If you can read this, either the style sheet didn't load or you have an older browser that doesn't support style sheets. Try clearing your browser cache and refreshing the page.

(BBC)   Turns out men cheat way more than women after all   (bbc.co.uk) divider line 198
    More: Obvious, World Service, sexually transmitted infections  
•       •       •

12870 clicks; posted to Main » on 04 Jun 2012 at 3:18 AM (2 years ago)   |  Favorite    |   share:  Share on Twitter share via Email Share on Facebook   more»



198 Comments   (+0 »)
   
View Voting Results: Smartest and Funniest

Archived thread

First | « | 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | » | Last | Show all
 
2012-06-04 07:38:53 AM  

OregonVet: The reason for the disparity is pretty simple: a man may have a mistress, the mistress has many men.


The disparity is also that men do cheat with single women, so while he is cheating, she is not. While one might frown on the morals (or lack of) from a woman who would sleep with a married man, a man will often lie about his marital status, particularly if he is looking to cheat.
 
2012-06-04 07:42:45 AM  

phrenicmonkey: The Muthaship: phrenicmonkey: Also "just the tip".

A married woman asked for 'just the tip" in her attempt at an affair?

My bullsh*t meter just went into meltdown.

Those are my words. But she wanted everything short of "everything". I didn't believe her either. And I don't like blue balls.



WTF!?!

I'd steer well clear of that, I suspect she could make a bunny-boiler frightened.
 
2012-06-04 07:43:30 AM  

Ambivalence: Who are they cheating with? Each other?


probably single women

/ric romero
 
2012-06-04 07:49:14 AM  

phrenicmonkey: Also "just the tip".


She wanted teh buttsecks?? O.o
 
2012-06-04 07:50:15 AM  

ecmoRandomNumbers: So, it's just that one woman in every town, then?

Your mother warned you about her.


In my town its your mom.

Son?
 
2012-06-04 07:50:37 AM  

Nidiot: phrenicmonkey: The Muthaship: phrenicmonkey: Also "just the tip".

A married woman asked for 'just the tip" in her attempt at an affair?

My bullsh*t meter just went into meltdown.

Those are my words. But she wanted everything short of "everything". I didn't believe her either. And I don't like blue balls.


WTF!?!

I'd steer well clear of that, I suspect she could make a bunny-boiler frightened.


And people say I'm crazy.
 
2012-06-04 07:51:19 AM  
So, the gist of the article is "men suck".

(Actually, Kinsey says about 10% suck. The rest lick.)
 
2012-06-04 07:52:05 AM  

steamingpile: I also love the argument where people say humans are just animals and weren't meant to be monogamous, well in the natural animal world males have multiple mates and if another male dares approach they attack. I have watched enough nature shows on walruses to know that fact.......


Not all mating systems are like walruses
 
2012-06-04 07:56:08 AM  
So "overlapping relationships" is the new term for being a low down dirty dog? OK, I guess.

I feel anything is fair game as long as you are honest. If you tell someone that you are monogamous and that they are the only one and then you go sleep with someone else, you a liar. Period. If you don't want to sleep with only one person, then don't agree to be monogamous. Its just that simple.

If you find you want to sleep with someone else either attempt to renegotiate the terms of your relationship, or leave, but don't lie.

/just my two cents
 
2012-06-04 08:00:50 AM  

H31N0US: zez: Yep. I've never known a woman to leave a guy and then be alone, as soon as one relationship is over they are right with someone else.

BECAUSE THEY CAN, THAT'S WHY

Seriously, all a decent looking woman needs to do is smile.


I did. And have. And am.

And it's because I realized that the same thing was broken about my ex husband that was broken about my first ex husband---even though they were otherwise completely different. I had gone out and picked two guys who were as different as different could be--but the one thing they had in common was that they were broken in exactly the same relationship way that matched up exactly with...surprise, surprise...the relationship way in which I was broken.

Which was why that happened again. And with a bit of research, I found out that people with my kind of broken rarely get any better while in a relationship with a partner with the matching broken. And I found out that no matter how hard we try to look for partners without the matching broken, it's not enough--because they look for us. They're good at finding us, they actively seek us out, and they're very good at concealing what they are until we're already in the relationship. [sigh]

So, I've been alone for a couple of years, except for some nice guys in my friend zone who I occasionally sleep with, while I've been getting treatment for my side of those relationship issues and learning not to do my half of that bullshiat.

A lot of that has been learning not to take the bait when a broken guy comes around and tries to reel me in. Which I seem to have at least had some success in. What happens when they try one of the things I would have been a sure sucker for before, and I don't bite the line, is they throw a temper tantrum and flounce off. I consider this a Very Good Thing.

