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2012-11-07 08:57:46 PM
How do you deny your boss' friend request?
 
2012-11-07 09:00:14 PM
Baaaaad idea. Don't need a boss to even know about social media/networking sites outside of LinkedIn.
 
2012-11-07 09:00:15 PM
me?

good idea. I work from home 3,200 miles away from our office.

If I post a picture of me doing a kegstand I simply change the settings to custom and do not include him. Besides... even if he saw it he'd be pissed I didn't invite him out
 
2012-11-07 09:01:12 PM
What could go wrong?

www.lamebook.com
 
2012-11-07 09:02:50 PM
indianprairiecommunity.org

Though I am friends with a few of my workstudy student employees...
 
2012-11-07 09:03:41 PM

Indubitably: How do you deny your boss' friend request?


By ignoring it.

/is that really that hard?
 
2012-11-07 09:03:45 PM
Yes.
 
2012-11-07 09:03:47 PM
Boss, teacher, professor, etc....oh, hell no.
 
2012-11-07 09:04:52 PM
I don't use any media but Fark.
 
2012-11-07 09:05:51 PM

Indubitably: I don't use any media but Fark.


Can't you pay me five dollars plus a month?
 
2012-11-07 09:06:43 PM
It's fine if you don't ever post anything on Facebook or don't post/like controversial things. Also it helps if you don't lie to your boss about why miss work then post on Facebook the real thing you were doing that day. All of these things are within your control.
 
2012-11-07 09:07:19 PM
Because of the place where I work, I have two different Facebook profiles. One is a professional one that I can connect with patients and their families and be a normal, productive member of society. My boss knows about this one and has no problem with it.

My friends/family profile is the one where I can post whatever I feel like posting, and the "privacy" settings are set to friends only. The last thing I want is my professional life mixing with my personal life. Those people don't need to know how liberal I am, what I think about pop culture, or how bad those shiatheads at the bus stop for work piss me off.
 
2012-11-07 09:07:24 PM
Just stick him on the sanitized list you should already have and up and running for your older relatives and all that.
 
2012-11-07 09:07:39 PM
Not recently, but my last boss I knew since my first day on the job. He would comment on my status more than anyone. It was alright.
 
2012-11-07 09:08:02 PM
I don't friend anyone who I work with. Ex-coworkers are ok though
 
2012-11-07 09:08:53 PM

gingerjet: Indubitably: How do you deny your boss' friend request?

By ignoring it.

/is that really that hard?


Yes squared.

In an environment of boundary violation daily, how do you establish effective, real, professional boundaries?

Perhaps more poignant: how do you defend them?

Depends.
 
2012-11-07 09:09:09 PM
I've denied family members.. So yeah, sure as shiat I'll deny a boss too.. fark em.. I post awful shiat and know it.
 
2012-11-07 09:09:21 PM
The only reason I opened a Facebook acct was for doing a blog at work so my boss was the first one on my page. Now, not so long after I'm looking for another job but I don't want her to know. I'd love to grumble about things at work- I cannot. I can't Wait for the day I have another job so I can "unfriend"!

Don't do it. Don't do it. Don't do it!
 
2012-11-07 09:09:54 PM
For me, it was fine. My boss had no problem with the shiat I posted on my wall and likely had worse posted on hers. It probably depends on what kind of rapport you have with your boss.
 
2012-11-07 09:10:01 PM

gingerjet: Indubitably: How do you deny your boss' friend request?

By ignoring it.

/is that really that hard?


This.
 
2012-11-07 09:10:47 PM
I'm friends with my boss, but then we party together so it's probably cool.
 
2012-11-07 09:11:08 PM

HotIgneous Intruder: gingerjet: Indubitably: How do you deny your boss' friend request?

By ignoring it.

/is that really that hard?

This.


How big is your community, friends?
 
2012-11-07 09:11:50 PM
Well, are you friends with your boss?

Seriously, are you friends with your boss, or are you just another person passing through his little slice of a cost center before your or he moves on to other things?
 
2012-11-07 09:12:38 PM
No big, we all get along in the office, and I even work for a Fortune 500. Makes work suck a lot less when you all get along.

/lucky I guess.
 
2012-11-07 09:13:03 PM

HotIgneous Intruder: gingerjet: Indubitably: How do you deny your boss' friend request?

By ignoring it.

/is that really that hard?

This.


Next day in the morning. "O HAI Intruder, did you finish the report I asked? Oh, and why haven't you accepted my friend request?" AWKWARD!
 
2012-11-07 09:13:06 PM

gingerjet: Indubitably: How do you deny your boss' friend request?

By ignoring it.

/is that really that hard?


sometimes but she is kind of cute

i'll rape their servers posting boobs on the fark but I won't accept a friend request
 
2012-11-07 09:13:09 PM

Indubitably: gingerjet: Indubitably: How do you deny your boss' friend request?

By ignoring it.

/is that really that hard?

Yes squared.

In an environment of boundary violation daily, how do you establish effective, real, professional boundaries?

Perhaps more poignant: how do you defend them?

Depends.


Never tell them your Facebook email. If they look for you by name, ignore them. If they ask why you're ignoring them, ask "Are you stalking me?!" in the most offended tone you can manage.
 
2012-11-07 09:13:53 PM
Was FB friends with my boss before he became my boss, would be a little strange to unfriend him now. Not too worried about it though, I tend to steer clear of posting anything potentially damaging on there
 
2012-11-07 09:14:38 PM
"Ferris Bueller's Day Off" would be two minutes long if it came out today.

Or it would be a Law and Order:SVU episode after Ed Rooney got busted for sending Ferris pics of his dong.
 
2012-11-07 09:15:27 PM
Once your boss accepts your friend request, be sure to post about how much you hate your job and can't wait to get home to do a line of coke.
 
2012-11-07 09:16:19 PM
No boss, no coworkers, no former coworkers or bosses that might be needed as witnesses or references, and absolutely NO friending of any family member who is loved dearly but has a right leaning pudding brain. On the other hand, friending people that were idiots in high school so that I can see them complain about how crappy their lives are now and get all butt hurt over my politics is FUN.
 
2012-11-07 09:16:37 PM
Have you seen my recent post about healthy boundaries?
 
2012-11-07 09:16:52 PM
Maybe you should have bosses as cool as me. My employees have friended me, and I love seeing what they're up to and thinking. Sometimes I comment, most times I don't.

I feel like it gives us a chance to get to really understand each other, and none of them seem to be sociopaths, at least as far as I can tell from their posting. That's a good thing.

Since I started doing this, I've begun requiring they write at least one post a day about anything they feel like. It could be about what they're eating for lunch or ways they think the company could be improved. We're always on the lookout for ways to do things better around here.

I also encourage the employees to send friend requests to each other, though this isn't a rule yet. We're all in this together, so adding another means of communication is useful. Some people are shy and can't express themselves in person, so the chance to share online via Facebook is pretty great for them.
 
2012-11-07 09:17:48 PM
Take the time to learn about Facebook's filters and lists. You can post your degraded sex details/pictures to the people you want to show it, and the general "Happy whatever holiday, friends" nonsense to everyone else. As far as your boss/parents/people you don't want to share with know, you're just not a big Facebook user.

Oh, and get your friends to post "friends only" at the very least, as well. We all have that asshole friend who's posts are "Everyone", and when you comment on their keg stand picture, your friends see it.

Learn the system, game the system.
 
2012-11-07 09:18:32 PM
I have a simple policy: I friend NOBODY from work, NONE of my students. The only student exception is one who was my student back in the mid '90s and found me on FB in about 2010. I figure fifteen years is enough buffer time. But I keep my FB existence virtually totally separate from my work existence. And I keep both of them rigorously separate from dahmers love zombie.
 
2012-11-07 09:18:57 PM
How about don't be a 16yr old girl and stay off Facebook?
 
