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2013-02-01 01:57:48 PM  

Erix: Gotcha. Any attempt at understanding through discourse is a display of bigoted thinking. Thanks for your assistance.


No, but questioning someone's sexuality because you don't think it belongs to a small set of categories that are acceptable and make sense to you, which is what you were doing, is.

I'll answer your question.  She is not what you mistakenly believe to be an asexual is.  "Asexual" means not interested in having sex.  That's it.  Is doens't refer, at all, to things like physical attraction, relationships, etc.  You are, incorrectly, taking it to mean a lot more than it means.
 
2013-02-01 01:58:07 PM  

walkerhound: FishyFred: [i.dailymail.co.uk image 634x354]

Doesn't seem like such a tall order to me.

/TEETH


1.bp.blogspot.com
/Teeth
 
2013-02-01 01:58:25 PM  

aerojockey: Your question is as bigoted as asking a gay person a question like this: "If you're truly a homosexual, why do you choose men who dress like women? If you like how women look, why aren't you just straight?"


If someone asked me that question I'd just say, "I don't, being gay doesn't mean you live in a pride parade."

Personally I find oversensitivity a little bigoted. Just because you're different means you're thin-skinned about curiosity?
 
2013-02-01 01:59:06 PM  

Erix: aerojockey: Erix: No one said it wasn't allowed, settle down. I just want to understand what a gender preference is based on if she's truly asexual.

You're taking a label too seriously.  "Asexual" is just a word.  People are what they are, and there are not enough words to describe every combination.

Your question is as bigoted as asking a gay person a question like this: "If you're truly a homosexual, why do you choose men who dress like women? If you like how women look, why aren't you just straight?"

Gotcha.  Any attempt at understanding through discourse is a display of bigoted thinking.  Thanks for your assistance.


aerojockey's just pissed because no one wants to have sex with him, so he's forced into asexuality.

Seriously, though, you might not get an answer to your question unless you ask the lass in the article.  She says she likes kissing and cuddling, just not the sex act itself.  Thus, she's got some sort of affinity for the opposite sex.  It can be based on whatever "normal" attraction is based on, and that part of her brain that links attraction to sexual desire is just wired differently.
 
2013-02-01 01:59:09 PM  
Maybe she just wants a man who can kill spiders and open pickle jars.
 
2013-02-01 02:01:49 PM  
God. All of these 'alternate' sexualities sound like people are trying too hard to make themselves seem unique and do so by damaging themselves and the people who have the misfortune of meeting. I fully believe that there is no such thing as asexual people (that aren't brain damaged in some way.) Sexuality is a core part of what makes us human and it's really a very simple thing. Everything else is just there to complicate it because people need to increasingly complicate EVERYTHING.

Women who call themselves asexual are either emotional stunted, repressing themselves in some way or just lying to try to get attention from people they think won't look at them as a hole to fark in an attempt to meet what they think is a 'nice guy.'

You're either heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual. Those are the only things I will ever accept as naturally occurring in humanity. Everything else is just bullshiat in a vain attempt at making themselves look like a special snowflake.
 
2013-02-01 02:02:54 PM  

Lumpmoose: notmtwain: Why look for a man in the first place if she is truly asexual?

//  She never expressed any reason or desire to associate with any human, much less a man.

Many asexuals still want a companion or life partner.  As for how someone would pick a man vs. a woman for that role if they're truly asexual, I have no idea.


You can develop romantic feelings for someone without necessarily having sexual feelings. I believe other cultures are a bit more comfortable with the concept but personally I get crushes on other girls but I have absolutely zero interest in anything sexual with women (considered it, would try it, very "meh" about it though).

It's possibly she develops romantic/emotionally intimate feelings for men more than women, but they never lead to sexual feelings.
 
2013-02-01 02:03:31 PM  

aerojockey: orclover: This is no longer about her preference, its about her honesty. She wants a standard relationship with a well off handsome man who will treat her well and never ever ask for sex.

So gay people should stop being gay because there's far, far more straight people in the world, and their changes of finding a partner are a lot greater if they're straight.

AMIRITE?


If she were gay I would assume her problems would be a lot simpler.

Wait, can you be gay and asexual?  How is that even possible?
 
