Eh, probably, but he makes more than me and its his paycheck.

My greatest fear is that, should I die, my wife will sell my hunting and fishing gear for what I told her I paid for it.

So there's a 6 in 3 chance that your spouse is lying?!?!?! WAY TO GO DUMMITTER

bdub77: She seriously sucked at math. I dumped her and moved onto a girl who is just bad at math. Which is all you can expect, amirite?

If you say so. I married a CPA.

GrymReeper: My greatest fear is that, should I die, my wife will sell my (________) for what I told her I paid for it.

Choose your own fill-in-the-blank!

Car(s)
Golf Clubs
Tools
Antique Beer Stein Collection
Magic Cards
Warhammer Figurines
Video game collection
Decorative hand-blown glass "sculptures"
Hunter Thompson Suitcase
Firearms
"Figurine" collection
Guitars
Liquor
Watches
Comic Books
Classic literature first editions
Real Doll

Anyone want to add anything?

/she handles the finances, I hand her checks

What money could we even hide from each other?

Amirite?!?!

Secret to a happy marriage? Three accounts, one joint and two individual. The individual accounts are a set amount that is equal that you don't have to account to your spouse for. Joint household needs/wants come from the joint account.

I use mine to pay for armour and weapons, she uses hers to be lazy and eat out for lunch daily. It works out and I don't have to justify spending $900 on cuisses and greaves when I have partially functional ones currently.

Yeah, well there is a reason she is my ex-wife. You know what I think is funny? She insisted on a church wedding. It is funny, because she turned out to be a lying, cheating, thieving whore. You live with some one for a year and you think you know them, but get that ring on their finger and some how they turn into a different person.

Wow, I can't imagine being in a marriage where you have to disclose where every dime of your income goes. I have no idea what my husband has in his checking account right now. I have no idea what's sitting on his credit card, though last statement I saw, he wasn't carrying a balance. He buys what he needs. Same for me. We both have bills we pay. As long as he pays his bills (internet, groceries, & power), I don't care what or who the fark he spends his money on.

I just don't understand couples who fight over money. Unless, of course, one is a compulsive shopper or gambler, which, I guess was the point of the article. But there's a real quick way to solve that problem.

Slaves2Darkness: Yeah, well there is a reason she is my ex-wife. You know what I think is funny? She insisted on a church wedding. It is funny, because she turned out to be a lying, cheating, thieving whore. You live with some one for a year and you think you know them, but get that ring on their finger and some how they turn into a different person.


I'm just glad you've gotten over it.

I have my account, the wife has hers and there's a joint account that pays the bills and dumps a bit into savings.
The deal is: as long as each of us is contributing what we pledged to the joint account, the way we spend the rest is off-limits.

It works out *way* better than when I was giving her shiat about paying 18% to have stuff today and she was giving me shiat about spending hundreds on gadgets I didn't remotely need and would inevitably craigslist at a loss.

In the end, we're still spending/wasting money in our own ways, but there aren't any arguments.
And, as an added bonus, we each have an incentive to keep spending from the joint account down.
Which has made discussions about new vehicles/appliances/etc sooo much more productive.

gadian: Wow, I can't imagine being in a marriage where you have to disclose where every dime of your income goes. I have no idea what my husband has in his checking account right now. I have no idea what's sitting on his credit card, though last statement I saw, he wasn't carrying a balance. He buys what he needs. Same for me. We both have bills we pay. As long as he pays his bills (internet, groceries, & power), I don't care what or who the fark he spends his money on.

I just don't understand couples who fight over money. Unless, of course, one is a compulsive shopper or gambler, which, I guess was the point of the article. But there's a real quick way to solve that problem.

The only couple I know that fights about money is the one that doesn't share an account. They fight all the time about who pays what bill and who buys the dinner or the movie. They clearly have trust issues. I'd recommend that they pool their money into a joint account so that everything is paid for by both, but I think they'd just get on each others cases about whatever frivolous thing the other is spending their money on.

It's like hanging out with high schoolers.

grinding_journalist: GrymReeper: My greatest fear is that, should I die, my wife will sell my (________) for what I told her I paid for it.

