Hot Carl To Go: Is it better to try to talk to them before they spend many years living a stressful double life or let them admit it on their own? Maybe it would drive them deeper into denial/fear or whatever if they were asked, though. Any gay farkers want to chime in?

Here's $.02 from a straight farker.

If we're not having sex, your sexuality is unimportant to me. Period. I'm not going to screw up whatever relationship we have (professional/personal/etc) by confronting you over something that quite literally has zero impact on whether we continue to talk to each other.

If you are comfortable enough to tell me, great, I'm honored that you would trust me with that. If you feel the need to hide that part of your life from me, I'm sorry, I wish that there was something I could say or do to put you more at ease with me. But I literally could not care less about whether you like to penis or be penised, and that's that.

Sybarite: Completely tangential, but has anyone ever had a friend come out that you weren't secretly thinking "Well, duh."? I mean, even though you obviously have to make the appropriately supportive statements.

When I came out to my friends I got (or maybe should say "am getting") the entire range of responses. Everything from "I knew twenty years ago" to absolute gobsmackedness.

Deucednuisance: RibbyK: Yes, the pastel penii were *fabulous* and gay.

Hmph. "Penii".

Where's the love for the scroto?

/Straight as an arrow
//Sing in Latin every Sunday

Penes people, not penii.

vudukungfu: BurnShrike:
You truly are my hero.

I got spoiled by her. Now when women offer me sex, I think. "look at her. Is her body better? Will she do anything at all to make you happy? Is she going to do wild and freaky things with you and then go to work and leave you alone and not bug you the next day?"
And then I say no. That really pisses them off and I get to find out the cray cray BEFORE I stick my dick in it.
This is my super power.
And I owe it to a stripper who let me stick it in her pooper, too.

Seconded

PonceAlyosha: hailin: Nothing is more awkward then having various guys you have known less then a few months sobbing on the phone to you asking why Tim dumped them. My only response was "What can I say? Sometimes Tim is a dick." Tim was always kind of a whore though.

...

fark YOU. Don't bring up my personal business in this thread.

/hopefully you're talking about some other Tim.

You shut your whore mouth, Tim!

dericwater: It's "radii" and the "-ii" suffix is to plural-fy nouns that end in "-us" not "-is" as in penis. The plural of penis is penises.

My buzz.

You killed it.

Crewmannumber6: PonceAlyosha: hailin: Nothing is more awkward then having various guys you have known less then a few months sobbing on the phone to you asking why Tim dumped them. My only response was "What can I say? Sometimes Tim is a dick." Tim was always kind of a whore though.

...

fark YOU. Don't bring up my personal business in this thread.

/hopefully you're talking about some other Tim.

So, you're Tim,

Well...there are those who call him 'Tim'.

Headso: It's probably one of those cases where everyone already knew the guy was gay.

TV Tropes call this the "Transparent Closet."

"Everyone knows these characters are gay except the characters themselves. Any suggestion to the characters that they are gay is met with a too-emphatic statement of their heterosexuality. If they finally come out of the closet, no one will even pretend to be surprised. Often played for laughs. "

Loaf's Tray: Crewmannumber6: PonceAlyosha: hailin: Nothing is more awkward then having various guys you have known less then a few months sobbing on the phone to you asking why Tim dumped them. My only response was "What can I say? Sometimes Tim is a dick." Tim was always kind of a whore though.

...

fark YOU. Don't bring up my personal business in this thread.

/hopefully you're talking about some other Tim.

So, you're Tim,

Well...there are those who call him 'Tim'.

Well I am enchanting.

/bishie sparkle

had a cousin come out at thanksgiving a few years ago. family had a collective shrug and went back to eating.

she's now married to a dude, oddly enough.

dericwater: Yeah, that makes better grammatical sense. Crisis => crises. Thesis => theses. Hypothesis => hypotheses. Penis => penes. Makes better sense than penii and even penises.

It is appropriate, as an animal with a segmented penis is stated to have several hemipenes.

PonceAlyosha: dericwater: Yeah, that makes better grammatical sense. Crisis => crises. Thesis => theses. Hypothesis => hypotheses. Penis => penes. Makes better sense than penii and even penises.

It is appropriate, as an animal with a segmented penis is stated to have several hemipenes.

What's an animal without a dick? A loser.

