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2012-11-07 09:25:23 PM
Friending your boss on Facebook: bad idea, stupidest idea, or worst idea ever?
 
2012-11-07 09:25:44 PM
FTA : Eventually, in 10 years, you're just gonna be connected to everyone all the time, including your boss."

Please kill me in 9 years.
 
2012-11-07 09:27:26 PM
I, for one, welcome our new boss overlords.
 
2012-11-07 09:27:26 PM

Testiclaw: Baaaaad idea. Don't need a boss to even know about social media/networking sites outside of LinkedIn.


This. Work is work. Home and play are separate. I don't even friend former "bosses" (I'm a contract employee) on any social media sites except LinkedIn.
 
2012-11-07 09:28:00 PM
If you live your life in such a way that you would not be embarassed if anyone saw you at any time, then there's no worries whatsoever.


/just sayin'
 
2012-11-07 09:28:21 PM
For those that say it's okay to friend and put them in a group that doesn't see anything, you better be careful of Facebook system updates. They sometimes screw with viewing settings of old posts.
 
2012-11-07 09:29:19 PM
Having a facebook = stupidest idea ever.

It's a giant data mine. (and security risk)
 
2012-11-07 09:29:48 PM
Who wouldn't want their boss to see their drunken, drug-fueled, scantily clad antics?
 
2012-11-07 09:29:56 PM

Indubitably: AverageAmericanGuy: Maybe you should have bosses as cool as me. My employees have friended me, and I love seeing what they're up to and thinking. Sometimes I comment, most times I don't.

I feel like it gives us a chance to get to really understand each other, and none of them seem to be sociopaths, at least as far as I can tell from their posting. That's a good thing.

Since I started doing this, I've begun requiring they write at least one post a day about anything they feel like. It could be about what they're eating for lunch or ways they think the company could be improved. We're always on the lookout for ways to do things better around here.

I also encourage the employees to send friend requests to each other, though this isn't a rule yet. We're all in this together, so adding another means of communication is useful. Some people are shy and can't express themselves in person, so the chance to share online via Facebook is pretty great for them.

"Require?"


Only the posts. I don't require them to accept my friend requests yet.
 
2012-11-07 09:30:17 PM

ISO15693: If you live your life in such a way that you would not be embarassed if anyone saw you at any time, then there's no worries whatsoever.


/just sayin'


Be local.
 
2012-11-07 09:30:56 PM

Indubitably: How do you deny your boss' friend request?


Like this: DENIED. Sorry boss, this shiat is too weird for you. Trust me on this one, you don't want to see what gets spammed on my timeline.
 
2012-11-07 09:31:26 PM

fusillade762: Who wouldn't want their boss to see their drunken, drug-fueled, scantily clad antics?


Who can't establish healthy boundaries?
 
2012-11-07 09:32:48 PM
So, wait.

Am I ignored or wut?

Heh.

*)
 
2012-11-07 09:33:17 PM
Of all time. OF ALL TIME.
 
2012-11-07 09:33:32 PM

NeoCortex42: For those that say it's okay to friend and put them in a group that doesn't see anything, you better be careful of Facebook system updates. They sometimes screw with viewing settings of old posts.

 
2012-11-07 09:36:08 PM
Friending your boss on Facebook: bad idea, stupidest idea, or worst idea ever?

FTFM
 
2012-11-07 09:36:59 PM
facebook? what's that?

and who the fark is friends with their boss? you little ass sniffing subby...
 
2012-11-07 09:37:09 PM

AverageAmericanGuy: Since I started doing this, I've begun requiring they write at least one post a day about anything they feel like. It could be about what they're eating for lunch or ways they think the company could be improved. We're always on the lookout for ways to do things better around here.


If I were faced with this, every single post would be about how the company could be improved by abandoning your idiotic posting requirement. Some might even have polished and thoughfull infographics about why this is a bad idea and why you should feel bad about implementing it.

TomD9938: FTA : Eventually, in 10 years, you're just gonna be connected to everyone all the time, including your boss."

Please kill me in 9 years.


How will I find you in 9 years? Here, why don't you just friend me.
 
2012-11-07 09:37:30 PM

AverageAmericanGuy: Maybe you should have bosses as cool as me...I've begun requiring they write at least one post a day about anything they feel like


Not cool. Not cool at all. Freakishly uncool.
 
2012-11-07 09:38:25 PM

sotua: HotIgneous Intruder: gingerjet: Indubitably: How do you deny your boss' friend request?

By ignoring it.

/is that really that hard?

This.

Next day in the morning. "O HAI Intruder, did you finish the report I asked? Oh, and why haven't you accepted my friend request?" AWKWARD!


"Because I keep my business and personal lives separate."
 
2012-11-07 09:41:48 PM

DarthBart: Boss, teacher, professor, etc....oh, hell no.


