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2012-12-10 08:06:56 PM

Some 'Splainin' To Do: Under the charmingly romantic theory that bullies are just a bunch of pussies that fold the moment you swing your scrawny fists at them, right?


Bullies are often bullies because they learn it from their parents at home. All of the guys who were bullies in my neighborhood came from the smallest, saddest homes on the block with the most outwardly dysfunctional families inside. All of the girls who were bullies came from the largest homes with water views, with trophy wives as mothers and corporate sociopaths as fathers.

So there are two schools of thought: offensive or defensive. Not making yourself a target, blending in better with the crowd and/or finding a group of friends are good defensive tactics. They'll just move onto the next loser who is worse than you. Offensive is tricky. You have to find them when they're alone and jump them, else their friends will jump in and overwhelm you. You have to keep at it until they realize the cost of taunting you isn't worth it. You also have to realize that until they give up, they'll try to get revenge on you because they're mean little bastards. That means you're going to get your ass kicked repeatedly. Learning to fight, or to fight dirty, can help. You might not get any better at doing it, but confidence goes a long ways.


/fought my way through grade and middle school
//blended my way through high school
 
2012-12-10 08:07:53 PM
How about, if you're being bullied for being different - different is the key word. You and the bully are not into the same things. You probably will never be into the same things. They don't understand you and you don't understand them. Why the fark do you care about what someone so different from you thinks about you? They are not worth the attention. Roll with it. They call you names, roll your eyes. They persuade other kids to not sit by you, you go sit with the other bullied & outcast kids. Just don't give a shiat. Those other bullied kids are probably pretty cool and you're no better than them.

Now, if there is ever physical contact, that is something completely different. But until then, why give a fark? They are not your peer.

/speaking from experience. It takes awhile, but you can teach a kid not to care about this sort of thing and if you're still being bullied, it's never too late to learn.
 
2012-12-10 08:08:03 PM
It's good to be a She Geek. Once I embraced my Nerdness, it was all good.
Have a great job, plenty of female companionship (helps to be a Lesbo)

Membership at a swanky gym/Spa. Cool guy pals with cool toys.
It's all good.
 
2012-12-10 08:10:36 PM

JeffreyScott: FTA: 6. Give Up On Revenge

WTF? If there is one thing that I learned it is there is no such thing as karma. If a bully is deserving of revenge you have to dish it out yourself. Life will not serve it up to him.

My 6th grade bully won $26 million in the lottery. fark him!


Not true my good man. Eventually karma dishes it out. Money can bring trouble too ya know. Especially to bullies.
Keep the faith. :P
 
2012-12-10 08:11:13 PM

smeegle: It's good to be a She Geek. Once I embraced my Nerdness, it was all good.
Have a great job, plenty of female companionship (helps to be a Lesbo)

Membership at a swanky gym/Spa. Cool guy pals with cool toys.
It's all good.


I'm the most socially awkward chick ever. I want female friends and a gym membership. Did I miss a meeting?
 
2012-12-10 08:14:41 PM
I wonder what I did wrong. I was geeky enough to get good grades without trying, hung out with kids who played D&D, and wasn't bullied. Played soccer but still got along with the football team. Nobody cared that much if you were or weren't in the band. There were a few wanna-be bullies about but I think that on the whole people tended to pick on them in the end because there was low tolerance for people acting like dicks. The jocks and the stoners and the geeks got along fine. There were some pre-goth types who worked hard at being outcasts that I recall but we mostly ignored them because they seemed to want to be left alone and wanted to be ostracized. It would freak them out when you included them and actually thought their artwork was cool. But they could show up to a party and mooch beer like the rest of us.
 
2012-12-10 08:16:14 PM

fireclown: Coastalgrl: Best revenge is living life the way you want to, being successful, and letting all those horrible people to their own devices.

There is a flaw in that theory. Bullies don't always get some kind of cosmic cumuppance. It's a pretty effective strategy when you get right down to it, and it can really be rewarded in the workplace.

/watched it happen plenty.


Already been a victim of that too. Someone managed to steal an entire publication from me and claimed my work as his own.

I'm no longer that nice.
 
2012-12-10 08:19:02 PM
I don't like mondays

I want to shoooot the whole day down. shoot it down.
 
