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2013-02-01 08:58:53 AM  
if i ever lose my virginity, i'll certainly let you guys know.

i turn 34 this year, and at the rate i'm going, i'll probably lose it to my future mail order bride.  women in the united states apparently want nothing to do with me, but maybe a nice woman from the ukraine might take a chance with me.
 
2013-02-01 09:01:25 AM  
It's really worth reading the entire article by the researchers, rather than sticking solely to biased summaries like this pathetic Slate article.  Go to the original, linked in the article.

By the way, Table 1 indicates that, when it comes to the first time, boys experience more physical and emotional satisfaction, more of an afterglow, and less anxiety.

In my opinion, our culture puts too much emphasis on virginity as a commodity that can be lost.
 
2013-02-01 09:06:41 AM  

enderthexenocide: if i ever lose my virginity, i'll certainly let you guys know.

i turn 34 this year, and at the rate i'm going, i'll probably lose it to my future mail order bride.  women in the united states apparently want nothing to do with me, but maybe a nice woman from the ukraine might take a chance with me.


Don't buy anything you can't test drive.
 
2013-02-01 09:20:15 AM  

miss diminutive: Gulper Eel: regaining their virginity.

How exactly does one do this?


Going without for twenty four years will do the trick. Last time I so much as kissed a woman was 1993. My last attempt at a date was 2000, and she stood me up. Me, in action at a singles bar. I wouldn't be wanted if I robbed a bank.
 
2013-02-01 09:23:05 AM  

EngineerAU: Peki: /the fact that I'm bi, like to be submissive, and have a good amount of kink means I'm normal. Right?

That or it means your profile just got viewed by almost every guy here.


/Guilty
 
2013-02-01 09:23:51 AM  
This is not a bookmark.  Seriously, it's not.  This thread had so much potential.  Instead it's turned into a catalog of whiny biatching.
 
2013-02-01 09:29:12 AM  

calm like a bomb: This is not a bookmark.  Seriously, it's not.  This thread had so much potential.  Instead it's turned into a catalog of whiny biatching.


The last 2 boobies threads did the the same thing. :(
 
2013-02-01 09:32:30 AM  

TenJed_77: calm like a bomb: This is not a bookmark.  Seriously, it's not.  This thread had so much potential.  Instead it's turned into a catalog of whiny biatching.

The last 2 boobies threads did the the same thing. :(


Hell, the last redhead thread was a ginger sausage fest. This may just be the thread that redeems fark this week. EIP

/I jest
// well, the E is in the P
///but I have no real need of any B in the E
(plenty of B in the RL)
 
2013-02-01 09:33:25 AM  
First time I was 17 and she was 40.  Since then all my relationships ( with the exception of one very short marriage back in the 90's) have been with women at least 10 years older than me.  Even now, if I find myself checking out passing women, I tend to gravitate towards those with silver hair.

/D1vwife is 55, I am 43
//I'm like the anti-pedo
 
2013-02-01 09:38:36 AM  

Pocket Ninja: This may explain why I've spent my entire life searching for that one special someone who wants to make out in the back row of a theater during Naked Gun and then engage in a seconds-long encounter in a half-lit parking garage in the front seat of a white Ford escort owned by someone's mother. Forever alone. Forever. Alone.


WAIT! That's MY experience, too!

Except it was a Chevy Citation.
 
2013-02-01 09:39:28 AM  

adenosine: Well, luckily I'm protected by not having a strong enough sex drive to overcome my natural hatred and distrust of other people. I'm sure dying without getting laid will in no way have negative repercussions in my life.


But it will sure mess up your kids' lives.
 
2013-02-01 09:45:09 AM  
Lost mine at 32 to my now wife who's 30

/yes the only lover I ever had
// No she's not mail order
/// She's a fiesty half Mexican bbw.
 
2013-02-01 09:56:42 AM  
It certianly scarred me.

Everytime I see a high-school gym coach I get really nervious, and start to sweat. I also get a half-chub for some reason.
 
