Anderson's Pooper: I'll agree to being clueless on this but I think those of you that have been hammering away at the sexuality / transgender issues are forgetting the key part of the story. The kid is 5! He's not waffling about who/what he wants to fark. He probably doesn't even know what it is. I'm a straight man, and the father of 3 kids, but if you had asked me about kissing somebody, it wouldn't have registered one way or the other until the first day of 7th grade when Valerie Costello walked in with her boobs.
octopied: Some kids like to wear superhero costumes all the time too, doesn't mean they do it at school.At that age,why not say "You can wear this at home, but not at school" If he still wants to wear a dress in several years when he's old enough to understand social backlash, then go with it.
craig328: ...ah well, I leave for a bit to see what the froth at the mouth club comes back with and I get "Johnny Cash is my parental inspiration" and a couple of folks who clearly don't have kids and, if we're all collectively lucky, won't.Anyway, rebut all you like. The world isn't the way you WISH it was, it's the way it is. You can encourage your 5 year old (who still thinks you're God incarnate, infallible and the person he/she holds in the most ridiculously high esteem) to go butt heads with the rest of society because that's what you think is the "right" thing to do...and then you'll be the person blaming everyone else that your kid's head has attained the consistency of eggshells suspended in a jello slurry for his parental-encouraged efforts and doesn't understand why he/she has few friends and people regard them as weird.To you as an adult, weird is okay...BUT THAT'S BECAUSE YOU'RE OLD ENOUGH TO MAKE THAT DECISION. To a kid, it's a life changer...and it's his/her life, not yours. If they want to be the outlier later on when they can decide that's what they want to be: cool. To set them on that path when they don't know well enough...well, as a parent, you pretty much suck.Hey, you smoke, drink and do recreational drugs...why not your kid? Hell, let THEM decide, right? By all means, don't exercise any real parental decision making (because, hey, decisions are hard). Nah, just leave it up to the 5 year old. In fact, chances are, he may even be more mature than you. It's not a whole lot different when they're 5 and trying to learn how to function with their peers and get along. Surely that'll have no lasting repercussions for the rest of their entire life. Nah, it's society that'll surely bend and everyone will celebrate everyone's individuality whilst singing kumbayah in a drum circle.I don't endorse any of that but as a parent I'm also aware that this is the way the world works, regardless of whether I want it to or not. Tossing the decision maki ...
craig328: Look, I'm literally the last guy who will tell someone else how to raise their kids.
UncleStumpy: Awesome! When my sin starts murdering people, I too will murder!SOLIDARITY
Expolaris: jaylectricity: freedom[celticwarriorkilts.com image 300x481]There is a land where a mans balls may hang free and clear.
zenferret: Expolaris: jaylectricity: freedom[celticwarriorkilts.com image 300x481]There is a land where a mans balls may hang free and clear.Sorry dude. You're wearing a dress. You might as well light up a Virginia Slim while you're at it.
Keizer_Ghidorah: UncleStumpy: Awesome! When my sin starts murdering people, I too will murder!SOLIDARITYAwesome! I'll compare something illegal to a child not waering the clothes I and society thinks he should and pretend that they're exactly the same in order to generate faux outrage and make a retarded declaration!STUPIDITY
Keizer_Ghidorah: the men who crow the most about masculinity are often the biggest pussies
The Stealth Hippopotamus: scottydoesntknow: Good for him, but that won't stop the teasing. Unfortunately, it'll probably make it worse.that was my first thought too. My second thought was anyone who lets their 5 year old tell them how they are going to dress is an idiot.
Smackledorfer: I'd still try to teach my son how to bend to society without yielding completly though. Oak vs. willow comes to mind.
Brick-House: And no one thought to give counciling a try?
Silly Jesus: octopied: Some kids like to wear superhero costumes all the time too, doesn't mean they do it at school.At that age,why not say "You can wear this at home, but not at school" If he still wants to wear a dress in several years when he's old enough to understand social backlash, then go with it.You can be gay at home, but not at school....Like that?
Owangotang: It is slightly terrifying how negatively some here are reacting to this.
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jmk4fark: We seem to have read totally diffenerent articles. It was a rather harmless thing about gender stereotypes and did not seem atention whoring at all to me.
