Sir Cumference the Flatulent: Wow...the butthurt is strong in this thread.

No shiat. You diss facebook you might as well be a modern Nazi trying to tell Jews that they should stop celebrating Passover and go schtoop a shiksa while taking it in the ass from a goy instead.

No Godwin intended.

Oh the important troubles of "friending" people! Friend for publicity, Friend for getting laid, Unfriend when it won't benefit you.

Be glad you're not the person the murderer picked as prey.

Ok, full disclosure: I accept Friend Requests after a first meeting. My main hobby leads me to meet many people at events who want to follow what I do, and I also get a chance to find out about more events going on around me via word of mouth. I can't care less about the judgmental Farkers who insist that must be some sign of a deep seated psychological inadequacy or failing on my part. That's their hangup, not mine, especially since they rush to judgement and assume too much regarding subby's reasoning for friending the guy in the first place.

OTOH, I don't take any of that too seriously. IT'S A WEBSITE, PEOPLE.

Now, to subby's issue: the case cited is pretty rare. Besides, who wants to rely on the reporter's assertion that THE DEFRIENDING WAS THE SOLE CAUSE FOR THE MURDER?

Seriously? We are talking about an obvious sociopath or a stalker. In the second case, it's obvious any resistance to stalking would have triggered the response, and that includes IRL. In the first case.... Guy could have simply spun the Wheel of Excuses for Killing that morning and it fell on "GRARGH FB DEFRIENDING" as opposed to "GRARGH STARBUCKS COFFEE TOO HOT" or "GRARGH GIRLS LAUGH AT ME". We're also talking about modern reporting; lazy reporter, reporter with an agenda, anyone?

Personally, unless you believe the guy is innocent, drop him:

He's unlikely to notice your actions unless he'd been specifically following you or you're a frequent poster.
He's likely to have more problems at this point with avoiding incarceration anyway.
He's likely to have so many other friends drop him that he won't really have time to concern himself with you if you're on his periphery. Unless he only has a few friends.

CSB Time: we had a pedo busted at our job; nothing done at work, but they raided his house after a local kid accused him of being "Mr Hands". They found a hidden drive (reporter's words, not mine) with Gigs of kiddie pron and sent him away. He was one of my FB friends -- and no, he never gave anyone at work clues as to his deviancy. His FB friends dropped precipitously and a few days after I dropped him, his account disappeared. He was a closer friend than what subby describes, but the case was pretty damning and none of us particularly felt like having our computers raided to see if one of us was part of his perv group, especially since we're in the Tech Industry and kinda need to not have our stuff taken by looters cops. I was one of the last to defriend him, so that's how I noticed he had been losing friends left and right; I was wanting to believe that he was innocent but the charges looked like they would stick after more info got out.

Dude, we know each other from Fark. You should friend me. I haven't been arrested for murder yet.

Facebook needs categories and a way to determine what can be seen by different categories. *

// because not everyone can be classified as "friend" ... there are people that I would like to add to Facebook, but haven't because they're not "friends" ... EX, people that have gotten photography training from me should see my photography related posts. Whereas my non photog friends don't need to see those.

// likewise, family members should be able to see my reunion plans, but friends from work don't.

// and folks I know on Xbox live only need to see gaming posts.

// and farkers only need to see fark related posts (and with categorizations, I would probably add more farkers).

// etc etc

// Ahh who am I kidding, they would just screw up the permissions anyway. And the last I checked, there were some sort of categorizations, but they were flaky and unintuitive. I guess I'm looking for something more like how unix groups work. (IE, this picture is visible by this group).

elchupacabra: Ok, full disclosure: I accept Friend Requests after a first meeting. My main hobby leads me to meet many people at events who want to follow what I do

And wouldn't it be nice to stick those people into a category, like "Cat copter folks".

911Jenny: Lesson learned. Don't talk to strangers.

♬ When you were just a young girl and still in school ♬
♬ How come you never learned the golden rule ♬
♬ Don't talk to strange men, don't be a fool ♬
♬ I'm hearing stories, I don't think that's cool ♬

Now tell me, how's life in the big city
I hear the competition's tough, baby that's a pity
And every man's an actor, every girl is pretty
I don't like what's getting back to me

lordargent: elchupacabra: Ok, full disclosure: I accept Friend Requests after a first meeting. My main hobby leads me to meet many people at events who want to follow what I do

And wouldn't it be nice to stick those people into a category, like "Cat copter folks".