Exception Collection: Hell, I blindsided my LGBT gaming guild - until I came out, my wife and I were "the straight couple".

blipponaut: Huh?

Either or both members of what appears to be a "normal" heterosexual couple could be bisexual and/or transgender.

For a bisexual person, being married to (or in a long-term relationship with) a member of the opposite sex can make you appear (exclusively) heterosexual, but you are no less bisexual for it.

There are also married couples in which one partner confesses to the other that he or she is gay after the wedding. Sometimes those couples stay married.

There are just a lot of ways that one or both members of an apparently "normal" heterosexual couple can be some flavor of lbgtq.

Loaf's Tray: RibbyK: Deucednuisance: RibbyK: Yes, the pastel penii were *fabulous* and gay.
Hmph. "Penii".

Yes, much like these:
Cactii
Radaii
Calculii
Fistulii
Campii
Cunnilingii
Penii

So you think the singular is spelled "penus"?

"Penes" is the proper Latin plural. I just use "Penises."

/and don't ever try to Latinize the plural of "virus"
//It has no Latin plural
///The only proper plural is "viruses"
////Latin grammar nazi

dericwater: ChubbyTiger: Deucednuisance: RibbyK: Yes, the pastel penii were *fabulous* and gay.

Hmph. "Penii".

Where's the love for the scroto?

/Straight as an arrow
//Sing in Latin every Sunday

Penes people, not penii.

Yeah, that makes better grammatical sense. Crisis => crises. Thesis => theses. Hypothesis => hypotheses. Penis => penes. Makes better sense than penii and even penises.

I was going to make a pasta joke, not realizing that it is spelled "penne." The resulting GIS would seem to confirm that "penes" is definitely a recognized plural.

/hope IT doesn't look that up in the logs

so, that's what happens when a gay IT guy finally comes out of the server closet

And not one of those people who left comments are on XBox Live.

twat_waffle: Loaf's Tray: RibbyK: Deucednuisance: RibbyK: Yes, the pastel penii were *fabulous* and gay.
Hmph. "Penii".

Yes, much like these:
Cactii
Radaii
Calculii
Fistulii
Campii
Cunnilingii
Penii

So you think the singular is spelled "penus"?

"Penes" is the proper Latin plural. I just use "Penises."


What do you use them for?

twat_waffle: Loaf's Tray: RibbyK: Deucednuisance: RibbyK: Yes, the pastel penii were *fabulous* and gay.
Hmph. "Penii".

Yes, much like these:
Cactii
Radaii
Calculii
Fistulii
Campii
Cunnilingii
Penii
So you think the singular is spelled "penus"?
"Penes" is the proper Latin plural. I just use "Penises."
/and don't ever try to Latinize the plural of "virus"
//It has no Latin plural
///The only proper plural is "viruses"
////Latin grammar nazi

Dear students, we moved well beyond this nearly an hour ago by inserting fetii into the list where it belongs, so please snowflakes keep up with the rest of the class. Don't make me get the big ruler.

Loaf's Tray: Crewmannumber6: PonceAlyosha: hailin: Nothing is more awkward then having various guys you have known less then a few months sobbing on the phone to you asking why Tim dumped them. My only response was "What can I say? Sometimes Tim is a dick." Tim was always kind of a whore though.

...

fark YOU. Don't bring up my personal business in this thread.

/hopefully you're talking about some other Tim.

So, you're Tim,

Well...there are those who call him 'Tim'.

lordargent: what_now: Actually, yes. A friend of mine came out several years ago after the two of us spent some time stalking a boy we thought would be perfect for her, and I was blown over. I had *NO* idea she was gay.

Other than the stereotypical butch lesbian, gay women are harder to spot IMO.

/IE, how do you tell a flamboyantly gay woman from a straight flamboyant woman?

This is an area of my expertise.

First of all, hair and nails. Hair varies a great deal but if we're talking flamboyantly gay she probably has what we would call an alternative lifestyle haircut, something incredibly time-consuming to make look good, probably a bit asymmetrical. Or if she has no sense of style, a Bieber haircut (in which case she's probably also wearing whatever 15 year old boys currently are.) Well tended nails and hands are a calling card of lesbians.

Other signs? Being on the slim side. Women's clothes that get a "boyfriend" label appended to them or tend to mimic masculine fashion a bit, like blazers or vests. Plaid shirts, American Apparel v-necks or hoodies, hats and shoes that tend to the more unisex. Tattoos are also a huge marker of visible queerness.


