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2012-12-30 12:28:01 AM
15 votes:
"It's not that I think you're going to leave me for your Hitachi," he told me, "but there's a caveman part of me that thinks, I should be able to satisfy you. You shouldn't need a magic stick."

This article was entirely unnecessary if she already had the answer.  He was probably fine with her having a whole Santa's workshop at her place, but buying one just to store at his place is an insult.  How would a girl feel about a guy having a blowup doll delivered to her apartment?
2012-12-30 01:30:51 AM
8 votes:
Stupid objections are usually based on something deeper.

kbotc: HotWingAgenda: "It's not that I think you're going to leave me for your Hitachi," he told me, "but there's a caveman part of me that thinks, I should be able to satisfy you. You shouldn't need a magic stick."

This article was entirely unnecessary if she already had the answer.  He was probably fine with her having a whole Santa's workshop at her place, but buying one just to store at his place is an insult.  How would a girl feel about a guy having a blowup doll delivered to her apartment?

Yea... Why not just get a Wee-Vibe or something? I'm going to think she's quite selfish in bed and that's become the point of contention, not the vibe habit.


Spot on. Stupid-sounding objections from otherwise reasonable people are usually based on keen observations that they don't know how to articulate. This guy is feeling superfluous in bed, and he's probably right. Speaking as a very experienced employee who has been laid off more than once, when you know your employer can do just fine without you, you'd better be looking for another job, because you could be laid off at any moment. There won't be any more warning signs than that single one, which is knowing that you aren't needed.

Also, no matter how many ways they need you, if they don't need you sexually, it's time to move on. The author is on the verge of firing her boyfriend, but she doesn't realize it, and he does.
2012-12-30 01:54:10 AM
6 votes:

gadian: If she wants to have alone time with the vibe, she needs to find a partner more amiable to this desire.


If she wants alone time, she shouldn't do it at his place.  That has nothing to do with sexual needs, and everything to do with being self centered.  I can guarantee you that if he bought a PS3 for her place so he could play Madden and ignore her she would have a problem with that.
2012-12-30 01:33:16 AM
6 votes:
I invited myself to send a sex toy to my boyfriends apartment.

And then I told him about it.

He didn't like it, and immediately I put him in with troglodytes and cave men and people that hate sex and women.

And that's really a problem how he hates women and sex and I don't know what he's thinking but I know it's wrong (Betty Dodson told me so.)

Maybe he feels threatened, but if so that's not legitimate how he feels threatened, my needs come first. By the way, my name is RACHEL KRAMER BUSSEL and my boyfriend doesn't masturbate when we're apart. Isn't that cute? I sure do!

Nobody can tell someone else the "right" way to have sex - or to masturbate and so I told him over a course of many hours how wrong he was to hate women and hate sex and feel threatened.

Eventually, he agreed with me, and he told me he trusted me.

Puppies and Hearts!
2012-12-30 12:40:32 AM
5 votes:
See heres the thing. Most women can have way more than one orgasm so you may as well get that first one out of the way asap. The rest just kind of come tumbling out once you get that first one to cut loose.

So buzz her silly and then enjoy the ride.
2012-12-30 12:07:09 AM
5 votes:
"Do you even need me to come home anymore?" he asked.

Sounds like BF has self-esteem problems and is trying to guilt trip her. Or he was just having a shiatty day and was being a dick.


he preferred to hold off on masturbating when we were apart

Is it me or is that just plain weird?
2012-12-30 10:41:57 AM
4 votes:

kvinesknows: Vibrators helped me to get my wife to the place in our relationship where she will be getting a MFM and I a FMF New years eve in the same room at the same time and its also our first chance at both being bare back... and you god damn rights I will be using her vibrators on th oher women and then later on her as she farks me with all that cum pouring out of her


I hope your playmates are more experienced than you sound because sharing sex toys is a very unsanitary practice, no matter if everyone is DDF. Our parties are always bring-your-own or we have packaged toys as party favours.
It's not just STDs to consider. Please play responsibly.
2012-12-30 01:29:21 AM
4 votes:

kbotc: HotWingAgenda: "It's not that I think you're going to leave me for your Hitachi," he told me, "but there's a caveman part of me that thinks, I should be able to satisfy you. You shouldn't need a magic stick."

This article was entirely unnecessary if she already had the answer.  He was probably fine with her having a whole Santa's workshop at her place, but buying one just to store at his place is an insult.  How would a girl feel about a guy having a blowup doll delivered to her apartment?

