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(Scotsman)   "Slave master" husband, who severly beat wife over DS/SM marriage pact, quits as local charity director. (W/ creepy pic of what slave master husbands look like)   (scotsman.com) divider line 86
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2012-06-04 08:45:01 AM  
He admitted assaulting his wife, threatening her with violence, inducing her to remove her clothes, slapping her on the face and body, striking her on the body with a belt, seizing her by the hair, pushing her on to a couch and slapping her.

Mrs Western went to police after suffering three beatings on the same day at their flat in Murrayburn Place, leaving her needing hospital treatment.


Judge: "Mr. Western, was the sammich made incorrectly?"

Defendent: "No, your honor. The sammich was not made at all."
 
2012-06-04 08:45:52 AM  
Shenanigans.
That is clearly not a gorgeous 20-something year old billionaire.
 
2012-06-04 08:49:22 AM  
The safe word is not 'ow.'
 
2012-06-04 08:55:21 AM  
I may be completely crazy here, but it would seem like exploring sado-masochistic fantasies and adding a "slave/master" dynamic to your marriage is something you would do as a way of branching out in an already stable, enduring, healthy relationship. Not to save a 15-year marriage that's on the rocks.
 
2012-06-04 08:56:41 AM  

Pocket Ninja: I may be completely crazy here, but it would seem like exploring sado-masochistic fantasies and adding a "slave/master" dynamic to your marriage is something you would do as a way of branching out in an already stable, enduring, healthy relationship. Not to save a 15-year marriage that's on the rocks.


She can't divorce you if she's tied up in the basement, secured in submissive sexual positions.
 
2012-06-04 08:59:49 AM  
When LARPing goes terribly wrong....
 
2012-06-04 09:10:04 AM  

Pocket Ninja: I may be completely crazy here, but it would seem like exploring sado-masochistic fantasies and adding a "slave/master" dynamic to your marriage is something you would do as a way of branching out in an already stable, enduring, healthy relationship. Not to save a 15-year marriage that's on the rocks.


Though not much better, it's arguably preferable to having a child to save the marriage.
 
2012-06-04 09:25:53 AM  

HakunaMatata: Shenanigans.
That is clearly not a gorgeous 20-something year old billionaire.




red

red

RED

RED
 
2012-06-04 09:26:39 AM  
Wow. And here I thought John Norman's Gor novels were just poorly written misogynistic sci-fi.
 
2012-06-04 09:52:30 AM  
www.scotsman.com
The "Slave Master" Husband in question.

I think he's got a surprise for us in his pocket...
 
2012-06-04 09:53:39 AM  
Well he's not in Florida and he's not black so he is probably going to be ok.
 
2012-06-04 09:53:44 AM  
cdn.sheknows.com

My first thought
 
2012-06-04 09:54:03 AM  

HakunaMatata: Shenanigans.
That is clearly not a gorgeous 20-something year old billionaire.


He looks like a down on his luck teacher's assistant.

#50 Shades of Tweed and Corduroy
 
2012-06-04 09:54:44 AM  
In other news, 50% of male farkers look like creepy slave master husbands.
 
2012-06-04 09:54:47 AM  
Funny, you wouldn't think he'd be the one with the surprised butt secks look on his face.
 
2012-06-04 09:56:03 AM  
Women be desperate...

She signed a slave/beating contract with that guy to save the marriage?... that guy...
 
2012-06-04 09:57:13 AM  
Hoot mon, it's Trayvon MacTavish.

Justice for Trayvon! Justice for Trayvon!
 
2012-06-04 09:57:36 AM  
www.scotsman.com

Boss man in 2002 - no idea what the context of the picture is but creeeeeepy!
 
2012-06-04 09:58:15 AM  
"Bet he's going to be a weasily little shiat who probably got beat up in highschool a lot."

*clicks link*

Yep.
 
2012-06-04 09:58:17 AM  
threatening her with violence, inducing her to remove her clothes, slapping her on the face and body, striking her on the body with a belt, seizing her by the hair, pushing her on to a couch and slapping her

I'd better lawyer up.
 
2012-06-04 09:59:08 AM  

Pocket Ninja: I may be completely crazy here, but it would seem like exploring sado-masochistic fantasies and adding a "slave/master" dynamic to your marriage is something you would do as a way of branching out in an already stable, enduring, healthy relationship. Not to save a 15-year marriage that's on the rocks.


Depends on what's making it be "on the rocks". Trust issues? Oh hell no. Boredom? Sure, why not?

That said, there's gotta be more to the story than this.
 
2012-06-04 09:59:44 AM  
If the wife says "hey, I would like to try...", then at least get a signed consent agreement.

I used to do the D/s thing, and for some, the things they want done is only the "I consent to..." away from prosecution. Fantasy rape is a big thing I've said no to/dumped a woman for wanting.
 
2012-06-04 10:00:40 AM  
It's all fun and games until someone calls the constables.
 
