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(Daily Mail)   Hi, I am Colin Kaepernick's biological mom and I gave him up for adoption at six weeks. I would really like to see him and talk to him just because I never stopped thinking of him. This has NOTHING to do with the fact that he is famous now   (dailymail.co.uk) divider line 97
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2013-01-24 10:50:10 AM  
Biomom: Hey I really want to see you Im so terribly sorry about how things turned out.
Colin: EABOD biatch
Biomom: B-b-b-but I have always loved you and never stopped thinking about you!
Colin: EABOD biatch
Biomom: B-b-b-but you have a younger half brother and youre his hero
Colin: Really? Give me a minute here.
Biomom: Okay
Colin: Okay since Im a wealthy NFL QB and youre a no account whore trying to work her way into my life now that Im going to the SB my lawyers are going to be in touch with you and I will be taking custody of my younger half brother.
Biomom: O_o
Colin: Oh yeah and EABOD biatch!
 
2013-01-24 10:55:23 AM  
To be fair, TFA makes it clear she has been unsuccessfully trying to re-establish the relationship for the last 18 years, so it isn't really fair to make her out as opportunistic.
 
2013-01-24 10:58:29 AM  
Heidi has made numerous attempts to get back into contact with Colin over the past 18-years and each one has been rebuffed in a polite or lukewarm manner.

I think that about covers it
 
2013-01-24 11:07:50 AM  

gilgigamesh: To be fair, TFA makes it clear she has been unsuccessfully trying to re-establish the relationship for the last 18 years, so it isn't really fair to make her out as opportunistic.


This. Also, this was even a national story (that was even greenlit on Fark!) a couple months ago.
 
2013-01-24 11:08:57 AM  
Good for her for making the right choice. He'll grow up and realize the opportunities he's had are because of a very hard choice his biomom had to make. Had she kept him I seriously doubt he would be an NFL quarterback.
 
2013-01-24 11:09:09 AM  
Less than two weeks to the Superbowl and this comes out? Someone is trying to impact the game.
 
2013-01-24 11:09:23 AM  
I'm adopted.  I have no interest in finding my biological parents.  As far as I'm concerned, my parents are the people that loved and raised me.  If my biological mother somehow found me and wanted to contact me I'd be pissed.  I don't blame him for not wanting to have contact with his biological mother.
 
2013-01-24 11:12:46 AM  
meh. it's fine that she feels the need to reach out to him. it's also fine if he decides he doesn't want to know her. what a non-story. it's not like this is new.
 
2013-01-24 11:13:14 AM  
Submitter, this woman may have had no idea what became of her son until recently, especially if she doesn't follow football.  Give her a break.
 
2013-01-24 11:13:23 AM  
This doesn't really apply here it seems, but I always wondered why adopted children who've never met their parents are interested in doing so. That person is only your biological mother. That really means about nothing. She didn't raise you or do anything for you. You don't have to be mad, but you also shouldn't be interested. She's nobody to you.
 
2013-01-24 11:13:31 AM  
As a hopeful adoptive parent (1+ year and waiting now), open adoption is definitely the way to go. Situations like this would rarely occur if everyone knew everyone else and such.

/go 9ers!
 
2013-01-24 11:16:52 AM  

Frozboz: As a hopeful adoptive parent (1+ year and waiting now), open adoption is definitely the way to go. Situations like this would rarely occur if everyone knew everyone else and such.

/go 9ers!


And if I want my baby back I know where you live.

/chili's
 
2013-01-24 11:17:49 AM  
Some people on here have said this in an atriculate, well thought out manner.

I will not.

Subby:How about you read the article, dickhead?

Modmitter who approved this: How about you read the article, dickhead?

Yeesh.
 
2013-01-24 11:18:46 AM  

SkittlesAreYum: This doesn't really apply here it seems, but I always wondered why adopted children who've never met their parents are interested in doing so. That person is only your biological mother. That really means about nothing. She didn't raise you or do anything for you. You don't have to be mad, but you also shouldn't be interested. She's nobody to you.


It could be good for trying to figure out your genetic history. I don't see why you wouldn't want to know.
 
2013-01-24 11:19:36 AM  

xynix: Good for her for making the right choice. He'll grow up and realize the opportunities he's had are because of a very hard choice his biomom had to make. Had she kept him I seriously doubt he would be an NFL quarterback.