2013-02-01 02:05:15 PM  
Oh, what a bonus.  She's a vegan.  That lady is probably all sorts of crazy.

I wouldn't date her for 1.0x106 dollars!
 
2013-02-01 02:05:24 PM  

orclover: CheekyMonkey: vsavatar: I don't get it.  Why is it such a problem to meet your partner's needs?  Why does that have to be compromising yourself?  So what if you don't get off while having sex with your SO?  That doesn't mean you're compromising your principles.  It means that you're meeting his needs, and in exchange, he is probably having sex a lot less than he would otherwise want.  My wife and I have both done things on nights where we weren't otherwise in the mood because we wanted to make the other one happy.  Neither of us feel like we were compromising our principles in doing so.  Call it a form of "stress-relief" or a "tension breaker" if it makes you feel better, but to be so selfish pretty much guarantees that she's never going to find anyone.

Not sure how you couldn't have "gotten it" if you read TFA, but I'll try to explain.  Sex for this woman is not just something she doesn't want to do, but something which actively repulses her.

Would you, for instance, allow your partner to rub dogshiat in your face, if it "met their needs"?  Likely not, as for most people, having dogshiat rubbed in their face would be disgusting.  That's what sex is to her - something as enjoyable as having dogshiat rubbed in one's face.  Now do you get it?

Somewhere out there is a fetish partner for everyone.  But depending on the fetish, the pool of partners could be very very small.  If my wife could only achieve orgasms if I was actually on fire and howling klingon obscenities, I....honestly would be hard pressed to fulfill those needs.  But we would just have to find a way to make it happen, hopefully in a fireproof room.  Thats a relationship.  If you have enough basis to maintain a relationship then you help each other through the crap that is your differences or the relationship may not be worth it, but if it is, you do.  A great relationship can see you doing crap you never thought of doing, simply to make the other person happy and maintain the relationship and keep it ...


I guess the question is, if your wife had disclosed her "combustion+Klingon obscenity" fetish at the start of your relationship, would you have continued to pursue her, or would you have said "well, that ain't for me" and looked for someone more your type?

It's easy to say, now that you're in a committed relationship with her, that you would try to accommodate her desires, but I'm not so sure that going into the relationship, without knowing her as well as you do now, that it would be so easy.
 
2013-02-01 02:05:55 PM  

orclover: Somewhere out there is a fetish partner for everyone. But depending on the fetish, the pool of partners could be very very small. If my wife could only achieve orgasms if I was actually on fire and howling klingon obscenities, I....honestly would be hard pressed to fulfill those needs. But we would just have to find a way to make it happen, hopefully in a fireproof room. Thats a relationship. If you have enough basis to maintain a relationship then you help each other through the crap that is your differences or the relationship may not be worth it, but if it is, you do.


I found the perfect woman in every way for me.  Oh, but one problem, she has a penis.  But I can get over it, right?  I can make it work.  I'm capable of it, physically.  RIGHT?

That's what you're asking asexuals to do.
 
2013-02-01 02:05:56 PM  

ringersol: Lumpmoose: "As for how someone would pick a man vs. a woman for that role if they're truly asexual, I have no idea. "

If you're making a purely practical decision, "lower risk of public hassle; more legal benefits with fewer hoops; less stress from the family" would be expected to tilt things in favor of an opposite-sex partner in the acceptable-for-dating age range.


I imagine it would depend on whether you're going to portray yourself to the world as part of a romantic couple or as just friends.  Again, based on her talking about cuddling, I see the relationship I think she's looking for as essentially a normal heterosexual romantic relationship in all ways except for actual sex.

.. which is to say you're right, to put it briefly.
 
2013-02-01 02:06:48 PM  

Basily Gourt: WhippingBoy: Why is it that women have a compelling need to make other people as miserable as they are?

They base their lives on one core principle:

"We're not happy until you're not happy."


No, that's te GOP moral legislative motto.
 
2013-02-01 02:07:02 PM  

cig-mkr: She just hasn't had the right man to give her the Big O yet, you know leave her there shaking like a bowl of jello, curled up in a fetal position and whimpering like a puppy in a huge wet spot.
/ don't look at me, I'm not the guy for the job


That would be a lot more funny if "corrective rape" weren't an actual thing that really happens.
 
