 6-year-old kids ask their parents "why does Timmy have 2 dads" or "why doesn't Shirley like to have sex" (lol) are seen as a nice warm teaching moment for our youth when we give nice accepting answers. But once you're past the age of 12, that somehow becomes an offensive question if you presume they should know already. Some people just don't.
2013-02-01 03:03:51 PM  
1 votes:

PrivateCaboose: Perhaps she prefers the company of men. Prefers to do her cuddling (which she lists in the article as enjoying) with men. I know I certainly do.

I don't cuddle with women. I have cuddled with men I had no intention of sleeping with.


Are you asexual? If so, what makes a man better than a woman.  Also, even if you were up front about it, I guarantee most, if not all, of those men had a desire to sleep with you.  Not that cuddling obliges you to that or anything.
2013-02-01 03:01:01 PM  
1 votes:

Gone In 26 Minutes: Women who call themselves asexual are either emotional stunted, repressing themselves in some way or just lying to try to get attention from people they think won't look at them as a hole to fark in an attempt to meet what they think is a 'nice guy.'

You're either heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual. Those are the only things I will ever accept as naturally occurring in humanity. Everything else is just bullshiat in a vain attempt at making themselves look like a special snowflake.


To simplify the concept, it's "Want to fark" vs. "Don't want to fark."

Just like there are various types of "Want to fark" people, there are various types of "Don't want to fark" people.

This chick, unfortunately, just wants attention.
2013-02-01 03:00:21 PM  
1 votes:

aerojockey: orclover: aerojockey: orclover: As apposed to what? asking someone to not have sex? ever? Even though they enjoy it in whatever way with whatever gender they enjoy it? "hey cindy, I think we have a great relationship and I look forward to living the rest of my life with you but uhhh just FYI....we cant ever have sex, ever". Unless the words "but you can sleep around with whoever you want" follows that sentence, I think the relationship is over. If complete denial of sex is that important for people then be ready to start up a new version of match.com, and be ready for a pretty small dating pool.

So if you want to give advice to such a person, you should be constructive and say something like: "It's hard, but you should be up front about your asexuality and not try to enter relationships with people who do want sex".  Not to be a farking bigot and say, "You're farking capable of it, just do it".

Ah so you agree me with!

Boy are you a liar.  Here's what you said:

This woman in the article.  She can have sex.  Unless she's a ken doll down there, shes capable of it, physically.  Mentally the idea may be anathema to her.  If she found the perfect partner in all other aspects, she may be able to get through the hell of having some person climb on top of her and grunt sweatily for a few hours a day as an acceptable trade for maintaining a relationship that is otherwise unbelievably awesome.  As examples see most marriages in the last few thousand years.


So you dont think there are men and women out there having sex with their partners every day to satisfy an urge that is not theirs in any way only because it helps maintain the harmony of a relationship that is otherwise the exact ideal that they personally strive for?  It may not be a picture perfect world, but thats reality.  Telling her that she should NEVER have sex because its not in her interest is just as dishonest as telling her she should consider having sex if the relationship is otherwise worth it.  Relationships are more than sex right? You agreed with me there, we all saw you.  Ok now if she goes through a dozen "partners" all of whom are just as disinterested in anything sexual as she is.  But they.....are maybe as an example....morons, nothing interesting to talk about, some of them never want to cuddle and one of them snores like a farking chainsaw.  What you and I think is pointless if she finds the right girl/guy who stimulates her intellectually, fabulous dancer, unbelievable cook, same interest, is a warm quiet heatrock in bed, smells like cinnamon all the time.  If at that point she can put up with the occasional bout of sex just to keep that person happy, and it doesnt send her into night terrors or the hospital.  If she can "put up with" that small part of the relationship, she wont give a shiat what we say on the matter.  To her it may be worth it just to keep the rest.  Or maybe it wont be and the nonsexual aspect of the relationship will be the most important thing in her entire world.  Which is just as pitiable as some people who's entire relationship view is completely centered only around having regular sex.  Of which unfortunately the world is full of.
2013-02-01 02:52:55 PM  
1 votes:

Gone In 26 Minutes: That's why I say 'I believe' rather than 'this is the fact.' I accept the possibility that I'm wrong, but I have enough of an opinion about this that I will defend it until proven otherwise.


