28, on my 2nd house, married, and no kids.

We love it this way.

Going to a Yelp sponsored Big Lebowski bowling event tonight.

Did happy hour gourmet tacos last night.

Happy hour asian food monday night.

Warrior Dash and pool party last saturday.


Why would I want kids, seems like all of that stuff would have been much harder to plan.

an article peer-pressuring and shaming people into breeding and taking on responsibility they don't want for what? the label of "adult"? seems legit (if you're a f*cking moron).

I rounded first never thought of the worst
As I studied the shortstops position
Crack went my leg like the shell of an egg
Someone call a decent physician
Im no pete rose, I can't pretend
Though my mind is quite flexible, these brittle bones don't bend

Chorus:
Im growing older but not up
My metabolic rate is pleasantly stuck
Let those winds of time blow over my head
Id rather die while Im living than live while Im dead

Sometimes I see me as old manatee
Headin south as the waters grow colder
Tries to steer clear of the hum-drum so near
It cuts prop scars deep in his shoulder
But that's how it goes (that's how it goes), right to the end
Though his bodys quite flexible, that barnacle brain don't bend

Chorus:
Im growing older but not up
My metabolic rate is pleasantly stuck
Let those winds of time blow over my head
Id rather die while Im livin than live while Im dead

(instrumental)

Now don't get me wrong
This is not a sad song
Just events that I have happened to witness
And time takes it's toll as we head for the poll
And no one dies from physical fitness
So what the hell, well take it right to the end
As the days grow more complicated the nightlife still wins

Chorus:
Im growing older but not up
My metabolic rate is pleasantly stuck
Let those winds of change blow over my head
Id rather die while Im living than live while Im dead
Let those winds of time blow over my head
Id rather die while Im living than live while Im dead

miss diminutive: I'll only have a kid if it's used to cement the crumbling bond between my future partner and I while fixing all of our unresolved issues. I hear that works out well.

Just buy a house or something. No need to bring an innocent victim into it.

what_now
Congratulations!!


Thank you. He is awesome!

YixilTesiphon

busy chillin': Live how you want to live.

But I want to deried everyone else's lifestyle choices as "stunted" or "old-fashioned" or "unsustainable" or "irresponsible"! Come on, can I?


Ha...well you are in the right place

H31N0US

Congrats. I want to have another one but my wife won't hold still.


Thanks! Um, good luck with that.


Jackson Herring

busy chillin': I don't expect you to be jealous I got peed on last night.

look, what you and your wife get up to behind a closed public restroom door is your own business

I knew that was coming...

I just turned 40; I have a meaningful career in journalism that I'm passionate about, just bought my first house, 60-year old brick home that I'm renovating into my dream house, no kids, a healthy bank account; I could live off my savings for 18 months if I had to, and no debt (except for the house).
Bottom line, I'm doing really well for myself and if some people are concerned about my quality of life not being up to the standards they define, well, pick better standards. Life is very, very good for me, thanks.

"My dad never went to college, so it was real important that I go...
"So I graduate, I call him up long distance, I say "Dad, now what?" He says, "Get a job...
"Now I'm 25, make my yearly call again. I say Dad, Now what? He says, I don't know, get married...
"We're a generation of men raised by women. I'm wondering if another woman is really the answer we need."

miss diminutive: I'll only have a kid if it's used to cement the crumbling bond between my future partner and I while fixing all of our unresolved issues. I hear that works out well.

That's called the appearance of success hiding the reality of poverty.

When you can't afford a house or children and you're living paycheck to paycheck that's called "POOR" - doesn't matter how much you bring in from salary.

This generation isn't lazy or irrespoonsible, they're living in a depression in which the keys to "adult" living are priced out of their reach.

schattenteufel: "My dad never went to college, so it was real important that I go...
"So I graduate, I call him up long distance, I say "Dad, now what?" He says, "Get a job...
"Now I'm 25, make my yearly call again. I say Dad, Now what? He says, I don't know, get married...
"We're a generation of men raised by women. I'm wondering if another woman is really the answer we need."