2013-02-01 02:10:24 PM  

ciberido: walkerhound: FishyFred: [i.dailymail.co.uk image 634x354]

Doesn't seem like such a tall order to me.

/TEETH

[1.bp.blogspot.com image 250x350]
/Teeth


I'm gonna go ahead and put that on my "never ever" list.
 
2013-02-01 02:11:04 PM  

orclover: This woman in the article.  She can have sex.  Unless she's a ken doll down there, shes capable of it, physically.


"Capable of it" isn't that black and white.  Saw a girl for a while with vaginismus (near involuntary spasm... basically a "can't").  Which I was willing to help work through (therapy or whatever), but she didn't really see it as a problem (it wasn't a problem for her) or want to work through it. So, bye.

I wonder about that possibility when I hear 'I'm asexual', but the vegan in the article seemed to imply that she had had sex before and didn't like it very much.
 
2013-02-01 02:12:05 PM  

aerojockey: Erix: No one said it wasn't allowed, settle down. I just want to understand what a gender preference is based on if she's truly asexual.

You're taking a label too seriously.  "Asexual" is just a word.  People are what they are, and there are not enough words to describe every combination.

Your question is as bigoted as asking a gay person a question like this: "If you're truly a homosexual, why do you choose men who dress like women? If you like how women look, why aren't you just straight?"


I think the word you're looking for is ignorant. There isn't any malice or indignation in asking a genuine question.
 
2013-02-01 02:12:17 PM  

aerojockey: orclover: Somewhere out there is a fetish partner for everyone. But depending on the fetish, the pool of partners could be very very small. If my wife could only achieve orgasms if I was actually on fire and howling klingon obscenities, I....honestly would be hard pressed to fulfill those needs. But we would just have to find a way to make it happen, hopefully in a fireproof room. Thats a relationship. If you have enough basis to maintain a relationship then you help each other through the crap that is your differences or the relationship may not be worth it, but if it is, you do.

I found the perfect woman in every way for me.  Oh, but one problem, she has a penis.  But I can get over it, right?  I can make it work.  I'm capable of it, physically.  RIGHT?

That's what you're asking asexuals to do.


Incomparable argument. Assuming asexuality isn't bullshiat (it is,) then they would stick to other asexual people if they had any decency. A gay person might have a thing for a straight one (or vice versa,) but for the most part, they typically have the common courtesy of keeping it to themselves. Typically. There are Chasing Amy-like situations, sure, and drunk people in general tend to act stupid, but...

In the case of an asexual, a lot of them tend to pursue people who AREN'T asexual and expect them to bend to their will... because you'd do it if you love me, right? And you wouldn't fark anyone either, right?
 
2013-02-01 02:12:23 PM  
I'm sorry, when did Legolas from Lord of The Rings start dating men?
 
2013-02-01 02:14:46 PM  

aerojockey: Erix: Gotcha. Any attempt at understanding through discourse is a display of bigoted thinking. Thanks for your assistance.

No, but questioning someone's sexuality because you don't think it belongs to a small set of categories that are acceptable and make sense to you, which is what you were doing, is.

I'll answer your question.  She is not what you mistakenly believe to be an asexual is.  "Asexual" means not interested in having sex.  That's it.  Is doens't refer, at all, to things like physical attraction, relationships, etc.  You are, incorrectly, taking it to mean a lot more than it means.


Is that what I was doing? I didn't know that sexuality is such a taboo subject. Apparently we must accept and understand, but are not allowed to discuss or question to get there.
 
2013-02-01 02:14:57 PM  

Gone In 26 Minutes: God. All of these 'alternate' sexualities sound like people are trying too hard to make themselves seem unique and do so by damaging themselves and the people who have the misfortune of meeting. I fully believe that there is no such thing as asexual people (that aren't brain damaged in some way.) Sexuality is a core part of what makes us human and it's really a very simple thing. Everything else is just there to complicate it because people need to increasingly complicate EVERYTHING.

Women who call themselves asexual are either emotional stunted, repressing themselves in some way or just lying to try to get attention from people they think won't look at them as a hole to fark in an attempt to meet what they think is a 'nice guy.'

