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2012-07-18 11:38:28 AM
Let me guess: Michelle Malkin.
 
2012-07-18 11:44:52 AM
Let me guess: Marcus Bachmann?
 
2012-07-18 11:46:28 AM
Part-tme?
So she's a switch?
 
2012-07-18 11:46:39 AM
t0.gstatic.com
 
2012-07-18 11:46:56 AM
Let me guess: Bill O'Reilly
 
2012-07-18 11:46:58 AM
Let me guess: Jerry Sandusky
 
2012-07-18 11:47:07 AM
I'm not into S&M, but I'd learn to like it with this chick.
 
2012-07-18 11:47:26 AM
You guessed it
userserve-ak.last.fm
Frank Stallone
 
2012-07-18 11:47:59 AM
Yes cause god knows no feminist would ever get off on sexual submission.

Subby has apparently never slept with a feminist before.
 
2012-07-18 11:48:42 AM
Let me guess, more completely ridiculous discussion over a poorly written piece of fan fiction.
 
2012-07-18 11:49:21 AM
Is this that coont who said stay at home mothers can't be feminists?
 
2012-07-18 11:50:04 AM
Finally, a noncommital attempt at a non-answer to a question no one asked or cared about in the first place.
 
2012-07-18 11:50:37 AM
Ew no, why would I want to do that?
 
2012-07-18 11:50:55 AM
Stop writing. Did I say you were allowed to write something?
 
2012-07-18 11:51:14 AM
Let me guess: Callista Gingrich

img.ibtimes.com
 
2012-07-18 11:51:18 AM
Is that a new character for Team Fortress 2?
 
2012-07-18 11:51:51 AM
I've read all the 50 Shades of Twilight books, what should I do now? Camp out for the movie?
 
2012-07-18 11:53:20 AM
Subby sounds fat. And lonely.
 
2012-07-18 11:55:15 AM
I'm nichi and I'm a 28-year-old journalist, card-carrying feminist, and occasional sexual submissive.

As in: crazy. And open for business.
 
2012-07-18 11:56:02 AM
Redundant headline is redundant. I bet the author is a sex-blogger, too.
 
2012-07-18 11:56:03 AM
Yet another vanilla who did five minutes of research and thinks they're an expert on kink.

If you think 50 Shades of Grey is an accurate description of ANYTHING other than the author's unrealistic fantasies, you know nothing about BDSM.
 
2012-07-18 11:56:03 AM
*YAwn*
 
2012-07-18 11:57:38 AM

LarryDan43: I've read all the 50 Shades of Twilight books, what should I do now? Camp out for the movie?


1) strip naked
2) bath salts
3) go flying in the air (and rape a child)
 
2012-07-18 11:58:51 AM

Saborlas: Yet another vanilla who did five minutes of research and thinks they're an expert on kink.

If you think 50 Shades of Grey is an accurate description of ANYTHING other than the author's unrealistic fantasies, you know nothing about BDSM.


Nerds ruin everything. Even sex. You can't even get off without someone telling you you're doing it as cool as they are.
 
2012-07-18 11:59:59 AM

squirrelflavoredyogurt: Yes cause god knows no feminist would ever get off on sexual submission.

Subby has apparently never slept with a feminist before.


Or known a submissive

CSB:

ME: In the "cuddle phase" or a particularly heavy play session that involved everything up to and including my bullwhip woth a woman I met at a play party:

ME: So what do you do for a living?
Her: I run a battered women's shelter
 
2012-07-18 12:00:32 PM

Allen. The end.: Subby sounds fat. And lonely.


While that may be, I think that more accurately describes women who enjoyed the book.
 
2012-07-18 12:00:40 PM

Rapmaster2000: Saborlas: Yet another vanilla who did five minutes of research and thinks they're an expert on kink.

If you think 50 Shades of Grey is an accurate description of ANYTHING other than the author's unrealistic fantasies, you know nothing about BDSM.

Nerds ruin everything. Even sex. You can't even get off without someone telling you you're doing it as cool as they are.


Or should I say not doing it as cool as they are. I wonder if S&M store clerks are like record store clerks.

"Oh, so you're buying that riding crop. Yeah, that's the one they use in the suburbs."
 
2012-07-18 12:01:29 PM

squirrelflavoredyogurt: Yes cause god knows no feminist would ever get off on sexual submission.

