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(Globe and Mail)   My neighbour walks her girlfriend on a leash. How do I register my disapproval?   (theglobeandmail.com) divider line 253
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2013-02-01 09:06:55 AM
This thread could be AWESOME.
lets go!

also. Nice that the Dad is cool with the Lesbians, but not the open dom/sub scene.
Speaks to progress that the Lesbian part is not even questioned.

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2013-02-01 09:10:23 AM

BHShaman: [i.imgur.com image 600x420]

/not sure if couple *wink*


Preview did not show that.
http://nerdnirvana.org/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/11133_040.jpg
 
2013-02-01 09:11:18 AM
Stick it in her pooper.
 
2013-02-01 09:11:20 AM
The Dom looks serious.

www.hotghettomess.com
 
2013-02-01 09:14:06 AM

stratagos: Ok, everyone is wrong here.

* The couple is nonconsentually involving others in their private life. That is, at the very least, rude.


Yeah the only thing wrong here is that the two are obviously a couple of attention whores.  At the same time, how hard is it to tell your kid, "they're just being silly" and leave it at that?
 
2013-02-01 09:14:25 AM
Celebs.
cdn.necolebitchie.com
 
2013-02-01 09:15:30 AM
Are we talking poodle or St. Bernard?

My four-year old daughter asked me why the lady was wearing a leash. I told her that she was pretending to be a dog and that the other lady was playing the owner.

Sounds about right to me.
 
2013-02-01 09:18:46 AM

BHShaman: The Dom looks serious.

[www.hotghettomess.com image 400x300]


If that's the couple in the article, then I am okay with this. Carry on.
 
2013-02-01 09:19:06 AM
If he's dissapproving, i have to assume that they are both unattractive.
 
2013-02-01 09:23:34 AM

stratagos: Ok, everyone is wrong here.

* The couple is nonconsentually involving others in their private life. That is, at the very least, rude.

* The parent needs to step up and be a parent. If they thinl snowflake is going to go through life and never be exposed to anything not on Leave It To Beaver, they're insane. They shouldn't go out of their way to *expose* their kid to wacky stuff, but they damn should be ready to explain if the kid sees something and has a question


QFT.  Plus, I came here to say it.

Fact is, people are going to do things in front of your kids.  When they do, explain it to them.

I have friends that purposely say things like, "I don't expose my kids to that sort of thing."  Oh, really?!  Who do you expect to explain it to them when someone ELSE exposes them.
 
2013-02-01 09:24:31 AM

Endive Wombat: gopher321: Just say to your kid, "They're crazy people. Stay away from them."

That is pretty much what I would say.  There is no need to come up with things like "they are playing puppy and owner" or even attempt to explain that the one on the leash appreciates the humiliation aspect of a BDSM lifestyle.  Keep it simple - "They are weird and crazy, stay away..."

Also, it is none of your damn business, as long as they are not doing any pubic displays of sexual behavior, keep to yourself.


Even saying they're crazy isn't necessarily the way to go. What if the child just happens to grow up and have a similar fetish? Then they'll either think THEY are crazy too, or that you're a liar.

Just tell the kid people are different and some people like the way the collar looks and feels.
 
2013-02-01 09:25:28 AM
Do I have to do everything myself?

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2013-02-01 09:25:46 AM

Yes please: Cythraul: Yeah, assuming this isn't some sort of hoax article, I think behavior like this would be going a bit too far. There's a time and place for all things. Out public in your neighborhood is not the place for BDSM sexy-time play, unless you live in the Castro.

If they want to involve the whole neighborhood, involve the whole neighborhood. "What breed is she? Is she a rescue? Can I pet her? Wait has she had all her shots? Look at the size of those feet, how big is she supposed to get?"


FTA: " In fact, why not approach and try to get to know this kinky couple? Find an opportunity to have a pleasant chat with them. Don't even mention the leash."

I'm on your side, don't talk to the couple, talk to the one holding the leash. Say a few "such a pwetty girl" words to the one on a leash and give her a snack. Worst case scenario is that you played along for a minute, best case scenario it's you get to play along for a while!
 
2013-02-01 09:28:16 AM
I've got a good idea! How about you mind your goddamn business and don't tell me what's "right" or "wrong" for my kids, or what I "should" do?
 