2012-06-04 10:00:55 AM  

Wendy's Chili: threatening her with violence, inducing her to remove her clothes, slapping her on the face and body, striking her on the body with a belt, seizing her by the hair, pushing her on to a couch and slapping her

I'd better lawyer up.


Look, I told you I wouldn't press charges if you wouldn't.

///They take the stitches out yet?
 
2012-06-04 10:02:16 AM  

Cythraul: The safe word is not 'ow.'


Came here to say some variation on this.
 
2012-06-04 10:02:29 AM  
I'm sure this story is not nearly as black and white as presented. From what I've read, these types of arrangements have many shades of gray.
 
2012-06-04 10:02:40 AM  
Reminds me of Brian Posehn.

tinyurl.com
 
2012-06-04 10:04:35 AM  
Slave Master when he worked for a paper supplier.


i50.photobucket.com
 
2012-06-04 10:07:40 AM  

Kaka: [cdn.sheknows.com image 340x271]

My first thought


Mine as well. Glad to see you got it covered.

/this coffee isn't going to drink itself
 
2012-06-04 10:08:07 AM  

Expolaris: The "Slave Master" Husband in question.

I think he's got a surprise for us in his pocket...


Surprise photography.
 
2012-06-04 10:08:50 AM  

imprimere: It's all fun and games until someone calls the constables.


... they bringing those big sticks right?

///Sounds like that when the fun really begins :P
 
2012-06-04 10:09:51 AM  
Yep, he looked exactly like I pictured he would look.
 
2012-06-04 10:10:07 AM  
I wonder how many years in prison he faces. I hope it's a lot, it's a lot, it's a lot, it's a lot
 
2012-06-04 10:10:30 AM  

Kaka: [www.scotsman.com image 595x420]

Boss man in 2002 - no idea what the context of the picture is but creeeeeepy!


He was suing the post office for £90,000. This was an interview.
 
2012-06-04 10:12:28 AM  

Pocket Ninja: I may be completely crazy here, but it would seem like exploring sado-masochistic fantasies and adding a "slave/master" dynamic to your marriage is something you would do as a way of branching out in an already stable, enduring, healthy relationship. Not to save a 15-year marriage that's on the rocks.


*nods agreement*

Master/slave relationships require trust and willingness, not fear and reprisals. Masters who act out of anger aren't in control, and therefor are terrible masters. Seems to me this particular nutmunch was just looking for an excuse to vent some anger rather than explore a new relationship dynamic. Sadomasochism isn't something you just decide to try out one day 'cause your sex life is a bit predictable. Try the beginner level floggings, first! Fists aren't for faces anyway, wink wink nudge nudge saynomore.

It's guys like this that give S&M a bad name. I have half a mind to get this woman-beating piece of sh*t on an A frame for a few days of re-education.
 
2012-06-04 10:18:05 AM  

Aracnix: It's guys like this that give S&M a bad name.


'Boy George'.
 
2012-06-04 10:18:24 AM  

Wendy's Chili: threatening her with violence, inducing her to remove her clothes, slapping her on the face and body, striking her on the body with a belt, seizing her by the hair, pushing her on to a couch and slapping her

I'd better lawyer up.


I know, right? I've done all of the above in the past week, most of them several times.

Aracnix: Pocket Ninja: I may be completely crazy here, but it would seem like exploring sado-masochistic fantasies and adding a "slave/master" dynamic to your marriage is something you would do as a way of branching out in an already stable, enduring, healthy relationship. Not to save a 15-year marriage that's on the rocks.

*nods agreement*

Master/slave relationships require trust and willingness, not fear and reprisals. Masters who act out of anger aren't in control, and therefor are terrible masters. Seems to me this particular nutmunch was just looking for an excuse to vent some anger rather than explore a new relationship dynamic. Sadomasochism isn't something you just decide to try out one day 'cause your sex life is a bit predictable. Try the beginner level floggings, first! Fists aren't for faces anyway, wink wink nudge nudge saynomore.

It's guys like this that give S&M a bad name. I have half a mind to get this woman-beating piece of sh*t on an A frame for a few days of re-education.


Exactly. Of course, if they weren't kinky before the "contract" was signed it was the worst thing they could do. If they were kinky, he should've known better than to send her to the hospital. This tool sounds like the worst kind of "Master Domly Dom" that there is, the type that the kink community generally considers dangerous.
 
2012-06-04 10:20:26 AM  

braedan: Reminds me of Brian Posehn.

[tinyurl.com image 640x512]


LLOLOLOL

Perfect pic too - "Honey? Unlock the door honey. It won't happen again..."
 
2012-06-04 10:21:34 AM  

Delay: Kaka: [www.scotsman.com image 595x420]

Boss man in 2002 - no idea what the context of the picture is but creeeeeepy!

He was suing the post office for £90,000. This was an interview.


He looks like he is dumpster diving
 
2012-06-04 10:21:39 AM  

SkunkWerks: Aracnix: It's guys like this that give S&M a bad name.

