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2012-09-14 10:32:41 AM  
As with anything else in your life, she suggests the best thing to do is discuss your wishes with family and friends, but most importantly write it down

I'd like someone clever to periodically post updates from beyond the grave and create events I'll be haunting.
 
2012-09-14 10:59:11 AM  
Since I plan to download my consciousness onto the web when I die, I'm getting a kick...
 
2012-09-14 11:12:13 AM  
Why do anything about it? What's the difference? You're dead and it won't get updated anymore.
 
2012-09-14 11:12:43 AM  
Awkward.....
 
2012-09-14 11:12:55 AM  

Sybarite: As with anything else in your life, she suggests the best thing to do is discuss your wishes with family and friends, but most importantly write it down

I'd like someone clever to periodically post updates from beyond the grave and create events I'll be haunting.


haunting is lame
have u tried deathmatching from behind the grave??
 
2012-09-14 11:13:39 AM  
What is this "Facebook" you speak of?
 
2012-09-14 11:13:40 AM  

miss diminutive: Since I plan to download my consciousness onto the web when I die, I'm getting a kick...


imageshack.us
?
 
2012-09-14 11:14:24 AM  
Does FB delete a deadpersons account or does that persons relatives have to do it? Or does it just sit there in limbo. Seems kinda a messed up thing to have on there. Some of those tribute pages are creepy enough.
 
2012-09-14 11:16:05 AM  
I had a friend pass away young, 22, recently some company keeps tagging him in spam ads. It's robo posting and he keeps showing up in my news feed. He's become the Billy Mays of my facebook wall.
 
2012-09-14 11:16:05 AM  

groppet: Does FB delete a deadpersons account or does that persons relatives have to do it? Or does it just sit there in limbo. Seems kinda a messed up thing to have on there. Some of those tribute pages are creepy enough.


the word you are looking for I believe is purgatory
 
2012-09-14 11:19:41 AM  
One of our friends died a couple years ago, and after a couple of months, Facebook starts automatically trying to convince you to "reconnect" with the deceased.

It's pretty depressing to be constantly reminded that "it's been a while" since you last spoke to your dead friend.
 
2012-09-14 11:21:19 AM  
My best friend passed away suddenly last year. His FB account is still there and his friends and family still post to it, tag him in pictures, etc. To my knowledge, his widow didn't have it "memorialized" or whatever FB does. He still shows up in my friend list and everything he ever posted is still there and accessible. It's actually kind of comforting to have that around. Sometimes a photo or video I hadn't seen of him will pop up from a friend or relative. I just hope it never gets hacked. That would be really unsettling to have my dead friend spamming everybody with dick pill links.
 
2012-09-14 11:23:02 AM  

Sybarite: As with anything else in your life, she suggests the best thing to do is discuss your wishes with family and friends, but most importantly write it down

I'd like someone clever to periodically post updates from beyond the grave and create events I'll be haunting.


Kicking it with Elvis and Honest Abe. We're going to go crash the Pearly Gates later tonight
 
2012-09-14 11:26:41 AM  
Mt friend died 2 months ago and we had to memorialize his account because his crazy girlfriend at the time had his password and was deleting comments that were harshly directed towards her. After being memoriolized it cant be logged in to and his profile wont show up in a public search.
 
2012-09-14 11:29:36 AM  

miss diminutive: Since I plan to download my consciousness onto the web when I die, I'm getting a kick...


Counting on this as well. I don't think it's unreasonable to think this is a possibility 60-80 years from now, given that we're imaging individual molecules and creating room temp superconductors.
 
2012-09-14 11:36:49 AM  
Memorializing the account:
It is our policy to memorialize all deceased users' accounts on the site. When an account is memorialized, only confirmed friends can see the timeline or locate it in Search. The timeline will also no longer appear in the Suggestions section of the Home page. Friends and family can leave posts in remembrance.

In order to protect the privacy of the deceased user, we cannot provide login information for the account to anyone. However, once an account has been memorialized, it is completely secure and cannot be accessed or altered by anyone.

If you need to report a timeline to be memorialized, please click here.


Or
You can also have it deleted.
 
2012-09-14 11:51:04 AM  

TheyCallThisWork: One of our friends died a couple years ago, and after a couple of months, Facebook starts automatically trying to convince you to "reconnect" with the deceased.

It's pretty depressing to be constantly reminded that "it's been a while" since you last spoke to your dead friend.


2nded. Friend of ours passed away and she still comes up as a LinkedIn suggestion. Friend's mom's FB account is still active, same thing. Sad.
 
2012-09-14 11:54:32 AM  
My 15 yr old cousin died a year and a half ago and his mom will post from his facebook account every 6 months or so to keep it active, so she can continue to write to him.

I might find it disturbing if I hadn't lost a child myself (over 15 years ago) and spent the last year wondering whether I was envious or glad that facebook wasn't around back then.