2012-12-10 08:19:41 PM

frak21: I had a Hate Patrol going through the 7th to about the 9th grade. One ringleader with about 4 henchmen and, of course, practically the rest of the school. They used to do everything in the article, including singing hate songs to me every day on the bus and doing everything they could to alienate me as a whole. All of them, working together, every day for years. It cumulated with a group of them hanging my beagle dog, Joker, in a tree in my back yard.

That damaged me and led to a number of suicide attempts followed by a life of inpatient hospitalizations for clinical depression and bi-polar syndrome. I didn't really shake free until I was in my mid 20's.

Now, in my 40's, I managed to locate the ringleader on facebook. He has three young kids and lives in Seattle. I verified it was him. I saw his signature on his paperwork and that's how I knew. I swear to god I was overwhelmed with the compulsion to drop everything and drive to Seattle for a surprise reunion. I thought about hanging one of his three young daughters in a tree in his back yard to see if he remembered me.

But revenge isn't an option. No matter how lasting the damage done. It would be wrong to do that, no matter how liberating. Sure he'd never see me coming. Sure he probably forgot about me entirely. Sure his pleas for mercy and forgiveness would soothe years of old trauma, especially when they went unanswered. Sure I would die happy hurting the things he loved and taunting him to make him cry about it. I'd kill myself on the scene, with a happy little smile because I had finally mastered the thing that destroyed my life so purposefully and so maliciously so long ago. It would be sweet, but it's not an option.

So the article rings for me. Tip of the Hat to the author. Thanks for something I can totally relate to and wise words for a broken soul that never really recovered. Oh, and I reflexively distrust popular people as well. There's a new one at work right now. I often have ...


Whilst you might get that revenge by meeting out the same punishment they gave you on them, I'd say you can STILL get revenge on them, and if you do it right, you'll break no laws, and face no comeback.

Happily married with kids? Kids are innocent, so ignore them. Go for the marriage. Plant stories about another woman. Hire some attractive girl to bang on his door and confess adultery to his wife (and flesh it out with details gleaned from your knowledge/surveillance of the target).
Go for his job. If he's in customer service, have a stream of complaints made by others, alleging everything they can. He'll get the sack. Or other ways if he's in other employment. Maybe have someone get into his social circle, and get him hooked on drugs of some kind, they're really good for farking you up. My point is that you can use rumour, speculation, gossip and a few well placed lies to destroy his life, utterly, without really breaking any laws, or doing anything that ties back to you....until of course you find him in an alleyway, begging for drug money etc.

Then you let him know it was all you.

I'm glad you're getting a lot better, but some people need to be destroyed utterly. Do it, but do it smart, legal, and leave his kids and wife out of it as much as possible...
 
2012-12-10 08:20:21 PM

otalicus: I stopped getting bullied right after columbine. Apparently I looked like a person who would snap.

/wouldn't hurt a fly.


Heh. I knew a kid who started wearing a black trench coat to school right after Columbine for exactly that reason.
 
2012-12-10 08:21:17 PM

Dinjiin: Some 'Splainin' To Do: Under the charmingly romantic theory that bullies are just a bunch of pussies that fold the moment you swing your scrawny fists at them, right?

Bullies are often bullies because they learn it from their parents at home. All of the guys who were bullies in my neighborhood came from the smallest, saddest homes on the block with the most outwardly dysfunctional families inside. All of the girls who were bullies came from the largest homes with water views, with trophy wives as mothers and corporate sociopaths as fathers.

So there are two schools of thought: offensive or defensive. Not making yourself a target, blending in better with the crowd and/or finding a group of friends are good defensive tactics. They'll just move onto the next loser who is worse than you. Offensive is tricky. You have to find them when they're alone and jump them, else their friends will jump in and overwhelm you. You have to keep at it until they realize the cost of taunting you isn't worth it. You also have to realize that until they give up, they'll try to get revenge on you because they're mean little bastards. That means you're going to get your ass kicked repeatedly. Learning to fight, or to fight dirty, can help. You might not get any better at doing it, but confidence goes a long ways.