So now hopefully I'll get a chance to go out with some normal, decent guys who don't have the crazy. Maybe I'll find someone I "click" with, and vice versa.

But yes on the alone. Because I needed to get my shiat together.
 
2012-06-04 08:01:09 AM  

RoyBatty: Women don't fart either.


farm6.staticflickr.com

Wat?
 
2012-06-04 08:01:45 AM  

phrenicmonkey: Nidiot: phrenicmonkey: The Muthaship: phrenicmonkey: Also "just the tip".

A married woman asked for 'just the tip" in her attempt at an affair?

My bullsh*t meter just went into meltdown.

Those are my words. But she wanted everything short of "everything". I didn't believe her either. And I don't like blue balls.


WTF!?!

I'd steer well clear of that, I suspect she could make a bunny-boiler frightened.

And people say I'm crazy.


If you go anywhere near this woman in the future, then you are crazy.
 
2012-06-04 08:12:52 AM  

steamingpile: illannoyin: NSFW Link



/Works for us
//It's not for everyone

It's still cheating, swinging was created by men but after women realized they can fark all the men they wanted and turn the terms men used to get them there against the man.

I also love the argument where people say humans are just animals and weren't meant to be monogamous, well in the natural animal world males have multiple mates and if another male dares approach they attack. I have watched enough nature shows on walruses to know that fact.......

Calling it swinging is just a term used by the person who lets their mate dictate their sexual status.


Um, sorry. No.

It is not cheating. My wife and I have a fantastic marriage, we are very much in love after 14 years together. Swinging is swinging, not cheating. Cheating involves someone being swindled, fooled, deceived, or other such nastiness.

We swing together, have a fun time with some fun people who we enjoy the company of together, go home together, and continue to love each other. It is a purely physical variation to our sex life, akin to using sexual aides and toys or dress up but with other people. Maybe we are in the minority, but swinging has made our marital relationship even better than it was before we started swinging 3 years ago.

/so stick it, prude
//csb
 
2012-06-04 08:16:36 AM  

zez: zzrhardy: A women can be still living with you and be farking someone else without cheating.

This is because for the women, the relationship with you was already over. They were just waiting on a better offer before moving on.

Women don't like downtime. They will stay in an "over" relationship without telling the guy because it beats being alone for them.

emotional/monetary support etc.

Yep. I've never known a woman to leave a guy and then be alone, as soon as one relationship is over they are right with someone else.


My ex left me a couple months ago. I'm pretty sure she went to being alone: she moved out of state to an entirely foreign area [to her, Seattle]. I miss that girl but wow she handles breakups badly. Almost three years together and I get a note on the bed.
 
2012-06-04 08:19:24 AM  

AverageAmericanGuy: But on the whole, it's not so much dedication to my vows that keeps me in line so much as lack of opportunity.


The gospel according to Chris Rock...and the likelihood of that opportunity presenting itself is a whole lot smaller than most married guys would care to admit. Think of all that has to come together even for people who have no qualms about screwing around:

- both parties to the strange have to have the time
- and the money
- and ice water in the veins when it comes time to end it
- and impeccable discretion (which means no electronic communications and credit cards, for starters)

But yes, put me down for a "well, maybe" if I came home from work to find that Kate Winslet was stretched out languidly in my bed saying "Take me now, my rampant stallion, and then after our epic thrash through the percales you can have a nap while I expertly remove any trace of my having been here before GTFOing".
 
2012-06-04 08:21:01 AM  
I've only been cheated on by women.

/straight guy

//that's the joke.jpg
 
2012-06-04 08:21:58 AM  

Nidiot: phrenicmonkey: Nidiot: phrenicmonkey: The Muthaship: phrenicmonkey: Also "just the tip".

A married woman asked for 'just the tip" in her attempt at an affair?

My bullsh*t meter just went into meltdown.

Those are my words. But she wanted everything short of "everything". I didn't believe her either. And I don't like blue balls.


WTF!?!

I'd steer well clear of that, I suspect she could make a bunny-boiler frightened.

And people say I'm crazy.

If you go anywhere near this woman in the future, then you are crazy.


Here's the kicker: she got more turned on by my being "noble". I'm definitely never going to be alone with that one. I think she regards me as a lost opportunity from 30 years ago. Thanks, Facebook!
 
2012-06-04 08:22:23 AM  
i would cheat on my wife at any opportunity. then i just lie about it. it's easy, and it works. try it.
 