2013-02-01 10:08:42 AM  
ExperianScaresCthulhu:
Off topic, looking at the male stories so far on the first two page, a whole lot of 'I was taken advantage of by a chick who didn't care about me and who I didn't care about, at least it's over with' and 'at least it's over with'.  Fewer 'i wanted it to be special' (though they exist, they just are dwarfed by the first group).  Is that reality, or memory not being reliable for one group or the other?


One thing to remember about men, if things don't go the way they wanted, they lie.  The first girl left him after sex, "Well, I got that out of the way".  A fish got away, 'you should have seen the size of that fish'.  Fark isn't the only place people tell BS and expect others to buy it.

I lost my virginity to my wife, so I don't need to lie.  She was hot and still is, hit it often, rinse and repeat.

 To the guy who mentioned an intermission on the wedding day so the new couple could consummate, I couldn't agree more.  Why tire them out and then yell make some babies as the drive away?  Sounds cruel to me.
 
2013-02-01 10:11:54 AM  
I feel a lot worse about losing my first pocket knife.  Viriginity is an over rated commodity.  Who cares?
 
2013-02-01 10:12:20 AM  
abcnews.go.com

There's a first time for everything
 
2013-02-01 10:12:29 AM  

steerforth: It definitely scarred me for life: I was completely pissed and fell over a timber fence, cutting the bejesus out of my knee. The scar's still there. I had meat falling out of me quite a bit that night.


www.fairfaxunderground.com
 
2013-02-01 10:20:56 AM  
Well, my first time has left me unable to finish unless my father is banging on the wall yelling at us to "keep it down in there!".

No, not really.
 
2013-02-01 10:21:05 AM  

nonzero: Hell, the last redhead thread was a ginger sausage fest.



I was okay with that one.  Farkettes need something to rub one out to every once in a while.
 
2013-02-01 10:24:12 AM  
First time was on a blanket in a park in Niagara Falls after a fancy dinner out.  I was 17 he was 20, both virgins.  It was good because we both were clueless, and it got waaaaay better.  Dated for two years, had sex all the freakin' time, in the craziest of places.  It was all we did - either get it on or tease each other wanting to get it on.  Outside was popular (lots of hikes) since we both lived at home, his car (was so sad when he switched from the bench-seat Bonneville to a Grand Am with the centre console), our parents' basements while they were upstairs.  We split when I went to university, but kept having Friends-with-benefits sex every Thursday for another two years.  He used to drive up, we'd do it when he walked in the door, we'd go out for dinner and a movie and we'd find some secluded place to do it - many a tryst on the movie theatre roof (a small urban parkette up there), and then a send-off before he drove home.

Had other partners in those times, but none like my first.  Married now to someone else, husband is awesome and much much kinkier, but sex is way less frequent than I would like.  Usually a wonderful event but man I miss that "all the time, anywhere, anyhow, even if it's a five-minute go, just because" fun with the first.  It was the only thing good about us, but man it was good.
 
2013-02-01 10:30:48 AM  
My ex lost her virginity to a guy who was sentenced to 18 months for statutory rape. (she was 15 at the time).  After dating me, she went on to a long and distinguished career making fat chick porn.  It's kind of nice when the internet has archives of naked pictures of your ex.  And 13 years later, we're still friends.  Nice girl.  She really liked to fark.  And watch porn.
 
2013-02-01 10:38:47 AM  

TenJed_77: enderthexenocide: if i ever lose my virginity, i'll certainly let you guys know.

i turn 34 this year, and at the rate i'm going, i'll probably lose it to my future mail order bride.  women in the united states apparently want nothing to do with me, but maybe a nice woman from the ukraine might take a chance with me.

Don't buy anything you can't test drive.


Exactly.  If it flies, floats or farks, rent, don't buy.

/2 spaces after a period
//screw your precious bits - there's a good reason why
///Grammar Nazi in the old style
////yay slashies!
 
2013-02-01 10:39:06 AM  
The scarring came later after we got married.

Then she left me, I went manwhoring and used my greatly improved goddamned sexual tyranasaurus skills to woo Mrs. Smurf.
 
2013-02-01 10:58:27 AM  

Grand_Moff_Joseph: The wife and I both punched our "V cards" when we got married.  Suffice it to say, everything went well, and you won't hear any complaints from either of us.