What would prove it to you, though? If people saying "I feel this way" isn't proof, what would be? How is homosexuality any different, if it can't be "proven" to exist in a lab? It's your opinion and I'm not upset about that or anything, just wondering what you're waiting for.

People are born whose brains are wired such that they can't see, hear, speak, or taste. People are born whose brains can't feel pain, one of the most basic survival tools (along with sexual urge = reproduction) Why is it so hard to believe sexual urge is the one sacred human quality that no brain can exist without?
2013-02-01 02:41:52 PM  
1 votes:

PrivateCaboose: Gone In 26 Minutes: PrivateCaboose: Gone In 26 Minutes: It's not the same thing at ALL. Being gay does not farking remove the natural-born urge to fark that's in every animal, whether they have two legs or four. Being 'asexual' suggests that there IS no sexual wiring at all and I firmly believe that to be completely impossible in all, but the most damaged of minds.

Also, as a side note: pandas.

Pandas don't like to fark in cages. Most people don't either. Go figure.

It isn't just in cages.


Misleading headline. Should've been 'female pandas are farking picky with their real estate.' The story basically just said 'female pandas are picky about where they fark. males aren't. since they can't tell us, we had to study them for a while to figure this out.' Not 'pandas don't like to fark.'
2013-02-01 02:38:52 PM  
1 votes:

aerojockey: orclover: As apposed to what? asking someone to not have sex? ever? Even though they enjoy it in whatever way with whatever gender they enjoy it? "hey cindy, I think we have a great relationship and I look forward to living the rest of my life with you but uhhh just FYI....we cant ever have sex, ever". Unless the words "but you can sleep around with whoever you want" follows that sentence, I think the relationship is over. If complete denial of sex is that important for people then be ready to start up a new version of match.com, and be ready for a pretty small dating pool.

So if you want to give advice to such a person, you should be constructive and say something like: "It's hard, but you should be up front about your asexuality and not try to enter relationships with people who do want sex".  Not to be a farking bigot and say, "You're farking capable of it, just do it".


Ah so you agree me with!

The self righteousness pouring off you has been entertaining :)  If you knew anything of my work history you would know how ridiculous this has all been.
2013-02-01 02:34:32 PM  
1 votes:

Gone In 26 Minutes: It's not the same thing at ALL. Being gay does not farking remove the natural-born urge to fark that's in every animal, whether they have two legs or four. Being 'asexual' suggests that there IS no sexual wiring at all and I firmly believe that to be completely impossible in all, but the most damaged of minds.


Also, as a side note: pandas.
2013-02-01 02:33:35 PM  
1 votes:

Gone In 26 Minutes: CheekyMonkey: Gone In 26 Minutes: God. All of these 'alternate' sexualities sound like people are trying too hard to make themselves seem unique and do so by damaging themselves and the people who have the misfortune of meeting. I fully believe that there is no such thing as asexual people (that aren't brain damaged in some way.) Sexuality is a core part of what makes us human and it's really a very simple thing. Everything else is just there to complicate it because people need to increasingly complicate EVERYTHING.

Women who call themselves asexual are either emotional stunted, repressing themselves in some way or just lying to try to get attention from people they think won't look at them as a hole to fark in an attempt to meet what they think is a 'nice guy.'

You're either heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual. Those are the only things I will ever accept as naturally occurring in humanity. Everything else is just bullshiat in a vain attempt at making themselves look like a special snowflake.

What you've written above is just as stupid as saying, "there's no such thing as being gay, it's a lifestyle choice".  It's the same goddamn thing - some people's brains are wired differently from the majority.  If you can fathom the existence of a subset of humans who are attracted to the same sex, why can you not accept a different subset whose sexual attraction "wiring" is different?

