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(Washington Post)   Friending your boss on Facebook: bad idea, stupidest idea, or worst idea ever?   (washingtonpost.com) divider line 172
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2012-11-08 02:30:47 AM
I'm friends with my boss on Facebook. And his wife. And two of his kids. And almost every one of my employees (and ex-employees).

My boss is a somewhat atypical employer, though. If compromising pictures appear on Facebook the day after a company party odds are pretty good he posted them.
 
2012-11-08 03:08:31 AM

Forbidden Doughnut: The (potential) employer thought it was odd that I don't do Facebook, Google+, LinkedIn, or any other social media


fark them for even asking.
 
2012-11-08 03:27:40 AM
We had a girl at my work(temp) who had attendance issues. One day she no-call no-show's, posts on her facebook that she'd get a slap on the wrist(maybe she forgot her supervisor was on her friends?). She was let go the next day.

Personally I just nuked my FB about a week after I created it. I drink too much to be able to spread my nonsense like that.
 
2012-11-08 03:32:08 AM

bowtiesheep: AverageAmericanGuy: Maybe you should have bosses as cool as me. My employees have friended me, and I love seeing what they're up to and thinking. Sometimes I comment, most times I don't.

I feel like it gives us a chance to get to really understand each other, and none of them seem to be sociopaths, at least as far as I can tell from their posting. That's a good thing.

Since I started doing this, I've begun requiring they write at least one post a day about anything they feel like. It could be about what they're eating for lunch or ways they think the company could be improved. We're always on the lookout for ways to do things better around here.

I also encourage the employees to send friend requests to each other, though this isn't a rule yet. We're all in this together, so adding another means of communication is useful. Some people are shy and can't express themselves in person, so the chance to share online via Facebook is pretty great for them.

Not sure if subtlest troll or most syrupy bullhockey ever.


He got me. I had my mouth open and everything.
 
2012-11-08 03:34:50 AM

Indubitably: gingerjet: Indubitably: How do you deny your boss' friend request?

By ignoring it.

/is that really that hard?

Yes squared.

In an environment of boundary violation daily, how do you establish effective, real, professional boundaries?

Perhaps more poignant: how do you defend them?

Depends.




I have a well known policy of never friending anyone I work with. My bosses didn't really like it at first, but since it is across the board and I accept them as co-workers on linked in, they (professionally) understood.

One of my bosses follows me on twitter. That's odd enough.
 
2012-11-08 03:35:08 AM

Buffet: Anonymocoso: Using Facebook at any time for anything = Bad idea.

Amen to that. Why don't I do it? Because eveyone else is! Besides - I don't give a Fark what they had for dinner last night.


There's a very simple question you can ask yourself to find out whether Facebook is right for you:

Do you give a shiat about what anyone else thinks or likes?

What surprises me is how many people feel the need to tell everyone that they don't care, suspiciously sounding as if they do care.
 
2012-11-08 03:37:41 AM
How does it work, blocking people before they friend you? Does it mean they can't even search for you?
 
2012-11-08 04:05:58 AM
I have a crappy job anyway so it's not a big issue.
My current immediate boss has no fb.
Past immediate bosses do, and I am fb friends with them.
Upper management I either block if I see them (as some of my co-workers have them on there) or, if I actually like them, I might pick them up if they're transferred out to another location.

I live a pretty boring life and do not discuss politics or any illicit activities on facebook.

On the rare occasion when I decorate a cake that goes outside of what my company would prefer -- like the pulp fiction cake I did for a peer with guns and vulgarity all over it-- I know who to block. Otherwise nobody really gives a shiat.
 
2012-11-08 04:07:06 AM

gingerjet: Indubitably: How do you deny your boss' friend request?

By ignoring it.

/is that really that hard?


Don`t accept, don`t deny. Just say "Oh, I don`t go on facebook much"

/make sure you have it so that non-friends or friends of friends or friends of friends of friends of friends of friends can`t see jack on your page
//friends of friends of friends of friends of friends of friends of friends of friends of friends of friends of friends of friends of friends of friends of friends of friends
///Friends
 
2012-11-08 05:38:50 AM

LDM90: How does it work, blocking people before they friend you? Does it mean they can't even search for you?


Correct. This assumes they are publicly searchable though. At least I think that is the limitation. I've only blocked a couple people, but I did have to find them first.
 
2012-11-08 06:48:02 AM
I'm supposed to put stuff on facebook?

/I basically use FB as a way to communicate with my distant family.
//Which means pretty much nothing but chat.
 
2012-11-08 07:10:51 AM
I simply added my boss to my "conservative douchebag Christian relative" group, from which I have hidden EVERYTHING basically (news feed, status, pics, you name it). He gets the occasional public photo album I post of a generic family event and feels included in my life. Other employees who refuse to add him are looked down on, and he comes and talks to me about them, and will actually even give THEM horrible files to work as "payback" while snickering to me afterwards (I work in International Exports and a sh*tty file can be a headache for weeks). He's an insecure idiot basically, and I play the game.