However, I have to admit that I'm a bit surprised that we managed to pull it off at all.  Between getting up extra early for hair appointments, tux adjustments, and last minute stuff, a wedding, a reception, and untangling the random crap that my buddies tied to my car, we were both beyond exhausted.

They really should allow a 1-2 hour break between weddings and receptions, so the newlyweds can take care of things while they're not tired as hell.  ;)


Same here, but we decided to have our reception the day after the wedding ceremony. It was great - got married in the morning, had a group lunch with friends and family then took off to the hotel. Too many comments on how "relaxed" we looked the next day at the reception..lol. That was almost 22 yrs ago. Good memories
 
2013-02-01 11:07:29 AM  

TheBlackFlag: HempHead: [juliaoswald.files.wordpress.com image 850x686]

What the fark is the matter with you?  (other than being a Paedophiltheir


Hmmm...if you see something sexual in that photo you might want to get yourself checked out at the closet Family Resource Council or call Kirk Camron.
 
2013-02-01 11:11:07 AM  

NeoBad: That sweet hooker did not scar me.  She saved me.  I suspect those with scars are doing it wrong or are just mentally farked up to begin with.


I'd imagine people who end up scarred from it are exactly the people this study hit--straight white kids who were told their whole lives that THIS IS THE BIGGEST DEAL EVER and your wedding is THE BEST DAY OF YOUR LIFE and you MUST WAIT BECAUSE IT IS SO SPECIAL!!!11!!!!eleventy!

Those of us with, say, Asperger's or something else that makes us not give a flying shiat just go, fark, have fun, and be like 'damn, I wanna try that again'.
 
2013-02-01 11:17:17 AM  

Jack's Smirking Revenge: TenJed_77: enderthexenocide: if i ever lose my virginity, i'll certainly let you guys know.

i turn 34 this year, and at the rate i'm going, i'll probably lose it to my future mail order bride.  women in the united states apparently want nothing to do with me, but maybe a nice woman from the ukraine might take a chance with me.

Don't buy anything you can't test drive.

Exactly.  If it flies, floats or farks, rent, don't buy.

/2 spaces after a period
//screw your precious bits - there's a good reason why
///Grammar Nazi in the old style
////yay slashies!


Hate to burst your bubble...

http://www.slate.com/articles/technology/technology/2011/01/space_in va ders.html?wpisrc=most_viral
 
2013-02-01 11:23:37 AM  

PsiChick: NeoBad: That sweet hooker did not scar me.  She saved me.  I suspect those with scars are doing it wrong or are just mentally farked up to begin with.

I'd imagine people who end up scarred from it are exactly the people this study hit--straight white kids who were told their whole lives that THIS IS THE BIGGEST DEAL EVER and your wedding is THE BEST DAY OF YOUR LIFE and you MUST WAIT BECAUSE IT IS SO SPECIAL!!!11!!!!eleventy!

Those of us with, say, Asperger's or something else that makes us not give a flying shiat just go, fark, have fun, and be like 'damn, I wanna try that again'.


You may have a point.  I never really had the idea that sex was something life changing.  Not something to talk about in public necessarily, and certainly special, but also not worth the status that some folks seem to give it.
 
2013-02-01 11:30:38 AM  

I May Be Crazy But...: PsiChick: NeoBad: That sweet hooker did not scar me.  She saved me.  I suspect those with scars are doing it wrong or are just mentally farked up to begin with.

I'd imagine people who end up scarred from it are exactly the people this study hit--straight white kids who were told their whole lives that THIS IS THE BIGGEST DEAL EVER and your wedding is THE BEST DAY OF YOUR LIFE and you MUST WAIT BECAUSE IT IS SO SPECIAL!!!11!!!!eleventy!

Those of us with, say, Asperger's or something else that makes us not give a flying shiat just go, fark, have fun, and be like 'damn, I wanna try that again'.

You may have a point.  I never really had the idea that sex was something life changing.  Not something to talk about in public necessarily, and certainly special, but also not worth the status that some folks seem to give it.


I'm sure my folks, who are good decent Christian types, tried to give that impression. I was just too Aspie to figure out more than 'hey, pretty people exist! Oooh, cool, fun shiat to do!'.