It's not the same thing at ALL. Being gay does not farking remove the natural-born urge to fark that's in every animal, whether they have two legs or four. Being 'asexual' suggests that there IS no sexual wiring at all and I firmly believe that to be completely impossible in all, but the most damaged of minds.

There are people who don't like sex because sex has always been unpleasant for them. They still have the urge, but they don't act on it because of the negative connotation. They are not asexual. Not by the true definition of it.
There are people who don't like sex because they were ...


Just because you believe it, doesn't make it true.
2013-02-01 02:31:48 PM  
1 votes:
She needs to either find another asexual partner or she needs to offer an open relationship.
2013-02-01 02:31:36 PM  
1 votes:

CheekyMonkey: Gone In 26 Minutes: God. All of these 'alternate' sexualities sound like people are trying too hard to make themselves seem unique and do so by damaging themselves and the people who have the misfortune of meeting. I fully believe that there is no such thing as asexual people (that aren't brain damaged in some way.) Sexuality is a core part of what makes us human and it's really a very simple thing. Everything else is just there to complicate it because people need to increasingly complicate EVERYTHING.

Women who call themselves asexual are either emotional stunted, repressing themselves in some way or just lying to try to get attention from people they think won't look at them as a hole to fark in an attempt to meet what they think is a 'nice guy.'

You're either heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual. Those are the only things I will ever accept as naturally occurring in humanity. Everything else is just bullshiat in a vain attempt at making themselves look like a special snowflake.

What you've written above is just as stupid as saying, "there's no such thing as being gay, it's a lifestyle choice".  It's the same goddamn thing - some people's brains are wired differently from the majority.  If you can fathom the existence of a subset of humans who are attracted to the same sex, why can you not accept a different subset whose sexual attraction "wiring" is different?


It's not the same thing at ALL. Being gay does not farking remove the natural-born urge to fark that's in every animal, whether they have two legs or four. Being 'asexual' suggests that there IS no sexual wiring at all and I firmly believe that to be completely impossible in all, but the most damaged of minds.

There are people who don't like sex because sex has always been unpleasant for them. They still have the urge, but they don't act on it because of the negative connotation. They are not asexual. Not by the true definition of it.
There are people who don't like sex because they were told sex is bad. They are not asexual. They just repress the urge.

If someone TRULY does not feel any sexual urge whatsoever, there are probably a host of other things wrong with them. Only someone mentally farked up beyond recognition can say, with a straight face, that they are truly asexual rather than 'sex has never really been fun for me.' THESE ARE NOT THE SAME THING. REPRESSING THE URGE IS STILL HAVING THE URGE.
2013-02-01 02:31:12 PM  
1 votes:

orclover: As apposed to what? asking someone to not have sex? ever? Even though they enjoy it in whatever way with whatever gender they enjoy it? "hey cindy, I think we have a great relationship and I look forward to living the rest of my life with you but uhhh just FYI....we cant ever have sex, ever". Unless the words "but you can sleep around with whoever you want" follows that sentence, I think the relationship is over. If complete denial of sex is that important for people then be ready to start up a new version of match.com, and be ready for a pretty small dating pool.


So if you want to give advice to such a person, you should be constructive and say something like: "It's hard, but you should be up front about your asexuality and not try to enter relationships with people who do want sex".  Not to be a farking bigot and say, "You're farking capable of it, just do it".
2013-02-01 02:30:25 PM  
1 votes:

orclover: aerojockey: orclover: Somewhere out there is a fetish partner for everyone. But depending on the fetish, the pool of partners could be very very small. If my wife could only achieve orgasms if I was actually on fire and howling klingon obscenities, I....honestly would be hard pressed to fulfill those needs. But we would just have to find a way to make it happen, hopefully in a fireproof room. Thats a relationship. If you have enough basis to maintain a relationship then you help each other through the crap that is your differences or the relationship may not be worth it, but if it is, you do.