I think it depends upon the circumstances. I'm not adopted and I know enough to know that you really can't know what something feels like unless you have experienced it, especially adoption. But, if she was smart enough to know that she would be an unfit mother for any reason, I feel like it's better to own up to it and find him a better home than to potentially raise him in a bad environment. There are so many parents who have children in farked up situations.

I feel like putting your child up for adoption can be a responsible decision when you understand that it would be irresponsible to keep the child.
 
2013-01-24 11:20:05 AM  

slayer199: If my biological mother somehow found me and wanted to contact me I'd be pissed.


Why?
 
2013-01-24 11:20:42 AM  
she made the right call. and he should at least acknoledge that. what are the chances that a child of a single teenage mother has the chance to go to college and thus end up in the NFL? I'd bet on slim to none.
 
2013-01-24 11:21:51 AM  
i.dailymail.co.uk

i36.photobucket.com
 
2013-01-24 11:21:53 AM  

IAmRight: SkittlesAreYum: This doesn't really apply here it seems, but I always wondered why adopted children who've never met their parents are interested in doing so. That person is only your biological mother. That really means about nothing. She didn't raise you or do anything for you. You don't have to be mad, but you also shouldn't be interested. She's nobody to you.

It could be good for trying to figure out your genetic history. I don't see why you wouldn't want to know.


Sure, that makes sense, but I guess I'm talking about people I've seen on talk shows where they get all teary-eyed at finally meeting their real parents. If they want to get emotional about meeting someone that's not their parents, then sure. I think it's kind of offensive to their real (adoptive) parents, as if they aren't quite as real or something.
 
2013-01-24 11:22:46 AM  

netweavr: Less than two weeks to the Superbowl and this comes out? Someone is trying to impact the game.


A few weeks after the game, Deadspin will put the pieces together and figure out that Colin never really had a mother
 
2013-01-24 11:24:01 AM  
She was sending him twitter comments trying to reconnect when he was at Nevada. He replied to her a few times a few years ago, but not in a long while. Not saying her motives have nothing to do with money, but her reaching out to him isn't new, she's been attempting to do it for at least 3-4 years now.
 
2013-01-24 11:30:19 AM  

DrewCurtisJr: slayer199: If my biological mother somehow found me and wanted to contact me I'd be pissed.

Why?


I mean, would you rather have been aborted or raised by someone who had no clue what they were doing and no means to support you?
 
2013-01-24 11:31:30 AM  

slayer199: I'm adopted.  I have no interest in finding my biological parents.  As far as I'm concerned, my parents are the people that loved and raised me.  If my biological mother somehow found me and wanted to contact me I'd be pissed.  I don't blame him for not wanting to have contact with his biological mother.


I'm your dad.

(not really)
 
2013-01-24 11:34:08 AM  

Tigger: slayer199: I'm adopted.  I have no interest in finding my biological parents.  As far as I'm concerned, my parents are the people that loved and raised me.  If my biological mother somehow found me and wanted to contact me I'd be pissed.  I don't blame him for not wanting to have contact with his biological mother.

I'm your dad.

(not really)


fb-?
 
2013-01-24 11:34:39 AM  

slayer199: I'm adopted.  I have no interest in finding my biological parents.  As far as I'm concerned, my parents are the people that loved and raised me.  If my biological mother somehow found me and wanted to contact me I'd be pissed.  I don't blame him for not wanting to have contact with his biological mother.


My mom is the same way. She was adopted, and has zero interest in connecting with the family that put her up. As it turns out, my wife and I may not be able to have kids. Because of my experience being raised by my mom, I would be very happy to adopt. My wife is scared to because of the reported stories of biological parents showing up out of the blue wanting their children back.

Oh, and Slayer rules.
 
2013-01-24 11:34:51 AM  
Saw an interview with the guy about his family and how great they are. The guy is really well adjusted and down to earth.

Way too many tattoos tho. But I think one is one too many.
 
2013-01-24 11:35:40 AM  
i.dailymail.co.uk

Penis went there!
 
2013-01-24 11:36:55 AM  

Why Would I Read the Article: She was sending him twitter comments trying to reconnect when he was at Nevada. He replied to her a few times a few years ago, but not in a long while. Not saying her motives have nothing to do with money, but her reaching out to him isn't new, she's been attempting to do it for at least 3-4 years now.


appropriate handle, but perhaps you should lengthen it to; "Why Would I Read the Article or the Thread." she's been reaching out of a lot more than 3-4.
 
