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2012-07-09 09:07:10 AM  

MattyFridays: Something that is missing from a lot of this bullying talk is that did you ever think that some people who were shunned and belittled in high school were actually people who were deserving of it?

I'm sorry, if you post talk of Columbine and seeking "revenge" - 20 years after the fact - then that makes you just as bad as the perceived bullying you got.

Some people get bullied for the wrong reasons - being gay, being fat, being ugly. Other people are just wired wrong and even if you're nice to them they are still wired wrong.




Some people are perpetual "victims" because they're just not very pleasant to be around, or so socially awkward they make people very uncomfortable, and so all people naturally treat them with disdain or indifference.

I suspect that all the white knights here do exactly the same thing to all sorts of people, but just don't realise it. The whole "the head cheerleader treated me like dirt and made my high school hell!" is usually more the fact that the head cheerleader didn't even know you existed, but people read that as some personal vendetta against them.
 
2012-07-09 09:09:31 AM  

RexTalionis: relcec: there is no requirement society forgive a confirmed sociopath who gets pleasure from inflicting violence on the weak.

If the action bothered McBatt enough for 5 years and was enough to issue an apology, then I don't think he's a sociopath.


yeah, I know. he apologized five years later when he happened upon the victim in a bar. it obviously was eating away at him. mcbatt probably had trouble eating and sleeping until that cathartic moment. probably spent those previous 5 years trying to track down his victim and apologize. a real humanitarian at this point I'm sure.
 
2012-07-09 09:10:34 AM  

Jsin82: Elementary school? You smiled and think it's karma someone got brain damage over something someone did to you in elementary school? Sounds like you deserved to get bullied a hell of a lot more than you did.


This is hardly worth a response. Why don't you go have a coffee and come back when you can troll properly?
 
2012-07-09 09:13:03 AM  

RexTalionis:

Spoken like somebody who is wired wrong.


There was a kid in college I knew who was wired wrong. I made no bones about it to his face that I wanted nothing to do with him socially. I saw his behaviors and his mind set miles away. I was honest; could be perceived as bullying.

People were being nice to him.

This story ends with girls being stalked and him being asked to leave campus permanently. What's worse is, he blamed the "bullying" done to him by other people on me. When this bubbled up, I hadn't thought/talked/referred to the kid in like, 5 years.
 
2012-07-09 09:13:33 AM  
If you cant hero an hero


This is just sad, nothing more.
My school life up till highschool was hell on earth, wont describe it, dont want to turn this into a pissing match, you would just farking lose and you would have piss on you. This continued on until halfway through my Junior year and then I transformed in a lil over a month. I started making pipe bmbs. Powder and fuse from gun stores, paid in cash and they did not give a fark at the time. Blew up a few large appliances for appreciative audiances, risked my small families life in my room late at night putting them together. brought a fake one to school once and scared the ever loving shiat outa a few associates who I let discover it that day. Rumor's then flew like I knew they would, VP even checked over my bag (without saying a word) a couple times a few days later and EVERYBODY KNEW. Upstairs bathroom blew up a month later, somebody put a small one in the boys room toilet and pretty much wrecked the whole bathroom. All eyes were on me, I had not even been there that day. DIdnt matter. I....didnt deny it hard core, just just denied it....
Nobody farking touched me after that. Nobody, the biggest bullies would chat pleasantly, nervously and find an excuse to be somewhere else. Staff never trusted me, but avoided talking to me as much as possible. They all assumed, just couldnt prove it. But from there on out, Nobody farking touched me.
fark loved, i'll take feared any day.
LOL wasnt even me, I think I know who might have done it but it didnt work out the way he expected. He covered himself too well so most assumed it was somehow me.

/these days I woulda been thrown into Gitmo.
//woulda been better than highschool
 
2012-07-09 09:14:24 AM  
I've had no issues getting over it.

However I'm consistently amazed at the selective memories of those that did the bullying.

Every year I attend a holiday party with my family. My Mother was on the PTA with one of the Mom's of one of the bullies that made my life hell and she gets invited and comes every year. At every party she would corner me and ask how I was ding and mention that her son is doing well and looking to get in touch with me (after high school I made it a point to drop off the face of the earth).