/fought my way through grade and middle school
//blended my way through high school


Indeed.
Bullies are not worth the time of day and any angst one gives them only feeds their fire.
I don't have all of the answers but your points are so noted.
Girl bullies IMHO, are the worst. They go for the mental jugular, where guys just duke it out.
Eventually, one must learn the art of self defense. With girls, it's more of a mental thing.
As a lesbian, I have never understood how girls and women can be so damn mean to each other. It makes no sense to me. I was never like that as a kid and I just can't relate to it as an adult.

Women bully each other behind their backs, it's gross. They fight over men mostly. I'm not a guy but I'm guessing it's a turn off to the well adjusted men that don't need their ego boost from a cat fight.
But I digress. 
People in general, can be assholes if they are not happy with who they are.
 
ecl
2012-12-10 08:21:36 PM

Wizard Drongo: frak21: I had a Hate Patrol going through the 7th to about the 9th grade. One ringleader with about 4 henchmen and, of course, practically the rest of the school. They used to do everything in the article, including singing hate songs to me every day on the bus and doing everything they could to alienate me as a whole. All of them, working together, every day for years. It cumulated with a group of them hanging my beagle dog, Joker, in a tree in my back yard.

That damaged me and led to a number of suicide attempts followed by a life of inpatient hospitalizations for clinical depression and bi-polar syndrome. I didn't really shake free until I was in my mid 20's.

Now, in my 40's, I managed to locate the ringleader on facebook. He has three young kids and lives in Seattle. I verified it was him. I saw his signature on his paperwork and that's how I knew. I swear to god I was overwhelmed with the compulsion to drop everything and drive to Seattle for a surprise reunion. I thought about hanging one of his three young daughters in a tree in his back yard to see if he remembered me.

But revenge isn't an option. No matter how lasting the damage done. It would be wrong to do that, no matter how liberating. Sure he'd never see me coming. Sure he probably forgot about me entirely. Sure his pleas for mercy and forgiveness would soothe years of old trauma, especially when they went unanswered. Sure I would die happy hurting the things he loved and taunting him to make him cry about it. I'd kill myself on the scene, with a happy little smile because I had finally mastered the thing that destroyed my life so purposefully and so maliciously so long ago. It would be sweet, but it's not an option.

So the article rings for me. Tip of the Hat to the author. Thanks for something I can totally relate to and wise words for a broken soul that never really recovered. Oh, and I reflexively distrust popular people as well. There's a new one at work right now. I of ...


You guys need therapy.
 
2012-12-10 08:22:30 PM

TV's Vinnie: 1. Ignore Insults and Keep Going

BAD ADVICE! that will just make the bullies try harder. Oh believe me, they will try harder.

You have to treat being in school like your first day in prison. If you don't f*ck someone up hard the moment they try to test you, you're gonna be a b*tch to everyone else there for the rest of your days.


I disagree:
A. You are talking about geek kids here who can NOT turn into the hulk even if they wear those nice green
foam fists. So, potential geek kid will most likely lose and then become bullies favorite target for trying to put up resistance.
and B.
i483.photobucket.com
 
2012-12-10 08:25:20 PM

megarian: smeegle: It's good to be a She Geek. Once I embraced my Nerdness, it was all good.
Have a great job, plenty of female companionship (helps to be a Lesbo)

Membership at a swanky gym/Spa. Cool guy pals with cool toys.
It's all good.

I'm the most socially awkward chick ever. I want female friends and a gym membership. Did I miss a meeting?


"Word" from another socially awkward chick.

I didn't get the hang of stuff until I embraced my nerd side during my sophomore year of college and just started saying "fark off" to the haters and naysayers. I still didn't have alot of female friends, mainly because my interests just didn't jive with most chicks around my area, but, in the past three years, I've met a group of equally weird women through my husband's work and we have a blast together. Sometimes, it's just luck for us geeks.
 
2012-12-10 08:26:17 PM

megarian: smeegle: It's good to be a She Geek. Once I embraced my Nerdness, it was all good.
Have a great job, plenty of female companionship (helps to be a Lesbo)

Membership at a swanky gym/Spa. Cool guy pals with cool toys.
It's all good.

I'm the most socially awkward chick ever. I want female friends and a gym membership. Did I miss a meeting?


