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(Washington Post)   Friending your boss on Facebook: bad idea, stupidest idea, or worst idea ever?   (washingtonpost.com) divider line 37
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2012-11-07 09:08:02 PM
4 votes:
I don't friend anyone who I work with. Ex-coworkers are ok though
2012-11-07 09:03:41 PM
4 votes:

Indubitably: How do you deny your boss' friend request?


By ignoring it.

/is that really that hard?
2012-11-07 10:06:14 PM
3 votes:

Soupysales: AverageAmericanGuy: Well, the posts are to help them get into a habit of expressing themselves and to give them a chance to be creative every day. If they wrote this kind of thing every day, I would have to have a talk with he or she.

Just curious, what industry are you in?


AAG is in the serial trolling industry.
2012-11-07 09:18:57 PM
3 votes:
How about don't be a 16yr old girl and stay off Facebook?
2012-11-07 09:07:19 PM
3 votes:
Because of the place where I work, I have two different Facebook profiles. One is a professional one that I can connect with patients and their families and be a normal, productive member of society. My boss knows about this one and has no problem with it.

My friends/family profile is the one where I can post whatever I feel like posting, and the "privacy" settings are set to friends only. The last thing I want is my professional life mixing with my personal life. Those people don't need to know how liberal I am, what I think about pop culture, or how bad those shiatheads at the bus stop for work piss me off.
2012-11-07 09:06:43 PM
3 votes:
It's fine if you don't ever post anything on Facebook or don't post/like controversial things. Also it helps if you don't lie to your boss about why miss work then post on Facebook the real thing you were doing that day. All of these things are within your control.
2012-11-07 09:02:50 PM
3 votes:
indianprairiecommunity.org

Though I am friends with a few of my workstudy student employees...
2012-11-07 09:01:12 PM
3 votes:
What could go wrong?

www.lamebook.com
2012-11-07 10:28:16 PM
2 votes:
I tell everyone the opposite. Make your mom, your wife, your boss,and your religious leader your fB friends and then post accodrdingly.

Don't say anything on fB you wouldnt broadcast with your face and name to the whole world on primetime TV. How hard is that?
2012-11-07 10:22:17 PM
2 votes:
Using Facebook at any time for anything = Bad idea.
2012-11-07 09:37:30 PM
2 votes:

AverageAmericanGuy: Maybe you should have bosses as cool as me...I've begun requiring they write at least one post a day about anything they feel like


Not cool. Not cool at all. Freakishly uncool.
2012-11-07 09:28:21 PM
2 votes:
For those that say it's okay to friend and put them in a group that doesn't see anything, you better be careful of Facebook system updates. They sometimes screw with viewing settings of old posts.
2012-11-07 09:19:33 PM
2 votes:

AverageAmericanGuy: Maybe you should have bosses as cool as me. My employees have friended me, and I love seeing what they're up to and thinking. Sometimes I comment, most times I don't.

I feel like it gives us a chance to get to really understand each other, and none of them seem to be sociopaths, at least as far as I can tell from their posting. That's a good thing.

Since I started doing this, I've begun requiring they write at least one post a day about anything they feel like. It could be about what they're eating for lunch or ways they think the company could be improved. We're always on the lookout for ways to do things better around here.

I also encourage the employees to send friend requests to each other, though this isn't a rule yet. We're all in this together, so adding another means of communication is useful. Some people are shy and can't express themselves in person, so the chance to share online via Facebook is pretty great for them.


"Require?"
2012-11-07 09:17:48 PM
2 votes:
Take the time to learn about Facebook's filters and lists. You can post your degraded sex details/pictures to the people you want to show it, and the general "Happy whatever holiday, friends" nonsense to everyone else. As far as your boss/parents/people you don't want to share with know, you're just not a big Facebook user.

Oh, and get your friends to post "friends only" at the very least, as well. We all have that asshole friend who's posts are "Everyone", and when you comment on their keg stand picture, your friends see it.

Learn the system, game the system.
2012-11-07 09:09:09 PM
2 votes:
I've denied family members.. So yeah, sure as shiat I'll deny a boss too.. fark em.. I post awful shiat and know it.
2012-11-07 09:08:53 PM
2 votes:

gingerjet: Indubitably: How do you deny your boss' friend request?

By ignoring it.

/is that really that hard?


Yes squared.

In an environment of boundary violation daily, how do you establish effective, real, professional boundaries?

Perhaps more poignant: how do you defend them?

Depends.
2012-11-07 09:07:24 PM
2 votes:
Just stick him on the sanitized list you should already have and up and running for your older relatives and all that.
2012-11-07 09:04:52 PM
2 votes:
I don't use any media but Fark.
2012-11-07 09:03:47 PM
2 votes:
Boss, teacher, professor, etc....oh, hell no.
2012-11-07 09:00:14 PM
2 votes:
Baaaaad idea. Don't need a boss to even know about social media/networking sites outside of LinkedIn.
2012-11-07 11:41:46 PM
1 votes:
Don't have facebook and it won't be a problem.
2012-11-07 11:36:52 PM
1 votes:
Meh! Anyone who would fire me for my personal life probably isn't somebody I'd want to be working for in the first place.
2012-11-07 10:49:34 PM
1 votes:

Indubitably: How do you deny your boss' friend request?


