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2012-10-10 11:35:50 AM
I dunno, but he should probably keep hanging around, listening to them in the shower and casually walking by them "air-drying" to make sure nothing is happening.
 
2012-10-10 11:36:38 AM
I have two adult (27ish) male friends who do this, both straight. They've been friends since middle school, and have been showering together a long time. When questioned, they look at us like we're the ones who are completely crazy. One explained it as a holdover from his days as a college soccer player, but I would think that's more of a large group shower thing, not a "Hey, let's jump in this normal sized shower together." They've jumped in the shower (and the tub) together on large group trips as well. Just like the article, we can hear them laughing and chatting in there.

None of us can wrap our heads around it.
 
2012-10-10 11:36:41 AM
It ain't normal for either sex to enjoy taking group showers like that. Even more so in a shower built for one person. Unless they grew up in a nudist colony normal would be wanting a little privacy and personal space. Not withstanding the fact that straight guys like to affirm the fact they are not gay when in a situation that could be interpretted as the contrary.
 
2012-10-10 11:36:47 AM

topcon: I played football for one year in highschool (1990's,) no one ever got a shower afterward, you waited until you got home.. I was in many, many gym classes, and no one ever got showers then, either. I used to go running with friends, or playing raquetball...we never had a group shower.



Highschool in the late 90's here and we still had a communal shower in the highschool that was used after the sports I played. Some of the football players might have went home, but the wrestling team with worries of ring worm costing meets you took a shower and you made damn sure you got clean as soon as possible.
 
2012-10-10 11:36:54 AM

susansto-helit: Pocket Ninja: Cythraul: What about dick to ass contact?

Well, I mean, come on. There might be some minor brushing of penis against buttock every now and then, but that's more a function of any one individual's, ahem, endowment than anything else. I mean, if you're swinging around a whiffle bat, you might hit something every now and then, but it's not normally a problem as long as you maintain a somewhat respectful distance. Someone very concerned might take the tuck and hold approach, you know, like that Bill guy from Silence of the Lambs, but there is a minor problem there of little cyclops peeking out at the guy behind you the whole time, which, yeah, I guess is a little strange. That would be OK for the guy in the very back, though, I guess.

This might be the most informative thread I've ever been in, and I don't even have a penis.


Would you like one?

/not using mine, *sigh
 
2012-10-10 11:37:32 AM

topcon: ...who is the one group of people who are always naked in the bathroom? SENIOR CITIZENS. Even when changing stalls are available, like at the gym I go to, and used by everyone else, 75 year old dudes will walk around the bathroom naked. They're literally the only ones that do.


I asked one once why that was. He said it scares all the young idiots and assholes away.

Old people are pretty clever.

Oh, and to Mr. Dear Abby guy....your son and his friends are queer, and you are a creeper for listening in at the bathroom door. The giggling and joking you hear is them sword fighting, pal. Wake the fark up.
 
2012-10-10 11:37:43 AM

rudemix: topcon: I played football for one year in highschool (1990's,) no one ever got a shower afterward, you waited until you got home.. I was in many, many gym classes, and no one ever got showers then, either. I used to go running with friends, or playing raquetball...we never had a group shower.

There's no way that's typical. I'd almost think the letter is fake. Heterosexual male teenagers aren't taking showers with each other at home, in a home-style shower. In my personal experience, as stated above, I never even saw anyone using proper group showers together.

And anyone who goes to a public gym knows, speaking as a male, anyway...who is the one group of people who are always naked in the bathroom? SENIOR CITIZENS. Even when changing stalls are available, like at the gym I go to, and used by everyone else, 75 year old dudes will walk around the bathroom naked. They're literally the only ones that do.

Well, if every personal experience you've had runs contrary to the article, it's probably safe to say it's not happening anywhere in the known universe.


Do you really think teenage boys are taking showers together AT HOME three or four to a shower together? Really? Is the fact that it's ludicrous and probably fake ruining your fantasy?
 
