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(Salon)   Dear Penthouse, I never thought this would happen to me, but I fell in love with my sorority sister   (salon.com) divider line 48
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2013-01-23 02:42:03 AM  
5 votes:

digitalrain: What would you call a woman who identifies as bisexual but hasn't had a relationship with another female in almost two decades because she is married to a man whom she loves very much?


I'd suggest "biatch" for not setting up a threesome.
2013-01-23 01:32:18 AM  
5 votes:
25.media.tumblr.com
2013-01-23 06:52:27 AM  
4 votes:
No one cares that you were sorority sisters.

No one cares that you went to Emerson.

We're all very happy for you. When we ask how you met, we're being nice. We don't really care.
2013-01-23 04:11:37 AM  
4 votes:
I give them 1-2 years of marriage. 3 tops before they split. Then the former "boy crazy" one will go and find some man and blame her failed marriage on being a lesbian instead of being a vapid twunt.

To be very clear here - I think this girl is stupid. I think her marriage is going to fail. I think her partner is a bit of a head-game creep to boot. I also think that she'll justify it with (another) change in sexual orientation.
2013-01-23 03:13:09 AM  
4 votes:

GAT_00: Sweet story, but it's kind of missing a big piece between 'on and off' and 'married.'


Also missing was even the tiniest explanation of what there is to like about the other girl. Not a thing sounded particularly positive, aside from a declaration of love and the proposal itself. Other than that, about all there is in TFA to give some clues about her personality, really, is:
- she was mean to the writer, then later claimed that it was just a playing-hard-to-get ploy
- she cheated on the writer
- she was disrespectful of other girls in the sorority.

Hopefully there are a lot of positive aspects that just got left out somehow.
2013-01-23 08:00:20 AM  
3 votes:
i know a girl from college who is just like this. she dated men all through college, never once experimented with women at all, she even stuck it out for awhile with one guy who treated her like crap because she thought she was in love with him. she went to grad school, had a few more failed relationships with guys before one of the women in her department asked her out. she figured "what the hell? dating men doesn't seem to work out for me" and now she and her girlfriend have been together for like 7 years. back when they started dating, she didn't even think of herself as gay, although by now she probably does. she might identify as bisexual because i'm pretty sure she still finds men sexually attractive as well. but she never planned on dating a woman.

i've said for years that love and sexuality are far more complicated than "gay" and "straight." i think on a purely emotional level, most people are bisexual to some degree. but society for centuries has insisted that love and sexuality are the same thing, and you must be gay or straight, and that you can't be "in love" with someone of one gender while finding the opposite gender sexually attractive. i think that's stupid.
2013-01-23 06:37:48 AM  
3 votes:

OtherLittleGuy: illannoyin: Proving once again that fantasy lesbians...

[img122.imageshack.us image 416x600]

Do not equal real life lesbians...

[media.salon.com image 620x412]

/I've seen worse though

[assets.nydailynews.com image 635x495]

This is the "fuglier" of the two.


Say what you want, Ellen gets the hot babes. George Clooney could be her wingman.
2013-01-23 04:52:32 AM  
3 votes:

TwistedFark: I give them 1-2 years of marriage. 3 tops before they split. Then the former "boy crazy" one will go and find some man and blame her failed marriage on being a lesbian instead of being a vapid twunt.

To be very clear here - I think this girl is stupid. I think her marriage is going to fail. I think her partner is a bit of a head-game creep to boot. I also think that she'll justify it with (another) change in sexual orientation.


Ya pretty much. You don't go from being "only ever been interested in guys," to lesbian all of a sudden. If you have a preference for sex with one of the genders, and by far most people do, it isn't going to change. It isn't a case of just changing the way you think about things, it is an attraction that is hard wired in to you.

Every gay person I know has talked about how though they'd sometimes date or sleep with women, they were never that interested. They were doing it because everyone else was doing it and they figured others were like them: Doing what they were "supposed to" while really being attracted to the same gender. None of them ever said "Ya I was totally in to chicks, loved them, but then one day I met a guy who changed me around."

My bet is this girl is straight, but not all the way (sexuality is more of a continuum, not a binary toggle) as in she likes and is attracted to men but isn't turned off by the idea of sex with a woman. She's also confused and lonely, and thus got in to this relationship on account of wanting a relationship, not because she's truly a lesbian. That is just not going to end well. You really can't change what you like sexually.
2013-01-23 04:38:33 AM  
3 votes:
Proving once again that fantasy lesbians...

img122.imageshack.us

Do not equal real life lesbians...

media.salon.com

/I've seen worse though
2013-01-23 01:58:52 AM  
3 votes:
Of course this shiatty writer gets into the MFA program at the New School, and I don't even get a sniff.