It's interesting: I've never had a student ask to friend me on FB, and I'm fine with that.

However, I've been to panel talks at conferences where students discuss it. Most classic "18-year-old middle class white kid" university students all reply that they never do, but a lot of the folks who don't fit into this category want to.

The argument is that many of them are first generation college students and never grew up in contact with the sort of culture surrounding college that most middle class kids know. They're looking for guidance in how to enter into what is totally alien world for them, and seeing their professors on FB helps them understand.

/I work at a school that caters mostly to the rich white kid demographic so I shouldn't expect friend requests.
//That's what I tell myself to sleep well at night
///Was never the cool kid. *sob*
 
2012-11-07 09:41:54 PM

mikebdoss: Take the time to learn about Facebook's filters and lists. You can post your degraded sex details/pictures to the people you want to show it, and the general "Happy whatever holiday, friends" nonsense to everyone else. As far as your boss/parents/people you don't want to share with know, you're just not a big Facebook user.

Oh, and get your friends to post "friends only" at the very least, as well. We all have that asshole friend who's posts are "Everyone", and when you comment on their keg stand picture, your friends see it.

Learn the system, game the system.


This. I've friended a few coworkers on Facebook (but no supervisors), and while I very rarely post things I wouldn't want them to see, I did use those filters to ensure that no coworker sees the drunken antics from my 10-year high school reunion.
 
2012-11-07 09:42:11 PM

wallywam1: AverageAmericanGuy: Maybe you should have bosses as cool as me...I've begun requiring they write at least one post a day about anything they feel like

Not cool. Not cool at all. Freakishly uncool.


it is pretty weird

"My boss says I have to write something today. I have to. Jesus, I know this guy is in his office right now whacking it to whatever stupid screed he forces his employees to write. And what if we don't write? I need this job, man, I still owe Guido the Killer Pimp for that 8-ball and taking care of that unfortunate incident with that gold-digging harpy Stacy. I'm glad I'll never hear from her again. And neither will anyone else! lol. Damn....maybe i shouldn't write that. People could talk. Like that bimbo secretary Tina with the oversize melons trapped inside that sweater...waiting to burst free. I want to rub those melons until she purrs. wait. i shouldn't write that either. I just don't know what to do anymore. :("

yeah....downright freakish even
 
2012-11-07 09:42:21 PM

hundreddollarman: Of all time. OF ALL TIME.


I'm okay with that.

Small minds propagate faster than large ones...no?

*)
 
2012-11-07 09:43:15 PM
hell no
 
2012-11-07 09:43:34 PM

BarkingUnicorn: sotua: HotIgneous Intruder: gingerjet: Indubitably: How do you deny your boss' friend request?

By ignoring it.

/is that really that hard?

This.

Next day in the morning. "O HAI Intruder, did you finish the report I asked? Oh, and why haven't you accepted my friend request?" AWKWARD!

"Because I keep my business and personal lives separate."


I choose not to eat and shiat in the same space.
 
2012-11-07 09:43:39 PM
I'm here to say that healthy boundaries are important!
What's that? Why am I wearing Indubitably's underwear?
Um ... demonstration of the principle?
 
2012-11-07 09:43:40 PM
I was one of the few who friended the boss early on.
After she quit, she made it known that it was cool to friend her.
Also made it known to me that being ballsy enough to friend her was worth points for the resume'.

She hosts a pool party every year n has a salt water heated pool.
So there's that.
 
2012-11-07 09:43:55 PM

fredbox: I really don't have a problem with someone who can't follow rules not being a cop. I wonder why they let it go on so long that she used all her sick leave, though, and still offered her a choice in the matter rather than sending her off to the other career post haste. Oh, right, public employee unions. Never mind.


Bzzt. We aren't unionized. Try again.

It was more that we're hideously understaffed. Nobody wanted to let somebody go if they didn't have to. Even though on probationary status we could be fired at any time, for any reason, they still didn't want to do that unless the issue was forced. Also, after sinking the money into recruiting and training an officer, they didn't want to flush that down the toilet too if they thought they could turn things around.

So, no, it wasn't a union thing. Was more a matter of not wanting to waste the money spent on training a new officer, and being short another officer, over something as silly as small-time country music gigs on the side. Funny thing is, if she'd waited another year or so, she could have had enough seniority to move to another shift and had her evenings free to perform, got permission for outside employment (although working for/in a place that served alcohol would be really questionable), and might have been able to continue with both.
 
2012-11-07 09:46:13 PM

wildcardjack: Well, are you friends with your boss?

Seriously, are you friends with your boss, or are you just another person passing through his little slice of a cost center before your or he moves on to other things?