2012-06-04 08:23:11 AM  

doglover: Sex is natural, lies are not.


How do you think the original couple hooked up in the first place? Because she didn't wear any make up, push up bra or unnaturally high heels? And that he didn't upgrade his job as pizza delivery boy by saying he was in "product distribution," and the Pinto was just a loaner while his 'Vette was in the shop?

Lies, lies keep people together!

(RIP Sam.)
 
2012-06-04 08:26:35 AM  
I'm going to rewrite that article and this thread using fewer words.

"The Matrix cannot tell you who you are."

No not even a social matrix.
 
2012-06-04 08:29:09 AM  
Make better decisions, have no cause for cheating. Problem solved.
 
2012-06-04 08:30:43 AM  
Until I met my wife, EVERY woman I dated WITHOUT EXCEPTION had someone else somewhere in the picture, either a boyfriend, live-in or husband. EVERY SINGLE ONE.

If I had a dollar for every time I've been the "back door man" for some woman stepping out on her man, I'd have enough money to qualify for "job creator" tax breaks".
 
2012-06-04 08:31:54 AM  
Okay I finally watched the video. Should have gone with my first instinct and NOT done so. I thought Scandinavian girls were supposed to be attractive?
 
2012-06-04 08:32:58 AM  
Damnit wrong thread [not porn I swear]
 
2012-06-04 08:35:56 AM  

phrenicmonkey: Nidiot: phrenicmonkey: Nidiot: phrenicmonkey: The Muthaship: phrenicmonkey: Also "just the tip".

A married woman asked for 'just the tip" in her attempt at an affair?

My bullsh*t meter just went into meltdown.

Those are my words. But she wanted everything short of "everything". I didn't believe her either. And I don't like blue balls.


WTF!?!

I'd steer well clear of that, I suspect she could make a bunny-boiler frightened.

And people say I'm crazy.

If you go anywhere near this woman in the future, then you are crazy.

Here's the kicker: she got more turned on by my being "noble". I'm definitely never going to be alone with that one. I think she regards me as a lost opportunity from 30 years ago. Thanks, Facebook!



That is not really a kicker, if she is hot, or used to generally getting her way with men, a refusal is an affront to her ego. Her self image is at stake. You are now considered a challenge, and must be conquered in order to maintain to herself that she has still "got it". She will probably up that dial to eleven.

I feel sorry for her husband.
 
2012-06-04 08:38:48 AM  

phrenicmonkey: "just the tip"


coreydemoss.files.wordpress.com
 
2012-06-04 08:41:34 AM  
I used to cheat all the time when I was younger. Even managed to cheat on an open relationship. Typical find the next one before you get rid of the old one kid type stuff. Didn't understand it then myself and thought that I had some sort of super sex drive that I couldn't tame. Later I avoided Relationships for a while and kept to a select number of casual hookups on rotation. Then I got into a Relationship that had very little focus on sex. It lasted 15 years without me cheating.

As soon as my eye started to wander, I knew the relationship was broken beyond repair and left.

/farking like a rabbit again
//trying to make up for the last 15 years I guess.
 
2012-06-04 08:46:27 AM  
We found out my dad was cheating on my mom for many years...with a dude.

Needless to say, it was all sorts of farked up and we didn't discover it til my sister and I were in our early 20s. Same thing happened to my friend except in her case it was her mom that went full gay. That doesn't seem as prevalent as the aforementioned.
 
2012-06-04 08:46:46 AM  
I have this strange ability to attract women who are in some form of firm relationship with another man. The ones who are simply staying with their boyfriend until they find someone else invariably try to feed me some line about the relationship being non-monogamous and completely casual, but I'd love to hear second opinions from the other guys. Stuff like that makes it hard to trust people.
 
2012-06-04 08:46:47 AM  

phrenicmonkey: Here's the kicker: she got more turned on by my being "noble". I'm definitely never going to be alone with that one. I think she regards me as a lost opportunity from 30 years ago. Thanks, Facebook!


Just tell her you're into some really weird stuff and you don't want to put that kind of pressure on her. This will get her mind rolling and she'll be begging to know. Make up stuff that has her really debasing herself for you, and if she's game make sure you film it.
 
2012-06-04 08:46:47 AM  

coco ebert: More than you would think. I have gay friends who hook up with a lot of supposedly straight, married men.


Same here. I'd never even heard of such a thing as "men's parties" until my gay best friend clued me in. Says that the difference between straights that want to be blown and gays is that the straights won't kiss.
 
2012-06-04 08:47:51 AM  
Men cheat because they're pigs who can't keep their thingie in their pants.