Funny thing is, I NEVER complain about work (or much of anything) on FB. My grandpa and mormon mom are on unlimited access for gods sake. It's just the principle. My boss is someone I have no respect for and runs the company horribly. I saw how much he valued being added on people's FB, so when he requested me, I added him to the douche-list without even thinking. He'll be deleted when I move on to the next jobby.
 
2012-11-08 07:52:26 AM
My current boss apparently does not know how to communicate outside of FB. Seriously. If I need to come in to cover somebody, that's how she'll tell me. And she's so technologically-challenged otherwise, it's frightening. I never post anything about work other than the occasional, "Wow, this is a really crappy day, some people really suck" kind of gibberish that anybody might complain about. My co-worker posts constant and specific rants all the time, and the boss never says anything. I don't think she's figured out the comment feature yet.

I've actually had bosses look me up through FB as part of their own "background check." So I keep everything locked down as I can in the privacy settings, and do my best not to post anything I think I could be faulted for. I don't go to crazy drinking parties or call out for no good reason, so that helps.
 
2012-11-08 07:56:32 AM
Wow. Where are the grammar nazis today?

Umpteen-brazillion comments, and nobody comments on "pedal to the medal"?
 
2012-11-08 09:04:54 AM
GIMMEE PIZZA

P-I-ZZ-A!!!
 
2012-11-08 10:06:51 AM
My former boss hated Facebook with a passion, which is strange since the company has its own page. I friended several co-workers.
 
2012-11-08 11:37:14 AM

AverageAmericanGuy: Omahawg: wallywam1: AverageAmericanGuy: Maybe you should have bosses as cool as me...I've begun requiring they write at least one post a day about anything they feel like

Not cool. Not cool at all. Freakishly uncool.

it is pretty weird

"My boss says I have to write something today. I have to. Jesus, I know this guy is in his office right now whacking it to whatever stupid screed he forces his employees to write. And what if we don't write? I need this job, man, I still owe Guido the Killer Pimp for that 8-ball and taking care of that unfortunate incident with that gold-digging harpy Stacy. I'm glad I'll never hear from her again. And neither will anyone else! lol. Damn....maybe i shouldn't write that. People could talk. Like that bimbo secretary Tina with the oversize melons trapped inside that sweater...waiting to burst free. I want to rub those melons until she purrs. wait. i shouldn't write that either. I just don't know what to do anymore. :("

yeah....downright freakish even

Well, the posts are to help them get into a habit of expressing themselves and to give them a chance to be creative every day. If they wrote this kind of thing every day, I would have to have a talk with he or she.

But for the most part when people write that kind of stuff, I leave it alone and don't comment.


If you're for real, legit and not trolling; I wouldn't work for you if my life depended on it.

You're overinvolved in lives that, quite frankly don't need your supervision to "be creative" or whatever it *really* is you're looking to get from this little experiment you're running. I think I've got a pretty good idea of the end game though.

TLDR: You're a sociopath.
 
2012-11-08 12:42:48 PM
Why not all three?
 
2012-11-08 12:43:19 PM

Indubitably: How do you deny your boss' friend request?


Don't facebook. I have almost no social media presence (excepting for LinkedIn) and am very happy about that.

Besides, people are only as real as I pretend them to be.
 
2012-11-08 01:19:07 PM
At my current job if I had FB I would NEVER friend a boss. My company encourages people to join their FB page and Ive seen people do that and get fired over dumb shiat they post. I swear they keep it on file becuase a few times when I have talked to people at corporate I get "Oh I see youre not a member of our FB page. You should really join...." Then they give me a few reasons to join. No thank you.
 
2012-11-08 08:37:46 PM

Indubitably: BarkingUnicorn: sotua: HotIgneous Intruder: gingerjet: Indubitably: How do you deny your boss' friend request?

By ignoring it.

/is that really that hard?

This.

Next day in the morning. "O HAI Intruder, did you finish the report I asked? Oh, and why haven't you accepted my friend request?" AWKWARD!

"Because I keep my business and personal lives separate."

I choose not to eat and shiat in the same space.


I know that's the sensible answer, but bear in mind you're talking with a guy who would friend his underlings on facebook ;)
 
2012-11-09 07:00:27 PM

sotua: Indubitably: BarkingUnicorn: sotua: HotIgneous Intruder: gingerjet: Indubitably: How do you deny your boss' friend request?

By ignoring it.

/is that really that hard?

This.

Next day in the morning. "O HAI Intruder, did you finish the report I asked? Oh, and why haven't you accepted my friend request?" AWKWARD!

"Because I keep my business and personal lives separate."

I choose not to eat and shiat in the same space.

I know that's the sensible answer, but bear in mind you're talking with a guy who would friend his underlings on facebook ;)


Indeed.
 
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