Sometimes you may think you are friends with your boss only to find out later you aren't really that close. Makes me really happy we didn't have FB when I worked at EB Games. I won't deny I got myself fired from there for being stupid about something (relatively minor), but when I invited him out to lunch several months later, after five years thinking we were fairly close as coworkers, he said we were 'acquaintances'.

Thanks buddy, never again will I save a bosses bacon by going and opening the store because you lost your damn keys half an hour before opening. It doesn't count for shiat.
 
2012-11-07 09:46:32 PM

Porous Horace: I'm here to say that healthy boundaries are important!
What's that? Why am I wearing Indubitably's underwear?
Um ... demonstration of the principle?


*bow*
 
2012-11-07 09:48:07 PM
biatch be all hot, we be gettin high in the parking garage before work and at lunch, she got all like microfiber gel mattresses and shiat. damn, biatch can be the hell out of my friend.

/ i'm bored
 
2012-11-07 09:48:52 PM

Omahawg: wallywam1: AverageAmericanGuy: Maybe you should have bosses as cool as me...I've begun requiring they write at least one post a day about anything they feel like

Not cool. Not cool at all. Freakishly uncool.

it is pretty weird

"My boss says I have to write something today. I have to. Jesus, I know this guy is in his office right now whacking it to whatever stupid screed he forces his employees to write. And what if we don't write? I need this job, man, I still owe Guido the Killer Pimp for that 8-ball and taking care of that unfortunate incident with that gold-digging harpy Stacy. I'm glad I'll never hear from her again. And neither will anyone else! lol. Damn....maybe i shouldn't write that. People could talk. Like that bimbo secretary Tina with the oversize melons trapped inside that sweater...waiting to burst free. I want to rub those melons until she purrs. wait. i shouldn't write that either. I just don't know what to do anymore. :("

yeah....downright freakish even


Be sure to add a some talk about checking out other guys/gals. That way you can backstop yourself for a wrongful termination suit :D
 
2012-11-07 09:49:04 PM
two - three years ago (?) Mrs.Kritter told me of a co-worker who lives quite nearby getting fired due to her FB posts. employer is a huge hotel franchisor that is very conscious of the professional manner. silly biatch down the road posted all sorts of negative ranting about the workplace, naming names and everything -- and then was genuinely shocked when she was called out on the carpet for it. stupit twat.

Mrs.K keeps her FB circle very small. She doesn't even have me as a friend - but what the Fark, i'm only her husband. biatch.
 
GBB
2012-11-07 09:49:51 PM
Friending your boss on Facebook: Unless you are planning to do work and get promoted at some point, you might not want to do that.
 
2012-11-07 09:50:37 PM

Indubitably: hundreddollarman: Of all time. OF ALL TIME.

I'm okay with that.

Small minds propagate faster than large ones...no?

*)


Hopefully enough idiots hang themselves with asinine FB posts that I can slide into that vacancy.

/Stuck working part-time at the moment.
 
2012-11-07 09:51:34 PM
My current boss is my Facebook friend, but she's awesome. If I can play Cards Against Humanity with her on lunch breaks, then I'm not worried about social media.
 
2012-11-07 09:51:54 PM

GBB: Friending your boss on Facebook: Unless you are planning to do work and get promoted at some point, you might not want to do that.


Unless you don't face much, then it's just another face, man...

*)
 
2012-11-07 09:52:48 PM

ladyfortuna: wildcardjack: Well, are you friends with your boss?

Seriously, are you friends with your boss, or are you just another person passing through his little slice of a cost center before your or he moves on to other things?

Sometimes you may think you are friends with your boss only to find out later you aren't really that close. Makes me really happy we didn't have FB when I worked at EB Games. I won't deny I got myself fired from there for being stupid about something (relatively minor), but when I invited him out to lunch several months later, after five years thinking we were fairly close as coworkers, he said we were 'acquaintances'.

Thanks buddy, never again will I save a bosses bacon by going and opening the store because you lost your damn keys half an hour before opening. It doesn't count for shiat.


"You don't know who your friends are until the ice breaks," say the Inuit.
 
2012-11-07 09:53:02 PM
I like my boss a lot, and we get along really well. Still, I (and my coworkers) understand that socializing outside of work isn't really kosher, and that includes Facebook. I should note that I'm a government employee; I think there's more of a grey area in a private company (especially a small one).

I used to be really cautious about even adding coworkers, but I've gotten over that. If I like you enough that we do (or could) hang out outside of work, I don't have a problem adding you.
 
2012-11-07 09:53:45 PM

ProfessorOhki: AverageAmericanGuy: Since I started doing this, I've begun requiring they write at least one post a day about anything they feel like. It could be about what they're eating for lunch or ways they think the company could be improved. We're always on the lookout for ways to do things better around here.

