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(ABC 6 Providence)   ⇐ Farker's 9-month-old niece brutally allegedly slain by Epic D-bag --- Broke Farker seeks advice/help for doing something massively positive in light of such tragedy ⇒   (abc6.com) divider line 32
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2013-01-25 09:25:58 PM  
And why should I believe you, internet stranger?
 
2013-01-25 09:30:50 PM  

aiiee: And why should I believe you, internet stranger?


Could be a liter.  Hard to know much here without further details.
 
2013-01-25 09:34:10 PM  
See if you can talk to some state sponsored counselor first. You are probably more affected than you think.
 
2013-01-25 09:38:33 PM  

SJKebab: aiiee: And why should I believe you, internet stranger?

Could be a liter.  Hard to know much here without further details.


Still a stranger to me.

Subby could give his time to helping the mother get by.  Find counseling for her.

Lots of stuff, none of which require my money.
 
2013-01-25 09:41:58 PM  
Wow, that is horrible.  There is evil in this world, and that creep looks evil.  Sorry for your loss, dear subby.
 
2013-01-25 09:42:37 PM  
So many of these stories involve a worthless live in BF that watch the kids while the mother is working. Hey girls - don't leave your baby with assholes.
Subby, I will pitch into a fund for many drinks. You may be feeling guilt for not kicking this guy's ass or not watching the baby yourself. You might get off your ass and offer support and comfort to the niece.
Kid needs to be sterilized. If you behave this brutally against a  child you lose reproductive rights.
 
2013-01-25 09:47:23 PM  
Well, you could get yourself thrown in jail and then shank this dude.  Doesn't take any money, but I'm not sure how committed you are to this, though.
 
2013-01-25 09:51:40 PM  

Relatively Obscure: Well, you could get yourself thrown in jail and then shank this dude.  Doesn't take any money, but I'm not sure how committed you are to this, though.


Good idea. Subby needs to stick something high up into his colon that he can use as a weapon. Hmm, spoon, crochet needle, jart?
Work with me here people, this is important.
 
2013-01-25 09:53:40 PM  
Even though I am ideologically opposed to the death penalty, it's a fact of life that some people need to die, and this son of a biatch is one of them.
 
2013-01-25 10:01:08 PM  

AbbeySomeone: Good idea. Subby needs to stick something high up into his colon that he can use as a weapon. Hmm, spoon, crochet needle, jart?
Work with me here people, this is important.


With enough practice, the sky is apparently the limit.

/Used to work in a prison.
 
2013-01-25 10:06:54 PM  
First and foremost be there for the mother. Then (even if you don't have the money) try to solicit donations from friends and family to make a donation in the child's memory to some abused children's fund (I'm familiar with the organization "Children's Rights," and I'm certain there's a ton more out there that are also great).

But really being the supportive brother/sister is the best thing to do now.
 
2013-01-25 10:13:53 PM  
Sorry for your situation and your loss subby, a good deal of the blame probably goes to  "Epic D-bag" parents for the way they raised him. But ultimately the blame goes to him for not valuing what a human life is.
 
2013-01-25 10:17:23 PM  

AbbeySomeone: So many of these stories involve a worthless live in BF that watch the kids while the mother is working. Hey girls - don't leave your baby with assholes.

You might get off your ass and offer support and comfort to the niece.


I agree with the first part. As to the second part, The niece is dead. He or she would be supporting the mother or father. I'd be pissed as hell if I was the father and didn't have a sayin who lived with the mom.
 
2013-01-25 10:24:32 PM  

Relatively Obscure: With enough practice, the sky is apparently the limit.


Technically the duodenum is the limit...
 
2013-01-25 10:27:44 PM  

Gwendolyn: AbbeySomeone: So many of these stories involve a worthless live in BF that watch the kids while the mother is working. Hey girls - don't leave your baby with assholes.

You might get off your ass and offer support and comfort to the niece.

I agree with the first part. As to the second part, The niece is dead. He or she would be supporting the mother or father. I'd be pissed as hell if I was the father and didn't have a sayin who lived with the mom.


I was intending to refer to the mother as the 'niece'.
Subby must be young, as in, really young if that is truly his niece.
 
2013-01-25 10:38:56 PM  
You have my sincerest condolences, subby.

I am very, very, very sorry.
 
