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(Washington Post)   Friending your boss on Facebook: bad idea, stupidest idea, or worst idea ever?   (washingtonpost.com) divider line 171
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2012-11-07 10:08:04 PM  

Omahawg: AverageAmericanGuy: Omahawg: wallywam1: AverageAmericanGuy: Maybe you should have bosses as cool as me...I've begun requiring they write at least one post a day about anything they feel like

Not cool. Not cool at all. Freakishly uncool.

it is pretty weird

"My boss says I have to write something today. I have to. Jesus, I know this guy is in his office right now whacking it to whatever stupid screed he forces his employees to write. And what if we don't write? I need this job, man, I still owe Guido the Killer Pimp for that 8-ball and taking care of that unfortunate incident with that gold-digging harpy Stacy. I'm glad I'll never hear from her again. And neither will anyone else! lol. Damn....maybe i shouldn't write that. People could talk. Like that bimbo secretary Tina with the oversize melons trapped inside that sweater...waiting to burst free. I want to rub those melons until she purrs. wait. i shouldn't write that either. I just don't know what to do anymore. :("

yeah....downright freakish even

Well, the posts are to help them get into a habit of expressing themselves and to give them a chance to be creative every day. If they wrote this kind of thing every day, I would have to have a talk with he or she.

But for the most part when people write that kind of stuff, I leave it alone and don't comment.

shush. you don't comment because you're too busy perving through secretary Stacy's pictures looking for those melons in a bikini! don't lie!


LOL. And I appreciate your contributions to bikini threads as well, O!
 
2012-11-07 10:09:48 PM  

Indubitably: How big is your community, friends?


Linkedin is for professional contacts in which I have a few hundred. Facebook is for personal connections and I never allow it to get over 100 'friends'. Otherwise it loses its usefulness to me.
 
2012-11-07 10:11:22 PM  

gingerjet: Indubitably: How big is your community, friends?

Linkedin is for professional contacts in which I have a few hundred. Facebook is for personal connections and I never allow it to get over 100 'friends'. Otherwise it loses its usefulness to me.


Hermitized.
 
2012-11-07 10:11:53 PM  

Bill_Wick's_Friend: I don't really have a "boss:, but I have a lot of friends in the industry, some of whom have, at times, paid me for work...so any and all of them could at any point become my boss and some of them have been my boss. I am "friends" with many of them on Facebook.

I also deal with my suppliers, often through Facebook, so I'm friends with label and publisher people and indy artists etc.

And my family.

And old high school acquaintances who I don't really know.

As a result, I don't put anything more personal than what I'm eating for dinner or the weather or pictures of my dog on Facebook. If they ever kill the Scrabulous app I'd stop Facebooking altogether.


For a guy named 'Bill Wick's Friend' your post really sounds like you deal drugs. I know 'Wicks' isn't 'Wilson' but the play was there and so I ended up thinking of AA anyways.

Unfortunately, they killed Scrabulous in 2008. It used to be amazing until Scrabble sued them and Scrabulous had to release the busted, broken version. Perhaps it is better now, I have used it since then.
 
2012-11-07 10:12:51 PM  

Indubitably: gingerjet: Indubitably: How big is your community, friends?

Linkedin is for professional contacts in which I have a few hundred. Facebook is for personal connections and I never allow it to get over 100 'friends'. Otherwise it loses its usefulness to me.

Hermitized.

To be quiet, intellectually, sort of.


Heh.

*bow*
 
2012-11-07 10:13:45 PM  

AverageAmericanGuy: Soupysales: AverageAmericanGuy: Well, the posts are to help them get into a habit of expressing themselves and to give them a chance to be creative every day. If they wrote this kind of thing every day, I would have to have a talk with he or she.

Just curious, what industry are you in?

Import/export


But you're thinking about quitting imports, and just concentrating on the exports.
 
2012-11-07 10:13:53 PM  
there is something fundamentally retarded about the need to ask this question.

/and facebook.
//and snowflakes that like to broadcast their lives.
 
2012-11-07 10:15:30 PM  

ha-ha-guy: AAG is in the serial trolling industry.