After the third time she did this I told her that her son was an asshole to me in high school and I have no reason to want to talk with him about anything.

She didn't seem nearly as confounded by it as I thought she might, kind of like in the back of her mind she knew her son had been a bully and now over time it's just another confirmation of it.
 
2012-07-09 09:14:50 AM  

relcec: RexTalionis: relcec: there is no requirement society forgive a confirmed sociopath who gets pleasure from inflicting violence on the weak.

If the action bothered McBatt enough for 5 years and was enough to issue an apology, then I don't think he's a sociopath.

yeah, I know. he apologized five years later when he happened upon the victim in a bar. it obviously was eating away at him. mcbatt probably had trouble eating and sleeping until that cathartic moment. probably spent those previous 5 years trying to track down his victim and apologize. a real humanitarian at this point I'm sure.


I think it's pretty good that he did apologize rather than dwell on the hows and whys.
 
2012-07-09 09:14:54 AM  
I was bullied on my bus... middle school through high school. I went through an extremely awkward phase and the boys were relentless in their insults.
I take pride in being thin and somewhat attractive, even after 2 kids. The majority of those redneck kids aren't enjoying the same outcome.
It's petty and stupid, but so is bullying.
 
2012-07-09 09:16:11 AM  
Apologies while I enable CSB:

When I was in high school, it was almost impossible to fight the compelling urges that constantly urged me to kill... I tried to fit in as best as I could (I was adopted). Luckily, my adopted dad saw me for what I was: Broken and twisted inside. He taught me to assimilate into "normal society" so that my secret desires and needs went unrecognized by the 'Norms'. He took me on weekend hunting trips where he would allow me to deliver the killing blows to various animals such as deer and raccoons - and it helped to quench that bottomless pit of flame inside my empty soul - and it saved a lot of innocent people from my cold rage. Not even my own sister ever had a clue that I was a being with no emotions, whose only solace was found in taking life.

Irony of ironies, I ended up working in law enforcement (as did my sis)...every day is a challenge to control that part of me that looks upon every living being as a "thing" that's needs to be cleansed from the earth like a virus. I see myself as some kind of goddam living antiseptic with a blade and I wish I could be disgusted about it, but it's who I am, and I refuse to hate myself.

End CSB.
/fark bullies...they deserve anything they receive in punishment
 
2012-07-09 09:16:18 AM  

MattyFridays: RexTalionis:

Spoken like somebody who is wired wrong.

There was a kid in college I knew who was wired wrong. I made no bones about it to his face that I wanted nothing to do with him socially. I saw his behaviors and his mind set miles away. I was honest; could be perceived as bullying.

People were being nice to him.

This story ends with girls being stalked and him being asked to leave campus permanently. What's worse is, he blamed the "bullying" done to him by other people on me. When this bubbled up, I hadn't thought/talked/referred to the kid in like, 5 years.


Say, you might know the same person as me. How do you feel about modding DOOM?
 
2012-07-09 09:16:28 AM  

SnakeLee: I bullied the shiat out of this kid when I was younger and I feel pretty bad about it. Writing him on Facebook seems so corny though


It probably is, but it's probably the best way to go about it.
 
2012-07-09 09:17:42 AM  

relcec: RexTalionis: relcec: there is no requirement society forgive a confirmed sociopath who gets pleasure from inflicting violence on the weak.

If the action bothered McBatt enough for 5 years and was enough to issue an apology, then I don't think he's a sociopath.

yeah, I know. he apologized five years later when he happened upon the victim in a bar. it obviously was eating away at him. mcbatt probably had trouble eating and sleeping until that cathartic moment. probably spent those previous 5 years trying to track down his victim and apologize. a real humanitarian at this point I'm sure.


How many people do you know who apologize to someone for... well anything after five years?
 
2012-07-09 09:19:13 AM  
My 20 year reunion was just a couple of weekends ago. I probably haven't coped or moved on as well as some, but my reason for not attending served as the proverbial reminder that I'd bided my time, got away and done okay for myself. I'll never be a shining beacon of muscle and money, existing just to prove "they" were wrong to torture me - I can only be who I am now, a product of what happened back then mixed with what's happened since.