2013-01-25 10:40:43 PM  
I feel inspiration to donate to Planned Parenthood again.
Seriously, these situations are too predictable and tragic.
 
2013-01-25 11:11:55 PM  
Sorry for your loss, submitter.
I wish you luck.
 
2013-01-25 11:14:56 PM  

Nabb1: Even though I am ideologically opposed to the death penalty, it's a fact of life that some people need to die, and this son of a biatch is one of them.


How dare you, counselor?  The only mention of a trial here is in a typographical error.  Innocent, until proven guilty beyond a reasonable doubt.  You must remember that from law school.  Really, you must.  Disappointed in you.  I'll be pouting in the corner.
 
2013-01-25 11:19:05 PM  

AbbeySomeone: I feel inspiration to donate to Planned Parenthood again.
Seriously, these situations are too predictable and tragic.


you want to kill children too?
 
2013-01-25 11:19:34 PM  
My heart goes out to you, subby.  Please, seek help for yourself and for the child's mother.  You may think you're ok now, but even a single check is worth it.

As for doing something else positive, may I suggest doing whatever you have to do to see that this asshole goes to Death Row (or at least life w/out parole)
 
2013-01-25 11:36:46 PM  

IronTom: AbbeySomeone: I feel inspiration to donate to Planned Parenthood again.
Seriously, these situations are too predictable and tragic.

you want to kill children too?


Had that one been prevented via birthcontrol or aborted after the fact, she would not have had to suffer as she did.;
Absolute f*cking truth.
 
2013-01-25 11:38:04 PM  

AbbeySomeone: IronTom: AbbeySomeone: I feel inspiration to donate to Planned Parenthood again.
Seriously, these situations are too predictable and tragic.

you want to kill children too?

Had that one been prevented via birthcontrol or aborted after the fact, she would not have had to suffer as she did.;
Absolute f*cking truth.


you disgust me
 
2013-01-25 11:41:08 PM  
=== OP here ===

Alright, here's the intro:
For all intents and purposes, I am a stranger to Tommy (the father of the victim, Ariel). His biological dad is my step dad and I have not had the chance to meet Tommy since I moved to Mississippi. (Leaving New Bedford was probably one of the best things I've ever done... just too bad I landed in Sippi. My wife is a helluva woman). I'm the oldest of the 11 kids if we are counting all the blood siblings, steps, and halfs from the various remarriages. Look, we are certainly not a perfect family, but there are a lot of good people in it.

Background:
Tommy (my step bro) is the father of Ariel.
Ariel is the 9-month-old victim of this terrible event.
Ethen Harrison is the "boyfriend" that "allegedly" commited the heinous act.
Honestly, I don't even know Ariel's mom's name.

Back on point: This is fricken tragic and absolutely kills me on the inside. It has a lot to do with having a baby girl myself... yet I can't imagine being in Tommy's shoes as he didn't find out till earlier today from what I understand. This isn't about me. Hell it has nothing to do with me and, outside of picking my girl up early from daycare, I'm not going to be hurting anymore that the rest of you heartstricken secretly-fluffy farkers since I don't know Tommy directly.

All I know, isafter hearing the news myself, all I could think was, "Hell... WTF could I possibly do..." This kind of situation paralyzes you. You can never really prepare yourself for this kind of event. But damn, it makes you want to do something.

I don't know how that side of the family's finances are, but I'm sure we'll take care of the immediate expenses and whatnot. MA Health should at least be adequate at getting them counseling and stuff. What I am trying to do is think of something... anything... to turn this into some sort of positive. It would be tough to do so, but I have to try.

So far the only real idea I have is setting up some kind of group donation (And I want you fantastic farkers to get that due credit) in Ariel's name to some charity along the lines of Prevent Child Abuse America. I welcome any other appropriate suggestions for charities. Not my field of expertise admittedly.

I'm crowdsourcing here. You fantastic farkers have done some incredible things and presented some awesome ideas in the past. I need to pick your brains.

I'm looking for: Ideas, suggestions, maybe even some how-to's.

Thank you all, you fantastic bastids.

/ still annoyed you can't comment on your own submitted link without a subscription
// Fine, here's my $5. Hell, I owe fark for hours of entertainment anyway.
 
2013-01-25 11:42:11 PM  
I have an 8 year old nephew. He's going to be really annoyed with me the next time I see him, what with my constantly hugging him. Luckily all the pizza and ice cream he'll be getting will totally make up for his aunt being so uncool.