Women cheat because the men in their life aren't giving them what they need so they have to find it elsewhere.

Synopsis-Men cheat because they're pigs and women cheat because men are pigs.
 
2012-06-04 08:51:10 AM  
Well, if women didn't completely bait and switch men - totally dirty sluts until they have you hooked and married then it's all out the door. And yet they expect the man to just deal with it. Well that's farked up. Any woman who does this deserves to be cheated on and shouldn't be shocked when it happens. They all know perfectly well how men are. Do men want to live out their lives knowing there are no more hummers in their future? fark no they don't. If you dont want to get with your man, ladies, turn him loose or be fine with him getting it elsewhere. the end.
 
2012-06-04 08:54:00 AM  

James_Corn: Well, if women didn't completely bait and switch men - totally dirty sluts until they have you hooked and married then it's all out the door. And yet they expect the man to just deal with it. Well that's farked up. Any woman who does this deserves to be cheated on and shouldn't be shocked when it happens. They all know perfectly well how men are. Do men want to live out their lives knowing there are no more hummers in their future? fark no they don't. If you dont want to get with your man, ladies, turn him loose or be fine with him getting it elsewhere. the end.


Word. As I am fond of saying "A man who is fed well at home has no need for restaurants".
 
2012-06-04 08:57:13 AM  

James_Corn: totally dirty sluts


Smile when you say that, pahdner. ;-)
 
2012-06-04 08:59:03 AM  

mraudacia: thats why men invented the 4 dick rule. she says dont worry, ive only been with three guys. add 4 and thats more likely. tada

not sure if it works the other way around on guys. because frankly ive slept with thousands of women.


Add 4 dicks.....
 
2012-06-04 09:00:30 AM  

zzrhardy: No Such Agency: This optimizes potential for opportunistic mating with genetically suitable partners... but leaves both with a reliable mate who will fulfil any required brood rearing and food gathering roles.

I see no benefit in being the (often cuckolded) brood rearer/food gather, and lots of benefit in being the opportunistic mating partner.


That's because you aren't Thinking with Portals Evolution. Both partners are incompletely monogamous because they both get the best of both worlds.

Having a life mate is often a compromise, because there's always a candidate out there who's genetically superior to the one you have. But they might not have been around when you were pair-bonding with that other swan (or whatever) you hooked up with in your first mating year. On the other hand, that swan is a decent mate, otherwise you would not have picked them in the first place. They're worth keeping, and mating with regularly, because with them you can rely on having a mate every season. But it'd be evolutionarily dis-advantageous to pass up other attractive opportunities if they were available.

It also helps that animals don't really have the emotional fallout from infidelity the way humans do. They will chase others away from their mate, but it's instinct, without the same emotional complexity we would feel.
 
2012-06-04 09:08:35 AM  

Julie Cochrane: James_Corn: totally dirty sluts

Smile when you say that, pahdner. ;-)


oh I was. hehe fond memories of that part. Now, not so much.

/has two awesome little girls at home. don't want to leave them. sex with wife is garbage or non existent, after the best sex in history was had early on. Patience has worn out with that. Backed up as all get out, and could pick up a woman at a bar easier. Do I stay and deal with it, stay and cheat, or go? Pain.


zappaisfrank:

Word. As I am fond of saying "A man who is fed well at home has no need for restaurants".


exactly. no man will cheat if he's getting what he needs at home. it's that simple. really.
 
2012-06-04 09:11:27 AM  
I don't cheat on my husband for the simple reason that I married the man I actually want to be with.
 
2012-06-04 09:13:22 AM  

doglover: I don't know why it's called cheating.


Because the spouse is being cheated out of the bargain that he/she made when they committed to one another. When you get married, you are pledging to be sexually available to the other person, and to forsake all others, to borrow a phrase.

Sexual frigidity is cheating, too. It's cheating you out of the sexual exclusivity that is the basis of the marriage, or whatever.

Women cheat at least as much as men. They also file for divorce most of the time, usually so they can take up with a man they believe to be of higher social value.

Men are by nature polygamous. Women are hypergamous -- they are ALWAYS looking to trade up, to pair with the highest value mate available to her.
 