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spamdog: Keizer_Ghidorah: the men who crow the most about masculinity are often the biggest pussiesWhy am I not surprised that I have you tagged as a brony?
ThrobblefootSpectre: jmk4fark: We seem to have read totally diffenerent articles. It was a rather harmless thing about gender stereotypes and did not seem atention whoring at all to me.Apparently we did read different articles. The one I read said the dad openly enjoyed people reactions in the street and was "proud" that he and his son were the topic of conversation of the entire town.
chaosweaver: To the people who say let their snowflake do whatever they want, that's how we got whackos like Mr. Dhamer, that whole no supervision, no consequences thing.
The My Little Pony Killer: Look at how butthurt people get over the ways that other people choose to wear fabric.
chaosweaver: Sweet tittie glitter Jesus! I'm not sure where it happened, but you all need to switch to decaf. To the people who say let their snowflake do whatever they want, that's how we got whackos like Mr. Dhamer, that whole no supervision, no consequences thing.And to those who think controlling every aspect of their child's lives as they grow is a good idea, shielding them so that they have no idea what consequences are, that's how we end up with unwed, unemployed teen moms.Both are a burden on society, though one adds people to the world, and the other takes them out (that was humour) and each follows an extreme that leads to a similar problem, children growing up without understanding that actions have consequences in the world we ARE IN. I mean, if your kid sticks a fork in a socket and comes crying to you because he got shocked, you don't blame the socket for hurting your child and then switch to being amish, do you? (It's not a perfect analogy, so sue me.)At this age, you should be teaching your kid that doing A usually causes B. In a few years, once he/she's old enough to know why B is caused by A, should you begin to explain how B should be C.Case in point, if a parent wants to teach their child that clothing choices shouldn't matter simply based on what bits you possess, the child needs to first understand that the world (and internet) is full of judgemental assholes, and until someone can make a REAL change, they are going to have to deal with criticism.I now return you to you regularly scheduled snark.
Bashar and Asma's Infinite Playlist: chaosweaver: To the people who say let their snowflake do whatever they want, that's how we got whackos like Mr. Dhamer, that whole no supervision, no consequences thing.Call me crazy, but there are probably a few levels in between letting a kid wear a dress and letting a kid kill and impale local stray animals.
Gunny Highway: timujin: "Hey, if you and your dad aren't man enough to wear a skirt..."It isnt clever, it is annoying.
Keizer_Ghidorah: And in your mind that = attention whorin
Keizer_Ghidorah: 'd be laughing at people who react with such horror and vitriol, too.
AttawaYawattA: With all the pain and suffering in the world, what difference does it make?
spamdog: Remember that article a good few years back about the kid that dressed up as Daphne from Scooby Doo for halloween?And the mother wrote a blog post acknowledging that he was gay, and to not judge him?
ThrobblefootSpectre: Keizer_Ghidorah: And in your mind that = attention whorinUm, yeah, being proud of being the center of attention because you do something different is pretty much the definition of attention whoring. It's not wrong, or right. So go for it. But yeah, no doubt it's attention whoring.
buntz: My 12 year old daughter is into Iron Man and wears an Arc-Reactor shirt that lights up to school.At times I think "I should tell her not to wear it" because 12 year old girls can be biatches and I'm scared she'll get picked on for not wearing "girly-er" clothes.Then I think "fark them! Geek girls rule the world and this is who she is and what she loves!"So good for her and shame on me for, even for a second, thinking otherwise!!
Biv: He identifies with being a girl?I identified with Transformers, that doesn't mean my parents should have let me go to school dressed like a robot.He's five. He's not going to school to express himself, he's going to school to learn. A boy dressed as a girl is a distraction, not only to other students but to himself. The teasing and bullying will never stop. Ever. It's a natural part of growing up, especially as a male, to establish a pecking order. Don't make it worse by making yourself a target.I told my dad I was getting teased at school. He told me to stop acting like a geek while at school. Do your dorky RPG stuff when you are at home. Stop dressing like a nerd.I did. The teasing stopped. I made a whole lot more friends. Funny how that works.I even had some of the jocks playing RPG's...just never at school.
Owangotang: Strobeguy: How did this get a Hero tag and why does my head hurt reading the freaking article?You played football and now suffer from chronic traumatic encephalopathy, causing you to drool on your shirt as you try to sound out words like "dress"?
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