Man, what does that guy have against masturbation?

Im 37 raising my 26 yr old roomate. Yeah no kids for me thank you. I kinda get the itch for them once in a while but I would like to provide an even better chance then I had. But the way things look that aint happening.

The bible thumper I work with is amazed that I am not married and have no kids she keeps spouting on how they are a blessing and I should have some. I told her I wont have them with the women I date. I much prefer spoiling my nieces and nephew.

Julieahni: URAPNIS: I don't want kids so I really can't justify getting married.

I justified getting married, at 37, because I lost my job and health insurance. My husband and I married for financial reasons. I mean, we love each other, but we didn't need the whole marriage thing. And I hate kids. So, there's that.

My g/f is an idiot when it comes to money.
There is no farking way I would rely on her for anything of the sort.
Farking pisses me off just thinking about it.

Yeah I'm in that boat. I'm a farkup who pisses away money drinking, farking, and traveling. It's fun, hopefully I die young.
But I'd probably be a good father if I had kids, better than many in this country. That is because I do have a good job and I grew up with good parents, oh an I have good health insurance which in the US makes me a real adult.

Hmmmm....

Childless? No point in pushing out kids if you're not ready. More people should wait a few years.
Mortgage-less? Not a problem if it means anchoring yourself in an area that may not be the place you want to spend the next 5-10 years.
Marriage-less? Tying the knot doesn't mean what it did 30+ years ago. Though at the same time, I suspect the author is using 'hanging out with mah girr-fends' as an excuse.

More and more Londoners are childless.

Allah rejoices.

Sticky Hands: FROGDAMMIT PEOPLE I'm underwater on my mortgage here... get to the house buying!!!

You know the part about us being single? It's kind of stupid to buy a 2,500+ sq ft house for one person and that's about 85% of the houses on the market. Also, it takes a while to save up 20% on a single income.

My life. My body. My choice.

If your happiness depends on the choices of others, chances are you're only trying to justify your own bad choices.

'Peter Pan' generation is single.
check
'Peter Pan' generation is baby-free.
double check
'Peter Pan' generation is broke.
big time
'Peter Pan' generation is can't buy a house.
also, they is can't write a sentence.

Sticky Hands: FROGDAMMIT PEOPLE I'm underwater on my mortgage here... get to the house buying!!!

I would but umm, I paid mine off and I sure as hell ain't selling now!

So, those "16 and Pregnant" are one third of the way there.

Good to know.

Girion47: 28, on my 2nd house, married, and no kids.

We love it this way.

Going to a Yelp sponsored Big Lebowski bowling event tonight.

Did happy hour gourmet tacos last night.

Happy hour asian food monday night.

Warrior Dash and pool party last saturday.


Why would I want kids, seems like all of that stuff would have been much harder to plan.

(Sucks in belly, inserts thumbs into suspenders) Well when I was your age, I was single and going crazy on the Jersey shore (no I was not a guido). Up all night, going to bars, etc etc. Yankee games all summer with 13 other guys who bought the same ticket package, out all winter in Manhattan going out at 11 PM and coming home at 5 AM.

It's hard to understand, but eventually that gets boring.

I think getting married in your 20's, let alone having kids at that age, is nuts. Those are your years of immortality. Live them to the fullest.

But later in life, say mid 30's, family life can be a very enriching experience. Watching your kid learn and grow is hard to describe. It's not all rainbows and unicorns but it's not all puke and noise either. Also, you have more money at that time and in a better position to defend your savings against the burdens of child rearing.

Julieahni: URAPNIS: I don't want kids so I really can't justify getting married.

I justified getting married, at 37, because I lost my job and health insurance. My husband and I married for financial reasons. I mean, we love each other, but we didn't need the whole marriage thing. And I hate kids. So, there's that.