2012-11-07 09:19:33 PM

AverageAmericanGuy: Maybe you should have bosses as cool as me. My employees have friended me, and I love seeing what they're up to and thinking. Sometimes I comment, most times I don't.

I feel like it gives us a chance to get to really understand each other, and none of them seem to be sociopaths, at least as far as I can tell from their posting. That's a good thing.

Since I started doing this, I've begun requiring they write at least one post a day about anything they feel like. It could be about what they're eating for lunch or ways they think the company could be improved. We're always on the lookout for ways to do things better around here.

I also encourage the employees to send friend requests to each other, though this isn't a rule yet. We're all in this together, so adding another means of communication is useful. Some people are shy and can't express themselves in person, so the chance to share online via Facebook is pretty great for them.


"Require?"
 
2012-11-07 09:19:42 PM

CreativeFarkHandle: For me, it was fine. My boss had no problem with the shiat I posted on my wall and likely had worse posted on hers. It probably depends on what kind of rapport you have with your boss.


Same here. Also my boss is one of my best friends and we go out and party damn near every two weeks when we get paid. If you've got a great boss, what you put on FB doesn't matter. Now HR personnel on the other hand.......................
 
2012-11-07 09:20:15 PM
I'm on G+ and several of my employees invited me to circles. I almost never circle them, because I am aware of that boundary, but I will if they initiate it.

I don't see many posts from them. I suspect I'm in the "NO PARTY PICS" circle.

/long story short: g+ gives you much more control over posting stupid shiat your boss can see
 
2012-11-07 09:20:33 PM

PillsHere: It's fine if you don't ever post anything on Facebook or don't post/like controversial things. Also it helps if you don't lie to your boss about why miss work then post on Facebook the real thing you were doing that day. All of these things are within your control.


At the police department I work for, we had a young female officer, fresh out of the Academy. She was still on her one-year probationary period, but was doing pretty good. Nice girl, a little naive, always kinda wondered why she became a cop.

She'd added a lot of her Academy class to her Facebook, and had apparently added her supervisor as well. This would be what you'd call a career-ending decision.

Well, she had this dream of being a country music star. I'd remembered that she was fond of pulling out her guitar a few times during the Academy, singing some random song she'd written (honestly, she was about as good as that random guy in the dorm stairwell in college strumming his guitar, nothing memorable, maybe could be fixed with a shiatload of autotune). Well, after years of getting nowhere, she'd finally, at long last, started to get offered some singing gigs.

Well, two problems, she was second-shift and singing some place in the evening would conflict with her schedule. Also, the department has a policy that sworn officers aren't allowed outside employment without prior permission (and you can't get that permission if you're still on probation).

Apparently she'd get a gig confirmed on fairly short notice, call in sick to work, and go and perform at some bar or club. She'd then post about it on Facebook, complete with shots of her on stage, as she was trying to use FB to promote herself as a rising country music singer.

Yeah, they kind of had a problem with her, still on probation, calling in sick to work to go do paid singing gigs at local nightspots. Lady cop that secretly moonlights as a country music star might be an interesting concept for a tv show or something (redneck Hannah Montana?), but it makes for a lousy real-life situation.

She was called in to the Captain's office, where her Sergeant and Captain said they knew all about her lying when she had called in sick many times, they even had her FB page pulled up in the office for evidence. She was out of sick time, and had been having to charge her absences to vacation time, which was almost out too, her attendance had become a serious issue. They basically told her she would have to choose one career or the other. They expected her to just give up on the singing on the side.

She turned her badge and gun in on the spot. By the end of the day she'd dropped off a few cardboard boxes with her bulletproof vest, duty belt, uniforms, and all her various department property. I don't know how her career is doing now, but the whole thing just seemed ridiculously dumb on so many levels.
 
2012-11-07 09:21:48 PM
Friending your boss is a teachable moment, because, friending them is pretty dumb.
 
2012-11-07 09:22:05 PM
Onec you friended them youcan never unfriend. Unfriend = Unjob
 
2012-11-07 09:22:30 PM
Oh hell no! But only because she would make dumb comments on all my pictures and posts.
 
2012-11-07 09:23:04 PM
Accept the request and firewall them off. Put them in a separate group and limit what that group sees.
 
2012-11-07 09:23:10 PM
Friending your boss is probably every bit as stupid as submitting a link to the last page in an article.

Brilliant, Subby.
 
2012-11-07 09:23:31 PM

Silverstaff: PillsHere: It's fine if you don't ever post anything on Facebook or don't post/like controversial things. Also it helps if you don't lie to your boss about why miss work then post on Facebook the real thing you were doing that day. All of these things are within your control.

At the police department I work for, we had a young female officer, fresh out of the Academy. She was still on her one-year probationary period, but was doing pretty good. Nice girl, a little naive, always kinda wondered why she became a cop.

She'd added a lot of her Academy class to her Facebook, and had apparently added her supervisor as well. This would be what you'd call a career-ending decision.

Well, she had this dream of being a country music star. I'd remembered that she was fond of pulling out her guitar a few times during the Academy, singing some random song she'd written (honestly, she was about as good as that random guy in the dorm stairwell in college strumming his guitar, nothing memorable, maybe could be fixed with a shiatload of autotune). Well, after years of getting nowhere, she'd finally, at long last, started to get offered some singing gigs.

Well, two problems, she was second-shift and singing some place in the evening would conflict with her schedule. Also, the department has a policy that sworn officers aren't allowed outside employment without prior permission (and you can't get that permission if you're still on probation).

Apparently she'd get a gig confirmed on fairly short notice, call in sick to work, and go and perform at some bar or club. She'd then post about it on Facebook, complete with shots of her on stage, as she was trying to use FB to promote herself as a rising country music singer.

Yeah, they kind of had a problem with her, still on probation, calling in sick to work to go do paid singing gigs at local nightspots. Lady cop that secretly moonlights as a country music star might be an interesting concept for a tv show or something (rednec ...


To posit...
 
2012-11-07 09:24:17 PM
This happens to me. My boss and I are FB friends but I don't rant about work. I do however get to see the people we supervise (small town, you hire friends) biatch about work and sometimes I feel the need to gently remind them who all can see that. I don't mind venting, but there are limits.

Staying off Facebook and not having a profile is the best choice. Facebook is the devil.
 
2012-11-07 09:24:22 PM
For those of you who want to risk it... 

mankindunplugged.com
 
2012-11-07 09:24:51 PM

Silverstaff: PillsHere: It's fine if you don't ever post anything on Facebook or don't post/like controversial things. Also it helps if you don't lie to your boss about why miss work then post on Facebook the real thing you were doing that day. All of these things are within your control.

At the police department I work for, we had a young female officer, fresh out of the Academy. She was still on her one-year probationary period, but was doing pretty good. Nice girl, a little naive, always kinda wondered why she became a cop.

She'd added a lot of her Academy class to her Facebook, and had apparently added her supervisor as well. This would be what you'd call a career-ending decision.

Well, she had this dream of being a country music star. I'd remembered that she was fond of pulling out her guitar a few times during the Academy, singing some random song she'd written (honestly, she was about as good as that random guy in the dorm stairwell in college strumming his guitar, nothing memorable, maybe could be fixed with a shiatload of autotune). Well, after years of getting nowhere, she'd finally, at long last, started to get offered some singing gigs.

Well, two problems, she was second-shift and singing some place in the evening would conflict with her schedule. Also, the department has a policy that sworn officers aren't allowed outside employment without prior permission (and you can't get that permission if you're still on probation).

Apparently she'd get a gig confirmed on fairly short notice, call in sick to work, and go and perform at some bar or club. She'd then post about it on Facebook, complete with shots of her on stage, as she was trying to use FB to promote herself as a rising country music singer.

Yeah, they kind of had a problem with her, still on probation, calling in sick to work to go do paid singing gigs at local nightspots. Lady cop that secretly moonlights as a country music star might be an interesting concept for a tv show or something (rednec ...