Personally, I think it's probably pretty good therapy to write to the deceased... and I think it lets the people who are still grieving, but not quite as connected be able to share in the grief (a good thing). I think more public grieving is better for our society as a whole, even if it makes non-grievers feel icky.
 
2012-09-14 11:56:23 AM  

Pepperjack: My best friend passed away suddenly last year. His FB account is still there and his friends and family still post to it, tag him in pictures, etc. To my knowledge, his widow didn't have it "memorialized" or whatever FB does. He still shows up in my friend list and everything he ever posted is still there and accessible. It's actually kind of comforting to have that around. Sometimes a photo or video I hadn't seen of him will pop up from a friend or relative. I just hope it never gets hacked. That would be really unsettling to have my dead friend spamming everybody with dick pill links.


But it's what he would have wanted.

/so sorry
//recently lost a friend as well; her fb page has been static since her passing
 
2012-09-14 11:57:12 AM  

grinding_journalist: miss diminutive: Since I plan to download my consciousness onto the web when I die, I'm getting a kick...

Counting on this as well. I don't think it's unreasonable to think this is a possibility 60-80 years from now, given that we're imaging individual molecules and creating room temp superconductors.


That's kind of like taking a self portrait and declaring immortality. Sure, one day you may be able to copy your brain to software, but you'll still be in your body.. dying.
 
2012-09-14 11:58:27 AM  
My friend created his dad a Facebook page AFTER he died.

It was quite funny.

/Is he doing it wrong?
//Yeah, I friended him.
 
2012-09-14 11:59:05 AM  
I'm not sure about Facebook, but make sure she votes for obummer (twice).
 
2012-09-14 12:00:22 PM  

Brother Head: My friend created his dad a Facebook page AFTER he died.

It was quite funny.

/Is he doing it wrong?
//Yeah, I friended him.


I think that was worded wrong. My friend created a Facebook page for his dad, after his DAD died.

/Re-read that and thought it sounded as if my friend was creating FB profiles from beyond the grave.
//oh well.
///Slashies
 
2012-09-14 12:00:40 PM  
How hard would it be to just crack mom's account and turn off FB that way? I mean, what, like doesn't everyone use the same password for all things?

/yes - I know that defeats the point of security.
// - we're talking about moms here; just how security savvy was she?
 
2012-09-14 12:00:42 PM  

buntz: Why do anything about it? What's the difference? You're dead and it won't get updated anymore.


THIS!!!
 
2012-09-14 12:01:17 PM  
Zombie Facebook pages - this is the new millennium
 
2012-09-14 12:01:39 PM  

QT_3.14159: My 15 yr old cousin died a year and a half ago and his mom will post from his facebook account every 6 months or so to keep it active, so she can continue to write to him.

I might find it disturbing if I hadn't lost a child myself (over 15 years ago) and spent the last year wondering whether I was envious or glad that facebook wasn't around back then.

Personally, I think it's probably pretty good therapy to write to the deceased... and I think it lets the people who are still grieving, but not quite as connected be able to share in the grief (a good thing). I think more public grieving is better for our society as a whole, even if it makes non-grievers feel icky.


It's no worse that going to the grave site and talking to the deceased.
 
2012-09-14 12:03:33 PM  

BraveNewCheneyWorld: grinding_journalist: miss diminutive: Since I plan to download my consciousness onto the web when I die, I'm getting a kick...

Counting on this as well. I don't think it's unreasonable to think this is a possibility 60-80 years from now, given that we're imaging individual molecules and creating room temp superconductors.

That's kind of like taking a self portrait and declaring immortality. Sure, one day you may be able to copy your brain to software, but you'll still be in your body.. dying.


It's so weird that so many people just don't get that. Stupid, delusional mind/body dualism.
 
2012-09-14 12:06:48 PM  
She is dead and she no longer cares about Facebook. One of millions of abandoned FB accounts. I stopped looking at mine over a year ago, FB is boring.
 
2012-09-14 12:07:27 PM  

Ed Grubermann: It's no worse that going to the grave site and talking to the deceased.


It's not the act of talking to the deceased that's odd. No, that's normal. It's that it's done in a way that is visible to anyone who is both friends with the person writing and the deceased on Facebook. I see all of these very intimate thoughts from his mother and sister and if I felt compelled to do the same, they would see mine.

I don't know if that's a good thing or not. It's painful, no doubt. I just read one and it about yanked my heart out of my chest. But I'm not sure that pain is bad.
 
2012-09-14 12:22:07 PM  
You know who else loved his mother?

lolebrity.net
 
2012-09-14 12:47:03 PM  

Sasquach: Pepperjack: ... I just hope it never gets hacked. That would be really unsettling to have my dead friend spamming everybody with dick pill links.

But it's what he would have wanted.