Yea... Why not just get a Wee-Vibe or something? I'm going to think she's quite selfish in bed and that's become the point of contention, not the vibe habit.


I've spent long stretches at my boyfriend's place and never felt the need to leave a vibrator there.  I honestly don't see why she needs one JUST FOR HIS HOUSE.
NFA [TotalFark]
2012-12-30 01:25:48 AM
4 votes:
God, when I read that drivel it make me want to gouge my eyes out.  WHO FARKING CARES IF YOU OWN A VIBRATOR!!!  Get over yourself already.  I'm guessing it's not your vibrator that's ruining her relationship...
2012-12-30 10:08:45 AM
3 votes:

AustinFakir: The author is on the verge of firing her boyfriend, but she doesn't realize it, and he does.


i234.photobucket.com
2012-12-30 02:29:52 AM
3 votes:
No, no, writing an article about your boyfriend's insecurities and posting it online so other men to stage a manliest-man put down contest in the comment section will totes solve your problem.
2012-12-30 01:41:40 AM
3 votes:

AustinFakir: Stupid objections are usually based on something deeper.


Silly editing error. Anyway, I stand by my statement that the boyfriend likely knows what he's talking about. Love doesn't survive lack of sexual dependency when you're young. Maybe when you're so goddamn old you can't imagine getting used to someone else, but not when you're young and vigorous. He's right to feel threatened by the vibrator if it is capable of replacing him, because the vibrator defines a baseline, commodity, McDonald's sexual experience. A man is an expensive artisanal sexual experience. An expensive artisanal sexual experience that can't beat McDonald's is going to go out of business. By her own account, he's a smart, open-minded fellow and would have no problem if the vibrator was just a cheap replacement for when he isn't available. He wouldn't object unless he really knew he was in danger of being replaced.
2012-12-30 01:37:25 AM
3 votes:

PrivateCaboose: I've spent long stretches at my boyfriend's place and never felt the need to leave a vibrator there. I honestly don't see why she needs one JUST FOR HIS HOUSE.


It's like leaving a toothbrush.  Only for her clit.
2012-12-30 01:36:42 AM
3 votes:

Dialectic: Come on, ladies:

Sure a vibrator, provided that you supply it with plenty of battery power, can certainly provide you with plenty of joie de vivre. However, would you not like to have an skilled lover who could whisper sweet nothings in your ear and make you laugh while, at the same time, be sensitive to your needs?


Vibrators are fun, and certainly a great way to kick some stress.  I still prefer my awesome flesh and blood guy to a buzzing stick.
2012-12-30 01:27:09 AM
3 votes:

fusillade762: he preferred to hold off on masturbating when we were apart

Is it me or is that just plain weird?


It's not just you. That is weird. It sounds like this dude had issues related to masturbation long before this farked up relationship began.
2012-12-30 01:18:47 AM
3 votes:

HotWingAgenda: "It's not that I think you're going to leave me for your Hitachi," he told me, "but there's a caveman part of me that thinks, I should be able to satisfy you. You shouldn't need a magic stick."

This article was entirely unnecessary if she already had the answer.  He was probably fine with her having a whole Santa's workshop at her place, but buying one just to store at his place is an insult.  How would a girl feel about a guy having a blowup doll delivered to her apartment?


Yea... Why not just get a Wee-Vibe or something? I'm going to think she's quite selfish in bed and that's become the point of contention, not the vibe habit.
2012-12-30 09:30:34 PM
2 votes:
Sex toys are just a woman's equivalent of porn, which I don't have a problem with so long as she's not one of those women who uses a sex toy when her guy is away, yet gets all bent out of shape if the guy watches some porn to rub one out.

Men are more visually stimulated, whereas with women it tends to be more mental and physical.  If using a vibrating toy worked on guys there would be no porn.
2012-12-30 11:24:49 AM
2 votes:
mojoimage.com
2012-12-30 09:51:33 AM
2 votes:
It's a Salon article about a Brooklyn woman....stopped reading after I got that far.
2012-12-30 06:30:05 AM
2 votes:
It's silly to think that vibrators could ruin one's sexual intimacy? Why is that silly?

That like saying it's silly that porn could ruin a man's sexual intimacy with his wife. Of course it could ruin his perception of what turns him on/etc.

I was with a woman for a few years.  Her vibrator was so strong that she admitted to not being able to get off as strongly when I was with her because the sensation wasn't nearly as strong.  Also, she said her clit was numbed and began to not feel as much pleasure afterwards.  These are real concerns that should awaken us all.  Just as too much porn should be frowned upon by society.
2012-12-30 06:04:42 AM
2 votes:

Mid_mo_mad_man:

No straight guy should ever place a toy in his a$&.