/from now on, I tell every prospective employer/grad progam that I identify as a genderqueer relationship hacker/relationship anarchist (look it up, it's a "real" thing, at least according to the tumblr lunatic brigade), so they will be so scared of offending somebody that they let me do whatever I want
2013-01-23 01:58:45 AM  
3 votes:

GAT_00: Sweet story, but it's kind of missing a big piece between 'on and off' and 'married.'


No kidding. Also,

A week before my flight home, Sam called to tell me that she'd cheated on me.

The author is in for a big shock. She's wayyy to into this girl, and the girl ain't into her as much.
2013-01-23 01:31:29 AM  
3 votes:

propasaurus: That was very sweet.


You know what? Yes. Yes, it was. No snark at all from me on that nice story.
2013-01-23 12:35:26 AM  
3 votes:
Sweet story, but it's kind of missing a big piece between 'on and off' and 'married.'
2013-01-23 06:52:37 AM  
2 votes:

JonnyG: The relationship won't last. She will realize her mistake and go back to the winning team.


Uh... Lesbians ARE the winning team.
NFA [TotalFark]
2013-01-23 04:58:40 AM  
2 votes:

illannoyin: Proving once again that fantasy lesbians...

img122.imageshack.us

Do not equal real life lesbians...


www.usmagazine.com

www.go-telaviv.com

media.lehighvalleylive.com
2013-01-23 04:03:10 AM  
2 votes:
Ask the Pilot gets the axe, and this drivel gets attention instead? Ah, Salon, why must you make me hate you?
2013-01-23 03:10:14 AM  
2 votes:

digitalrain: I thought it was a sweet story.

What would you call a woman who identifies as bisexual but hasn't had a relationship with another female in almost two decades because she is married to a man whom she loves very much?


I think I would call her bisexual.
2013-01-23 02:56:13 AM  
2 votes:
Maybe it's a sign of the times, but I got to the end of the story and was still waiting for the point. You're getting married, congrats. But why do I care?
2013-01-23 02:51:18 AM  
2 votes:
The only reason that a woman would turn gay is because she hasn't been dicked good and proper. I guarantee that if those vulva slurpers were to spend a few hours with me and the hog tamer, they'd be trading in the Doc Martens and lumberjack shirts for some silky Vicky Secret lin-ger-REE and Prada pumps. A little ground and pound with a phallic Jedimaster like myself will cause their once-dormant estrogen faucets to turn on full blast, baby. After just a tiny whiff of my manhood, I'll have them flossing with my pubes in zero seconds flat.
2013-01-23 01:44:17 AM  
2 votes:
She's all boy crazy, but suddenly in love with a girl.... but not bi....

This seems like a condensed version of a really long, boring story.
2013-01-23 01:44:00 AM  
2 votes:
goodcomics.comicbookresources.com

Worst Penthouse Forum letter ever!
2013-01-23 01:35:17 AM  
2 votes:
That's supposed to be LUG. Lesbian Until Graduation.

/The source of so much pron.
2013-01-23 01:34:51 AM  
2 votes:

drjekel_mrhyde: Sgygus: An 8 and a 4 ... I don't think so.

Which is the 8? More like 3's to me.
/Studman


He was talking about their sizes.
2013-01-23 01:32:19 AM  
2 votes:

Sgygus: An 8 and a 4 ... I don't think so.


Which is the 8? More like 3's to me.
/Studman
2013-01-23 01:30:18 AM  
2 votes:
I saw the pic and thought "That's a man, baby"...
2013-01-23 12:54:07 AM  
2 votes:
WTF am I reading?
2013-01-23 12:15:51 AM  
2 votes:
Difficulty: salon.com
2013-01-23 12:12:38 AM  
2 votes:
Huh. I was expecting Omega Moo's.
2013-01-23 09:04:29 AM  
1 votes:
Well did some research, and they claim to have been together nine years, I guess they are counting the years they were pining for each other.

The thing is she is all worried about people viewing them as "that lesbian couple" but she has told her story to salon, yahoo, nymag,  and even have a website.      http://2brides2be.com/    White people attention whoring problems at its finest.

pixel.nymag.com
2013-01-23 08:36:40 AM  
1 votes:

GORDON: "If you stand in a certain place in the street, the John Hancock building looked one dimensional."

It looked like a point line with no width or depth? She's stupid.

2013-01-23 07:36:49 AM  
1 votes:
Kinda cool that this thread picked up on the fact that the issue with this relationship has nothing to do homosexuality and everything to do with emotional immaturity.
2013-01-23 07:34:23 AM  
1 votes:

digitalrain: I thought it was a sweet story.