I could tell from the pics that a lot of work went into the reunion, but couldn't really shake the feeling that it was a party for the still-gorgeous-and-popular people, thrown by the same old outsiders in the hopes of joining them if only for one night. The old stereotypes did not necessarily apply: the beautiful stayed that way. No fat white trash transformations. The awkward were still awkward. I would have had nothing new to add to that gathering that wouldn't have sounded like AW bragging. We weren't friends then, and we're not now. It's weird to me that in the context of my work I have to be so social, yet there's a group of 150 people from SW Ohio in their mid to late 30's to which I just have nothing to say.
 
2012-07-09 09:19:38 AM  

dv-ous: Dare I ask... what'd you do the first time a girl had the nerve to turn you down to your face?


I learned in high school that women don't actually do that. The first girl that I asked out pulled the "I just want to be friends thing" and, in retrospect, that has been the major excuse of the other girls that I have asked out. I'd rather be told 'No, I'm not attracted to you' because then you're being honest.

Yes, I was bitter in after the first one and it did affect me for a bit. I have come to peace, however. Peace in knowing that some day I shall get sweet sweet revenge! BWHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA *hack* HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

/Actually didn't have that bad of a high school tenure. Junior High was worse
//In a good relationship
 
2012-07-09 09:19:41 AM  

MagSeven: Well it was by one kid once a year or so for four years. And I guess you're right. It wasn't bullying as much as "attempted bullying".


It wasn't even that. "Once a year" is a kid being a dick. Try every day of the week, every week of the month, every month of the year, year after year. Bullying isn't an incident or even a series of incidents; it's a permanent situation.
 
2012-07-09 09:20:56 AM  

RexTalionis: relcec: RexTalionis: relcec: there is no requirement society forgive a confirmed sociopath who gets pleasure from inflicting violence on the weak.

If the action bothered McBatt enough for 5 years and was enough to issue an apology, then I don't think he's a sociopath.

yeah, I know. he apologized five years later when he happened upon the victim in a bar. it obviously was eating away at him. mcbatt probably had trouble eating and sleeping until that cathartic moment. probably spent those previous 5 years trying to track down his victim and apologize. a real humanitarian at this point I'm sure.

I think it's pretty good that he did apologize rather than dwell on the hows and whys.


he was angry for some unknown reason.
a dozen other kids also beat up this kid.
the kid was actually telling people to kick him in the balls.
 
2012-07-09 09:25:38 AM  

BurnShrike: Jsin82: Elementary school? You smiled and think it's karma someone got brain damage over something someone did to you in elementary school? Sounds like you deserved to get bullied a hell of a lot more than you did.

This is hardly worth a response. Why don't you go have a coffee and come back when you can troll properly?


Who is trolling? Elementary school.. Its one thing to be upset about middle school, and I understand high school bullying being capable of leaving someone emotional shell. That being said, if you can't see how screwed up it is that you smiled about a kid getting brain damage from something that happend in ELEMENTARY SCHOOL then you need to seek professional help as soon as possible.
 
2012-07-09 09:25:48 AM  
I got picked on in high school some. Mostly cuz I was insanely quiet and a bit large. Two guys in particular picked on me. One day I had enough, and amazingly, bullies all seem to lack this one bit of universal knowledge: a big boy can put his weight into and shove you like a mack truck. One push, and a stunned looking up at me from the floor, and Jim never messed with me again. The other guy, well... I tapped into his phone line switchboard one night, dialed 900 #'s over and over from the back of a playboy and hung up (the kind that were like $30 min just for calling once). Apparently, it caused a huge fight with his mother and he ended up moving out andf going back to live with his father. Never saw him again.
 
2012-07-09 09:26:06 AM  
As someone who also suffered from bullying I might say that committing a crime because someone bullied you when you both were children twenty years ago is inexcusable. At least the bullies had the excuse that they were immature children.
 