I found the perfect woman in every way for me.  Oh, but one problem, she has a penis.  But I can get over it, right?  I can make it work.  I'm capable of it, physically.  RIGHT?

That's what you're asking asexuals to do.

As apposed to what? asking someone to not have sex? ever? Even though they enjoy it in whatever way with whatever gender they enjoy it?  "hey cindy, I think we have a great relationship and I look forward to living the rest of my life with you but uhhh just FYI....we cant ever have sex, ever".  Unless the words "but you can sleep around with whoever you want" follows that sentence, I think the relationship is over.  If complete denial of sex is that important for people then be ready to start up a new version of match.com, and be ready for a pretty small dating pool.

Dude find a guy and get laid (or have volcanic klingon sex), nobody is judging you.  Were just pointing out the obvious bits.


I think the point is that being asexual means that this woman doesn't want to have sex.  But she still wants companionship.  And because she is asexual it is extremely difficult for her to find that companionship.  Asexuality may be much rarer than other forms of sexual expression, but that doesn't mean she can't keep looking for someone to share her life with. Yes, it's a pretty small dating pool, but I think it's good they're highlighting that asexual people are not necessarily total loners - they are just regular people.  That is the most obvious bit of this.

Ugh this feels like I'm in the 1960s trying to point out that homosexuals don't need to be "cured."  Open your minds a little bit, folks.
2013-02-01 02:14:59 PM  
1 votes:

Gone In 26 Minutes: God. All of these 'alternate' sexualities sound like people are trying too hard to make themselves seem unique and do so by damaging themselves and the people who have the misfortune of meeting. I fully believe that there is no such thing as asexual people (that aren't brain damaged in some way.) Sexuality is a core part of what makes us human and it's really a very simple thing. Everything else is just there to complicate it because people need to increasingly complicate EVERYTHING.

Women who call themselves asexual are either emotional stunted, repressing themselves in some way or just lying to try to get attention from people they think won't look at them as a hole to fark in an attempt to meet what they think is a 'nice guy.'

You're either heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual. Those are the only things I will ever accept as naturally occurring in humanity. Everything else is just bullshiat in a vain attempt at making themselves look like a special snowflake.


What you've written above is just as stupid as saying, "there's no such thing as being gay, it's a lifestyle choice".  It's the same goddamn thing - some people's brains are wired differently from the majority.  If you can fathom the existence of a subset of humans who are attracted to the same sex, why can you not accept a different subset whose sexual attraction "wiring" is different?
2013-02-01 02:12:17 PM  
1 votes:

aerojockey: orclover: Somewhere out there is a fetish partner for everyone. But depending on the fetish, the pool of partners could be very very small. If my wife could only achieve orgasms if I was actually on fire and howling klingon obscenities, I....honestly would be hard pressed to fulfill those needs. But we would just have to find a way to make it happen, hopefully in a fireproof room. Thats a relationship. If you have enough basis to maintain a relationship then you help each other through the crap that is your differences or the relationship may not be worth it, but if it is, you do.

I found the perfect woman in every way for me.  Oh, but one problem, she has a penis.  But I can get over it, right?  I can make it work.  I'm capable of it, physically.  RIGHT?

That's what you're asking asexuals to do.


Incomparable argument. Assuming asexuality isn't bullshiat (it is,) then they would stick to other asexual people if they had any decency. A gay person might have a thing for a straight one (or vice versa,) but for the most part, they typically have the common courtesy of keeping it to themselves. Typically. There are Chasing Amy-like situations, sure, and drunk people in general tend to act stupid, but...