You're either heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual. Those are the only things I will ever accept as naturally occurring in humanity. Everything else is just bullshiat in a vain attempt at making themselves look like a special snowflake.


Meh.. 2/10. If you'd gotten to the thread earlier maybe it would work.
 
2013-02-01 02:14:59 PM  

Gone In 26 Minutes: God. All of these 'alternate' sexualities sound like people are trying too hard to make themselves seem unique and do so by damaging themselves and the people who have the misfortune of meeting. I fully believe that there is no such thing as asexual people (that aren't brain damaged in some way.) Sexuality is a core part of what makes us human and it's really a very simple thing. Everything else is just there to complicate it because people need to increasingly complicate EVERYTHING.

Women who call themselves asexual are either emotional stunted, repressing themselves in some way or just lying to try to get attention from people they think won't look at them as a hole to fark in an attempt to meet what they think is a 'nice guy.'

You're either heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual. Those are the only things I will ever accept as naturally occurring in humanity. Everything else is just bullshiat in a vain attempt at making themselves look like a special snowflake.


What you've written above is just as stupid as saying, "there's no such thing as being gay, it's a lifestyle choice".  It's the same goddamn thing - some people's brains are wired differently from the majority.  If you can fathom the existence of a subset of humans who are attracted to the same sex, why can you not accept a different subset whose sexual attraction "wiring" is different?
 
2013-02-01 02:15:31 PM  

CheekyMonkey: orclover: CheekyMonkey: vsavatar:

I guess the question is, if your wife had disclosed her "combustion+Klingon obscenity" fetish at the start of your relationship, would you have continued to pursue her, or would you have said "well, that ain't for me" and looked for someone more your type?

It's easy to say, now that you're in a committed relationship with her, that you would try to accommodate her desires, but I'm not so sure that going into the relationship, without knowing her as well as you do now, that it would be so easy.

Thats the discussion of how we as a society have evolved at least a little when it comes to growing into a relationship.  We all have stories of friends and relatives getting married, years or decades pass and then somebody finds out the other is gay/lesbian/klingon, relationship is over.  Communication.  If people dont communicate at the start of the relationship and share what their needs/desires are from the start, trainwreck will be the eventual outcome.  My wife and I have some pretty big differences.  Sure nothing as big as what we are discussing here but it would have to be a pretty big difference to stop a relationship that is otherwise really really well off.

Saying that however if my wife came up to me tomorrow and stated that she wants to stay married but demands that one of us get a sex change operation.....that could be a deal breaker.  I am merely a man.
 
2013-02-01 02:18:17 PM  

NobleHam: aerojockey: Your question is as bigoted as asking a gay person a question like this: "If you're truly a homosexual, why do you choose men who dress like women? If you like how women look, why aren't you just straight?"

If someone asked me that question I'd just say, "I don't, being gay doesn't mean you live in a pride parade."

Personally I find oversensitivity a little bigoted. Just because you're different means you're thin-skinned about curiosity?


You know, it's not bigotry that's bothering me here (if the bigotry is minor things like insensitive or careless questions).  That happens, we all do it here and there, most people can deal with it.  The thing that rankles me is the hypocrisy.  People sit smugly on their swivel chairs thinking how wonderfully open-minded they are because they accept LGBT relationships in all their variations, but some other kind of sexuality pops up and they show the narrow-minded insensitivity that the anti-gay crowd exhibits.  They're not open-minded at all, they're as closed-minded to new possibilities as ever.  All they've done by accepting gays it to accommodate a few more variations in their "acceptable" category.

There are people who would never suggest you "suck it up and have sex with someone you'd be aghast at having sex with" to a gay person, but they have no problem suggesting exactly that to an an asexual.  That's my problem.
 
2013-02-01 02:18:52 PM  

dj_spanmaster: MrBallou: JesusJuice: I'd be okay with that as long as she didn't nag me or care if I farked other women.

Dreamer

You may say I'm a dreamer, but I'm not


You may say that I'm a dreamer, but I'm not the only one.

/I hope someday you'll join us.
 
2013-02-01 02:20:03 PM  
Too ugly, too picky.
 