2012-07-09 09:26:09 AM  

Optimus Primate: Apologies while I enable CSB:

When I was in high school, it was almost impossible to fight the compelling urges that constantly urged me to kill... I tried to fit in as best as I could (I was adopted). Luckily, my adopted dad saw me for what I was: Broken and twisted inside. He taught me to assimilate into "normal society" so that my secret desires and needs went unrecognized by the 'Norms'. He took me on weekend hunting trips where he would allow me to deliver the killing blows to various animals such as deer and raccoons - and it helped to quench that bottomless pit of flame inside my empty soul - and it saved a lot of innocent people from my cold rage. Not even my own sister ever had a clue that I was a being with no emotions, whose only solace was found in taking life.

Irony of ironies, I ended up working in law enforcement (as did my sis)...every day is a challenge to control that part of me that looks upon every living being as a "thing" that's needs to be cleansed from the earth like a virus. I see myself as some kind of goddam living antiseptic with a blade and I wish I could be disgusted about it, but it's who I am, and I refuse to hate myself.

End CSB.
/fark bullies...they deserve anything they receive in punishment


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Surprise Mothafarka!
 
2012-07-09 09:26:34 AM  

McBatt: The first website I ever built included a message board used only by students. The administration eventually made us shut it down. The amount of personal information about students and faculty lead to a whole lot of school drama, and at least one teacher being fired. 2000 was a weird farking year.


If you hadn't said you were from Central PA, I would've sworn we went to high school together (graduated in '02). A couple guys I went to HS with built a "sports talk" message board for the area schools. You can guess how quickly sports talk turned into gossip, trash talking, etc.

Eventually, a rumor about a couple cheerleaders showering together was posted (it turned out to be true, btw..). Lawsuits were filed and the site was forced into shutting down. Interesting 6 months while it was open though.
 
2012-07-09 09:27:01 AM  

Optimus Primate: Apologies while I enable CSB:

When I was in high school, it was almost impossible to fight the compelling urges that constantly urged me to kill... I tried to fit in as best as I could (I was adopted). Luckily, my adopted dad saw me for what I was: Broken and twisted inside. He taught me to assimilate into "normal society" so that my secret desires and needs went unrecognized by the 'Norms'. He took me on weekend hunting trips where he would allow me to deliver the killing blows to various animals such as deer and raccoons - and it helped to quench that bottomless pit of flame inside my empty soul - and it saved a lot of innocent people from my cold rage. Not even my own sister ever had a clue that I was a being with no emotions, whose only solace was found in taking life.

Irony of ironies, I ended up working in law enforcement (as did my sis)...every day is a challenge to control that part of me that looks upon every living being as a "thing" that's needs to be cleansed from the earth like a virus. I see myself as some kind of goddam living antiseptic with a blade and I wish I could be disgusted about it, but it's who I am, and I refuse to hate myself.

End CSB.
/fark bullies...they deserve anything they receive in punishment


Hi Dexter...
 
2012-07-09 09:27:11 AM  

NotSubby: relcec: RexTalionis: relcec: there is no requirement society forgive a confirmed sociopath who gets pleasure from inflicting violence on the weak.

If the action bothered McBatt enough for 5 years and was enough to issue an apology, then I don't think he's a sociopath.

yeah, I know. he apologized five years later when he happened upon the victim in a bar. it obviously was eating away at him. mcbatt probably had trouble eating and sleeping until that cathartic moment. probably spent those previous 5 years trying to track down his victim and apologize. a real humanitarian at this point I'm sure.

How many people do you know who apologize to someone for... well anything after five years?


I know, they usually apologize immediately. if not immediately a day after they got to think about their actions. the people I know don't usually need a fortuitous random encounter and significant lubrication through alcohol to seek out forgiveness for their transgressions.
 
2012-07-09 09:27:23 AM  
If mandatory prison sentences were applied to the parents of bullies, the problem would end quickly.
 
2012-07-09 09:28:40 AM  
The best use of the pent-up anger from being bullied: kick ass at the gym. Even if you never meet those bastards again, you'll be happy with the muscles you'll sprout, in addition to being happier from channeling a deep reservoir of rage.
 