In the case of an asexual, a lot of them tend to pursue people who AREN'T asexual and expect them to bend to their will... because you'd do it if you love me, right? And you wouldn't fark anyone either, right?
2013-02-01 02:05:55 PM  
1 votes:

orclover: Somewhere out there is a fetish partner for everyone. But depending on the fetish, the pool of partners could be very very small. If my wife could only achieve orgasms if I was actually on fire and howling klingon obscenities, I....honestly would be hard pressed to fulfill those needs. But we would just have to find a way to make it happen, hopefully in a fireproof room. Thats a relationship. If you have enough basis to maintain a relationship then you help each other through the crap that is your differences or the relationship may not be worth it, but if it is, you do.


I found the perfect woman in every way for me.  Oh, but one problem, she has a penis.  But I can get over it, right?  I can make it work.  I'm capable of it, physically.  RIGHT?

That's what you're asking asexuals to do.
2013-02-01 02:01:49 PM  
1 votes:
God. All of these 'alternate' sexualities sound like people are trying too hard to make themselves seem unique and do so by damaging themselves and the people who have the misfortune of meeting. I fully believe that there is no such thing as asexual people (that aren't brain damaged in some way.) Sexuality is a core part of what makes us human and it's really a very simple thing. Everything else is just there to complicate it because people need to increasingly complicate EVERYTHING.

Women who call themselves asexual are either emotional stunted, repressing themselves in some way or just lying to try to get attention from people they think won't look at them as a hole to fark in an attempt to meet what they think is a 'nice guy.'

You're either heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual. Those are the only things I will ever accept as naturally occurring in humanity. Everything else is just bullshiat in a vain attempt at making themselves look like a special snowflake.
2013-02-01 01:58:25 PM  
1 votes:

aerojockey: Your question is as bigoted as asking a gay person a question like this: "If you're truly a homosexual, why do you choose men who dress like women? If you like how women look, why aren't you just straight?"


If someone asked me that question I'd just say, "I don't, being gay doesn't mean you live in a pride parade."

Personally I find oversensitivity a little bigoted. Just because you're different means you're thin-skinned about curiosity?
2013-02-01 01:58:07 PM  
1 votes:

walkerhound: FishyFred: [i.dailymail.co.uk image 634x354]

Doesn't seem like such a tall order to me.

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2013-02-01 01:56:44 PM  
1 votes:

CheekyMonkey: vsavatar: I don't get it.  Why is it such a problem to meet your partner's needs?  Why does that have to be compromising yourself?  So what if you don't get off while having sex with your SO?  That doesn't mean you're compromising your principles.  It means that you're meeting his needs, and in exchange, he is probably having sex a lot less than he would otherwise want.  My wife and I have both done things on nights where we weren't otherwise in the mood because we wanted to make the other one happy.  Neither of us feel like we were compromising our principles in doing so.  Call it a form of "stress-relief" or a "tension breaker" if it makes you feel better, but to be so selfish pretty much guarantees that she's never going to find anyone.

Not sure how you couldn't have "gotten it" if you read TFA, but I'll try to explain.  Sex for this woman is not just something she doesn't want to do, but something which actively repulses her.

Would you, for instance, allow your partner to rub dogshiat in your face, if it "met their needs"?  Likely not, as for most people, having dogshiat rubbed in their face would be disgusting.  That's what sex is to her - something as enjoyable as having dogshiat rubbed in one's face.  Now do you get it?


Somewhere out there is a fetish partner for everyone.  But depending on the fetish, the pool of partners could be very very small.  If my wife could only achieve orgasms if I was actually on fire and howling klingon obscenities, I....honestly would be hard pressed to fulfill those needs.  But we would just have to find a way to make it happen, hopefully in a fireproof room.  Thats a relationship.  If you have enough basis to maintain a relationship then you help each other through the crap that is your differences or the relationship may not be worth it, but if it is, you do.  A great relationship can see you doing crap you never thought of doing, simply to make the other person happy and maintain the relationship and keep it moving onward.