2013-02-01 09:29:27 AM
It all depends if it is fantasy hot lesbians or real life lesbians... One you get sexually excited about, the other you shudder and reach for the eyebleach.
 
2013-02-01 09:30:17 AM
What do I tell my kid?

tell them to mind their own farking business.
 
2013-02-01 09:32:22 AM

abhorrent1: What do I tell my kid?

tell them to mind their own farking business.


By going out in public, these people have made it everyone's business.
 
2013-02-01 09:33:16 AM
When they walk by just say, "Gee, how fifty shades of you." Then just giggle and stroll away.
 
2013-02-01 09:33:59 AM
Call the local Animal Control dept.
 
2013-02-01 09:34:51 AM
I love all the "mind your own farking business" responses when we're talking about people intentionally doing unusual things in public....

You don't get to yell "mind your own farking business" at people on a public street because they're watching you intentionally try to draw attention to yourself. That's the whole reason attention whores like these two do things like this, after all.

You don't want to explain it to your kid? Don't. Tell them they're just trying to get people to look at them.

You want to annoy them back? Ignore them.
 
2013-02-01 09:36:04 AM
My neighbour walks her girlfriend on a leash. How do I register my disapproval

Take pictures, lots of pictures and post them on the internet.  For science.
 
2013-02-01 09:37:09 AM
Since they're Canadian, the proper thing to do is apologize for being offended and offer the couple a box of Timbits and your spare tickets to the next Halifax v. Newfoundland Women's Professional Curling League exhibition match.
 
2013-02-01 09:38:37 AM
Talk to your elected representatives about destroying pluralism and returning us to a society of shared values and social standards.
 
2013-02-01 09:41:29 AM
I'm going to go out on a limb here and guess that most everyone in this thread who is defending the kinky couple and advocating that the parent mind their own business, etc. doesn't have kids of their own. I may be wrong, but it's just a hunch. Explaining things like this to kids is never as simple as you make it sound.

That having been said I just have to know out of curiosity - where is your line? There have to be some kinds of behavior that are unacceptable in public and I just want to know what would finally cross that line for you? I personally find the behavior of the couple in question rude, selfish and attention whorish at best. I'm fine with whatever they want to do in their own home/bedroom/torture chamber and I don't care about the gay/lesbian thing either. But there's gotta be a line somewhere. Where's yours?
 
2013-02-01 09:42:23 AM

WhippingBoy: By going out in public, these people have made it everyone's business


you're equivocating.

public space belongs to no one, which means no one gets to tell others how to act in public. that's what people mean when they say "mind your business".
 
2013-02-01 09:45:24 AM

sundance1028: I'm going to go out on a limb here and guess that most everyone in this thread who is defending the kinky couple and advocating that the parent mind their own business, etc. doesn't have kids of their own. I may be wrong, but it's just a hunch. Explaining things like this to kids is never as simple as you make it sound.

That having been said I just have to know out of curiosity - where is your line? There have to be some kinds of behavior that are unacceptable in public and I just want to know what would finally cross that line for you? I personally find the behavior of the couple in question rude, selfish and attention whorish at best. I'm fine with whatever they want to do in their own home/bedroom/torture chamber and I don't care about the gay/lesbian thing either. But there's gotta be a line somewhere. Where's yours?


There's one thing you need to know about Fark: The people that dispense all the parenting advice, and "know" what's best for kids? They're the ones that don't have children.
 
2013-02-01 09:46:50 AM

december: WhippingBoy: By going out in public, these people have made it everyone's business

you're equivocating.

public space belongs to no one, which means no one gets to tell others how to act in public. that's what people mean when they say "mind your business".


Bullshiat. So if I go to a kindergarten school bus stop and start screaming obscenities at the top of my lungs, people should just mind their business and "let me do my thing"?
 
2013-02-01 09:48:50 AM

abfalter: Do I have to do everything myself?

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Um.  No.  It's been referenced already.  Twice.  Try to keep up.
 
2013-02-01 09:48:54 AM
"Here's one idea. Ask Leash Lady if you can "pat" her girlfriend, then tousle the girlfriend's hair, scratch her behind the ears, then reach in your pocket and bring out a "treat," like a piece of Brie on a toothpick, or some coconut shrimp, and give it to her, saying "Attagirl!" and "Good girl!" the whole time."