2012-07-09 09:28:48 AM  

Uncle Tractor: MagSeven: Well it was by one kid once a year or so for four years. And I guess you're right. It wasn't bullying as much as "attempted bullying".

It wasn't even that. "Once a year" is a kid being a dick. Try every day of the week, every week of the month, every month of the year, year after year. Bullying isn't an incident or even a series of incidents; it's a permanent situation.


Cool. You win. Or lose. Depending how you really think about it, I guess.
 
2012-07-09 09:28:53 AM  

Bungles:
Some people are perpetual "victims" because they're just not very pleasant to be around, or so socially awkward they make people very uncomfortable, and so all people naturally treat them with disdain or indifference.

I suspect that all the white knights here do exactly the same thing to all sorts of people, but just don't realise it. The whole "the head cheerleader treated me like dirt and made my high school hell!" is usually more the fact that the head cheerleader didn't even know you existed, but people read that as some personal vendetta against them.


Going back to my college story, the people in my circle of friends were actually nice to this kid, but he didn't understand personal boundaries.

If a girl was nice to him, that meant to him that she "liked-liked" him. Never mind the fact she had a fiance.

If there was a party and he wasn't invited, even if the party had nothing to do with him but one of his "friends" was there, he'd throw an absolute fit.

Not to mention he had MASSIVE attention seeking behaviors that made him disruptive.
 
2012-07-09 09:31:09 AM  

Neo Geek: But of course the original bullying will go unpunished... damn bullies, they always pull the Eddie Haskall and get away with it...


Yep. I was bullied in Junior High school, and one time I just snapped and kicked the crap out of him.

He went crying to the Principal and I got a weeks suspension
 
2012-07-09 09:32:22 AM  

undernova: We weren't friends then, and we're not now. It's weird to me that in the context of my work I have to be so social, yet there's a group of 150 people from SW Ohio in their mid to late 30's to which I just have nothing to say.


Yep. The people I cared about in high school I'm still generally in touch with if they still matter to me, and I don't have anything I feel I need to 'prove' to anybody else. My 20th reunion should probably be coming up in the not too distant future, but I have no interest in attending just to stand around awkwardly with people I haven't spoken to in over 20 years.

/From what I've heard from some of my older friends who HAVE attended though, it's a great place to hook up for a one night stand
 
2012-07-09 09:32:26 AM  

Optimus Primate: Apologies while I enable CSB:

When I was in high school, it was almost impossible to fight the compelling urges that constantly urged me to kill... I tried to fit in as best as I could (I was adopted). Luckily, my adopted dad saw me for what I was: Broken and twisted inside. He taught me to assimilate into "normal society" so that my secret desires and needs went unrecognized by the 'Norms'. He took me on weekend hunting trips where he would allow me to deliver the killing blows to various animals such as deer and raccoons - and it helped to quench that bottomless pit of flame inside my empty soul - and it saved a lot of innocent people from my cold rage. Not even my own sister ever had a clue that I was a being with no emotions, whose only solace was found in taking life.

Irony of ironies, I ended up working in law enforcement (as did my sis)...every day is a challenge to control that part of me that looks upon every living being as a "thing" that's needs to be cleansed from the earth like a virus. I see myself as some kind of goddam living antiseptic with a blade and I wish I could be disgusted about it, but it's who I am, and I refuse to hate myself.

End CSB.
/fark bullies...they deserve anything they receive in punishment


I admit that I loved your story at first, but it's gone on too many years.
 
2012-07-09 09:32:53 AM  

Optimus Primate: Apologies while I enable CSB:

When I was in high school, it was almost impossible to fight the compelling urges that constantly urged me to kill... I tried to fit in as best as I could (I was adopted). Luckily, my adopted dad saw me for what I was: Broken and twisted inside. He taught me to assimilate into "normal society" so that my secret desires and needs went unrecognized by the 'Norms'. He took me on weekend hunting trips where he would allow me to deliver the killing blows to various animals such as deer and raccoons - and it helped to quench that bottomless pit of flame inside my empty soul - and it saved a lot of innocent people from my cold rage. Not even my own sister ever had a clue that I was a being with no emotions, whose only solace was found in taking life.