This woman in the article.  She can have sex.  Unless she's a ken doll down there, shes capable of it, physically.  Mentally the idea may be anathema to her.  If she found the perfect partner in all other aspects, she may be able to get through the hell of having some person climb on top of her and grunt sweatily for a few hours a day as an acceptable trade for maintaining a relationship that is otherwise unbelievably awesome.  As examples see most marriages in the last few thousand years.  Or she may get lucky and find the perfect asexual partner, if she's lucky.  I wish her happy hunting and good luck, she will need it as much as anybody else does in this farked up world.

/happily married to a anime geek
//we rutt like rabid crack addled elk during a spring that never ends.
2013-02-01 01:37:43 PM  
1 votes:

vsavatar: I don't get it.  Why is it such a problem to meet your partner's needs?  Why does that have to be compromising yourself?  So what if you don't get off while having sex with your SO?  That doesn't mean you're compromising your principles.  It means that you're meeting his needs, and in exchange, he is probably having sex a lot less than he would otherwise want.  My wife and I have both done things on nights where we weren't otherwise in the mood because we wanted to make the other one happy.  Neither of us feel like we were compromising our principles in doing so.  Call it a form of "stress-relief" or a "tension breaker" if it makes you feel better, but to be so selfish pretty much guarantees that she's never going to find anyone.


Not sure how you couldn't have "gotten it" if you read TFA, but I'll try to explain.  Sex for this woman is not just something she doesn't want to do, but something which actively repulses her.

Would you, for instance, allow your partner to rub dogshiat in your face, if it "met their needs"?  Likely not, as for most people, having dogshiat rubbed in their face would be disgusting.  That's what sex is to her - something as enjoyable as having dogshiat rubbed in one's face.  Now do you get it?
2013-02-01 01:36:21 PM  
1 votes:

aerojockey: If that's her preference, is that not allowed?


This is no longer about her preference, its about her honesty.  She wants a standard relationship with a well off handsome man who will treat her well and never ever ask for sex.

And I want a threesome with two emma watson clones.  Its good to want things.
2013-02-01 01:32:20 PM  
1 votes:

Lumpmoose: notmtwain: Why look for a man in the first place if she is truly asexual?

//  She never expressed any reason or desire to associate with any human, much less a man.

Many asexuals still want a companion or life partner.  As for how someone would pick a man vs. a woman for that role if they're truly asexual, I have no idea.


Indeed, this was my thought as well. If she just wants non-sexual companionship with nothing more than sitting close on the sofa watching nature documentaries, what does it matter the gender of the housemate/friend?
2013-02-01 01:31:22 PM  
1 votes:

aerojockey: Erix: aerojockey: notmtwain: Why look for a man in the first place if she is truly asexual?

Is that not allowed?

If it's completely asexual, why does she care what sex her partner is?  Honestly, why would it matter?

If that's her preference, is that not allowed?


No one said it wasn't allowed, settle down.  I just want to understand what a gender preference is based on if she's truly asexual.
2013-02-01 01:28:28 PM  
1 votes:
Find a few cats and some friends.
2013-02-01 01:27:04 PM  
1 votes:

aerojockey: notmtwain: Why look for a man in the first place if she is truly asexual?

Is that not allowed?


If it's completely asexual, why does she care what sex her partner is?  Honestly, why would it matter?
2013-02-01 01:22:20 PM  
1 votes:

brap: My aunt worked for AVEN, and rose to the top quickly, as she was incredibly successful at not selling cosmetics.  She was so frigid we used to set our beers on her to keep them chilled.


I mistakenly went to the AVEN Awards one year, and was sorely disappointed...
2013-02-01 01:19:18 PM  
1 votes:

aerojockey: notmtwain: Why look for a man in the first place if she is truly asexual?

Is that not allowed?


Men have the higher sex drive so it's a pretty stupid and selfish thing to search out a man for all the perks of a romantic relationship without the sex.
2013-02-01 01:13:15 PM  
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2013-02-01 01:10:28 PM  
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I can imagine why she's asexual. With looks like that, her relationship history has not likely included any Prince Charmings. Add to that a sprinkle of childhood abuse (probably) and the superiority complex of a vegan, and you've got the perfect recipe for a frigid biatch.

