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(Some dating site)   New, comprehensive data on all the reasons why people break-up. Bad news for Farkers: drinking too much is #1 reason short relationships end   (blog.wotwentwrong.com) divider line 14
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2012-06-03 03:15:31 PM  
4 votes:
LeroyBourne: 1 month, you only want a sexual relationship: Girl, why'd you give it up so soon then? I'm a man, if you offer it I'm gonna take it regardless. If you put the kibosh on me and make me wait maybe I wouldn't see you as simply a sex object.

So we want it, and you want it, but if we do it, you'll scorn us for it?
And men say women's logic is hard to understand!
2012-06-03 01:56:36 PM  
4 votes:
I thought drinking to much was the number 1 reason short relationships began.
2012-06-03 02:44:57 PM  
3 votes:

LeroyBourne: 1 month, you only want a sexual relationship: Girl, why'd you give it up so soon then? I'm a man, if you offer it I'm gonna take it regardless. If you put the kibosh on me and make me wait maybe I wouldn't see you as simply a sex object.


Sexing you doesn't blind us to whether you're worth loving or not. Well, maybe it does--maybe it makes some women love men they shouldn't.

It's hard for women to wrap our heads around that sexing a guy frequently blinds you to the possibilities of emotionally connecting with that woman, usually ever.

Doesn't always happen, doesn't happen that way for all guys. And the exceptions are why it's so hard for us to wrap our heads around the sad fact that that's the way it does seem to work for a whole lot of guys.

It is very counter-intuitive to realize that you may have to say, "No, I won't fark you, because I like you, and I'm attracted to you, and I want to see if we emotionally connect or not and I don't want to screw that chance up by screwing too soon. I don't want to just be your friend."

Of course, then if the emotion thing doesn't connect up, there's nothing to keep you from farking like bunnies if the chemistry is still there.

Anyway. Women are insecure. We're afraid no guys will date us at all if we don't put out by the third date. And realistically, the overwhelming majority of guys--except in particular religions--will assume (frequently rightly) that there's something kinda crazy about a chick who isn't at least being loving and giving in some form or fashion by the third date.

If she's interested, she's interested. If she's not, she's not. Women are horny, too. We're madly eager to jump your bones on the first date. We're madly eager to jump your bones when we hand you our number. But if we really like you, we can't, because it's the one way to make absolutely sure we can't have you--because you do judge, and you do disappear, dammit.

So since "3rd date" seems to be the date at which most sane men will agree not to disappear just because they got some stank on their hang low, 3rd date is when most of us feel it's finally, perhaps, safe to put out with a guy we really like and want to see if maybe something goes somewhere with.

So, turning it around, man---that woman is only human. She's wanted to jump your bones from the start, but she knew you'd judge her for it. She has already waited three very long dates for you to feel righteous because she likes you, give it up, quit the judging, and decide if you actually like her back already.
2012-06-03 02:33:35 PM  
2 votes:

ZAZ: I want to see the male/female split on the sex questions, especially "your sex drive is too low."


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Here are the real top 10 lists for men and women.
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Top 10 breakup list for males:

1) Not enough sex.
2) Not enough sex.
3) Not enough sex.
4) Not enough sex.
5) Not enough sex.
6) Not enough sex.
7) Not enough sex.
8) Not enough sex.
9) Not enough sex.
10) Never shuts up.

Top 10 breakup list for Females:

1) Does not earn enough money.
2) Too Short.
3) Does not earn enough money.
4) Does not earn enough money.
5) Does not earn enough money.
6) Does not earn enough money.
7) Does not earn enough money.
8) Does not earn enough money.
9) Does not earn enough money.
10) Does not earn enough money.
2012-06-03 04:25:39 PM  
1 votes:
The reason in every case is this:
"I think I can do better"
2012-06-03 03:59:53 PM  
1 votes:
Does bi-sexual whore make it onto this list anywhere? Because that hurts...
2012-06-03 03:41:24 PM  
1 votes:

NotARocketScientist: LeroyBourne: 1 month, you only want a sexual relationship: Girl, why'd you give it up so soon then? I'm a man, if you offer it I'm gonna take it regardless. If you put the kibosh on me and make me wait maybe I wouldn't see you as simply a sex object.

So we want it, and you want it, but if we do it, you'll scorn us for it?
And men say women's logic is hard to understand!


^^ that right there.

If we both want to have sex, and we have sex, and you decide I'm "unworthy" as a woman and a partner then I am perfectly okay with it. It's better to find out sooner rather than later that our worldviews are radically incompatible. I believe sex can be very emotionally fulfilling, but there is nothing inherently magical about sex or chastity or promiscuity. I have no interest in playing a role in your perverse virgin/whore complex.

/my boyfriend of 5 years was supposed to be a one-night stand
2012-06-03 03:21:09 PM  
1 votes:
Some anecdotes, FWIW.

Being tall's not all it's cracked up to be. When you hit your head on signs in stores, can't fit comfortably into airline seats and amusement park rides (you name it), you figure it out.

I once dated a girl who was 6'0" or so who was attracted to me because I was taller. I didn't say no, but it bugged me.

I was always attracted to shorter women. So I guess it doesn't go both ways.

I never understood why short guys get insecure, or why women want tall guys. Honestly, height is one of the last characteristics you should be concerned about.

Bottom line. It doesn't matter when you're horizontal.
2012-06-03 02:44:49 PM  
1 votes:

FloydA: Interesting. The list didn't mention:

-throwing dishware at my face when you're angry
-slapping me for using the wrong temperature on the laundry
-"borrowing" my stuff and selling it
-letting your dog crap on the floor and then not cleaning it
-leaving wet bath towels in a pile against the wall until the paint starts to mildew
-leaving empty beer cans and bottles in your sock drawer instead of the recycling bin


You know how to pick 'em, buddy.
2012-06-03 02:32:06 PM  
1 votes:
drinking too much is #1 reason short relationships end


Thank God I'm in a long-term relationship.
2012-06-03 02:04:57 PM  
1 votes:

Tight_as_an_Owl: How is one of the top physical complaints that the person is "too tall"? Are dwarfs the new thang?


I think it's pronoun trouble. She's too tall.
2012-06-03 02:01:11 PM  
1 votes:
Good thing its also the #1 reason they start.

www.mondialmix.it
2012-06-03 01:53:58 PM  
1 votes:
Solution? find someone who is as much of a lush as you are.

/single
//not a lush
ZAZ [TotalFark]
2012-06-03 12:54:27 PM  
1 votes:
I want to see the male/female split on the sex questions, especially "your sex drive is too low."
 
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