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2012-05-21 11:27:16 AM
The War on Women continues?

/I wish someone would declare war on me and then spend $27k to make me the center of attention for a day.
 
2012-05-21 11:31:17 AM
Fancy weddings are expensive. Sexism is over.

1 weird trick to avoid an expensive wedding: don't marry someone who wants an expensive wedding.
 
2012-05-21 11:31:52 AM
I know a girl who spent around $27K on her wedding - rented out the NY Botanical Gardens, too.

This is on top of her other debts for: $150K of law school debt, her husband's $150K of law school debt, and the debt for their house in Westchester County.

It's going to take a while for them to dig themselves out.
 
2012-05-21 11:37:24 AM
Given the average duration of a marriage these days, there have got to be tons of people who are making payments on a wedding for a marriage that ended in divorce.

that's gotta suck.
 
2012-05-21 11:50:41 AM

sweetmelissa31: Fancy weddings are expensive. Sexism is over.

1 weird trick to avoid an expensive wedding: don't marry someone who wants an expensive wedding.


Look, not every guy can find a lady who's dream is to be have a wedding officiated by a well-dressed man with Down's Syndrome inside the Ben and Jerry's factory.
 
2012-05-21 11:50:59 AM
Hmm... business idea.

Marriage insurance. I'm not sure how to make it work with a 60% divorce rate though.

1. Claim it will cover the costs of the wedding, divorce lawyers, or anything else that could go awry in case of divorce.
2. Charge outrageous premiums.
3. Skip town.
4. Profit.
 
2012-05-21 11:54:56 AM
Expensive weddings fuel the local economy.

WHY DO YOU HATE THE ECONOMY!?!
 
2012-05-21 11:56:44 AM

sweetmelissa31: Fancy weddings are expensive. Sexism is over.

1 weird trick to avoid an expensive wedding: don't marry someone who wants an expensive wedding.


You sound like you'd want a cheap wedding? Want to get hitched?
 
2012-05-21 11:57:00 AM

Jackson Herring: Look, not every guy can find a lady who's dream is to be have a wedding officiated by a well-dressed man with Down's Syndrome inside the Ben and Jerry's factory.


And when the officiator asks if there are any objections, another well-dressed man with blonde hair and Down Syndrome stands up and says, "Ich bin sein bruder."
 
2012-05-21 11:58:10 AM

sweetmelissa31: And when the officiator asks if there are any objections, another well-dressed man with blonde hair and Down Syndrome stands up and says, "Ich bin sein bruder."


WAT
 
2012-05-21 12:12:37 PM
you could also make sure to invite people who will give cash gifts rather than $20 toasters
 
2012-05-21 12:22:46 PM
DRTFA but last time a study like this came out, they didn't adjust for the $20million dollar weddings from celebrities and other wealthy folks, which did affect the average by a decent amount.
 
2012-05-21 12:25:55 PM
The average total price tag for a wedding last year topped $27,000, reports TheKnot.com, marking the first uptick since 2008.

Where did they get that "average" number? Maybe I'm just fortunate to know a lot of non-fools, but I don't know anyone who's had a wedding for anywhere near that price tag.
 
2012-05-21 12:29:29 PM
My husband and I flew to Vegas and got married. I had a "traditional" wedding dress and real flowers. We had a nice dinner afterwards and then spent 4 days being honeymooning tourists. We did it for less than $2500 for everything. My dress was the biggest expense because it was $800. The hotel we stayed at was super cheap because we only stayed week nights and it was July.

I had a great time. I'm not sure spending $27,000 would have given us a better experience or funnier stories.
 
2012-05-21 12:40:13 PM

Gwendolyn: I had a great time. I'm not sure spending $27,000 would have given us a better experience or funnier stories.


It would give you 'witnesses' it seems. Reading the comments on the TheKnot's site has even the 'budget conscious' people spending $15k+, but they all have like 100 or more people attending. It seems like a lot of people looking to save money don't want to touch the guest list.

A few years ago a woman in the office was planning her wedding and would share details. She had to change venues because her mother invited 50 people this woman had never met.
 
2012-05-21 12:42:19 PM
My cousin dropped $45,000 on her wedding. They were divorced before the pictures came back from the photographer. Shockingly, she and her husband argued incessantly about money.
 
2012-05-21 12:59:56 PM

itsdan: Gwendolyn: I had a great time. I'm not sure spending $27,000 would have given us a better experience or funnier stories.

It would give you 'witnesses' it seems. Reading the comments on the TheKnot's site has even the 'budget conscious' people spending $15k+, but they all have like 100 or more people attending. It seems like a lot of people looking to save money don't want to touch the guest list.

A few years ago a woman in the office was planning her wedding and would share details. She had to change venues because her mother invited 50 people this woman had never met.