I'm really, really sorry, subby. :(
 
2013-01-25 11:54:16 PM  
Again, no need to throw perfectly good sorrow my way.

For all intents and purposes, I am "random internet guy saddened by child's death."

I don't know. Maybe I'm some sort of Taoist at heart and trying for some massive brightness to help overshadow such a loss. I can't speak for the father, mother, or the individual I dubbed "D-Bag" since I haven't met any of them. All I know is some poor baby girl is no longer alive and the circumstances depressing as hell. And the "it actually happened in my family" realization really just pushes you into wanting to do something. Yes, it makes us all angry as hell, but the anger doesn't help those other kids out there.
 
2013-01-26 12:02:33 AM  
Oh, and one of you posters were right.

I didn't put "allegedly" slain in the title. Seriously, everything I "know" is heresay and the kid hasn't been to trial (though it doesn't look good at the moment).

Mod's please correct it. Emotional shortcoming on my part due to quickly rage-typing a title.
 
2013-01-26 12:15:45 AM  
WPRI 12 had some better reporting on this than my original link: Youtube WPRI
 
2013-01-26 01:41:28 AM  
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2013-01-26 04:24:52 AM  
Chief_ Danz153A: All I know, is after hearing the news myself, all I could think was, "Hell... WTF could I possibly do..." This kind of situation paralyzes you. You can never really prepare yourself for this kind of event. But damn, it makes you want to do something.

There is no preparation for such a terrible thing, but there might have been prevention. First, I am so sorry to hear this.

The undeniable fact is that children are at much higher risk of injury, abuse and death when they are left in the care of a stepparent, boyfriend or girlfriend.

There is even a name for this phenomenon - the Cinderella Effect.

According to a study cited on Wikipedia, non-biologically related parents are up to a hundred times more likely to kill a child than biological parents.

This is hard to talk about, because most stepparents are wonderful people who would never hurt any child. Others, not so much.  My own husband has been a wonderful step dad to my two children from my first marriage.He's been a part of my kid's lives for more than half of their lives now. But he never spent any appreciable time around my kids until I was sure that he was right for our family. I've known many people who were super-careful, and some who rushed into a relationship without thinking. Some of those turned out terribly for the kids. Not as bad as this, but bad is bad. Kids deserve protection.

Too many people don't wait or look for signs of problems, probably because they are unaware of the risks, or don't want to think about it, or don't want to insult the person they're dating. It sounds really cold to treat someone you're involved with as though they may be a potential abuser, but a parent's first responsibility should always be to their children.

So, if you want to make a difference, maybe push for a program to tell women and men to be especially careful with who they allow around their children after they separate from their child's other parent. Maybe people should demand that who can be around their kids be spelled out in custody decrees. Maybe this is information that could be available at pediatrician's offices, or at schools.

There is disagreement about how the Cinderella effect fits into evolutionary psychology, but I don't think that anyone seriously thinks that the phenomenon isn't real - just questions about how it fits into psychological studies.

The Cinderella effect is not just a fairy tale, the Edmonton Sun

The Cinderella effect, Wikipedia

Google Scholar, published studies on the Cinderella effect

Keeping you in my thoughts.
 
2013-01-26 08:33:20 AM  

AbbeySomeone: IronTom: AbbeySomeone: I feel inspiration to donate to Planned Parenthood again.
Seriously, these situations are too predictable and tragic.

you want to kill children too?

Had that one been prevented via birthcontrol or aborted after the fact, she would not have had to suffer as she did.;
Absolute f*cking truth.


You are not a very good person.
 
2013-01-26 08:55:13 AM  
Dang. Thanks dustbunnyboo . I had actually never read about the Cinderella effect. A sad but interesting study and I'll definitely be reading about it a bit more.

And thank you all for the well wishing. Doesn't look like a greeny is coming, which is fine. Just figured I'd hit up fark since the great fark mafia can sometimes bring some ideas to the table I'd never think of. I will say that in light of this tragedy, I am looking at the sad state of affairs that is the health/sex-ed down here in Jackson MS. These young mothers don't have a lot of good guidance at home, then get a less-than-adequate education/guidance at the school. Set up for failure.

And for those of you that weren't well-wishers... well, it's fark. All of us farkers know to check our sensitivities at the proverbial door. It's one of the things that makes fark... fark.
 
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