I would wager to say that you are missing out.
2012-12-30 03:34:43 AM
2 votes:
(sees headline and source)

"Oh, Christ, ten bucks says this is Rachel Kramer Bussel."

(opens link)

"KNEW IT!!!"

/met her a couple times due to stuff I do in the real world
//she's a farking lunatic
///emphasis on lunatic
2012-12-30 03:19:43 AM
2 votes:

Dow Jones and the Temple of Doom: libranoelrose: Dow Jones and the Temple of Doom: I don't think I've ever dated a woman who had any kind of dildo or vibrator. I don't know if that's odd or not, or maybe it's just an older woman thing?

What do you consider old?

Not "old", that was a poor choice of words. But I mean like, 30's+ I guess. I'm 31, and have so far only dated women in their teens and twenties.


Then they probably have them but aren't comfortable enough with themselves/you to admit to using/owning them.
2012-12-30 02:53:49 AM
2 votes:

Mock26: tbhouston: Sounds like he has a tiny penis..no women ive been with has needed a robot to make her come

Sounds like you are the one with the tiny penis.


I'm puzzled why you think having a tiny penis is some sort of insult.

/has a tiny penis
//was able to convince a lot of otherwise reluctant women to try anal
2012-12-30 02:13:34 AM
2 votes:
actually it sounds to me like her boyfriend just had a limit for how much she relied on her vibrators, and she crossed it. i'm sure most women out there are okay with their boyfriend watching porn, but if the boyfriend started watching porn during dinner and didn't even want to have sex anymore, then that would be too much. the chick in this article has a bunch of vibrators at her place, which the boyfriend is fine with, but now wants to store some at his apartment, and he said "no, that's too much." i see nothing wrong with this.
2012-12-30 02:05:30 AM
2 votes:

tbhouston: Sounds like he has a tiny penis..no women ive been with has needed a robot to make her come


This post brought to you by the year 1950.
2012-12-30 02:05:24 AM
2 votes:
Best vibrator ever made

2.bp.blogspot.com
2012-12-30 02:04:09 AM
2 votes:

White_Scarf_Syndrome: Didn't read.


Anyone else get in the habit of putting anyone who makes long comments without reading the article on ignore?

I mean, I figure if they're arrogant enough that they feel they just HAVE to share their wisdom with all of us, yet can't be bothered reading the article the other comments, there's pretty much a 100% chance you're dealing with an uninformed incurious douchebag who's never gonna say anything of interest anyway.
2012-12-30 01:42:00 AM
2 votes:

gadian: It's not the vibrator, it's the boyfriend. Find someone more sexually compatible and you'll be happier. Not every dude is threatened by a magic stick. In fact, many long term couples have a toy box full of various buzzing, rotating, bubbling, and or stretchy devices.


It's one thing when the couple has that.  When just the woman does and she doesn't feel the need to include the boyfriend that's more of a problem than the vibrator itself.  Especially if she's buying a vibrator for her to use alone at his place, that's definitely a red flag.
2012-12-30 01:40:10 AM
2 votes:
Vibrators are awesome, but they will never replace the stimulation/satisfaction most of us receive from some real good face-to-face sex. Think of them not as enemies, but pawns to be exploited on your way to sexual conquest. Incorporate it tactfully into the foreplay, and you can often increase your end gains substantially.

Also guys, you can receive intense pleasure from a vibrator, without fearing homosexual stigma. You can stimulate your prostate very easily without playing with your butt, merely applying vibration to the skin between your testicles and anus. It wouldnt be any gayer than sitting on the dryer and masturbating. To put it bluntly, apply vibration to your taint when you whack it next time, and youll have one of the best orgasms youve ever experienced. You have all kinds of pleasurable nerve endings down there that aren't stimulated through normal intercourse.

/Cue scene from Road Trip where the guy about to get probed says "Did I say 2 fingers? I meant 3"
2012-12-30 01:39:26 AM
2 votes:

NFA: God, when I read that drivel it make me want to gouge my eyes out.  WHO FARKING CARES IF YOU OWN A VIBRATOR!!!  Get over yourself already.  I'm guessing it's not your vibrator that's ruining her relationship...


But she's a sex writer. She said so again and again. And she owns an arsenal of plastic Big Jim Slades.