Looks like it's coming... I seem to note that they have "Close Friends" and other category labels when I add people.

Or you could just learn some basic HTML and do your own f**king web site.

Hello? Anybody remember the rest of the web?

If you've only met him once, I'm pretty sure he has bigger things to worry about than whether or not you remain his "friend".

hillary: When every large corporation and every mom and pop business all have signs that say "call us on the telephone" you'd think that most people would figure out that this is one giant spam-like viral advertising gimmick that they have signed into designed to invade your privacy solely for monetary gain. You'd think that. Surprisingly, you would be wrong.

FTFY

Depends. Did you help him commit the murder?

elchupacabra : Looks like it's coming... I seem to note that they have "Close Friends" and other category labels when I add people.

It's there, but the way it functions leaves a lot to be desired.



Hmm, there's "add list", but where is Edit, Delete, are they hidden off in some obscure area or do they just not exist?

Both of those elementary school lists are empty (One was always empty, one had two people in it).

I removed the two people from that list, because they are actually good friends (so should be in my friends list) so I don't need to categorize them in a list of people that went to a school that I went to for 6th grade.

So I have two empty "smart" lists (which doesn't seem very smart IMHO), every school or job you add generates a 'smart' list, and if you don't have anyone on your friends list that went to the same school or worked at that same job, the list will be empty (and what's the point of an autogenerated empty list?)

hillary: Or you could just learn some basic HTML and do your own f**king web site

The stuff that I post to facebook and the stuff that goes on my website are vastly different.

// was a web developer in a former life, now after 15 years, I'm much lazier (I tell other people what to build now).

No one gives a flying fark who your "friends" are on Facebook.

hillary: Or you could just learn some basic HTML and do your own f**king web site.

Hello? Anybody remember the rest of the web?

Who was this directed at? Not sure how you'd expect your solution to work for most people; besides, pretty much every successful idea either gets commercialized or stays niche and therefore has limited utility to individuals like myself.

Besides... Basic HTML? Pretty sure you're not gonna get far with "Basic HTML".

Holy crap - I've unfriended people for using "parameters" when they meant "limits". Also for writing exclusively in lower case. It seems others have a much higher bar for the unfriending process.

I like pie.

Boy that -fb sure gets around

It all depends when during their life you meet a convicted murder. I have met a few, mostly in prison well away from dangerous at that point in their lives.

One killer I met three days before he committed murder. The guy was mad at me for a teacher yelling at him to pick up a candy wrapper that he thought I threw down. He punched me in the face and walked into the principal's office and took the suspension without hardly a word. He raped and killed an elderly lady while the rest of us were at school. True story, whenever I run into somone who had attended that school we end up talking about Jeremy. I only attended Lakeville High for a semester, but when I tell them I was the one Jeremy popped they always say "Oh, you're the guy".

It's my lot in life that a convicted killer on my friend list on fb is a good thing.
I am really not kidding

logistic: So you addpeople as "friends" that you only have met one time? Then concern yourself with how you appear, as if everyone around is watching your move and waiting with baited breath to judge your actions?

You sound stupid and self-obsessed.

1. You didn't RTFA. You're a farking retard.

2. Old news is so exciting!

When I was a kid we were friends with a guy who is now serving life. He faced death, but got out of it by being a snitch.
When we were 7-12 years old he was like any other kid, but then got into drugs in high school. When he was around 17 he started hanging out with the wrong crowd. They robbed a local business owner who was well known and loved. The crime was brutal, they family had money and there was little doubt all involved would face death. It was kind of a shocker as he was well known too and his father was on the city council. The others got death, he got life. No chance of ever getting out. Chances are good you know and have met many madmen and victims alike.

/apparently some of you missed what i meant by my "vegan whipped cream" post.
//Just skip the whole mess and use the N2O. I am sure that is vegan.

kd8our: When he was around 17 he started hanging out with the wrong crowd.
Wrong Crowd is the name of my Crowded House cover band,