2013-02-01 02:23:07 PM  

aerojockey: You know, it's not bigotry that's bothering me here (if the bigotry is minor things like insensitive or careless questions). That happens, we all do it here and there, most people can deal with it. The thing that rankles me is the hypocrisy. People sit smugly on their swivel chairs thinking how wonderfully open-minded they are because they accept LGBT relationships in all their variations, but some other kind of sexuality pops up and they show the narrow-minded insensitivity that the anti-gay crowd exhibits. They're not open-minded at all, they're as closed-minded to new possibilities as ever. All they've done by accepting gays it to accommodate a few more variations in their "acceptable" category.



Really?  I thought it wast more like:
"Here's a sexuality you may not have encountered much before."
"Oh, really? How's that work?"
"Ignorant bigot!  How dare you question?"
 
2013-02-01 02:25:22 PM  

aerojockey: orclover: Somewhere out there is a fetish partner for everyone. But depending on the fetish, the pool of partners could be very very small. If my wife could only achieve orgasms if I was actually on fire and howling klingon obscenities, I....honestly would be hard pressed to fulfill those needs. But we would just have to find a way to make it happen, hopefully in a fireproof room. Thats a relationship. If you have enough basis to maintain a relationship then you help each other through the crap that is your differences or the relationship may not be worth it, but if it is, you do.

I found the perfect woman in every way for me.  Oh, but one problem, she has a penis.  But I can get over it, right?  I can make it work.  I'm capable of it, physically.  RIGHT?

That's what you're asking asexuals to do.


As apposed to what? asking someone to not have sex? ever? Even though they enjoy it in whatever way with whatever gender they enjoy it?  "hey cindy, I think we have a great relationship and I look forward to living the rest of my life with you but uhhh just FYI....we cant ever have sex, ever".  Unless the words "but you can sleep around with whoever you want" follows that sentence, I think the relationship is over.  If complete denial of sex is that important for people then be ready to start up a new version of match.com, and be ready for a pretty small dating pool.

Dude find a guy and get laid (or have volcanic klingon sex), nobody is judging you.  Were just pointing out the obvious bits.
 
2013-02-01 02:25:48 PM  

Erix: Is that what I was doing? I didn't know that sexuality is such a taboo subject. Apparently we must accept and understand, but are not allowed to discuss or question to get there.


I'm not sure where you're getting the idea that I was suggesting asexuality is a taboo topic.  I piled on you because you asked a loaded question.

If you were really just seeking information, then I hope the answer I gave you (asexual refers to desire for sex only, it doesn't encompass other aspects like attraction and relationships) satisfied your curiosity.
 
2013-02-01 02:27:11 PM  

aerojockey: NobleHam: aerojockey: Your question is as bigoted as asking a gay person a question like this: "If you're truly a homosexual, why do you choose men who dress like women? If you like how women look, why aren't you just straight?"

If someone asked me that question I'd just say, "I don't, being gay doesn't mean you live in a pride parade."

Personally I find oversensitivity a little bigoted. Just because you're different means you're thin-skinned about curiosity?

You know, it's not bigotry that's bothering me here (if the bigotry is minor things like insensitive or careless questions).  That happens, we all do it here and there, most people can deal with it.  The thing that rankles me is the hypocrisy.  People sit smugly on their swivel chairs thinking how wonderfully open-minded they are because they accept LGBT relationships in all their variations, but some other kind of sexuality pops up and they show the narrow-minded insensitivity that the anti-gay crowd exhibits.  They're not open-minded at all, they're as closed-minded to new possibilities as ever.  All they've done by accepting gays it to accommodate a few more variations in their "acceptable" category.

There are people who would never suggest you "suck it up and have sex with someone you'd be aghast at having sex with" to a gay person, but they have no problem suggesting exactly that to an an asexual.  That's my problem.


Dating an asexual would not be for me, but live and let live (and date).

I wouldn't date a vegan either (seriously, I love to cook, and just, no).  I still think they're entitled to their diets.
 
2013-02-01 02:29:55 PM  

ciberido: dj_spanmaster: MrBallou: JesusJuice: I'd be okay with that as long as she didn't nag me or care if I farked other women.