Subby has apparently never slept with a feminist before.


Or Lawyers, or anybody who has to be in control all the time. The biggest subs I get to play with are those who tend to have professional jobs that require them to be in charge and deal with high dollar deals.

Also if you are a novice and thinking of learning to play I highly suggest you read Jay Wiseman's SM 101, it is a good primer.
 
2012-07-18 12:04:05 PM

Kaiku: Ew no, why would I want to do that?


Because done right it releases a massive amount of endorphins and is the best sex you will ever have, done wrong and you will want to bring somebody up on assault charges.
 
2012-07-18 12:05:31 PM
50 Shades of Gray / 7 Shades of shiat.

That book is written so very very badly. I mean Dan Brown level.
 
2012-07-18 12:06:17 PM

Rapmaster2000: Saborlas: Yet another vanilla who did five minutes of research and thinks they're an expert on kink.

If you think 50 Shades of Grey is an accurate description of ANYTHING other than the author's unrealistic fantasies, you know nothing about BDSM.

Nerds ruin everything. Even sex. You can't even get off without someone telling you you're doing it as cool as they are.


It's a safety thing. After a long time in the very back of the closet this particular kink is finally getting a small measure of mainstream acceptance. But there are rules and rituals that exist for a reason This stuff is like playing with fire, do it wrong and you can really hurt someone physcially or emotionally. We'd rather not have some eager noob Ruin it for Everyone. (if you are someone who goes to sci-fi cons, ask someone about Disclave 1997 for a prime example of how this can happen)
 
2012-07-18 12:08:45 PM

Saborlas: Yet another vanilla who did five minutes of research and thinks they're an expert on kink.

If you think 50 Shades of Grey is an accurate description of ANYTHING other than the author's unrealistic fantasies, you know nothing about BDSM.


THANK. YOU. SIR.

25.media.tumblr.com
 
2012-07-18 12:09:31 PM

Saborlas: Yet another vanilla who did five minutes of research and thinks they're an expert on kink.

If you think 50 Shades of Grey is an accurate description of ANYTHING other than the author's unrealistic fantasies, you know nothing about BDSM.


...Aren't all fantasies "unrealistic"? Or "fantastic," in this case?
 
2012-07-18 12:12:26 PM

Magorn: Rapmaster2000: Saborlas: Yet another vanilla who did five minutes of research and thinks they're an expert on kink.

If you think 50 Shades of Grey is an accurate description of ANYTHING other than the author's unrealistic fantasies, you know nothing about BDSM.

Nerds ruin everything. Even sex. You can't even get off without someone telling you you're doing it as cool as they are.

It's a safety thing. After a long time in the very back of the closet this particular kink is finally getting a small measure of mainstream acceptance. But there are rules and rituals that exist for a reason This stuff is like playing with fire, do it wrong and you can really hurt someone physcially or emotionally. We'd rather not have some eager noob Ruin it for Everyone. (if you are someone who goes to sci-fi cons, ask someone about Disclave 1997 for a prime example of how this can happen)


Yeah, I know I'm being snarky, but S&M enthusiasts come off like sex hipsters sometimes. There's this "I was into the scene way before you were into the scene" thing going on with this 50 Shades of Grey book. Not accusing you for real or anything.
 
2012-07-18 12:18:46 PM
SM. S&M is what people call it who don't get SM. The lady nichi does seem to get it, but someone didn't pay attention to her when she undoubtedly said "no, no, SM". Bonus points to her for saying SM deserves to be regarded as a decent, fun, intense activity not necessarily a symptom of psychopathology.
 
2012-07-18 12:22:43 PM
Oh good lord. When is all this 50 Shades of Gray crap going away? I'm tired of already.

/don't care to know anything about BDSM.
 
2012-07-18 12:25:28 PM
Great review of 50 Shades of shiat

Link
 
2012-07-18 12:26:21 PM

jet_silver: SM. S&M is what people call it who don't get SM. The lady nichi does seem to get it, but someone didn't pay attention to her when she undoubtedly said "no, no, SM". Bonus points to her for saying SM deserves to be regarded as a decent, fun, intense activity not necessarily a symptom of psychopathology.


I would love ot see one movie/novel/character in same that lives an D/s lifestyle without having been traumatized as a child, have a bizarre secret past, or some sort of mental disorder.