2013-01-24 11:37:16 AM  

Primitive Screwhead: [i.dailymail.co.uk image 306x423]

[i36.photobucket.com image 160x117]


Yeah, but she might not have been bad twenty six years ago.
 
2013-01-24 11:39:18 AM  

IAmRight: DrewCurtisJr: slayer199: If my biological mother somehow found me and wanted to contact me I'd be pissed.

Why?

I mean, would you rather have been aborted or raised by someone who had no clue what they were doing and no means to support you?


yeah, but don't you know a mother's love solves all problems. sure you may lack for food or clothing or heat during the winter or even sometimes a place to lay your head, but, but, but a mother's love...
 
2013-01-24 11:41:18 AM  

Frozboz: As a hopeful adoptive parent (1+ year and waiting now), open adoption is definitely the way to go. Situations like this would rarely occur if everyone knew everyone else and such.

/go 9ers!


Fu*k that noise, open adoptions are almost always a trainwreck. You're probably in for a rude awakening. Americans generally don't give their kid(s) up because they're upstanding people.

My daughter was born at ~24 weeks because her sperm donor was physically fighting with her biomom as the biomom was driving down the highway. Wreck ensues, babby pops out, and 7 years later here I am with a beautiful daughter who's stricken with CP and chronic lung and seizures and a dozen other maladies. I don't know what he looks like or where in the world he may be (illegal alien), but if her sperm donor ever shows up at my house, I fear that I'll kill him with my bare hands. And I don't want to spend decades in prison.
 
2013-01-24 11:43:48 AM  
"Explaining that Colin never left her thoughts, Heidi says that updates from the Kaepernick's including photographs and letters about Colin's progress had to stop when he was seven as they were affecting her ability to move on with her own life."

If you stopped wanting to receive updates, you shouldn't come crawling back now. You chose to let someone else raise your kid, they did a good job, now they should get the glory when he turns out to be rich and famous.

/biological mom must be a Raven's fan to bring this up now
 
2013-01-24 11:44:04 AM  

Frozboz: As a hopeful adoptive parent (1+ year and waiting now), open adoption is definitely the way to go. Situations like this would rarely occur if everyone knew everyone else and such.

/go 9ers!


As the parent of an adopted son who has had zero contact with his birthmother, and an adoptee who didn't reconnect with my birthfamily until I was 48, I agree. But 'Open adoption' covers an entire spectrum from an occasional update to the BM being considered extended family, so there are plenty of solutions depending on each person's comfort level.
 
2013-01-24 11:44:56 AM  

Frozboz: As a hopeful adoptive parent (1+ year and waiting now), open adoption is definitely the way to go. Situations like this would rarely occur if everyone knew everyone else and such.

/go 9ers!


I'm adopted. Only thing I want from my biological parents is family medical history. Other than that, I've got a mom and dad.
 
2013-01-24 11:45:51 AM  

Dazrin: Tigger: slayer199: I'm adopted.  I have no interest in finding my biological parents.  As far as I'm concerned, my parents are the people that loved and raised me.  If my biological mother somehow found me and wanted to contact me I'd be pissed.  I don't blame him for not wanting to have contact with his biological mother.

I'm your dad.

(not really)

fb-?


heh
 
2013-01-24 11:48:07 AM  

ModernPrimitive01: /biological mom must be a Raven's fan to bring this up now




It's all a plot to throw him off his game. I bet someone in Baltimore buys her a 50 yard line ticket.
 
2013-01-24 11:49:56 AM  
As a guy who was adopted as a baby, and who met his birth mother at the age of 23, I guess I can sum this up by saying that everyone handles stuff like this differently. He's got every right to not want to meet her. He may regret it some day, but apparently he's just not curious enough to meet her, and maybe he sees things differently. Maybe he harbors ill-will or resentment towards her.

For me, it was different. My adoptive family was ALWAYS open & honest about my adoption. I had a write-up about my birth mom, biological info about who she said my father was, etc. It helped me to form a healthy sense of who I was at an early enough age that it didn't seem taboo or out-of-line to me at all. I guarantee you that every adopted kid will wonder about their birth parents, and that some will never be able to empathize with what they had to have gone through in putting a child up for adoption.