/ boyfriend was probably hoping she bought herself a ball-gag
2012-12-30 01:31:29 AM
2 votes:
It's not the vibrator, it's the boyfriend. Find someone more sexually compatible and you'll be happier. Not every dude is threatened by a magic stick. In fact, many long term couples have a toy box full of various buzzing, rotating, bubbling, and or stretchy devices.
2012-12-30 01:29:30 AM
2 votes:
I don't see the problem of this woman having a vibrator at her BFs place. But if I knew the guy and that he had issues about this sort of thing then the mocking would be epic in length and intensity.
2012-12-30 01:22:55 AM
2 votes:
We have a hitachi.

She still wants to fark.

I guess that's the end of the story.
2012-12-30 01:02:57 AM
2 votes:

quickdraw: See heres the thing. Most women can have way more than one orgasm so you may as well get that first one out of the way asap. The rest just kind of come tumbling out once you get that first one to cut loose.

So buzz her silly and then enjoy the ride.


just as some women only want to have one - and are very particular about it.

/challenging lovers are a pain in the ass.
2012-12-30 12:37:34 AM
2 votes:

HotWingAgenda: "It's not that I think you're going to leave me for your Hitachi," he told me, "but there's a caveman part of me that thinks, I should be able to satisfy you. You shouldn't need a magic stick."

This article was entirely unnecessary if she already had the answer.  He was probably fine with her having a whole Santa's workshop at her place, but buying one just to store at his place is an insult.  How would a girl feel about a guy having a blowup doll delivered to her apartment?


As long as I dont have to clean it for him.
2012-12-31 10:05:48 AM
1 votes:

desertfool: Fark, I am disappoint. HBO made a video of her masturbating for their "Real Sex" series, and there has been not one link to said video.

/Hit Google, couldn't find.
//211 comments, not one person with better search skills than I?


She writes about it here, it was a group masturbate-a-thon.
The company talks about it here.
...And here's the video, 100% NSFW. It's an unfetchable url, so you have to copy and paste the text.
http://xhamster.com/movies/1244054/female_mastur_baton.html
2012-12-30 05:10:01 PM
1 votes:

stryed: Funny...I thought those devices were only used in Japan ( according to my research).
It's strange how most commonly found porn in the west differs so drastically from japan : One spends the first half pleasuring the pixelated lady with a variety of toys, whilst the other rapidly turns her into a kebab.
/just stereotyping


What really interests me is the cultural impact on the noises women make during sex. 99% of Japanese women in porn make the most godawful whiny noises and sound like they are farking terrified of being farked. EI EI EINH EI EEIN It sounds so fake.. because it is. I really don't get it.
2012-12-30 03:13:36 PM
1 votes:
In the future, we can expect to see such articles as "My husband thinks I am replacing him with a handsome sex droid because which is silly because I give my husband love and affection and the sex droid is just there to assist us during every sexual encounter".
2012-12-30 02:47:57 PM
1 votes:

Hermione_Granger: Her boyfriend was taking the step of controlling how she gets off, even in a small fashion. He needed reassurance that he wasn't being replaced, and she needed reassurance that she wasn't being controlled. That they could communicate their emotional issues, recognize them for what they truly meant, and that they both got what they wanted in the end shows their relationship is strong and working.


I'm not saying that her having toys makes him redundant. I'm saying it shouldn't make him redundant. He should provide something that the toys don't (being a human being she supposedly loves, etc.) and if he feels like he doesn't add anything, then he's probably right. He's been okay with toys up to this point in the relationship, so it isn't the toys that make him feel that way. In my experience with fizzling relationships, the person who has become disposable often realizes it before their partner does, and I think that's what this disagreement over the toy is about, even if neither of them realizes it yet.
2012-12-30 01:36:35 PM
1 votes:

Twilight Farkle: She's vibrator-dependent,
Don't want me in it,
Says I don't make the right noise...


Came here for the Mojo Nixon references, leaving, uh, satisfied.
2012-12-30 01:28:14 PM
1 votes:
d.yimg.com

That you, Mojo?
2012-12-30 12:10:12 PM
1 votes:
I'm an old bastard, but one thing I learned is that the woman's ability in bed can be correlated to the number of toys she keeps in the dresser. My theory is that sex can't be good unless both partners understand the needs and capabilities of their own bodies. Toys are a great way to find out.

If the boyfriend in question has a problem with her leaving a toy, then the boyfriend still has a few things to learn.