If there was a meeting, I probably missed it, too. I've lucked into most of my closest friendships. I lucked into a room in the Honors College dorm, where I left my door open to get a breeze going through during the first month and a random girl introduced herself to find out what game I was playing. She and I would be super close through college (and still would be if we didn't both suck at communicating and didn't live on opposite sides of the continent). Through her I would meet about 95% of the rest of my friends, including my ex and my current boyfriend. Her friends got me to go to Harry Potter club, where I met a lot of my other friends. She got me into Doctor Who. And my boyfriend and I only know each other through her - they went to high school together; he and I have never lived anywhere near each other, really. Honestly, I'm dreadful at meeting people and making friends, I just got lucky.

Gym membership isn't going to happen, though.
 
2012-12-10 08:28:01 PM

Omahawg: I don't like mondays

I want to shoooot the whole day down. shoot it down.


*)
 
2012-12-10 08:28:45 PM

megarian: smeegle: It's good to be a She Geek. Once I embraced my Nerdness, it was all good.
Have a great job, plenty of female companionship (helps to be a Lesbo)

Membership at a swanky gym/Spa. Cool guy pals with cool toys.
It's all good.

I'm the most socially awkward chick ever. I want female friends and a gym membership. Did I miss a meeting?


Don't let chicks and their petty BS get under your skin. Be yourself and love it. Have fun. Fark what other people think. Take good care of the friends you have. Enjoy the company of the opposite sex regardless of your orientation, we have much to learn from each other.
Life is too GDM short to freak on the small crap. That's my motto.
Hint, never join a gym giving away free toasters. :)
 
2012-12-10 08:29:13 PM
It's always so weird when I hear people say they were never bullied. I can't even imagine a life like that.

frak21: That is crazy. Hanging a dog is really bad. That would mess anybody up. Wizard is right that you could still get revenge. But if he could hurt a dog he could hurt a person such as his wife or kids if he's upset. Maybe he is doing it right now even. If he was doing something illegal and you exposed that ... that would be perfect revenge because you'd be doing something good and getting back at him. Not that you should be thinking about revenge. Probably forgetting about him would be best.
 
2012-12-10 08:30:37 PM

AutumnWind: It's always so weird when I hear people say they were never bullied. I can't even imagine a life like that.

frak21: That is crazy. Hanging a dog is really bad. That would mess anybody up. Wizard is right that you could still get revenge. But if he could hurt a dog he could hurt a person such as his wife or kids if he's upset. Maybe he is doing it right now even. If he was doing something illegal and you exposed that ... that would be perfect revenge because you'd be doing something good and getting back at him. Not that you should be thinking about revenge. Probably forgetting about him would be best.


We never forget.
 
2012-12-10 08:30:41 PM

JeffreyScott: FTA: 6. Give Up On Revenge

WTF? If there is one thing that I learned it is there is no such thing as karma. If a bully is deserving of revenge you have to dish it out yourself. Life will not serve it up to him.

My 6th grade bully won $26 million in the lottery. fark him!


The best revenge I remember from high school was the all-state foodball/track star who bullied a craz kid. One day, out of nowhere, the kid managed to kick the guy in the knee and put him out of commission for the football season.
 
2012-12-10 08:33:32 PM

blueviking: megarian: smeegle: It's good to be a She Geek. Once I embraced my Nerdness, it was all good.
Have a great job, plenty of female companionship (helps to be a Lesbo)

Membership at a swanky gym/Spa. Cool guy pals with cool toys.
It's all good.

I'm the most socially awkward chick ever. I want female friends and a gym membership. Did I miss a meeting?

"Word" from another socially awkward chick.

I didn't get the hang of stuff until I embraced my nerd side during my sophomore year of college and just started saying "fark off" to the haters and naysayers. I still didn't have alot of female friends, mainly because my interests just didn't jive with most chicks around my area, but, in the past three years, I've met a group of equally weird women through my husband's work and we have a blast together. Sometimes, it's just luck for us geeks.


I think once one is comfortable in their skin, that comfort radiates outward and people like that.
Why be uneasy right?
Life is one great big adventure and we all get to drink it in.
 
2012-12-10 08:33:36 PM
I've lived in PA, Texas, Alabama, Kentucky, Tennessee, 2 other small towns in PA, Alabama again, Minnesota, Georgia, New York, Philadelphia, Virginia, and I'm now in Maryland.

I think that's about right, I may have missed something or gotten things out of order a bit.
 