Choose your own fill-in-the-blank!

(snip
Magic Cards
Warhammer Figurines
(snip)
Anyone want to add anything?



Comments on these:

1) Magic Cards: I had a friend who decided to sell-off a lot of his old cards to a local game shop. $3,000+ later in his pocket, he is happy with his investment.

2) Warhammer figures: knew a guy who had an amusing tale of his insurance company going ape-shiate over the 'replacement value' figure. The guy had a huge 2nd edition 40K Praetorian Imperial Guard army stolen from his basement. I think the initlal discussion (as relayed to me):

Insurance Guy: "So this is a list of all the toy soldiers and tanks etc, hmm.. so this would be what? A couple hundred bucks to replace?"

Gamer Guy: *smirk* "Well, a couple hundred bucks would replace 4 of the 20 tanks, sure."

Insurance Guy: *blink*

why would i lie about being attracted to another woman? am i trying to convince her i'm gay?

Slaves2Darkness: Yeah, well there is a reason she is my ex-wife. You know what I think is funny? She insisted on a church wedding. It is funny, because she turned out to be a lying, cheating, thieving whore. You live with some one for a year and you think you know them, but get that ring on their finger and some how they turn into a different person.


Are you me?

Getting divorced was the single best financial decision I ever made.

Being married to someone who can't or won't grasp the idea of, "When you find yourself in a hole, stop digging," is a one-way ticket to financial chaos. And lots of other kinds of chaos.

grinding_journalist: Choose your own fill-in-the-blank!

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Anyone want to add anything?

Boats
Boating-related paraphernalia
Boat fuel (for those foolish enough to need to burn fuel to move their boat around)
Gadgets / computers

/ also
Hunter Thompson Suitcase

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Nice.

Lurk sober post drunk: why would i lie about being attracted to another woman? am i trying to convince her i'm gay?

don't you know that once you get married, you become able to only feel attraction toward your spouse? You become monosexual.

WhippingBoy: My wife considers her credit card to be paid off when there's "only" a $3,000 balance owing.
Automatic, self-cleaning cat litter boxes (which don't really work) aren't free, ya know?

The origin of your Fark handle is now clear.

Well, if she's lying, then more power to her.

13 years we've been in this house, and we haven't missed a mortgage payment yet, even when I was out of work for a year and on unemployment. She wants credit cards paid down as quickly as possible, and the worst we've ever had (and the time she was the most freaked out) was around a $5000 balance. We only had that it that high because the fridge died the same month we had both cars go in the shop. I know for a fact that if I was running the finances in this house... there wouldn't be a house. She's got the business degree, not me :)

/she has no problem with me looking, either
//I just can't touch

SFSailor: gadgets / computers

I was thinking of my monolithic rig when I typed up the list, but even if I die 6 months from now, she wouldn't be able to get anywhere near what I paid for it, so I left it off the list. Even the ancient computers I have (old Mac SE II and others of its ilk) aren't worth more than $50-100 to collectors.

I suppose you could amend it to "electronic equipment" so it would include stereos and other household gear, but even then, people are reluctant to pay anywhere near full price for old electronics.

gadian: I can't imagine being in a marriage where you have to disclose where every dime of your income goes.

Who ever said they HAD to disclose their spending? I balance my account by hand and keep the register on my desk. If my wife wants to know what I've been spending my money on, she doesn't even need to ask. We accept each other's hobbies, trust each other to be responsible and don't give each other shiat so there really isn't anything to discuss beyond quick FYIs and BTWs. When I buy something I often tell her, if only so she'll know there'll be a package at the door when she gets home from work.

Money? No. She knows. You have to be fairly open about that stuff.

Looking at other women? Totally honest with her. The old "Look at the menu all you want..." adage. Usually she spots them before I do (I'm gettin' old, people!)

Ass look fat in those jeans? Hell no, honey. You will *always* be a thin vision of loveliness until the day I pass on from this life, and even in the afterlife I shall sing songs of how beautiful your trim figure was to all who will listen.