I really don't have a problem with someone who can't follow rules not being a cop. I wonder why they let it go on so long that she used all her sick leave, though, and still offered her a choice in the matter rather than sending her off to the other career post haste. Oh, right, public employee unions. Never mind.
 
2012-11-07 09:25:17 PM

Indubitably: Silverstaff: PillsHere: It's fine if you don't ever post anything on Facebook or don't post/like controversial things. Also it helps if you don't lie to your boss about why miss work then post on Facebook the real thing you were doing that day. All of these things are within your control.

At the police department I work for, we had a young female officer, fresh out of the Academy. She was still on her one-year probationary period, but was doing pretty good. Nice girl, a little naive, always kinda wondered why she became a cop.

She'd added a lot of her Academy class to her Facebook, and had apparently added her supervisor as well. This would be what you'd call a career-ending decision.

Well, she had this dream of being a country music star. I'd remembered that she was fond of pulling out her guitar a few times during the Academy, singing some random song she'd written (honestly, she was about as good as that random guy in the dorm stairwell in college strumming his guitar, nothing memorable, maybe could be fixed with a shiatload of autotune). Well, after years of getting nowhere, she'd finally, at long last, started to get offered some singing gigs.

Well, two problems, she was second-shift and singing some place in the evening would conflict with her schedule. Also, the department has a policy that sworn officers aren't allowed outside employment without prior permission (and you can't get that permission if you're still on probation).

Apparently she'd get a gig confirmed on fairly short notice, call in sick to work, and go and perform at some bar or club. She'd then post about it on Facebook, complete with shots of her on stage, as she was trying to use FB to promote herself as a rising country music singer.

Yeah, they kind of had a problem with her, still on probation, calling in sick to work to go do paid singing gigs at local nightspots. Lady cop that secretly moonlights as a country music star might be an interesting concept for a tv show or some ...


P.S. I don't Face other than to own one in my name. Word.
 
2012-11-07 09:25:23 PM
Friending your boss on Facebook: bad idea, stupidest idea, or worst idea ever?
 
2012-11-07 09:25:44 PM
FTA : Eventually, in 10 years, you're just gonna be connected to everyone all the time, including your boss."

Please kill me in 9 years.
 
2012-11-07 09:27:26 PM
I, for one, welcome our new boss overlords.
 
2012-11-07 09:27:26 PM

Testiclaw: Baaaaad idea. Don't need a boss to even know about social media/networking sites outside of LinkedIn.


This. Work is work. Home and play are separate. I don't even friend former "bosses" (I'm a contract employee) on any social media sites except LinkedIn.
 
2012-11-07 09:28:00 PM
If you live your life in such a way that you would not be embarassed if anyone saw you at any time, then there's no worries whatsoever.


/just sayin'
 
2012-11-07 09:28:21 PM
For those that say it's okay to friend and put them in a group that doesn't see anything, you better be careful of Facebook system updates. They sometimes screw with viewing settings of old posts.
 
2012-11-07 09:29:19 PM
Having a facebook = stupidest idea ever.

It's a giant data mine. (and security risk)
 
2012-11-07 09:29:48 PM
Who wouldn't want their boss to see their drunken, drug-fueled, scantily clad antics?
 
2012-11-07 09:29:56 PM

Indubitably: AverageAmericanGuy: Maybe you should have bosses as cool as me. My employees have friended me, and I love seeing what they're up to and thinking. Sometimes I comment, most times I don't.

I feel like it gives us a chance to get to really understand each other, and none of them seem to be sociopaths, at least as far as I can tell from their posting. That's a good thing.

Since I started doing this, I've begun requiring they write at least one post a day about anything they feel like. It could be about what they're eating for lunch or ways they think the company could be improved. We're always on the lookout for ways to do things better around here.

I also encourage the employees to send friend requests to each other, though this isn't a rule yet. We're all in this together, so adding another means of communication is useful. Some people are shy and can't express themselves in person, so the chance to share online via Facebook is pretty great for them.

"Require?"


Only the posts. I don't require them to accept my friend requests yet.
 
2012-11-07 09:30:17 PM

ISO15693: If you live your life in such a way that you would not be embarassed if anyone saw you at any time, then there's no worries whatsoever.


/just sayin'


Be local.
 
2012-11-07 09:30:56 PM

Indubitably: How do you deny your boss' friend request?


Like this: DENIED. Sorry boss, this shiat is too weird for you. Trust me on this one, you don't want to see what gets spammed on my timeline.
 
2012-11-07 09:31:26 PM

fusillade762: Who wouldn't want their boss to see their drunken, drug-fueled, scantily clad antics?


Who can't establish healthy boundaries?
 
2012-11-07 09:32:48 PM
So, wait.

Am I ignored or wut?

Heh.

*)
 
2012-11-07 09:33:17 PM
Of all time. OF ALL TIME.
 
2012-11-07 09:33:32 PM

NeoCortex42: For those that say it's okay to friend and put them in a group that doesn't see anything, you better be careful of Facebook system updates. They sometimes screw with viewing settings of old posts.

 
2012-11-07 09:36:08 PM
Friending your boss on Facebook: bad idea, stupidest idea, or worst idea ever?

FTFM
 
2012-11-07 09:36:59 PM
facebook? what's that?

and who the fark is friends with their boss? you little ass sniffing subby...
 
2012-11-07 09:37:09 PM

AverageAmericanGuy: Since I started doing this, I've begun requiring they write at least one post a day about anything they feel like. It could be about what they're eating for lunch or ways they think the company could be improved. We're always on the lookout for ways to do things better around here.


If I were faced with this, every single post would be about how the company could be improved by abandoning your idiotic posting requirement. Some might even have polished and thoughfull infographics about why this is a bad idea and why you should feel bad about implementing it.

TomD9938: FTA : Eventually, in 10 years, you're just gonna be connected to everyone all the time, including your boss."

Please kill me in 9 years.


How will I find you in 9 years? Here, why don't you just friend me.
 
2012-11-07 09:37:30 PM

AverageAmericanGuy: Maybe you should have bosses as cool as me...I've begun requiring they write at least one post a day about anything they feel like


Not cool. Not cool at all. Freakishly uncool.
 
2012-11-07 09:38:25 PM

sotua: HotIgneous Intruder: gingerjet: Indubitably: How do you deny your boss' friend request?

By ignoring it.

/is that really that hard?

This.

Next day in the morning. "O HAI Intruder, did you finish the report I asked? Oh, and why haven't you accepted my friend request?" AWKWARD!


"Because I keep my business and personal lives separate."
 
2012-11-07 09:41:48 PM

DarthBart: Boss, teacher, professor, etc....oh, hell no.


It's interesting: I've never had a student ask to friend me on FB, and I'm fine with that.

However, I've been to panel talks at conferences where students discuss it. Most classic "18-year-old middle class white kid" university students all reply that they never do, but a lot of the folks who don't fit into this category want to.

The argument is that many of them are first generation college students and never grew up in contact with the sort of culture surrounding college that most middle class kids know. They're looking for guidance in how to enter into what is totally alien world for them, and seeing their professors on FB helps them understand.

/I work at a school that caters mostly to the rich white kid demographic so I shouldn't expect friend requests.
//That's what I tell myself to sleep well at night
///Was never the cool kid. *sob*
 
2012-11-07 09:41:54 PM

mikebdoss: Take the time to learn about Facebook's filters and lists. You can post your degraded sex details/pictures to the people you want to show it, and the general "Happy whatever holiday, friends" nonsense to everyone else. As far as your boss/parents/people you don't want to share with know, you're just not a big Facebook user.

Oh, and get your friends to post "friends only" at the very least, as well. We all have that asshole friend who's posts are "Everyone", and when you comment on their keg stand picture, your friends see it.

Learn the system, game the system.


