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2013-02-01 12:52:29 AM

FizixJunkee: Nice find, subby.  Most farkers could use this information when they finally lose their virginities.


How many does one usually have?

/P.S. Your vagina's in the sink
 
2013-02-01 12:53:33 AM
Tell it to my uncle subby.
 
2013-02-01 12:54:34 AM
That is why some people prefer sexting.
 
2013-02-01 12:56:02 AM
That was the most traumatic 30 seconds of my life

idannyb.files.wordpress.com
 
2013-02-01 12:56:39 AM

SpdrJay: And scars may make you a virgin for life.....
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edwardjamesolmos.jpg


www.pajiba.com
It's ok, he makes his own Real Dolls.
 
2013-02-01 12:57:16 AM
If your sex story starts with: "Look at my horse, my horse is amazing, give it a lick... Mmmmm, it tastes just like raisins!" then there is no helping you from that trauma.
 
2013-02-01 01:06:25 AM
i finally had an orgasm, and my doctor told me it was the wrong kind.
 
2013-02-01 01:07:05 AM

hundreddollarman: Well, this thread should be entertaining.


I'd say most Farkers are safe.
 
2013-02-01 01:07:17 AM
I was 13, in a field behind a church on a pile of broken sidewalk slabs. Took my first hit of acid later that year, kinda tough to figure out where the scars come from.
 
2013-02-01 01:08:51 AM
With my cousin...
 
2013-02-01 01:09:05 AM

DreamyAltarBoy: I was 13, in a field behind a church on a pile of broken sidewalk slabs. Took my first hit of acid later that year, kinda tough to figure out where the scars come from.


If you were a Catholic altar boy, I'd say the sex.
 
2013-02-01 01:10:15 AM

KangTheMad: DreamyAltarBoy: I was 13, in a field behind a church on a pile of broken sidewalk slabs. Took my first hit of acid later that year, kinda tough to figure out where the scars come from.

If you were a Catholic altar boy, I'd say the sex.


Yeah, I'd ask the priest how good he was.
 
2013-02-01 01:11:19 AM
First time was a rape, so no study questions for me. Good news is the fiancé and I average once a day, so it's hard to say I'm scarred in any way.

/the fact that I'm bi, like to be submissive, and have a good amount of kink means I'm normal. Right?
 
2013-02-01 01:11:31 AM

Fano: FTA: "The study, conducted by two psychology professors at the Universities of Mississippi and Tennessee, purports to demonstrate that the way you lose your virginity "is so salient that it is related to future sexual satisfaction and functioning."

So, did their study revolve around "daddy says I'm the best" and "squeal like a pig"?


Came here to say something like that
 
2013-02-01 01:12:44 AM
13 boyscout camp circle jerk turned fourgy
 
2013-02-01 01:15:50 AM
I hope the coont hole I saved myself for can sleep at night after, you know, pretending she didn't have a husband and then, you know, revealing she did have a husband and, you know, using him for the reason she had to break up with me, you know, after I told her how: being a catholic dude - the first time was special, you know.

/may be a little bitter @ the girl
//may have gained 100lbs in protest
///may be a little bitter @ the loss of one's eternal soul.
////Is happy he will be teaching his sons to... well, you don't want to know
 
2013-02-01 01:16:23 AM
... Like in the back of a Volkswagon?
 
2013-02-01 01:18:25 AM
I lost mine having sex and I'm okay with that...
 
2013-02-01 01:18:55 AM
17, drugged and raped.

So, yeah, I think that has had a pretty significant outcome on my life. I'm probably a lot more gentle and cautious (unless explicitly told NOT to be) than I would be otherwise.

That has paid dividends beyond measure in my life, so... it sucked, but I think I won in the end.
 
2013-02-01 01:19:21 AM
18, freshman year. Passed out drunk in some chick's bed at an apartment party, woke to a bj. Lost focus sometime around when she started bouncing up and down on me. I remember the thought- 'Yay! Sex! Finally' I remember she was thick and blonde and had huge boobs. When I woke in the am, she was gone. I have no idea what her name was.

Scarred? Meh. I like em with more meat than bone.

/ CSB
 
2013-02-01 01:19:22 AM

cardex: 13 boyscout camp circle jerk turned fourgy


Well, damn son, that's an epic tale needs told.
 
2013-02-01 01:19:36 AM
1.bp.blogspot.com
 
2013-02-01 01:19:48 AM
I think the social constructs that make virginity sound like a Big Deal and the whole idea that human sexuality is unnatural and wrong farks up a lot more people than the sex itself.
 
2013-02-01 01:20:00 AM
For one thing, it ignores people whose first sexual encounter involved "physical force," which is, unfortunately, a not insignificant portion of the population. (Twelve people were excluded from the study because their first sexual encounter was rape.) It also defines virginity loss in a way that leaves out most lesbians and gay men, since the participants "needed to have had heterosexual intercourse to be eligible."