2012-12-10 08:34:52 PM
Crush your enemies, see them driven before you, and hear the lamentations of their loved ones.
 
2012-12-10 08:34:53 PM

Wizard Drongo: Whilst you might get that revenge by meeting out the same punishment they gave you on them, I'd say you can STILL get revenge on them, and if you do it right, you'll break no laws, and face no comeback.

Happily married with kids? Kids are innocent, so ignore them. Go for the marriage. Plant stories about another woman. Hire some attractive girl to bang on his door and confess adultery to his wife (and flesh it out with details gleaned from your knowledge/surveillance of the target).
Go for his job. If he's in customer service, have a stream of complaints made by others, alleging everything they can. He'll get the sack. Or other ways if he's in other employment. Maybe have someone get into his social circle, and get him hooked on drugs of some kind, they're really good for farking you up. My point is that you can use rumour, speculation, gossip and a few well placed lies to destroy his life, utterly, without really breaking any laws, or doing anything that ties back to you....until of course you find him in an alleyway, begging for drug money etc.

Then you let him know it was all you.

I'm glad you're getting a lot better, but some people need to be destroyed utterly. Do it, but do it smart, legal, and leave his kids and wife out of it as much as possible...



Thanks, but lately I've reduced it to simply borrowing a van and kidnapping his ass. Then it's off to a private little spot where he can be trussed up to a board and spend the next few days while I catch up on old times and explain to him with a rag and a garden hose just how life went by after we last parted.

Waterboarding is really neat stuff. It looks like just about anyone can do it, and with minimal preparation and risk. There aren't even any incriminating physical marks. Most importantly, the damage is permanent. I can actually break his soul.

But I need friends willing to go along with the plan. I've got good friends (I learned to sort out the shiatheads very early on), but I don't think I know anyone willing to go that far to assist me.

So it's not an option. For now, nothing. But I found him, and I know where he is, and who knows where tomorrow will take us?
 
2012-12-10 08:35:49 PM

Indubitably: AutumnWind: It's always so weird when I hear people say they were never bullied. I can't even imagine a life like that.

frak21: That is crazy. Hanging a dog is really bad. That would mess anybody up. Wizard is right that you could still get revenge. But if he could hurt a dog he could hurt a person such as his wife or kids if he's upset. Maybe he is doing it right now even. If he was doing something illegal and you exposed that ... that would be perfect revenge because you'd be doing something good and getting back at him. Not that you should be thinking about revenge. Probably forgetting about him would be best.

We never forget.


P.S. It's called an Elephant Memory... *)
 
2012-12-10 08:37:10 PM
What I found unfair...
Psychological abuse: Expected. It's character building.
Physical abuse: Frowned on, but tacitly condoned. It'll make a man out of you.
But wait outside your bully's house with a hockey stick, knock him down, cut off his ear and throw it on the roof of his garage and everyone is all OMG psychopath! Police! Courts, counselors!

But nobody is thinking about what was best for the bully. Doesn't he deserve to have some character? Shouldn't he be made into a man? I bet that guy has character and manlyness coming out his arsehole by now. But do I get any thanks? NOOO. Just condemnation.

/oh officer, I suddenly remembered where I put that ear. It's been what, 24 hours now? I bet it's too late to reattach it, isn't it? (heh heh heh)
 
2012-12-10 08:37:42 PM

frak21: Thanks, but lately I've reduced it to simply borrowing a van and kidnapping his ass. Then it's off to a private little spot where he can be trussed up to a board and spend the next few days while I catch up on old times and explain to him with a rag and a garden hose just how life went by after we last parted.

Waterboarding is really neat stuff. It looks like just about anyone can do it, and with minimal preparation and risk. There aren't even any incriminating physical marks. Most importantly, the damage is permanent. I can actually break his soul.

But I need friends willing to go along with the plan. I've got good friends (I learned to sort out the shiatheads very early on), but I don't think I know anyone willing to go that far to assist me.

So it's not an option. For now, nothing. But I found him, and I know where he is, and who knows where tomorrow will take us?


Like previously said, you need therapy. I don't think your revenge fantasies are helping you.

Of course, this is Fark, and this could be a wild troll.
 
2012-12-10 08:39:38 PM

slimfast: Being bullied when I was young made my paranoid.

WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING AT?????


me too! But on the plus side being so paranoid made me a slightly obsessive planner. Result is that I'm always prepared for stuff and don't forget things.

Mostly all the nerdy reading and typing made me super fast at reading and typing. So I can sort, read, and reply to all my mail before my coworkers have even gotten halfway through.

I suck at meeting people but I'm ok at making friends. So I have a super outgoing social butterfly other half. It is nice because he meets all the people and I choose which ones I want to be friends with...
 
2012-12-10 08:40:35 PM
There is only 1 bully I forgive. No matter how bad he beat me it was nothing compared to the daily beatings he received from his own father.
 
2012-12-10 08:41:27 PM

frak21: Wizard Drongo: Whilst you might get that revenge by meeting out the same punishment they gave you on them, I'd say you can STILL get revenge on them, and if you do it right, you'll break no laws, and face no comeback.

Happily married with kids? Kids are innocent, so ignore them. Go for the marriage. Plant stories about another woman. Hire some attractive girl to bang on his door and confess adultery to his wife (and flesh it out with details gleaned from your knowledge/surveillance of the target).
Go for his job. If he's in customer service, have a stream of complaints made by others, alleging everything they can. He'll get the sack. Or other ways if he's in other employment. Maybe have someone get into his social circle, and get him hooked on drugs of some kind, they're really good for farking you up. My point is that you can use rumour, speculation, gossip and a few well placed lies to destroy his life, utterly, without really breaking any laws, or doing anything that ties back to you....until of course you find him in an alleyway, begging for drug money etc.

Then you let him know it was all you.

I'm glad you're getting a lot better, but some people need to be destroyed utterly. Do it, but do it smart, legal, and leave his kids and wife out of it as much as possible...


Thanks, but lately I've reduced it to simply borrowing a van and kidnapping his ass. Then it's off to a private little spot where he can be trussed up to a board and spend the next few days while I catch up on old times and explain to him with a rag and a garden hose just how life went by after we last parted.

Waterboarding is really neat stuff. It looks like just about anyone can do it, and with minimal preparation and risk. There aren't even any incriminating physical marks. Most importantly, the damage is permanent. I can actually break his soul.

But I need friends willing to go along with the plan. I've got good friends (I learned to sort out the shiatheads very early on), but I don ...


Not sure either, but this online admission will ensure your prosecution.
 
2012-12-10 08:41:34 PM

gadian: How about, if you're being bullied for being different - different is the key word. You and the bully are not into the same things. You probably will never be into the same things. They don't understand you and you don't understand them. Why the fark do you care about what someone so different from you thinks about you? They are not worth the attention. Roll with it. They call you names, roll your eyes. They persuade other kids to not sit by you, you go sit with the other bullied & outcast kids. Just don't give a shiat. Those other bullied kids are probably pretty cool and you're no better than them.

Now, if there is ever physical contact, that is something completely different. But until then, why give a fark? They are not your peer.

/speaking from experience. It takes awhile, but you can teach a kid not to care about this sort of thing and if you're still being bullied, it's never too late to learn.


So much this. It doesn't matter what you are. If you own it and not care what others think then they'll never be able to make you feel bad for it.

I moved around a lot growing up. I tried to think back some years ago and lost track after I could solidly remember 14 places. I was never able to really fit in with others when I was young. I was also much smarter than other kids. As in, tested into and invited to an advanced "finish highschool by the time you're technically a teenager" type of school. I was different.

Luckily I wasn't bullied. I was mostly ignored. I think a bully or two tried but my apathy toward them proved fruitless. So, moving every year or so and different by nature I never meshed well with others. As an adult I'm better about fitting in but it's not always easy. I can get along with most people, but I never get close to anyone. My behavior and personal style/appearance tends to make me stand out.

But now I just own it. I've been the subject of good natured jokes due to things I do and I just laugh along and brush it off. After a couple of days of you acting naturally about it so does everyone else. At least, I'm lucky enough to be in that situation right now.

Anyway,

1. Ignore Insults and Keep Going
Yup.

2. Everybody Is Probably Laughing at You, But It's Not Really A Big Deal
Yep.

3. There Is Nothing More Important than Friendship
Eh. I never really had it. Seems nice, though.

4. Fantasies Are More Powerful Than Pain
Yeah. Sometimes the fantasies have their limits and can't hold back the pain, but they're your best friend when you're hurting and alone.