Plus, I apparently have hypersexual episodes. That helps.
 
2013-02-01 11:40:50 AM  

PsiChick: I May Be Crazy But...: PsiChick: NeoBad: That sweet hooker did not scar me.  She saved me.  I suspect those with scars are doing it wrong or are just mentally farked up to begin with.

I'd imagine people who end up scarred from it are exactly the people this study hit--straight white kids who were told their whole lives that THIS IS THE BIGGEST DEAL EVER and your wedding is THE BEST DAY OF YOUR LIFE and you MUST WAIT BECAUSE IT IS SO SPECIAL!!!11!!!!eleventy!

Those of us with, say, Asperger's or something else that makes us not give a flying shiat just go, fark, have fun, and be like 'damn, I wanna try that again'.

You may have a point.  I never really had the idea that sex was something life changing.  Not something to talk about in public necessarily, and certainly special, but also not worth the status that some folks seem to give it.

I'm sure my folks, who are good decent Christian types, tried to give that impression. I was just too Aspie to figure out more than 'hey, pretty people exist! Oooh, cool, fun shiat to do!'.

Plus, I apparently have hypersexual episodes. That helps.


*cocks eyebrow*

How YOU doin'?
 
2013-02-01 11:41:15 AM  
I lost mine to the girl who eventually became my wife.  I am slightly older so I was 18she 17, she had had other boyfriends but she was my first girlfriend.  It was her room in moms basement.  We had made out several times before and I had gotten her off with my hand.  But the first time we went 'all the way'  had a nice build up followed by a 2 minute (if that) performance on my part.

/Whoever said that there should be a break between marriage and reception is absolutely right.  We were so tired.  But she was determined to do a little something extra.  So for the first and only time she allowed me to blow my load on her face.  Now I'm lucky if it happens once a month.
 
2013-02-01 11:45:16 AM  

Skyd1v: First time I was 17 and she was 40.  Since then all my relationships ( with the exception of one very short marriage back in the 90's) have been with women at least 10 years older than me.  Even now, if I find myself checking out passing women, I tend to gravitate towards those with silver hair.

/D1vwife is 55, I am 43
//I'm like the anti-pedo


Classic oedipus complex.... ..
 
2013-02-01 11:45:54 AM  
My first time was with a hot little short haired punk girl at a Joe Strummer concert, in a secluded balcony overlooking the entire stage and crowd.  We lived seven hours apart but met a few months earlier when she was in my hometown.  I saved up some money, drove out to see her, and ended up staying for nine days.  My favorite part was when for three days I stayed at her mom's house and was relegated to sleeping on the couch.  This girl would wake up around 4 or 5am, sneak onto the couch with me, we'd aggressively and quietly get down to business, eat some ice cream, and then she'd sneak back into her bedroom.  After her mom went to work we would screw like rabbits all day.

But distance is a biatch and it didn't work out.  She eventually got a job and her boss knocked her up about a year later.  I was heart broken but brushed it off as well as I could.  Looking back on it now*, I was over her quicker than I thought I would be but she left me with a penchant for girls with short hair.  It was a good experience for me.  Now, three other specific girls from the intervening 14 years is a different matter.  They each ruined me in a particular way and now I'm single, 31 years old, and don't give a sh*t about dating anyone anymore.

* I decided to look her up while typing this.  Yikes....jail time and probably drugs and copious amounts of junk food did not do her well.
 
2013-02-01 11:49:33 AM  
the dorm behind Mt Rushmore.  she was patient and amused.  no scars.
 
2013-02-01 11:52:47 AM  

Citrate1007: Skyd1v: First time I was 17 and she was 40.  Since then all my relationships ( with the exception of one very short marriage back in the 90's) have been with women at least 10 years older than me.  Even now, if I find myself checking out passing women, I tend to gravitate towards those with silver hair.

/D1vwife is 55, I am 43
//I'm like the anti-pedo

Classic oedipus complex.... ..


Yeah?  Whatever.  I don't worry about it or try to read to much into it since it doesn't affect/harm anyone in any way.
 
