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(NYPost)   The modern American bachelor party is no longer about booze, strippers, and guys who know how to keep a secret, and more about a quiet dinner out with a couple of close friends   (nypost.com) divider line 42
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2012-06-14 12:20:26 PM
5 votes:
...a shifting mindset among men who cite a "been there, done that" mentality, financial fatigue and a new distaste for raunchier activities that don't fit into their lives.


It's also worth noting that the guy in the article is 35. People in general are getting married much later in life and the wild oats were all sown years ago.
2012-06-14 01:50:42 PM
4 votes:
That's the groom's story, and he is sticking to it.
2012-06-14 12:46:44 PM
4 votes:

FreakinB: A few of my friends have started to get engaged. I know I'll be going to a weekend bachelor party in AC in August, with a couple not-yet-planned ones over the following months.

I may get killed by my fellow thread-goers for this, but I will say that I don't think I'd want strippers at mine. Drinking, gambling, and a great meal? Yes, yes, and yes. But I've always found the whole stripper thing awkward.


I don't have any sexual hang-ups, but strippers make me feel uncomfortable, too. Kind of like homeless beggars.
2012-06-14 02:04:34 PM
3 votes:
At my bachelor party we did clay shooting, barbeque, and off-roading. My brother is doing the same, only him and his buddies are going drinking downtown afterwards. The whole stripper thing gets pretty played out by the time you are in your mid-20's.
2012-06-14 02:00:57 PM
3 votes:
The last one I went to consisted of all-day paintball, followed by a good meal with friends and hanging out. No strippers, but I think it was way more fun. You want to see naked people, the internet kinda has that covered.

I don't understand this idea that "IF YOU DON'T HAVE STRIPPERS YOU'RE NOT A REAL MAN". That seems... silly.
2012-06-14 02:09:15 PM
2 votes:
The whole tradition is pretty f*cking retarded. "We're getting married because we love each other more than we ever imagined possible... so let's go cheat on each other in a crazy blowout party!"

If never seeing another naked dude/chick again, other than your spouse, is that f*cking scary to you, DON'T GET MARRIED.
2012-06-14 02:06:49 PM
2 votes:
I don't care about strippers, but drinking and gambling are a must. Vegas it is.
2012-06-14 02:02:10 PM
2 votes:

FreakinB: A few of my friends have started to get engaged. I know I'll be going to a weekend bachelor party in AC in August, with a couple not-yet-planned ones over the following months.

I may get killed by my fellow thread-goers for this, but I will say that I don't think I'd want strippers at mine. Drinking, gambling, and a great meal? Yes, yes, and yes. But I've always found the whole stripper thing awkward.


The bachelor party is not about the bachelor. It's about his married friends.
2012-06-14 02:00:57 PM
2 votes:
I don't see the appeal of "My last night of freedom so I just have to see titties" either. If you felt that way, then why are you getting married?

I had a blast at my brother's bachelor party and we just went bar hopping a little.
2012-06-14 01:57:26 PM
2 votes:
last one i went to we did a racing day, followed by a fancy dinner and then we hit the bars.

strippers are kind of passe, because they're associated with bad cliched movies, low class, c section scars and the outdated boomer concepts of marriage. they're just not cool anymore.
2012-06-14 01:56:57 PM
2 votes:
I was working at a strip club when I got married, so the idea of strippers seemed incredibly stupid. I went to a bachelor party last weekend that consisted of brats, burgers, frisbees, and lots and lots of beer and tequila. It was one of the more fun times I've had in months.
2012-06-14 01:56:42 PM
2 votes:
"A bachelor party is a rite of passage for guys," protests Carone, the entertainment director at Maxim. "When else can a group of guy friends cut loose like this"


uh, all through high school, though college and into your mid twenties...
2012-06-14 12:39:11 PM
2 votes:
I got married 13 years ago. I had my three best buds over for a LAN party, and we played Warcraft 2 all night. I'm such a party animal.
2012-06-14 12:36:54 PM
2 votes:
A few of my friends have started to get engaged. I know I'll be going to a weekend bachelor party in AC in August, with a couple not-yet-planned ones over the following months.