Thanks. It sounded off, but I've done team building exercises that required singing and dancing, so work-crazy doesn't really surprise me.
 
2012-11-07 10:16:50 PM  
If you're Facebook profile has more than 2 or 3 close friends, you should be assuming everything you post either is or will be public.

The whole charade of privacy settings on Facebook is such a crock when anyone can take a screenshot and share it with the rest of the world.

Just don't post shiat you're ashamed of. Is that so hard?

There are lots of places on the internet to be anonymous if you want to vent or ask questions about the growth on your penis or whatever.
 
2012-11-07 10:17:16 PM  
I left facebook over a year ago and never looked back.

However, I was when I was on it, my boss was in my firends list. My relationship is my boss is such:
1) If I were to trash talk him on facebook, it would have been nothing I wouldn't have said to his face.
2) he knows of my affinity for teh whiskey anyway

I even made fun of him when he changed his status to engaged.

YMMV
 
2012-11-07 10:18:22 PM  
WTF is facebook?

/never been there.
//The less people know about me, the better.
 
2012-11-07 10:20:49 PM  
My policy is that I may friend my co-workers, but I won't friend my boss until after I leave. It's worked out pretty well.
 
2012-11-07 10:22:17 PM  
Using Facebook at any time for anything = Bad idea.
 
2012-11-07 10:24:08 PM  
Very bad idea. Co-workers maybe but bosses definitely not. After I leave it's my call, and I've declined friend requests from bosses before. When I explain it to them they immediately see why I declined.

Plus I'm pretty incendiary on Facebook.
 
2012-11-07 10:25:55 PM  
It's a bad idea for morons. Which I guess means most of you.
 
2012-11-07 10:28:16 PM  
I tell everyone the opposite. Make your mom, your wife, your boss,and your religious leader your fB friends and then post accodrdingly.

Don't say anything on fB you wouldnt broadcast with your face and name to the whole world on primetime TV. How hard is that?
 
2012-11-07 10:29:19 PM  

trappedspirit: It's a bad idea for morons. Which I guess means most of you.


i172.photobucket.com
 
2012-11-07 10:29:29 PM  
This is why I have two. One that my mom can look at. Second with pics of all my pot and porn.
 
2012-11-07 10:34:03 PM  
Well, my current boss has been my friend for the past 9 years and was one of my bridesmaids. So I'm pretty sure she whatever she sees on my Facebook won't be a shock to her.

/then again, I don't post stupid shiat on Facebook
//mostly pics of the kiddos
///and the usual inquiry into recommendations for good music
 
2012-11-07 10:42:19 PM  
I was FB friends with my boss before he was my boss. He doesn't post so much anymore, but occasionally I "like" a management article or something else that could help our severely batshiat crazy department. I hope he has time to read them.
 
2012-11-07 10:42:24 PM  
Depends on the environment you work in. If you are waiting tables and your manager is just a couple of years older than you....sure. Associate at a law firm that likes to get loose on the weekends.....terrible idea.
 
2012-11-07 10:47:19 PM  

stuffy: This is why I have two. One that my mom can look at. Second with pics of all my pot and porn.


What if we send you porn of your stoned mom?
 
2012-11-07 10:49:34 PM  

Indubitably: How do you deny your boss' friend request?


I had a former boss request to be my friend on facebook, mostly because she didn't understand how social media worked. As she and I were both about the same age (late 30's) this was bizarre to me because I was the one who dragged the organization kicking and screaming into using social media, so this was perplexing to me. Then again, she barely understood how the internet worked and I never quite figured out how she got the job. Thankfully we had a good relationship despite this so I simply stopped by her office and told her that I would be happy to be 'friends' with her on Linkedin, but I keep Facebook for family and non-work related pursuits only. She was cool with that. Whew.

Never friend your boss on Facebook. What the hell is wrong with you people.
 
2012-11-07 10:51:39 PM  
I have a job where its necessary to hide almost everything I do in my off time from my bosses and the majority of the people I work with so a FB acct was never an option.
 
2012-11-07 10:52:48 PM  
I'm paranoid enough about the one co-worker I'm friends with on Facebook. She's somewhat chatty. I usually hide from her the posts about how the new guy seems like a serial killer.
 