2013-02-01 12:36:29 PM  

TheBlackFlag: Sounds like the makings for a family of Crazy Religious Serial Killers., tbh.  Actually, did they already make a movie about your family starring Matthew McConaughey and Bill Paxton?



No, I was thinking along the lines of - hold no romantic thoughts whatsoever, be  a callous jerk and get what you can when you can and don't feel happy till you make them cry.  I guess I did make it sound more fantastic than reality, which I'm still doing.
 
2013-02-01 12:49:47 PM  

LibertyHiller: Jack's Smirking Revenge: TenJed_77: enderthexenocide: if i ever lose my virginity, i'll certainly let you guys know.

i turn 34 this year, and at the rate i'm going, i'll probably lose it to my future mail order bride.  women in the united states apparently want nothing to do with me, but maybe a nice woman from the ukraine might take a chance with me.

Don't buy anything you can't test drive.

Exactly.  If it flies, floats or farks, rent, don't buy.

/2 spaces after a period
//screw your precious bits - there's a good reason why
///Grammar Nazi in the old style
////yay slashies!

Hate to burst your bubble...

http://www.slate.com/articles/technology/technology/2011/01/space_in va ders.html?wpisrc=most_viral


Whatever.  It's Slate.  Slate is wrong about, well, just about everything.

/Two Spaces!
//Single space is for savages.
 
2013-02-01 12:58:05 PM  

Hyatus: The time I almost lost my virginity was probably a shorter, crazier story.

..

Hell, I think your story scarred me.  Vaginitis is a terrible thing.
 
2013-02-01 01:03:38 PM  

LibertyHiller: Jack's Smirking Revenge: TenJed_77: enderthexenocide: if i ever lose my virginity, i'll certainly let you guys know.
i turn 34 this year, and at the rate i'm going, i'll probably lose it to my future mail order bride.  women in the united states apparently want nothing to do with me, but maybe a nice woman from the ukraine might take a chance with me.

Don't buy anything you can't test drive.

Exactly.  If it flies, floats or farks, rent, don't buy.
/2 spaces after a period
//screw your precious bits - there's a good reason why
///Grammar Nazi in the old style
////yay slashies!

Hate to burst your bubble...
http://www.slate.com/articles/technology/technology/2011/01/space_in va ders.html?wpisrc=most_viral


i type in all lower case letters and you guys are concerned about me using two spaces after a period?  i treat language and typing style as a personal creative statement.  capital letters are awkward and ugly, and i prefer the simple elegance of lower case.  and sentences should have plenty of space between them, there's no reason to cram everything together.  it's not like the internet is going to run out of room if i use two spaces instead of one.

and technically, i can "try before i buy" a mail order bride.  american law dictates that i must travel to the woman's home country and meet her in person before we get married.  in fact, many men travel and meet the women more than once before deciding to get married.  so it's likely i'll have sex before marriage.  but like i said, i'm going to be 34 so sex isn't exactly my priority.  i just want to meet someone nice and get married so i don't die alone.
 
2013-02-01 01:04:10 PM  

Mr_Fabulous: My first time was awful. I was terrible at it, and so was she. Ditto the second time.

Then we decided to slow down and get it right. A nice, long, hot shower together... Followed by a good five minutes of enthusiastic cunnelingus... Followed by a good slow grinding fark on the carpeted bathroom floor.

I consider that to be my real first time. And it was glorious.


I'd like to follow up my post with two key observations.

1) I clearly recall, as I was standing there in the shower and soaping up those large, firm, 16-year-old boobies, I said to myself, "damn... I'm going to remember this moment for all the rest of my days." 34 years later, I can still remember everything about it vividly (right down to the Safeguard soap).

2) I have remained a big fan (and skilled practitioner) of oral from that day forward.

That is all.
 
2013-02-01 01:10:19 PM  
My semi-first time was a sweet older girl who said "Just the tip..."  I was young and dumb and thought she meant it, so just the tip.  Boy, do I feel like a fool now.

The first real time led to a year long relationship with a girl whose parents with a very active social life, almost never home.  Just what every growing boy needs.  The first time was in my friend's brother's bed, with Zappa's Sheik Yerbouti playing in the background.  The opening track "I have been in you" would have been delightfully apropos, but we hadn't yet done the deed at that point.