What would you call a woman who identifies as bisexual but hasn't had a relationship with another female in almost two decades because she is married to a man whom she loves very much?


In need of a threesome?

/also bi, my hubby would definitely be down for 3some action
2013-01-23 06:59:12 AM  
1 votes:

FirstNationalBastard: JonnyG: The relationship won't last. She will realize her mistake and go back to the winning team.

Uh... Lesbians ARE the winning team.


Only when you're a hot lesbian. The author is not a lesbian; She is weak and is being psychologically manipulated. Her partner is not hot. It does not compute.
2013-01-23 05:17:04 AM  
1 votes:
distilleryimage0.s3.amazonaws.com
2013-01-23 05:08:01 AM  
1 votes:

TwistedFark: I give them 1-2 years of marriage. 3 tops before they split. Then the former "boy crazy" one will go and find some man and blame her failed marriage on being a lesbian instead of being a vapid twunt.

To be very clear here - I think this girl is stupid. I think her marriage is going to fail. I think her partner is a bit of a head-game creep to boot. I also think that she'll justify it with (another) change in sexual orientation.


This.

Other than the obvious, how is this really news worthy for Salon? I could see it on some "gay is good, gay is great" web site but this is kind of blah for anything else.
2013-01-23 05:02:38 AM  
1 votes:

TwistedFark: I give them 1-2 years of marriage. 3 tops before they split. Then the former "boy crazy" one will go and find some man and blame her failed marriage on being a lesbian instead of being a vapid twunt.

To be very clear here - I think this girl is stupid. I think her marriage is going to fail. I think her partner is a bit of a head-game creep to boot. I also think that she'll justify it with (another) change in sexual orientation.


I'd say they're both just really immature, or at least the other girl was at first - not too shocking for a college sophomore. The author claims to have been into guys but never details any of her experiences with them. She says things like "[s]ome nights we would head out to Boylston Street and none of us would wake up in our own beds" that are (I have to assume intentionally) vague. Was she one of the ones boning guys or was she the friend that sleeps on the couch while her sisters got laid? Her description of an ideal guy - scruffy face, big dog, drives a Jeep Wrangler - seemed she wanted someone to be more of an accessory (a Ken to her Barbie) than a relationship. And she seemed to be uncomfortable with sex in general as shown when she only kissed this girl she supposedly loves when she was finally able to share an intimate evening alone with her. And then of course the other girl hooks up with other people; the author just looks like a vag-tease (is there a better term for this?).

It sounds as if this other girl has issues of her own. But it's hard to say for sure as this is all seen through the filter of the romantically inept and sexually awkward author. And maybe it will last, but even in her late 20s the author still seems to have a naive, immature attitude towards sexuality. I'm wondering if that translates to other aspects of her life as well.
2013-01-23 04:35:20 AM  
1 votes:
When people ask how Sam and I met, I almost never tell them the entire story

Unless, of course, those "people" are THE ENTIRE INTERNET. Dumb way to start a dumb article.
2013-01-23 04:06:52 AM  
1 votes:
Most real lesbians aren't pretty. Coincidence?

/knows many lezzies, sadly only one hot one

/hey suzitchka
2013-01-23 03:04:17 AM  
1 votes:

digitalrain: I thought it was a sweet story.

What would you call a woman who identifies as bisexual but hasn't had a relationship with another female in almost two decades because she is married to a man whom she loves very much?


An fibber and Attention whore, a mid-life-crisiser, or very, very confused.
2013-01-23 03:03:29 AM  
1 votes:
brblroom26.files.wordpress.com
2013-01-23 02:36:37 AM  
1 votes:
i46.tinypic.com
2013-01-23 02:31:25 AM  
1 votes:
I thought it was a sweet story.

What would you call a woman who identifies as bisexual but hasn't had a relationship with another female in almost two decades because she is married to a man whom she loves very much?
2013-01-23 02:13:18 AM  
1 votes:
I liked the story. It was illogical and vaguely defined, but such is love.
2013-01-23 01:45:38 AM  
1 votes:
So Salon is Penthouse Letters now?

I eagerly await finding out that Huffington Post has become Swank.
2013-01-23 01:40:51 AM  
1 votes:
Exams were stressing me out so when Sarah bounced into my room and said that she had a little buzzy friend that helps her take the edge off.
2013-01-23 12:28:22 AM  
1 votes:
LESBIAN THREAD!!!
2013-01-23 12:27:43 AM  
1 votes:
That was very sweet.
2013-01-23 12:25:27 AM  
1 votes:
An 8 and a 4 ... I don't think so.
 
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