Irony of ironies, I ended up working in law enforcement (as did my sis)...every day is a challenge to control that part of me that looks upon every living being as a "thing" that's needs to be cleansed from the earth like a virus. I see myself as some kind of goddam living antiseptic with a blade and I wish I could be disgusted about it, but it's who I am, and I refuse to hate myself.

End CSB.
/fark bullies...they deserve anything they receive in punishment


Dexter.
 
2012-07-09 09:35:18 AM  

bearcats1983: a rumor about a couple cheerleaders showering together was posted (it turned out to be true, btw..).


I don't suppose they were 18 and there was video we could all review for educational purposes.
 
2012-07-09 09:36:13 AM  
Bullied in high school? You bet I was. I was a fat, nerdy, kid who loved sci-fi, rock music, and partying. To the Big Dumb Frat Jocks, (hereafter referred to as BGFJs), I was odd. That was their reason for their actions. I was not a BDFJ and I saw nothing appealing about trying to be one. So, they bullied me. Alot. Never anything overtly physical, but it is no fun having three BDFJs shooting needles made out of paper clips into your back and legs. Now their attempts at rumor-mongering were completely ineffective, since I could have cared less what anyone at that school thought of me, I think that's why they went for the little physical things. Understand that these BDFJs were successful with three other students in that the BDFJs made their lives so miserable, they all left the very next year. One made a few attempts at suicide. I do not dwell on those years because, as someone said, 'If you peaked in high school, that is so sad.'. Besides, it was a small southern town with small southern town mentality and the school was (mostly) BDFJs anyway.

But forget??? NEVER! I will never give them the luxury of thinking they got away with their crap. I will never forget that all they had to do was show some intelligence beyond being able to barely grasp a football play that required more than one person to move differently than their normal position. And, I will never forgive. Do I need to seek professional help for this? Maybe, but since I cannot afford such things, that is not going to happen. Does what they did affect me? Sure, but not as bad as what my father did. (He was the real bully, and there was no escape from him). I don't dwell on him too much either, and it always makes me giggle when I get family asking me why I don't call him. (In the 33 years since I have seen the man in person, I have received ONE phone call from him. I used to call on occasion, until I finally wised up and decided it was his turn. He has never called me since that one time 33 years ago. His eyes, fingers and his phone all work. I think that says more than anything he would say to me if he did call.)

Having said that, let me say this. Anyone who says "Just get over it." has never truly been bullied. Oh, they probably got in a few little scuffles, had someone say a few mean things or try to spread a rumor. But they did not go thru what a real bullying victim goes thru. They are like reformed smokers. "If I did it, you can!" Give me a break. Everyone is different, everyone is not going to be able to do what you did, so what you need to do is get over yourselves. And for all those who say, "Stand up for yourselves!" like that is easy as well, let me say you were lucky not to be raised by a tyrant. Tyrants usually do not allow someone to develop self confidence and self determination. Those traits are not sanguine with being the peons under a tyrant. And gods forbid your tyrant ever figures out you want to get away from the tyranny. But I digress.

What this guy said on facebook was not enough to warrant the response he got. He didn't even name anyone or give any indication he was anything but whining. So, we are to be arrested for whining these days?

/After reading this post, I guess I need to get ready for the SWAT team
 
2012-07-09 09:36:38 AM  

relcec: NotSubby: relcec: RexTalionis: relcec: there is no requirement society forgive a confirmed sociopath who gets pleasure from inflicting violence on the weak.

If the action bothered McBatt enough for 5 years and was enough to issue an apology, then I don't think he's a sociopath.

yeah, I know. he apologized five years later when he happened upon the victim in a bar. it obviously was eating away at him. mcbatt probably had trouble eating and sleeping until that cathartic moment. probably spent those previous 5 years trying to track down his victim and apologize. a real humanitarian at this point I'm sure.

How many people do you know who apologize to someone for... well anything after five years?