This. I've friended a few coworkers on Facebook (but no supervisors), and while I very rarely post things I wouldn't want them to see, I did use those filters to ensure that no coworker sees the drunken antics from my 10-year high school reunion.
 
2012-11-07 09:42:11 PM

wallywam1: AverageAmericanGuy: Maybe you should have bosses as cool as me...I've begun requiring they write at least one post a day about anything they feel like

Not cool. Not cool at all. Freakishly uncool.


it is pretty weird

"My boss says I have to write something today. I have to. Jesus, I know this guy is in his office right now whacking it to whatever stupid screed he forces his employees to write. And what if we don't write? I need this job, man, I still owe Guido the Killer Pimp for that 8-ball and taking care of that unfortunate incident with that gold-digging harpy Stacy. I'm glad I'll never hear from her again. And neither will anyone else! lol. Damn....maybe i shouldn't write that. People could talk. Like that bimbo secretary Tina with the oversize melons trapped inside that sweater...waiting to burst free. I want to rub those melons until she purrs. wait. i shouldn't write that either. I just don't know what to do anymore. :("

yeah....downright freakish even
 
2012-11-07 09:42:21 PM

hundreddollarman: Of all time. OF ALL TIME.


I'm okay with that.

Small minds propagate faster than large ones...no?

*)
 
2012-11-07 09:43:15 PM
hell no
 
2012-11-07 09:43:34 PM

BarkingUnicorn: sotua: HotIgneous Intruder: gingerjet: Indubitably: How do you deny your boss' friend request?

By ignoring it.

/is that really that hard?

This.

Next day in the morning. "O HAI Intruder, did you finish the report I asked? Oh, and why haven't you accepted my friend request?" AWKWARD!

"Because I keep my business and personal lives separate."


I choose not to eat and shiat in the same space.
 
2012-11-07 09:43:39 PM
I'm here to say that healthy boundaries are important!
What's that? Why am I wearing Indubitably's underwear?
Um ... demonstration of the principle?
 
2012-11-07 09:43:40 PM
I was one of the few who friended the boss early on.
After she quit, she made it known that it was cool to friend her.
Also made it known to me that being ballsy enough to friend her was worth points for the resume'.

She hosts a pool party every year n has a salt water heated pool.
So there's that.
 
2012-11-07 09:43:55 PM

fredbox: I really don't have a problem with someone who can't follow rules not being a cop. I wonder why they let it go on so long that she used all her sick leave, though, and still offered her a choice in the matter rather than sending her off to the other career post haste. Oh, right, public employee unions. Never mind.


Bzzt. We aren't unionized. Try again.

It was more that we're hideously understaffed. Nobody wanted to let somebody go if they didn't have to. Even though on probationary status we could be fired at any time, for any reason, they still didn't want to do that unless the issue was forced. Also, after sinking the money into recruiting and training an officer, they didn't want to flush that down the toilet too if they thought they could turn things around.

So, no, it wasn't a union thing. Was more a matter of not wanting to waste the money spent on training a new officer, and being short another officer, over something as silly as small-time country music gigs on the side. Funny thing is, if she'd waited another year or so, she could have had enough seniority to move to another shift and had her evenings free to perform, got permission for outside employment (although working for/in a place that served alcohol would be really questionable), and might have been able to continue with both.
 
2012-11-07 09:46:13 PM

wildcardjack: Well, are you friends with your boss?

Seriously, are you friends with your boss, or are you just another person passing through his little slice of a cost center before your or he moves on to other things?


Sometimes you may think you are friends with your boss only to find out later you aren't really that close. Makes me really happy we didn't have FB when I worked at EB Games. I won't deny I got myself fired from there for being stupid about something (relatively minor), but when I invited him out to lunch several months later, after five years thinking we were fairly close as coworkers, he said we were 'acquaintances'.

Thanks buddy, never again will I save a bosses bacon by going and opening the store because you lost your damn keys half an hour before opening. It doesn't count for shiat.
 
2012-11-07 09:46:32 PM

Porous Horace: I'm here to say that healthy boundaries are important!
What's that? Why am I wearing Indubitably's underwear?
Um ... demonstration of the principle?


*bow*
 
2012-11-07 09:48:07 PM
biatch be all hot, we be gettin high in the parking garage before work and at lunch, she got all like microfiber gel mattresses and shiat. damn, biatch can be the hell out of my friend.

/ i'm bored
 
2012-11-07 09:48:52 PM

Omahawg: wallywam1: AverageAmericanGuy: Maybe you should have bosses as cool as me...I've begun requiring they write at least one post a day about anything they feel like

Not cool. Not cool at all. Freakishly uncool.

it is pretty weird

"My boss says I have to write something today. I have to. Jesus, I know this guy is in his office right now whacking it to whatever stupid screed he forces his employees to write. And what if we don't write? I need this job, man, I still owe Guido the Killer Pimp for that 8-ball and taking care of that unfortunate incident with that gold-digging harpy Stacy. I'm glad I'll never hear from her again. And neither will anyone else! lol. Damn....maybe i shouldn't write that. People could talk. Like that bimbo secretary Tina with the oversize melons trapped inside that sweater...waiting to burst free. I want to rub those melons until she purrs. wait. i shouldn't write that either. I just don't know what to do anymore. :("

yeah....downright freakish even


Be sure to add a some talk about checking out other guys/gals. That way you can backstop yourself for a wrongful termination suit :D
 
2012-11-07 09:49:04 PM
two - three years ago (?) Mrs.Kritter told me of a co-worker who lives quite nearby getting fired due to her FB posts. employer is a huge hotel franchisor that is very conscious of the professional manner. silly biatch down the road posted all sorts of negative ranting about the workplace, naming names and everything -- and then was genuinely shocked when she was called out on the carpet for it. stupit twat.

Mrs.K keeps her FB circle very small. She doesn't even have me as a friend - but what the Fark, i'm only her husband. biatch.
 
GBB
2012-11-07 09:49:51 PM
Friending your boss on Facebook: Unless you are planning to do work and get promoted at some point, you might not want to do that.
 
2012-11-07 09:50:37 PM

Indubitably: hundreddollarman: Of all time. OF ALL TIME.

I'm okay with that.

Small minds propagate faster than large ones...no?

*)


Hopefully enough idiots hang themselves with asinine FB posts that I can slide into that vacancy.

/Stuck working part-time at the moment.
 
2012-11-07 09:51:34 PM
My current boss is my Facebook friend, but she's awesome. If I can play Cards Against Humanity with her on lunch breaks, then I'm not worried about social media.
 
2012-11-07 09:51:54 PM

GBB: Friending your boss on Facebook: Unless you are planning to do work and get promoted at some point, you might not want to do that.


Unless you don't face much, then it's just another face, man...

*)
 
2012-11-07 09:52:48 PM

ladyfortuna: wildcardjack: Well, are you friends with your boss?

Seriously, are you friends with your boss, or are you just another person passing through his little slice of a cost center before your or he moves on to other things?

Sometimes you may think you are friends with your boss only to find out later you aren't really that close. Makes me really happy we didn't have FB when I worked at EB Games. I won't deny I got myself fired from there for being stupid about something (relatively minor), but when I invited him out to lunch several months later, after five years thinking we were fairly close as coworkers, he said we were 'acquaintances'.

Thanks buddy, never again will I save a bosses bacon by going and opening the store because you lost your damn keys half an hour before opening. It doesn't count for shiat.


"You don't know who your friends are until the ice breaks," say the Inuit.
 
2012-11-07 09:53:02 PM
I like my boss a lot, and we get along really well. Still, I (and my coworkers) understand that socializing outside of work isn't really kosher, and that includes Facebook. I should note that I'm a government employee; I think there's more of a grey area in a private company (especially a small one).

I used to be really cautious about even adding coworkers, but I've gotten over that. If I like you enough that we do (or could) hang out outside of work, I don't have a problem adding you.
 