On the other hand, if the author doesn't realize that holding her boyfriend up to ridicule in front of tens of thousands of people is a bad idea, well, I guess she has something to learn as well.
2012-12-30 12:05:22 PM
1 votes:

StrikitRich: Just wait until the boyfriend finds her Symbian in the hall closet.


That would have been in her purse a few years ago, but she's likely using an iPhone these days.

I think you meant "her Sybian." (NSFW, like this whole damn thread...)
2012-12-30 11:57:39 AM
1 votes:

david_gaithersburg: TheSwizz: She sounds ugl...damn.

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Don't stick your dick in crazy. Link


Wow, you don't need a minor in Linguistic Psychology to realize that she's narcissistic and starts every other sentence with "I" this and "I" that. I don't know what went on with the boyfriend, but it sounds suffocating if one were to be with her.
2012-12-30 11:17:23 AM
1 votes:
Doesn't the hyper stimulation of a magic wand de-sensitize the affected area progressively over time and make it increasingly difficult to release? "A well traveled path might be a more deeply rutted one"
2012-12-30 10:50:18 AM
1 votes:
First time my soon-to-be wife drove out to my place, she brought one of her vibrators. I did the classic, "That's not a vibrator (pulling out my Hitachi Magic Wand), THIS is a vibrator!"

/Why would a guy own a Hitachi? Repeat 'business'.
2012-12-30 10:27:25 AM
1 votes:

david_gaithersburg: TheSwizz: She sounds ugl...damn.

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Don't stick your dick in crazy. Link


Now I understand why the boyfriend didn't want her to bring anything to his place.
2012-12-30 09:45:38 AM
1 votes:
""It's just a vibrator," I told him. "Of course I need and want you.""

The mortgage for that house I want in Westchester ain't gonna pay itself.


I wouldn't have a problem with her jacking it (jilling it?), but I would be annoyed if she talked about it all the time. I'd be tempted to react to her coming over by tossing the spam javelin in front of the computer, and only then interacting with her.


/"Creating sexual tension" means something else....
2012-12-30 08:25:31 AM
1 votes:
I once knew a guy that experienced pure terror when a girl he was dating left a toothbrush at his apartment.

I think the hang-up might not be about the vibrator as a vibrator, but as a planted flag.
2012-12-30 08:15:26 AM
1 votes:
Remember, a woman can own more vibrators than the best pron shop in town sells and shes not a whore, but if I guy owns a pocket pussy he is like a serial rapist level perv amIdoingitrite?
2012-12-30 07:50:20 AM
1 votes:
AustinFakir 2012-12-30 01:30:51 AM

Stupid objections are usually based on something deeper.kbotc: HotWingAgenda: "It's not that I think you're going to leave me for your Hitachi," he told me, "but there's a caveman part of me that thinks, I should be able to satisfy you. You shouldn't need a magic stick."

This article was entirely unnecessary if she already had the answer. He was probably fine with her having a whole Santa's workshop at her place, but buying one just to store at his place is an insult. How would a girl feel about a guy having a blowup doll delivered to her apartment?

Yea... Why not just get a Wee-Vibe or something? I'm going to think she's quite selfish in bed and that's become the point of contention, not the vibe habit.

Spot on. Stupid-sounding objections from otherwise reasonable people are usually based on keen observations that they don't know how to articulate. This guy is feeling superfluous in bed, and he's probably right. Speaking as a very experienced employee who has been laid off more than once, when you know your employer can do just fine without you, you'd better be looking for another job, because you could be laid off at any moment. There won't be any more warning signs than that single one, which is knowing that you aren't needed.


This is so wrong and, especially from a woman's point of view, at least mine anyway, makes absolutely no sense.

A woman in a relationship is not an employer, even though men are always on the lookout for any way a woman might be trying to be the "boss". It also seems to me that a lot of the foundation for relationship problems these days stem from men not evolving from being needed to simply being wanted.

Women's survival and fulfillment is no longer dependent on finding one individual man to offer them protection. Women can take care of themselves: Financially, emotionally, physically and yes, that includes sexually. A lot men find this daunting and intimidating because it puts her on an equal footing, which, to them, is the same as letting a woman take the reins altogether.

When your relationship becomes an issue of "do I control my woman" versus "do we love each other and are we still best at complimenting and fulfilling each others needs," that is the warning sign that you are about to be let go, not some arbitrary notion of need.