'Boy George'.


That wasn't S&M, that was someone screwing with someone that f*cked them.
 
2012-06-04 10:21:49 AM  
This is an example of problems I have with certain elements of BDSM "lifestyle" types of play, namely; when the Dom/Master/etc. uses it as an outlet for his own baggage and otherwise isn't in control enough of his own emotions to understand the depths of the harm he can cause, both physical and emotional. Once you stop having a relationship of equals that allows for open communication, you are stepping into territory that carries heavy burdens for the person on the Top because he/she needs to be aware enough and understanding enough to know WHEN to employ the, "You've been a bad little thing and deserve to be punished" attitude, and when to treat their submissive/slave with love and compassion. It's a tough thing to do do well... and it is NOT a fix for an already troubled relationship. The troubles are multiplied when the issue is a desire for a BDSM relationship from one of the partners and that lack of communication hasn't been discussed for a long time. Trust me when I say that not talking about it doesn't help.

Maybe some people can "throw the switch" in their heads and be cruel in one moment and then kind in the next... I am not one of them. Speaking only for myself, relationships have a particular (but always shifting) tone that is important. How we approach the relationship mentally and emotionally goes a long way to determine this tone. If yours is too radically out of pitch with your partners' tone, you will get very discordant sounds... in other words, the relationship will cause a lot of suffering in both people. This is why open, direct and honest communication is VITAL... you have to trust your partner to tell you the truth, and you have to tell the truth as well. If, after 15 years (for example from the article) of doing things one way, you attempt to radically shift tones, you are inviting ruin. Experimenting and working towards a commonly desired goal is one thing, telling lies about yourself (and to yourself, even) for years on end and then expecting your partner to be okay with the "new you" in a flash is just plain foolish. You aren't going to get what you want, no matter how much you want it.

My advice for anyone stuck in the cycle of deception is to let it come out, and then give your partner as many months as the relationship has been together for years. I.E. if you've been together for six years, expect six months of "adjustment" at least. Also, accept that the cost of your deception might very well be the loss of your relationship, no matter how old or young the relationship is. When we lie to ourselves by saying things like, "I'll get over it" or "It's just a phase" we end up lying to the people around us. Those lies rot away the very heart of a good relationship and that takes time to heal, if it can be healed at all. If you cannot give the person you love some months to adjust to these new ideas, then you need to examine how badly you actually want that relationship.

TL;DR, TALK TO YOUR PARTNER ABOUT THE SCARY STUFF! Do not keep secrets. Do not expect your partner to be totally okay with whatever your desires might be! Do not hold the relationship hostage and demand they do what you want, or else! Be a genuine human being first, and whatever else you want to be after that.

/Now, go out and have a kinky day!
 
2012-06-04 10:21:54 AM  
50 Shades of Grey anyone..........???????????4

///haven't read the book
//plan on reading the book
//to see what all the fuss is about
//yep, sure, that's it!
 
2012-06-04 10:23:40 AM  

Exception Collection: SkunkWerks: Aracnix: It's guys like this that give S&M a bad name.

'Boy George'.

That wasn't S&M, that was Karma Chameleon.


FIFTY.
 
2012-06-04 10:27:22 AM  
 
2012-06-04 10:28:22 AM  
It took three beatings for her to realize this wasn't working out?
 
2012-06-04 10:29:43 AM  

thenewmissus: 50 Shades of Grey anyone..........???????????4

///haven't read the book
//plan on reading the book
//to see what all the fuss is about
//yep, sure, that's it!


I haven't read the book. But I've been told by those that have - kinky and non - that the writing's terrible. The kinky ones are also fairly offended by the way the relationship works; it's *not* a good D/s relationship. No discussion of limits, for example. Most of my friends consider the relationship described in the book to be little better than rape.
 
2012-06-04 10:30:26 AM  

thenewmissus: 50 Shades of Grey anyone..........???????????4

///haven't read the book
//plan on reading the book
//to see what all the fuss is about
//yep, sure, that's it!


I can't wait till the movie/musical.
 
2012-06-04 10:30:41 AM  

trappedspirit: It took three beatings for her to realize this wasn't working out?


Three beatings *in one day*. With a belt. And since she went to the hospital, I'd guess that they were fairly severe beatings.
 
2012-06-04 10:31:36 AM  

Aracnix: It's guys like this that give S&M a bad name. I have half a mind to get this woman-beating piece of sh*t on an A frame for a few days of re-education.


See also: It's countries like China and North Korea and the USSR that give communism a bad name.

When your relationship requires trust and willingness exclusively on the part of one person, that's called an unstable dynamic. It's all well and good to say that S&M is all right as long as everyone trusts everyone else and no one does anything bad, but I think we can all agree that's not very realistic for anything longer than a few hours.
 
2012-06-04 10:31:53 AM  
Does this mean I shouldn't have a girl tied up in my basement while I am at work?

(I don't actually have a basement.)
 
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