5. Always Distrust Popularity
Sorta. The most popular things tend to be fairly braindead and thus have a braindead following. Tread cautiously.

6. Give Up On Revenge
Oh hell no. Never abandon the resolve to punish those who have intentionally wronged you. Use it as fuel and never forget what people are capable of doing. NEVER let it get in the way of your everyday life, but never let them off the hook if the situation arises.
 
2012-12-10 08:45:03 PM

Glitchwerks: frak21: Thanks, but lately I've reduced it to simply borrowing a van and kidnapping his ass. Then it's off to a private little spot where he can be trussed up to a board and spend the next few days while I catch up on old times and explain to him with a rag and a garden hose just how life went by after we last parted.

Waterboarding is really neat stuff. It looks like just about anyone can do it, and with minimal preparation and risk. There aren't even any incriminating physical marks. Most importantly, the damage is permanent. I can actually break his soul.

But I need friends willing to go along with the plan. I've got good friends (I learned to sort out the shiatheads very early on), but I don't think I know anyone willing to go that far to assist me.

So it's not an option. For now, nothing. But I found him, and I know where he is, and who knows where tomorrow will take us?

Like previously said, you need therapy. I don't think your revenge fantasies are helping you.

Of course, this is Fark, and this could be a wild troll.



I've had a shiatload of therapy thank you. Two or three lifetimes worth.

No. Revenge fantasies don't help, but it's exciting to have the opportunity to redress that festering old wound.

Like I said. It's probably not going to happen. Mostly for logistical reasons, but not going to happen.

But I've still got my eye on him now. I can take my time. He's not going anywhere. As I said before, who knows what tomorrow will bring?
 
2012-12-10 08:46:12 PM

CtrlAltDestroy: I moved around a lot growing up. I tried to think back some years ago and lost track after I could solidly remember 14 places. I was never able to really fit in with others when I was young. I was also much smarter than other kids. As in, tested into and invited to an advanced "finish highschool by the time you're technically a teenager" type of school. I was different.

Luckily I wasn't bullied. I was mostly ignored. I think a bully or two tried but my apathy toward them proved fruitless. So, moving every year or so and different by nature I never meshed well with others. As an adult I'm better about fitting in but it's not always easy. I can get along with most people, but I never get close to anyone. My behavior and personal style/appearance tends to make me stand out.


*fistbump* Pretty much my story exactly.
 
2012-12-10 08:48:15 PM

CtrlAltDestroy: gadian: How about, if you're being bullied for being different - different is the key word. You and the bully are not into the same things. You probably will never be into the same things. They don't understand you and you don't understand them. Why the fark do you care about what someone so different from you thinks about you? They are not worth the attention. Roll with it. They call you names, roll your eyes. They persuade other kids to not sit by you, you go sit with the other bullied & outcast kids. Just don't give a shiat. Those other bullied kids are probably pretty cool and you're no better than them.

Now, if there is ever physical contact, that is something completely different. But until then, why give a fark? They are not your peer.

/speaking from experience. It takes awhile, but you can teach a kid not to care about this sort of thing and if you're still being bullied, it's never too late to learn.

So much this. It doesn't matter what you are. If you own it and not care what others think then they'll never be able to make you feel bad for it.

I moved around a lot growing up. I tried to think back some years ago and lost track after I could solidly remember 14 places. I was never able to really fit in with others when I was young. I was also much smarter than other kids. As in, tested into and invited to an advanced "finish highschool by the time you're technically a teenager" type of school. I was different.

Luckily I wasn't bullied. I was mostly ignored. I think a bully or two tried but my apathy toward them proved fruitless. So, moving every year or so and different by nature I never meshed well with others. As an adult I'm better about fitting in but it's not always easy. I can get along with most people, but I never get close to anyone. My behavior and personal style/appearance tends to make me stand out.

But now I just own it. I've been the subject of good natured jokes due to things I do and I just laugh along and brush it off. Afte ...


Duly noted. *)
 
2012-12-10 08:49:03 PM

megarian: I'm the most socially awkward chick ever. I want female friends and a gym membership. Did I miss a meeting?


Yeah. They called it Lillith Fair.
 