2012-10-10 11:38:00 AM
Now for something completely ......hetro.....

www.randommindlessshit.com

/and equally made up.
 
2012-10-10 11:38:06 AM

topcon: I played football for one year in highschool (1990's,) no one ever got a shower afterward, you waited until you got home.. I was in many, many gym classes, and no one ever got showers then, either. I used to go running with friends, or playing raquetball...we never had a group shower.

There's no way that's typical. I'd almost think the letter is fake. Heterosexual male teenagers aren't taking showers with each other at home, in a home-style shower. In my personal experience, as stated above, I never even saw anyone using proper group showers together.

And anyone who goes to a public gym knows, speaking as a male, anyway...who is the one group of people who are always naked in the bathroom? SENIOR CITIZENS. Even when changing stalls are available, like at the gym I go to, and used by everyone else, 75 year old dudes will walk around the bathroom naked. They're literally the only ones that do.


Hmm, well, at the gym I used to go to, there was a high school swim team that practiced in the morning, and it was a naked-fest in the shower room after they were done.
 
2012-10-10 11:38:45 AM
There is a small difference between four dudes using four seperate showers and four dudes cramming themselves into a bathtub to share the same one. Gay or straight, this guy's kids are farking weirdos.
 
2012-10-10 11:39:20 AM
High school swim class was no swimsuits for the boys...This was in 1960's. I was gay so it was heaven for me. Plus you could see who had the biggest equipment and compare it to your own. Snapping each other asses with the tips of wet towels....Delightful!
 
2012-10-10 11:40:21 AM
It's a wonderful world
With a lot of strange men
Who are standing around
And they're all wearing towels
 
2012-10-10 11:40:55 AM

billybobtoo: High school swim class was no swimsuits for the boys...This was in 1960's. I was gay so it was heaven for me. Plus you could see who had the biggest equipment and compare it to your own. Snapping each other asses with the tips of wet towels....Delightful!


Tell us about the other games you played back in the day, like 'dandy balls,' 'spready legs,' and 'penis-butt!'
 
2012-10-10 11:41:34 AM
cache.daylife.com

Nope, not gay at all.
 
2012-10-10 11:41:38 AM
FTA: In Kentucky

I think we found the problem.
 
2012-10-10 11:43:30 AM

umad: There is a small difference between four dudes using four seperate showers and four dudes cramming themselves into a bathtub to share the same one. Gay or straight, this guy's kids are farking weirdos.


My sister and her friends used to do this too. I think she was bi-curious but she told me later on that she is flat out straight.
 
2012-10-10 11:43:36 AM
Lots of dudes in here reinforcing the myth that teh gheys are pedophiles.

/rhythmic slapping sound
 
2012-10-10 11:43:52 AM

Generation_D: I swear they make these letters up. Or the public does, to troll and get theirs in the paper / on the website.


Penthouse Forum facepalms.
 
2012-10-10 11:44:24 AM

topcon: rudemix: topcon: I played football for one year in highschool (1990's,) no one ever got a shower afterward, you waited until you got home.. I was in many, many gym classes, and no one ever got showers then, either. I used to go running with friends, or playing raquetball...we never had a group shower.

There's no way that's typical. I'd almost think the letter is fake. Heterosexual male teenagers aren't taking showers with each other at home, in a home-style shower. In my personal experience, as stated above, I never even saw anyone using proper group showers together.

And anyone who goes to a public gym knows, speaking as a male, anyway...who is the one group of people who are always naked in the bathroom? SENIOR CITIZENS. Even when changing stalls are available, like at the gym I go to, and used by everyone else, 75 year old dudes will walk around the bathroom naked. They're literally the only ones that do.

Well, if every personal experience you've had runs contrary to the article, it's probably safe to say it's not happening anywhere in the known universe.

Do you really think teenage boys are taking showers together AT HOME three or four to a shower together? Really? Is the fact that it's ludicrous and probably fake ruining your fantasy?