My birth mom was tracked down by an "adoption angel" from a network of part-time web-sleuths that help adopted kids re-connect with their families free of charge. It was truly awesome and handled completely anonymously by all parties. The "adoption angel" wouldn't even accept a thank-you card or payment of gratitude. She also contacted my birth mom prior to giving me her info to make sure she wanted to reconnect.

Meeting my birth mom for the first time was bizarre and surreal. I drove from California to Austin, TX, and when I walked up and saw her it was like looking into a mirror. I have 6 half-siblings, two others of which were also adopted out. The ones that grew up with my birth mom spent time living out of a car and bathing in bathroom sinks at a local park. My mom's boyfriend at the time (the father of the youngest 4) was an out-of-work alcoholic. The ones that grew up with those parents are about as screwed up as can be. My older sister and I are the only normal ones, and we grew up far outside of the influence of my birth mom.

Yeah, some details of my birth mom's story are sketchy and change with the weather. I've learned to accept that now. It happens. She was a teenage runaway and involved with drugs and older men. I'm thankful for her though. Thankful she gave birth to me. Thankful I was put up for adoption. Thankful that she allowed me to reconnect. I'm thankful for my adoptive family too, because of how they handled it, how they raised me, and how open they were to me contacting my birth mom. There was emotion involved of course, but their maturity was important in the process. They set me free to find her, and it only reinforced how lucky I was to have them in my life. They are still my parents, and nothing will ever change that.

/now get back to your regularly-scheduled snark
 
2013-01-24 11:56:55 AM  

DrewCurtisJr: Why?


Why would I want my life complicated?  As far as I'm concerned, it was an unselfish act of love to give me up for adoption...to want to interject herself in my life now would be selfish on her part and would ruin that perception.  I have zero interest in wanting to know anything (including medical records).

Anyone can make a baby, it takes a lot more to be a parent and I was very fortunate to be adopted by 2 parents that loved and raised me right.  My parents were open with me about being adopted (as was my sister).  My parents usually take me out to dinner every year on the day of the year they got me.  I'm a lucky guy.
 
2013-01-24 11:57:47 AM  
My 11 year old son is adopted. Just yday one of the kids in school asked him if he has ever met his birth mother, and my son waited until he got home and burst into tears, he doesnt quite understand stuff yet, me and his mom are his parents, and he doesnt get why he has to hear those questions. For those who dont experience it firsthand it is hard to understand.
 
2013-01-24 11:57:55 AM  

SkittlesAreYum: This doesn't really apply here it seems, but I always wondered why adopted children who've never met their parents are interested in doing so. That person is only your biological mother. That really means about nothing. She didn't raise you or do anything for you. You don't have to be mad, but you also shouldn't be interested. She's nobody to you.


All depends on how the adoption proceeded. Two of my kids are adopted, and rather obviously so given they're black while I'm white and my wife is Asian. Of course in this case their parents were killed in a car crash and as the godfather I ended up with custody (their biodad was the single one from that family who managed to go to college instead of jail on gang related charges, biomom was an only child and her parents were too old to raise them). So the kids have always had a strong interest in their biological parents.

/the younger one's only memory of her father are my photos of him from college
//photos of him in drag at a kegger we had and things like that
/to be fair if my friend had ended up with my kids, he'd have done the same or perhaps paid someone to photoshop me with a goat to show the kids.
 
2013-01-24 12:00:59 PM  

slayer199: Anyone can make a baby, it takes a lot more to be a parent and I was very fortunate to be adopted by 2 parents that loved and raised me right.  My parents were open with me about being adopted (as was my sister).  My parents usually take me out to dinner every year on the day of the year they got me.  I'm a lucky guy.


I think and hope my son is going to be like this. I decided yesterday to have the talk about sex and biology with him tonight, and how it isnt hard to make a baby and make him understand it more. if you read my previous post, he is conflicted about hearing about it, and we know as he gets older it may become more of an issue, and he needs to learn how to handle the questions from his peers, no matter how insensitive they may be.
 
2013-01-24 12:03:48 PM  
cdn.faniq.com

His real father?
 
2013-01-24 12:12:24 PM  

the biggest redneck here: Americans generally don't give their kid(s) up because they're upstanding people.


