So the website lost its' horoscopes for the day and needed a space filled in a rush?

Ten Secrets to Being a Doormat

I'm pretty sure I have all those qualities. Problem is, I hate people and avoid interaction whenever possible. Am I still charismatic?

PIP_the_TROLL: Almost nothing they describe has a single thing to do with charisma. What they're describing is a 'nice guy' - an inoffensive, enabling floormat.

Yup. I bet if you went through the writer's previous columns you'd find at least one whiny "Why do girls like douchebags instead of nice guys?" article.

brianbankerus: This author knows nothing about charisma.

All you need is coke.

dascott: Ten Secrets to Being a Doormat

Came here to say this. This isn't charisma. This is a farking consolation prize for passive-aggressives.

Absent:
11) speak in tongues 12) handle snakes [optional] 13) get slayed in the spirit 14) dance in the aisles 15) have music worth dancing in the aisle to 16) group-led prayer 17) disagree with baptists about the meaning of "eternal" 18) know your New Testamen [esp. Acts] 19) tithe 20) know how to celebrate 

Why so much fail, Mr Haden?

PIP_the_TROLL: This article displays an utter lack of understanding of the definition of the word "Charisma".

Almost nothing they describe has a single thing to do with charisma. What they're describing is a 'nice guy' - an inoffensive, enabling floormat.

Sure the world needs more of such people to balance out the excess of assholes, but in no way is that charismatic.

Alternately, they're describing someone who genuinely is able to take on knowing something about others, and able to keep their days afloat at the same time.

To me, that doesn't feel like a high bar to clear - what's troubling you about that?

I'm wrong a lot, obviously - I'm curious what you think.

Quantum Apostrophe: [www.howmuchdotheyweigh.com image 427x600]

She don't need no secrets, do she?

brianbankerus: This author knows nothing about charisma.

All you need is coke.

Let's try this again...

Yeah, the quiet guy always being nice and listening to others is typically not considered charismatic. Charisma is for leaders, not empathisizers.

Quantum Apostrophe: [www.howmuchdotheyweigh.com image 427x600]

She's got TWO charismas!

CruJones: Yeah, the quiet guy always being nice and listening to others is typically not considered charismatic. Charisma is for leaders, not empathisizers.

Ahem. People known for empathy

Written by someone who has apparently never actually met a "remarkably charismatic" person. I've only known two, and one was a pathological liar. Everyone who knew him knew that, but couldn't help liking him anyway.

CruJones: CruJones: Yeah, the quiet guy always being nice and listening to others is typically not considered charismatic. Charisma is for leaders, not empathisizers.

Ahem. People known for empathy

I'd say that it's subjective - that it hinges on what really pulls in a given person. You can be charismatic to some people while at the same time being completely forgettable to others.

So ego game for some, empathy for others.

PIP_the_TROLL: This article displays an utter lack of understanding of the definition of the word "Charisma".

Almost nothing they describe has a single thing to do with charisma. What they're describing is a 'nice guy' - an inoffensive, enabling floormat.

Sure the world needs more of such people to balance out the excess of assholes, but in no way is that charismatic.

True, Hitler was one of the most charismatic people in history, I don't really see him as the touchy-feely type described in the article though.

if i wake up in the morning feeling more dickish than usual i just apply more deoderant.
seems to work.

Too much charisma might make you charismatic.

An omer is one-tenth of an ephah. So I'll only need a dime bag.

If those things make you charismatic then Obama should be in the running for the least charismatic person on the planet.

Being an antisocial loner asshole type, I find the whole "article" ridiculous; this is also why I work in a kitchen because 1. If I had to deal with people on a daily basis, I'd be locked up for manslaughter and 2. You can actually give ass-chewings to the fxck-ups when the invariably fxck up. *eyeballs FOH*

 

Charisma.

Charming? Sounds like a How-To Guide for having low self esteem.

Man On Pink Corner: PIP_the_TROLL: Almost nothing they describe has a single thing to do with charisma. What they're describing is a 'nice guy' - an inoffensive, enabling floormat.

Exactly. Who was more charismatic than Hitler? Go through that article and ask how many of those points could be applied to Hitler.

Well... I never saw Hitler check his cell phone during a speech...

Actually, best way to have good charisma: roll 3 6's...

Dahnkster: [www.skepticmoney.com image 600x340]
Too much charisma might make you charismatic.

An omer is one-tenth of an ephah. So I'll only need a dime bag.

I'd let the chiquita in the low cut black dress do some snake handling.

I kid you not, I do the exact opposite of every single point on that list.

Also, I don't like kids.

Aw, what a gyp.

I want to be more charismatic so that everyone will listen to me, but this just article tells me to shut up and listen to other people?

Useless.

You know who else was charismatic?

Sgygus: The ten secrets to being charismatic liked.

If you get good at this, you will acquire more clingy friends than you can handle.

I'm all ten of those things, and you're exactly right. Yet I don't really define it as 'clingy', but rather being the type of person others come to for help. The type that other people respect, because they say what needs to be said when others are too afraid to do so. Then again I'm a psych major so that's exactly what I need. Plus I suppose the best psychologists are the charismatic ones. It does take some getting used to when people open up to you like they've known you for years, but it's also flattering at the same time that they recognize that you're a genuine person.

Did the writer of that article just graduate from a Dale Carnegie seminar?

 

Don't need to read it, already found this. Vault 108's Cloning Lab.

I have to work out and improve my health and fitness in 26 minutes