I can't stand people who throw their own agenda into their misunderstanding of how science works. Not that this study was necessarily great, but when you're trying to see the effects of some action on a person's future, you throw certain things, SUCH AS RAPE, out of the sample for obvious reasons. To say that they should have included rape victims is absolutely ludicrous. And the study was about heterosexual sex so as to not complicate matters (any more than they already are). So naturally the author tries to turn it into "these people's voices are aren't being heard!" sort of thing.

Learn to use science morans.
 
2013-02-01 01:20:14 AM
Slate is trying it's best to say the study was unscientific, but it was and is. Sorry if it doesn't say what you want it to say.

If they think they can do it, better, than do it. Fund it. Otherwise it's bullshiat to say "The truth is..." without having any shred of evidence to back it up and shiatting over those that do.
 
2013-02-01 01:20:30 AM
I used to pester and gawk at this beatiful black girl in my neighborhood for years. I was 12 and  she was several years older and used to tease me in front of everyone about how I would never get any so quit looking. Then one day, I guess she just needed some dick, she came at me and I lost mine in my playhouse (a bizzarre miniature version of our actual house made from leftover materials) with her. She told me never to tell anyone or I wouldn't get it again. Yeah, about that. lol
 
2013-02-01 01:20:58 AM

elchupacabra: ... Like in the back of a Volkswagon?


Sounds uncomfortable.
 
2013-02-01 01:22:47 AM
I remember thinking "THIS is what all the fuss is about? Really?".  About that time it was over, a minute or two total I'd say, and he was extremely pleased with himself.  Wanted to know if it was good for me.

God it was so farking stupid, but I didn't know shiat from shiat.  Complete waste of time and foreplay.
 
2013-02-01 01:25:12 AM
I remember too many first times I get them confused.
 
2013-02-01 01:25:26 AM
Lost mine to a Korean prostitute.  Still have a thing for Asians so this might be true.
 
2013-02-01 01:25:41 AM
And then, one day, I learned about the clitoris and just how much you could do w/ your hands and mouth.

I was glad I played cello and sax for so long- good muscle tone .

Since then....well, I pleased some ladies. Hell, the Mrs. is 11 years younger. Must be doing something right.
 
2013-02-01 01:27:28 AM
I had a friend who finally screwed some fat chick in his senior year in high school. His reaction, "I'm glad I got that over with". He later joined the coast guard, not that there's anything wrong with that.
 
2013-02-01 01:27:31 AM
After seeing Scream 2 in the theater and then at her place. It was weird and had issues getting it going. Found out I'm good at going down however.

/later learned I usually need to ease in a new partner
//girthy
 
2013-02-01 01:28:17 AM

RoyHobbs22: I imagine if it was by rape it would be scarring.


 I kind of figured that's why they didn't include the "rape ones". Plenty of studies have already been done on that.

 It's funny people are complaining about the study having parameters. All studies do. And not every person is a fit for every study. If you tried to do that, there'd be all kinds of problems (funding for your exceedingly large participant base comes to mind quickly).

 Others will expand and/or go over it in more detail as time goes on.
 
2013-02-01 01:28:20 AM
i called her Esmerelda but then she turned rotten!

they all go rotten, eventually :(


t3.gstatic.com
 
2013-02-01 01:29:08 AM

Christian Bale: For one thing, it ignores people whose first sexual encounter involved "physical force," which is, unfortunately, a not insignificant portion of the population. (Twelve people were excluded from the study because their first sexual encounter was rape.) It also defines virginity loss in a way that leaves out most lesbians and gay men, since the participants "needed to have had heterosexual intercourse to be eligible."

I can't stand people who throw their own agenda into their misunderstanding of how science works. Not that this study was necessarily great, but when you're trying to see the effects of some action on a person's future, you throw certain things, SUCH AS RAPE, out of the sample for obvious reasons. To say that they should have included rape victims is absolutely ludicrous. And the study was about heterosexual sex so as to not complicate matters (any more than they already are). So naturally the author tries to turn it into "these people's voices are aren't being heard!" sort of thing.

Learn to use science morans.


Annnd....this.

/guess I should've read just a few more posts down before posting.
 
2013-02-01 01:29:18 AM

Peki: First time was a rape, so no study questions for me. Good news is the fiancé and I average once a day, so it's hard to say I'm scarred in any way.

/the fact that I'm bi, like to be submissive, and have a good amount of kink means I'm normal. Right?


Sounds like it to me, more power to ya. And every one should have a bit of kink.
/Sorry about what happened.
 
2013-02-01 01:29:32 AM

Fark Rye For Many Whores: It's ok, he makes his own Real Dolls.


Kwame?
 
2013-02-01 01:32:32 AM

sxacho: I had a friend who finally screwed some fat chick in his senior year in high school. His reaction, "I'm glad I got that over with". He later joined the coast guard, not that there's anything wrong with that.


Later, he was thrown out of the Coast Guard for riding manatees.
 
2013-02-01 01:32:59 AM

cuzsis: It's funny people are complaining about the study having parameters. All studies do. And not every person is a fit for every study. If you tried to do that, there'd be all kinds of problems (funding for your exceedingly large participant base comes to mind quickly).