2012-11-07 10:53:02 PM  

Indubitably: How do you deny your boss' friend request?


Block them before they can request you. Done.

In fact, I've blocked nearly all my coworkers, before they could friend me. Aaaand it just so happens that my incredibly hot boss has a PUBLIC FB page, so we can see her drunken shenanigans in all their glory while keeping our shiat private.
 
2012-11-07 10:54:26 PM  
I know people who do this. Jesus, I don't tell people at work I even HAVE an FB account. I also never talk about work on FB just in case.

Controlling your own stupidity is not that hard.
 
2012-11-07 11:04:04 PM  

badLogic: I don't friend anyone who I work with. Ex-coworkers are ok though


+1. My golden rule.
 
2012-11-07 11:04:08 PM  
Dear Abby:

My cammed Camaro is faster than my bosses Porsche but the goober won't admit it!

He's demanding a race on the street. Should we race near the old quarry or just rip it down main street?
 
2012-11-07 11:05:40 PM  
How about Gone Wild on Reddit?
 
2012-11-07 11:06:34 PM  

Threadslayer: Dear Abby:

My cammed Camaro is faster than my bosses Porsche but the goober won't admit it!

He's demanding a race on the street. Should we race near the old quarry or just rip it down main street?


Main street, if you can pay the freight.
 
2012-11-07 11:16:52 PM  

Anonymocoso: Using Facebook at any time for anything = Bad idea.


Amen to that. Why don't I do it? Because eveyone else is! Besides - I don't give a Fark what they had for dinner last night.
 
2012-11-07 11:24:52 PM  
no f-ing way. I facebook only with out of town friends and family.



/old
//get of my lawn. etc.
 
2012-11-07 11:30:02 PM  

AverageAmericanGuy: Maybe you should have bosses as cool as me. My employees have friended me, and I love seeing what they're up to and thinking. Sometimes I comment, most times I don't.

I feel like it gives us a chance to get to really understand each other, and none of them seem to be sociopaths, at least as far as I can tell from their posting. That's a good thing.

Since I started doing this, I've begun requiring they write at least one post a day about anything they feel like. It could be about what they're eating for lunch or ways they think the company could be improved. We're always on the lookout for ways to do things better around here.

I also encourage the employees to send friend requests to each other, though this isn't a rule yet. We're all in this together, so adding another means of communication is useful. Some people are shy and can't express themselves in person, so the chance to share online via Facebook is pretty great for them.


requiring them? bad move.. not job related. save your requiring for actual work.
 
2012-11-07 11:36:52 PM  
Meh! Anyone who would fire me for my personal life probably isn't somebody I'd want to be working for in the first place.
 
2012-11-07 11:41:46 PM  
Don't have facebook and it won't be a problem.
 
2012-11-07 11:52:34 PM  

AverageAmericanGuy: Soupysales: AverageAmericanGuy: Well, the posts are to help them get into a habit of expressing themselves and to give them a chance to be creative every day. If they wrote this kind of thing every day, I would have to have a talk with he or she.

Just curious, what industry are you in?

Import/export


i419.photobucket.com
 
2012-11-07 11:56:59 PM  
Not a choice for me - I was offered my job via Facebook, from a guy I'd known from professional conferences for a few years. Can't remove him now.
 
2012-11-07 11:59:50 PM  

fusillade762: AverageAmericanGuy: Soupysales: AverageAmericanGuy: Well, the posts are to help them get into a habit of expressing themselves and to give them a chance to be creative every day. If they wrote this kind of thing every day, I would have to have a talk with he or she.

Just curious, what industry are you in?

Import/export

[i419.photobucket.com image 850x484]


ih1.redbubble.net
 
2012-11-08 12:03:51 AM  
My full time boss guilted me into adding her a couple of years back ("You've got Sally and Ted on there, and they work here too, what's the big deal?"). Well, I announced a FB purge several months ago, dropping anyone who wasn't family or a true friend. I went from 150+ people to less than 40. When my boss complained I told her that I cut everyone who I see on a nearly daily basis since we could just talk in person (that was only partly true) and she bought it. Since I have my privacy settings zipped up tight, she's none the wiser.