Her boyfriend was taking the step of controlling how she gets off, even in a small fashion. He needed reassurance that he wasn't being replaced, and she needed reassurance that she wasn't being controlled. That they could communicate their emotional issues, recognize them for what they truly meant, and that they both got what they wanted in the end shows their relationship is strong and working.
2012-12-30 05:56:28 AM
1 votes:
I'm definitely the one-and-done type, and it doesn't take long at all. I also have a pretty low drive, so it's more fun if i save it up for the husband; we have a box of toys, but honestly, he gets a lot more use out of them than i do.


I think they're both being slightly ridiculous, but sometimes there is just a fundamental sexual incompatibility. Shake it off be friends again six months from now, and move on. Yeesh.
2012-12-30 05:11:02 AM
1 votes:
Replace 'vibrator' with '5TB of fetish porn' and reverse the genders and the story would be seen in an entirely different light.
2012-12-30 04:57:19 AM
1 votes:
He should buy a fleshlight or something and just leave it laying out the next time she comes over. Just to see how she reacts.
2012-12-30 03:37:43 AM
1 votes:
Scanned, didn't need to read....there's nothing like the real thing!
2012-12-30 03:30:19 AM
1 votes:
cs305604.userapi.com

Allo love
2012-12-30 03:12:58 AM
1 votes:
Hitachi Magic Wands have more attachments than a Swiss Army Knife.
You can get them from Amazon, the company that ships your product with a smile on the box.
2012-12-30 03:11:03 AM
1 votes:

CreamFilling: White_Scarf_Syndrome: Gunther: White_Scarf_Syndrome: Didn't read.

Anyone else get in the habit of putting anyone who makes long comments without reading the article on ignore?

I mean, I figure if they're arrogant enough that they feel they just HAVE to share their wisdom with all of us, yet can't be bothered reading the article the other comments, there's pretty much a 100% chance you're dealing with an uninformed incurious douchebag who's never gonna say anything of interest anyway.

You mad bro?

Didn't read it right away because I know what to expect...A fluffy stupid Salon article.

So use the ignore button, why biatch about it publicly? What have you contributed here? People like to talk about sex, me particularly. Someone got something out of my comment. Sorry you didn't.

Yeah yeah this is fark. I am sorry you didn't like my comments. No big deal though. Cheers! *clink*

I think his point was that this is a space for discussing the article, and for you to come in, report that you didn't read the article, then post a monologue because it's something you like talking about is out of line.  He's right, frankly.  It happens all the time and it's rarely a big deal, but don't be surprised if some people don't like it.


No. this is about you. Several of us know this.
2012-12-30 02:47:29 AM
1 votes:

Satanic_Hamster: Also, a good sex toy can also be used for home defense as a weapon:
[newbreview.com image 630x400]

And since no one has done it...
[www.nobodygoeshere.com image 465x364]


Ha I read that in his voice.
2012-12-30 02:35:21 AM
1 votes:
Vibrators are not a replacement for men. Vibrators are for when you've been going at it long enough and you got a video game to get back to and she's still conscious.
2012-12-30 02:31:02 AM
1 votes:

CreamFilling: White_Scarf_Syndrome: Gunther: White_Scarf_Syndrome: Didn't read.

Anyone else get in the habit of putting anyone who makes long comments without reading the article on ignore?

I mean, I figure if they're arrogant enough that they feel they just HAVE to share their wisdom with all of us, yet can't be bothered reading the article the other comments, there's pretty much a 100% chance you're dealing with an uninformed incurious douchebag who's never gonna say anything of interest anyway.

You mad bro?

Didn't read it right away because I know what to expect...A fluffy stupid Salon article.

So use the ignore button, why biatch about it publicly? What have you contributed here? People like to talk about sex, me particularly. Someone got something out of my comment. Sorry you didn't.

Yeah yeah this is fark. I am sorry you didn't like my comments. No big deal though. Cheers! *clink*

I think his point was that this is a space for discussing the article, and for you to come in, report that you didn't read the article, then post a monologue because it's something you like talking about is out of line.  He's right, frankly.  It happens all the time and it's rarely a big deal, but don't be surprised if some people don't like it.


I agree. I think everyone might be guilty at some point or another. Thanks for putting it in a more polite manner. Sometimes it's hard to define "out of line" around here, but I can see how my post was annoying. To be fair, I skimmed the 1st half, and read the comments up to mine.

Back to the article. The girl seems to have downplayed the only thing the guy got pissed about. Storing it at his place. Especially that one toy.

I don't know. I can understand where he's coming from, but after being inside and finishing at the same time with a woman I probably could give two shiats at that point. Maybe the guy just needs a break from all the damned toys everywhere? The kinky stuff is fun, but sometimes passionate "regular" style is really damn good too.