I would say the ones that do give them up are typically the best ones in that situation. The bad ones tend to hit the abortion clinic every other year.

My X-Wife had a child at 16 and spent 9 months with her before giving her up for adoption. She had no family support, she had no job, she knew nothing about raising children, and she had to drop out of high school. In addition to that her baby daddy turned gay (my X-wife is that much of a pain in the ass) so she wasn't getting any support for him.

The family that adopted her daughter were new lawyers and now they're very high-end lawyers. Her daughter goes to one of the best Carolina private schools, plays piano, and has an all around great life. Her father had an unsuccessful attempt at congress but he's at that level where he could be taken as a contender.

I'm sure if you asked her which life she would have preferred she would pick the one she has.
 
2013-01-24 12:13:28 PM  
Whenever I used to get sad, I'd just look at a clown.
I just can't stop grinning. -They're available for purchase.
 
2013-01-24 12:13:48 PM  

Brother_Mouzone: My 11 year old son is adopted. Just yday one of the kids in school asked him if he has ever met his birth mother, and my son waited until he got home and burst into tears, he doesnt quite understand stuff yet, me and his mom are his parents, and he doesnt get why he has to hear those questions. For those who dont experience it firsthand it is hard to understand.


I grew up with an older brother and younger sister, both also adopted. He was always very hostile, 'She never wanted me, why would I ever want to meet her'. She went as far as learning all she could from public records without ever making contact. I was born in Ireland so i thought the chances of reconnecting were always kind of slim, but I always thought being adopted was kinda cool. If there was ever a stigma it was lost on me.

When my birthfamily did find me, their reactions couldn't be more surprising. He was very suportive and joined in my celebrating my new discovery, while she became very combative and we barely spoke for 3 years.

so I guess what I'm saying is, you never know.
 
2013-01-24 12:18:24 PM  

Brother_Mouzone: slayer199: Anyone can make a baby, it takes a lot more to be a parent and I was very fortunate to be adopted by 2 parents that loved and raised me right.  My parents were open with me about being adopted (as was my sister).  My parents usually take me out to dinner every year on the day of the year they got me.  I'm a lucky guy.

I think and hope my son is going to be like this. I decided yesterday to have the talk about sex and biology with him tonight, and how it isnt hard to make a baby and make him understand it more. if you read my previous post, he is conflicted about hearing about it, and we know as he gets older it may become more of an issue, and he needs to learn how to handle the questions from his peers, no matter how insensitive they may be.


The conversation that's really going to fark with his head is why you re-named him Lamar.
 
2013-01-24 12:19:02 PM  

xynix: the biggest redneck here: Americans generally don't give their kid(s) up because they're upstanding people.

I would say the ones that do give them up are typically the best ones in that situation. The bad ones tend to hit the abortion clinic every other year.

My X-Wife had a child at 16 and spent 9 months with her before giving her up for adoption. She had no family support, she had no job, she knew nothing about raising children, and she had to drop out of high school. In addition to that her baby daddy turned gay (my X-wife is that much of a pain in the ass) so she wasn't getting any support for him.

The family that adopted her daughter were new lawyers and now they're very high-end lawyers. Her daughter goes to one of the best Carolina private schools, plays piano, and has an all around great life. Her father had an unsuccessful attempt at congress but he's at that level where he could be taken as a contender.

I'm sure if you asked her which life she would have preferred she would pick the one she has.


"Generally."
 
2013-01-24 12:25:22 PM  

cretinbob: Whenever I used to get sad, I'd just look at a clown.
I just can't stop grinning. -They're available for purchase.


Hey! How exactly is a rainbow made? How exactly does a sun set? How exactly does a posi-trac rear-end on a Plymouth work? It just does.
 
2013-01-24 12:28:24 PM  

The Stealth Hippopotamus: Saw an interview with the guy about his family and how great they are. The guy is really well adjusted and down to earth.

Way too many tattoos tho. But I think one is one too many.


Thanks for shoehorning your bullshiat in.
 
2013-01-24 12:34:27 PM  
It is completely natural for parents and children absent from each other to wonder where the other is. My oldest child's mom decided to disappear with her when she was four years old. I thought about her every day for seven years.

I'm not knocking his mom for this, and I'm not going to knock him for whatever decision he makes, either way.
 
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