I may get killed by my fellow thread-goers for this, but I will say that I don't think I'd want strippers at mine. Drinking, gambling, and a great meal? Yes, yes, and yes. But I've always found the whole stripper thing awkward.
2012-06-14 05:21:17 PM
1 votes:

BojanglesPaladin: And the "it's not cool" excuse sound slike the pudgy kid who stayed home becasue he was afraid to get into trouble.


vs

BojanglesPaladin: You know how I know you haven't read my posts? At no point have I argued that these places are cool. Very emphatically I have said the opposite.


and

BojanglesPaladin: I'm not judging anyone's "manliness", although it seems like you might be with your charicterization of "the kind of people who go to these places".


vs

BojanglesPaladin: But when you ARE a younger man, and you are simply choosing NOT to have the stupid and foolish adventures and reckless debauchery... well that's just kind of pussiefied and lame.


So you could see why i would be confused. first you say the person saying strip clubs aren't cool is a pudgy kid staying home. then you say you never said strip clubs are cool. those two statements seem somewhat contradictory. Then you follow it up with saying the type of person who is young but chooses not to have stupid and foolish adventures is pussiefied and lame but that you aren't judging anybodies manliness. If you could maybe pick which of those 2 opposed views you actually felt, i would be WAY less confused by the way this conversation is going....
2012-06-14 03:47:00 PM
1 votes:

Tat'dGreaser: Heamer: I'm 26 and have never been to strip club, nor have I ever seen a stripper in person (at least, none who has ever identified herself as such). I certainly don't condemn what strippers do, I've just never felt like I had a need for their service. That is, the idea of paying for a boner doesn't appeal to me. If I ever get married, my bachelor party will likely fall into the "quiet dinner" category.

I see this more and more on Fark, like a badge of honor.

Just curious, are you attracted to naked women? Now I'm not calling you gay, doing that as an insult is messed up. I'm just wondering if guys are more and more asexual these days. Or is it just the internet.


For me it's because I had two good friends who used to work as strippers and one late night around a campfire after a lot of beer I learned what strippers really think about their clients, and it ain't pretty, and it ain't how I want a woman to think of me ever (with an odd mixture of pity and contempt)

OTOH I knew my wife was a keeper when the first time I took her to a burning man style camping event, said stripper friend, who I hadn't seen in a while came barrelling up to me, stark naked and literally wrapped herself around me in a hug. Without batting an eye, my now wife asked to be introduced, shook the girl's hand and complimented her nipple ring.
2012-06-14 03:22:19 PM
1 votes:

BojanglesPaladin: StrangeQ: /seriously, it's a naked human being. Am I supposed to be impressed?

Be hosest. Some of the naked women ARE very impressive. God (or Goddess) does not bless everyone in the same ways.

A beautiful, sexy woman is beautiful and sexy. It's a good thing to enjoy the sight of a particularly attractive woman naked.


Okay...so I look at them, and then what? "Nice tits, here's $20, come shake them in my face." That's money well spent...
2012-06-14 03:20:24 PM
1 votes:

kindms: The observations are kind of skewed tho, because for every guy who has a wife that gives them crap, there are the guys that just don't want to go out and do stuff but they are to chickenshiat to say it and blame their wives.


Or, you know, the ones that are in a happy relationship and don't see having a wife as just another possession that they would prefer if they could just hang up in the garage next to their Harley and biatchin' Camaro while they sit inside and play video games.

I love reading these threads though; I would be willing to be that all the BEER TITS STRIPPERS GAMBLING WHORES SHOTS PARTY WOOO!!! mouth breathers in here are the same ones that always show up in threads biatching about their wife/marriage. Maybe if you saw it as something more than an achievement on your Xbox profile you might understand why your lives are so shiatty.
2012-06-14 03:05:44 PM
1 votes:

Alonjar: *shrug* its just not that hard to get laid these days... and if you're getting laid, a stripper seems hugely pointless.


You couldn't be more wrong, my friend. If you aren't getting any in the real world, watching strippers is almost intolerably cruel, like starving to death staring through the big glass window of a bakery.

It's when you intimately know the day to day challenges of a relationship or a marriage, that's when strippers are the most magical.

They are a fantasy, they aren't real. They don't have insecurities, or hang ups, or baggage. You don't have to get to know them, listen to their problems, or support them emotionally.

They are a blank canvas. A beautiful little plaything that, for a few modest dollars, will let you project anything you want onto. For the length of a pop song, its all about you. Someone is trying to please you.

Any man who gets nagged about picking up his socks or unloading the serving bowls into the wrong cabinet, or has to nod along to another half hour dissertation about how "the other women at work are just jealous of my ideas," has to see the sublime pleasure in that.

Also, they're naked. And that never gets boring.
2012-06-14 02:18:05 PM
1 votes:

Tat'dGreaser: Heamer: I'm 26 and have never been to strip club, nor have I ever seen a stripper in person (at least, none who has ever identified herself as such). I certainly don't condemn what strippers do, I've just never felt like I had a need for their service. That is, the idea of paying for a boner doesn't appeal to me. If I ever get married, my bachelor party will likely fall into the "quiet dinner" category.