Everyone praised the movie Secretary for being a positive view of bdsm, but those people were both so supremely f-d up. It's possible (and probable) that submissive women in the bedroom are nothing like that in their real life. Plus I hated that it promoted "bratting".

Unless you're living a 24/7 lifestyle where you're continuously collared living as a pet, it's conceivable that you could interact with Doms and subs every day and not know it at all. It's easy and fun to poke fun at "chips dips chains whips" type stuff, but I'd really love to have just a tiny bit of the stigma removed. I'm almost forty and there are probably three people in my 'real life' that know I have submissive tendencies. It's just so frowned upon, specifically for women who are expected to be strong, eschewing any sort of outside control on their behavior. Submission and Feminism can go hand in hand.
 
2012-07-18 12:34:02 PM
I've got 50 shades of white for this full-time submissive:

images.askmen.com
 
2012-07-18 12:34:18 PM
Not according to this long term practitioner:

Fifty Shades & The "Philadelphia Incident"

Or this one:

50 Shades: A Dom's Perspective
 
2012-07-18 12:35:01 PM
Post-feminism means never having to say you're sorry for crappy books or articles.
 
2012-07-18 12:37:02 PM
Rapmaster2000:
Yeah, I know I'm being snarky, but S&M enthusiasts come off like sex hipsters sometimes. There's this "I was into the scene way before you were into the scene" thing going on with this 50 Shades of Grey book. Not accusing you for real or anything.

I don't think it's a matter of being "cooler" it's a matter of the book wrongly portraying a HEALTHY and SAFE bdsm relationship. It portrays dominance as coming from a dangerous mental state or a 'darkness'. It includes coerision and cruelty and bullying a sub into doing things she's not comfortable with (and not within the limits set down beforehand), and if you were someone who had no idea what D/s was like you'd assume that it was fairly misogynistic and dangerous in nature. There's room for DiD and rape roleplay in some relationships, but that's not what the author was trying to portray (as far as I know).
 
2012-07-18 12:37:57 PM

teenytinycornteeth: Everyone praised the movie Secretary for being a positive view of bdsm


I praised it for being a positive view of Maggie G.
 
2012-07-18 12:48:02 PM
Slaves2Darkness: "... done right it releases a massive amount of endorphins and is the best sex you will ever have, done wrong and you will want to bring somebody up on assault charges."

This. My GF is a sub and we've done a lot of fun and kinky things together. But even she learned early on about the need to be careful and set some limits as far as the types of situations you can get into. She went to an SM party once when she was 16 (started farking much earlier than me) and realized some of the people there were getting a bit too carried away at the point where they were whipping another woman so hard that blood was spurting out of the gashes in her skin, and the lady wasn't crying out in a good way. Now she still likes to be dominated, and to surrender control, but she also knows there's only just so much pain that can be converted into pleasure. And a certain amount of what makes this sort of thing work depends on being with partners you can trust.

\still a novice myself.
 
2012-07-18 12:49:53 PM
57 Varieties of Heinz was a much better book.

31 Flavors of Baskin-Robbins? Eh, preachy.
 
2012-07-18 12:53:43 PM
now if the lead character was Christian Gay

would it have been 50 Shades of Gray still
or 50 Shades of Gay
 
2012-07-18 01:01:07 PM

teenytinycornteeth: Let me guess, more completely ridiculous discussion over a poorly written piece of fan fiction.


To be followed by even more completely ridiculous assertions by the Real Bondage Scensters(tm) that what is in the aforementioned poorly written fan fiction is totally not Real Bondage(tm).
 
2012-07-18 01:07:57 PM
Spoiler/Romero alert: sometimes empowered/feminist women gain more empowerment through submission.
 
2012-07-18 01:09:10 PM
the only good thing about this book
..though clearly written by an idiot..
is that more gals will dip their toes into the pool

oh, and demotivators with lines from this literary work of merde

one of the problems?
domly doms
self proclaimed experts who will talk a good game
but end up driving most off because they suck at what they do
 
2012-07-18 01:20:07 PM
Damn.

I was hoping this thread would go somewhere.

But since 50 Shades of Grey is to BDSM as Whinnie the Pooh is to Metaphysics, I understand.


*turns off lights and closes door*
 
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