It's not my fantasy, but I'm not so opposed to the thought of it that I rely on every personal experience I've had to nay say it happening at all. Are you not aware of a changing world for young people out there? Where young girls routinely play at lesbian at parties and other public places and share the pictures. Who is to say these guys aren't just shrugging off long standing public freak out of 'ERMAGERHD TEHYRE GAY' because they aren't and if they were it wouldn't matter anyway? You can believe that the world is as sterile and pure as the life you've lived, compared to the life it sounds like you work hard to deny yourself, but young people are going to prove to your belief isn't founded in current day reality, just your own self-repressing actions.
 
2012-10-10 11:45:35 AM
also... Unless your friend is extremely obese.. she does in fact look very good in booty shorts... its just that you are not gay so you dont know what looks good to men.
 
2012-10-10 11:45:39 AM
I wonder about the legality of it all... he admits he has one son who is 17 and one who is 18.
If any of the friends are 18+, then they're a naked adult showering with a naked minor (the 17 year old). If all the friends are 17 or less, than the 18 year old brother is guilty of being naked with a naked minor. This all sounds highly illegal.
 
2012-10-10 11:45:45 AM

Abe Vigoda's Ghost: [cache.daylife.com image 653x408]

Nope, not gay at all.


Let's put a smile on that face
 
2012-10-10 11:45:56 AM

susansto-helit: Pocket Ninja: Cythraul: What about dick to ass contact?

Well, I mean, come on. There might be some minor brushing of penis against buttock every now and then, but that's more a function of any one individual's, ahem, endowment than anything else. I mean, if you're swinging around a whiffle bat, you might hit something every now and then, but it's not normally a problem as long as you maintain a somewhat respectful distance. Someone very concerned might take the tuck and hold approach, you know, like that Bill guy from Silence of the Lambs, but there is a minor problem there of little cyclops peeking out at the guy behind you the whole time, which, yeah, I guess is a little strange. That would be OK for the guy in the very back, though, I guess.

This might be the most informative thread I've ever been in, and I don't even have a penis.


You should get one. They're great.
 
2012-10-10 11:46:18 AM

SueDisco: I have two adult (27ish) male friends who do this, both straight. They've been friends since middle school, and have been showering together a long time. When questioned, they look at us like we're the ones who are completely crazy. One explained it as a holdover from his days as a college soccer player, but I would think that's more of a large group shower thing, not a "Hey, let's jump in this normal sized shower together." They've jumped in the shower (and the tub) together on large group trips as well. Just like the article, we can hear them laughing and chatting in there.

None of us can wrap our heads around it.


They are gay.
 
2012-10-10 11:47:09 AM

rudemix: topcon: rudemix: topcon: I played football for one year in highschool (1990's,) no one ever got a shower afterward, you waited until you got home.. I was in many, many gym classes, and no one ever got showers then, either. I used to go running with friends, or playing raquetball...we never had a group shower.

There's no way that's typical. I'd almost think the letter is fake. Heterosexual male teenagers aren't taking showers with each other at home, in a home-style shower. In my personal experience, as stated above, I never even saw anyone using proper group showers together.

And anyone who goes to a public gym knows, speaking as a male, anyway...who is the one group of people who are always naked in the bathroom? SENIOR CITIZENS. Even when changing stalls are available, like at the gym I go to, and used by everyone else, 75 year old dudes will walk around the bathroom naked. They're literally the only ones that do.

Well, if every personal experience you've had runs contrary to the article, it's probably safe to say it's not happening anywhere in the known universe.

Do you really think teenage boys are taking showers together AT HOME three or four to a shower together? Really? Is the fact that it's ludicrous and probably fake ruining your fantasy?