Well I do have $70.000 in student loans for three college degrees so I have made some choices people would call stupid. Weddings are about the two people getting married. We originally tried to do it inexpensively with guests but my husband's mother and grandmother just kept ratcheting up the occasion. It went from 20 or so people at their huge sprawling house to "Let's just look at this church" and "so-and-so from back home in Tennessee would really like to come" so we just headed off to Vegas and stopped the insanity. His sister got married a few years later and they got the craziness out of their system but I bet they are still paying down the loans for the 250 people to eat mediocre food on the lawn of a former plantation under a big tent. Madness.
 
2012-05-21 01:54:38 PM
I've never understood the appeal of the big wedding. Spend a couple hundred dollars and get it done at the courthouse (hell, have the homeless guy who sleeps outside be the witness for $5). Spend the money on a great honeymoon. Spending a month in Aruba would be WAY more memorable than the fairytale wedding crap.
 
2012-05-21 02:11:30 PM

itsdan: Gwendolyn: I had a great time. I'm not sure spending $27,000 would have given us a better experience or funnier stories.

It would give you 'witnesses' it seems. Reading the comments on the TheKnot's site has even the 'budget conscious' people spending $15k+, but they all have like 100 or more people attending. It seems like a lot of people looking to save money don't want to touch the guest list.

A few years ago a woman in the office was planning her wedding and would share details. She had to change venues because her mother invited 50 people this woman had never met.


My wife and I nipped that in the bud. We invited 50, 26 showed up. Every single person at the wedding was someone my wife or myself love deeply.
 
2012-05-21 02:13:33 PM

Jackson Herring: Look, not every guy can find a lady who's dream is to be have a wedding officiated by a well-dressed man with Down's Syndrome inside the Ben and Jerry's factory.


fark is not your personal erotica site.
 
2012-05-21 02:50:51 PM
I get that big weddings are not for everyone but I had an awesome time at mine and it was about half that. It was for 160 people, had a fully stocked bar (which we stocked ourselves for about 500 bucks and we could have gone cheaper but it was top shelf) and included both appetizers and dinner, all the other crap (dresswear, DJ, limobus, cake, flowers, additional rings). I had a blast and I got the impression everyone else did too.

We had plenty of liquor left (but not too much) and since we budgeted about 20K we ended up having an amazing 2 week honeymoon in paradise. And we got plenty of cash back in gifts. And the planning didn't destroy our marriage or cause arguments.

There's also nothing wrong with small weddings, my sister had one a week ago and it was beautiful. But if you can afford it and that's what you want...well, you only live once. Do what you want but do it within reason. Don't go into debt over it.
 
2012-05-21 02:58:48 PM
Someone show that stat where the divorce rate is over 50%.. I love seeing that one.


"is this the line I get into to lose half my shiat"
 
2012-05-21 03:12:44 PM
If you marry someone who demands an expensive wedding, you shouldn't be surprised when you eventually find out they're crazy.

/would be better off banking that $27k to pay for the inevitable divorce.
 
2012-05-21 03:15:57 PM
We had 35 total for the reception. The parents' friends and neighbors got a separate afternoon tea party at their house with a few cases of wine and a few party platters from the local grocery.
 
2012-05-21 03:21:54 PM
Article with a little more info.

- polled nearly 18,000 U.S. brides who were married in 2011 about the cost of their big day.

- New York, where the average cost of a wedding is $65,824, is the most expensive city in the United States to get married

- The state of West Virginia, where nuptials cost an average of $14,203, was the least expensive wedding location

- In 2011, one in five U.S. couples spent more than $30,000, and 11 percent spent more than $40,000 on their weddings
 
2012-05-21 03:24:23 PM

what_now: Jackson Herring: Look, not every guy can find a lady who's dream is to be have a wedding officiated by a well-dressed man with Down's Syndrome inside the Ben and Jerry's factory.

fark is not your personal erotica site.


Says you.
 
2012-05-21 04:13:57 PM
Or, you know, just don't get married. Live with him/her and enjoy life.
 
2012-05-21 04:24:59 PM
I thought my wife and I spending 8K in 2004 was a lot, and 2Kof that was food for 200 people. I'm having trouble figuring out what the remaining 6K was spent on.

Of course, her dress was her grandmother's and only cost $300 in alterations, not a few grand like some of the monstrosities sold these days, and we went buffet style with roast chicken and kielbasa and sauerkraut for main dishes and then some basic sides.

As far as we know, everyone had a great time too.

Weddings may center around the bride and groom, but are more for your families.

//Kinda the same thing regarding funerals.
 
2012-05-21 04:28:05 PM
Elope.

Your fiancée doesn't want to elope? Cut him/her loose and find one that does.
 
2012-05-21 04:30:46 PM

bdub77: Don't go into debt over it.


I envy anyone who has $20k to toss on a single day and doesn't have to finance it.
 
2012-05-21 04:41:18 PM
Cantaloupe.jpg

/ her family pays right??
 
2012-05-21 04:41:48 PM

RexTalionis: sweetmelissa31: Fancy weddings are expensive. Sexism is over.

1 weird trick to avoid an expensive wedding: don't marry someone who wants an expensive wedding.