2012-12-10 08:49:29 PM
I feel like we have a real "Breakfast Club" thing going on in this thread.

Should I write the essay?
 
2012-12-10 08:50:28 PM

spidermilk: me too! But on the plus side being so paranoid made me a slightly obsessive planner. Result is that I'm always prepared for stuff and don't forget things.


So, basically, you're crazy prepared?

/There goes the evening..
 
2012-12-10 08:50:41 PM

BigLuca: I feel like we have a real "Breakfast Club" thing going on in this thread.

Should I write the essay?


I wanna help while still playing the bad boy...
 
2012-12-10 08:50:48 PM

smeegle: Hint, never join a gym giving away free toasters. :)


I used to go to a climbing gym in DC that gave out popcorn and Twizzlers every Wednesday.
 
2012-12-10 08:51:23 PM
The sticky component about revenge my friends is the damage it will do to you.
It feels good to fantasize about it.
It feels good to initiate the well laid plan of a dish best served cold.
but it's a temp fix with bad repercussions.
The best revenge as you all know, is living well. In most cases you will outdo your bully.

I have had the great honor or witnessing instant karma upon the ultimate bully. The neanderthal that beat my Mom and abused us kids.
He was driving one of those Red Cross Blood Mobile vans, the van got stuck on a railroad crossing. Two trollies on opposite ends had their breaks let loose thus crushing his sorry ass. He was doomed to stew in his own juices in a wheel chair for another year until the bastard finally croaked. Needless to say, he was virtually stopped dead in his tracks, never to hurt another woman or child again. Yay

This is instant karma, reserved for the true monsters in our midst.
Keep the faith my peeps. Justice is always served, if not in this life, definitely in the next.
 
2012-12-10 08:51:51 PM
Always default to the rocket launcher. Always a good choice.
 
2012-12-10 08:52:31 PM

Indubitably: Not sure either, but this online admission will ensure your prosecution.



Except I'm not looking to get away with it, silly.

If it happens, I know full well I'll be prosecuted.
 
2012-12-10 08:59:22 PM

Indubitably: BigLuca: I feel like we have a real "Breakfast Club" thing going on in this thread.

Should I write the essay?

I wanna help while still playing the bad boy...


Done, we're flexible.
 
2012-12-10 08:59:24 PM

BigLuca: I feel like we have a real "Breakfast Club" thing going on in this thread.

Should I write the essay?


Write it. Let's go. haha.
We do have it going on.
Our lives witness the bully in many aspects every day.
The News writes it for us while we comment and lament.
I'm feeling all geeky and poetic.
 
2012-12-10 09:00:24 PM

doyner: megarian: I'm the most socially awkward chick ever. I want female friends and a gym membership. Did I miss a meeting?

Yeah. They called it Lillith Fair.


Oops. Went to Ozzfest instead. I think.
 
2012-12-10 09:02:25 PM

PanicMan: *fistbump* Pretty much my story exactly.


*bump*

One of the best things about the Internet is that it lets oddballs know that they have, and come in contact with, kindred spirits.
 
2012-12-10 09:05:59 PM

frak21: Like I said. It's probably not going to happen. Mostly for logistical reasons, but not going to happen.

But I've still got my eye on him now. I can take my time. He's not going anywhere. As I said before, who knows what tomorrow will bring?


Take your story to /b/, change dog to cat, and give known dox. If you're lucky, they'll be in the mood to assist.

/The stories and information posted here are artistic works of fiction and falsehood.
Only a fool would take anything posted here as fact.
 
2012-12-10 09:06:00 PM

megarian: doyner: megarian: I'm the most socially awkward chick ever. I want female friends and a gym membership. Did I miss a meeting?

Yeah. They called it Lillith Fair.

Oops. Went to Ozzfest instead. I think.


Works just as well, in some instances. :)
 
2012-12-10 09:11:42 PM

frak21: Indubitably: Not sure either, but this online admission will ensure your prosecution.


Except I'm not looking to get away with it, silly.

If it happens, I know full well I'll be prosecuted.


Prosexecutedly?
 
2012-12-10 09:12:23 PM

doyner: megarian: I'm the most socially awkward chick ever. I want female friends and a gym membership. Did I miss a meeting?

Yeah. They called it Lillith Fair.


Word
 
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