If I were faced with this, every single post would be about how the company could be improved by abandoning your idiotic posting requirement. Some might even have polished and thoughfull infographics about why this is a bad idea and why you should feel bad about implementing it.


LOL. There's one guy who does that. Or did that, I should say.

I prefer LOLcats, though.
 
2012-11-07 09:55:55 PM
I don't really have a "boss:, but I have a lot of friends in the industry, some of whom have, at times, paid me for work...so any and all of them could at any point become my boss and some of them have been my boss. I am "friends" with many of them on Facebook.

I also deal with my suppliers, often through Facebook, so I'm friends with label and publisher people and indy artists etc.

And my family.

And old high school acquaintances who I don't really know.

As a result, I don't put anything more personal than what I'm eating for dinner or the weather or pictures of my dog on Facebook. If they ever kill the Scrabulous app I'd stop Facebooking altogether.
 
2012-11-07 09:57:34 PM

Off2403: My current boss is my Facebook friend, but she's awesome. If I can play Cards Against Humanity with her on lunch breaks, then I'm not worried about social media.


Nice. I'd love to have a cool boss again someday...
 
2012-11-07 10:02:39 PM

Omahawg: wallywam1: AverageAmericanGuy: Maybe you should have bosses as cool as me...I've begun requiring they write at least one post a day about anything they feel like

Not cool. Not cool at all. Freakishly uncool.

it is pretty weird

"My boss says I have to write something today. I have to. Jesus, I know this guy is in his office right now whacking it to whatever stupid screed he forces his employees to write. And what if we don't write? I need this job, man, I still owe Guido the Killer Pimp for that 8-ball and taking care of that unfortunate incident with that gold-digging harpy Stacy. I'm glad I'll never hear from her again. And neither will anyone else! lol. Damn....maybe i shouldn't write that. People could talk. Like that bimbo secretary Tina with the oversize melons trapped inside that sweater...waiting to burst free. I want to rub those melons until she purrs. wait. i shouldn't write that either. I just don't know what to do anymore. :("

yeah....downright freakish even


Well, the posts are to help them get into a habit of expressing themselves and to give them a chance to be creative every day. If they wrote this kind of thing every day, I would have to have a talk with he or she.

But for the most part when people write that kind of stuff, I leave it alone and don't comment.
 
2012-11-07 10:02:55 PM

PillsHere: It's fine if you don't ever post anything on Facebook or don't post/like controversial things. Also it helps if you don't lie to your boss about why miss work then post on Facebook the real thing you were doing that day. All of these things are within your control.


Just another story about people externalizing the cause of their poor decisions. "I hate facebook so much, it got me divorced and fired! Why are they allowed to run a website like that?!"
 
2012-11-07 10:03:26 PM
I'm friends with my bosses daughter on FB. But not my boss. Is that wrong?
Out of our 250ish employees I'm friends with three people there and a couple of my former employees.
I'd be ok friending my assistant when one of us leaves but till then I can deal with the fact that I'm not allowed friends at work unless they're equals and I only like three of them.
 
2012-11-07 10:04:35 PM

AverageAmericanGuy: Well, the posts are to help them get into a habit of expressing themselves and to give them a chance to be creative every day. If they wrote this kind of thing every day, I would have to have a talk with he or she.


Just curious, what industry are you in?
 
2012-11-07 10:05:18 PM

Bill_Wick's_Friend: I don't really have a "boss:, but I have a lot of friends in the industry, some of whom have, at times, paid me for work...so any and all of them could at any point become my boss and some of them have been my boss. I am "friends" with many of them on Facebook.

I also deal with my suppliers, often through Facebook, so I'm friends with label and publisher people and indy artists etc.

And my family.

And old high school acquaintances who I don't really know.

As a result, I don't put anything more personal than what I'm eating for dinner or the weather or pictures of my dog on Facebook. If they ever kill the Scrabulous app I'd stop Facebooking altogether.


Pretty much this to be honest. Anyone who rants about work on Facebook or anything of that nature is the real moron. All it takes is one person in your friends list waking up extra biatchy, snagging a few screenshots, and you're farked at the end of the day. Or someone else setting stuff to friend of friends. tagging you, and farking you with that method. FB has become at best a semi private networking tool.
 
2012-11-07 10:06:01 PM

Soupysales: AverageAmericanGuy: Well, the posts are to help them get into a habit of expressing themselves and to give them a chance to be creative every day. If they wrote this kind of thing every day, I would have to have a talk with he or she.

Just curious, what industry are you in?


Import/export
 
2012-11-07 10:06:14 PM

Soupysales: AverageAmericanGuy: Well, the posts are to help them get into a habit of expressing themselves and to give them a chance to be creative every day. If they wrote this kind of thing every day, I would have to have a talk with he or she.

Just curious, what industry are you in?


AAG is in the serial trolling industry.
 
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