2012-11-07 09:53:45 PM

ProfessorOhki: AverageAmericanGuy: Since I started doing this, I've begun requiring they write at least one post a day about anything they feel like. It could be about what they're eating for lunch or ways they think the company could be improved. We're always on the lookout for ways to do things better around here.

If I were faced with this, every single post would be about how the company could be improved by abandoning your idiotic posting requirement. Some might even have polished and thoughfull infographics about why this is a bad idea and why you should feel bad about implementing it.


LOL. There's one guy who does that. Or did that, I should say.

I prefer LOLcats, though.
 
2012-11-07 09:55:55 PM
I don't really have a "boss:, but I have a lot of friends in the industry, some of whom have, at times, paid me for work...so any and all of them could at any point become my boss and some of them have been my boss. I am "friends" with many of them on Facebook.

I also deal with my suppliers, often through Facebook, so I'm friends with label and publisher people and indy artists etc.

And my family.

And old high school acquaintances who I don't really know.

As a result, I don't put anything more personal than what I'm eating for dinner or the weather or pictures of my dog on Facebook. If they ever kill the Scrabulous app I'd stop Facebooking altogether.
 
2012-11-07 09:57:34 PM

Off2403: My current boss is my Facebook friend, but she's awesome. If I can play Cards Against Humanity with her on lunch breaks, then I'm not worried about social media.


Nice. I'd love to have a cool boss again someday...
 
2012-11-07 10:02:39 PM

Omahawg: wallywam1: AverageAmericanGuy: Maybe you should have bosses as cool as me...I've begun requiring they write at least one post a day about anything they feel like

Not cool. Not cool at all. Freakishly uncool.

it is pretty weird

"My boss says I have to write something today. I have to. Jesus, I know this guy is in his office right now whacking it to whatever stupid screed he forces his employees to write. And what if we don't write? I need this job, man, I still owe Guido the Killer Pimp for that 8-ball and taking care of that unfortunate incident with that gold-digging harpy Stacy. I'm glad I'll never hear from her again. And neither will anyone else! lol. Damn....maybe i shouldn't write that. People could talk. Like that bimbo secretary Tina with the oversize melons trapped inside that sweater...waiting to burst free. I want to rub those melons until she purrs. wait. i shouldn't write that either. I just don't know what to do anymore. :("

yeah....downright freakish even


Well, the posts are to help them get into a habit of expressing themselves and to give them a chance to be creative every day. If they wrote this kind of thing every day, I would have to have a talk with he or she.

But for the most part when people write that kind of stuff, I leave it alone and don't comment.
 
2012-11-07 10:02:55 PM

PillsHere: It's fine if you don't ever post anything on Facebook or don't post/like controversial things. Also it helps if you don't lie to your boss about why miss work then post on Facebook the real thing you were doing that day. All of these things are within your control.


Just another story about people externalizing the cause of their poor decisions. "I hate facebook so much, it got me divorced and fired! Why are they allowed to run a website like that?!"
 
2012-11-07 10:03:26 PM
I'm friends with my bosses daughter on FB. But not my boss. Is that wrong?
Out of our 250ish employees I'm friends with three people there and a couple of my former employees.
I'd be ok friending my assistant when one of us leaves but till then I can deal with the fact that I'm not allowed friends at work unless they're equals and I only like three of them.
 
2012-11-07 10:04:35 PM

AverageAmericanGuy: Well, the posts are to help them get into a habit of expressing themselves and to give them a chance to be creative every day. If they wrote this kind of thing every day, I would have to have a talk with he or she.


Just curious, what industry are you in?
 
2012-11-07 10:05:18 PM

Bill_Wick's_Friend: I don't really have a "boss:, but I have a lot of friends in the industry, some of whom have, at times, paid me for work...so any and all of them could at any point become my boss and some of them have been my boss. I am "friends" with many of them on Facebook.

I also deal with my suppliers, often through Facebook, so I'm friends with label and publisher people and indy artists etc.

And my family.

And old high school acquaintances who I don't really know.

As a result, I don't put anything more personal than what I'm eating for dinner or the weather or pictures of my dog on Facebook. If they ever kill the Scrabulous app I'd stop Facebooking altogether.


Pretty much this to be honest. Anyone who rants about work on Facebook or anything of that nature is the real moron. All it takes is one person in your friends list waking up extra biatchy, snagging a few screenshots, and you're farked at the end of the day. Or someone else setting stuff to friend of friends. tagging you, and farking you with that method. FB has become at best a semi private networking tool.
 
2012-11-07 10:06:01 PM

Soupysales: AverageAmericanGuy: Well, the posts are to help them get into a habit of expressing themselves and to give them a chance to be creative every day. If they wrote this kind of thing every day, I would have to have a talk with he or she.

Just curious, what industry are you in?


Import/export
 
2012-11-07 10:06:14 PM

Soupysales: AverageAmericanGuy: Well, the posts are to help them get into a habit of expressing themselves and to give them a chance to be creative every day. If they wrote this kind of thing every day, I would have to have a talk with he or she.

Just curious, what industry are you in?


AAG is in the serial trolling industry.
 
2012-11-07 10:06:36 PM

AverageAmericanGuy: Omahawg: wallywam1: AverageAmericanGuy: Maybe you should have bosses as cool as me...I've begun requiring they write at least one post a day about anything they feel like

Not cool. Not cool at all. Freakishly uncool.

it is pretty weird

"My boss says I have to write something today. I have to. Jesus, I know this guy is in his office right now whacking it to whatever stupid screed he forces his employees to write. And what if we don't write? I need this job, man, I still owe Guido the Killer Pimp for that 8-ball and taking care of that unfortunate incident with that gold-digging harpy Stacy. I'm glad I'll never hear from her again. And neither will anyone else! lol. Damn....maybe i shouldn't write that. People could talk. Like that bimbo secretary Tina with the oversize melons trapped inside that sweater...waiting to burst free. I want to rub those melons until she purrs. wait. i shouldn't write that either. I just don't know what to do anymore. :("

yeah....downright freakish even

Well, the posts are to help them get into a habit of expressing themselves and to give them a chance to be creative every day. If they wrote this kind of thing every day, I would have to have a talk with he or she.

But for the most part when people write that kind of stuff, I leave it alone and don't comment.


shush. you don't comment because you're too busy perving through secretary Stacy's pictures looking for those melons in a bikini! don't lie!
 
2012-11-07 10:08:04 PM

Omahawg: AverageAmericanGuy: Omahawg: wallywam1: AverageAmericanGuy: Maybe you should have bosses as cool as me...I've begun requiring they write at least one post a day about anything they feel like

Not cool. Not cool at all. Freakishly uncool.

it is pretty weird

"My boss says I have to write something today. I have to. Jesus, I know this guy is in his office right now whacking it to whatever stupid screed he forces his employees to write. And what if we don't write? I need this job, man, I still owe Guido the Killer Pimp for that 8-ball and taking care of that unfortunate incident with that gold-digging harpy Stacy. I'm glad I'll never hear from her again. And neither will anyone else! lol. Damn....maybe i shouldn't write that. People could talk. Like that bimbo secretary Tina with the oversize melons trapped inside that sweater...waiting to burst free. I want to rub those melons until she purrs. wait. i shouldn't write that either. I just don't know what to do anymore. :("

yeah....downright freakish even

Well, the posts are to help them get into a habit of expressing themselves and to give them a chance to be creative every day. If they wrote this kind of thing every day, I would have to have a talk with he or she.

But for the most part when people write that kind of stuff, I leave it alone and don't comment.

shush. you don't comment because you're too busy perving through secretary Stacy's pictures looking for those melons in a bikini! don't lie!


LOL. And I appreciate your contributions to bikini threads as well, O!
 
2012-11-07 10:09:48 PM

Indubitably: How big is your community, friends?


Linkedin is for professional contacts in which I have a few hundred. Facebook is for personal connections and I never allow it to get over 100 'friends'. Otherwise it loses its usefulness to me.
 