Dreamer

You may say I'm a dreamer, but I'm not

You may say that I'm a dreamer, but I'm not the only one.

/I hope someday you'll join us.


then your sex romps will be alone.
 
2013-02-01 02:30:25 PM  

orclover: aerojockey: orclover: Somewhere out there is a fetish partner for everyone. But depending on the fetish, the pool of partners could be very very small. If my wife could only achieve orgasms if I was actually on fire and howling klingon obscenities, I....honestly would be hard pressed to fulfill those needs. But we would just have to find a way to make it happen, hopefully in a fireproof room. Thats a relationship. If you have enough basis to maintain a relationship then you help each other through the crap that is your differences or the relationship may not be worth it, but if it is, you do.

I found the perfect woman in every way for me.  Oh, but one problem, she has a penis.  But I can get over it, right?  I can make it work.  I'm capable of it, physically.  RIGHT?

That's what you're asking asexuals to do.

As apposed to what? asking someone to not have sex? ever? Even though they enjoy it in whatever way with whatever gender they enjoy it?  "hey cindy, I think we have a great relationship and I look forward to living the rest of my life with you but uhhh just FYI....we cant ever have sex, ever".  Unless the words "but you can sleep around with whoever you want" follows that sentence, I think the relationship is over.  If complete denial of sex is that important for people then be ready to start up a new version of match.com, and be ready for a pretty small dating pool.

Dude find a guy and get laid (or have volcanic klingon sex), nobody is judging you.  Were just pointing out the obvious bits.


I think the point is that being asexual means that this woman doesn't want to have sex.  But she still wants companionship.  And because she is asexual it is extremely difficult for her to find that companionship.  Asexuality may be much rarer than other forms of sexual expression, but that doesn't mean she can't keep looking for someone to share her life with. Yes, it's a pretty small dating pool, but I think it's good they're highlighting that asexual people are not necessarily total loners - they are just regular people.  That is the most obvious bit of this.

Ugh this feels like I'm in the 1960s trying to point out that homosexuals don't need to be "cured."  Open your minds a little bit, folks.
 
2013-02-01 02:31:12 PM  

orclover: As apposed to what? asking someone to not have sex? ever? Even though they enjoy it in whatever way with whatever gender they enjoy it? "hey cindy, I think we have a great relationship and I look forward to living the rest of my life with you but uhhh just FYI....we cant ever have sex, ever". Unless the words "but you can sleep around with whoever you want" follows that sentence, I think the relationship is over. If complete denial of sex is that important for people then be ready to start up a new version of match.com, and be ready for a pretty small dating pool.


So if you want to give advice to such a person, you should be constructive and say something like: "It's hard, but you should be up front about your asexuality and not try to enter relationships with people who do want sex".  Not to be a farking bigot and say, "You're farking capable of it, just do it".
 
2013-02-01 02:31:36 PM  

CheekyMonkey: Gone In 26 Minutes: God. All of these 'alternate' sexualities sound like people are trying too hard to make themselves seem unique and do so by damaging themselves and the people who have the misfortune of meeting. I fully believe that there is no such thing as asexual people (that aren't brain damaged in some way.) Sexuality is a core part of what makes us human and it's really a very simple thing. Everything else is just there to complicate it because people need to increasingly complicate EVERYTHING.

Women who call themselves asexual are either emotional stunted, repressing themselves in some way or just lying to try to get attention from people they think won't look at them as a hole to fark in an attempt to meet what they think is a 'nice guy.'

You're either heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual. Those are the only things I will ever accept as naturally occurring in humanity. Everything else is just bullshiat in a vain attempt at making themselves look like a special snowflake.

What you've written above is just as stupid as saying, "there's no such thing as being gay, it's a lifestyle choice".  It's the same goddamn thing - some people's brains are wired differently from the majority.  If you can fathom the existence of a subset of humans who are attracted to the same sex, why can you not accept a different subset whose sexual attraction "wiring" is different?


It's not the same thing at ALL. Being gay does not farking remove the natural-born urge to fark that's in every animal, whether they have two legs or four. Being 'asexual' suggests that there IS no sexual wiring at all and I firmly believe that to be completely impossible in all, but the most damaged of minds.