It's not my fantasy, but I'm not so opposed to the thought of it that I rely on every personal experience I've had to nay say it happening at all. Are you not aware of a changing world for young people out there? Where young girls routinely play at lesbian at parties and other public places and share the pictures. Who is to say these guys aren't just shrugging off long standing public freak out of 'ERMAGERHD TEHYRE GAY' because they aren't and if they were it wouldn't matter anyway? You can believe that the world is as sterile and pure as the life you've lived, compared to the life it sounds like you work hard to deny yourself, but young people are going to prove to your belief isn't founded in current day re ...


Oh, now I know what kind of person I'm talking to.
 
2012-10-10 11:47:43 AM

Spazmojack: susansto-helit: Pocket Ninja: Cythraul: What about dick to ass contact?

Well, I mean, come on. There might be some minor brushing of penis against buttock every now and then, but that's more a function of any one individual's, ahem, endowment than anything else. I mean, if you're swinging around a whiffle bat, you might hit something every now and then, but it's not normally a problem as long as you maintain a somewhat respectful distance. Someone very concerned might take the tuck and hold approach, you know, like that Bill guy from Silence of the Lambs, but there is a minor problem there of little cyclops peeking out at the guy behind you the whole time, which, yeah, I guess is a little strange. That would be OK for the guy in the very back, though, I guess.

This might be the most informative thread I've ever been in, and I don't even have a penis.

You should get one. They're great.


They really are.
 
2012-10-10 11:48:04 AM
Man, that shiat is def gay. I played football, was in the Army, did the whole 60 second shower thing in basic. I have never in my life heard of multiple teenaged straight guys taking a shower together at home.

/Not that there's anything wrong....
 
2012-10-10 11:48:29 AM

Cythraul: Tell us about the other games you played back in the day, like 'dandy balls,' 'spready legs,' and 'penis-butt!'


Are those Southern regional games? The only games I played in high school was parchisi.
 
2012-10-10 11:48:43 AM
I can barely even shower with my wife without us colliding as we try to wash, how the heck can more than 2 people even fit in a normal shower? Large showers at school had lots of space, but this?
 
2012-10-10 11:49:09 AM

topcon: I played football for one year in highschool (1990's,) no one ever got a shower afterward, you waited until you got home.. I was in many, many gym classes, and no one ever got showers then, either. I used to go running with friends, or playing raquetball...we never had a group shower.

There's no way that's typical. I'd almost think the letter is fake. Heterosexual male teenagers aren't taking showers with each other at home, in a home-style shower. In my personal experience, as stated above, I never even saw anyone using proper group showers together.

And anyone who goes to a public gym knows, speaking as a male, anyway...who is the one group of people who are always naked in the bathroom? SENIOR CITIZENS. Even when changing stalls are available, like at the gym I go to, and used by everyone else, 75 year old dudes will walk around the bathroom naked. They're literally the only ones that do.


Some parent must have complained about their kid getting bullied for having a small penis.

I went to 3 high schools and got naked in all of them. After practice, all the dudes hit the showers and got naked. Yes.. we made fun of the kids with little dicks, and called all the schlong guys "John Holmes." We didn't snap each other with towels in the ass (maybe that's a swim/dive team thing) or soap each other down. We cleaned off then got dressed.

Oddly enough, the girls' showers were individual with curtains to hide their lady bits. I can only assume this was so they didn't have to show off the strings holding back the gore.
 
2012-10-10 11:49:28 AM

billybobtoo: Cythraul: Tell us about the other games you played back in the day, like 'dandy balls,' 'spready legs,' and 'penis-butt!'

Are those Southern regional games? The only games I played in high school was parchisi.


It's a family guy reference of an elderly gay man telling a young kid about all the games they played in 'his day'
 
2012-10-10 11:49:34 AM

rudemix: This shower sounds frot with danger!!!!!


[fryiseewhatyoudidthere.jpg]

Well played, sir or madam.
 
2012-10-10 11:50:28 AM

Rufus Lee King: "What's that, Sheridan? You need a pair of silk pajamas to match your friend Tarquin's?"

[www.dvd.net.au image 700x525]


God bless you.
 