I know, they usually apologize immediately. if not immediately a day after they got to think about their actions. the people I know don't usually need a fortuitous random encounter and significant lubrication through alcohol to seek out forgiveness for their transgressions.


No. Most people don't apologize after being complete dicks to someone. They find ways to rationalize the dick behavior or pretend it never happened. That this guy apologized five years later when he did run in to the victim is surprising.

Something tells me the people you know probably wouldn't have been accused of being bullies in school.

Both my sons are in H.S. now. They were picked on through the years (especially my youngest during and after his cancer). Not surprisingly when my oldest decided he had enough and cleaned a bully's clock, he's been left alone since and is one of the more popular kids. My younger one decided not to give a shiat and has his slammer group of friends. The bullying has slacked off for him as well; possibly because of my older son's fight.

The point is both of them will leave school and the awkward phase will be just that, a phase. I doubt they'll show for reunions but they're not destined to be forever hateful or depressed by their school experience, either. Most of the bullies reacted differently to their immaturity and hormones. They too will largely grow out of it.
 
2012-07-09 09:37:11 AM  

Corn_Fed: The fact that he wrote these attention-getting threats on the Facebook page so he "wouldn't get bullied at the reunion" suggests that he's never had any idea how to deal with situations, and probably brought a lot of the bullying on himself.

It's unfortunate that he was bullied, and it's never okay to bully someone. On the other hand, it's obvious this guy has more than a few screws loose.


Be that as it may, I don't care how big or tough you are, everybody has a breaking point.
 
2012-07-09 09:37:36 AM  
YOU'RE DOING IT WRONG.


"Hero"? The guy mouthed off and got busted. I'm sure the class jerk is quaking in his boots. The way you get this kind of revenge is to play nice, act like all is forgiven, go to the reunion with a smile, slip some acid in the punch bowl and then sneak out once the crap starts hitting the fan.
 
2012-07-09 09:37:52 AM  
I was bullied in High School, and it affected me for years afterwards. At my High School reunion my bully came up to me as I was talking to some friends and said "Hello" to me. I turned, looked at him and said, "Who are you?" He told me his name and I replied, "Sorry, but I do not remember me. Now if you will excuse me I am talking to my classmates." I then ignored him. He stood their awkwardly for about a minute and then walked away. Everyone in that group had been picked on or made fun of by him and we all shared a smile and then continued our discussion.
 
2012-07-09 09:38:29 AM  

relcec: I know, they usually apologize immediately. if not immediately a day after they got to think about their actions. the people I know don't usually need a fortuitous random encounter and significant lubrication through alcohol to seek out forgiveness for their transgressions.


If the people who picked on me in HS came up to me after 20 years to ask forgiveness, I'd find it more awkward than anything else. Let's face it, if you're only coming to apologize after 20 years, it's not because you're worried about my feelings on the subject. You're doing it to make yourself feel better. Unless I bring it up, let bygones be bygones.
 
2012-07-09 09:38:29 AM  

Jsin82: BurnShrike: Jsin82: Elementary school? You smiled and think it's karma someone got brain damage over something someone did to you in elementary school? Sounds like you deserved to get bullied a hell of a lot more than you did.

This is hardly worth a response. Why don't you go have a coffee and come back when you can troll properly?

Who is trolling? Elementary school.. Its one thing to be upset about middle school, and I understand high school bullying being capable of leaving someone emotional shell. That being said, if you can't see how screwed up it is that you smiled about a kid getting brain damage from something that happend in ELEMENTARY SCHOOL then you need to seek professional help as soon as possible.


You're right. A smile is surely a sign of a severely emotionally disturbed person. I thank you for setting me on the right track. Will you notify the authorities that I received a small amount of pleasure from a misfortune falling upon someone who made my life living hell? Or should I do it myself?

You'd better watch your language with me though, or I might even go so far as to chuckle and smirk the next time you fall down the stairs.
 
2012-07-09 09:39:08 AM  

RexTalionis:

Say, you might know the same person as me. How do you feel about modding DOOM?


Too early. This was late 90's. And as you're a lawyer, believe me, there was no way in hell this kid was sniffing pre-law.