I see this more and more on Fark, like a badge of honor.

Just curious, are you attracted to naked women? Now I'm not calling you gay, doing that as an insult is messed up. I'm just wondering if guys are more and more asexual these days. Or is it just the internet.


I have no sexual hang-ups at all. For me the whole stripper thing is just too...I don't know...artificial? Maybe? There's just something off about the whole arrangement that overrides the sexual aspect for me and makes me "meh" towards it. I don't see it as a badge of honor, I'm not going to brag about it or anything. And if someone else likes strippers it doesn't bother me at all. I'm just talking about it because it happened to line up with the subject of this thread.

/26 also
//I have been to strip clubs but extremely occasionally
2012-06-14 02:15:58 PM
1 votes:

shower_in_my_socks: The whole tradition is pretty f*cking retarded. "We're getting married because we love each other more than we ever imagined possible... so let's go cheat on each other in a crazy blowout party!"

If never seeing another naked dude/chick again, other than your spouse, is that f*cking scary to you, DON'T GET MARRIED.


I've never understood it either, nor do I understand the reaction of people who are proponents of this behavior. They seem to not only feel entitled to doing it, like it is some important right of passage, but they are simultaneously mystified and in some cases, dismissive or reactionary to people who don't want to do that for their bachelor party.
2012-06-14 02:15:17 PM
1 votes:
Oh, and I imagine the internet with its easily accessable find-anything-you-want porn selection makes looking at porn seem like a better option, not to mention cheaper.
2012-06-14 02:14:57 PM
1 votes:

2 grams: animal900: Like someone else already mentioned, if your oats aren't already sown by the time you get married (in this day and age), you're getting married too young. That said, the trip upstate to go hiking sounds boring as hell. There's a happy medium.

I went to a couple strips clubs on a whim with some of the guys one night a few weeks ago. First time any of us had been in at least 10 years. Man, things have changed. It's now little more than some chick dancing on a distant stage raised up behind the bar, with dozens of other strippers prostitutes propositioning you non stop for private dances....

You make it sound like it's bad thing...


It got old in a hurry. There's only so many $60, two song lap dances that one wants to spring for...
2012-06-14 02:13:28 PM
1 votes:

Tat'dGreaser: Heamer: I'm 26 and have never been to strip club, nor have I ever seen a stripper in person (at least, none who has ever identified herself as such). I certainly don't condemn what strippers do, I've just never felt like I had a need for their service. That is, the idea of paying for a boner doesn't appeal to me. If I ever get married, my bachelor party will likely fall into the "quiet dinner" category.

I see this more and more on Fark, like a badge of honor.

Just curious, are you attracted to naked women? Now I'm not calling you gay, doing that as an insult is messed up. I'm just wondering if guys are more and more asexual these days. Or is it just the internet.


*shrug* its just not that hard to get laid these days... and if you're getting laid, a stripper seems hugely pointless.
2012-06-14 02:12:44 PM
1 votes:

Tat'dGreaser: Heamer: I'm 26 and have never been to strip club, nor have I ever seen a stripper in person (at least, none who has ever identified herself as such). I certainly don't condemn what strippers do, I've just never felt like I had a need for their service. That is, the idea of paying for a boner doesn't appeal to me. If I ever get married, my bachelor party will likely fall into the "quiet dinner" category.

I see this more and more on Fark, like a badge of honor.

Just curious, are you attracted to naked women? Now I'm not calling you gay, doing that as an insult is messed up. I'm just wondering if guys are more and more asexual these days. Or is it just the internet.


I'm 23 and the same way. I'm very much attracted to women, the idea just doesn't appeal to me. Maybe it's because I grew up close to Northwest Highway in Dallas and the places always seemed shiatty and sad.
2012-06-14 02:12:08 PM
1 votes:
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2012-06-14 02:10:39 PM
1 votes:
I can tell you right now, I don't want strippers. I want to get drunk, skydive, paint ball, and go-cart. Hopefully all at once. I hope the UP is as lawless now as it was when I was a kid 10 years ago.

/never been to a strip club. Seems sad and gross.
2012-06-14 02:10:16 PM
1 votes:
I feel it's still pretty common. Bachelor parties aren't as distinguishable from bachelorette parties because women always wear dresses, sashes & tiaras like a princess, and have miniature dicks on everything.