This outfit seems flamboyantly dykey to me. Part of that is because it's on Freja, though...

If she's a flamboyant femme she's probably overdressed, no matter what occasion it is. Apart from that queer femme spotting is a bit trickier and usually you can spot one based on where she is, who she's with and her personality.

What really makes you spot someone queer is usually attitude and how they interact with people. How they interact with you. For confirmation, ask what she's been reading/watching lately.

/99.999% accurate gaydar

This is pretty much why I love my generation. Sure, we aren't the ones who went out protesting everything and anything--we're the one taking the biggest f*ck-ups of that generation, ignoring the fact that said generation claims only bad people are gay, and saying, "Yeah, f*ck if I care, bro. Video games?".

That's true awesomeness right there.

Sybarite: Completely tangential, but has anyone ever had a friend come out that you weren't secretly thinking "Well, duh."? I mean, even though you obviously have to make the appropriately supportive statements.

My cousin came out last year, my mom told me and my brother over breakfast one morning when we were on vacation, and our reaction was something like, "Yeah, and...? Pass the orange juice."

PsiChick: This is pretty much why I love my generation. Sure, we aren't the ones who went out protesting everything and anything--we're the one taking the biggest f*ck-ups of that generation, ignoring the fact that said generation claims only bad people are gay, and saying, "Yeah, f*ck if I care, bro. Video games?".

That's true awesomeness right there.

CLERKS

Rubberband Girl: Sybarite - Completely tangential, but has anyone ever had a friend come out that you weren't secretly thinking "Well, duh."? I mean, even though you obviously have to make the appropriately supportive statements.

Don't know why this reminds me, but...

Years ago, a co-worker came out to me by whispering in my ear (we were at work) and I told her I already knew. When no one was around, I explained I kinda figured it out when I saw her kiss her girlfriend in the back parking lot.

There's no such thing as a lesbian girlfriend.

All women are obliged to kiss lesbians.

Hot Carl To Go: Craptastic: Reminds me of a friend who got a bunch of us together at a quiet bar to come out. We're drinking and goofing off like we normally do, and he blurts out "Guys, I'm gay. You're my best friends, and I've been wanting to tell you for a long time."

Then a few seconds of silence... Then uproarious laughter.

He was mortified at our reaction until I explained "John, we've known you for 20 years, and for 20 years we've also known that you were gay. It's just funny that you waited so long to admit it."

"You all knew?"

"Yeah. We've always known. Here, drink up, buddy."

Then we drank more and goofed off more like we normally do. The only sad thing was that he felt it was necessary to not trust the group that had known & loved him since 9th grade.

Most people here seem to have known people that were obviously gay prior to them coming out. Is it better to try to talk to them before they spend many years living a stressful double life or let them admit it on their own? Maybe it would drive them deeper into denial/fear or whatever if they were asked, though. Any gay farkers want to chime in?

I'm not gay, but I don't think it's a great idea to confront someone who's not out yet. A closeted person's big fear is accidentally outing themselves, so I think "I know you're gay" will totally overwhelm the "and it's okay" half of the message you're really trying to get across. Just take opportunities to say something supportive of other gay people as they come up naturally. That way, they'll know you'll support them when they finally are ready to come out.

Skirl Hutsenreiter: Hot Carl To Go: Craptastic: Reminds me of a friend who got a bunch of us together at a quiet bar to come out. We're drinking and goofing off like we normally do, and he blurts out "Guys, I'm gay. You're my best friends, and I've been wanting to tell you for a long time."

Then a few seconds of silence... Then uproarious laughter.

He was mortified at our reaction until I explained "John, we've known you for 20 years, and for 20 years we've also known that you were gay. It's just funny that you waited so long to admit it."

"You all knew?"

"Yeah. We've always known. Here, drink up, buddy."

Then we drank more and goofed off more like we normally do. The only sad thing was that he felt it was necessary to not trust the group that had known & loved him since 9th grade.

Most people here seem to have known people that were obviously gay prior to them coming out. Is it better to try to talk to them before they spend many years living a stressful double life or let them admit it on their own? Maybe it would drive them deeper into denial/fear or whatever if they were asked, though. Any gay farkers want to chime in?