I just honestly can't see the value of a study on long term sexual satisfaction as related to the loss of virginity that only covers very young people who haven't had much time to enter into other relationships.
 
2013-02-01 01:33:17 AM

thorthor: My first time in the back seat of moms toyota corolla,


Hey, you and me have something in common!
 
2013-02-01 01:35:06 AM

Repo Man: rfenster: Cool, I'll keep this in mind in case I ever get lucky.

/Gotta happen one of these days.
//Doesn't it?
///Anyone want to take 46 year old out for a test drive?

Look on the bright side - no chance of STDs.


I heard you could git those from the public turlit!!!
 
2013-02-01 01:36:12 AM

Genevieve Marie: cuzsis: It's funny people are complaining about the study having parameters. All studies do. And not every person is a fit for every study. If you tried to do that, there'd be all kinds of problems (funding for your exceedingly large participant base comes to mind quickly).

I just honestly can't see the value of a study on long term sexual satisfaction as related to the loss of virginity that only covers very young people who haven't had much time to enter into other relationships.


Unfortunately, it's not exactly easy to do a study of people like you're describing.  By definition, it would take years to come to any sort of conclusion, as you would have to follow the same people for years.  But you know that, I'm sure.
 
2013-02-01 01:37:11 AM
If you killed them afterwards, and dumped the body in a 55 gallon drum of acid, but kept the head as a souvenir, does it still count?
 
2013-02-01 01:37:39 AM

Genevieve Marie: cuzsis: It's funny people are complaining about the study having parameters. All studies do. And not every person is a fit for every study. If you tried to do that, there'd be all kinds of problems (funding for your exceedingly large participant base comes to mind quickly).

I just honestly can't see the value of a study on long term sexual satisfaction as related to the loss of virginity that only covers very young people who haven't had much time to enter into other relationships.


Well said, I didn't RTFA or anything but really, what are they trying to prove?
 
2013-02-01 01:37:51 AM

Krieghund: Only if you do it right.



Last one out, please turn off the lights.
 
2013-02-01 01:39:10 AM

aaronius: Genevieve Marie: cuzsis: It's funny people are complaining about the study having parameters. All studies do. And not every person is a fit for every study. If you tried to do that, there'd be all kinds of problems (funding for your exceedingly large participant base comes to mind quickly).

I just honestly can't see the value of a study on long term sexual satisfaction as related to the loss of virginity that only covers very young people who haven't had much time to enter into other relationships.

Unfortunately, it's not exactly easy to do a study of people like you're describing.  By definition, it would take years to come to any sort of conclusion, as you would have to follow the same people for years.  But you know that, I'm sure.


I do. I understand why it would be challenging. I just also think it's the only way any research on this subject would be at all useful.

I mean, if you'd interviewed me a year after I lost my virginity, I would have still been pining for the guy I lost it to, because I was in love with him and he'd dumped me. It took a solid ten years of perspective to realize that part of the reason I thought I was in love with him was because I had to justify to myself the decision to have sex- and that a lot of the ideas I'd been raised with were screwy.
 
2013-02-01 01:41:09 AM

tinfoil-hat maggie: Well said, I didn't RTFA or anything but really, what are they trying to prove?


Probably that True Love Waits and OMG DON'T HAVE SEX THE WORLD WILL COME CRASHING DOWN AROUND YOU AND NO ONE WILL EVER LOVE YOU AGAIN.

Honestly, I think the idea that you're damaged or ruined by having sex screws up waaay more people than sex itself. Looking back when I was younger- I had a lot of sex. It was mostly highly enjoyable. The only stuff that really hurt at the time was people treating me as damaged because I'd chosen to have sex.
 
2013-02-01 01:41:11 AM

Genevieve Marie: aaronius: Genevieve Marie: cuzsis: It's funny people are complaining about the study having parameters. All studies do. And not every person is a fit for every study. If you tried to do that, there'd be all kinds of problems (funding for your exceedingly large participant base comes to mind quickly).

I just honestly can't see the value of a study on long term sexual satisfaction as related to the loss of virginity that only covers very young people who haven't had much time to enter into other relationships.

Unfortunately, it's not exactly easy to do a study of people like you're describing.  By definition, it would take years to come to any sort of conclusion, as you would have to follow the same people for years.  But you know that, I'm sure.

I do. I understand why it would be challenging. I just also think it's the only way any research on this subject would be at all useful.

I mean, if you'd interviewed me a year after I lost my virginity, I would have still been pining for the guy I lost it to, because I was in love with him and he'd dumped me. It took a solid ten years of perspective to realize that part of the reason I thought I was in love with him was because I had to justify to myself the decision to have sex- and that a lot of the ideas I'd been raised with were screwy.


Who knows, they may follow up with these people in a few years and see if anything has changed.  Anything is possible.

I won't even get into replying to your second point, as I'm just not all that into sharing intimate life details anonymously with people online that I don't even know.
 
2013-02-01 01:42:07 AM
Scar isn't the word I'd use, but yeah...
 
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