You sound like you'd want a cheap wedding? Want to get hitched?


All women lie about wanting a cheap wedding. When it gets down to brass tacks, they're gonna be out looking at that $4000 dress and the farking castle outside of London.
 
2012-05-21 04:42:31 PM
Thank FSM for all those tax credits/deductions.
 
2012-05-21 04:44:15 PM
We spent about $3,500....no debt.

The biggest expense, iirc, was our rings.

/married 4 yrs
 
2012-05-21 04:44:48 PM

Nadie_AZ: Or, you know, just don't get married. Live with him/her and enjoy life.


www.anime.com
http://www.anime.com/Japanese_Television/images/mxc-cheer.jpg
Don't. Get. Married! (right away)

It's dumb to get married before you live together for at least a couple years.
 
2012-05-21 04:45:05 PM
Save on the preacher: If you are more than 50 miles from home, a bellhop can perform the ceremony. Most of them only want a fiver.
 
2012-05-21 04:45:10 PM

Jackson Herring: sweetmelissa31: And when the officiator asks if there are any objections, another well-dressed man with blonde hair and Down Syndrome stands up and says, "Ich bin sein bruder."

WAT


Link
 
2012-05-21 04:45:38 PM
if your a pedophile you don't even need to worry about this marriage stuff.
just the "price" of candy.
 
2012-05-21 04:46:18 PM
When it comes to these types of statistical figures I think median calculation is a more accurate and realistic portrayal than average calculation.

Doesn't take a genius to figure out that all you need is like children from a couple thousand very wealthy families getting hitched and the entire distribution is totally skewed.

figure is meaningless

/just my 2c
 
2012-05-21 04:46:36 PM
Weddings are stupid.

Justice o' Peace.

Cheap. Fast. Easy.
 
2012-05-21 04:47:30 PM
I doubt my sister's wedding was that expensive, and they had it at a fancy hotel on a resort island. Our wedding is going to be about 5k and she's complaining about the price and looking for ways to cut back. I know Fark will disagree with me since I'm getting married at all, but I think I'm making the right choice here.
 
2012-05-21 04:47:33 PM
Married in bro-in-law's barn (which I helped build) - brand new barn, the first load of hay had just been put in the loft. Priest was in-laws' next door neighbor and friend of the families for about 30 years. Wife made her own dress. Only family and friends, about 30 folks. Pot luck reception and "honeymoon" was three nights in a B-n-B. 1500 bucks including rings.

25th anniversary is next month.
 
2012-05-21 04:47:43 PM
Spending that much on a single event, even a wedding, is so stupid, it should be criminal.

How do people not see that the whole wedding industry is a racket?
 
2012-05-21 04:47:57 PM
Ahh, the Fark Wedding™:

- The rings were made by your friend Mike, who is a welder
- Your cake was donated by your aunt, who just happens to run a bakery
- Food was provided by Dave, your neighbor who has his own BBQ pit
- The venue was provided graciously by the county, all you had to do was fill out the form and pay the $5
- You "loaded up" at Costco for the booze
- All eleven of your closest friends were invited
- Music was provided by your nephew Allen who, with two speakers and a Macbook Pro, claims to be a DJ

You had a blast.
 
2012-05-21 04:48:13 PM
Hint:
If you want to get to the 1%
stop trying to be a part of the 1% beforehand.


/the millionaire next door
 
2012-05-21 04:48:33 PM

sammyk:
My wife and I nipped that in the bud. We invited 50, 26 showed up. Every single person at the wedding was someone my wife or myself love deeply.


So 48% of the people who you love deeply couldn't make the time to go to your wedding? Ouch.
 
2012-05-21 04:48:41 PM
Average? I would like to know what the median/ mode are.

/distribution or it didn't happen
 
2012-05-21 04:49:31 PM

sweetmelissa31: 1 weird trick to avoid an expensive wedding: don't marry someone who wants an expensive wedding.


Sweet, ever-loving THIS.

I married a level-headed, practical girl. She didn't want some flamboyant, plastic-fantastic gown. And a tasteful luncheon banquet at the local hotel ballroom was just fine. And she was happy as a clam with the modest (but sparkly) ring I gave her.

We were young and just starting out in our careers. A lavish fest would have been stupid and wasteful, and we knew it. Now, 25 years later, I'm still patting myself on the back for marrying a sensible gal.
 
2012-05-21 04:49:41 PM

Rent Party: RexTalionis: sweetmelissa31: Fancy weddings are expensive. Sexism is over.

1 weird trick to avoid an expensive wedding: don't marry someone who wants an expensive wedding.

You sound like you'd want a cheap wedding? Want to get hitched?

All women lie about wanting a cheap wedding. When it gets down to brass tacks, they're gonna be out looking at that $4000 dress and the farking castle outside of London.


A farking castle? Sounds like fun. Do you get those at the same place you rent the bouncy castles?
 
2012-05-21 04:49:56 PM

Mishno: Wife made her own dress.


Ack, I forgot that detail
 
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