/Hetero-romantic, myself.
//No aversion to sex, it's just not in my priorities.
2013-02-01 01:06:17 PM  
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ChipNASA: jonjr215: [i.dailymail.co.uk image 634x354]
Why the long face?

DEFINATELY a 4 1/2 head.

[i.dailymail.co.uk image 634x354]


Not to mention the...

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2013-02-01 12:59:35 PM  
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ROWR... Daddy Likey...
2013-02-01 12:55:21 PM  
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2013-02-01 12:39:09 PM  
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Anthracite: I am at a loss... So kissing and toucking ok but no actual sex or are there "degrees" of being Asexual?


There's a whole spectrum, and also a difference between sexual and romantic orientations.  For example, I'm grey-A and  homoromantic, and I'm in a very fulfilling emotional/intellectual relationship with a wonderful lady that does also involve some kisses and a fair deal of cuddling.

/but because ace relationships tend to confuse a lot of people, I usually just describe myself as "lesbian" in casual conversation.
2013-02-01 12:27:32 PM  
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She just hasn't had the right man to give her the Big O yet, you know leave her there shaking like a bowl of jello, curled up in a fetal position and whimpering like a puppy in a huge wet spot.
/ don't look at me, I'm not the guy for the job
2013-02-01 12:26:15 PM  
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Just start buying cats lady.
2013-02-01 12:19:16 PM  
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Zarquon's Flat Tire: Asexual vegan.

Yeah lady, that's a tall order. Someone could enjoy that relationship, I'm sure. Just not me nor anyone I know.


You can't eat meat, you can't fark. fark that. I gotta have some kind of flesh.
2013-02-01 12:18:45 PM  
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Zarquon's Flat Tire: Asexual vegan.

Yeah lady, that's a tall order. Someone could enjoy that relationship, I'm sure. Just not me nor anyone I know.


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2013-02-01 12:17:25 PM  
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Not sure what that story was about but something caught my eye...i.dailymail.co.uk
2013-02-01 12:17:25 PM  
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jonjr215: [i.dailymail.co.uk image 634x354]
Why the long face?


DEFINATELY a 4 1/2 head.

i.dailymail.co.uk
2013-02-01 12:15:27 PM  
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Zarquon's Flat Tire: Asexual vegan.

Yeah lady, that's a tall order. Someone could enjoy that relationship, I'm sure. Just not me nor anyone I know.


That's why she needs a world wide media advertisement. So she can find the 2-3 people who could live with that and choose amongst them.
2013-02-01 12:15:01 PM  
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Sympathises. Looking for Amanda Hugginkiss.
2013-02-01 12:12:43 PM  
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Why the long face?
2013-02-01 12:11:19 PM  
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Space, the final frontier...
2013-02-01 12:09:44 PM  
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Asexual vegan.

Yeah lady, that's a tall order. Someone could enjoy that relationship, I'm sure. Just not me nor anyone I know.
2013-02-01 12:09:36 PM  
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At least she still maintains her hoo-ha ...
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2013-02-01 12:07:44 PM  
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bhcompy: FishyFred: [i.dailymail.co.uk image 634x354]

Doesn't seem like such a tall order to me.

/TEETH

/FOREHEAD


FIVEHEAD
2013-02-01 12:07:34 PM  
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That's a hard 29 right there.

Lumpmoose: Many asexuals still want a companion or life partner.  As for how someone would pick a man vs. a woman for that role if they're truly asexual, I have no idea.


That is what has always confused me.  So you get a heterosexual partner and live out some kind weird domestic lifestyle without sex or kids (unless you adopt) and all that.  Why not just settle into a college esque roommate style thing?  It seems much more efficient and less problematic if you decide you want to jack it to some lesbian poor or go pick someone at the bar because the urge has struck.
2013-02-01 12:07:33 PM  
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Possible partner?

/the teethy guy, not the dog.
2013-02-01 12:06:23 PM  
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