Same thing happened to me. We eloped when I lost my job after about 6 years of dating so I could go on his health insurance. Also the tax breaks aren't bad...

justanotherfarkinfarker: Yeah I'm in that boat. I'm a farkup who pisses away money drinking, farking, and traveling. It's fun, hopefully I die young.

That's exactly me, even agreeing with the last part. My parents are at the age where all they do is take pills and worry about which cancer is going to latch on next. It's goddamn depressing thinking about having to live that life in 25-30 years.

James!: It's kind of immature to assume that meeting some kind of external criteria is going automatically turn you into an adult.

I was more adult @ 14 than I was @ 23 so how does that figure into any criteria / chart?

meh - Hadda write something so I just pulled this out of my ass brand of journalism.

When I was 28, I was pretty sure that I never wanted to have kids. And I was 100% convinced that I didn't have the patience or responsibility or even the desire to be a decent parent.

A couple of decades later, and I'm genuinely impressed with the job that Mrs_Fab and I have done with our kid. She's a far better person than most of you whining, self-important Gen X and Gen Y snowflakes.

Look how wrong you can be. That's all I'm saying.

groppet: I much prefer spoiling my nieces and nephew.

I think this is the way I'm going to go as well.

And their average meal consists entirely of...

Publikwerks: But equating taking care of your cat to raising a child is like equating playing a flight simulator to flying a jumbo jet.

That analogy does a disservice to flight simulators.

H31N0US: Girion47: 28, on my 2nd house, married, and no kids.

We love it this way.

Going to a Yelp sponsored Big Lebowski bowling event tonight.

Did happy hour gourmet tacos last night.

Happy hour asian food monday night.

Warrior Dash and pool party last saturday.


Why would I want kids, seems like all of that stuff would have been much harder to plan.

(Sucks in belly, inserts thumbs into suspenders) Well when I was your age, I was single and going crazy on the Jersey shore (no I was not a guido). Up all night, going to bars, etc etc. Yankee games all summer with 13 other guys who bought the same ticket package, out all winter in Manhattan going out at 11 PM and coming home at 5 AM.

It's hard to understand, but eventually that gets boring.

I think getting married in your 20's, let alone having kids at that age, is nuts. Those are your years of immortality. Live them to the fullest.

But later in life, say mid 30's, family life can be a very enriching experience. Watching your kid learn and grow is hard to describe. It's not all rainbows and unicorns but it's not all puke and noise either. Also, you have more money at that time and in a better position to defend your savings against the burdens of child rearing.

For me mid-30's is going to be international travel, I fully expect to be a CIH by then and my wife a PE, hopefully owning her own firm(possible given the circumstances) or senior at another company in the area(again, possible given the circumstances)

URAPNIS: Julieahni: URAPNIS: I don't want kids so I really can't justify getting married.

I justified getting married, at 37, because I lost my job and health insurance. My husband and I married for financial reasons. I mean, we love each other, but we didn't need the whole marriage thing. And I hate kids. So, there's that.

My g/f is an idiot when it comes to money.
There is no farking way I would rely on her for anything of the sort.
Farking pisses me off just thinking about it.

I wasn't clear. And I was wrong. I married for health insurance, which I think is farked up. We were happily cohabitating without being married. But, that's the U.S. for you.

So, if i get this right, Londoners have raised a bunch of wild children, led by an over aged boy child who'll convince a young lass in a nightgown to run off with him?

cefm: This generation isn't lazy or irrespoonsible, they're living in a depression in which the keys to "adult" living are priced out of their reach.

No, folks in their twenties and thirties (forties and above) continuing to complain about a recession after four years (!!!) of it, are just being lazy. At a certain point, excuses grow invalid.

groppet: Im 37 raising my 26 yr old roomate. Yeah no kids for me thank you. I kinda get the itch for them once in a while but I would like to provide an even better chance then I had. But the way things look that aint happening.

The bible thumper I work with is amazed that I am not married and have no kids she keeps spouting on how they are a blessing and I should have some. I told her I wont have them with the women I date. I much prefer spoiling my nieces and nephew.

