miss diminutive: Men would turn to porn or prostitutes in droves before turning gay. I don't think there's a guy out there who's thinking "I'm so tired of dealing with women and their bullshiat, I wonder if there's a dick around here I could suck..."

You'd be surprised, sort of. My very best 'knows where the bodies are buried' best friend is gay. He told me he's had more than one straight friend come to him saying how hard up they are and asking him to relieve their "tension" or whatever. See also: "men's parties"

SurfaceTension: miss diminutive: Men would turn to porn or prostitutes in droves before turning gay. I don't think there's a guy out there who's thinking "I'm so tired of dealing with women and their bullshiat, I wonder if there's a dick around here I could suck..."

You'd be surprised, sort of. My very best 'knows where the bodies are buried' best friend is gay. He told me he's had more than one straight friend come to him saying how hard up they are and asking him to relieve their "tension" or whatever. See also: "men's parties"

I assume these straight men were asking him to pleasure them and not the other way around, right?

MrBallou: Don't even try handing them one that's been canceled. They catch on fast...

Not if you target the dim-witted ones.

miss diminutive: I assume these straight men were asking him to pleasure them and not the other way around, right?

Yes, althought apparently guys at those men's parties can go either way. Friend says he can always tell the straight ones because they won't kiss him on the mouth.

IrishBlunder: FirstNationalBastard: So, according to this author, women are now completely useless?

For intercourse, so it seems. But there's still plenty of:
1) blowjobs,
2) sandwich making,
3) laundry (and other household chores),

...needing to be done, so don't rule 'em out just yet.

So if I'm married but I'm not getting beej's, my sandwiches aren't made for me and I do my own laundry, then I'm probably addicted to porn.

KiwDaWabbit: Maybe it's just me, but it seems like there is a thread like this twice a week. I'm getting a kick since I'm in a sexless relationship.

Well why don't you go fix that?

KiwDaWabbit: Maybe it's just me, but it seems like there is a thread like this twice a week. I'm getting a kick since I'm in a sexless relationship.

I'm assuming this isn't by choice?

Someone is at a minimum, confusing a symptom with a cause.

X doesn't want sex is very different from X doesn't want sex with her partner. Put George Clooney in the room and see them start to prance.

Just a rubbish article that fails to take into account the larger picture. There's a recession, heavy unemployment, everyone's worried about money. Yeah, libido tends to fall when there's a lot of stress on the marriage.

phaseolus: Your friend's insane. "Feminism" didn't ruin anything, she did it all on her own.

I've been trying to "de-ignorant" myself and have spent a fair bit of time over the past couple of months trying to educate myself with respect to the current feminism "movement". Based on my research, I've come to the following conclusions:

1. 20% of "current feminists" promote the idea that women are human beings and deserve the same respect, advantages, and freedoms that men currently enjoy
2. 30% of "current feminists" have been sexually assaulted and, on various levels, fear and hate men
3. The remaining 50% of "current feminists" are basically losers trying to rationalize why they've failed at life (by blaming all of their shortcomings on the "hegemonic kyriarchy", refusing to accept any personal responsibility whatsoever, etc.)

Your friend sounds like she falls into the last category. No matter what choices she makes, if they don't turn out to her liking, "someone else" will be at fault.

gaslight: Someone is at a minimum, confusing a symptom with a cause.

X doesn't want sex is very different from X doesn't want sex with her partner. Put George Clooney in the room and see them start to prance.

Just a rubbish article that fails to take into account the larger picture. There's a recession, heavy unemployment, everyone's worried about money. Yeah, libido tends to fall when there's a lot of stress on the marriage.

Is that you, Fabio?

KiwDaWabbit: Well, not by my choice. I'm not saying I'm perfect by any means, far from it. I just have to accept that this is how shiat is going to be, I guess.

Why? Did she provide a reason for her change in attitude towards sex?

If she's got no other reason besides "meh - I don't feel like it anymore" you've got every right to tell her that sex is very important to you and that without it you don't see the relationship moving forward.

gaslight: Someone is at a minimum, confusing a symptom with a cause.

X doesn't want sex is very different from X doesn't want sex with her partner. Put George Clooney in the room and see them start to prance.

Just a rubbish article that fails to take into account the larger picture. There's a recession, heavy unemployment, everyone's worried about money. Yeah, libido tends to fall when there's a lot of stress on the marriage.

I nominate you to do that study and report it. But you'll get the same result. Even after 2 or 3 years, there's not a woman in the world who would still look at Clooney the same way she did the day they met. And see how Clooney likes it when he tries to romanticize or seduce a woman he's known for 3 years but can only get laid when she wants it, but has to be ready and willing at a moment's notice.

omgwtfetc: Honestly, that seems highly unlikely. Perhaps he misintperpreted what his straight friends were saying? I highly doubt a genuinely straight guy would approach an openly gay guy and ask him to relieve his "tension", not that there's anything wrong with that.

I think the phrase one of his straight friends used was something along the lines of "man, I'm really hard up. Will you help me?" And yeah, it led to some serious awkwardness between them. It's to the point if I even TRY to joke around about stuff like that, my friend is like "there's a wall!" (meaning don't even go there in jest)

KiwDaWabbit: It's a different story every time. I tried. I gave up.

/Throw it away?

Well yea, either fix it or throw it away. My sympathy ends when you don't do anything to fix it.

Jim_Callahan: Woman says sex isn't marketable in literature recently. Uses a porn book that hit the NY Times bestseller list within the last year in her argument.

Stupid, or just really good at self-deception?

//Don't really see a need to analyze her rationalization for why porn books aren't selling well when, very clearly, they ARE selling well.

The problem is that her porn novels aren't selling well, so clearly the problem is with everyone else.

KiwDaWabbit: I wasn't asking for your sympathy, though. "Trying" is a matter of opinion, too. I feel like I try, but she sees it differently. I can't be held solely responsible for "fixing" it, at least in my eyes. There needs to be some level of cooperation.

Ok, then bail on the relationship.

cherryl taggart: Intercourse is boring....

you're doing it wrong

Where are the tinfoil hats? Isn't there something in the water or in our fruit or something making women not want sex anymore?
I don't know, but it would have to be something that the intended audience eats but the hispanic ladies at Wal*Mart with the 6 kids at her feet don't consume. My best guess? Government issued anti-sex chemicals in sushi!

/Finally, the Japanese will have their revenge.
//a dish best served cold, slimy, and disgusting, wrapped in god knows what and tastes like ugly
///wait, are we talking about sex or sushi now?

KiwDaWabbit: I did try that, last week, actually. The next day, she was hospitalized and is still there now. I know the two aren't related necessarily, but it's a bit more complicated at this point. I feel like I need to do my best to not be selfish and figure the health problems out first.

Ok, well I can understand the difficulty but sometimes you have to take care of yourself. She's just going to drag you down with her

Tat'dGreaser: KiwDaWabbit: I wasn't asking for your sympathy, though. "Trying" is a matter of opinion, too. I feel like I try, but she sees it differently. I can't be held solely responsible for "fixing" it, at least in my eyes. There needs to be some level of cooperation.

Ok, then bail on the relationship.

Okay, all I can suggest is couple's counselling and getting her to get her hormone levels checked. If her hormone's are farked up she won't want sex. If she is on the pill that'll do it too.