There are people who don't like sex because sex has always been unpleasant for them. They still have the urge, but they don't act on it because of the negative connotation. They are not asexual. Not by the true definition of it.
There are people who don't like sex because they were told sex is bad. They are not asexual. They just repress the urge.

If someone TRULY does not feel any sexual urge whatsoever, there are probably a host of other things wrong with them. Only someone mentally farked up beyond recognition can say, with a straight face, that they are truly asexual rather than 'sex has never really been fun for me.' THESE ARE NOT THE SAME THING. REPRESSING THE URGE IS STILL HAVING THE URGE.
 
2013-02-01 02:31:48 PM  
She needs to either find another asexual partner or she needs to offer an open relationship.
 
2013-02-01 02:32:12 PM  
Mediocre looking woman has sex with students - Fark: Omg, I would so hit that, I wish she was my teacher.

Mediocre looking woman doesn't have sex - Fark: Omg, look at those sharp knees and that forehead, do not want!
 
2013-02-01 02:33:35 PM  

Gone In 26 Minutes: CheekyMonkey: Gone In 26 Minutes: God. All of these 'alternate' sexualities sound like people are trying too hard to make themselves seem unique and do so by damaging themselves and the people who have the misfortune of meeting. I fully believe that there is no such thing as asexual people (that aren't brain damaged in some way.) Sexuality is a core part of what makes us human and it's really a very simple thing. Everything else is just there to complicate it because people need to increasingly complicate EVERYTHING.

Women who call themselves asexual are either emotional stunted, repressing themselves in some way or just lying to try to get attention from people they think won't look at them as a hole to fark in an attempt to meet what they think is a 'nice guy.'

You're either heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual. Those are the only things I will ever accept as naturally occurring in humanity. Everything else is just bullshiat in a vain attempt at making themselves look like a special snowflake.

What you've written above is just as stupid as saying, "there's no such thing as being gay, it's a lifestyle choice".  It's the same goddamn thing - some people's brains are wired differently from the majority.  If you can fathom the existence of a subset of humans who are attracted to the same sex, why can you not accept a different subset whose sexual attraction "wiring" is different?

It's not the same thing at ALL. Being gay does not farking remove the natural-born urge to fark that's in every animal, whether they have two legs or four. Being 'asexual' suggests that there IS no sexual wiring at all and I firmly believe that to be completely impossible in all, but the most damaged of minds.

There are people who don't like sex because sex has always been unpleasant for them. They still have the urge, but they don't act on it because of the negative connotation. They are not asexual. Not by the true definition of it.
There are people who don't like sex because they were ...


Just because you believe it, doesn't make it true.
 
2013-02-01 02:34:32 PM  

Gone In 26 Minutes: It's not the same thing at ALL. Being gay does not farking remove the natural-born urge to fark that's in every animal, whether they have two legs or four. Being 'asexual' suggests that there IS no sexual wiring at all and I firmly believe that to be completely impossible in all, but the most damaged of minds.


Also, as a side note: pandas.
 
2013-02-01 02:36:22 PM  

PrivateCaboose: Gone In 26 Minutes: It's not the same thing at ALL. Being gay does not farking remove the natural-born urge to fark that's in every animal, whether they have two legs or four. Being 'asexual' suggests that there IS no sexual wiring at all and I firmly believe that to be completely impossible in all, but the most damaged of minds.

Also, as a side note: pandas.


Pandas don't like to fark in cages. Most people don't either. Go figure.

PrivateCaboose: Just because you believe it, doesn't make it true.


I acknowledge that. That's why I say 'I believe' rather than 'this is the fact.' I accept the possibility that I'm wrong, but I have enough of an opinion about this that I will defend it until proven otherwise.
 
2013-02-01 02:36:27 PM  
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2013-02-01 02:36:38 PM  
Why not just redirect fark.com straight to dailyfail.com and be done with it?
 
2013-02-01 02:36:41 PM  
userserve-ak.last.fm
So what's goin' on with the blow jobs again?

Yeah, cause I vote we keep them blow jobs, Jack!
 
2013-02-01 02:37:58 PM  

edgesrealm: I'm sorry, when did Legolas from Lord of The Rings start dating men?