Baby, snaaaaakes...
 
2013-02-01 01:45:44 PM  

Anne.Uumellmahaye: Hubby punched my V card, so I suppose I'll never know the difference.


ditto
 
2013-02-01 01:56:40 PM  

NASAM: LibertyHiller: Jack's Smirking Revenge: TenJed_77: enderthexenocide: if i ever lose my virginity, i'll certainly let you guys know.

i turn 34 this year, and at the rate i'm going, i'll probably lose it to my future mail order bride.  women in the united states apparently want nothing to do with me, but maybe a nice woman from the ukraine might take a chance with me.

Don't buy anything you can't test drive.

Exactly.  If it flies, floats or farks, rent, don't buy.

/2 spaces after a period
//screw your precious bits - there's a good reason why
///Grammar Nazi in the old style
////yay slashies!

Hate to burst your bubble...

http://www.slate.com/articles/technology/technology/2011/01/space_in va ders.html?wpisrc=most_viral

Whatever.  It's Slate.  Slate is wrong about, well, just about everything.

/Two Spaces!
//Single space is for savages.


Thank you for saying what I was going to say.  Some of us like to be able to look at a paragraph and know at a glance where a period denotes the end of a sentence, the end of an abbreviation, or something else.  It helps break up the wall of text.

Also, that precious Slate author seems to have stashed his sense of irony with those extra spaces he despises.  Two paragraphs after writing, "Can I let you in on a secret? Typing two spaces after a period is totally, completely, utterly, and inarguably wrong," he wrote, "What galls me about two-spacers isn't just their numbers. It's their certainty that they're right."  He sounds like the sort of uptight person who lost his virginity in an arranged marriage.
 
2013-02-01 01:58:09 PM  
No scars my first time, it was magical. I'd just moved to London, and I saw her. To this day the most beautiful, alluring, sexy woman I have ever seen. The epitomy of femininity. I met her in a club down in old Soho, where they drink Champagne that tastes just like Cherry Cola. She walked up to me and asked me to dance. I don't remember anything after that, and the next morning my butt hurt.
 
2013-02-01 02:00:31 PM  
I forget the first time, ask your Mom?
 
2013-02-01 02:02:07 PM  

swingbozo: Hyatus: The time I almost lost my virginity was probably a shorter, crazier story.
CSB, Dear Penthouse Rejections and tl;dr bait:

I wanted to lose my virginity with a girl I loved and cared for...up until I was 18.  I spent a month just before I was 19 at a friend's party house getting drunk, playing video games, trying weed, and being social.  This was when Tony Hawk and the first Grand Theft Auto were big...

FFS, TWO SPACES AFTER A PERIOD ARE AN ABOMINATION. Enough said.


Never learned to type properly and like to brag about it, don't you?
 
2013-02-01 02:03:50 PM  
>< I should've googled the type space thing.  It would appear spacing has changed since I learned how to type :x
 
2013-02-01 02:17:40 PM  

Genevieve Marie: I think the social constructs that make virginity sound like a Big Deal and the whole idea that human sexuality is unnatural and wrong farks up a lot more people than the sex itself.


^^^ THIS ^^^
 
2013-02-01 02:32:17 PM  

Shadow Blasko: 17 14, drugged and raped.

So, yeah, I think that has had a pretty significant outcome on my life. I'm probably a lot more gentle and cautious (unless explicitly told NOT to be) than I would be otherwise.

That has paid dividends beyond measure in my life, so... it sucked, but I think I won in the end.


Almost identical stories. I won in the end, too. He died in prison and I still have no sympathy.

But I do have a great sex life, so yeah, WINNING.

//Scary how common this story is....
 
2013-02-01 02:50:36 PM  

dopekitty74: mariner314: After seeing Scream 2 in the theater and then at her place. It was weird and had issues getting it going. Found out I'm good at going down however.

/later learned I usually need to ease in a new partner
//girthy

How YOU doin?

/WIE?
//EIP


Doing good. Happily engaged :)
 
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