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(Daily Mail)   One in five men has a secret email account they use to hide correspondence from their partner. In other news, have you checked your ultrafark account lately?   (dailymail.co.uk) divider line 20
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2012-11-20 01:10:30 PM
3 votes:

Trade Secret: Me and Mrs Secret have been through multiple fights over passwords and personal accounts. I don't think that it is necessary that she has my passwords to everything (she believes it is) and I don't think that she needs to have my login info for everything (also believes this). There is nothing in my email or Facebook that she needs to fark with, all of the bills and credit stuff go to her account, so why does she need it? Because she is a control freak, like most women.

Hell, we got in a big old brouhaha once when I changed my password (which EVERYONE should do a couple times a year) and didn't let her know right away.

/ I have nothing to hide, I just like to have my own things.
//With 3 kids it is hard to lay claim to anything but bills...
///yeah I know she is kind-of a biotch...


Marriage therapists agree with your wife. Sorry, but they see everyday what comes of partners opening secret email and other communications accounts. Why do you feel that you have some sort of right to a private email account that your wife cannot see? Marriage isn't about mine and yours, but ours. If you aren't hiding anything, it shouldn't make any difference. All you are accomplishing is to engender distrust in your wife. Sounds like she already has it and you are feeding it. That never leads anything good. If you think you wife is "kind-of a biotch", your marriage isn't going in the right direction and you are vulnerable to an extra-marital affair already. If you love your wife, you need to rethink your position on this. It's only going to be a growing problem if you don't.
2012-11-20 11:35:51 AM
2 votes:

Dimensio: I am too technically inclined and security-conscious to consider giving anyone, even a significant other, access to my email accounts. I cannot comprehend needing a "secret" email account to hide correspondence from a significant other, because any significant other that I would have would have no reason to access my standard email accounts.


This.

I don't have hers and she doesn't have mine. If "trust" requires that you read each others email, well that isn't what I think "trust" looks like.
2012-11-20 11:34:46 AM
2 votes:
Heh. No partner, no need for secret email account. Easy peasy.
2012-11-20 11:34:43 AM
2 votes:
I am too technically inclined and security-conscious to consider giving anyone, even a significant other, access to my email accounts. I cannot comprehend needing a "secret" email account to hide correspondence from a significant other, because any significant other that I would have would have no reason to access my standard email accounts.
2012-11-20 06:02:40 PM
1 votes:
When the woman I have sex with most often and I have sex with other people, and its not the same event, we'll typically tell each other all about it if it was hot and interesting, or perhaps just say "meh" if it wasn't.

Pardon me for having no interest in marriage whatsoever.
2012-11-20 02:47:10 PM
1 votes:
Jackie Rabbit-

"No, you should not marry...to marry is to voluntarily surrender autonomy for the sake of the relationship, so that the two of you can build a life together"

WHAT?!?

Ok. Fun story time. I have a friend. He's been married for ten years. Over the course of those ten years all the things he loved before they got together (anime, video games, pinup girls, roller derby, smoking a pipe, magic the gathering, comic books, etc) eventually got all packed into boxes in the garage. He has no hobbies. He has no friends because his wife disapproves of them. He exists to drive his wife and her mother around. He is a slave to her whims and can't even leave the house for an hour without explaining himself fully, and even then it always leads to an argument.

By your definition, this is a normal, healthy, functional marriage.

WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU?

A functioning marriage is about compromise and maintaining a sense of self even though you are half of a whole. Being fine with spending an evening by yourself or out with your people while they are at their DnD group. A wife happy to make lots of little sandwiches and spinach dip for the guys then excusing herself to a pedicure while they watch the Super Bowl. A husband happy to spend a night at his buddy's house so they can have a Molly Ringwald marathon and makeovers sleepover party.

There is something very VERY wrong with your brain if you think for ONE INSTANT that becoming a blob of two people where you can't tell where one ends and the other begins is a healthy marriage.

/endrant
2012-11-20 02:34:50 PM
1 votes:

AutumnWind: Marriage therapists agree with your wife. Sorry, but they see everyday what comes of partners opening secret email and other communications accounts. Why do you feel that you have some sort of right to a private email account that your wife cannot see? Marriage isn't about mine and yours, but ours. If you aren't hiding anything, it shouldn't make any difference.

If that's how it's supposed to be I'm never getting married. Just reading this and thinking about it makes me feel suffocated. People who write diaries aren't hiding anything usually, but they wouldn't want somebody else reading their personal thoughts there either. If I wanted to fuse into one person I'd become a mad scientist. I think it's also disrespectful to people who are writing to you and expecting YOU only to be reading the mail. I don't think I'd want to write to friends anymore if I knew they were sharing my mails. And I've got nothing to hide and don't write anything weird.... but I'm writing to them, not them and somebody else.