/I may be poor, and I may be a perv, but I'm no fool! :)

I've had numerous discussions regarding my husband's savings account. We have seperate accounts. We make the same amount of money, and yet I have invested 10 times more into savings (not including retirement) than he does since we married 3 years ago. We've had serious fights about this. My engineer dad made a LOT of money in the stock market on tech companies in the 80s and my husband works in finance and thinks he can do the same. He invests a couple of grand, and loses it. It's like his lotto card, honestly.

I basically gave him an ultimatum about how much he should be putting in savings or in a retirement account and he has to at least reach the minimum by September. If he doesn't reach it, then I feel I can't trust him anymore and I will arrange for us to have joint accounts where he has limited access to the amount he can take out.

NO ONE is messing with my retirement. I made that very clear to him before we married.

And it is the one and only thing we have had arguments about.

I have lots of crap from when I was young. Basically, I'm (was) a collecter -- it makes me happy. I also keep all my crap to one room (or the garage). My wife, on the other hand, is a purger. She'd love to completely clean out the house every couple of months of everything we don't regularly use.

On paper, her method makes quite a bit more sense.

However, once our kids were born, they were introduced to tons of different ideas, hobbies, and interests due to what I collected. After years of receiving abuse for having "all that crap", she now grudgingly admits that our children have greatly benefitted from my collections.

The point of all of this is that I completely understand why some spouses don't want to deal with explaining why every purchase that provides them happiness needs to be justified with rock-solid evidence. I can definitely see the value in the 3-account method someone suggested up above. I don't have any sympathy, however, for a spouse that overspends at the expense of their family.

My wife and I have only joint accounts because we aren't morons and don't spend money on stupid shiat. There's nothing to fight about when nobody does anything egregious.

YixilTesiphon: My wife and I have only joint accounts because we aren't morons and don't spend money on stupid shiat. There's nothing to fight about when nobody does anything egregious.

We don't have joint accounts but yeah, this.

/ Most of our disposable income goes to the mortgage
// The only score we're keeping is against the bank

Okay. So. Does this mean that 2 in 3 husbands are attracted to other women and also that 2 in 3 wives are attracted to other women? No I think it's more likely that 3 in 3 husbands are attracted to other women and 1 in 3 wives are attracted to other women.

/Or maybe all spouses are attracted to other women and 1 in 3 don't lie about it.
//Giggity?

umad: YixilTesiphon: My wife and I have only joint accounts because we aren't morons and don't spend money on stupid shiat. There's nothing to fight about when nobody does anything egregious.

Until she decides to wipe you out and run off with somebody else. It happened to an idiot friend of mine.

/never give a woman the power to destroy your life

If my wife were to do that it would involve her literally losing her mind.

Because I didn't marry a nutcase.

So one in three men admit to their spouse that they think about other women?

Money? We're pretty transparent. She brings in most of the cheddar, and she is extremely savvy with money so she does the budgeting and bill-paying and stuff. As a result we have a good deal of disposable income and a decent chunk of change in savings, but we each know how the other is spending. You have to. Her ex got her stuck with his credit card debt and a massive Jeep in her name because he couldn't control his spending, so she insists in transparency and I'm happy to oblige.

Other women? Who doesn't? I find other women attractive; I just don't hit on them. If I say I think a girl is "pretty" or "attractive" she's pretty OK with it. If I were to say, on the other hand, "I'd tongue-punch her fart box" that's another story altogether.

Dat ass? She's got it. My wife is of that new breed of cute little white girls with massive booties, and God bless that sweet, sweet behind. It's like two scoops of vanilla ice cream.

/what?
//classy guy

YixilTesiphon: If my wife were to do that it would involve her literally losing her mind.

Because I didn't marry a nutcase.

You better hope not.

In my experience, the most dangerous thing about women is the ability to justify absolutely ANY action in their own minds. Add to that a dangerous lack of accountability...

0/3, here.

Common banking.

I tell her flat out whether or not I find another woman attractive.

My big mistake is not lying about the dress, of course...