My boss at the part time job has an entirely different stance. He tells all new employees not to add him to Facebook because he doesn't want to blur the line between a work relationship and friendship. Interestingly, he and I would likely be great friends away from work, and I love working for him enough that I'm considering switching to that job full time.
 
2012-11-08 12:05:45 AM  

henryhill: Friending your boss on Facebook: bad idea, stupidest idea, or worst idea ever?

FTFM


I had a phone interview for a job recently. The (potential) employer thought it was odd that I don't do Facebook, Google+, LinkedIn, or any other social media (I guess FARK counts...sort of..). Don't know if that cost me the gig or not...

/ invasive technologies make me feel queasy
// not a big fan of cell phones, either.
 
2012-11-08 12:11:33 AM  

Forbidden Doughnut: henryhill: Friending your boss on Facebook: bad idea, stupidest idea, or worst idea ever?

FTFM

I had a phone interview for a job recently. The (potential) employer thought it was odd that I don't do Facebook, Google+, LinkedIn, or any other social media (I guess FARK counts...sort of..). Don't know if that cost me the gig or not...

/ invasive technologies make me feel queasy
// not a big fan of cell phones, either.


I sometimes wonder if I'm the last person in America who has never had a cell phone and does not ever want a cell phone. no, not for me. mail me a letter or send it via carrier pigeon.
 
2012-11-08 12:12:59 AM  
There's nothing I post on facebook that I don't already say to my boss's face. So friending was no big deal. My boss is pretty awesome though.
 
2012-11-08 01:09:30 AM  

Indubitably: How do you deny your boss' friend request?


In a room full of people, hike your pants, stick out your hand and say FRIENDS.
 
2012-11-08 01:12:08 AM  
yup, like several of the other posters, I found most of my clients and coworkers and blocked them.
 
2012-11-08 01:21:28 AM  

wallywam1: AverageAmericanGuy: Maybe you should have bosses as cool as me...I've begun requiring they write at least one post a day about anything they feel like

Not cool. Not cool at all. Freakishly uncool.


Wow, I bought it all the way. Nice jorb.
 
2012-11-08 01:23:15 AM  
I wonder how many are gaming this now.
 
2012-11-08 01:46:53 AM  

AverageAmericanGuy: Maybe you should have bosses as cool as me. My employees have friended me, and I love seeing what they're up to and thinking. Sometimes I comment, most times I don't.

I feel like it gives us a chance to get to really understand each other, and none of them seem to be sociopaths, at least as far as I can tell from their posting. That's a good thing.

Since I started doing this, I've begun requiring they write at least one post a day about anything they feel like. It could be about what they're eating for lunch or ways they think the company could be improved. We're always on the lookout for ways to do things better around here.

I also encourage the employees to send friend requests to each other, though this isn't a rule yet. We're all in this together, so adding another means of communication is useful. Some people are shy and can't express themselves in person, so the chance to share online via Facebook is pretty great for them.


Not sure if subtlest troll or most syrupy bullhockey ever.
 
2012-11-08 02:03:04 AM  

Indubitably: gingerjet: Indubitably: How do you deny your boss' friend request?

By ignoring it.

/is that really that hard?

Yes squared.

In an environment of boundary violation daily, how do you establish effective, real, professional boundaries?

Perhaps more poignant: how do you defend them?

Depends.


Meh, I deleted my Facebook and use LinkedIn exclusively for work related relationships. Honestly, I don`t want my life to be that interesting to people I work with - i'm there to do a job, not spend my entire day sharing tales of what happened last night. I have plenty of connections in LinkedIn and I don't get all the nasty spam of who likes what app constantly filling up my inbox/e-mail. Some people like to use it for work, I personally don't agree.
 
2012-11-08 02:30:47 AM  
I'm friends with my boss on Facebook. And his wife. And two of his kids. And almost every one of my employees (and ex-employees).

My boss is a somewhat atypical employer, though. If compromising pictures appear on Facebook the day after a company party odds are pretty good he posted them.
 
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