/so sorry
//recently lost a friend as well; her fb page has been static since her passing


Now I know funny, and THAT'S funny! That would have absolutely been Sean.

Static? That's surprising. His page was overrun with comments for months. Then it loaded up again around Christmas, his birthday and when we hit the one year mark of his passing. It sucks. I have been holding auditions for new best friend, but everybody seems to botch it in the bathing suit competition.
 
2012-09-14 12:49:58 PM  
A had a guy I knew of die suddenly about a month ago. Nice guy & a successful small business owner. I found out he died when I saw a bunch of RIP posts on FB. Weird to see his posts from a couple a days earlier then know he's long gone.
 
2012-09-14 01:10:35 PM  

buntz: Why do anything about it? What's the difference? You're dead and it won't get updated anymore.


Someone I know has control over her mom's FB account. Its specifically been kept open as a sort of memorial, where people leave messages, notes, prayers.. This was one of those people who everyone loved because she loved everyone.

So while the original owner of the account doesn't post that often anymore, the page certainly gets updates, even now.
 
2012-09-14 01:21:07 PM  

Pepperjack: Sasquach: Pepperjack: ... I just hope it never gets hacked. That would be really unsettling to have my dead friend spamming everybody with dick pill links.

But it's what he would have wanted.

/so sorry
//recently lost a friend as well; her fb page has been static since her passing

Now I know funny, and THAT'S funny! That would have absolutely been Sean.

Static? That's surprising. His page was overrun with comments for months. Then it loaded up again around Christmas, his birthday and when we hit the one year mark of his passing. It sucks. I have been holding auditions for new best friend, but everybody seems to botch it in the bathing suit competition.



I just pictured one of my friends and well....come on now, penis pill spam is always funny.
Holy crap, you're in Roanoke? I formally worked in Salem....I miss that area!

/what I wouldn't give for dinner at the Homeplace tonight
 
2012-09-14 01:36:59 PM  
www.metal-archives.com
 
2012-09-14 02:29:30 PM  

Pepperjack: My best friend passed away suddenly last year. His FB account is still there and his friends and family still post to it, tag him in pictures, etc. To my knowledge, his widow didn't have it "memorialized" or whatever FB does. He still shows up in my friend list and everything he ever posted is still there and accessible. It's actually kind of comforting to have that around. Sometimes a photo or video I hadn't seen of him will pop up from a friend or relative. I just hope it never gets hacked. That would be really unsettling to have my dead friend spamming everybody with dick pill links.


Yeah, same here. My cousin died suddenly something like six weeks after his kid was born, poor guy, and they've kept his page around. I don't think it gets posts except on b-days and anniversaries now, but it's an interesting sort of digital shrine.

/Could you imagine the suck and/or lulz if his account was hacked though, and he started sending friend and game requests to the whole world?
 
2012-09-14 02:30:28 PM  
Oh, I see Pepperjack already nailed that angle.
 
2012-09-14 02:33:48 PM  

Sybarite: As with anything else in your life, she suggests the best thing to do is discuss your wishes with family and friends, but most importantly write it down

I'd like someone clever to periodically post updates from beyond the grave and create events I'll be haunting.


I've actually looked into creating a script of some sort that would log into to Twitter for me and periodically post "Boo" or "It's dark in here" and other tasteless things.
 
2012-09-14 04:32:27 PM  

BraveNewCheneyWorld: grinding_journalist: miss diminutive: Since I plan to download my consciousness onto the web when I die, I'm getting a kick...

Counting on this as well. I don't think it's unreasonable to think this is a possibility 60-80 years from now, given that we're imaging individual molecules and creating room temp superconductors.

That's kind of like taking a self portrait and declaring immortality. Sure, one day you may be able to copy your brain to software, but you'll still be in your body.. dying.


Have a heart, man.

No, really. You need one.

You can't have mine, though.

Not yours. :)
 
2012-09-14 08:11:45 PM  
buntz: Why do anything about it? What's the difference? You're dead and it won't get updated anymore.

I'm getting a kick...wait not really. My MIL died earlier this year and FB would not allow us to delete her page or at least mark it inactive or something. They required a lawyer letter proving power of attorney, proof of relationship with the deceased, an OFFICIAL copy of the death certificate, not a copy and god knows what else.

Several people posted to her account, obviously casual friends, "Hey, havent seen you in a bit...did you get my email?? Call me!!"

I sent a message to the first person that sent a message like that and said the usual, hey sorry you didn't know, she passed recently etc, here's my number if you would like details. I swear to god not 5 minutes passed and got "HEY THIS IS ME, YOU SENT ME A MESSAGE, OMG, SHE OWED ME MONEY, NOW WHAT DO I DO????" fark it, no one else gets an update. The roaches scramble out of every dark corner when someone dies.

I hate people. Not you. But definitely that other guy.
 
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