2012-06-04 09:15:07 AM  

Nidiot: taurusowner: I think "cheating" is a much broader concept than just sex. I think cheating is any role or function that should be fulfilled by your partner, but you are doing it with someone else. Sex is one of those roles. But so is deep friendship, emotional openness, and even attention. One thing I've noticed about women is that many of them like to surround themselves with a small group of guy friends. Sometimes a large group, but still male friends. Even when they're in a relationship. They like the feeling of being wanted, the attention, having people they know they can get to do stuff for them, compliment them, and as fall-backs for dating or sex if the need arises. I think this is a form of cheating. Obviously just having friends of the opposite gender isn't cheating. But what I'm talking about goes beyond that. Having long conversations with the friendzone guys, flirting just enough to keep them thinking they have a shot so they stick around and keep giving her attention....


Seriously that sounds like the worst sort of woman in the world, but only the really good looking girls get away with that. I have seen the type and I almost feel sorry for the guys who orbit them, until I realise that the guys are the one torturing themselves and are fully able to go and find some better girl who is perhaps less "hot" if only they could get the blood flowing back away from their genitals and into their brains for a minute.


CSB here. I travel to a few regional bowling tournaments every year. In 2010 and 2011 I went to Rochester. In 2010, went to a bar and noticed a cute gal, went over and talked to her, bought her a drink, blah blah. Nothing happened. But I noticed the other guys talking to her too. She was the type that relishes that kind of attention. Fast forward a full year. Go to the same bar. No intention of talking to this gal again. And the SAME OTHER GUYS are still surrounding her, talking to her, buying her drinks. Makes me wonder if she ever puts out for any of them, or if they're that pathetic that they'd keep trying to get with the same gal for at least a YEAR. UGH!
 
2012-06-04 09:15:41 AM  

Phinn: doglover: I don't know why it's called cheating.

Because the spouse is being cheated out of the bargain that he/she made when they committed to one another. When you get married, you are pledging to be sexually available to the other person, and to forsake all others, to borrow a phrase.

Sexual frigidity is cheating, too. It's cheating you out of the sexual exclusivity that is the basis of the marriage, or whatever.


DING DING DING
 
2012-06-04 09:18:17 AM  

zappaisfrank: Women cheat because the men in their life aren't giving them what they need so they have to find it elsewhere..


What they need though is usually money.
 
2012-06-04 09:20:38 AM  

Ambivalence: Who are they cheating with?


www.lohl.net
 
2012-06-04 09:21:26 AM  

Marley'sGirl: I don't cheat on my husband for the simple reason that I married the man I actually want to be with.


This is what women actually believe.
 
2012-06-04 09:25:04 AM  

harrydorcas: Now that should not be surprising. There is a study however that men are ok with women cheating as long as it is with another woman. You know, girl on girl action?


Real life men and not internet dorks, consider that cheating.
 
2012-06-04 09:29:58 AM  

Tat'dGreaser: harrydorcas: Now that should not be surprising. There is a study however that men are ok with women cheating as long as it is with another woman. You know, girl on girl action?

Real life men and not internet dorks, consider that cheating.


i151.photobucket.com
"wrong wrong wrong wrong. wrong wrong wrong wrong!"
 
2012-06-04 09:34:48 AM  

James_Corn: "wrong wrong wrong wrong. wrong wrong wrong wrong!"


Oh so the woman you are married to has sex with another person, doesn't let you join and leaves you for this other person isn't cheating as long as it's another woman? Ah ok, I gotcha.
 
2012-06-04 09:39:51 AM  

Tat'dGreaser: James_Corn: "wrong wrong wrong wrong. wrong wrong wrong wrong!"

Oh so the woman you are married to has sex with another person, doesn't let you join and leaves you for this other person isn't cheating as long as it's another woman? Ah ok, I gotcha.


sounds like a woman switched teams after being with you. That would suck. Did she let you watch or do it behind your back? At this point, for me, I'd just be thrilled knowing that my wife has any sort of pulse between her legs. If not for me, just for her own sake.
 
2012-06-04 09:40:17 AM  

Tat'dGreaser: James_Corn: "wrong wrong wrong wrong. wrong wrong wrong wrong!"

Oh so the woman you are married to has sex with another person, doesn't let you join and leaves you for this other person isn't cheating as long as it's another woman? Ah ok, I gotcha.


No no, she's supposed to let hubby watch. Or so I gather from the half-joking comments some of my married guy friends have made.
 
Displayed 50 of 198 comments

First | « | 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | » | Last | Show all

View Voting Results: Smartest and Funniest


This thread is archived, and closed to new comments.

Continue Farking
Submit a Link »
On Twitter





In Other Media


  1. Links are submitted by members of the Fark community.

  2. When community members submit a link, they also write a custom headline for the story.

  3. Other Farkers comment on the links. This is the number of comments. Click here to read them.

  4. Click here to submit a link.

Report