I'm not gay, but I don't think it's a great idea to confront someone who's not out yet. A closeted person's big fear is accidentally outing themselves, so I think "I know you're gay" will totally overwhelm the "and it's okay" half of the message you're really trying to get across. Just take opportunities to say something supportive of other gay people as they come up naturally. That way, they'll know you'll support them when they finally are ready to come out.

Well gayness results from sinning but is not a sin, unless "acted upon". like if someone takes depakote for anxiety. When it is prescribed for schizophrenia.

dericwater
It's "radii" and the "-ii" suffix is to plural-fy nouns that end in "-us"

Only one of the two "ii". The other comes from radius itself.
And if you're taking Latin, it also depends on the declination of the word ending with -us.
For example, the plural of "domus" (Latin for "house")..

..is "domus" as well; only difference is that the "u" is pronounced long when you use the plural.
To increase the brainfark, the noun "domus" is ending in "-us", but its gender is female.
So while you have "magni radii" if you've more than one large radius, "large houses" aren't "magni domus" (much less "magni domi"), but "magnae domus".

/at least to the best of my knowledge/memory/quick Google search because it has been 15 years since my last Latin class

I'm not reading this whole thread to find out, but am I the only one who thinks the marks used to hide the poster's names look like pastel penises?

peasants_are_revolting: I'm not reading this whole thread to find out, but am I the only one who thinks the marks used to hide the poster's names look like pastel penises?

Yep. You're the only one. That must mean you're gay.

does your child have sex?

the answer is ALWAYS yes 99.99% of the time.
basically they are asking if it has genitalia.

I had a friend come out to me a few years ago.
She said "Not to freak you out or anything, but I like girls."
I said "So what? So do I."

She almost fell over laughing.


Also my wife went to visit an ex-boyfriend in the city (SF) not long ago. My friends said "Are you worried about her going to visit her ex?"
My response was: "Considering he lives in the City with his boyfriend, I don't think there's much to worry about."
/CSB

BurnShrike: peasants_are_revolting: I'm not reading this whole thread to find out, but am I the only one who thinks the marks used to hide the poster's names look like pastel penises?

Yep. You're the only one. That must mean you're gay.

Haha.

peasants_are_revolting: I'm not reading this whole thread to find out, but am I the only one who thinks the marks used to hide the poster's names look like pastel penises fetii?

FTFY
And yes, you're the first.

Fun Fact; gay people can be hetero too (and not bi). But they usually end up in jail.
As rapists/pedophiels.

Hot Carl To Go: Most people here seem to have known people that were obviously gay prior to them coming out. Is it better to try to talk to them before they spend many years living a stressful double life or let them admit it on their own? Maybe it would drive them deeper into denial/fear or whatever if they were asked, though. Any gay farkers want to chime in?

Quoting from the "straight person's guide to gay etiquette":

It is entirely probable, especially if you know your outcomer well, that his/her Big Announcement will not come as a complete shock to you. Often, as soon as the worried expression crosses his/her face and his/her trembling lips form the syllables, "I have something to tell you," you are already thinking, "No shiat, Sherlock." And often, the intaker's next deduction is, "Surely if I tell this person that I already know, it will make things much easier, and I will not have to watch him/her gasp and twitch like a landed trout while s/he works up the gumption to finish this sentence." Is this a good idea? Well, yes...and no.

Since the novice outcomer is still plagued by feelings of fear, danger and paranoia, it is vitally important that s/he believe, even if this is not the case, that s/he actually has a certain amount of control over who knows and who doesn't. What this means is that even someone who has been an obvious dyke or queer since before puberty does not necessarily want, upon finally working up the courage to say, "I think I may be gay," to hear, "Honey, there ain't no maybe about it." S/he will probably eventually have to accept his/her destiny, but it is not for you to set the pace.


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Skirl Hutsenreiter:


So should I stop my order for 1,000 of these cards?



6x4, really nice paper

busy chillin': FirstNationalBastard

Skirl Hutsenreiter:


So should I stop my order for 1,000 of these cards?

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6x4, really nice paper

I never noticed until right now that Paul Rudd is wearing a shirt with Paul Rudd's face on it.

Almost 200 posts before the "You know how I know you're gay?" picture? I've been waiting all day.

The whole discussion about penis/penii nearly made me post it myself.