The Race of Men is weak and unreliable. Legolas prefers hobbits.
 
2013-02-01 02:38:51 PM  

aerojockey: Erix: Is that what I was doing? I didn't know that sexuality is such a taboo subject. Apparently we must accept and understand, but are not allowed to discuss or question to get there.

I'm not sure where you're getting the idea that I was suggesting asexuality is a taboo topic.  I piled on you because you asked a loaded question.

If you were really just seeking information, then I hope the answer I gave you (asexual refers to desire for sex only, it doesn't encompass other aspects like attraction and relationships) satisfied your curiosity.


No you called him called him a bigot right off the bat.  He asked a legitimate question in a neutral tone.  "If one is truly asexual, why does the sex of a partner matter?"  You took offense to that. You know why it's legitimate?  Because she cares about sex, but will refuse to have sex.  And that is genuinely odd. It isn't narrow minded to think it is odd.  And it isn't bigoted to want to know more of the how does that work.
 
2013-02-01 02:38:52 PM  

aerojockey: orclover: As apposed to what? asking someone to not have sex? ever? Even though they enjoy it in whatever way with whatever gender they enjoy it? "hey cindy, I think we have a great relationship and I look forward to living the rest of my life with you but uhhh just FYI....we cant ever have sex, ever". Unless the words "but you can sleep around with whoever you want" follows that sentence, I think the relationship is over. If complete denial of sex is that important for people then be ready to start up a new version of match.com, and be ready for a pretty small dating pool.

So if you want to give advice to such a person, you should be constructive and say something like: "It's hard, but you should be up front about your asexuality and not try to enter relationships with people who do want sex".  Not to be a farking bigot and say, "You're farking capable of it, just do it".


Ah so you agree me with!

The self righteousness pouring off you has been entertaining :)  If you knew anything of my work history you would know how ridiculous this has all been.
 
2013-02-01 02:39:12 PM  

Gone In 26 Minutes: PrivateCaboose: Gone In 26 Minutes: It's not the same thing at ALL. Being gay does not farking remove the natural-born urge to fark that's in every animal, whether they have two legs or four. Being 'asexual' suggests that there IS no sexual wiring at all and I firmly believe that to be completely impossible in all, but the most damaged of minds.

Also, as a side note: pandas.

Pandas don't like to fark in cages. Most people don't either. Go figure.


It isn't just in cages.
 
2013-02-01 02:39:18 PM  

HailRobonia: edgesrealm: I'm sorry, when did Legolas from Lord of The Rings start dating men?

The Race of Men is weak and unreliable. Legolas prefers hobbits.


Dwarves, actually. He sailed to Aman with Gimli.
 
2013-02-01 02:39:23 PM  

AxemRed: She needs to either find another asexual partner or she needs to offer an open relationship.


She should do both. She should find an asexual parter, and both of them can not-have sex with other people.
 
2013-02-01 02:40:58 PM  

lockers: aerojockey: Erix: Is that what I was doing? I didn't know that sexuality is such a taboo subject. Apparently we must accept and understand, but are not allowed to discuss or question to get there.

I'm not sure where you're getting the idea that I was suggesting asexuality is a taboo topic.  I piled on you because you asked a loaded question.

If you were really just seeking information, then I hope the answer I gave you (asexual refers to desire for sex only, it doesn't encompass other aspects like attraction and relationships) satisfied your curiosity.

No you called him called him a bigot right off the bat.  He asked a legitimate question in a neutral tone.  "If one is truly asexual, why does the sex of a partner matter?"  You took offense to that. You know why it's legitimate?  Because she cares about sex, but will refuse to have sex.  And that is genuinely odd. It isn't narrow minded to think it is odd.  And it isn't bigoted to want to know more of the how does that work.


Perhaps she prefers the company of men.  Prefers to do her cuddling (which she lists in the article as enjoying) with men.  I know I certainly do.

I don't cuddle with women.  I have cuddled with men I had no intention of sleeping with.
 
2013-02-01 02:41:23 PM  

Gone In 26 Minutes: Pandas don't like to fark in cages. Most people don't either. Go figure


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Much more so than panda's.
 
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