I had a former boss request to be my friend on facebook, mostly because she didn't understand how social media worked. As she and I were both about the same age (late 30's) this was bizarre to me because I was the one who dragged the organization kicking and screaming into using social media, so this was perplexing to me. Then again, she barely understood how the internet worked and I never quite figured out how she got the job. Thankfully we had a good relationship despite this so I simply stopped by her office and told her that I would be happy to be 'friends' with her on Linkedin, but I keep Facebook for family and non-work related pursuits only. She was cool with that. Whew.

Never friend your boss on Facebook. What the hell is wrong with you people.
2012-11-07 10:20:49 PM
1 votes:
My policy is that I may friend my co-workers, but I won't friend my boss until after I leave. It's worked out pretty well.
2012-11-07 10:17:16 PM
1 votes:
I left facebook over a year ago and never looked back.

However, I was when I was on it, my boss was in my firends list. My relationship is my boss is such:
1) If I were to trash talk him on facebook, it would have been nothing I wouldn't have said to his face.
2) he knows of my affinity for teh whiskey anyway

I even made fun of him when he changed his status to engaged.

YMMV
2012-11-07 09:43:34 PM
1 votes:

BarkingUnicorn: sotua: HotIgneous Intruder: gingerjet: Indubitably: How do you deny your boss' friend request?

By ignoring it.

/is that really that hard?

This.

Next day in the morning. "O HAI Intruder, did you finish the report I asked? Oh, and why haven't you accepted my friend request?" AWKWARD!

"Because I keep my business and personal lives separate."


I choose not to eat and shiat in the same space.
2012-11-07 09:29:48 PM
1 votes:
Who wouldn't want their boss to see their drunken, drug-fueled, scantily clad antics?
2012-11-07 09:28:00 PM
1 votes:
If you live your life in such a way that you would not be embarassed if anyone saw you at any time, then there's no worries whatsoever.


/just sayin'
2012-11-07 09:25:44 PM
1 votes:
FTA : Eventually, in 10 years, you're just gonna be connected to everyone all the time, including your boss."

Please kill me in 9 years.
2012-11-07 09:25:23 PM
1 votes:
Friending your boss on Facebook: bad idea, stupidest idea, or worst idea ever?
2012-11-07 09:20:15 PM
1 votes:
I'm on G+ and several of my employees invited me to circles. I almost never circle them, because I am aware of that boundary, but I will if they initiate it.

I don't see many posts from them. I suspect I'm in the "NO PARTY PICS" circle.

/long story short: g+ gives you much more control over posting stupid shiat your boss can see
2012-11-07 09:18:32 PM
1 votes:
I have a simple policy: I friend NOBODY from work, NONE of my students. The only student exception is one who was my student back in the mid '90s and found me on FB in about 2010. I figure fifteen years is enough buffer time. But I keep my FB existence virtually totally separate from my work existence. And I keep both of them rigorously separate from dahmers love zombie.
2012-11-07 09:16:52 PM
1 votes:
Maybe you should have bosses as cool as me. My employees have friended me, and I love seeing what they're up to and thinking. Sometimes I comment, most times I don't.

I feel like it gives us a chance to get to really understand each other, and none of them seem to be sociopaths, at least as far as I can tell from their posting. That's a good thing.

Since I started doing this, I've begun requiring they write at least one post a day about anything they feel like. It could be about what they're eating for lunch or ways they think the company could be improved. We're always on the lookout for ways to do things better around here.

I also encourage the employees to send friend requests to each other, though this isn't a rule yet. We're all in this together, so adding another means of communication is useful. Some people are shy and can't express themselves in person, so the chance to share online via Facebook is pretty great for them.
2012-11-07 09:15:27 PM
1 votes:
Once your boss accepts your friend request, be sure to post about how much you hate your job and can't wait to get home to do a line of coke.
2012-11-07 09:09:21 PM
1 votes:
The only reason I opened a Facebook acct was for doing a blog at work so my boss was the first one on my page. Now, not so long after I'm looking for another job but I don't want her to know. I'd love to grumble about things at work- I cannot. I can't Wait for the day I have another job so I can "unfriend"!

Don't do it. Don't do it. Don't do it!
2012-11-07 09:00:15 PM
1 votes:
me?

good idea. I work from home 3,200 miles away from our office.

If I post a picture of me doing a kegstand I simply change the settings to custom and do not include him. Besides... even if he saw it he'd be pissed I didn't invite him out
2012-11-07 08:57:46 PM
1 votes:
How do you deny your boss' friend request?
 
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