Actually, there's no real reason that the third discussion can't also encompass the first two. You could even build the discussion around some nice after-dinner family time spent watching porn as an illustration of a) where babies come from and b) what a healthy sexual life can look like. You want to avoid creating unreasonable hang-ups that might stifle your child's natural curiosity, of course; when watching the bukkake scene, for example, do not express value judgments -- for example, Oh my god, that's disgusting, see, that woman has no sense of self-worth and is totally debasing herself to those men. Don't ever do that, honey. Because, as most child psychologists will tell you, what this a actually does is create a very real possibility of instilling the beginnings of self-loathing and a "sex is evil" attitude in your child's young, still-forming brain -- and just imagine if she's already participated in the act that you're watching together! My gosh, can you even imagine the guilt with which you'd be saddling her? Why, she'll walk away from your talk believing that you think she's nothing but a classless whore, and what kind of a father does that make you? It makes you one who raised a self-loathing, classless whore. Good job there, bucko.

So don't be that father. Instead of that, be supportive and non-judgmental: Well, that woman certainly does appear to enjoy that, doesn't she honey. Hope there's a shower nearby! and let your child form her own conclusions. Except for stuff invovlving furries, of course, you can mock the shiat of that.

THe only conversation I have with my kids about internet porn involves resetting the router

/not a euphemism

Fark Me Runnin: If you kill that hooker, you can get your money back.

Dad?

Well, don't forget about the nonblack version, too.

"Might as well wait, son - she's just gonna lie there like a dead fish anyway."

chaoswolf:

/yes, I have explained that real girls don't like tentacle sex.


You just shut up. You just shut up now!

Oh yes, recently ran into this with my son. Apparently got exposed to his first porn pop up (updated the popup blocker, yes, after this) and got curious.

He's 13. He didn't want to see a bunch of 21 year olds. So it was perfectly logical to him to search for "13 year old porn".

There was major, major discussion. It has not happened again.

/the things I never knew I would ever have to actually spell out for my children to NOT do

"Now"?

I think most kids could explain Internet porn to their parents.

HA! This happened to my nephew last year (10 yr old)....he and a friend did a GIS for 'sexy women in underwear'. Supposedly the pictures that popped up were very graphic in more ways then one and it really bothered him.

After I heard about it I GIS'd 'sexy women in underwear' and didn't see anything that bad....then again I've seen '2 girls-1 cup'.

ferretman: After I heard about it I GIS'd 'sexy women in underwear' and didn't see anything that bad....then again I've seen '2 girls-1 cup'.

The way things are now, I am gonna start telling dirty stories to the womb at this point.

lostinjersey: My 13 y.o. son invited 4 friends over during spring recess, drove my wife crazy. Afterwards she complains "and they were looking at porn!"

Uhhh.... What?

So she pulls up the history. It wasn't porn per se, it was this weird Japanese anime of kids sneaking into some ymca type place, getting frisky then this squid like thing emerges. It wasnt graphic, but when a tentacles moves towards her crotch and then you get pics of her face contorting and gasping, you kinda know what's happening.

How curious, I recently saw a music video on youtube that had some close similarities. The music video was clearly anime based where a bunch of kids sneak into what appears to be a ymca pool and start making out. I didn't watch the entire thing but one of the guys turns out to be the monster who's arm is actually some sort of tentacle that he inserts into a woman and then can control her like a puppet. The tentacle apparently kills people though. I didn't watch the entire thing.

My wife is a health educator at a local college, and she gives lectures to classes when the professor/instructor cannot make it. Topics like those covered in TFA; healthy dating relationships, avoiding sexual assault, contraception and STI prevention, as well as stress management and the like.

Anyhow, it is quite apparent that such talks are not being done effectively before college for many kids. We ran into this one (ridiculously gorgeous, honestly) young woman at a restaurant last night that had wife's lecture on preventing sexual assault last year. She expressed her gratitude for the terrific presentation, that no one had really talked about that type of stuff to not only her but, based on the attitudes expressed in the class (about sexual assault in this case) neither for the rest of the class.

I'll tell you one thing that I got from TFA that I'd not really given much thought to (my oldest is 4, I have a while to catch up) is the whole "I'm 13, I'll search for pics of naked girls that are my age" thing. Danger, Will Robinson!

RavenOnyx: He's 13. He didn't want to see a bunch of 21 year olds. So it was perfectly logical to him to search for "13 year old porn".

Yeah, like this. Holy crap that could be bad.