2012-11-07 10:11:22 PM

gingerjet: Indubitably: How big is your community, friends?

Linkedin is for professional contacts in which I have a few hundred. Facebook is for personal connections and I never allow it to get over 100 'friends'. Otherwise it loses its usefulness to me.


Hermitized.
 
2012-11-07 10:11:53 PM

Bill_Wick's_Friend: I don't really have a "boss:, but I have a lot of friends in the industry, some of whom have, at times, paid me for work...so any and all of them could at any point become my boss and some of them have been my boss. I am "friends" with many of them on Facebook.

I also deal with my suppliers, often through Facebook, so I'm friends with label and publisher people and indy artists etc.

And my family.

And old high school acquaintances who I don't really know.

As a result, I don't put anything more personal than what I'm eating for dinner or the weather or pictures of my dog on Facebook. If they ever kill the Scrabulous app I'd stop Facebooking altogether.


For a guy named 'Bill Wick's Friend' your post really sounds like you deal drugs. I know 'Wicks' isn't 'Wilson' but the play was there and so I ended up thinking of AA anyways.

Unfortunately, they killed Scrabulous in 2008. It used to be amazing until Scrabble sued them and Scrabulous had to release the busted, broken version. Perhaps it is better now, I have used it since then.
 
2012-11-07 10:12:51 PM

Indubitably: gingerjet: Indubitably: How big is your community, friends?

Linkedin is for professional contacts in which I have a few hundred. Facebook is for personal connections and I never allow it to get over 100 'friends'. Otherwise it loses its usefulness to me.

Hermitized.

To be quiet, intellectually, sort of.


Heh.

*bow*
 
2012-11-07 10:13:45 PM

AverageAmericanGuy: Soupysales: AverageAmericanGuy: Well, the posts are to help them get into a habit of expressing themselves and to give them a chance to be creative every day. If they wrote this kind of thing every day, I would have to have a talk with he or she.

Just curious, what industry are you in?

Import/export


But you're thinking about quitting imports, and just concentrating on the exports.
 
2012-11-07 10:13:53 PM
there is something fundamentally retarded about the need to ask this question.

/and facebook.
//and snowflakes that like to broadcast their lives.
 
2012-11-07 10:15:30 PM

ha-ha-guy: AAG is in the serial trolling industry.


Thanks. It sounded off, but I've done team building exercises that required singing and dancing, so work-crazy doesn't really surprise me.
 
2012-11-07 10:16:50 PM
If you're Facebook profile has more than 2 or 3 close friends, you should be assuming everything you post either is or will be public.

The whole charade of privacy settings on Facebook is such a crock when anyone can take a screenshot and share it with the rest of the world.

Just don't post shiat you're ashamed of. Is that so hard?

There are lots of places on the internet to be anonymous if you want to vent or ask questions about the growth on your penis or whatever.
 
2012-11-07 10:17:16 PM
I left facebook over a year ago and never looked back.

However, I was when I was on it, my boss was in my firends list. My relationship is my boss is such:
1) If I were to trash talk him on facebook, it would have been nothing I wouldn't have said to his face.
2) he knows of my affinity for teh whiskey anyway

I even made fun of him when he changed his status to engaged.

YMMV
 
2012-11-07 10:18:22 PM
WTF is facebook?

/never been there.
//The less people know about me, the better.
 
2012-11-07 10:20:49 PM
My policy is that I may friend my co-workers, but I won't friend my boss until after I leave. It's worked out pretty well.
 
2012-11-07 10:22:17 PM
Using Facebook at any time for anything = Bad idea.
 
2012-11-07 10:24:08 PM
Very bad idea. Co-workers maybe but bosses definitely not. After I leave it's my call, and I've declined friend requests from bosses before. When I explain it to them they immediately see why I declined.

Plus I'm pretty incendiary on Facebook.
 
2012-11-07 10:25:55 PM
It's a bad idea for morons. Which I guess means most of you.
 
2012-11-07 10:28:16 PM
I tell everyone the opposite. Make your mom, your wife, your boss,and your religious leader your fB friends and then post accodrdingly.

Don't say anything on fB you wouldnt broadcast with your face and name to the whole world on primetime TV. How hard is that?
 
2012-11-07 10:29:19 PM

trappedspirit: It's a bad idea for morons. Which I guess means most of you.


i172.photobucket.com
 
2012-11-07 10:29:29 PM
This is why I have two. One that my mom can look at. Second with pics of all my pot and porn.
 
2012-11-07 10:34:03 PM
Well, my current boss has been my friend for the past 9 years and was one of my bridesmaids. So I'm pretty sure she whatever she sees on my Facebook won't be a shock to her.

/then again, I don't post stupid shiat on Facebook
//mostly pics of the kiddos
///and the usual inquiry into recommendations for good music
 
2012-11-07 10:42:19 PM
I was FB friends with my boss before he was my boss. He doesn't post so much anymore, but occasionally I "like" a management article or something else that could help our severely batshiat crazy department. I hope he has time to read them.
 
2012-11-07 10:42:24 PM
Depends on the environment you work in. If you are waiting tables and your manager is just a couple of years older than you....sure. Associate at a law firm that likes to get loose on the weekends.....terrible idea.
 
2012-11-07 10:47:19 PM

stuffy: This is why I have two. One that my mom can look at. Second with pics of all my pot and porn.


What if we send you porn of your stoned mom?
 
2012-11-07 10:49:34 PM

Indubitably: How do you deny your boss' friend request?


I had a former boss request to be my friend on facebook, mostly because she didn't understand how social media worked. As she and I were both about the same age (late 30's) this was bizarre to me because I was the one who dragged the organization kicking and screaming into using social media, so this was perplexing to me. Then again, she barely understood how the internet worked and I never quite figured out how she got the job. Thankfully we had a good relationship despite this so I simply stopped by her office and told her that I would be happy to be 'friends' with her on Linkedin, but I keep Facebook for family and non-work related pursuits only. She was cool with that. Whew.

Never friend your boss on Facebook. What the hell is wrong with you people.
 
2012-11-07 10:51:39 PM
I have a job where its necessary to hide almost everything I do in my off time from my bosses and the majority of the people I work with so a FB acct was never an option.
 
2012-11-07 10:52:48 PM
I'm paranoid enough about the one co-worker I'm friends with on Facebook. She's somewhat chatty. I usually hide from her the posts about how the new guy seems like a serial killer.
 
2012-11-07 10:53:02 PM

Indubitably: How do you deny your boss' friend request?


Block them before they can request you. Done.

In fact, I've blocked nearly all my coworkers, before they could friend me. Aaaand it just so happens that my incredibly hot boss has a PUBLIC FB page, so we can see her drunken shenanigans in all their glory while keeping our shiat private.
 
2012-11-07 10:54:26 PM
I know people who do this. Jesus, I don't tell people at work I even HAVE an FB account. I also never talk about work on FB just in case.

Controlling your own stupidity is not that hard.
 
2012-11-07 11:04:04 PM

badLogic: I don't friend anyone who I work with. Ex-coworkers are ok though


+1. My golden rule.
 
2012-11-07 11:04:08 PM
Dear Abby:

My cammed Camaro is faster than my bosses Porsche but the goober won't admit it!

He's demanding a race on the street. Should we race near the old quarry or just rip it down main street?
 
2012-11-07 11:05:40 PM
How about Gone Wild on Reddit?
 
2012-11-07 11:06:34 PM

Threadslayer: Dear Abby:

My cammed Camaro is faster than my bosses Porsche but the goober won't admit it!

He's demanding a race on the street. Should we race near the old quarry or just rip it down main street?


Main street, if you can pay the freight.
 
2012-11-07 11:16:52 PM

Anonymocoso: Using Facebook at any time for anything = Bad idea.