No, you should not marry. At least not until you come to understand two things: 1) to marry is to voluntarily surrender autonomy for the sake of the relationship, so that the two of you can build a life together; and 2) that no one's diary has ever talked them into trysting at the local motel during lunch.

There is a HUGE difference between a diary or journal and a secret email account, of which your spouse has no knowledge or, if he/she knows about it, is refused all access. A diary is used to record one's experiences and feelings for purely personal reasons; it must remain sacrosanct private or it is useless. An email account is about communicating with others - dialog, not monolog. You should not expect that your electronic communications (which really aren't private at all) rise to the standard of a diary/journal. We used to have a saying in the early days of the internet: never put anything into an email you wouldn't want your mother to read. If something is so private that you don't want some one else to read it, you don't send it in an email. Ever. Emails are forever and you completely lose control over them after you press send, as Gen. David Petraeus was recently reminded.

I can think of no rational justification for keeping an email account secret from your spouse - the one person you are supposed to trust and honor above all others. There can be only one reason for doing so: one is either up to no good or is planning on it in the future. If this weren't the case, one would not feel the need for secrecy. Rather, they would just do as my wife does and say "if you really want to read that boring crap, you know the password. Just don't look in the folder called 'orders'; I don't want you finding out what I ordered for your birthday."
2012-11-20 02:02:30 PM
1 votes:

Gabrielmot: Before you mark someone's post here as "smart", it would be best to know who's divorced in this thread.

-Here's a hint, those who don't want their wife to know their passwords...


It also seems to be the ones who've gotten hold of their wife's passwords.
2012-11-20 01:55:49 PM
1 votes:
Before you mark someone's post here as "smart", it would be best to know who's divorced in this thread.

-Here's a hint, those who don't want their wife to know their passwords...
2012-11-20 01:04:15 PM
1 votes:

I May Be Crazy But...: kiwimoogle84: Mrs.Sharpier: ha! as if anyone with an ultrafark account is attractive enough to score some side slaw

Speak for yourself.

I have three- one professional that goes on my resume, one hotmail for my Itunes and Amazon and spam, and everything else goes to my gmail.

And if I wanted to be your guy on the side, which on should I send an e-mail to?


HA! Gmail. :P

I dated a cop that'd go through my email regularly. I didn't know. We broke up because he printed out six emails, four of which were before we even started dating, and demanded to know who these people were. One time I let him log on my computer and my email was auto signed in. He'd been rifling through my laptop ever since.

Yeah, I'm of the opinion that when you go looking for trouble, it's exactly what you'll find. So I don't do that.
2012-11-20 12:12:06 PM
1 votes:
hell I bet 1/5 have an email account that they dont know of themselves.
2012-11-20 11:49:04 AM
1 votes:
ha! as if anyone with an ultrafark account is attractive enough to score some side slaw
2012-11-20 11:46:41 AM
1 votes:

Bumblefark: My wife has my email password...we got lazy a while back, and just started using the same password for all accounts we have, in case the other person needs to access it.


I can't think of a single reason she would "need" access to my email.

(I have things like bank statements delivered to mine that, if hit by a bus, she should probably be able to fish out).

If it is a joint account she has access to the statements. If it isn't she has access to the account when you die anyway.

Seriously doubt she sits around reading my emails...

I don't know her so I can't say for sure but if I were a betting man I would bet you were wrong.
2012-11-20 11:38:53 AM
1 votes:
my wife and i basically have "open" email privileges. we don't actively check but it's like, if she's on and i'm watching tv, i'll ask her to check or vice versa. but we don't snoop around. i don't get very many emails anyways. 90% of my comms with friends are via call/text and i don't really keep in touch with any fark people any more. so my email inbox is usually spam from the various retailers i might use (amazon, LiveNation, races, Huge Black Jugs, Ghetto Gaggin MILFs, Forbes, etc.)
2012-11-20 11:37:44 AM
1 votes:
"Honey, can I have your email password?"
"If you have it, I can't keep my surprise Tiffany purchases a secret and I'll have to stop before I start...."
2012-11-20 11:37:42 AM
1 votes:

iheartscotch: Their on to us; everyone, purge your tertiary email accounts.


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2012-11-20 11:35:21 AM
1 votes:

jst3p: Wait, some people let their partner know their main email account password?


I've been that guy. Twice. Huge mistake both times, and somehow I didn't learn from the first one.

Openness and honesty mean nothing if you're not dealing with someone who invents their own reality.

/do I sound bitter?
//I'm not, because the third time's the charm
2012-11-20 11:32:52 AM
1 votes:
Wait, some people let their partner know their main email account password?
2012-11-20 11:27:45 AM
1 votes:
Their on to us; everyone, purge your tertiary email accounts.
2012-11-20 11:25:56 AM
1 votes:
Why, am I getting BIE there?
 
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