Someone else mentioned about a 1 orgasm only type lady. Maybe the author is like this. I'd think that if she got off, then she'd be much easier to get goin again that night without the use of the toy. Who knows. Tons of factors here. Maybe he's only a 1 orgasm a night type guy.
2012-12-30 02:25:42 AM
1 votes:
Also, a good sex toy can also be used for home defense as a weapon:
newbreview.com

And since no one has done it...
www.nobodygoeshere.com
2012-12-30 02:20:19 AM
1 votes:

White_Scarf_Syndrome: Gunther: White_Scarf_Syndrome: Didn't read.

Anyone else get in the habit of putting anyone who makes long comments without reading the article on ignore?

I mean, I figure if they're arrogant enough that they feel they just HAVE to share their wisdom with all of us, yet can't be bothered reading the article the other comments, there's pretty much a 100% chance you're dealing with an uninformed incurious douchebag who's never gonna say anything of interest anyway.

You mad bro?

Didn't read it right away because I know what to expect...A fluffy stupid Salon article.

So use the ignore button, why biatch about it publicly? What have you contributed here? People like to talk about sex, me particularly. Someone got something out of my comment. Sorry you didn't.

Yeah yeah this is fark. I am sorry you didn't like my comments. No big deal though. Cheers! *clink*


I think his point was that this is a space for discussing the article, and for you to come in, report that you didn't read the article, then post a monologue because it's something you like talking about is out of line.  He's right, frankly.  It happens all the time and it's rarely a big deal, but don't be surprised if some people don't like it.
2012-12-30 02:16:47 AM
1 votes:

Gunther: White_Scarf_Syndrome: Didn't read.

Anyone else get in the habit of putting anyone who makes long comments without reading the article on ignore?

I mean, I figure if they're arrogant enough that they feel they just HAVE to share their wisdom with all of us, yet can't be bothered reading the article the other comments, there's pretty much a 100% chance you're dealing with an uninformed incurious douchebag who's never gonna say anything of interest anyway.


I just assumed it was copypasta. Copypasta is like an old friend, you read it just to say hello.
2012-12-30 02:13:16 AM
1 votes:
She's vibrator-dependent,
Don't want me in it,
Says I don't make the right noise...

(Yes, Ms. Bussel of Salon.com, I have a "Mojo Nixon" on Line 1. He says he's calling from 1989 and wants royalties.)

/No honey, you can't plug my toes into the wall.
//And I ain't gonna hum no more either.
2012-12-30 02:11:08 AM
1 votes:

PrivateCaboose: Huh. Bf's height difference and penis length is the same. Coincidence? Maybe.


Or pretty average.  Try to draw a diagram of why it would make any difference in the least.  Unless your particular quirk is both of you doing headstands while the penis is exactly halfway inserted, it doesn't make any sense. If anything, it's contrary to logic.
2012-12-30 02:10:12 AM
1 votes:

PrivateCaboose: Huh. Bf's height difference and penis length is the same. Coincidence? Maybe.


Well, I'm 5'9" and my girlfriend is a flat 5'. Wish I could claim that the height difference there was equivalent to schlong length, but no it isn't.

Of course our relationship is a bit "non-traditional", shall we say? In the scheme of our relationship, the measurement of my wing-wong is mostly relevant for the fancy bit of locking metal she bought to put around it.

On a related note, a guy should only feel insulted that a woman wants to leave a vibrator at his place if she won't ever let him be the one holding it inside her. I'm not saying she won't have to take over when he inevitably doesn't "hit that spot quite right" the first few times, but honestly who gives a crap so long as you're the one she's doing the dirty with?

Besides, a large number of women can't even cum without a vibrator. I've met girls who thought the female orgasm was a myth until someone (in one very lucky case, me) got out the giant hummy thinger and proved them wrong.
2012-12-30 02:09:39 AM
1 votes:

Gunther: White_Scarf_Syndrome: Didn't read.

Anyone else get in the habit of putting anyone who makes long comments without reading the article on ignore?

I mean, I figure if they're arrogant enough that they feel they just HAVE to share their wisdom with all of us, yet can't be bothered reading the article the other comments, there's pretty much a 100% chance you're dealing with an uninformed incurious douchebag who's never gonna say anything of interest anyway.


You mad bro?

Didn't read it right away because I know what to expect...A fluffy stupid Salon article.

So use the ignore button, why biatch about it publicly? What have you contributed here? People like to talk about sex, me particularly. Someone got something out of my comment. Sorry you didn't.