Amen to that. Why don't I do it? Because eveyone else is! Besides - I don't give a Fark what they had for dinner last night.
 
2012-11-07 11:24:52 PM
no f-ing way. I facebook only with out of town friends and family.



/old
//get of my lawn. etc.
 
2012-11-07 11:30:02 PM

AverageAmericanGuy: Maybe you should have bosses as cool as me. My employees have friended me, and I love seeing what they're up to and thinking. Sometimes I comment, most times I don't.

I feel like it gives us a chance to get to really understand each other, and none of them seem to be sociopaths, at least as far as I can tell from their posting. That's a good thing.

Since I started doing this, I've begun requiring they write at least one post a day about anything they feel like. It could be about what they're eating for lunch or ways they think the company could be improved. We're always on the lookout for ways to do things better around here.

I also encourage the employees to send friend requests to each other, though this isn't a rule yet. We're all in this together, so adding another means of communication is useful. Some people are shy and can't express themselves in person, so the chance to share online via Facebook is pretty great for them.


requiring them? bad move.. not job related. save your requiring for actual work.
 
2012-11-07 11:36:52 PM
Meh! Anyone who would fire me for my personal life probably isn't somebody I'd want to be working for in the first place.
 
2012-11-07 11:41:46 PM
Don't have facebook and it won't be a problem.
 
2012-11-07 11:52:34 PM

AverageAmericanGuy: Soupysales: AverageAmericanGuy: Well, the posts are to help them get into a habit of expressing themselves and to give them a chance to be creative every day. If they wrote this kind of thing every day, I would have to have a talk with he or she.

Just curious, what industry are you in?

Import/export


i419.photobucket.com
 
2012-11-07 11:56:59 PM
Not a choice for me - I was offered my job via Facebook, from a guy I'd known from professional conferences for a few years. Can't remove him now.
 
2012-11-07 11:59:50 PM

fusillade762: AverageAmericanGuy: Soupysales: AverageAmericanGuy: Well, the posts are to help them get into a habit of expressing themselves and to give them a chance to be creative every day. If they wrote this kind of thing every day, I would have to have a talk with he or she.

Just curious, what industry are you in?

Import/export

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ih1.redbubble.net
 
2012-11-08 12:03:51 AM
My full time boss guilted me into adding her a couple of years back ("You've got Sally and Ted on there, and they work here too, what's the big deal?"). Well, I announced a FB purge several months ago, dropping anyone who wasn't family or a true friend. I went from 150+ people to less than 40. When my boss complained I told her that I cut everyone who I see on a nearly daily basis since we could just talk in person (that was only partly true) and she bought it. Since I have my privacy settings zipped up tight, she's none the wiser.

My boss at the part time job has an entirely different stance. He tells all new employees not to add him to Facebook because he doesn't want to blur the line between a work relationship and friendship. Interestingly, he and I would likely be great friends away from work, and I love working for him enough that I'm considering switching to that job full time.
 
2012-11-08 12:05:45 AM

henryhill: Friending your boss on Facebook: bad idea, stupidest idea, or worst idea ever?

FTFM


I had a phone interview for a job recently. The (potential) employer thought it was odd that I don't do Facebook, Google+, LinkedIn, or any other social media (I guess FARK counts...sort of..). Don't know if that cost me the gig or not...

/ invasive technologies make me feel queasy
// not a big fan of cell phones, either.
 
2012-11-08 12:11:33 AM

Forbidden Doughnut: henryhill: Friending your boss on Facebook: bad idea, stupidest idea, or worst idea ever?

FTFM

I had a phone interview for a job recently. The (potential) employer thought it was odd that I don't do Facebook, Google+, LinkedIn, or any other social media (I guess FARK counts...sort of..). Don't know if that cost me the gig or not...

/ invasive technologies make me feel queasy
// not a big fan of cell phones, either.


I sometimes wonder if I'm the last person in America who has never had a cell phone and does not ever want a cell phone. no, not for me. mail me a letter or send it via carrier pigeon.
 
2012-11-08 12:12:59 AM
There's nothing I post on facebook that I don't already say to my boss's face. So friending was no big deal. My boss is pretty awesome though.
 
2012-11-08 01:09:30 AM

Indubitably: How do you deny your boss' friend request?


In a room full of people, hike your pants, stick out your hand and say FRIENDS.
 
2012-11-08 01:12:08 AM
yup, like several of the other posters, I found most of my clients and coworkers and blocked them.
 
2012-11-08 01:21:28 AM

wallywam1: AverageAmericanGuy: Maybe you should have bosses as cool as me...I've begun requiring they write at least one post a day about anything they feel like

Not cool. Not cool at all. Freakishly uncool.


Wow, I bought it all the way. Nice jorb.
 
2012-11-08 01:23:15 AM
I wonder how many are gaming this now.
 
2012-11-08 01:46:53 AM

AverageAmericanGuy: Maybe you should have bosses as cool as me. My employees have friended me, and I love seeing what they're up to and thinking. Sometimes I comment, most times I don't.

I feel like it gives us a chance to get to really understand each other, and none of them seem to be sociopaths, at least as far as I can tell from their posting. That's a good thing.

Since I started doing this, I've begun requiring they write at least one post a day about anything they feel like. It could be about what they're eating for lunch or ways they think the company could be improved. We're always on the lookout for ways to do things better around here.

I also encourage the employees to send friend requests to each other, though this isn't a rule yet. We're all in this together, so adding another means of communication is useful. Some people are shy and can't express themselves in person, so the chance to share online via Facebook is pretty great for them.


Not sure if subtlest troll or most syrupy bullhockey ever.
 
2012-11-08 02:03:04 AM

Indubitably: gingerjet: Indubitably: How do you deny your boss' friend request?

By ignoring it.

/is that really that hard?

Yes squared.

In an environment of boundary violation daily, how do you establish effective, real, professional boundaries?

Perhaps more poignant: how do you defend them?

Depends.


Meh, I deleted my Facebook and use LinkedIn exclusively for work related relationships. Honestly, I don`t want my life to be that interesting to people I work with - i'm there to do a job, not spend my entire day sharing tales of what happened last night. I have plenty of connections in LinkedIn and I don't get all the nasty spam of who likes what app constantly filling up my inbox/e-mail. Some people like to use it for work, I personally don't agree.
 
2012-11-08 02:30:47 AM
I'm friends with my boss on Facebook. And his wife. And two of his kids. And almost every one of my employees (and ex-employees).

My boss is a somewhat atypical employer, though. If compromising pictures appear on Facebook the day after a company party odds are pretty good he posted them.
 
2012-11-08 03:08:31 AM

Forbidden Doughnut: The (potential) employer thought it was odd that I don't do Facebook, Google+, LinkedIn, or any other social media


fark them for even asking.
 
2012-11-08 03:27:40 AM
We had a girl at my work(temp) who had attendance issues. One day she no-call no-show's, posts on her facebook that she'd get a slap on the wrist(maybe she forgot her supervisor was on her friends?). She was let go the next day.

Personally I just nuked my FB about a week after I created it. I drink too much to be able to spread my nonsense like that.
 
2012-11-08 03:32:08 AM

bowtiesheep: AverageAmericanGuy: Maybe you should have bosses as cool as me. My employees have friended me, and I love seeing what they're up to and thinking. Sometimes I comment, most times I don't.

I feel like it gives us a chance to get to really understand each other, and none of them seem to be sociopaths, at least as far as I can tell from their posting. That's a good thing.

Since I started doing this, I've begun requiring they write at least one post a day about anything they feel like. It could be about what they're eating for lunch or ways they think the company could be improved. We're always on the lookout for ways to do things better around here.

I also encourage the employees to send friend requests to each other, though this isn't a rule yet. We're all in this together, so adding another means of communication is useful. Some people are shy and can't express themselves in person, so the chance to share online via Facebook is pretty great for them.

Not sure if subtlest troll or most syrupy bullhockey ever.