2012-10-10 11:53:55 AM
Story is useless without pictures.
 
2012-10-10 11:54:00 AM
WHY DO ALL THESE HOMESEXUALS KEEP SUCKING MY COCK?

\can't believe I'm the first
\\sorry, no linkie
 
2012-10-10 11:54:07 AM

topcon: I played football for one year in highschool (1990's,) no one ever got a shower afterward, you waited until you got home.. I was in many, many gym classes, and no one ever got showers then, either. I used to go running with friends, or playing raquetball...we never had a group shower.

There's no way that's typical. I'd almost think the letter is fake. Heterosexual male teenagers aren't taking showers with each other at home, in a home-style shower. In my personal experience, as stated above, I never even saw anyone using proper group showers together.

And anyone who goes to a public gym knows, speaking as a male, anyway...who is the one group of people who are always naked in the bathroom? SENIOR CITIZENS. Even when changing stalls are available, like at the gym I go to, and used by everyone else, 75 year old dudes will walk around the bathroom naked. They're literally the only ones that do.


Yeah, it seems fake. Kids today do not like getting naked in front of each other or showering together. For some reason they have no qualms about getting naked on the internet though or thru sexting.
 
2012-10-10 11:54:58 AM
Ah, group showers in high school gym. Where I had my first homoerotic encounter at 14!

I miss that gym coach.
 
2012-10-10 11:55:06 AM
I'm not going to RTFA because my first thought was that the kids in question were female and I don't want to ruin the fantasy.

/for guys it's completely 100% gay, yeah
//gayer than gay
///maximal gayness
 
2012-10-10 11:55:36 AM
susansto-helit:

This might be the most informative thread I've ever been in, and I don't even have a penis.

Likewise...the things you learn on Fark!
 
2012-10-10 11:56:12 AM

Shazam999: topcon: I played football for one year in highschool (1990's,) no one ever got a shower afterward, you waited until you got home.. I was in many, many gym classes, and no one ever got showers then, either. I used to go running with friends, or playing raquetball...we never had a group shower.

There's no way that's typical. I'd almost think the letter is fake. Heterosexual male teenagers aren't taking showers with each other at home, in a home-style shower. In my personal experience, as stated above, I never even saw anyone using proper group showers together.

And anyone who goes to a public gym knows, speaking as a male, anyway...who is the one group of people who are always naked in the bathroom? SENIOR CITIZENS. Even when changing stalls are available, like at the gym I go to, and used by everyone else, 75 year old dudes will walk around the bathroom naked. They're literally the only ones that do.

Hmm, well, at the gym I used to go to, there was a high school swim team that practiced in the morning, and it was a naked-fest in the shower room after they were done.


Go on....and please provide the address of this gym.
 
2012-10-10 11:57:13 AM
Aside from imagining hot, young athlete types showering together,

(pausing for a moment ... )

I'd have to say I'd be very very surprised if most teenagers of any gender routinely shower together. In a large, communal shower like at a gym, maybe. In a normal-sized shower at home, no. Hell no.
 
2012-10-10 11:57:29 AM
Does anyone else notice that Dear Abby is an advice column, but she never actually gives any advice? She just prints letters and says "Yeah that's tough."
 
2012-10-10 11:57:49 AM

BronyMedic: Ah, group showers in high school gym. Where I had my first homoerotic encounter at 14!

I miss that gym coach.


Go on....
 
2012-10-10 11:58:03 AM

CheekyMonkey: WHY DO ALL THESE HOMESEXUALS KEEP SUCKING MY COCK?


The same reason all these work sexuals keep sucking mine - we're all hot.
 
2012-10-10 11:58:23 AM
But, you know, if anybody has photographic evidence of this happening in real life, I'm sure many of us would welcome the opportunity to view it, at length. For science. Or whatever.
 