Yeah yeah this is fark. I am sorry you didn't like my comments. No big deal though. Cheers! *clink*
2012-12-30 02:08:44 AM
1 votes:
"Some of the best lovers I've had came to the bedroom with their own arsenal...? So she dates a lot of gay men.
2012-12-30 02:07:56 AM
1 votes:
On topic: all but the most severe sex related objects are improved when your partner participates. Have him use the vibrator and if necessary lie and attribute the orgasm to him.

Problem solved.
2012-12-30 02:06:24 AM
1 votes:

tbhouston: Sounds like he has a tiny penis..no women ive been with has needed a robot to make her come


1/10 too falsely arrogant to be real

/Hitachi is a great and wonderful device

//not a chick
2012-12-30 02:05:32 AM
1 votes:

Gunther: White_Scarf_Syndrome: Didn't read.

Anyone else get in the habit of putting anyone who makes long comments without reading the article on ignore?

I mean, I figure if they're arrogant enough that they feel they just HAVE to share their wisdom with all of us, yet can't be bothered reading the article the other comments, there's pretty much a 100% chance you're dealing with an uninformed incurious douchebag who's never gonna say anything of interest anyway.


I don't put anyone on my ignore list really - I just ignore them manually.
2012-12-30 01:57:47 AM
1 votes:
Let him watch
Let him participate

Both big turn-ons for me.

and picts or it didn't happen please.
2012-12-30 01:51:55 AM
1 votes:
Didn't read.

Currently only break out rabbit schlong when she feels like getting some DP action. I love it because usually that means I'm goin back door.
The sex is the best out of the 30 or so women I've had. I'm 32. It's uncanny and we can time it to finish at the same time, pretty much every time. We end up like two dogs stuck together. I'll pull out and she's writhing around, shaking...the whole bit. I can't even touch her or else I'll get smacked. Too sensitive at that point. It's awesome. I'm single and well, my first borns mom and I don't feel like dating or doing anyone else. Eff that noise.

NOW.

I was dating a girl that had "a little dolphin friend." Maybe some of you ladies know what I'm talking about. Now, I could never make her finish just by penetration like I could with the aforementioned girl. She always had to break out her little dolphin friend. Personally, I loved it. I get a lot of excitement out of making sure a girl finishes. I have very good self control and can stop just short of the edge all night if I really wanted. It was a lot of fun being inside and watching her concentrate and making her little dolphin friend do the right thing. Never once was I insulted by this. It also provided a little stimulation for me down there too so I had to pull out occasionally as it would put me over the edge. Eventually, I knew she was about to drop off the edge and I'd go full on, timing it just right.

If this guy wasn't such a god damn insecure little pussy he could be timing it to finish each time, in the pooper. And THAT, my friends, is what makes a good sex life. Err, not anal, but finishing at the same time.

At the same time. I can't stress this enough. Do you wanna know my idiotic theory about why it works so well with the shiattiest girlfriend I ever had but also the best sex ever and also my kids Mom? Our height difference is 6" exactly. This is my exact penis length. There, that's it. Also my schlong is a little skinny so I'm not bragging at all.

Find your schlong length, get a girl exactly that many inches shorter than you. Report back to me on this theory. I know there are some Studman69's out there willing to put out an ad for exact height requirements in women.

Wow, I REALLY didn't read the article.

Thanks for listening and how YOU doin?
2012-12-30 01:48:28 AM
1 votes:

CreamFilling: It's one thing when the couple has that. When just the woman does and she doesn't feel the need to include the boyfriend that's more of a problem than the vibrator itself. Especially if she's buying a vibrator for her to use alone at his place, that's definitely a red flag.


It's just a compatibility issue. Vibrator people need to stay with vibrator people and people who don't enjoy the...variety should stay with the people who get off in other ways. If she wants to have alone time with the vibe, she needs to find a partner more amiable to this desire. The boyfriend needs to find a woman who has different needs which don't include batteries. Maybe she could let him watch once and that could be a better start for them. Unless he's all "icky, vibrators, ewww" and then there is just no hope.
2012-12-30 01:34:37 AM
1 votes:
Come on, ladies:

Sure a vibrator, provided that you supply it with plenty of battery power, can certainly provide you with plenty of joie de vivre. However, would you not like to have an skilled lover who could whisper sweet nothings in your ear and make you laugh while, at the same time, be sensitive to your needs?
2012-12-30 12:35:25 AM
1 votes:
Masturbation can ruin a relationship if there's a reason to ruin it.
 
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