This sounds hawt!
 
2013-02-01 09:51:28 AM
Hire a hobo to follow them around while masterbating.
 
2013-02-01 09:53:30 AM
Regardless of what you might think about the happy couple, it seems to me this parent is making it more of a problem than it has to be. You tell the kid they're pretending, the kid accepts it... Unless I'm missing something here, there's no need to go into further detail.

Eventually, when the kid's old enough to think back on it and realize what was actually going on, she's going to understand why you glossed over it.
 
2013-02-01 09:54:40 AM

WhippingBoy: december: WhippingBoy: By going out in public, these people have made it everyone's business

you're equivocating.

public space belongs to no one, which means no one gets to tell others how to act in public. that's what people mean when they say "mind your business".

Bullshiat. So if I go to a kindergarten school bus stop and start screaming obscenities at the top of my lungs, people should just mind their business and "let me do my thing"?


Fair point, sort of.

Why are you screaming obscenities though? Context matters. If it's just to be a dick then others should tell you you're a dick. But, in this case, these people aren't aiming to offend others. That's important. They're just living their lives. And when people are just living their lives then others should mind their own business.
 
2013-02-01 09:54:56 AM

WhippingBoy: abhorrent1: What do I tell my kid?

tell them to mind their own farking business.

By going out in public, these people have made it everyone's business.


Going out in public makes anything you do other people's business?
I question that. We have public nuisance laws that prohibit behavior that actually, materially bothers others - beyond that, what other people do doesn't concern you.
 
2013-02-01 09:58:41 AM
Dan Savage would probably say something about the couple being jerks and involving unwilling people into their BDSM. That being said there isn't much you can do to stop it.
 
2013-02-01 09:58:52 AM
"épater la bourgeoisie"

French for AW. You learn something new everyday...
 
2013-02-01 09:59:06 AM

december: WhippingBoy: december: WhippingBoy: By going out in public, these people have made it everyone's business

you're equivocating.

public space belongs to no one, which means no one gets to tell others how to act in public. that's what people mean when they say "mind your business".

Bullshiat. So if I go to a kindergarten school bus stop and start screaming obscenities at the top of my lungs, people should just mind their business and "let me do my thing"?

Fair point, sort of.

Why are you screaming obscenities though? Context matters. If it's just to be a dick then others should tell you you're a dick. But, in this case, these people aren't aiming to offend others. That's important. They're just living their lives. And when people are just living their lives then others should mind their own business.


Yelling obscenities is how I express myself as a unique and special individual. It's how I live my life. Who are you to tell me otherwise?
 
2013-02-01 10:00:33 AM
There's a man in Toronto who walks around in public places (I've seen him several times in malls and subway stations) wearing a costume that consists of a knee-length (almost tutu-like) dress, with a matching hat and knee socks.
I've known people that have talked to him and he's explained that he and his wife get off on his humiliation or something. You always see him walking alone though. And his costume is so over the top you can't help but do a double take, or tell your friends "OMG did you SEE that guy? You have to see this..."

I don't get that kind of stuff. Maybe I'm too vanilla.
 
2013-02-01 10:03:00 AM

stratagos: And now I read the article and it seems mom did exactly that. Color me embarrassed


Color mom embarrassed when 4 year-old tries the game at daycare.
 
2013-02-01 10:03:46 AM

Bontesla: You should throw the leashed girlfriend a bone.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6XX5nIQqjrQ

miss diminutive: Can we all just officially conclude that "I don't want to have to take time to explain your actions to my offspring so just stop doing what I don't like" is a pathetically lazy and worthless argument?


No, sadly.  Crazier part is turnabout is apparently not fair play, for instance if I say...

It's not my fault that you want to explain the concept of sex to your child 'never', and would prefer that they inevitably stumble into it blitheringly unawares like any real child coming of age.  Could you kindly stop demanding that I conform to your loinspawn's clearly malnourished understanding of the world?

...it would be completely out of bounds.  "Won't somebody think of the children," is less an argument and more a way to stifle all argument.


That said, I think the guy asking the question handled things slightly more tactfully than I'd have guessed he might.
 