2012-10-10 11:59:08 AM

Cyberluddite: Yeah, Abby, you're right of course. This is not gay, not gay at all, and there's nothing sexual at all about a bunch of normal, healthy, athletic teenage boys getting all hot and sweaty and then 3 or 4 of them squeezing into a shower stall together and soaping up their firm, tight, young flesh, as they press their naked, soapy bodies together and help each other wash up those hard-to-reach areas.

"Oops, I dropped the soap--again!!"


Go on......
 
2012-10-10 11:59:28 AM

Walker: Shazam999: topcon: I played football for one year in highschool (1990's,) no one ever got a shower afterward, you waited until you got home.. I was in many, many gym classes, and no one ever got showers then, either. I used to go running with friends, or playing raquetball...we never had a group shower.

There's no way that's typical. I'd almost think the letter is fake. Heterosexual male teenagers aren't taking showers with each other at home, in a home-style shower. In my personal experience, as stated above, I never even saw anyone using proper group showers together.

And anyone who goes to a public gym knows, speaking as a male, anyway...who is the one group of people who are always naked in the bathroom? SENIOR CITIZENS. Even when changing stalls are available, like at the gym I go to, and used by everyone else, 75 year old dudes will walk around the bathroom naked. They're literally the only ones that do.

Hmm, well, at the gym I used to go to, there was a high school swim team that practiced in the morning, and it was a naked-fest in the shower room after they were done.

Go on....and please provide the address of this gym.


It's Talisman Centre in Calgary. Have at them.
 
2012-10-10 11:59:47 AM

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Are you posting from your Compuserve account again?
 
2012-10-10 12:00:35 PM
Weird things happen when young people grow up with the attitude that "If I were gay, I'd come right out and say it, cause it's not that big a deal."

Well, weird for those of us who grew up worried that someone might think we were gay.
 
2012-10-10 12:02:39 PM

topcon: rudemix: topcon: rudemix: topcon: I played football for one year in highschool (1990's,) no one ever got a shower afterward, you waited until you got home.. I was in many, many gym classes, and no one ever got showers then, either. I used to go running with friends, or playing raquetball...we never had a group shower.

There's no way that's typical. I'd almost think the letter is fake. Heterosexual male teenagers aren't taking showers with each other at home, in a home-style shower. In my personal experience, as stated above, I never even saw anyone using proper group showers together.

And anyone who goes to a public gym knows, speaking as a male, anyway...who is the one group of people who are always naked in the bathroom? SENIOR CITIZENS. Even when changing stalls are available, like at the gym I go to, and used by everyone else, 75 year old dudes will walk around the bathroom naked. They're literally the only ones that do.

Well, if every personal experience you've had runs contrary to the article, it's probably safe to say it's not happening anywhere in the known universe.

Do you really think teenage boys are taking showers together AT HOME three or four to a shower together? Really? Is the fact that it's ludicrous and probably fake ruining your fantasy?

It's not my fantasy, but I'm not so opposed to the thought of it that I rely on every personal experience I've had to nay say it happening at all. Are you not aware of a changing world for young people out there? Where young girls routinely play at lesbian at parties and other public places and share the pictures. Who is to say these guys aren't just shrugging off long standing public freak out of 'ERMAGERHD TEHYRE GAY' because they aren't and if they were it wouldn't matter anyway? You can believe that the world is as sterile and pure as the life you've lived, compared to the life it sounds like you work hard to deny yourself, but young people are going to prove to your belief isn't founded in curre ...


I'm not sure what type of person you assume I am, but seeing how your original sentiment was all assumption I'm not surprised you assumed. Look, it's the internet, and we could follow a long tradition of arguing with absolutely no change in either person's opinion of the other's after it all, or we could just choose to go our separate ways. I will return to a world where I believe humans are capable of just about anything if given the opportunity, and while their actions may be at odds with society, it isn't at odds with humans doing just about anything that we can think of to do. You can return to the world where it's just like it was when you played football for one season in the 90s and never changes or has something odd happen.
 
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