Socially awkward, ugly, bad teeth, and *dumb* - a walking disaster of a human. You can get thin, you can get plastic surgery, you can fix bad teeth. You can even work through social anxieties. You cannot fix stupid.
 
2012-07-09 09:40:01 AM  

Alonjar: I find it fascinating that people harbor so much hate for people who bullied them in school. I had my social issues too, but I attributed that to the more likely source.. my parents. If you're a socially awkward failure who cant deal with these things, its because your parents did a shiat job of raising you.

Dont do a shiat job of raising your children.


Fark yourself with a rake. Hard. My parents were good people, as were the parents of most victims of bullying. Fark you for implying otherwise.

I take it that you've never had someone devote their life to destroying yours. For no farking motive other than wanting to impress their equally sociopathic peers.

/Glad I had some talent at fighting, and that years later those pricks are still paying money to their dentists and chiropractors because of what I did to them when they attacked me for no reason.
 
2012-07-09 09:40:17 AM  

MattyFridays: Something that is missing from a lot of this bullying talk is that did you ever think that some people who were shunned and belittled in high school were actually people who were deserving of it?

I'm sorry, if you post talk of Columbine and seeking "revenge" - 20 years after the fact - then that makes you just as bad as the perceived bullying you got.

Some people get bullied for the wrong reasons - being gay, being fat, being ugly. Other people are just wired wrong and even if you're nice to them they are still wired wrong.


Nah, it just makes him stupid. Revealing your plans for revenge beforehand is just stupid. Everyone knows that you plot in secrecy so as to take them unawares.

/Exception, promising someone that you will kill them last.
 
2012-07-09 09:43:12 AM  

othmar: yeah what would the sons of anarchy do?


Fire or knife?

... oh wait, that's how they do tatoo removal.
 
2012-07-09 09:45:14 AM  

Cookbook's Anarchist: Attention! All victims of child abuse and rape, you no longer have the right to claim that it affects you after twenty years. Basically, stuff happens and you should get over it. If you were mentally tortured and abused by people your own age during the most formative years of your life, then you have no right to act as if that affected every other relationships and incident of your life.

People have no right to hold grudges, no matter the level of abuse.

Or at least, this is what I'm left to believe from this bullying thread.


We're learning from real-time MRIs and the like that abuse...and not just physical abuse... can leave actual, physical changes in the brain (almost like scar tissue in the rest of the body) that the neural network then has to work around.

So, it may not be possible for some people to "get over it."
 
2012-07-09 09:48:31 AM  

Genevieve Marie: Ok, in case anyone else is interested- it's well worth reading about what really happened at Columbine. It had jack shiat to do with bullying. Dave Cullen's book is phenomenal, and it elaborates on all the points made in his earlier piece about it, The Depressive and the Psychopath.


I don't have anything to add, except to second this recommendation. It is a very thorough book on the subject. It's really well written and does a good job of dispelling myths that arose in the days after Columbine that no one ever really bothered to correct.
 
2012-07-09 09:48:49 AM  

MadCat221: AverageAmericanGuy: That's pretty sad. 20 years is a long time to hold on to that kind of anger.

I take it you weren't a chronic bullying victim in the awkward years?


I was. But that was a long time ago. I've moved on.
 
2012-07-09 09:48:53 AM  
I'm disappoint with the lack of references to holding down gay kids and hacking off their hair, then running for President of the United States.
 
2012-07-09 09:48:56 AM  
He should've hidden his oxygen tubes in a spacesuit...
www.milkmen.com
 
2012-07-09 09:49:14 AM  

ontariolightning: Everybody gets bullied. I've been bullied. The thing is you either stand up for yourself or you become someones biatch. That is life. It doesn't matter if you're wimpy looking or monstorous. Quit being a pussy and take care of your business.


You. One of the biggest trolls in the hockey threads, who can't rationally debate a point to save his life, talks about moving on and 'standing up for yourself'? That you blow a freaking gasket whenever someone mentions Greg Jamison? You? Seriously?
 
2012-07-09 09:50:03 AM  
So much damned pain in this thread.

Get over it.
 
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