He got me. I had my mouth open and everything.
 
2012-11-08 03:34:50 AM

Indubitably: gingerjet: Indubitably: How do you deny your boss' friend request?

By ignoring it.

/is that really that hard?

Yes squared.

In an environment of boundary violation daily, how do you establish effective, real, professional boundaries?

Perhaps more poignant: how do you defend them?

Depends.




I have a well known policy of never friending anyone I work with. My bosses didn't really like it at first, but since it is across the board and I accept them as co-workers on linked in, they (professionally) understood.

One of my bosses follows me on twitter. That's odd enough.
 
2012-11-08 03:35:08 AM

Buffet: Anonymocoso: Using Facebook at any time for anything = Bad idea.

Amen to that. Why don't I do it? Because eveyone else is! Besides - I don't give a Fark what they had for dinner last night.


There's a very simple question you can ask yourself to find out whether Facebook is right for you:

Do you give a shiat about what anyone else thinks or likes?

What surprises me is how many people feel the need to tell everyone that they don't care, suspiciously sounding as if they do care.
 
2012-11-08 03:37:41 AM
How does it work, blocking people before they friend you? Does it mean they can't even search for you?
 
2012-11-08 04:05:58 AM
I have a crappy job anyway so it's not a big issue.
My current immediate boss has no fb.
Past immediate bosses do, and I am fb friends with them.
Upper management I either block if I see them (as some of my co-workers have them on there) or, if I actually like them, I might pick them up if they're transferred out to another location.

I live a pretty boring life and do not discuss politics or any illicit activities on facebook.

On the rare occasion when I decorate a cake that goes outside of what my company would prefer -- like the pulp fiction cake I did for a peer with guns and vulgarity all over it-- I know who to block. Otherwise nobody really gives a shiat.
 
2012-11-08 04:07:06 AM

gingerjet: Indubitably: How do you deny your boss' friend request?

By ignoring it.

/is that really that hard?


Don`t accept, don`t deny. Just say "Oh, I don`t go on facebook much"

/make sure you have it so that non-friends or friends of friends or friends of friends of friends of friends of friends can`t see jack on your page
//friends of friends of friends of friends of friends of friends of friends of friends of friends of friends of friends of friends of friends of friends of friends of friends
///Friends
 
2012-11-08 05:38:50 AM

LDM90: How does it work, blocking people before they friend you? Does it mean they can't even search for you?


Correct. This assumes they are publicly searchable though. At least I think that is the limitation. I've only blocked a couple people, but I did have to find them first.
 
2012-11-08 06:48:02 AM
I'm supposed to put stuff on facebook?

/I basically use FB as a way to communicate with my distant family.
//Which means pretty much nothing but chat.
 
2012-11-08 07:10:51 AM
I simply added my boss to my "conservative douchebag Christian relative" group, from which I have hidden EVERYTHING basically (news feed, status, pics, you name it). He gets the occasional public photo album I post of a generic family event and feels included in my life. Other employees who refuse to add him are looked down on, and he comes and talks to me about them, and will actually even give THEM horrible files to work as "payback" while snickering to me afterwards (I work in International Exports and a sh*tty file can be a headache for weeks). He's an insecure idiot basically, and I play the game.

Funny thing is, I NEVER complain about work (or much of anything) on FB. My grandpa and mormon mom are on unlimited access for gods sake. It's just the principle. My boss is someone I have no respect for and runs the company horribly. I saw how much he valued being added on people's FB, so when he requested me, I added him to the douche-list without even thinking. He'll be deleted when I move on to the next jobby.
 
2012-11-08 07:52:26 AM
My current boss apparently does not know how to communicate outside of FB. Seriously. If I need to come in to cover somebody, that's how she'll tell me. And she's so technologically-challenged otherwise, it's frightening. I never post anything about work other than the occasional, "Wow, this is a really crappy day, some people really suck" kind of gibberish that anybody might complain about. My co-worker posts constant and specific rants all the time, and the boss never says anything. I don't think she's figured out the comment feature yet.

I've actually had bosses look me up through FB as part of their own "background check." So I keep everything locked down as I can in the privacy settings, and do my best not to post anything I think I could be faulted for. I don't go to crazy drinking parties or call out for no good reason, so that helps.
 
2012-11-08 07:56:32 AM
Wow. Where are the grammar nazis today?

Umpteen-brazillion comments, and nobody comments on "pedal to the medal"?
 
2012-11-08 09:04:54 AM
GIMMEE PIZZA

P-I-ZZ-A!!!
 
2012-11-08 10:06:51 AM
My former boss hated Facebook with a passion, which is strange since the company has its own page. I friended several co-workers.
 
2012-11-08 11:37:14 AM

AverageAmericanGuy: Omahawg: wallywam1: AverageAmericanGuy: Maybe you should have bosses as cool as me...I've begun requiring they write at least one post a day about anything they feel like

Not cool. Not cool at all. Freakishly uncool.

it is pretty weird

"My boss says I have to write something today. I have to. Jesus, I know this guy is in his office right now whacking it to whatever stupid screed he forces his employees to write. And what if we don't write? I need this job, man, I still owe Guido the Killer Pimp for that 8-ball and taking care of that unfortunate incident with that gold-digging harpy Stacy. I'm glad I'll never hear from her again. And neither will anyone else! lol. Damn....maybe i shouldn't write that. People could talk. Like that bimbo secretary Tina with the oversize melons trapped inside that sweater...waiting to burst free. I want to rub those melons until she purrs. wait. i shouldn't write that either. I just don't know what to do anymore. :("

yeah....downright freakish even

Well, the posts are to help them get into a habit of expressing themselves and to give them a chance to be creative every day. If they wrote this kind of thing every day, I would have to have a talk with he or she.

But for the most part when people write that kind of stuff, I leave it alone and don't comment.


If you're for real, legit and not trolling; I wouldn't work for you if my life depended on it.

You're overinvolved in lives that, quite frankly don't need your supervision to "be creative" or whatever it *really* is you're looking to get from this little experiment you're running. I think I've got a pretty good idea of the end game though.

TLDR: You're a sociopath.
 
2012-11-08 12:42:48 PM
Why not all three?
 
2012-11-08 12:43:19 PM

Indubitably: How do you deny your boss' friend request?


Don't facebook. I have almost no social media presence (excepting for LinkedIn) and am very happy about that.

Besides, people are only as real as I pretend them to be.
 
2012-11-08 01:19:07 PM
At my current job if I had FB I would NEVER friend a boss. My company encourages people to join their FB page and Ive seen people do that and get fired over dumb shiat they post. I swear they keep it on file becuase a few times when I have talked to people at corporate I get "Oh I see youre not a member of our FB page. You should really join...." Then they give me a few reasons to join. No thank you.
 
2012-11-08 08:37:46 PM

Indubitably: BarkingUnicorn: sotua: HotIgneous Intruder: gingerjet: Indubitably: How do you deny your boss' friend request?

By ignoring it.

/is that really that hard?

This.

Next day in the morning. "O HAI Intruder, did you finish the report I asked? Oh, and why haven't you accepted my friend request?" AWKWARD!

"Because I keep my business and personal lives separate."

I choose not to eat and shiat in the same space.


I know that's the sensible answer, but bear in mind you're talking with a guy who would friend his underlings on facebook ;)
 
2012-11-09 07:00:27 PM

sotua: Indubitably: BarkingUnicorn: sotua: HotIgneous Intruder: gingerjet: Indubitably: How do you deny your boss' friend request?

By ignoring it.

/is that really that hard?

This.

Next day in the morning. "O HAI Intruder, did you finish the report I asked? Oh, and why haven't you accepted my friend request?" AWKWARD!

"Because I keep my business and personal lives separate."

I choose not to eat and shiat in the same space.

I know that's the sensible answer, but bear in mind you're talking with a guy who would friend his underlings on facebook ;)


Indeed.
 
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