2013-02-01 10:07:58 AM

Snapper Carr: " But I don't love having to explain S&M role-play to my four-year old"

Good time to introduce him to Thomas Jefferson.


" It neither picks my pocket nor breaks my leg."

/Yeah, TJ was talking about religious tolerance but it works for a lot of things.


I assume it's as easy as saying they are playing a game. A game for grownups.
 
2013-02-01 10:08:44 AM
This absolutly has to be in Los Angeles
 
2013-02-01 10:09:13 AM

Sybarite: Parading your girlfriend through a residential street on the end of a leash is a classic case of "épater la bourgeoisie" - like when the Surrealist poet Gérard de Nerval used to promenade his pet lobster Thibault through the streets of Paris on the end of a blue ribbon.

At least it wasn't named Breakfast.

/silly name for a lobster


I've heard tell that Sir Gerald Nabardo has a pet prawn called Simon and you wouldn't call him a looney; furthermore, Dawn Pailthorpe, the lady show-jumper, had a clam, called Stafford, after the late Chancellor, Allan Bullock has two pikes, both called Chris, and Marcel Proust had an haddock! So, if you're calling the author of 'A la recherche du temps perdu' a looney, I shall have to ask you to step outside!
 
2013-02-01 10:12:56 AM

sundance1028: That having been said I just have to know out of curiosity - where is your line? There have to be some kinds of behavior that are unacceptable in public and I just want to know what would finally cross that line for you? I personally find the behavior of the couple in question rude, selfish and attention whorish at best. I'm fine with whatever they want to do in their own home/bedroom/torture chamber and I don't care about the gay/lesbian thing either. But there's gotta be a line somewhere. Where's yours?


Legality.  If it's legal, go ahead and do it.  If not, well, obviously don't.  Are there things I'd rather not see when I'm out in public?  Lots of them.  But my dislike - or anyone else's dislike - isn't sufficient reason to "draw the line" as you put it.  The sooner we get over the current trend of "people shouldn't offend my delicate sensibilities", the better.
 
2013-02-01 10:14:14 AM
Maybe just buy one of these for your kid and start taking them for walks.
bios.weddingbee.com
 
2013-02-01 10:17:14 AM

WhippingBoy: Bullshiat. So if I go to a kindergarten school bus stop and start screaming obscenities at the top of my lungs, people should just mind their business and "let me do my thing"?


Walking down the street, with your girlfriend on a leash minding your own business is a little different that what you describe. Which could actually be disturbing the peace or disorderly conduct, which are both arrestable offenses.
 
2013-02-01 10:19:16 AM

WaitWhatWhy: Maybe just buy one of these for your kid and start taking them for walks.
[bios.weddingbee.com image 250x262]


That is less acceptable to me than my lesbian neighbor taking her gf out for a walk in full bondage with leash.  I would loathe my parents today if they did that to me.
 
2013-02-01 10:20:45 AM

abhorrent1: WhippingBoy: Bullshiat. So if I go to a kindergarten school bus stop and start screaming obscenities at the top of my lungs, people should just mind their business and "let me do my thing"?

Walking down the street, with your girlfriend on a leash minding your own business is a little different that what you describe. Which could actually be disturbing the peace or disorderly conduct, which are both arrestable offenses.


But if it's not, people must STFU and mind their own business.
 
2013-02-01 10:23:30 AM
The columnists advice is surprisingly good and insightful.

/TTIUW-sex-ay-P
 
2013-02-01 10:23:32 AM

CheekyMonkey: Perhaps, but it isn't really her business, is it? My response would have been, "Are you always such a nosy coont, or is today my lucky day?"


That's the nice version of what she deserved to hear.
 
2013-02-01 10:27:51 AM

WhippingBoy: abhorrent1: WhippingBoy: Bullshiat. So if I go to a kindergarten school bus stop and start screaming obscenities at the top of my lungs, people should just mind their business and "let me do my thing"?

Walking down the street, with your girlfriend on a leash minding your own business is a little different that what you describe. Which could actually be disturbing the peace or disorderly conduct, which are both arrestable offenses.

But if it's not, people must STFU and mind their own business.


I agree. If it's not illegal do what you want and people should mind their own business.
 
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