Felgraf: FarkinHostile: The difference is I try. You can program your programming if you really want to and work on it.Hooray meta-cognition!/Though I'm not sure all people are capable of 'thinking about thinking'. Or, at least, it probably has to be taught...
QueenMamaBee: I work with someone I swear has histronic personality disorder. She took two days off because she had to have her dog put down and actually told me that her dogs are just like kids.... that it's like a child dying. First time in my life I was speechless.
Doom MD: FarkinHostile: cryinoutloud: I have no problem with you guys divorcing your loony ex (I divorced mine too) but it's not just an "excuse." It's how they think, it's how their brains are wired. When they appear to have no idea how they have hurt or offended you, they really don't.Sorry, but I don't buy it. When things were good, they were great, so she knew her actions had significance and when it suited her, she was wonderful. After I left her, she acknowledged her "problems" as she tried to get me to take her back, while doing all of the things that made me leave her.She knew. She controlled it when it suited her.In all honesty, I could have been diagnosed with a personality disorder when I was a teen/young man. I'm not the most "sane" fellow, and I struggle with my issues every day. The difference is I try. You can program your programming if you really want to and work on it.While I am in no place to opine on your relationship, realize BPD'ers are manipulative on a level most normal individuals could only dream of aspiring to.Personality disorders persist in the population because when deployed properly, they can be wildly successful individuals (the hammer in the room full of nails, so to speak). Human history has turned on such individuals. I'm sure many historical figures had personality disorders and were at the right place at the right time.
doczoidberg: More disorders = more reasons to prescribe people expensive medications.
kokomo61: I think my sister had it nailed when she said 'Borderline Personality Disorder' is just an excuse for bad behavior.If you can blame it on a 'disorder', then TaDa! No personal responsibility!
kokomo61: ....and I know what it's like to be married to someone with BPD. It IS an excuse.
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