Actually, come to think of it. It would be pretty boss to wear armor and crown like a prince and have a bunch of mini-vaginas being thrown around.
2012-06-14 02:09:14 PM
1 votes:
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Different people enjoy themselves in different ways.
2012-06-14 02:08:41 PM
1 votes:

Heamer: I'm 26 and have never been to strip club, nor have I ever seen a stripper in person (at least, none who has ever identified herself as such). I certainly don't condemn what strippers do, I've just never felt like I had a need for their service. That is, the idea of paying for a boner doesn't appeal to me. If I ever get married, my bachelor party will likely fall into the "quiet dinner" category.


I see this more and more on Fark, like a badge of honor.

Just curious, are you attracted to naked women? Now I'm not calling you gay, doing that as an insult is messed up. I'm just wondering if guys are more and more asexual these days. Or is it just the internet.
2012-06-14 02:07:08 PM
1 votes:
Quoted from the article...

"more than half of the female respondents reported that their fiancés are planning low-key affairs for their bachelor parties"

Uh huh. Don't cry Drew, men are just getting better at keeping thier mouths shut!

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2012-06-14 02:06:47 PM
1 votes:
I'm 26 and have never been to strip club, nor have I ever seen a stripper in person (at least, none who has ever identified herself as such). I certainly don't condemn what strippers do, I've just never felt like I had a need for their service. That is, the idea of paying for a boner doesn't appeal to me. If I ever get married, my bachelor party will likely fall into the "quiet dinner" category.
2012-06-14 02:01:12 PM
1 votes:
I'm guessing this guy (the author) thinks everyone should also get totes wasted on New Years Eve and St Patty day and shiat too. I wonder what it must be like to be an automaton driven by societal expectations? What a child...oh, wait, he is interviewing a Maxim editor...wow, that explains a lot.
2012-06-14 01:59:58 PM
1 votes:

FreakinB: I may get killed by my fellow thread-goers for this, but I will say that I don't think I'd want strippers at mine. Drinking, gambling, and a great meal? Yes, yes, and yes. But I've always found the whole stripper thing awkward.


THIS.
2012-06-14 01:57:45 PM
1 votes:
I have actually noticed that more females I know go the stripper route than guys I know.
2012-06-14 01:57:20 PM
1 votes:
These stories come out every so often. Very anecdotal. For every whipped guy like this, there's still a ton of guys who do it up the old fashioned way.
2012-06-14 01:55:09 PM
1 votes:
The importance of this:

brap: It's worth reading through to the punchline: "He notes sheepishly, however, that his fiancée "is thinking of Vegas for her [bachelorette party]."

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!


And This:

Somacandra: Solution: Don't marry a woman unwilling to be one of the strippers at the party.

See how often the simple solution will elude us?


Can not be over stated.
2012-06-14 01:54:53 PM
1 votes:

kid_icarus: ...a shifting mindset among men who cite a "been there, done that" mentality, financial fatigue and a new distaste for raunchier activities that don't fit into their lives.


It's also worth noting that the guy in the article is 35. People in general are getting married much later in life and the wild oats were all sown years ago.


That's what I'm reading between the lines. When my buddy got married and we were all 24 we went to Tahoe for 4 days, I'm now 34 and the two bachelor parties I've been to in the last 3 years both included a day of golf and an a restaurant that required a jacket.
2012-06-14 01:54:27 PM
1 votes:
FTA: "It was dorky, but so am I. I admit it," says Diamond, a 31-year-old West Village resident who made sure to filter out friends who wouldn't be happy with his G-rated menu of activities. His bachelor weekend kicked off with a civilized brunch at the organic, locally sourced East Village spot Back Forty, then moved on to a karaoke-thon and ended in an anticlimax, with Diamond and his buddies crashing on his couch to watch Ken Burns' documentary about the Civil War.



I going to guess that "Diamond" also squats to piss.
2012-06-14 01:47:25 PM
1 votes:
I've had friends with both kinds this year, one in Vegas, one in New Orleans... and one hiking and whatnot in a cabin in northern California... I somehow only made it to two of those.
2012-06-14 12:49:36 PM
1 votes:
Part of it is probably that people are getting married later in life. But most bachelor parties I've been to have involved strippers, strip clubs, or escorts.

The tame parties suck, least of which is because the woman has convinced the guy she would absolutely not allow him to have strippers. F*CK THAT.
2012-06-14 12:05:07 PM
1 votes:
It's worth reading through to the punchline: "He notes sheepishly, however, that his fiancée "is thinking of Vegas for her [bachelorette party]."

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!
 
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