Had my son when I was 37.
Knocked up the gf and she turned out to not be the motherly type, although she insisted on having the kid.
Kicked her out and kept the kid.
Good job, good money, the (5y/o) kid and I share the toys and we play ball in the house.

I drive the sports-car, though.

36
Single
Male
Purchased a house, bank still owns more then I do but I'm getting there
Disposable Income (though less then before I got the house *shakes fist*)
No interest in having kids of my own, and thus no interest in getting married.

Its not being irresponsible, it has more to do with being able to stand up and say no, that life (wife+2.5kids) isn't for me. I have a bad temper (which is why I quit drinking a while ago), am fairly uncompromising (the very opposite of what it takes for a lasting relationship), and bluntly do not like children under say... 8 or 9. I've never seen a baby and gone "Aww how cute", I generally think the opposite.

I'm a nice guy, I enjoy life, but I enjoy MY life not someone else picture of what my life should be :) (much to my parents chagrin... but I keep telling them they want another baby around... ADOPT... or wait for one of my brothers to knock someone up, that is almost inevitable considering they're man-whores :P )

sweetmelissa31: I mean seriously my cat has a shoulder. Why would I even consider having a human baby?

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I hope you named him Igor.

/Hump? What hump?

Girion47: For me mid-30's is going to be international travel, I fully expect to be a CIH by then and my wife a PE, hopefully owning her own firm(possible given the circumstances) or senior at another company in the area(again, possible given the circumstances)

Yup. I lived in Hong Kong at 36.

Rembrant_Q_Einstein: Buffet: Getting married is for old, bald, fat dudes who can't get laid. Having babies is for old losers who have no life and don't want one.

Now you tell me!!!

Fear not. It's never too late. Dump the brats and the ball and chain and hit the gym. If you drive a four door car, sell it and get a two door, high performance real one. Trash your Ward Cleaver wardrobe and get some cool threads. Hit the town running. Ta-da!

someone needs to discover a water soluble perfectly safe birth control that works in miniscule doses but doesn't cause harm if a lot is taken

then the govt should put it into the drinking water, soda, processed food, and beer

anyone who wants to have a kid should be required to fill out a form and take a test no more complex than the written test for the driver's license - if they pass they get a supply of antidote, if not then they have to adopt if they can qualify

Step 1: Spend extravagantly without saving for the future.
Step 2: Retire w/ little to no assets or savings
Step 3: Wish that you had some family to move in with now that you're old, sick, and broke.
Step 4: Watch social security fall apart because your (and successive) generation(s) did not add to the rising general population whose wages constitute the program.
Step 5: Blame your parents.

But srsly:
Not trying to get down on people who are waiting until the appropriate time to have kids (my wife and I put it off for about five years), but the world kinda needs... well, people. Nor do I have any beef with people who live responsibly, never have children, and plan for their future retirement. The kind of people described in TFA, however, deliberately (and from the tone of the author, GLEEFULLY) are living without the slightest foresight or sense of responsibility, and while there's no problem with that now, in another 20-30 years things are not going to look so rosy. And in all honesty, the thought of my kid becoming an adult and having to pick up the slack for an earlier generation that couldn't behave like grown-ups kind of ticks me off. But then, I live across the pond, so I'm probably just being a curmudgeon.

I might go so far as to say that having children and raising them to be good citizens (note that the two are linked) is a form of civic service - not that everyone needs to fulfill their obligation to their community in that SPECIFIC way, but somebody has to do it. A lot of "somebodies," actually.

FloydA: Why is this so difficult a concept for some people to grasp?

"If you don't like all the same things I like, you're flawed."

See also: politics, religion, sports, hobbies, etc.

Tat'dGreaser: Ohhhh I love these "let's justify why I'm single with no kids and in my 30's" threads!

I'll go first, I'm ugly and most likely retarded.

Now you

Well, I'm married but I have no kids. I bet my sperm is retarded.